#yes this applies to gender too

[literallyaflame]

how do conservatives think talking to children works? if a four year old came up to me and said “i’m a cat!!” i would say “really? what makes you a cat?” and they’d say some shit like “i have claws >:)” and i’d be like “oh wow, you do have claws. but wait, i thought cats had pointed ears!” and they’d say “they DO!!!” and then i’d pull up a picture of an elf and ask “is THIS a cat?” and they’d yell “NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO”

u wouldn’t say “fucking hell, Emily, get it together. this is the real world”

#yes this applies to gender too #if a kid says ‘i’m a girl!!’ it might be because they’re a girl or #it might be because they’ve got an incomplete picture of what a ‘girl’ is in their brains #and as a parent ur job is to help them complete those pictures #by asking them questions and giving them new information and playing w them

[allthoseotherworlds]

Genuinely really loving the tendency of official Doctor Who stuff to now refer to the Doctor in general with they/them pronouns

#Doctor Who #New Who #The Doctor #I am talking #I feel like the Doctor in the show just lets people assume whatever pronouns and gender #because people are going to make assumptions and whatever anyways #and going along with people's weird assumptions until there's a reason not to is generally the Doctor's MO #see: anytime someone is like 'are you here for XYZ reason?' and the Doctor's just like 'yes absolutely' #but I feel like if the Doctor had a reason to care about the nuances of human gender conventions in the 21st century #they would like they/them pronouns #also I think it's neat that Time Lords who do have an actual experience of gender #like the master #seem to use whatever pronoun applied at the time in question when speaking in past tense in English #rather than the human convention of using the current pronoun even when speaking retroactively #it's just an interesting distinction #and then that makes me think about translation stuff and how concepts about gender may not even apply in Gallifreyan #but this is getting too long for me just rambling in the tags

[punkeropercyjackson]

'[Insert feminine term/behavior/fashion/etc here] transcends gender!!!'Well,maybe i wanna be a girl anyway.How about that.Bitch

#genuinely this is one of the most annoying mentalities ever when applied to strangers💀it's always fem stuff too never masc stuff #i'm not a trans woman but i am a biracial black one who was raised by the white side of their family and had ONE girl black friend as a kid #and i'm autistic too so you imagine how deprived of appropriate femininity for someone like me i was and yes i was a big tomboy back then #but now i'm super femme and it brings me so much healing and comfort and fun and even-you guessed it-gender euphoria!!! #which is why i id as transmascfem instead of just transmasc because my womanhood is instrictly tied to literally every part of me #i fucking like that being femme means i'm a girl!!!i'm also a man but i refused to crack for so long because i thought i had to give that up #i got this shoved onto me directly for the first time on a fic about a transfem egg hc too you 'transan///drophobia' bitches are sick #misogyny cw #transmisogyny #transmasc #transmasculine #trans men #demigirl #bigender #genderfluid #femme #femmegender #xenogender #catgender #dragongender #ghostgender #softgirlgender #momgender #autigender #plantgender #transmascfem #trans women #herogender #💌 #summerposting

[man-squared]

People really don't know what transunity is or don't believe that even if you don't like certain people for whatever reason, they still should be afforded the same rights and protections as you.

Transfemmes that do wrong (I personally know one who gets me mad everytime irl because she abused my partner and me) still deserve transunity and the right to live in a world free from transphobia (yes, all legs of transphobia, too).

Transmascs that do wrong (I've mostly experienced them online) still deserve the right to live in a world without transphobia and deserve transunity.

Transneutral and all other trans people deserve the right to live in a world where there is transunity and no transphobia.

Hell, even cis and gender nonconforming (whether cis or trans or whatever) deserve transunity and to not live in a transphobic world.

If you want the world to be a better place, for the trans community to be better, then get over putting your personal shit onto whole demographics.

Why are you so for hurting that person who did you wrong that you'll gladly hurt yourself in the process? And not only yourself, but really all people?

#trans #transunity #lateral aggression #transphobia #gender nonconforming #long #man² #bigotry #yes this wholeheartedly applies to queer ppl too and i bet it applies to other marginalized ppl as well #its rlly shitty that ppl who want restorative justice or justice not solely based on imprisonment and punishment do this shit yk?

[rxttenfish]

tbh tho this is EXACTLY what merfolk relationships look like

and they just keep track of this. in their heads. all the time.

#all the care guide says is 'biomass' #they dont have gendered pronouns but they do have tone modifiers for every other fucking word depending on their relationship to the other #and their mood. and if theyre referring to multiple people at once or just one person. and often layered on top of each other too. #merfolk have poor vision but they DO inherently think of things in a more ''three dimensional'' way than we do #considering they live underwater and youre operating with another axis just to move around anywhere #which then gets applied to the rest of their everything #ESPECIALLY language because theyre nerds who went hard into the sound focus #their visual art in comparison has simpler elements than ours (but a lot more focus on light/movement) #this is why merfolk have some very unique spellcrafts and theyre notorious for complicated and detailed spellwork #like yes a part of it is the fact that theyre older than the other species and have had more time to work on it #but also they can just DO really unique things compared to other cultures because they emphasize layered detail in this way #this is also why - from the outside - so much of miranda's job looks like parties and balls and attending to the courts #because again. its all about the emphasis on who has what relationship with who and how to operate within that. #legal agreements are multilayered and come with terms and conditions a mile long and you need to have a very careful hand on the pulse #of all of this #even moreso because royal families go even harder with treating the lineage as the individual and the merfolk #as just limbs and organs of this equation #this is why it was so important that miranda be good at manipulation and speaking and just *charismatic* #literally making people do what she wants or needs them to do is just what makes the merkingdom GO and operate #and why she (and the other royals) occupy a space a little like a public performer does as well #and why royals showing personal favor and having close personal relationships is frowned upon as #mixing pleasure and business #since those relationships ARE their business and so much of the underlying politics #if youre showing undue favor to someone because you personally just like them then you aren't judging them based off of actual talent #merfolk complicated! merkingdom complicated! #(the merkingdom is also SUPER fucked up but thats tangential from this tangent)

[saltycharacters]

Being multigender really is just struggling to not let people pick one of your genders over another yknow

#like i gotta prove that im a man with all my might because nobody irl thinks im one #but if i insist too much then they forget im also a woman #and being both a gnc woman and gender conforming man makes it really difficult #because one theres always gonna be things about me people will consider inherently feminine no matter what #my figure. my voice. etc #so at best theyll consider me andorgynous or a feminine man whos also a woman #its complicated. i dont get much dysphoria but most of what i do get is social #and just. frustration that so few people will actually see me the way i want to be seen #like im nonbinary yes but i dont go by they/them and both binary genders equally apply to me #yes im a man and yes im a woman no i dont fluctuate between them im both 100% of the time #yes i consider myself masculine and no i do not relate to femininity #no i dont want to quote on quote try harder to be masculine. i just am i like how i look and i feel masculine and thats good enough #i have adhd and doing the bare minimum to manage my health each day is hard enough #do i look like i want to do anything else #idk why i went on a ramble but anyway. wish i could magically make people see me and my gender the way i want to be seen

[gn0thiseauton]

What's freakiest to me about bi/pan discourse is you won't find it anywhere else but online where a bunch of teenagers feel really called out if you're not the Model Gay and slurs are evil and send you to hell immediately. I bought my pan flag this year at pride which was very much organized by queer ppl and trans ppl, because outside of the scope of the internet, in the real world where you can touch real people (if they want it) and they can touch you back (should you want it) this is not an issue. Every queer group I'd hang out understood the nuance of language and sexuality and how it's ever evolving, growing with the number of people that understand themselves better and not every label applies to all.

But no I have to go on a blocking and unfollowing spree approximately every three months because I'm surrounded by people who hold grudges against their own without ever stopping to question why or why that's wrong.

#I'm angry tbh this pissed me right off in the morning #Might delete later might not I'm tired of always staying silent when something is affecting me or spreading bullshit #Especially hurt to see my moots reblogging it too #Maybe talk to people instead of jumping to conclusions? #I'm not pan because I'm in the hearts not parts brigade that shit was thought of by someone without a prefrontal cortex #I'm pan because there is a type of people Im attracted to (goofy ass goobers apparently) and that type doesn't apply to gender! Weehooo #There we go! It's not I'm attracted to people regardless of gender which is yes bisexuality #Its a niche that has flavors of demi and bi and many other stuff #So tired of having to defend myself in front of my own goddamn community

[an-aura-about-you]

we know I'm turning into an old grump who needs to go to bed early because I'm getting pissed off at petty shit.

#fandom policing on my dash wheeee get blocked person I technically agree with but can't leave well enough alone #it's always hilarious seeing some of this policing because they're clearly picking and choosing instead of looking at the whole of canon #and I'm in a pedantic mood about android vs. gynoid #android means shaped like a man #gynoid means shaped like a woman #yes I know android has become like 'default robot term' but if they're not man shaped they're technically not an android #yes this term applies to humans too humans can be android or gynoid and yes this is separate from gender #take it from your friendly neighborhood gendervoid gynoid #a lot of my mood about my gender is said in the tone of this one Homestar Runner cartoon like #'yeahhhh SHAPED like a woman' #and whether I am one or not depends entirely on arbitrary shit that I can't control and have no desire to

[unluckyxse7en]

hmmngh. gender

#been tentatively exploring it. #thinking maybe about testing how agender feels bc it's like. yes i want various 'gendered' traits #no i don't want them associated w that gender #and i remember consistently as a kid not wanting any defining physical traits one way or another #and it's like. ugh not a great example but like how C/LAMP will have 'nonhuman' charas (see Wish) that arguably present a certain way #but at the end of the day they Still aren't Actually a gender one way or another? #it might be closest related to that #love the idea of being a pretty boy without being a boy type of feeling #idk. I do kinda wanna explore the idea of presenting more masculine except my own sense of style and ideal is too 'feminine' and like #yes boys can be or look feminine etc and Maybe it's more that I don't want to give people an excuse to misgender me idk #but idk that it feels right to fully identify as a boy either #god idk gender is complex #and then my home environment is wretched for me actually trying to explore this in any capacity #i feel like i identify closest w anime prettyboy tho which i do definitely define as Separate from actually Being male #like my brain definitely considers them differently so i feel like categorizing anime prettyboy as more androgynous/neutral is closer to how #my brain chooses to categorize it. #i suppose i fuss too much over labels but I kinda miss pride icons and feeling like I'm just. able to use a flag without feeling like #I'm lying or misusing one or smth. i hate seeing flags on my dash and being like 'cool but im not that so this isn't for me :///' but like #@ Everything #seeing Anything lgbtq+ related makes my brain go 'this isn't you so don't think it applies' and that's just an oppressive mindset. #I Know it's transphobia or denial or smth of a sort and not me being cis at the end of the day. I just don't know how to work around it #like. I'm More than just Ace. I Know I am. @ my brain please let me have a solid sense of identity ty #blablablah

[dirt-str1der]

Sagawa is unfuckable in my head but in my heart he and nishitani had something embarrassing going on

#Listen to my problems #actually i transsexualise characters in yakuza based on one simple rule: if majima wants to hit then its a 65% that the guy is trans (if he #DESPERATELY wants to hit then its a 100% chance the guy is trans) the percentage rule doesnt apply to girls because majima doesnt believe #in unattractive girls (and shes right) #i will never date an ugly girl. why ? because ugly girls dont exist #let me get to the heart of my post anyway . i was randomly assigning cooler genders to yaluza characters when i actually looked at my list #and was like ... this ... this is !!!! majimas fuckit list !!! and theres already two dead guys on it. too ass #ill make it clearer actually sagawa being majimas handler does act a bit possessive and intimate towards him but he holds zero desire in his #heart for the poor boy even if he had to handfeed him for a while and it was super sad but majima on the other hand absolutely cannot #control where his dick compass swings and starts lusting after the guy more than twice his age plus he just got ‘rescued’ by sagawa <- its #just a simple passing of the leash from shimano to sagawa though and majima Knows this logically that hes completely forgotten how to act li #ke a human being and this is really dumb and he really shouldnt but hes extremely susceptible to his wild imagination and nightmares combo w #here hes trapped in a maze of his own libidio and trauma and against his will sagawa gets his sex engine roaring even though he hates the gu #y and thinks he sucks and it Really doesnt help that sagawa knows and lets majima know hes politely pretending hes not getting hard #stop reading btw im going to start talking about my creature of the night au wh actully no im not actually yes i am #but since majima goes wolfmode every full moon and he though his memories are foggy he can still Remember. and sagawa fucking loves animals #and a wolf is no different he really has a soft spot for wolfjima and spoils him a bit and majima gets trained against his will and itswired #deep enough to bleed over into his subconscious even when hes human and can remember that he hates sagawa but its hard to actually... hurt #him especially since in this au majima fucking bit him and sagawa let it slide. like he nearly got his arm torn off and had to wear a cast #for months and he never once blamed majima for it (soft spot strikes again) despite everything and despite how awful he is majima kind of #realises that sagawa (in his own way) is acting with majimas ‘best interests’ in mind <- extremely subjective statement #the thing is that he really respects him for that and trusts him not to pull the trigger on him when he doesnt ‘deserve’ it

[sheerioswifties]

okay but so the Johnny Depp/AH case is actually really important as far as making the huge point that YES, men can be victims of domestic violence too; but it's rarely reported let alone gets to the day in court phase because of the gender politics/stereotypes society still holds to that it's always only men abusing women... the things implied and actual logic when you think about that too I just- I'm gonna be writing on this

#yes it applies heavily in my case with Bill and Jeanette #my husband was abused constantly by Jeanette his mother #like physical abuse even in the workplace like #and bill i witnessed several times trying to get him to fight him etc #but my husband never pursued it bc nobody believes a man could be abused by his grown mother but it's the truth like #ugh i just. and she played the gender politics hard with this one i- #yeah this there's so so much #anyways #back to my cave #also seriously though #gone girl #and like how- how many more examples do we need to show that there are female narcissists sociopaths psychopaths too #i mean yes it's much more common the other way around but still like. #and dude again #fuck amber heard and fuck Jeanette and fuck ANY woman who lies /falsely claims abuse etc bc that's what makes it SO MUCH HARDER FOR THOSE OF #US WHO REALLY WENT THRU IT #DON'T LIE ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE #tw domestic violence #tw abuse

[hiriaeth]

Hate how dating for the most part is just behaving until you can convince someone to move in with you

#this is legit most ppls strategy here and it’s so aggravating #when they say it isn’t going anywhere it means I thought you’d move in with me for the bills and convenience #and yes this applies to all genders orientation I can’t date for survival #im comfortable and financially stable but I also have my responsibilities and I don’t want to fully take on another household #bcse ppl here are ao dysfunctional we all know I’ll be running that too #sigh

[drchucktingle]

What flavor of queer are you, if that's not too invasive of a question?

question is just fine with chuck it is kind of interesting story.

on LGBTQIA trot i am TECHNICALLY two letters

easy first one is B that does not need any more explanation. that has always been my trot

second way is what i have learned through talkin with my online buds way of non-dysphoric trans. it has taken chuck LONG time to understand this but it has been fruitful journey i think. long ago chuck would post online about becoming other people or things or concepts or wrestling with my IDENTITY as a buckaroo (whether that meant becoming sweet barbara or becoming my reverse twin or becoming the entire seahawks footballs team, very handsome). in fitting with my entire heckin LIFE some buds probably thought these were jokes when they were not at all. they were just personal artistic bubbles tumbling up and popping in ways i didnt understand yet.

but through posting these thoughts and THEN writing trans tinglers and talking to my trans buds online, i started to realize there are all kinds of versions of a trans identity INCLUDING the ones that rolled around deep inside of me that i never had a name for.

three events helped chuck understand this

first: the trans buds chuck talked to while researching harriet porber said 'well i always knew if i could press a button and change my body to match my gender i would instantly do this' and chuck thought 'of course woudlnt we all do this?' and they said 'well no, do you feel this way?' and i would say 'yes very strongly'. i will FOREVER be grateful to trans community for these conversations and maybe it is another reason why being anti-gatekeeping is so important to chuck.

second: thought about all the games i have ever played like a dang videogame or a role playing game, chuck would ALWAYS choose ladybuck character. didnt really think this was a unique thing at time but it is a pattern across whole life

third: chuck was trotting around with some buds and they all said 'whose bod would you choose if you could transform into any body?' (this is common topic for chuck believe it or not.) and the buckaroo guys went around naming the usual brats pitt or handsome channing and it got to chuck and i said 'obviously brie larson' and then the dang guys just kind of stared at chuck and then i realized 'oh, i didnt even think my answer was unusual but i guess they were only talkin guy bods'

these three things happened pretty close to one another but they were all bubbling up for decades and expressed in various ways even chuck did not entirely understand

anyway. chucks way is NOT that i feel uncomfortable in my body and it does not bring me grief. i am not upset about it honestly. i do not even THINK about it most days. however, it is all TRUE and in a purely technical and utilitarian sense of A PLUS B then YES, male would not be my preferred gender.

didnt talk on this for a while because there are MANY dysphoric trans buckaroos who go through a lot of hardships and i have gone through ABSOLUTELY NONE IN THIS WAY. it has not made my life more difficult and it does not haunt me, so i do not want to have my voice drown out other trans buds who need space to shout. i am very privileged so even though technically this applies to chuck i do not need or want any bonus points.

that beings said, part of my journey on the autistic spectrum was to recognize that EVEN THOUGH my personal story is not tragic, it is still an important one to get out there onto this timeline. IN FACT there should be more stories of buckaroos who love being autistic like chuck. i am PROUD of my trot and i love my autism (this is also why i wanted to explicitly say my lead character in camp damascus is autistic)

so in the same way, when directly asked, i will say: i am technically non-dysphoric trans ALSO this has not weighed on my life at all. my story is not tragic it is full of joy and excitement. i will not shy away from this because there are all kinds of buckaroos on this spectrum.

anyway that is my VERY LONG TROT hope you enjoyed getting to know chuck a little more thank you for this question buckaroo

#chuck tingle #tingleverse #love is real #camp damascus #trans #lgbtq #bisexual #autism #non-dysphoric #buckaroo lifestyle #queer

[avelera]

Fun fact, “blond” is one of the few words in English that technically maintains its French-rooted gender-based spelling breakdown.

Blond = a male with blond hair

Blonde = a female with blonde hair

Blonds = more than one male blond or a mixed gender group of blonds

Blondes = and all-female group of blondes

Very few people follow this rule anymore. I doubt anyone but the worst pedant would dock you points for it if you got it wrong. But technically the rule is there. And I notice it. And try to get it right in my prose.

(Yes it applies to brunet vs brunette too)

(Now excuse me, I wrote “blond” so much that the word lost meaning to me. Blond. Blonde. Blondondondonnnddd…)

#writing #Maggie rambles #came up while writing about Stede Bonnet who is a Blond

[grison-in-space]

honestly so much of the way we conceptualize autistic special interests is predicated on there not being anyone who shares them with us? and like. have you met humans. have you talked to any autistics. because lots of them are pretty interesting actually! and autistic people are often pretty good at infecting you with their interests so that you share them too even if you're not as motivated to fixate happily on them for their own sakes!

huge whorls of autistic-generated human communities exist, and people who aren't used to autistic people never seem to realize that Yes Those Are Also Autistics, often because people are used to autistic special interests occupying some very limited contexts like Computers because Computers were a big new societal innovation and community spinning up right when people also started thinking about autism as a Distinction Among Humans. Also Pokemon. And the Internet. Nineties kids know what I mean, eh?

anyway here are some heavily autistic communities that allistic people never seem to realize tend to concentrate autistics and be driven by them:

every non-commercial domestic animal fancy ever, including dog, cat, pigeon, chicken, and horse people; also includes a fair chunk of the commercial kinds but there are slightly less of these

fandom of any kind (for some reason--it's misogyny--no one seems to realize that this also applies to female-slanted forms of fandom focused on storytelling and modification as well as male-slanted ones that involve information curation)

religion. especially any kind that involves any kind of organization--less the charismatic ones that involve manipulating other people, more the kind that draw people interested in the way that religion works. less/more is not all/none.

kink and sexuality generally and also gender. we think a lot. it's a problem. and we get snagged on stuff. plus sensory shit ties into everything. just saying. e v e r y t h i n g.

academia. look we get. we get interested in things. if you get interested enough in things people call you an expert and sometimes they give you money. money is nice. it lets you buy more objects of special interest.

acting. we wear masks all the fucking time and we get caught up in it. which makes you think about structure, eh?

comedy. ditto.

building shit. admittedly the allistics have largely noticed that engineers concentrate us by now but it has taken a surprisingly long time to realize that this also applies to other, older crafts.

fibercrafts and textiles. what about "we like textures and also figuring out how things work" is a surprise to you. also math. again the answer to how the allistics keep failing to notice this one is "there's lots of ladies in there."

I bet I'm missing plenty that I'm just not thinking of but my god, man, look at how many of these things touch us! look at how they shape our understanding of one another and ourselves! how cool is that

#neurodivergence #autism

[ladyimaginarium]

we're at an amusement park after we surprised our child with a trip for the summer after a long year of homeschooling. the noises are often overwhelming but i have my noise reducing headphones on my ears and my service dog to keep me at ease. i watch our little darling of a child skid down the red slide in the playground just outside as i reach my arms out to catch them only to scoop them up and give them kisses on the cheek and relishing in their laughter, a joy i seldom remember experiencing when i was their age. you laugh with me and you gently take our honeybee into your arms and congratulate them for how brave they were for having the courage to go down the big slide. although this child is of neither of our bloodlines, we love them just the same, with their beaming eyes and toothy grins and their eagerness to learn more and the traditional native braids in their hair. i'm immediately reminded of the way we fell in love before when we once came here years ago.

their tiny hand pulls on my fingers and asks me to push them on the swings. being the loving and adoring parent i am, i happily oblige without second thoughts. "higher!" their high pitched voice shrills and i do my best to make them ascend higher into the sky, anything to make them fly and smile, instead of being a bird in a cage as i was.

if i were to be asked several years ago if i would ever be a parent, i would scoff and decline adamantly at the thought of having a child after not having accomplished my goals and would only adopt a child after i was ready to live a life no longer solely for myself but for a greater purpose and after i'm married, financially stable and have completely matured and dealt with previous traumas so i wouldn't inflict those same traumas onto an innocent child and breaking the generational curse of trauma, poverty and martyrdom. in time this child softens me in a way most individuals do not and i want to give them everything i never had, the childhood i never experienced. while i never needed nor required a relationship nor a partner to be happy, this is still a blissful reality and i want to savor every moment of it.

we plant and continue to sow and water the seeds of unconditional love into our child's life, and love blossoms, the type of love that neither of us truly experienced. we are their safe place and although i pray that their world will never come crashing down, i know their first thought will be "it's okay because at least i have my parents with me to help get me through this", and our household is filled with playfulness and laughter. we do our best to give them everything we never had growing up and everything they could ever ask for: strong, stable, consistent, kind, loving and mature parents who look out for their child who won't walk away, judge or abandon them, someone who's willing to give stern, gentle and loving guidance, someone sturdy, strong and dependable when times are difficult and the storm is just outside our doorstep, the ones who earns their child's respect for raising them to be more than what they thought they could be, and most of all, a good example, a safe and loving environment where they could be encouraged to be whoever they want to be.

no more violent anger, no more explosive rage, no more slamming doors, no more raised voices, no more shouting matches to set the house ablaze, no more cocaine laced in veins and breath reeking of alcohol, escapism and tragedy. healed parents create healed children that create a healed generation and the seven generations after that, you come towards us with cotton candy much to our child's delight and glee, and as all four of us walk into the entrance of the amusement park to look at the towering ferris wheel above us, i come to a realization and an epiphany: this is pure, unadulterated joy.

#arcana.writes #arcana.yearnposts #arcana.softposts #mine. #this was actually based on a dream of mine& !! #this is like. really personal to me& too especially considering this is based off an indigenous / native perspective !! #and yes i& have the child's pronouns as they/them bc i&dk the child in question's gender or pronouns lmao #everything's gender neutral until stated otherwise btw !! this can apply for achillean sapphic diamoric and duaric couples !! #this goes for all genders and orientations tbh aside from cishetallos whether that's mlm wlw nblnb etc etc etc #cishetallos dnfi this isn't for you !! #tw; drug mention