#the anon function is a privilege people love to abuse

[odinsblog]

i usually use the anon function bc im embarrassed to ask people things sjfjfjhs but I've never sent anything horrible to anyone!! I'm sorry you've had negative experiences with the anon function before, you don't deserve that at all!! sending love!

[re: this post]

Thank you. I genuinely appreciate you rn

People like you are literally the only reason why I don’t completely disable the anon feature, because I understand that sometimes people are shy, or they want to express themselves without taking shit. I actually dO get that

But alas, as with everything, there are those who abuse what really should be thought of as a nicety, or privilege—some people just abuse it

Very long rant, incoming

So here’s the thing, right? Sometimes when people are online, they act and behave in ways they wouldn’t dare to irl

I’m not the government. I don’t have a staff to edit my posts. I’m not anybody special. I’m just some dude on the internet who enjoys sharing my opinions and other things. If YOU don’t like or agree with my opinions or something else that I post, you are completely free to keep scrolling or to block me. That’s fine. But when anons begin demanding that I phrase things the way that they’re more comfortable with, then we got serious issues

And another thing: people need to not be so quick to assume malicious intent where none exists

For example, I have accidentally typed the number 500 in a post when I meant to type 50–now, in the specific post, it truly was a significant error. But an anon immediately jumped into the comments and self righteously accused me of lying to make a point, rather than saying to themselves, “Hm, maybe Odin just made a typo”

And my personal favorites

them: YOU’RE SPREADING MISINFORMATION AND DISINFORMATION !!!!

me: um, it was a fucking joke? do they have jokes where you come from?

Or,

me: posts a video of an alligator and some cranes, and adds a bit of whimsical commentary

them: WELL ACTUALLY, THAT IS PROBABLY PREDATORY BEHAVIOR AND I THINK YOU SHO-

me: no. goddamn, I can’t be fucking whimsical on a social media site? eat shit. stfu

And also,

them: well technically, it’s not really fascism

me: maybe not, but it’s fucking close enough. I’m not gonna wait for people to start getting marched into ovens and say, “now can we call it fascism??”

I have literally had all of these dumb, stupid ass conversations (almost verbatim) here on tumblrdotcom, and lemme tell ya, it’s frustrating af

And other times, when I author a post containing a hyperlink on desktop but then later edit it on mobile, sometimes the hyperlink doesn’t carry over to mobile and you’re left with a post that may say “source,” but is not clickable. It happens sometimes, and it’s not a big deal, right?? WRONG! Instead of sending an ask to ask me what happened to the link, I’ve had anons accuse me of “not crediting” a source

I’ve had people use anon to accuse me of cropping videos so that I could somehow “steal” credit from others, and I’m just like … What??? Who does that? Who has the time for all of that? Are you aware that sometimes people on the internet see something like a video or a photo from somewhere else (also uncredited from twitter, reddit, facebook, etc), and then just post it here on tumblr??

And no, I am not talking about reposting someone’s art or other works

Look, if YOU get your thrills from finding out who/where/when the very first instance of every single cat or dog video came from, that’s great! Do you. Knock yourself out. Have fun. But don’t try to shame others because we aren’t all humorless poindexters like you

If I post something from tiktok, the video generally tells you where to go to see it there. If it’s a tweet or from reddit, again, there are usually twitter or reddit handles in the tweet. And NO, I am not putting a link to every single tweet or reddit thread or facebook post — if that’s that important to you, then figure it out. It’s not hard, and in the year 2023 most adults should have the necessary skills to find an original tweet, if that’s something that’s important to you. I’m not doing it for you, not sorry

(SN: I’ll never forget when I took my first college English literature course, and at the end of the semester I was on the bubble for getting an A or an A+ in the class, and our final exam was a written essay that would decide my final grade. I didn’t quite score the A+ that I wanted, and when I looked over my essay, the professor wrote on it: “Odin, you are the quintessential college freshman, and your inquisitiveness has made this semester one of my most enjoyable.” And after class, I walked up to him and thanked him, and asked him what quintessential meant? He opened his mouth and was about to answer me, but then he smiled, wagged his finger at me and said, “you should learn to look things up.” He was one of my favorite professors (had a British accent, eyeglasses and reminded me of Giles from Buffy), but I’ve never forgotten that lesson. Some of you very obviously need to learn it too)

I’ve also made what are very obviously jokes online, only to have people accuse me of misrepresenting facts—and then I’m like, do I really need to explain the concept of what a joke is to you people??

Like, I could see if it was something racist, trans/homophobic, Islamophobic, antisemitic, etc, BUT I DON’T DO THAT

I think that some people need to be seen as, or have a desire to be known as a gatekeeper, and instead of using just a tiny bit of common sense, they try to make mountains out of molehills to elevate themselves in the eyes of their followers

The people who act this way are truly joyless human beings, and they probably suck all the fun out of parties and other events that people are forced to spend time with them

Maybe try socializing a bit more? Learn to read (online) cues. Don’t be so eager to accuse everyone of doing something wrong just so that YOU get to look like the good guy

And all of that’s without even addressing all of the straight up racist anons that I constantly receive

Like, do people even understand that we aren’t inside of each other’s heads? Sometimes we’re all dealing with life and other stuff. And just maybe people are busy trying to have just a tiny bit of fun, and then the mf fun police come along and try to ruin shit? Because I don’t use a word exactly the same way you do?? Or because of an obvious joke?? You guys who do this kind of shit really SUCK

I feel sorry for you

I almost can’t believe this is the piddling little shit that some people choose to be upset over

Please find some REAL things to be upset over

Try learning to use the feature that lets users (gasp) make a post of their very own! instead of fixating on one goddamn mutha fucking post that wasn’t worded to your liking

I am not here for the discourse with anyone with an internet connection and a keyboard

Please go touch some grass

#anon #ask #answered #odin rants #please grow up #dont be so fast to assume the worst in everyone #stop trying to be a gatekeeper #lighten tf up

[starrysamu]

ur osamu fic makes me so fkn mad istg ik its just the fic but wth is wrong with y/n's family, it's like they don't even respect her as a human. Making decisions for her w/o even informing her or making sure she's ok w/ it, and wanting her to face the after math of t h e i r decision, literally forcing her to meet her EX, even letting him in her room like wtf isn't y/n YOUR daughter/sis?? Why aren't you respecting the fact that she's old enough to make decisions for herself and that there's a reason they broke up?? You wrote Osamu like he's a shithead istg who in the right mind comes in and just takes his ex's underwear or any belongings, in fact, and even refuses to give it back? And the way he thinks being a sticky and self-concieted ex isnt going to make his ex strongly disgusted irl?? Smirking??You 12?? And y/n's a huge ass pushover goddamn ugh. Get a grip omfg. I honestly hope this isn't how you want your love life to go fr & people, Osamu's way of getting back with your ex is one a one way ticket to the ✨block list✨ so don't. Anyways its just a fic don't take my ranting srsly cus my cousin went through the same situation but she wasn't a pushover and blockedt that trash bag of an ex 😋 thanks for letting me rant 💕

cool! it wasn’t your cup of tea, and i understand that!

on the other hand, none of this was constructive for me. in fact, a majority of it was unwarranted, and i currently do not accept any constructive criticisms without being asked first or without me asking the person to critique it. so no, this was not an open space for you to “rant” about it. it’s okay that you didn’t like it, again, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but that does not deem you to be blatantly rude, particularly as seen in, “you wrote ...” and “i honestly hope this ...”  

if you didn’t like it and you still wanted to say something that badly, i would’ve been more open to receiving this if you had even had the slightest niceness in your tone. there are a number of things i would change about next time, and perhaps it would be some of the things you pointed out, but that is for me to decide and correct, not you.  

glad you and your cousin could move away from a situation that was harmful. like you said, it is a story, so i hope you wouldn’t take it so seriously. 

#i'm sorry you couldn't vibe but really this ain't it! #and frankly i'm not really sure what you want me to do so #i also don't want to answer your other ask which /was/ decent #the anon function is a privilege people love to abuse #'don't be rude' - kim kardashian

[lilly-onthevalley]

🌹 Standards 🌹

This seems to be a popular topic on hypergamyblr

High standard men, high standard dates, luxury standards , all these terms that people love to use

Everyone wants things of a high standard, right?

Everyone dreams of having high standard items

Everybody dreams of cultivating high standard relationships

These are all cute little dreams

But...

Are you a high standard individual ?

I'm probably going to be a little harsh in this, I apologise in advance 😂

You can't expect to have a high standard life when you don't even make an effort to better yourself

Jordan Peterson has a quote which says something along the lines of :-

"Change yourself, before attempting to change they world because if you change yourself first, you change your family, you change your friends, then you change your town, you change your country and then you can change the world but it first starts with you"

Changing yourself will change the way the world around you functions

Everyone thinks of luxury, the lazy, the unambitious, the ambitious, literally everyone, even the roach on the street is probably looking enviously at the roach that lives in the super market, the game changer is the decision of the roach, whether it will climb to the super market doors and join it's roach buddy or it will curse and stare at the roach in the super market 😂

I have the most random metaphors, sorry about that 😂

Perhaps take it like this, you go to a 5 star restaurant and go watch how the food is prepared.

The best marbled steaks are picked out, the highest grade of foreign spices are used, the cutlery used is splendid in quality, the greens are fresh and lush

And of these are combined together by amazing talented chefs to go feed wealthy people

Now with that idea in mind, do you think a low grade piece of hard and fatty beef would be allowed in that kitchen under normal circumstances ?

No, right?

Now imagine it in person form

If you look at most women in high standard areas there's always something about them

They are maybe a combination of some of these:-

Highly attractive (using that pretty privilege <3 )- they take pride in sculpting and working on their bodies, perfecting their makeup, they take time to see which colours and clothing suits them best, their skin glows from the inside out etc

Highly educated (socially and/or formally) - they take time and effort into nourishing their brain to the best it can be. They can play instruments, they are multilingual, they are experts in their field, they have invested themselves in their passions and interests, they are masters at conversation or socialites

Even in the animal kingdom, you put a weak animal together with the stronger, smarter ones, it'll be eaten alive, killed or kicked out

They are obviously exceptions to the rule but are you going to test out if you are an exception or start building yourself up to be an apex

It's your choice, you can complain about how unfair this is, you can write a 4 page essay listing your whole ancestral background together with a brain scan and debate why it's harder for you but in the end, action is what differentiates a successful fulfilled woman and an angry regretful woman

Don't be afraid or intimidated, all good things need hard work and discipline

Hold yourself like the 5 star restaurant, only let the healthiest food enter your space, teach yourself mindfulness, work out and gain experience on various subjects and cultures, build standards for yourself, I promise you, you won't regret it

Start with a light cardio workout, buying a book, downloading Duolingo, cooking meal, signing up to college, stop sabotaging yourself in an attempt to hold on to self abusive 'individuality'

People seem to love focusing on things outside of themselves, things they haven't even seen before and end up neglecting the girl looking at them everyday in the mirror

@2pretty 's dream girl guide is a nice place to start and get your stuff together

💗

Remember these are just my thoughts and opinions

#self care #leveled up mindset #levelup #leveling up #luxury #moodboard #sugar heaux #black femininity #spoiled gf #spoiled princess #self impowerment #spoiled heaux #self improvement #self esteem #self love #high class heaux #high maintenance #pretty privilege #my thoughts #my opinions

[bts-ficrecs]

Hi! Can you recommend a few Jungkook marriage fics please! Open to all genres. Thanks! ❤️

(header cr: guwoljk)

y’know this ask made me realize how rare married fics -- that aren’t drabbles -- are lol. outside of arranged marriage aus 😂

but no worries. i did find a good amount for you anon! thanks for this lovely request :”)

If anyone has any other husband!Jk fics that I didn’t include on this list, let me know!! (cause I need it too😂)

Sorry if this clogs your feed. idk why whenever I answer an ask, my “read more” is always stuck in the actual ask where i cannot edit it out at all

KEY: (☆) = arranged marriage / ( F ) = fluff / ( A ) = angst / ( S ) = smut

 

 

The Brat by obiwrites (F)

 » Summary: It was now you and him against the world. There was just one thing…

 

Bunny Bigot by obiwrites (F)

 » Summary: “Hey babe,” you call, startling the boy hunched down in a corner, “is there a reason you’re hiding in our closet?”

 » Sequel: Baby Bun & The Little Gardener

 

Child's Play by obiwrites (F)

 » Summary: Jungkook's always had a ... unique approach to parenting

 

Concealed Weapon by @gimmesumsuga (M)

 » Summary: Jungkook turns out not to be quite who you thought he was, and your reaction takes you both by surprise.

 

Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs by obiwrites (F)

 » Summary: The plot of cloudy with a chance... but with Jungkook

 » Sequel: Part 2

 

Desiderium by @jeonggukingdom (M)

 » Summary: “We’ve been at it like rabbits, how are you still so horny?”

 

Home is Where You Are by @sweetbunnykook  (F A)

 » Summary: Madness and love grows from the same root in the Jeon family.

 

I Can’t Help Myself, I Don’t Want Anyone Else by obiwrites (F)

 » Summary: A follow up piece to Just The Girl. A glimpse at the wedding, life after marriage and then some!

 » More spinoffs: Life is Good (pregnant!OC) & The Kids Are Alright (1st day of school)

 

It’s Enough by @dark-muse-iris (A)

 » Summary: Preparing dinner reminds you of all the struggles you’ve experienced in your marriage. Your husband Jungkook, ever your anchor, tries to cheer you up with gentle words.

 

Late Night Cravings by erifish14 (F)

 » Summary: Imagine having a child with Jungkook

 

Meet the Jeon-Son’s by obiwrites (F A)

 » Summary: The little girl studies your face for a long time, like she’s trying to put together the pieces of a puzzle that haven’t for a long time.

 

Stress Relief by @hobidreams (S)

 » Summary: “What the hell do you think you’re doing?” “Kissing my wife?”

 

Sweater Weather by @bangtanstanst (F)

 » Summary: When Jungkook comes back from a run and you have the audacity to laugh at his admittedly bad decision to go outside in the rain, he makes sure to take his revenge.

 

The Next by @kpopfanfictrash (F)

 » Summary: No matter the fact that this is your fourth child, nor that every other pregnancy was fine – sitting in this seat, awaiting the news is always incredibly nerve-wracking. This is the moment you determine if your baby is healthy, or not.

 

Things You Said At 1 AM by @foreverpark (F M)

 » Summary: More often than not, you spend around one to two hours in bed, watching the clock tick with the dialogue of a feel-good movie or drama keeping you company, waiting for your husband to come back from his never-ending dance practices.

 

 

After All Night by @btsracket​ (M)

» Summary: “Your mom has the baby so let’s make good use of the time.”

 

All in My Head by @fatrainbowmermaidunicorn (☆ F A)

 » Summary: Jeon Jungkook’s wife. Something you have always wanted to be. Something you have always dream of. But it's something you know won't ever come true. Until today.

 

Always and Forever by @joonglows (F)

 » Summary: From childhood friends to boyfriend and girlfriend, it’s time for an upgrade. Now, you are living a happily ever after with your dear husband, Jungkook, with three loving kids and one on it’s way.

 

Black Card by @minsprings (F A S)

 » Summary: A long night at another one of your obligatory high society functions has you desperate to relieve some stress with your husband Jungkook, who’s been apparently hiding a kink from you for some time.

 » Status: complete two-shot

 

Desperate Housewife by @kimnjss (M)

 » Summary: Bored with your husband gone all the time, you decide to take up a new hobby… Jungkook can only seem to focus on one thing when it comes to your new pastime.

 

Fierce and Delicate by @mintseesaw (F A)

 » Summary: Jungkook and y/n had been brought in two different worlds. Jungkook living an unfortunate life and y/n being controlled by her parents all her life. Despite the imperfect relationship, they completed each other like a puzzle there is. Jungkook has one promise he intends to keep: to always make you happy. In the process of fulfilling your wish he had once declined you of, he kept a secret from you. And unintentionally, he has done more damages than expected…Every action, and every decision… could be blamed by the flawed past.

 » Sequel: Felicity (F A S)

 

From What Stars Have We Fallen to Meet Each Other Here by muhammie (☆ F A)

 » Summary: Yoongi and Jungkook learn how to love in a marriage they never wanted to be in.

 » Note: yes, this is mxm

 

Holiday Blunder by obiwrites (F A)

 » Summary: The one where it’s the worst Thanksgiving in the world but your husband makes it mildly better.

 

Lumière by @taehyung-me-down (series) (☆ F A S)

 » Status: ongoing series

 » Summary: Fate has a way of bringing together two souls meant to be, but to a princess like you, soulmates are out of the question. As the sole heir of the throne, it is your duty to create a strong allegiance, one that will protect your reign. Your marriage with a prince from a neighboring kingdom was sealed from the moment you entered this world, two destinies intertwining. All you yearn for is a love that will ignite your soul. One that will have your head spinning in the clouds and your heart drowning in desire. Soulmates will meet, regardless of time, location, or circumstances, but it’s up to you. There’s one thing you must do. Seek the light, and find the love of a lifetime.

 

Mafia Arranged Marriage by @leahsockhead01 (☆ F A)

 » Summary: You knew your parents had secrets but, you never realized they went as deep as the mafia. Your father was apparently a secret Consigliere. A “close friend” to the leader of Seoul’s mafia crime group. In order to officially blend your family into the mafia, you had been elected to marry the leader’s son. Upon meeting your betrothed, you run. Then something happens… to bring you back.

 

Money, Power, Respect by @minnpd (A S)

 » Summary: You catch his eye the moment you walk through the door, low-cut dress doing its job like you knew it would.

 

Of Caresses And Promises by @ditttiii (F A S)

 » Summary: You love your husband and you know that he loves you just as much, if not more. But sometimes, you can’t help but feel like he could do better—better than you.

 

Put Your Head on My Shoulder by koorara (F A S)

 » Summary: You were worried to bring Jungkook along to your hometown and grandma has never met Jungkook, and yes, she is lovely but what if she suddenly doesn’t approve of him? That would break his heart.

 

Second Chances by @parkhabits (F A S)

 » Summary: Work. One of the most important things to him. It kept him company at night, it was all he thought about, all he put his attention to. His work had become the mistress within your marriage. Years after you left him you’re back with only one goal in mind. Get him to sign the damn divorce papers. Yet you should’ve known that your husband wouldn’t let you go that easily.

 

Smitten by @megahwn (☆ F S)

 » Summary: You live in a world where loving another is criminal. Partners are chosen by your elders to produce the best offspring and to help the economy thrive. Living in this world, you feel broken. You feel broken because you have accidentally fallen for your new husband, Jeon Jungkook.

 

Taking Chances by @neonlights92 (☆ F A S)

 » Status: complete series

 » Summary: “Jeon Jungkook is an asshole.”

 

The Pitter-Patter of the Heart by koorara (F)

 » Status: ongoing series

 » Summary: Pieces of newlywed domestic moments with Jungkook, your husband. The young Film and Literature lecturer and his wife, you, who works as a journalist of a web magazine. Both of you managing the career, the time for each other and the new house. Not to forget the cat that has been with you for years.

 » Drabble: Valentine (S)

 

The Husband She Didn't Want by MyTime2Shine (☆ A S)

 » Status: ongoing series

 » Summary: Kim Mi Cha life was a miserable one since her mother had died at a young age. By 22 she was taking care of her alcoholic father who was often abusive to her. Her only respite would be when he'd leave her to go gamble as his addiction was getting out of control. She dreamed and believed in true love despite her upbringing. Her spoiled brat of a neighbor across the way from her was Jeon Jungkook. // Jeon Jungkook's life was happy and privileged one. He lived the life of a rich and only child to both of his parents who gave him whatever he wanted. Age at 23 Jungkook had become CEO Jeon Jungkook when his parents were killed in a car accident. He thought love was for the weak. His neighbor across the way from him was the shy and timid Kim Mi Cha. // Kim Mi Cha's father ends up at a poker game with CEO Jungkook and Jungkook ends up winning the game but the prize was Kim Mi Cha?

 

The Lie Untold by @54daysormore (☆ F A S)

 » Status: complete series

 » Summary: In a world where everyone has their secrets, Jung-Kook, young and naïve, wants nothing more than his marriage to a stranger to be open and honest.  His new bride, young yet experienced, knows how many lies people tell every day, but hopes her new husband never sees through her own.

 

Untitled by @lamourche (F A)

 » Summary: “I lost our baby”

 

Your First Time by @nitaescence (F S)

 » Summary: Your child performs for the first time in the school's end of year show.

#bts fic recs #jungkook fan fic #jungkook fic recs #jungkook smut #husband jungkook #jungkook fluff #jungkook angst #reposted cause tumblr is a binch #anon #g recs #g replies #f:jjk

[buildabi]

hello everyone! welcome to this blog!! here you’ll find bi positivity & bi community support! here are a few basics about this blog:

both cis & trans bi’s are welcome

same gender relationships and different gender relationships are just as important & valid as each other

bisexuality is fluid; whether someone has a preference for men, a preference for women, or no preference at all, they are still bi

experience does not “validate” a bi. bi people are bi, regardless of what romantic/sexual experiences they’ve had

“bihets” is an offensive & unacceptable term

bisexuals do not have “straight passing privilege”

non-bi basics:

drama will not be tolerated

this blog is anti-pan/omni/polysexual (aka, battleaxe bi friendly) 

biphobes, terfs, radfems, ed/pro-ed blogs, etc do not interact

if you abuse the anon function (harassment, hate, etc), your IP will be blocked

questions about bisexuality are accepted, but please be respectful, or you will be soft blocked. if rudeness continues, you will be fully blocked

finally, this is pluto!! 

he is our lil raccoon mascot, pls be nice to him!!

have a very lovely day, bi babes!

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[gunnerpalace]

Hi! Same anon as the previous one. Tbh, I agree wholeheartedly with you. Y'see I do ask rhetorically,too but i could really accept and understand how and why ppl can be oblivious to IchiRuki, and somehow felt that the 'canon' should suffice, even the most excruciating of all is the fact a number found the ending even acceptable (ships aside, too). Again, I could respect that. But it's my greatest bane when ppl ask 'why' and not be clear they are asking rhetorically because I literally will

provide you an actual answer. And I get it, it’s the reason why ppl find shipping wars toxic and silly. But then again, as human, conflicts are always part of us (partly because as social psych explains so, we are gravitated to the negative for that allows us to change and survive), and the reason why “logical fallacies” are coined in the first place. Human will always debate, and argue about something; the only thing we could change is how we approach the opposing views.

Again, I dont condone any way, shape or form of abuse and harm. In some certain extent, I could perhaps understand it’s much harder for some IH to approach the actual argument being there’s either too much noise, and trapped in their own island between sea of salt. Thus becoming too acquianted w/ few IH who shared the same thought until it became their views as the only truth (see, that’s why its important to have debates! it is what keep us grounded and fair! Just like you said)

Who am I to speak though? I never ever challenged anyone anyways. And as you said, you just have to understand things in every way you could possibly think of–endless ‘whys’. Which is where I agree in your reply the most–this silly fandom wars is just the black mirror to every truth that lies beneath human psyche–the dark and the grimy. Heck, being a psych major is like staring at dark hole–at times, good, but most just plain confusing, revolting even or just heartbreaking.

Sorry it’s been long, but for the final of this ask: let me tell how glad I was with IchiRuki fandom I found in tumblr. It was the saltiest I’ve ever been (im not generally a fandom person anyways) but it’s the himalayan salt–expensive and actually nutritive it really deepened my desire to become wiser in general. And you for your wonderful essays, critiques and whatnot. I definitively would love to talk with you more not only about IchiRuki but the wonders and nightmare that us humans! Kudos!

I have sitting in my drafts a post spelling out my thoughts on “canon” (and thus, the people who cling to it) in that as a concept it privileges:

officiality over quality when it comes to validity (thus violating Sturgeon’s law)

corporations (intellectual property rights holders) over fans, and thus capitalists over proletarians

hierarchical dominance over mutualist networking within fandom

curative fandom over transformative fandom

genre over literary content

plot over characters

events over emotions

It is notable that (1) generally degrades art as a whole, (2) generally advances the capitalist agenda, and (3–7) generally advances the dominance of men over women (as the genders tend to be instructed by society to view these as A. dichotomies rather than spectrums, and B. to ascribe gender to them and make them polarities). These form the sides of a mutually reinforcing power structure (in the typical “Iron Triangle” fashion) designed to preserve and maintain the status quo.

Who really benefits from say, the policing of what is or is not “canon” in Star Wars? Disney, first and foremost. And then whomever (almost certainly male) decides to dedicate their time to memorizing the minutiae of whatever that corporation has decided is “legitimate.”

One can imagine a universe in which fan fic is recognized by companies for what it is: free advertising. (Much like fan art already is.) Instead, it is specifically targeted by demonetization efforts in a way that fan art isn’t. Why? Because it demonstrates that corporate control and “official” sanction has no bearing on quality, and it is thus viewed as undermining the official products.

In the same way, by demonstrating that most “canonical” works are frankly shit, it undermines the investiture of fans in focusing on details that are ultimately errata (the events, the plot, the genre), which is the core function of curative fandom and the reason for its hierarchical structure. The people who “know the most” are at the top, but what they “know” is basically useless garbage. And those people so-engaged are, of course, usually male.

To “destroy” the basis of their credibility, and indeed the very purpose of their community, is naturally viewed by them as an attack.

(This is not to say that efforts to tear down internal consistency within established cultural properties are good unto themselves, or even desirable. For example, efforts to redefine properties such as Star Wars, Star Trek, Doctor Who, and Ghostbusters, for the sake of a identity-politics agenda have largely A. failed as art, B. failed as entertainment, C. failed to attract the supposedly intended audience, and D. failed to advance the agenda in question. Trying to repurpose extant media in the name of culture wars is essentially always doomed to failure unless it is done deftly and gradually.)

(At the same time, this also shows what I was talking about last time, with regard to people seeing whatever they want to see. You will see people complain that Star Trek and Doctor Who didn’t “used to be so political,” which is obviously nonsense. These shows were always political. What changed was how their politics were presented. For example, Star Trek has, since TNG, always shown a nominally socialist or outright communist future, but was beloved by plenty of conservatives because they could [somehow] ignore that aspect of it.)

Of course, almost no one is seriously suggesting that one side of the spectrums outlined above be destroyed, rather merely that a new balance be struck upon the spectrum. But, as we have seen time and again in society, any threat to the status quo, whether that be 20% of Hugo Awards going to non-white male authors or the top income tax rate in America being increased by a measly 5.3% (from 28.7% to 34%… when the all-time high was 94% and for over 50 years it was above 50%) is a threat. This is why, for example, Republicans are out there branding AOC as a “socialist” when her policies are really no different at all from a 1960 Democrat who believed in FDR’s New Deal. (Which they, of course, have also demonized as “socialism.”)

(As an aside, all this ignores the fact that most of the “literary canon” of Western civilization, or at least English literature… is Biblical or historical fan fic.)

And this is when I finally get to my point.

Those people out there who denigrate and mock shippers and shipping, the people who hurl “it reads like fan fiction” as an insult, and so on, are the people who benefit from and enjoy the extant power structure. You will see the same thing with self-identified “gamers” complaining about “fake girl gamers.” Admitting that the hobby has a lot of women in it, and a lot of “casuals,” and is indeed increasingly dominated by “non-traditional demographics” is an affront to the constructed identity of being a “gamer.” They are “losing control.” And they don’t like it.

This exact same sort of population is what the “fanbase” of Bleach has been largely reduced down to through a slow boiling off of any actual quality. Of course they’re dismissive of people who are looking for anything of substance: their identity, their “personal relationship” with the franchise, is founded on a superficial appreciation of it: things happening, flashy attacks, eye-catching character designs, fights, etc.

(What this really boils down to, at heart, is that society at large has generally told men that emotions are bad, romance and relationships of all kinds are gross, and that thinking and reflecting on things is stupid. So of course they not only don’t care about such things, but actively sneer at them as “girly” or “feminine,” which is again defined by society at large as strictly inferior. And this gender divide and misogyny is of course promulgated and reinforced by the powers that be, the capitalists, to facilitate class divisions just like say racism generally is.)

(The latest trick of these corporate overlords has been the weaponization of “woke” culture to continue to play the people off one another all the time. “If you don’t like this [poorly written, dimensionless Mary Sue] Strong Female Character, then you are a racist misogynist!” They are always only ever playing both sides for profit, not advancing an actual ideological position. It is worth noting that there was a push by IH some years ago to define IR as “anti-feminist” for critiquing Orihime for essentially the exact same reasons [admittedly, not for profit, but still as critical cover].)

Which makes it very curious, therefore, that the most ardent IH supporters tend to be women. (Though there are more than a few men, they seem to tend to support it because it is “canon” and to attack it is to attack “canon” and thus trigger all of the above, rather than out of any real investment.) I think there are a number of reasons for this (which I have detailed before) and at any rate it is not particularly surprising; 53% of white women voted for Trump, after all.

What we are really seeing in fandom, are again the exact same dynamics that we see at larger and larger scales, for the exact same reasons. The stakes are smaller, but the perception of the power struggle is exactly the same.

Of course, the people who are involved in these things rarely think to interrogate themselves as to the true dimensions and root causes of their motivations. People rarely do that in general.

Putting all that aside, I’m glad that you have found a place you enjoy and feel comfortable, and thank you for the kind words, although I am not of the opinion that there is anything poignant about the non-fiction I write. It is, as I keep trying to emphasize, all there to be seen. One just has to open their eyes. So, it’s hard for me to accept appreciation of it.

Anyway, don’t feel shy about coming off of anon rather than continuing to send asks. We don’t really bite.

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P1. I’m so interested drugs and celebrity culture. it’s very normalised in working class society; a lot of it is down to the uk government taking resources away from low income communities, fuelling drug trade behind the scenes & then cutting access to mental health services & social housing. they love putting vulnerable people in situations where drugs are quick escapism & then shining a spotlight on working class cities to paint them as dirty chavs for votes.

P2. so the working class members of 1D were already exposed to a disenfranchised culture where drug & alcohol abuse is commonplace. I live in a neighbourhood of kids that lost a close friend on nye about 5 years ago, he took something and my brother was with him when he jumped off the ferry & died. those kids are young adults now but the affects were catastrophic for them.

P3. the education system abandoned them, not many of them were mentally well enough afterwards to sit their GCSEs because there was no access to the treatment they needed. they haven’t been able to find work, a lot of them have severe depression and ptsd & they’ve turned to drugs and alcohol to deal with it. my sister & brother are just 2 examples.

P4. they’re young people with a world of potential, they’re all outspoken, practical, clever, hardworking. but they’ve been written off & left behind & they’re playing catch up with a system that’s moving too fast for them to keep their feet on the ground.

P5. it’s an extreme example & the 1D boys are very privileged in that respect, but the stigma remains. there’s always that assumption, that pressure, that culture that gave them both good and not so good qualities. I don’t really want to go into detail with drug culture right now, for the same reasons as you.

P6. but I just think there’s a similarity to draw between the two subcultures. drugs & alcohol abuse see a correlation between mounting social pressure, trauma, government & media perpetuation of stereotypes, & capitalism forcing us to always need a release, something to do with our time, an inability to tolerate boredom.

P7. in that respect, I’d say there’s a strong similarity between drug use in working class and celebrity culture, a large and difficult conglomeration of the 2. I tend to have more sympathy, empathy, & understanding for the boys because of that. I get it. 

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Hi anon

Thanks so much for these thoughts - and I’m sorry that I didn’t post them sooner.  I think this is really articulate and perceptive about some of the ways that drugs function in society and I think a lot of what passes for drugs discourse around 1D could benefit from people thinking about what you say.

There’s a couple of things that I want to draw out from what you say - the first is that 1D members didn’t come to X-factor as blank slates.  They’d experienced, either directly or indirectly, drugs and alcohol in their communities.  And I think when thinking about how 1D members are negotiating their lives now it’s worth remembering what they brought with them.

I think your suggestion that there’s parrallels between drugs use in working-class communities and drug use among celebrities is really interesting - particularly the way it draws out pressure and boredom.  I thought the popcast in the aftermath of Juice WRLD’s really captured that lack of mental health care might link these two groups far more than you would think (particularly given the different level of resources available).  

Thanks for giving me so much to think about. I’ve thought a lot about your brother and his friend’s since you sent me this ask (and sorry again for the delay publishing it) - and I want to send love and solidarity to them all.  More than anything I hope they know that they’re every bit as amazing as you’ve described them - and the problem is them and not you (and assuming they’re in the UK I’m so sad that things are only going to get harder for them).

#Thanks so much anon #drug use #I never did figure out a good tag #anyway I'm interested in any more conversation along these lines #because the longer I'm here #the more I think the refusal to engage in discussion of drugs and alcohol and 1D #is actually a denial about the pain 1D members might face #and what being in 1D has taken to them #Anonymous

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TW heavy

For once I don't feel like asking advice would be a sign of weakness.

I WANT AND DESERVE MORE. I WANT TO LIVE. I DONT WANT TO KEEP WANTING TO DIE. I DONT WANT THIS AND I WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT. LIFE AND STRENGTH AND LOVE SEEMS SO FAR AWAY TIL RECENTLY. BUT IM STILL SO TRAUMATIZED AND SO PRONE TO DEREALIZING. HEALTH AND HAPPINESS ISNT A PRIVILEGE RIGHT...? I WANT MORE. ISNT LIFE A RIGHT

Even if my parents have done their middle class most to feed house and even help get me out of credit pits and even though they aren't physically abusive they have been abusive to my older sister who committed suicide after secretly being a victim of child sexual assault dismissive neglectful emotionally mute narcissistic feudalistic and ableist and rape apologists. I HAVE built up this role and this mask where I am tolerable to them so they do not find me problematic day to day. I keep telling myself that I can be bitter but I just can't shake this feeling that maybe I'm just an entitled millennial who got cucked and I'm wrong. But I have been formulating a plan to get a diploma while I am under their roof then run away one night with some money saved and live alone instead of doing this song and dance of bad class analysis where I pretend like I'm not supposed to be doing anything remotely political just put my head down work make money be less of an embarassment go to a bank get loans just to get degrees certificates jobs get cars move around be socially pleasant meet someone to make babies with (I'm bisexual/pansexual and poly...But I am trans and my parents have major issues confronting that even if they pretend to be absolutely progressive minded" (TM) like being literate and half way informed is the same thing as actually really thinking about microaggressions and oppressive behaviours they enact in oorder to be better supports which they haven't) and while their ~support~ of me being mentally ill/disabled and actively suicidal is something that did come across the first week of our bereavement--literal days before the funeral-- their twisted toxic manner of mourning has made me suicidal at least three times as of 27th December 2018; and their responses to coming out as transmasculine and bi was dont get all PC snowflake on us (Read:shut up about it unless we feel ready to go ask you curtly and rudely) and then two days after when I actually felt soft and tender enough to say I had visions of dying violently because of how terribly small and useless I currently feel they begged and begged me to make calls on my own and handle things myself because Hey We Are Really The Ones Who Are Suffering And Mourning Why Are TWO of Our Daughters Suicidal I Am Truly Suffering. Implied--"we will have insurance cover this therapy shit you should be happy haven't we mentioned it to your idiot face already just leave us alone about this shit". I may have had to survive day after day through my depression since 2014 by thinking they weren't people to open up to but that doesn't mean that they can say that. Imply that. They CANNOT

They cannot.

But they did.

They did it. They fucking did that when my heart finally came around to a place of, "Well I understand that they haven't experienced surviving and being a victim of violence and victim blaming and being transgender is foreign and even vilified so that's fair and here are all their siblings coming to the funeral to feed and help us in the aftermath and to keep us housed through all the preparations so how come, among and amidst all this compassion, they seem so hit by Stupid Bitch disease? Wtf why *shouldnt* anybody deal with depression by themself!

" I don't know that all the fear you felt before this bereavement of being in the same room holds up when they can just be seen as foolish and immature. You can 100% deal through therapy with the ableism and gaslighting you endured the silence around your constant issues with being fired at jobs you hated the the moments of realizing they want to be white passing and are sociopathically happy to be alone and have no hobbies and live in codependent relationships where they treat others like infant children or wayward siblings who need a firm hand but not heart to heart talks or reassurances or loving toughness... so just try to be uncomfortable and just shore up and bolster your underlying hope of seeing your long held affectionate blindly loyal love reciprocated.

"Keep up that small hope and bury all your pain and your furious and sour resentment if it means their happiness is number one in my life. Just do it Isagani! Do that... because it is Good." I tried it and I fell apart. I functioned for a week or two but now I am just as prone to sleeping and alcoholism and moreover, I want to escape but now I feel like hiding my desires to just pay my own way through art college and transitioning in a nearby city is nothing compared to our long history of living as a dysfunctional but somewhat stable household. /:

I FEEL like I understand I should leave but I suddenly feel ... IDK like I'm sinning before Jesus himself. What would it mean to pick up a backpack my laptop and a suitcase of clothes and some money and just go...and... Wouldn't it destroy their happiness and their legitimacy as NOT bigoted parents and NOT bad community members and NOT hypocritical and NOT at all to be blamed. ////:

I would leave them a note... I would say to meet me in 2027 in a town I feel has a small leftist community called Tavistock in South Devon in Britain and I would leave a blog entry where I detail my grief and my pain.

I wrote the post one evening on the 19th where I realized I've been covering for them even though my little lesbian moderately autistic and anxious sister had her birthday and needs my brutal honesty and my parents to stop dismissing me the most.

It (the blog post that is) speaks to my analysis of their issues and I don't want to leave without a note because they might feel like I have just gone away in a panic and might turn up dead just as my late sister did... What I want to know is should I make an escape, or should I stay with them.

I need to decide but I feel so confused. Please help I think I ... can't see a way out

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isagani \ 26.\ marxist feminist \ communist \ atheist \ very bi. \ filipino migrant. \ transgender nb. \ femme in the s.g.a. woman sense.(anons are open) \ 4 years past a severe depressive breakdown. \ scorpio passing

#Need help and although I was ashamed and thought maybe my true friendship meant opting out of asking for help I want to change that

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Part 1: I was Odin and Loki devotee for 3 years and I considered having quite a strong connection with both of them despite of being a noob so to say. At one point I tried to become part of a certain small pagan community, because I felt I needed a pack; I didn't know much about anything and wanted to learn. Couple of months went well. Then I found out admin was a manipulative closet nazi and gay/transphobe.

Part 2: The rest of the ppl there didn't mind it at all in the name of "tolerating different opinions" and just laughed it off. I was so outraged, and I left. However, they too were norse pagans or inclined in one way or another towards the practice. They were talking like the gods had their back, helped them to get forward and agreed with what they were doing. Tried to talk me to "open my mind" to it as well.Part 3: When I was younger, I used to loathe everything monoteism related because of people like that. Now the same fury I thought had already been dead and buried, emerged stronger than ever, and this time it wasn't aimed at monoteism, but norse gods. I felt betrayed and used. I thought I'll rather be alone than have anything to do with deities who hang out with nazis or other human scum, while crying my eyes out and getting rid of my altar.Part 4: A friend tried to tell me to be reasonable, reminded me they're just people and people can talk shit or be deluded, and asked do I trust more the gods or people. I answered "I don't trust anybody anymore. Everyone can just fuck off." Now it feels like I've chopped off my own arm and run into space, far away from Earth, and just drifting there with nowhere to go. Like I would've lost one of my senses. It's dead silent.Still, just a thought of putting the altar back pisses me off, as everything norse related reminds me of those people. And I hate it as well how big of an infuence they have over me. I'm not even sure why am I writing this. I was thinking have you or someone of your followers perhaps had similar experiences and how did they overcome it?

That’s a horrible thing to have happen anon, and it’s never easy to experience betrayal - particularly when it’s in an arena where you feel that you were an individual who knew less, and in a sense looked up to those others as worthy of respect. I can only imagine what it felt like to have folks you used to consider pack, people you thought worthy and trusted to watch your back and look out for your spiritual well being, embrace or give time to such vile ideas which should never be tolerated.It’s bad enough when authors or authorities you respected turn out to not be what you thought they were, or espouse sentiments that are anathema to our own sense of justice and right living, let alone when those ideas have been proven to lead to atrocity after atrocity, violations of body and soul for thousands, nay, millions of people.So I understand you anger, and your sense of loss, because while the circumstances were different, I too have felt the gutting horror, the rising bile, and the brutal bruising of the soul under such an abuse. Because make no mistake, abuse of trust is abuse. When we make ourselves vulnerable to another, when we open our hearts enough to allow others to draw us along on a journey, we take a risk, allowing them to come into contact with pieces of ourselves we do not often expose in ordinary life. When we extend them that privilege - and make no mistake, it is a privilege - in a very real sense we give them access to the private laws, those intimate paths of thought and action we lay down which govern our inner lives, and we expect people to abide by them when in those spaces. True friends acknowledge those laws, and abide by them in interactions with us - even if they don’t always agree completely, in toto, because they respect us, and wish us to prosper. The recognise that these laws are the root-channels our life-force has forged throughout our existence, and they respect that which animates us - that which brings us Life and More Life. That which allows us to become More ourselves.This doesn’t mean that they should kowtow to us, but that they should act with respect towards us, and when in our orbit behave in a manner which is regarded by all parties as respectful within the context of relationship. Thus, I can have a respectful relationship with a friend even if our interactions seem naught but insulting to each other, because, contrary to what might appear to outsiders, we both know the insights arise out of love and respect.I mention respect, because many people have an inorganic ossified notion of respect, and honour and the like. They do not understand that they are both properties of betweenness - bonds between groups and individuals, gods and human, friends, siblings, parents and children etc. When those bonds, those shared agreements, implicit, or explicit, are broken ? Life, sense, meaning? They are disrupted - the flow of the world, its rhythms, its pulses, are thrown into disarray.Anger, rage - these are primal emotions, primal forces. Raw powers unleashed in some manner to grasp, to shape the world into new meanings, either by defending our integrity, or allowing us to gain a foothold in the world by overpowering things enough for us to make sense of them. In the service of Life, in the service of hope and kindness? They are holy things, but like many things, perhaps all things, they can be debased, can be twisted or turn harmful. When combined with fear, they can lead to atrocities, as we mentioned earlier.Make no mistake then, anon, but believe me when I say: You have been wronged. You have been wronged, and have every right to be angry. You have been wronged by people, not gods. But your anger at the gods is understandable. After all, it was for, and through them, that you encountered the people who abused your trust.So when you friend asked you whether you trusted the gods, I understand what they were trying to do. But the truth is, it has very little to do with the gods at all, except in a manner which I’ll come to into a moment.It is not surprising that your rage is also spilling over towards the gods, despite that sense of loss that you mention. Not surprising at all, not only for reasons you yourself mention, but also because you do not wish to be like those people who broke your trust, and what bound you to them was, seemingly, the gods. Was altars and shrines and hailing the names of Odin and Loki. To honour those gods is do as they did.So. Do not do as they did. Forgo the altars. Forgo the blots. Forgo the poisoned practice. Forgo “Anything Norse” as you put it. Those bonds are shattered. Let the anger rage, righteously.Let the fury have its head. Let it roar, let it surge, let it pulse. Let the pain of the wound sing. And know this, as you drift above the earth, senseless..The gods are. They are not their names (How can they be, when Odin has hundreds?) They are not their shrines. They are not their so-called worshippers.The gods were.A thousand years before your birth, they interacted with humans.

The gods will be.With you, or without. Long after you die, they remain. After this generation, and the next, and the next. No one raised up their names or gave them cultus, or erected altars or shrines for centuries.Yet still, they impacted upon you.Think about that, for a moment. Across all of space and time, down the centuries, down the generations, they made contact, and you forged a bond. 

Independently.Before your betrayers ever came into your life, it was You And Them.Before Nazi scumfucks were even a glimmer in Hitler’s grandparents eye, there they were.Before your betrayal, your relationship with them was good, was prosperous, yes? It served the purpose of Life, enhanced your existence, and in doing so, enhanced the existences of those around you, yes?And those arseholes took that from you. Made the forms and functions of your spiritual life into things of hate and apologism for hate.How fucking dare they?!How dare they break something holy, how dare they violate frith like that?So. Consider this: If I feel your rage, who else does? If I regard such violation as a crime, who else might?Suppose, just for a second, for a moment, that the anger, the disgust you feel at anything resembling ‘Norse’ as presented by our society right now? Suppose it’s not just yours. Suppose it’s theirs too.Suppose for a moment that those signs and symbols by which you previously navigated your relationship with The Master of Fury and the Mother of Sleipnir, are indeed poisoned for you.Suppose therefore that your anger may (or may not) be a sign from them, a desire to develop a more intimate relationship with them, beyond name and form, beyond ‘Norse’ into pure Life, existence itself. To form new bonds which cannot be contaminated by society, and in fact might lead to the destruction of poisonous ideas, via a more organic betweeness -  a vitalistic, enthusing, Life-affirming relationship of frith between all things, which by definition opposes hate?My advice anon: Allow your fury to guide you to the place where you feel whole. I suspect you’ll meet some strangely familiar folks, though their faces may be different.Be well, and know that I understand. 

#the old man #*loki #*odin #them #Anonymous

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can white cis gays like you stop trying to act like you're the only part of the community

Dear Anon,I apologize, but you will have to be more specific? What community do you mean?Do you mean the communities of gays and lesbians in the U.S which formed in the 1950's as solidarity among same sex attracted people fighting against the brutalization and legalized oppression of homosexuals and homosexual love? Communities which risked everything to fight against institutionalized homophobia when homosexuality was viewed as little more than a mental illness to be beaten, electrocuted, raped, or sterilized out of someone? Perhaps you mean these communities of people experiencing same sex attraction who build the foundations for the soon coming, and more well known, gay rights movement?Somehow I doubt you mean those communities.So perhaps you mean the "LGBT community," originally formed in the U.S. following the increasingly influential gay rights movements of the 70's and 80's? A community formed of L: (exclusively same sex attracted females), G (exclusively same sex attracted males), B (persons who experienced same sex attraction alongside their opposite sex attraction), and T: (same sex attracted persons, the majority males, who worked to pass as members of the opposite sex).You may note, dear anon, that there was a surprising connection among these groups! Though it may deeply surprise you, this community was formed FOR and BY persons who experienced same sex attraction, and by extension, the brutal results of homophobia. They were not separated and unrelated groups who came together for no reason. They were people united by their same sex attraction and the oppression they faced from it, and fought against this persecution.Somehow I doubt that you mean this community. Perhaps you mean the "LGBTQA community"? An evolution of the LGBT community which worked to include both "questioning" and "allied" persons who were not necessarily same sex attracted. This change gave plausible deniability to those who wished to interact with the greater LGBT community in the U.S. while maintaining the ability to claim heterosexuality as "questioning" or merely "allies." This was merely another form of the LGBT community protecting same sex attracted people in a violently homophobic world. Once again, community focus was on same sex attraction and its demonization in society. As with every incarnation before it, the LGBTQA community remained BY and FOR same sex attracted people and their fight for equality.Somehow I doubt you mean this community.Perhaps then, you mean the more modern "LGBT community." A community no longer focused on homophobia or same sex attracted persons due to changes in its definition."Gender identity theory" (a concept no human has yet to explain to me in any sensible, non-sexist form), the automatic inclusion of non same sex attracted individuals, and a litany of other ideological mutations have skewed what it means to be LGBT. Today, it has nothing to do with being effected by homophobia, nothing to do with same sex attraction, but rather with "failing to fit the cultural norm." Consequently, any community of people, from quirky heterosexuals to "socially outcast" kinksters became part of the "Queer Community."Perhaps you mean THIS community? One which has evolved into the increasingly homophobic and misogynistic community of people pushing for the dissolving of female exclusive spaces.Pushing for the redefinition of sexuality into a nonsense term which not only lacks function but also threatens to undermine the laws which protect those of persecuted minority sexualities. Pushing for the co-opting of oppressed minority identities on the basis of....whether a person really REALLY wants it?Pushing ideological legitimacy by abusing and stealing the concepts, cultures, and histories from people of color.Pushing ideological legitimacy by using intersex people as nothing more than a tool to be thrown away and ignored when failing to fit a narrative.Pushing for an oppressing class to be given the right to "reclaim" the slurs of those they hold privilege over, again, on the basis of how BADLY THEY WANT IT and how willing they are to misconstrue the facts.Pushing for children to be given untested medical procedures, children who are unable to give consent, children who will by the majority grow out of their dysphoria, and children who will most likely grow into same sex attracted adults.Pushing for sex based oppression to be replaced with gender ideology, which either falls apart when critically examined for more than a moment, or is outright defended as a belief system morally above both the need for proof or criticism.Pushing for oppression based on same sex attraction to likewise be replaced with nonsense gender theory which cannot be criticized without being labeled a murderous, bigoted, hate-monger worthy of death and rape. Or at least threats of such punishments.Pushing for a modern, liberalized conversion of homosexuals into heterosexuality by insisting lesbians and gay men open themselves to relationships and intimacies with those of the opposite sex simply because these individuals "identify" as members of the same "gender identity" or even sex. So, dear anon, which community do you refer to?The community which fought, suffered, and died for my right to live as a gay man more free and equal than ever in the history of the U.S.? The community which was created by and for same sex attracted people to protect and empower them? The community which concerns itself with actual reality and institutional oppression? The community which cares about homophobia even after the "cis gays" got their right to marry and everyone else decided the hill to die on was the right for males to enter female protective spaces, for "queer" to become a catch all for any societal divergent rather than a historic and disgusting slur, and for cis gays to "get over" their "transphobia" and stop being so frustratingly exclusively same sex attracted?Or perhaps you mean the community which is pushing for exactly what I described above? A community which is, in the eye of history, a mutation of its foundations so diametrically opposed to those foundations that I'm pressed to wonder if it's even worth being considered part of its lineage.I wait eagerly for your response, dear anonSincerely,A "white cis gay" who will not shut up and sit down when my identity and my history are attacked by my oppressors simply because members of "the community" demand it.

[vijayanands]

So there has been a troll on my tail for a few months now - the one that goes by the name Unicon Baba. I'm a big fan of the block and mute function on Twitter (Love it), so I am quite oblivious to their existence at this point. However a friend recently told me how the troll account gets active everytime one of our email goes out. I believe big time in building cohorts of the email database based on origin and we do send them in batches, since we can tweak them for open rates and also edit (in case something goes out wrong). So at some point I identified the batch that seemed to trigger the activity. With the Incident that came up about troll accounts yesterday, I was going through our database to check on something - and the thought about this other troll crossed my mind. How smart is this troll, I wondered. On first impression : the dude has managed to create a seperate email address for it. But the weaklink, gmail always asks you to setup a retrieval email address - and that usually ends up being their personal address (even trolls are lazy) So I go to the twitter account. Look up email address. Go to twitter and hit reset password, and it says the same email address. Dead end. So I switch to gmail, enter the unicon gmail address and hit reset password and it shows a gup********@gmail.com as the retrieval email address. Then it was a simple matter of running a search on the narrowed down data list as to who the culprit was. Tried a few which started with "gup", had the same character length, and hit enter, but it said incorrect. Then with one....the password resets. Ladies and Gentleman, the baba : I have been wondering what I must have possibly done to this guy that he is so pissed off at me - for the abuses that have been hurled at me. The only email communication that I can find between said person and me (apart from the mailers) is the brief communication we had when he sent me a linkedin connect request, I added him and followed up with, "Have we met, cause I dont seem to recognise you". So Why am I sharing this? 1. I absolutely believe in an ecosystem that communicates. It is important that we pull up people if we see something wrong. So please do so - and continue to do so, but there are some rules to it. 2. We are an ecosystem that has taken $90bn in funding, and have managed to return 16bn$ so far. Less than 30% of what has been raised has been returned and money has stopped coming into the ecosystem - as much as 3 years ago. We do not know how to build startups in India yet, by large. It is even more so important for us to be able to talk openly (without the fear of getting trolled). 3. Have the guts to talk to people with your name attached. You cant ask for transparency when you cant even reveal your name to others. 4. Even when confronting others, you can use some decorum. Calling abusive names, isn't done - and only adds poison to the ecosystem. 5. In the lack of the above, most people will simply resort to disengaging from these platforms - which are a great equaliser, especially for entrepreneurs who aren't in the metros, and get to learn from the insights shared. We are robbing them of that privilege. 7. In short : If you are going to say something in public, put your name to it, or don't say it at all. I am all for having a conversation, but hiding behind an anon name and lashing out, aint cool. It is officially troll hunting season, it seems.

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