#they look good together so... valid

[best-enemies]

I've reached season 5 on my CSI rewatch and I'm a few episodes past "Swap Meet", where a woman is murdered after attending a swing party with other couples from the neighbourhood. Near the end of the episode there's a moment that made me jump from my seat:

(Grissom walks up to Sara and takes the seat next to her. He's holding two cups. He hands her a cup of tea.)

[INT. POLICE DEPARTMENT - BRASS' OFFICE]

Erin Brady: Everybody fantasizes about other people. (She glances at Grissom.)

Even you, Mr. Grissom. A neighbor, a friend ... girl at the office.

[INT. POLICE DEPARTMENT - HALLWAY]

(The door opens. Paul Brady walks out of the hallway. Erin Brady walks out into the hallway. Sara is sitting in the hallway chair watching them. She watches as they meet and kiss.)

(Grissom walks up to Sara and takes the seat next to her. He's holding two culps. He hands her a cup of tea.)

LIKE!!!!!!!

Right after Erin ends her sentence with 'girl at the office', the first time Sara and Grissom meet again, he brings her tea. This might be an innocent interaction but to me it seemed like a nod to this relationship they have where both are into each other, know about the other's feelings, but can't/won't do anything about it (although Sara has kind of given Grissom an ultimatum). I don't know if it was intentional - I'm guessing it is, because I picked it up immediately. I might or might not have squealed in delight.

#csi #gsr #i'm very Normal about them btw i don't think about them 50 times per day or anything #need to talk more about these two here #because im obsessed about them in a Normal way #sara is like. my dream wife. i totally get grissom being in love with her for years and barely holding it together #i would not though #i'm 1000% sure she's bi. but the writers have been cowards so far #also she and i dress THE SAME. yes i love 2000s clothes so what #i could talk about her forever she's everything to me #and grissom. oh grissom. i also get why she's been in love with him forever #i mean what the FUCK went down in san francisco did they hook up and sex was so good it scared them #and now they have to live with that tension and they're scared of crossing that line #nah i'm guessing with these two they just REALLY clicked. like. they were an instant match and they knew it #but grissom didnt want to lose focus on work or whatever and they lived in separate states you know #but oh my god i totally get sara. grissom is such a silver fox. he's like one of the hottest old men i've ever seen in my life #you know what i 100% get tumblr sexualizing old men it's completely valid i'm in this now too #he has this LOOK. whenever he's angry at a suspect. and he looks angrily at them. i'm chewing on my keyboard just remembering it #and his smirks #AND THE WAY HE LOOKS AT SARA #im losing my mind #i love all of gil grissom but seasons 4-5 jesus fucking christ #ok enough with the sexualizing i love him as a character SO MUCH. he's absolutely fantastic #one of the things i love the most about him is that he doesn't judge people. whenever the team is confused about someone #or this persons' lifestyle #he's always trying to understand them and not judge them #like a true scientist he wants to understand the nature of things and people #and he's such a sweetheart i love him so much #like there are so many things i love about him i can't fit them all in the tags. same for sara #they're a perfect match for me

[mitchtheficus]

They’ve been my friends the way you were

#hangman page #aew #the young bucks #matt jackson #nick jackson #the dark order #mystuff #myyoungbucksgifs #mypagegifs #hung bucks #matt giving hangman that validation that he doesn't need anymore #he's not that guy anymore the guy who didn't think he was good enough to be in their group #look at him so steady and certain and happy with who he is #he's grown so much #how have the bucks changed in that same time? where is their happiness with who they are? where's their certainty #they want to go back to who they were when hangman was still in their lives #hanging onto the past bc their present is so not what they wanted for themselves #but hangman doesn't need to live in the past bc he built a present he can be proud of #and they can build a new friendship together (and i hope they do. i hope the next fewweeks and months have little friendship things between #these three) but there's no going back to how things were

[kaymarie-bell]

The Top 100 Yumejoshi Choice ranking for 2023 is so funny to me. What do you mean Rollo got in. What do you mean Fellow got the highest ranking out of all the TWST cast.

89. Malleus Draconia

76. Idia Shroud

57. Leona Kingscholar

50. Rollo Flamme

44. Trey Clover

41. Ace Trappola

39. Fellow Honest

the comments for some of the entries are unhinged in the best way, I recommend looking at the entire list

screenshots under the cut

SatoSugu got 2nd and 3rd. Look at these. I ain't reading all that. Good for them.

#twisted wonderland #twst #yume ranking 2023 #number 1 is a character from the Pokémon games who I think is a girl? good for them #love how the comments for Malleus are 'he threw a sleeping curse at us but I forgive him- we can eat ice cream together when it's over ❤️' #looking at Trey ranking in between some of the most unhinged people in TWST is so funny to me. He's Just A Guy (maybe) #to put things in perspective: only 1 enstars boy made it in (Rinne my beloved at 95) ergo FELLOW ranked higher than the entire enstars cast #people are so hornknee for Sir Crocodile (valid) #blue lock got a bunch of entries too- I blame the FIFA girlies for that #kay shouts into the void

[beencryingfor25years]

So this month I’ve jumped back into my willex chiropractor au (after not working on it for almost a year) and it just passed 20k words tonight!!

#that’s crazy! #this started as (yet another) thing that I thought about but wasn’t gonna write but like… look how it’s grown #and it’s feeling… good #like I know where it’s going mostly and what parts I want to write more about #but it definitely has taken on a life of its own #a whole lot less chiropractor and a whole lot more of willie and alex watching movies together? #which seems random but go off I guess #I need to give them more variety in their bonding actives but it’s not my fault willie is a movie buff he’s the one who is steering the ship #i am not in control of this fic I’m just a vessel #tbh thought I might try a mini nanowrimo this year but forgot after the first day #so now it’s just a write more when possible month which is also quite helpful #things are happening and it’s all coming together #though I also feel like I said that last year when I actually was doing nano but things went off the rails for valid life reasons #I��m just seeing what happens no pressure but I do actually want to post this at some point and share this world with people #jatp #julie and the phantoms #willex #fic writing

[accio-victuuri]

BOXIAO CINEMATIC UNIVERSE 🎬 | source

#bjyx #yizhan #AKA EVERYONE LOVES XIEYUN 🤣🤣🤣 #all yizhan au pairs are valid #i am lowkey obssessed with jxk x gw #their characters and them irl look so good together 😍😍😍

[senseiwu]

I feel like a lot of criticism of the good doctor comes from people who've never actually watched it

"My parents now think autistic people can't live by themselves". Well... I'm sorry to hear that, but Shaun does just fine on his own? A big part of season one is him not wanting a stranger to help him with things when his mentor/father figure tries finding him an aid or something. He only gets a roommate, his best friend and now wife, after she crashed at his place.

"He's such a jerk" he's... literally very sweet? The only person I can think of who he was purposefully rude to was his abusive jerk of a father, which... was deserved lmao

He usually tries to connect with his patients, and there are some very sweet moments.

#im not saying theres no valid criticisms #of course there are #i just feel like... some people say things about stuff without actually knowing about it? #i know a lot of people have issues with the show and with shaun and thats fair but #hes like. the character ive related to most ever in media #i started watching the show because apparently its one of the more medically accurate medical dramas #came out of it seeing myself in a character like never before #and such a great character too #i love him very much #ive never seen someone have. ? emotional outbursts like that #like ive had #where you breathe so hard you cant actually breathe #hit myself in the head #and when lea joins him in moving his hands and jumping around together when excited..... #i would die if someone did that with me rather than just giving me a weird look or laughing or calling me a bird #anyway. a lot of the criticism can be disproven if you actually watch the show #much like misako LMAOOOO #the good doctor #im so sad its goinh to end after s7 ;-;

[moskowins]

yeah,   yeah,   eli and demetri are cute,   but miguel and eli?   they own my heart now and forever.   out of all the bonds that eli could ever have and i want to see more on screen,   in order it goes:   eli/miguel,   eli/sam,   eli/robby,   and eli/tory.   i said what i said.

#out of character. ⁽ edie ⁾ #don't get me wrong #eli and dem are incredible and they had a beautiful friendship but the show refuses to acknowledge that dem genuinely never accepted #that eli was growing and changing and tried to pull the hawk persona from him without a care of why it had happened or what it meant to eli #he looked down on him for it and it's why hawk turned all the affection he had into active hatred #and eli was horrible to him and you don't just move past that and go back to how things were. eli and dem are so so different now #and they need to fix so much between them. they can and they will but it's also okay to not go back to how things were #they outgrew each other and that's okay. it's valid and it happens and they can still be close without going in circles #eli and miguel's friendship is so important to me because they grew together and miguel actually saw eli for who he was #miguel was the only one who could see his friend even when he took the rage and anger and need for control too far #he knew eli didn't stop being eli just because he was putting up this front and diving head first into it #also the fact that sam and eli have so much in common yet have always been on opposing ends and a balance to each other? makes me feral #i need more of them because i know they can be such a good team and it warmed my heart to see them root for each other #sam and eli are so passionate and have the capability of being so raw and real and their fighting styles are the most balanced tbh #they've been everywhere all at once and i need them to be a duo and fighting together because everything they hated each other for was a #doing of their trauma and their fears and everyone else tbh. sam and eli don't really know each other at all #and they have so much to unpack and see in each other because i do think that they have a lot in common and balance each other #eli and robby whew so much to unpack there too and i just need them to not gloss over what happened between them #and same with eli and tory because at some point they were all they had in ck when everything changed #and hawk was loyal to her and cared for her and he was displaced and it sent him deeper down #anyway justice for eli and actually seeing ties that matter without him just being shoved into an old friendship

[lisbonsteresa]

oh god

#(he really is being more open with her about his feelings and i love that so much like he really did listen and learn i'm PROUD) #the way this is obviously such a valid fear for anyone but it's especially valid for him considering everything he's gone through #but it's also crazy how he's voicing it now; after being in life or death situations so often; after nearly losing her SEVERAL times #as partners and even after they got together #it's like the full force of how much he loves her is only just hitting him; like the thought of 'taking the ring off' and 'moving on' #is making him think about the....bigger picture? about the long term; the future and how much he needs her to be part of it #he's suddenly looking into the future and all he can do is worry about what ifs #(because he's never been one to plan for his future really has he - it was get to the rj end goal and then -- #and now he's kind of been drifting; kind of unsure of what he wants to do - like floating the idea of quitting but not having an alt plan) #but she's right there reminding him to focus on the here and now and that's -- #she was there with him while he worked through his past and she's sure as hell planning on being there with him in their future #but she's not going to let him get lost in either direction because they need to live in the present and the present is very very good #idk i'm just obsessed with them #tm

[kazoologist]

I actually really fucking hate how anything in my schedule not going the way I initially Intended For It To just automatically makes me a massive fucking crybaby and or a raging bitch. Like dude. The grocery store does not hate me. It sucks that my schedule requires me to get there an hour earlier no matter what but like. They didn’t do that to me. Why am I always so upset whenever I have to change plans. I change plans too! I’m a living person!!! Why am I so fucking upset about this!!!!!!

#personal #im gonna delete this later I’m just venting #I’m also fine I’m just having a rough day and I can’t figure out why my emotions have been so fucking volatile. It’s so frustrating that #I can’t figure out how to get a handle on my emotions. I know I need to feel things but the problem is if I let myself feel them too much #Then I’m going to spiral or lash out at some random bystander and both of these make the initial feeling worse #I just can’t pull myself out of that quickly enough recently. It’s not an issue of ability bc I can. I just can’t do it. #wait that’s contradictory. I’ve been really struggling too recently. There we go. There’s accuracy. #Either way. Didn’t I spend all year in therapy last year trying to get this shit together? What the fuck. #Why is it the second I show a modicum of progress I immediately hit a single pebble on the road and get sent ass over teakettle #Progress isn’t linear but it also sure as hell isn’t meant to be a time loop. That I’m pretty sure of. #God everything’s just been so difficult this year. Shit that used to be almost instinctual to me now is a nightmare. #Maybe it’s growing pains and I guess that’s valid but how long do I have to have them #The good news is that thus far I have not snapped at anyone so at least right now we don’t have any casualties of my bad attitude #I feel so bad being so worried about that but like seriously no one needs me to be snapping at them. Even if I feel catharsis in the moment #We all feel bad immediately afterwards #It’s literally not even been a bad day today. I cannot emphasize how this has been the only problem today. Literally so much good happened #Ugh #dont look at me

[psy-ay-ay]

I open the naruto tag and see a really cute comic about someone colliding into naruto and him accidentally kissing sasuke, being very naruto and sasuke about it but then reaching out their hands again and kissing again. It's cute. I try to insert different characters into the design of the person colliding into naruto. it could be kiba or maybe that guy who collided into naruto the first time he accidentally kissed sasuke at the academy. i think maybe people in the comments have better ideas than me and open the notes. First one reads 'I did not cheat on my wife, someone collided into me and i accidentally kissed this man'. I remember why I am not in the great yaoi fandom of naruto.

#i think saddest part is i was so happy to see that victims of yaoi poll #and all of sakura's propaganda was about how sasuke is gay and she is a lesbian and why are people even threatened by her presence around #sasuke and shitting on her. and it's like that's just another facet of victims of yaoi!!! just saying she is a lesbian anyway is not the #'be normal about women' idea that you think it is #i'm so tired of this. this is why you only get fanart and 'funny lmao' posts on this blog now #naruto #naruto women i'm so sorry #why are you assuming that they are cheating on their wives or that they have wives if they like each other like ffs if you dont like #something in canon ending just fucking disregard it why twist it into disgusting things showcasing your misogyny #the idea that sasuke would marry sakura if he doesn't like her is SO BIZARRE to me. have you met sasuke? #do you really think he would do something out of pity or for social image or pressure or anything? you can NOT make sasuke do anything he #doesn't want to and it's not like they got married really early like right after the war? there was A LOT of time for BOTH of them to #consider their feelings for each other AND for other people #so i'm equally okay with sasuke doing his travels and arriving at the conclusion that he like sakura or naruto and wants to marry them #but what we would never do is marry someone and then cheat because he loves someone else #i personally don't even think that there's a possibility of sasuke and sakura getting married and realising much later that they dont like #each other as partners like they already have time to figure that out. i think it's canon they do spend a lot of time together travelling #and such before having sarada. oh i am not even going to talk about people saying sasuke is with sakura only because of sarada or something #the only other valid way of looking at it is that beautiful post about sakura sasuke and karin travelling together because that's just so #fucking good

[stinkrascal]

ts4 is really getting better at making townies, the moonwood mill townies are already so pretty without touching them up much at all!! im still gonna touch them up just so they can match my sim style but theyre not so like... egregiously ugly like some ea townies are. good job ea you did that :’)

#celene is my fav shes SOOOOO adorable shes gonna be friends with the strauds ive decided #also i think its really fun that rory canonically wants to beat vlads ass for no other reason than to assert her dominance LMAO #rest assured rory will beat vlads ass i promise #poor vlad everyone hates you in this pack ;( #i keep forgetting vlad is canonically EVIL!! he canonically wants to START SHIT!! bc my vlad has the family oriented trait instead #in my mind he isn't evil he's just a bit of a mansplainer which i mean that's still a very valid reason to hate him #either way rory has the right idea. she looks like she wouldn't take SHIT from a mansplainer and honestly good for her #rory also needs to be friends with the strauds..... maybe rory and gen can be besties and they can talk shit about vlad together HA #oh my god theres so many possibilities with these townies im so excited theyre all so cute i love this pack sm!! #also the world reminds me so much of where i grew up it gives very strong southern louisiana vibes i love it <3 #finally some representation for trailer park trash!! #i hate that the lots are so small but i know you can change lot sizes in s4s so i might do that #either way im really loving the new pack so far!! :))

[convxction]

"Ah, Chrom..." they had been staring. Fiddling with their book and changing their weight to one foot and back again, repeating the process for an uncomfortable amount of time. They wanted to say something. Should say something. But what do you say to someone who lost someone dear to them so suddenly? So violently? If only they were better at speaking, if only they were someone who's words weighed heavy, if only... But Akira's none of that. And so the grip on the book tightens and the pain in their chest grows stronger. It wasn't supposed to be like this. "If you need something..." they start, slowly to not choke up again. They'd cry alongside Riquet and Nero instead, not in front of the man who so kindly took them in. "I'll do anything. So...even though it's out of line for me to ask, please lean on me."

This was NOT supposed to happen. He knows that his sister walked on a dangerous path there were people who didn't like what she was calling for. Peace for everyone? They scoffed at her dreams. He saw how people treated her at first but she proved that she can follow her words ... why... . . . why can't they trust her till the end? why can't they let her make it happen? Why must they ... kill her?

She didn't deserve that end ...

All she wanted was their peace ...

Why . . . ? . . . . why . . . . ?

Why did she leave them so early? Ylisse still needs her! Lissa still needs her! H-he .... he still needs her. A life without her is unimaginable! She was the mother and father and the big sister to him; she was everything. To be robbed of life that easily is unbearable.

Even though he steeled his heart when they managed to come back to the castle after the Exalt's demise, Chrom was still fighting to grasp what had happened. Gangrel's plan worked even though they tried to stop him, Emmeryn .... Emmeryn died, the Ylisseans are in shock, and his army is still in disbelief ... Lissa .... Lissa is still crying.

What should he do? . . . Someone please wake him up from this nightmare. Please!!

Chrom had been zoning off, spacing into the far distance when Akira came to find him. He didn't have the heart to stay in the castle after what happened so he remained in The Shepherds HQ. There is .... There is no way he would come back home without seeing, even a fraction of her dream true. He will be damned if he will let her sacrifice go to waste. She didn't choose that end for him to be a coward and not do anything. Still . . .he is still hurt. This wound would never seem to heal even as time goes by.

The prince snapped out of his train of thought when he felt someone's presence around him. " . . . ? . . . Aki...ra?" Frederick had requested that Chrom would use this preparation time to rest for a bit. Anyone with good eyesight would see how tired and ...lifeless his eyes had become. Even his usual lighthearted smile had gone. There's nothing he could do about it when there is nothing but hatred brewing in his heart. He knows this is not what his sister wished for but ... WHAT ELSE IS HE SUPPOSED TO FEEL WHEN HIS FAMILY WAS KILLED RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM? HE IS A HUMAN, TOO DAMN IT! He ... He can't be ... He can't be like her .... He's not good at controlling his emotions like her ....sobs ... damn it ... damn it!

He .. misses her.

And he is tired . . .

Usually, he would ask if something is wrong but today he has no ... well, how to say it ... he is not ... conscious of the world around him.

To be honest, Akira's hesitation somewhat irritated him. What does he want? If he has something to say just say it already! A frown knitted his eyebrows but thankfully, he managed to quel his, unreasonable, anger and wait for the other to speak up.

Damn it ...! he is getting angry for petty reasons, too? ... Perhaps he is not fit for her ideals if he can't get himself together now? How ...stupid. Stupid ... Stupid!

Pressing a hand against his face, he took a deep breath and then looked back at the young man. An eyebrow raised at what Akira had said initially, "some ...thing?" if he need something? How about someone tells him this is all but a bad dream and he will wake up soon? ....as if. He can't be cruel to the guy who came to ... cheer him up. Akira is a good guy. He knows that it's just... the timing could not be more unfavorable for him.

Calm down ... He's trying his best, too. Can't you see his willed-up eyes? Ah..right. Everyone has ...lost her, too, right? He remembers Akira mentioning that Riquet only came back because of Emmeryn so did Akira and Nero with him. They are ... mourning, too. Everyone lost Emmeryn.. not just him.

Heh... she was everyone's big sister, wasn't she? How much he hated sharing her but you can't contain a light like that to yourself, can you? She was ... she....damn it.....damn it.....

"I'll do anything. So...even though it's out of line for me to ask, please lean on me."

To these words, Chrom was stunned for a moment. His face was paralyzed with confusion and shock before he lowers it to grit his teeth in the hope he stops his quivering lips.

He's an idiot, isn't he?

Ylisse might regret having him as the next in line of succession but damn it... He will not give up! for people like Akira in his life!! How else is he supposed to repay them back for standing with him all this way?

"Aaah!!! Damn it!!!" his hands run down his face to wipe away the tears and tiredness out of his face. He took another deep breath before looking back at Akira. Hopefully, he has not scared him away with that mood swing haha ....ahem.

There is it ... the smile he missed for a while now. "Thank you ..." his voice though cracked a little bit. Oh, come on! It is not time to cry! "A-ahem, um .. Thank.. you. Thank you, Akira. I ... I don't know what I want now but ... I'll come to you if I needed it ... promise." there was a single teardrop escaping his right eye and before the dam lets loose he turns around. "I better .. check on everyone's preparations..."

"Akira... can you check on Riquet for me? I hope he's...doing well."

unprompted | always accepting | @flovverworks

#ic.|| #flovverworks #[gOODBYE CRUEL WORLD... #[akira does something my hands TIME TO WRITEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE #[FFFFF!!!!! AKIRA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY ARE SO...........WHOLESOME WAAA #[CHROM WAS : I SHOULD GIVE HIM A HUG TOO BUT..... #[GIVE EACH OTHER HUG AND U CAN GUYS CRY TOGETHER ITS OK CRYING IS VALID THING TO DO #[FEELINGS WAAAAAA #[akira came at the wrong time to be a good guy chroms just for te love of...i will yell ...looks at akira again ...nnghh cant yell..... #[the POOR GUY IS DOING HIS BEST THERE WAAAA!!!!!! #[go drink tea in nero's place ... #[also chrom....check on riquet ...he might be not feeling good too #[iT SLOWLY HITS HIM THAT EVERYONE LOST EMMERYN AND NOT JUST HIM AND LISSA #[EVERYONE LOVED HER AS MUCH AS HE DID .... #[SOBS.... SHE IS NO LONGER HIS ONLY SISTER SHE IS EVERYONES SISTER WAAAA #[akira got the power to turn mean chrom to ok chrom thanks #[i was dreading what he will do but thank god he didnt do something mean to akira ;;u;; #[perhaps...if this was right after ...maybe sobs...kiraaaaaa #[god ...wars .....hold my hand... #[sobs #[i want them to be happy afterwards sobs...just go eat something yummy in nero's place damn it go go #[thank you for sending asks to juice up my writing sobs..you're the best fam ;u;

[firebirdsdaughter]

I’m really glad…

… That NUMB3RS noticed (I presume—guessing it’s also why they added Colby to the main cast) what a draw David and Colby were and so fleshed them out even more and gave them an arc that spanned seasons and all that.

Like 3x04?? The juxtaposition of David’s steady concern, even defending Colby covering for Dwayne to Don, w/ Dwayne using his rescue of Colby during their army days to pressure him into covering for him and acting sketchy af. It’s fucking perfect. I love these two so much.

#NUMB3RS #it's like a study in toxic friends and stable friends #Dwayne is clearly a creep the INSTANT he breaks out the 'you would be dead w/out me' card #meanwhile David notices how uncomfortable Colby is and asks if he's okay rather than trying to leverage him into talking #and then defends him to Don when they find out he's been covering for Dwayne insisting he must have a reason #while Don's valid to be angry (Don deserved a lot more than he sometimes got in this show) #like no wonder Colby effectively choose David and the rest of the team over Dwayne that guys a douche #like yeah he saves Colby's life twice that's great glad he did that #but that was literally his only contribution to society #and sure it may not exactly look like Colby 'choose' them bc he then had to lie to them for a year(s?) #but he choose them by not choosing Dwayne basically #the very fact that he instead went triple agent meant he cared more about his new team/their mission in a way #like what might Colby have chosen if David and the team hadn't been in his life? #maybe the same bc he's a good guy but he's also emotional and impulsive and doesn't critically think #and that's why he and David work so well together #I don't wanna go off in the tags but just #the instant Dwayne was like 'you'd be dead if it weren't for me' I didn't trust a word he said #but David doesn't bring up anything (it's Colby who does) and focuses on how Colby's acting strange #and in the end yeah he shoots the torturer but ultimately Dwayne's more selfish and self involved #like the sheer nerve of this asshole #he acts like Colby betrayed HIM and should have just gone along w/ him #like literally did 3x04 just exist to show us how much of a fucking KING David is compared to Dwayne #Things You Didn't Know Fire Was Into

[msdk-00]

this is my problem. thank you 40 year old reddit man for putting into words my feelings better than i ever could

#a wonderful place when it doesn't bring The Misogynistic Horrors #i truly cannot tell what i'm supposed to supposed to not do #besides like very obvious things of course like yes listen yes show affection to friends but #when u get into specifics i'm completely lost so i'm always looking to others for validation #and looking to them to observe what they do and mimicking it #like for example and i realize this sounds insane but #working my second most recent job i realized from my coworker that the reason ppl can naturally talk so much is because #they bring up unimportant things even when ur not friends or family. and they bring up the same thing multiple times in the same convex #convo* #it's just about filling space and connecting through i guess collaborating on a discussion as a kind of tennis game with words #the ball goes back and forth it's not creating anything new but it's the act of hitting it back and forth together that is valuable #idk if that's a good metaphor but anyways that's one example #so anyways i don't ever trust myself because even basic stuff like that doesn't come naturally to me #i observe it and learn it like learning a foreign language #maybe everyone else does that too but it feels like they do it at much younger age usually. #self

[astrxealis]

it's pretty hard to find more like minded people who like ffxiv esp as a minor & in ph ;; but i know quite a few! not any in my country bcs :") but my twin & my 2 irls i got into it <3 so like. idk but maybe i cld make a discord q-q ( oh gods warning for tags. very long ,,, )

#⋯ ꒰ა starry thoughts ໒꒱ *·˚ #there's a few reasons as to why i'm hesitant to do so though ...... #and i don't even like talking /too/ much with others. so that's that too dohfidhskdjs #but i literaly know two people on twitter 17-19 and my twin who doesn't rlly count bcs we do everything together and two close friends T__T #and it's hard for some friends i know who are interested bcs either they don't have a device/console or they need space !! or too slow >_< #or. i'm not close enough w then orr we're not of the same mind yeah ?? like. my former fc mates in twin b4 i moved to oce ^^; #i tried looking thru a website and saw 1 that'd be cool but just for adults. valid T___T #& i saw another !! from twintania even :O but idk regardless TwT #man it rlly is difficult as a minor & shy & kinda socially anxious & philippines eee #BUT I DID SEE 2 Y'SHTOLAS AT THE CON. i will never forget that. no pic but i'm so happy #it's kinda hard to rely on my people in the country to get into xiv (as a minor) bcs y'all just play uhm. free games WHEEZE #💀💀💀 many other reasons that i'm iffy about but i don't want to come off that way bcs i'm not that Yeah. also wtvr ig <//3 #UGHFHFJEHFJ SORRY FOR. TALKING ABT THIS. uh. i've been a bit less subtle abt it bcs it's been almost 2 years since i've played and it still #feels rather lonely ;; yeah ;;; idk it's honestly been eating me up from the inside for so long esp w not being in an fc yet in ravana >< #wahhh so yeah T___T ig the best thing wld be for my irls to play more xiv or hang more w my friends who ik r in xiv but for various reasons #that isn't. easy either :( aaaaaaaaaaaa #like. idk man but my experience in ffxiv is just. really yeah #nothing has captured me just as much as this esp bcs my interests tend to fluctuate but this has stayed w me for so long #even w the fact i played it the whole summer in '20 and i'm endgame alrdy ?? and the fact i think abt it everyday and don't even get tired #the story is INCREDIBLY good. none of what i've played can compare. not even other final fantasies. esp when it comes to shb bcs i barely #can think of criticism about it ;;; the other expansions are all beautiful (yes. all) even w their imperfections and flaws? for me it adds #to my appreciation but i like to be critical abt it regardless and all !! tbh maybe it's also just me actually being a fan of mmos but #ffxiv rlly is an rpg first and an mmo 2nd >< and the most final fantasy at it's core honestly !! and the music is incredibly top tier :O #idk man but p5 and fe3h and gbf and octopath and other games i've played ;; what makes the story good is all in xiv imo ?? #altho it's kind of a cheat bcs it's an mmo WHEEZE but it rlly does feel like an rpg first and this is from someone who honestly mostly #played rpgs b4 xiv >< i cld go on and on but lehfoebfisj i do that too much and i'm rambling so much na ere aaaaaa #idk but. yeah. idk. when i think abt what makes 3H and p5 and gbf good and others. it's just also in xiv #i hope i don't come off as close minded and ignorant though T___T this is just me rn being yeah over my greatest passion !! #oh gods i accidentally deleted a tag up there and reached 30 tags GOODBYE i talk (text) so much oml

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This is meant to be informational, all of this is /info

I'm not sure if you know this but hyper-empathic people with autism aren't ableist for not liking people with narcissistic personality disorder. Yet, a lot of people who do have that type of autism (which is rare yet more common in the biologically female genome side of it), can spot people with narcissistic personality disorder very easily. This is because of common phrases which in turn make them feel unsafe. This may impact the autistic person negatively, and MAY cause long-term PTSD (C-PTSD for Complex PTSD), but that does NOT make the person with NPD an abuser. Its common for those with hyper-empathy to feel unsafe around people with NPD because they are two polar opposites of intentions on the spectrum and often get mistaken for each other by strangers. Like its common for you to immediately tell if someone is homophobic or not, its also common for people with NPD and people with HE autism to recognize each other even if those without it can't tell them apart easily. Its a common fear response and nothing more. The best thing you can do if someone seems to think that Narcissistic abuse is real and has HE autism is to tell them to talk or see a therapist, or at the very least to look up information online from credible sources. (Of course, its also good to deliver this gently as they will be defensive.) TLDR; HE autism and NPD recognize each other and don't get along well but that doesn't make it abuse or ableism. /info

This is ! a lot of great info that... does not contradict any of what I have ever said, so I'm not sure why you felt like you needed to say it (or even less why you felt like you needed to put big ol' info tone tags all around it as if it was going to be offensive)

(Guessing you're referring to that post where I said "narcissistic abuse isn't a thing and not every single person with autism is hyper-empathic")

It does sound, uh, strange to me that someone just existing would cause PTSD in another person, but I've never claimed to be an expert. Also seeing the points you're making I do think ASPD could be grouped with NPD in this as well (yknow, because of the low empathy and all) — but when I say "narcissistic abuse" doesn't exist I'm strictly talking about the term. Of course people with NPD can be abusers. People with ASD can also be abusers, but we don't call that "autistic abuse" because it'd be stupid.

I get the point with the fact that they can recognize each other more easily, but uh, no, I can't identify whether someone's homophobic or not without asking them. People have been wrong. Like, it happens a lot. You can't... say that it's a reliable way to identify someone with NPD/HE autism. Literally yesterday I had a friend at my house who has HE autism and we ended up talking about this exact topic because they called themselves a "victim of narcissistic abuse" and I nearly had a fucking stroke. When I told them I had low empathy, which happened years ago to be fair, they were surprised.

I'm very easily triggered by what you call "common NPD phrases" (if I understood that right, and if did then I'm assuming you mean something that sounds manipulative, which.... moving on) to the point that it's something I have to discuss with pretty much everyone I know because it always comes up at some point and I get triggered by something completely innocent. It's a really big problem for me. But I am far from being uncomfortable around people with NPD (or people who just have low empathy for that matter), usually because they tend to be very honest with me the moment I open up about having low empathy (usually in a "oh thank God I don't have to keep masking around you" way). I tend to feel more unsafe around hyper-empathic people, not because of "common phrases" or anything, but because I've heard them say so much shit about people like me that it's become automatic to feel wary of them (see: my best IRL friend telling me they're a "victim of narcissistic abuse" after I've already opened up to them about my own empathy issues; trying to listen to a podcast my friend is in and getting hit with a "yeah I'm a decent human being, I've got fucking empathy"; trying to explain to someone that people with ASPD aren't all serial killers and being met with "some things deserve to be demonized ❤"; etc etc.).

For these reasons I do not believe that HE autistic people feeling unsafe around people with low empathy or NPD isn't at least partially for ableist reasons, whether conscious or not. Feel free to prove me wrong, it'd be great.

#sunny #tw ableism #(for the mention. i dont think any of xhat you said was ableist in nature) #this is sad because it's generally something i like to talk about. im glad you were at least coming to me in good faith though #had an... experience a while ago talking to someone who explained that 'no no psychopathy in cognitive science is totally different- #-from the outdated term for aspd and its not linked to aspd at all! its a completely different thing!' #only for me to look it up and go on a .gov website and the first review of several studies that i see had a big intoductory disclamer #basically saying 'umm we're not sure because according to our MRIs what we have identified as psychopathy in the brain would- #-be more common than not having it with like over half of our evaluated population... but it could just be high IQ we didnt check :)' #im kind of losing faith in people who dont have low empathy just because they want 'psychopathy' to eb a thing so bad #i'd already lost faith in the field of psychiatry but. they want to separate good and bad people so bad. they want low empathy to be bad. #again im no expert but if you start your paper with 'we did this with only MRIs and the MRIs didnt have the results we want them to- #-so we're choosing to ignore it and pretend we're right anyway in this vague idea of a thing existing'... i'm not gonna believe you #just way you think people with low empathy are ~different~ and ~bad people~ but dont try to make a science paper out of it #im tired of people pretending the concept of bad people even exists and choosing that it's low/no empathy people actually. #--i do want to say that its completely valid to just feel uncomfortable around certain people for any reason at all #like we dont /have/ to all likr each other. thats not how humans work socially. some people just dont go very well together #but you cant convince me that saying ''i dont like people with this mental disorder because they make me feel unsafe'' isn't ableist at all #ask #anon