#lived their life on their own terms

[thefloatingstone]

I learned about Doji Morita today

#As reductively as possible #Doji Morita was an underground singer/songwriter who made music from 1977 to 1983 #They released 8 albums during this time. Creating music that went completely against the trends of the time #which was uplifting jpop and romance songs #Doji Morita was deeply affected by the death of a friend which lead them to creating their music #Until 1983 when they announced their retirement and disappeared #Nobody knew who they were or what their real name was or anything about them #Doji Morita wanted their music to speak for itself and for decades their music is all we ever knew about them #Until 2021 when a prolific author requested a book he wrote be published after his death #In the book we learned a little more about who Doji Morita was as they had passed away in 2018 #Officially from heart failure although most likely due to broken heart syndrome following the death of their husband #However despite us knowing their real name today #Doji Morita is still most commonly known by their stage name #And their official name isn't even listed on their wikipedia page #Doji Morita is a rare person who despite a sad end to their life #lived their life on their own terms #Avoiding any fame or personal recognition and known only for their music #Retiring after falling in love and wanting to live a normal life #Which is exactly what they did #Their music is tied deeply to their personal feelings and their sadness #and has connected many people to this day by being an honest expression of these feelings #Which is deeply appreciated especially at the time when many young Japanese people connected to it #more than they did the rising popularity of Jpop idols #Anyway I recommend Sakura Stardust's video on them as she did a lot of research #But I am just happy to enjoy their music in the way they wanted #to just enjoy it on its own and let it speak for itself #SoundCloud

[seaweedraindraws]

I was saving this for my fanfic but I liked the idea so much I had to draw it!

Bonus:

Here is a link to the fic this scene is from! (Only chapter 1 is up, so this scene has not yet happened)

#cherrisnake #cherri bomb #sir pentious #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #hazbin hotel comic #So this is a headcanon I've had in mind for a while now! I don't know if anyone else has pointed it out yet #but when I was doing research I never saw anyone mention the term Good Egg #which apparently came from the 1800s #and I thought it only made sense that if he did have some son then he'd have considered that kid a Good Egg #and therefore Eggs have a greater meaning in his life #having probably said that term so often when he was living #I really do like the idea of having the Egg Boiz be like his own children in some way #And the realization hitting Cherri that she'd just been breaking them because they were just his inventions just mmmh #the angst #me sleeping well tonight knowing I made this somewhat sad comic

[symbologic]

Will Zoro leave Luffy after they achieve their dreams? Not likely

Saying Zoro's gonna voluntarily leave Luffy at the end of OP so he can "live his own life" (i.e. get married, open a dojo, hang out in bars) is so wild to me. That's like saying Luffy's gonna give up adventuring so he can sit around and gorge himself on meat

First of all, it ignores that Zoro genuinely enjoys traveling with Luffy. Luffy (who's always getting into trouble) gives Zoro the chance to be his best self. And Zoro (who very much wants to be his best self) will always seize that chance with both hands

Second, both characters are like...the poster children of wanting to have their cake and eat it too. If you're Luffy or Zoro, you rarely need to make either/or choices. That's what makes them unique. It's why they've both got conqueror's haki! Basically: If Zoro wants to drink until he blacks out? If he wants to nap all day? Hell, if he wants to get lost in a paper bag?? He is like a big cat. He will do what he wants, wherever he is. He doesn't need to leave Luffy to get those things LOL

Third, Luffy's made it clear the Pirate King needs no less than the Greatest Swordsman by his side. Why would that suddenly stop once they've both achieved their dreams? Is Luffy going to quit being Pirate King? Why would he? Luffy wants to be the most free in the world, so he can live the life he wants...with the people he wants to live it with

In other words, Luffy isn't letting Zoro go without a fight — not unless Luffy genuinely feels he's no longer the type of man Zoro would want to travel with. And wouldn't that be the worst ending for both of them?

#monkey d. luffy #roronoa zoro #one piece #text post #my meta #zolu #tho just kind of?? #keep seeing this take on different platforms and I simply do not understand where it comes from #Whyyyyy would Zoro or Luffy want anything else #when they WORK SO HARD to keep everything they need right beside them? #imo it's very telling that Luffy's response to someone potentially getting married is: #“Great! They can bring their spouse on board!” #I imagine he'd feel the same about children or anything else his crew may want. #Nobody needs to go their separate ways to “live their lives”; not unless the characters' priorities fundamentally change #which happens of course; because people change and that's okay too #AT THE SAME TIME it's so hard to imagine this for characters like Luffy and Zoro #who unapologetically live life on their own terms #are very open about what they want as soon as we meet them #and have ONLY gotten to where they're at because they refuse to make compromises about those things.

[g0thsim]

187.24 / 390 (08/12/22)

[full original post]

im a trans person trying to get all her pieces of identification updated so applying to / working jobs + going to school is easier. pls send accommodating workplace energy to me <3🏳️‍⚧️♿️ tysm for rbing

ⓘ this is turning into an urgent situation so if this gets to $250 i’ll take the hit for the rest because i am out of options at this point.

ko/fi other options [carrd]

#share your dollar #trans crowdfund #maybe even less than $250 im literally looking D-7 right in the eye #bc ​i really need a job but I literally can’t emotionally go through the process without having my name match id again #i quite literally cannot go through life without my name atp #to keep my posts from being long I don’t mention it but like this is very important to my health rn bc I need a healthcard just like so many #things are on hold because I don’t have a name and I refuse spend money on passports and other expired id just to pay for it all over again #that would just put in a position to need to crowdfunded again but with a biggest goal yk #new post because despite the numbers on the og the last donation was in July #and it was a singular donation for that whole month #hehe I’ve been crying about this today :0((( like my family calling me a freeloader and going on about they were able support themselves at #18 even though our situations are so fundamentally different like you literally didn’t have to deal with the cost to live in your own body #in terms of my like they didn’t have to pay for disability aid or pay to not be deadnamed etc like

[pinkeoni]

Ppl putting a loooooot of faith into a woman who canonically voted for Reagan

#also #this isnt meant to be me saying that a character cant have nuanced because she can #i can believe that mike can find emotional comfort in his mom #and i dont think shes abusive cause that is a streeeeeeeetch to say the least #but i can also think that mike may not be fully comfortable coming out to her #but he also doesnt need to be out in order to have a satisfying arc about his sexuality #and to still accept himself on his own terms and live life as himself #if there is a coming out scene with karen #i will have to wait and see how it is done #could surprise me but idk #also enough with the pegging all of the conservative family blame onto ted #she is a grown woman!! #robin rambles #wheeler family

[maledepravityarchive]

bro you know whats fucked up... their epic gnc lesbian swag is literally being erased rn. and its just another man doing all of the cool shit again. like thats fucked up. theyre literally erasing women.

#like... do you know how badly i would have wanted to hear about a WOMAN who did those things as a kid #how badly i would have wanted to hear that women were never ok with their assigned roles #and broke out of them and did what they wanted all throughout history #and that women werent inherently meek and mild and feminine. and that they could have lives on their own terms #and i would have known that if women in the past did it then i could do it too #like fuck this shit. everytime a woman does cool shit it is always erased #terf safe #terfs do interact #gender critical #radblr #terfblr #i know this doesnt really qualify as part of a 'male depravity archive' but i wanted to put this SOMEWHERE. #i feel like im not putting this into words very well but i feel very strongly about this #bc my whole life ive always wanted to hear about women with that kind of swag and that kind of life #and its so fucking unfair #non-MDA posts

[chuthulhu-reads]

[ID: Four panels from Trigun Maximum. The first three are all somewhat fuzzy, indicating that they're a flashback. The first shows a hand holding a derringer pistol, as a voice says, "...a tiny girl like you has to carry one. A single bullet... can even the odds between you and the strongest man." The dialogue continues over the second panel, which is a mostly obscured image of a gently smiling man, implied to be Meryl's father, and wearing headphones like the ones from a shooting range. The third panel shows a prepubescent Meryl with a serious expression, wearing thick gloves and clutching a book as her father continues, "It may be small... but its power is sufficient." The fourth panel is a close-up of the top half of the adult Meryl's face in profile, a distant expression in her eyes. End ID.]

IIRC, this is about the only thing we ever learn about Meryl's family background, aside from that she very rarely writes home. Though it's brief, it shows a practicality and emotional warmth that fits perfectly with Meryl as we know her as an adult. It also packs in a lot of gender politics regarding gun ownership as a force equalizer, especially on Planet Shithole which is full of testosterone-loaded bandit assholes including sexual slavers and roided-up giants. And a perfect quote regarding Meryl which deserves more usage, the Gunsmoke version of "though she be but little, she is fierce". That's a whole lotta symbolism and meaning packed into such a little gun!

#Trigun #Meryl Stryfe #I try not to just rag on Stampede but 'generic alcoholic mentor dies and leaves Meryl his gun' is just so rote #and does not have a FRACTION of the emotions and symbolism going on here #We don't know much about her dad. He may not have been all that communicative #meryl barely writes home and didn't really think anything of it until she saw the Milly Monthly #but he loved her and wanted her to be safe #while also enabling her to go out into the world and live life on her own terms #he wanted her to know #that though she is small her power is sufficient

[dramarants]

Wanting more homoeroticism in the tension between the show’s leads as the narrative introduces greater intimacy and higher stakes between them, especially in a landscape that lacks queer representation who isn’t a villain or dies within one or two episodes, but also recognizing that core values/motivation for these characters lie in their relationships with one of two major female characters in an on screen sausage fest where the only other woman is a morally reprehensible femme fatale and erasing and/or vilifying female leads in favor of conventionally attractive males is a common practice observed in fandoms that’s rooted in misogyny and justified under the guise of rejecting heteronormativity, thinly veiled double standards, or claiming the woman is simply not interesting enough and not wanting to bolster that mindset

#the worst of evil #you know who’s not interesting enough? haeryeon!! bibi’s acting the hell out of her and slaying while doing it #but idk anything besides she’s willing to subvert her dad for dick and values money over everything else #and also she’s hot which is great for me!! but also the male gaze #and I also get it - we don’t know much about euijeong in her limited screen time besides her relationships to junmo/kicheol #but she is given so many traits that are silently conveyed like compassion and bravery and sacrifice #she brought a fucking gun to her date with kicheol like the conflicts and motivations here are SO JUICY #her exasperation guilt and despair with the investigation; esp after listening to the voicemails #what’s the self respecting thing to do; do I still love my husband if he loses himself; can I continue a game I never wanted to play #at the cost of my life or my family’s life? #even though a lot of her choices are for her marriage she’s using whatever agency she has in her own terms #kicheol works to be an honest man and make a difference partly bc of her #not trying to place the burden of fixing men on her but ignoring her impact in the boys’ lives is wild #ship whoever you want hate whoever you want but don’t deride a woman just cuz ‘she’s in the way’ ya know #all this being said; kicheol bringing junmo home after he RAMPAGED seemingly on his behalf - literally who else is doing it like them #the yearning all around - I get it now; we need gangster mob!throuple to get any shit done around here (and for all 3 to stay alive 🫣🙏) #but the reality next week is gonna be so so bitter

[brother-emperors]

I see your dog-coded Agrippa and Cassius, but what about Crassus ? Kind of like feral dog coded

for me, Crassus skips the dog coding allegations on account of no one being able to put a leash on him, and there's no person he seems to be singularly devoted to in a way that dictates his actions

Dating The Praetorship of Marcus Licinius Crassus, Martin Stone

like, there's Sulla, but Crassus also did a lot of that of his own accord, and Sulla shut the door on him politically so Crassus climbed in through a window and worked a different aspect of Roman society-politics with magnificent skill. he ALSO skips the dog allegations because if anyone is bringing someone to heel, it's Crassus doing it to other people. there isn't a specific person that Crassus' actions can be dedicated to in a way that makes me think of a dog the way Agrippa's actions for Octavian do.

I also don't think he's feral! what he is: really fucking ruthless, or has the potential for ruthlessness, which isn't the same thing to me as being feral. and being ruthless is not uncommon for Late Republic politics

Lucullus: A Life, Arthur Keavney

but its that pivot point between being firm, ruthless, and likeable that makes him interesting. he's actually. he's--

okay, so in my mind, he's Machiavelli Prince coded. there are only two Romans I have ever made a compare and contrast analysis using Machiavelli's Il Principe, one is Augustus, the other is Crassus. and for once my connect the dots of thematic tomfoolery has something I can cite, someone ELSE has also made a comparison to Augustus

Dating The Praetorship of Marcus Licinius Crassus, Martin Stone

#anyone here watch devil judge. crassus is like. more yo-han coded to me. in terms of themes and ruthlessness #you try to put him down at your own risk. with crassus tho its like. no roman could do it so ofc he had to meet his end outside of rome #...on the other hand. i respect yo-han and what he's doing as a whole. you guys ever watch yakuza films? crassus would fit in #SO well as a character in a yakuza film. or a 90s HK gangster narrative #if this was a filipino drama i'd want jake cuenca to play him #i also dont know if i'd call cassius dog coded. he really only comes to heel for brutus during the last few years of their shared lives #he is definitively gladiator coded to brutus' statesman tho #i dont often look at characters/figures and go 'oh. dog for sure.' but when i do its like. oh wow okay guys #like octavius wanting to die with crassus? not dog coded. that's just. devoted. devotion. that's love. that's grief. loyalty. #there's no greater love than to lay down one's life for a friend. there's no greater devotion than to die with your general #ask tag

[rthko]

I can see how gender performativity theory can be used in bad faith to say "you're not this gender unless you perform it hard enough," but it makes me sad to see people throw it out wholesale when decades of trans activists and scholars have found it influential and Judith Butler fights tooth and nail against TERFs. But. What can you do.

#people got mad at me when i talked about gender expression in my own life because 'clothing =/= gender' #and im sorry but We Live In a Society where different signifiers mean different things #and while that often sucks you can use it to your own advantage to mitigate discomfort any way you see fit #there is only so much i can say about my gender in purely abstact metaphysical terms without touching on how i interact with the world #sorry!

[quarks-pussy]

Mirror Kira is something that can actually be so personal

#in a number of ways tbh like defo in a gay way and in terms of clone fucker rights and in terms of evil girlbossing etc etc but most of all #most of the mirror characters (to me) feel like au versions of the prime characters and obviously they ARE but they're still very much atta #attached to the prime characters y'know what i mean? like maybe not everyone but most mirror characters do feel like they basically are wha #the prime characters could've been if their lives had been different and like it's not completely out of the question for mirror kira but s #she still feels so... herself. like she's not defined by prime kira on any level. most mirror characters feel very defined by their prime c #counterparts and mirror kira... she's different. she is literally herself and no similarities will change that. she does not exist as an ex #extension of prime kira she is her own separate character. mirror kira could literally exist in the prime universe without even having to b #connected to prime kira by anything other than name and face. file off her serial numbers and you're golden & have a new and extremely comp #compelling villain. she is separate she's herself and nobody else. all the other mirror characters feel like twisted versions of the prime #characters who took a different path at some point. if there's any way to apply this to mirror kira that point would be her birth. like she #genuinely feels like they took a look at the circumstances on bajor in the mirror verse and thought about how a bajoran might grow up there #and THEN they made that bajoran kira. like i'm not saying she's nothing like prime kira but she just feels so much more developed tbh as if #they genuinely wrote out her whole life rather than just its present state y'know. it's great! i adore her #anyway #mirror kira nerys #mirrorverse #star trek deep space nine #ds9 #yes most of the meat of this post is in the tags lmao idek why #original posts fresh from quark's pussy

[gotyouanyway]

like it's been this slow decline for almost a year now and i've just been lying and pretending about being "managing okay" because i don't want my parents to be the way they are about it. but it's not fine i'm not managing anything and idk what to do about it anymore

#i at least want my pots fully diagnosed before telling them anything because then i can be like this is what's wrong these are my needs #god they're already unbearable about offering me stupid fake cures for everything #i just want their help living my life on my own terms but idk if they're going to do that without being unbearable about it forever #:((((( #p

[lord-squiggletits]

Something else that makes me sympathetic to Pharma's situation is like. Idk if there's an actual term for this or if someone smarter and more academic wrote it about some real life context that actually matters.

But, so we've already established among Pharma stans that the circumstances at Delphi were blackmail/torture with no real way out that wouldn't involve Pharma being responsible for people getting killed (either killing patients for the deal or having everyone die bc he failed his end of the deal).

And I feel like while "he's still in the wrong because he killed people" is part of it, another sort of implicit part is the idea that Pharma should've been willing to take more personal risk, maybe even risk dying? I mean, Ratchet does ask "why didn't you just detonate it near the DJD" (to which Pharma responds that he did try to get Sonic and Boom to do it, but they refused) so like

Idk I feel like we do have this social notion of martyrs as a very romantic ideal, people you can praise for being so brave and strong and righteous that they ended their own lives for their cause, while you can also coo about how sad and tragic it is that dying is what it took for them to do the right thing. But at the same time I feel like in reality, having an expectation that people become martyrs is kind of a toxic social norm bc like. It's very easy to demand that others sacrifice their lives for some Ultimate Moral Good when you yourself aren't experiencing the same hardships as they are. And ultimately it is kind of fucked up to tell someone "the moral thing you should've done was risk your life/kill yourself" because asking someone to pay their life to do the right thing is no small request. And sure, the typical response would be to call them a "coward" for caring more about saving their own skin instead of doing the right thing... but again, death is a really scary thing and self-preservation is a really strong instinct, so it kind of feels like having this binary view of "you're either a Brave Hero who sacrifices your life for everyone else or a Dirty Coward who's too scared of dying to do what's right" is kind of fucked up?

I guess the best way to describe it is that if someone willingly gives up their life as a sacrifice to others, it can be a noble thing because it's a choice they made willingly, but if it becomes a Moral Standard that in order to be a Good Person you have to be unafraid of throwing your life away and if you aren't willing to die you're a Cowardly Bad Person, that's when it becomes toxic.

Idk, I guess how this ties back to Pharma is that he was never in a position where he expected to make these kinds of moral decisions/ultimatums. He's a doctor who doesn't even get into combat, his job is to heal and not to kill, he's behind the front lines in a hospital that's supposed to be a safe, neutral place for him to heal people. So in the face of suddenly having a "murder people on behalf of me, or I murder everyone you swore to protect" ultimatum thrust upon him, I understand why Pharma wasn't """"""""""brave enough"""""""""" to "do the right thing" (whatever that would've been in the case of Delphi). You could argue that maybe a frontliner soldier accepted the burden of possibly dying for their cause and they've become used to it as someone who lives that reality every single day, but I feel like for Pharma, who's a doctor and a protected non-combatant (from what we can tell), that sort of risking of his life/living with the fact his life could be snuffed out any day isn't something he would've been prepared for at all.

And for me personally, from an outsider's perspective, it strikes me as kind of unethical to go "oh well he should've just detonated the bomb himself even if it killed him" bc again, there's a difference between witnessing a moral conundrum as a bystander versus being the person living with it and being under time pressure where it's do-or-die. Just as part of my personal standards, I feel like death is such a huge consequence/burden of someone's actions (literally you are no longer alive, any potential you had left is cut short, you cease to exist on this plane) that it feels rather callous to go "Well you should've just been willing to die for your beliefs if you really cared that much!!!"

#squiggposting #pharma apologism #this is only like tangentially related to pharma honestly #not to compare blorbos to real life but like. it reminds me of this phenomenon where privileged ppl in privileged countries #will tell ppl living in zones of war and strife 'oh well if you don't like your gov so bad just revolt against them' #like oh yes tell me how easy it is to stand up against the threats of torture and death #surely the only reason people would want to avoid that is bc they're cowards or don't want to stand up for their beliefs #contrary to what nationalism would have ppl believe. 'wanting to not die' isn't a moral position #everyone wants to live. no one wants to die. it doesnt make you a bad person to be scared of dying #esp (going back to blorbo's) in a situation like pharma's where every option he had ended in death #the death of his patients or the death of everyone at delphi or his death personally #on top of the fact he's a noncombatant who hasn't been desensitized to violence/risking his own life #and is dealing with a trained group of killers that he can't possibly match on physical terms #so yeah actually i don't blame pharma for what he did #he made shitty decisions in a shitty situation but was ultimately a victim #also if you want to view the blackmail deal from a framework of abuse #it is also fucked up to basically tell someone they werent brave enough to just kill their accuser or ask for help #isnt the entire point of such situations that the victim is both powerless to stop the abuse #and too afraid of asking for help/thinks they cant ask for help. and thats why they dont just get out #idk sometimes the best moral judgement is to forgive someone or view it as 'complicated' #sometimes regardless of the good or evilness of their actions the best choice is to not make a judgement #or to err in favor of a forgiving/'i cant speak for your experience' judgement #anyways the fact is that the rosy fantasy of being a brave noble soldier who sacrifices for the cause #rarely stands up to reality where youre just terrified and powerless and dont know what to do #and suddenly the rosy glow of The Noble Cause isnt comforting in the prospect of horrible torturous death

[fencecollapsed]

I absolutely hate it when any show is canceled before getting the chance to tell its full story, it's a deeply unfair thing to happen in any case

but I will admit. there is sometimes a TINY element of relief I feel when I hear what the plans were for the followup that never got to be and the plans were. bad.

#this post is about the midnight club #primarily that ilonka and kevin were gonna be revealed to be soulmates and the ghosts they saw were their own past lives #thats so. oh my god it sucks so bad #i hate it so much #i am NOT happy the show was canned #i would rather have seen the reveal come to fruition and be pissed off about it than read it off the creator's blog and be pissed about it #complicated feelings though yknow what i mean #because oh my god #i hate the concept so much #every other character has to come to terms with their deaths realistically #but these fucking two get to go gentle because theyll be reincarnated and find each other and fall in love in the next life!!! fuck off!!! #that sucks hfkmdnf #anyway guess what i just finished and then read a blog post about #cj says stuff

[lesjasmine]

Still confused how being raised in a religious background causes 'lesbians' to sleep with moids outside of marriage... Nobody at my church was promoting fornication.

I'll wait for the 'lesbians' to explain that logic.

#if you're going to use religion to explain why you were in the closet at least make it make sense #I understand being afraid to be gay when you come from a religious background #I was afraid but I literally just grew the fuck up lmao #it really wasn't that deep #grew up and lived my own life on my own terms #for the bozos obviously I don't care about having premarital sex #lesbians just sleep with women though

[lorephobic]

idk how to even like. put this pain into words and i would normally vent about this shit on twitter, but the person its about follows me on there so like. anybody have skills for coping with the crushing realization that the person u love most in this world and have built ur life around sees ur current situation together as a temporary hurdle that's preventing them from their truest and happiest self which. is separate from u entirely? anyone know how to deal with this?

#live with my best friend in the whole entire world who. honest to god makes me the happiest person alive. #like im always waxing poetic about her in the tags on posts about platonic love #and i talk about her like she put the stars in the skies because for real it feels like she did for me #she is. the most important person in my life #and every day i feel grateful just to come home and sit with her #like honest to god i cannot imagine a future that is better than this #if i have a bad day i get to come home and my best friend in the world will make me laugh #what more could i ever ask for #but tonight we talked and she made it abundantly clear that. even if i do everything right #even if i'm the perfect roommate and the best friend i can be #in just over a year #when she's making enough money for it #she plans on moving into a place of her own #which like. makes sense for her. of course we were going to get to this point. #but i just. don't know what i'm going to do. #and it kills me that we're on different pages because for some reason i thought this was a long term thing #i thought we were going to move into a house together #i was just telling my coworker this week that we need to move into our forever home soon which was partially a joke #but also. even if i was making a million dollars a year. #i would still want to be here. with her. #or somewhere else. with her. #like it's so hard to imagine a future without her. it breaks my heart and scares the shit out of me. #and i know i can't afford it here. and i can't move in with strangers. and i'm working my dream job but i'm scared that i'm going to have t #give it all up and move back east because. i can't do this alone. and she's all i have. and all i ever wanted. #and she's leaving. #she doesn't want to be with me. #sry this is so fucking. ugh. idk. i just don't know what to do. #for real might just drop everything and move to chicago if it comes down to it ksdkfljdfs #its what sufjan would have wanted #fucked up terrible no good week