#the mental gymnastics alone

[vaugarde]

yeah its important to have interests that arent just for children as an adult because at the end of the day it’s good for you and the way you percieve media overall to have a variety of things that you like but like you also shouldnt make fun of adults who are passionate about childrens media and imply theyre stupid for it. i think both of these takes can exist at once

#i dont like how some people are taking ''read a book for adults'' as ''do this so you are less cringe and stupid in my opinion'' #rather than ''do so because its genuinely good for you'' #and even so if someone likes childrens media and they like to analyze it and theyre not being a jackass to kids about it #just leave them alone? sometimes that's just what their interests are and thats okay. it makes them happy #and i hate to be That Guy but uhhhh. yeah theres an overlap here w nd adults #not all of us but certainly a good amount bc some special interests are so strong that they last throughout childhood #past an ''acceptable'' age #and again not the case for everyone but like most autistic adults i personally know are into childrens media #and have been into a specific property since they were a young child #and thats just autism like im sure for people with down syndrome and others have a similar experience #and even if they like something recent like bluey like. who cares it is not hurting you #echoed voice #and it also annoys me that most posts like this have people going ''um well fandom moms are annoying tho'' #or even worse literally implying there's inherently a sinister motive #as if its not common for adults to get mocked for being childish and naturally get defensive #and as if every single adult into a pbs show or toh is inherently a bad person or something. #bc people will go through several mental gymnastics to defend being a jackass over something not socially acceptable #before they go ''yeah thats kind of rude sorry''

[thedarkeyedcaptain]

https://www.tumblr.com/wiisagi-maiingan/749790096172138496?source=share

a very reasonable sentiment, totally agree. everyone around us is invaluable, no matter how shitty they may act. unless, of course, they are against us. in which case violence is okay, but only because it is necessary. life before death. protect those weaker than you, at any cost. sometimes you need to be willing to kill in order to protect.

#yes I am sending myself asks leave me alone #I just saw that post and was like I NEED THAT IN MY KALADIN SIDEBLOG #be the change you want to see in the world etc etc #speaking to the stormfather #oh yeh I feel like I should mention that I (kaladin mod) agree with op #not whatever mental gymnastics in-character kaladin is going through lol

[a-warriors-thoughts]

What do you do when your sole reason for continuing to exist is because you must be strong for somebody else? When you've made promises to those who mean the most yet still must continue to wage the war within your own mind, how does one always come out on top? Answer is simple; the pain you feel fighting said war is nothing compared to the pain to be inflicted upon them if you were lost to it. For that reason, you must rise, always stronger to best the increasingly mighty demons that attempt to assault you from the inside. The monsters made of memories, desires, doubts, although brutal they may be, you have the power to banish them. People also say not to let someone else be the reason for your happiness, but if that's what it takes to get you through the darkness, so be it. No one truly knows the extent of what you're going through so you must do what you gotta do to rise above and pull yourself outta the abyss. That's not to say you must go at it alone. There's always someone willing to take the plunge and help pull you out. So if you ever wonder if anyone would care if you'd step off that ledge or make that simple squeeze to make it stop, there is. There's those would risk everything for you. Always. You just gotta trust them and let them assist. So again I ask, what do you do when you must be strong someone else? You stand side by side with those that care so you can end your darkest chapter, even if that's means facing your own personal Devil together to do so. Something as simple as someone caring is more than enough to get you through damn near anything. Doesn't matter if you've been hurt, love someone deeper than the ocean and can't be with them, pushed away those who show kindness, or are trapped in a mental prison, there's someone who will go through the Void itself to break you free from Darkness' grasp, let them. They may understand more than you think. Regardless of our own unique battles, we're not in this alone.

#mental health #self reflection #mental gymnastics #we're not alone

[kannra21]

Problem with pride is that sometimes you can't calculate if it's beneficial or you're just hurting yourself. The never solved mystery.

#cutting off people is nice #but by being overly critical of everyone you'll end up alone #you win and you don't #people are full of flaws and you choose what to tolerate and what not #it's important to have self respect #ugh the mental gymnastics

[bisexualseraphim]

Do queer people who gatekeep sexualities and gender identities have nothing better to do like genuinely what is your problem. The whole point of the community is that gender and sexuality are more fuckity wuckity than man or woman, gay or straight and in almost 2024 we STILL have mfs going “nah that’s not a thing :/ you don’t belong in the community” unless they’re causing harm to others I seriously urge you to shut the fuck up. It is the easiest thing in the world to just say “hmm I don’t really understand that. But it’s their life and none of my business” and just move on with your life and let people live theirs. I do not give one iota of a fuck if someone identifies as a wolfgender they/them/bun/bunself AMAB transmasc who is only attracted to butches with curly hair and brown eyes IT DOES NOT AFFECT ME. I’m happy that they’ve found a way to express their identity that feels true to them and then I think about it no further. Like it takes active mental energy and emotion to get pressed over how someone expresses themselves and I don’t understand why you’d put yourself through that stress and then decide to be bitchy and make people feel like shit for being themselves. I’m seriously getting so tired of people in the community acting like it’s a fucking competition or you can only join if you meet X Y and Z criteria as if it’s some college mean girls sorority club. People are actively trying to take our rights away all the time and while this is happening we’re helping them by tearing our teeth into our own. Great

#I’ve just had enough of it exclusionists can fuck off I want nothing to do with you #You’re honestly no better than those LGB Without The T dickheads trying to kick people out for being ‘too weird’ or ‘not queer enough’ #I’m always seeing people saying intersex people don’t belong or asexual people don’t belong. What the fuck is wrong with you #You think cishets just treat them normally once they explain who they are? I’d love to live in your world #Yeah they get treated totally fine in a world where ‘virgin’ is used as an insult and babies have forced genital surgery #[sarcasm] #Absolute dumbassery mental gymnastics Jesus Christ #You sound like edgy Conservatives with all the ‘X isn’t real it’s a new thing kids have made up’ #That ‘weird’ gender or sexuality label you’ve just found out about? Has always been around #Always. You just have to look for it #And even if it is new WHO. FUCKING. CARES. #The last thing someone who’s just discovered themselves needs is more bigotry from the people who are meant to accept them #Unless they’re literally doing blackface or are an actual zoophile or some shit leave them the fuck alone they’re not hurting anyone #They’re not. I promise you being confused by something you don’t understand isn’t harm #Where’s that post about how discomfort and harm aren’t the same thing #Work on that shit. #Anyway I need to stop you all do my fucking head in #personal #vent #rant #queer discourse #queer politics #queer infighting #queerphobia #lgbtq #queer #trans #transphobia #acephobia #anti exclusionist

[izacore]

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#remember when the residencies were announced #and we were calling hshq out on running harry into the ground #and some people were making fun of us and judging us because he will have so much time to chill!!! it's only in one place!!!! #it's gonna be easier for him!!! he is gonna be so well-rested out little workaholic #we were called dramatic and overreacting #and as of know he already has 2 film festivals that he needs to travel for during those breaks #he has shows sep 1/2/3 has to get to italy has movie premiere and has to go back to give shows on sep 7/8 #and then the same case again in 2 weeks #add promo for these movies on top of that #idk i just find it funny how when one direction was running on the same schedule ithe boys were being exploited #but when it's harry alone he is //just// a workaholic lmao #anyway can't wait for more mental gymnastics when they officially announce the european tour happening next year

[lakemichigans]

we don’t talk enough about how dean had a daughter that sam killed in cold blood

#insane show....... actually insane show..... #the only reason that plot line wasn't overtly horrifying is because the baby aged up within like 3 days #imagine if it was literally just a baby #or if the baby was born years ago but dean only finds out when she's a kid - at the same time he finds out she's a supernatural creature #dean couldn't kill her as a teenager let alone as a kid or baby #IMAGINE the mental gymnastics sam would have to do in order to kill that kid #when his WHOLE THING is about showing mercy and giving everyone a chance and never killing without a reason #they've done that plot line so many times but when it came to DEAN'S ACTUAL LITERAL DAUGHTER they were like ehhhh... just kill her #IT MAKES ME FEEL FEVERISH I CAN'T BELIEVE THEY DID THAT

[yaz-the-spaz]

non ziams saying the you & i clip zayn posted was to shade liam after his comments on the podcast, as in, zayn is a better singer cause liam tried to do the high note lol

lol wow. that's truly wild

me trying to calculate all the hoops one has to jump through to somehow ignore all the other ziam af suspicious things about that video clip and still manage to jump to that conclusion:

meanwhile antis:

(anyways, i jest, but honestly i can't say i'm even all that surprised...if history has shown anything, especially in this fandom, it's that people will always do the utmost to explain away the gay lol)

#asks #anons #like...the mental gymnastics just never ends i guess lol #it's been how many months now since liam covered the song?? #and ppl truly think zayn posting in pride month wearing merch that's widely speculated to be associated with liam whilst singing what's #also widely thought of as a ziam anthem has anything to do with some random ass performance from forever ago #and not...idk all the current drama which includes liam's relationships ending under super supicious circumstances and zayn putting on L's #on all his merch designs lol #(and also designing everything in ziam colors and separating the blocks of the square design so that the 'payn' part stands alone lmao) #anyways i digress #hets are gonna het i guess

[im-traumatised]

It makes me a conflicting concoction of mad and resigned, that I sit here missing and crying over my family, yet they left me feeling unlovable and worthless.

#the isolating and mental gymnastics of the only people you can ever trust snd rely on is family #really did more of a number then ai thought #doesnt help the repeated attempts to prove them wrong simply prooved them right #sit here these days having never felt more unlovable and just made to be alone least I hurt other and hurt myself #AceofDragons #vent #actually traumatised

[vaugarde]

i need to make frost more of a freak right now

#ive decided she did know about the murder actually. why not. she deliberately disabled her own child why not just make her worse #im just trying to figure out her exact motives. cause before she was shitty but grounded (more like odin) #i still dont think she’d have stayed with flamberge. flamberge doesn’t want to be close to others while she yearns for companionship #im thinking that shes been kinda. bored maybe. not in a funny way but like she feels like her life has lost meaning #ooooo maybe i can make her a dark parallel to cheri… she unwillingly becomes a single explorer and loses everything #(and in marlows case outright throws him away and burns that bridge) #but she doesnt get any enjoyment out of her work anymore now that shes alone #plus gets no gratification or anything from it #and being with flamberge is like. something new and frightening in a way she never imagined life could be #she wants to be their accomplice now cause she feels like shes in power again and like her egos been healed #hell… potential future antagonist? maybe? dunno? #‘’we could be toxic yuri :)’’ ‘’ok well i dont want to be toxic yuri’’ ‘’this isnt about you.’’ #shes also selfish to a fault i think. like if she can throw someone under the bus to save her skin then she will. queen of mental gymnastics #echoed voice #starfall tag

[silouvertongues]

i fucking hate some of the people on this goddamn stupid fucking site

#bro like i dont usually care about the stupid shit yall fucking idiots get up to but im sickkkkk sick sick sick of it being in my notes #every time my posts go a lil out of just mutual circle i actually just wanna kill myself #why cant my posts about louis just be about louis i dont care about whatever the fuck shit you have to say im sick and tired ???? #they'll do mental fucking gymnastics to mention someone else on a post about louis literally please i dont need to see that in my notes #im soooo like ?? usually i dont care its like do whatever you want but recently its been so nerve-wracking bc its on every post about louis #pls pls pls leave me alone leave him alone god i dont wanna be rude to anyone ever but im so tired

[geth-consensus]

Alright. Finished the Fallout show. Very good show and very happy with what we got. But I above all I will be most happy with it so long as it forms its own continuity outside the games. I doubt that it will. But damn do I want it to.

#fallout #fallout show #spoilers after the following tag #okay? you gone? cool. spoilers ahead #people whining that it's not a retcon #learn to call a spade a spade #it's a retcon #shady sands being nuked in 2077 while expanding into the mojave in 2081? #yeah #sure #alright #that makes sense #no one mentions it #and the ncr government still seems fully intact and functioning #despite the fact their capital was nuked? #the mental gymnastics needed to not call it a retcon are insane #so #solution #let the show exist in its own timeline #and leave the games the fuck alone in their own timeline #cause it's very clear now that Bethesda can not write factions #or possess the skill to allow for proper world building of them

[officialplaid]

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#personal #just love thinking about u knowing ur thinking about her #but noooooo i never rlly loved u #honestly says so much about you youve never seen the love i had/have for u and u never will !!!!!! #ultimately for the best that u dont want me and want a girl who doesnt want you i deserve better and you need to leave women alone #stop hurting them #putting them through mental gymnastics #idk if u still be readin these but idc this is what my tumblr is for sometimes #to rant

[calciferfiredemon]

Yo honestly

#it’s so fucking pathetic how my brain rly thinks these things #bringing it back to venting in tags y’all #no self soothe just self sabotage #jk that’s why I’m here #trying really hard to not be crazy #cuz like why would your partner of 5 years who lives with you like suddenly not like you anymore #like I really think of every little thing and go thru so much mental gymnastics but not even I just be anxious #I just jump to the worst conclusions #it’s exhausting #even when I know it’s silly #like leave me alone #leave him alone bitch shut up!!!

[mhsdatgo]

By the way, you can say you hate characters and STILL admit that they were abused or harassed. There's literally nothing wrong. Denying it or romanticizing it because of a strange kink of yours won't make your hate any less evident, trust me.

Rhaenyra was abused. She's continuously taken advantage of, and brushed away the moment she isn't needed anymore. And she experiences this first hand with her own father, who completely ruins motherhood for her when she grows up watching Aemma get impregnated and either miscarry or have the baby be stillborn or die in the cradle. If Viserys had been by her side as a supporter to her claim since the start, he wouldn't have gotten Aemma pregnant again and again in the pursuit of a male child. He wouldn't have married Alicent for the same reason. Even after, the only reason why he still stands by her side, and it's time the fandom accepts this, it's solely because of his grief and guilt, because Rhae is the only remnant of Aemma.

And there it starts. Firstly, groomed and left alone naked and alone by her uncle in a brothel. Secondly, slept with Criston Cole (although she did coerce him, that's still a literal TEENAGER) then she's married to a gay man and still approached super young by her new bodyguard and just one year later she's started giving birth to his children. (Side note: FUCK Rhaenyra x Harwin. FUCK with reverb. With hard K.)

And up to this point, most fan agree that she's had a shitty life, although I don't agree with some of her choices. (like her treatment of Criston Cole and the bastards, not because I'm some kind of bigot, but because passing bastards as trueborn in THAT precise world sets them up for failure, not being legally deserving of a thone DOES NOT mean me hating them. That's for another post.)

To top it all off, she meets her uncle again, and there starts the fanfic self insert. They have sex on a beach the day of Laena's funeral, the only one of the three wives he's ever been canonically loyal to (FUCK you writers) and fans think it's soulmates meeting again or sum shit. They subtly threaten Laenor to fake his death or actually die (that's what they were trying to do, cope harder) and marry mere days after the death of Laena.

Yes, all cute and romantic (for Dumbnyras twats) but literally, has it done anything good? For Rhaenyra or like, anyone else? It just brought Daemon closer to the line of succession. Literally. That's all the good it has done.

Fast forward to ep 10. How do I even start with this? Only Jace seems to be on Rhaenyra's side. It's clear he only obeys to Daemon out of fear and is scared to talk back to him. Meanwhile, he COMPLETELY disregards his wife's, and by his faction's loyalties, QUEEN's, orders, he ignores her wails of pain as she miscarries their daughter out of pure shock and grief for her father's death. He lashes out and chokes her on the same day and people still see him as the malewife to Rhaenyra's girlboss. They're always ready to do award-deserving mental gymnastic to justify this man.

"He was planning war because he wanted to distract himself!!!!" "He only choked Rhae because he was mad at Viserys, he'd never hurt her!!!!!!"

Fuck off. Coming from probably Rhaenyra's #1 hater. Fuck. Off. Don't say you care about her place in the view of men when you're ready to justify shit like this.

This is the same man who runs off and has an affair with a teenager, and then prefers going on and having a badass death instead of joining his wife and children who need him in King's Landing.

Do I like Rhaenyra? No. Do I think that, because of this, she's never been abused, or exploited in any way, in her life? ALSO no. My distaste for her character has NOTHING to do with Viserys, Criston, Daemon, Harwin or literally ANYONE ELSE in her life.

Alicent Hightower time, baby.

My mother, my aunt, my grandmother, my entire bloodline, my Roman Empire. And more. To anyone who thinks of her as nothing but a bitter/jealous girl, go read @feretrumdulcia 's post about this matter cuz there's literally no one I've seen that words it better. (And bub if you're reading, long live you and the way you think.)

https://www.tumblr.com/feretrumdulcia/720746371814195200/i-have-seen-quite-often-that-many-people-consider

Anyone who can read this and argue that Alicent is envious/jealous or bitter, honestly needs to take the heart shaped sunglasses off, get off tumblr and Ao3, learn what media literacy is and start learning how to possess a crumble of it. To us it makes sense to synpathize with both, because we've seen the big picture. To Alicent, Rhaenyra gave her virtue to the man that almost killed her brother, and chose to believe she did not out of trust and maybe nostalgia for her friendship and easier times, only to have her father be blamed and taken away from her as a result.

She has four kids in the span of, how much? Five, six years? Seven at best? Helaena and Aemond are NINE MONTHS APART. Viserys didn't even let her rest after she gave birth to her daughter. And I'm convinced 100% that he kept her as Idk some whore he didn't need to pay for because it's stated that he never wanted Aegon but the son he butchered Aemma for. Why keep on bedding her and forcing children on her when you'd never get what you want from her?

Throughout the series she's called bitter and downright a c*nt for this and that reason. She tries convincing Viserys that Rhae's children are CLEARLY bastards and she's setting herself and them up for failure by committing treason and putting them on the throne? Nah, power hungry, jealous, bitter. She marries Helaena to Aegon as a last resort because she's Valyrian and probably would've received proposals worse than the ones Rhaenyra made that would eventually convince Viserys to give her away? Hates her daughter, abuser, shitty mom. Rhae's sons slit her son's eye out instead of running when they had the chance and she rightfully lashes out? Nah, crazy ass, for the dungeons. She gives money and moon tea to her son's rape victim to ensure she gets a way out and isn't forced to have a baby she doesn't want? Bruh, rape apologist. She goes to Aegon and RIGHTFULLY disciplines him? Abuser. Forced to show her feet to a rancid filthy man to know where her son is? Upholds the patriarchy, hypocrite. She convinces Aegon to start fighting for her family because it's either them or the Blacks and he needs to start putting his life together and fight for them, so she crowns him and makes him King? Treason, deserves death, long live the brothel queens.

Somehow, it is ALWAYS HER FAULT. And those few that admit how wronged she was make fun of her.

CAN SHE FUCKING WIN?! Or y'all just hate her because she isn't Valyrian?

Btw almost all of these arguments are the same for Book!Alicent who I personally believe to be FAR MORE than just a bitter stepmom that hates her stepdaughter. She arguably has more reasons to start a coup against her in the books without that prophecy shit.

TLDR; It's OKAY to hate characters and admit they're abused and taken advantage of at the same time. You don't have a moral high-ground on no one because you hate or love a character instead of the other.

#rhaenyra targaryen #alicent hightower #anti daemyra #anti daemon targaryen #anti daemyra stans #team green #team black #anti viserys i targaryen #anti larys strong

[aroyalpaininthecass]

Well. If people are default gonna treat me like an asshole, might as well play the part

#I'm sick of doing mental gymnastics trying to figure out whether I should be disappointed or not #if being completely alone is the only thing I can do to avoid people hurting me then so be it