#your respect for those around you

[kingofthewilderwest]

There is such a thing as writing a post about what you like in a piece of media even if that thing is done imperfectly. You do not have to bow to the moral purity gods for your tribute every time you want to talk about that thing. You do not have to tack on that criticism to every post you see to Make People Aware of the Problem. You do not need to and probably should not make every media post about your activism. You are allowed to expect and give benefit of the doubt that sometimes people want to talk positives and are smart enough to already know the negatives. We do not need to live our lives in such honor and fear of the negatives that they are required dark tribute in every sentence you write and say. Being discerning doesn't just mean we can identify pros and cons, it means we don't get so tangled up in an imperfection we can't appropriately handle it.

#Ohhhhh the people in certain spaces who have to put the same criticism on every post #you have said your piece twenty times and I respect you care on the issue #but even when a good issue #you treat those around you as though they are unable to discern

[lovelessrage]

A lot of people are completely disinterested in creating a safe space for all aros and aces because that would require letting go of being allowed to publicly shame things like sex and romance. There is a stark difference between repulsion/aversion and negativity, and that line stands where you treat those things as disgusting or as a personal fault/flaw. While I'm romance repulsed, I'm never going to go on my blog and call romance disgusting or gross, because it isn't; it's a feeling, neutral in morality, and a way to live your life if you so choose.

I don't think a lot of people get this or what the difference is. Anybody can be negative and anyone can have harmful ideas, favourable or repulsed. It's about how you treat it, how you express about it, and if you seek to demonise or make those things out to be disgusting, perverse, or deviant.

Even small things or "jokes" add up over time; put yourself in the shoes of someone who has to see those "jokes" made about their lifestyle and what's important to them every day, or even every hour. Would you still feel like they're lighthearted after even one day of reading over and over again?

[Not to say anyone who's done this in the past is a horrible, terrible person. You can change and grow as you take in info; that's just the life experience. But, to grow, you need to actively want to, and that means addressing biases and asking yourself "should I say this? Could this affect my peers?"]

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #arospec #acespec #aspec #scowl corner #listen. some of you. not all of you. need to recognise the internet is a community space #your words do not exist in a vacuum. your opinions are shaoed by the biases ideas and opinions around you. #sometimes those opinions or takes are not good and actively harmful to others around no #repulsion? normal to feel. completely normal. not what this post is about. i feel repulsion too. #if i see anyone in the tags calling out repulsed people i'm exploding them. #this post is about people who don't recognise their own internalised negative ideas and refuse to confront them for the comfort of others #begging people to be more considerate. begging people to remember respect is a two-way street.

[crykea]

I don't rlly trust those ppl who wholeheartedly believe that cats r better than dogs or you can trust cat people more because "cats have boundaries and you know who will respect boundaries if they like cats" because that just proves to me you Don't respect dogs boundaries lol

#i knooooowwwww thats not why they say it and im hearing it in a cant read exagerations way #but if you think dogs dont have boundaries that you need to respect you Will get bitten #have you ever seen a chihuahua??? they are not even people just dont respect their boundaries #same with 'problematic' dogs like bully breeds german shepards etc etc #hell my younger brother got bitten by Our golden retriever growing up for not respecting his boundaries #all animals have tells and no matter whether youre a dog or cat person you must learn to read and respect those tells #if you want to continue to be around those animals #theyre all different ! two cats can have different boundaries the same as two dogs can have diff boundaries #ugh #idk i HATE hearing that phrase as someone who has grown up not just with dogs #but Reactive dogs #like you say that and i know i dont want you around sophie kind of thing

[idkaguyorsomething]

do you think barbara and ian ever got in hot water with unit for just straight up selling the story of their adventures with the doctor to hollywood or…

#like imagine being the brigadier going around town #and then you spot a movie poster for doctor who at your local movie theatre with the daleks and tardis and everything #how do you even react to that #surely someone had to conduct an investigation #fuckin imagine clive from the first episode of nuwho or linda from love and monsters discovering that #we know that the doctor knows about those movies and loved them what about everyone else #ngl tho i respect the hustle #with all the shit they had to put up with the first companions deserve to make bank off their adventures #doctor who #barbara wright #ian chesterton #classic who #unit #peter cushing #doctor who the movie #if i think too much about what their lives where like when they finally got back home i’m gonna get dangerously close to writing about it

[always-a-joyful-note]

I was just thinking again of Idolish7 and I think that the reason that the theme of legacy and carrying on the baton or becoming something better was done SO well was because it they approached it from that old adage about "paying it forward." It's like....yes, they are rivals and competing and doing this for themselves, but like Otoharu said in one of the story parts, the past isn't worthless because it gives us something to build off of and perhaps surpass (and it's good inspiration, too). And you can see that in addition to just being idols and creating music and making their own kinds of art for themselves, they're also doing this out of love for something from the past. Mitsuki with Zero, Sogo with his uncle, Tamaki for Aya, Iori for his brother, Riku because of his family and Tenn, Tenn for his family/Kujo, Momo and Yuki for the old Re:vale and Banri, Minami and Nagi for Sakura, also even Aya for the families that abandoned her and the new ones that gave her something, etc. Even people like Torao and Yamato, who kind of entered the industry purely out of "selfish" desires have an arc where they received kindness and now just want to pass it on.

To sum it up, by treating the past with respect and real appreciation, they can surpass it without trying to undermine its real impact and beauty.

#its like....they dont try to be 'better' even if they try to be better #the zero play in pt 5 really messed me up because it really did culminate the arc of the past and present #zero turning around and passing the baton onto the audience and those in it that would probably pursue idolhood or something idk #just.......love again #idolish7 and trigger were rivals because they genuinely loved and/or respected the others music and stuff #being better in this show isnt because you think your that great but because you understand how good the other is.... #...and just want to reach their level and beyond #idolish7 #fandom spamdom #note's notes #...anyway sorry to all my followers who didnt follow me for this idol media content and are getting it anyway #feel free to unfollow etc etc im unhinged please help me #but watch i7 #unlike enstars i am shaking you orv lovers to watch/read it seriously if you want links im here and im begging - #why didnt i post this? idk if im right but i AM unwell about these characters and thus am subjectively right

[smilesrobotlover]

Tp Link and Zelda whenever they’re around each other: *acts cold to each other, throws petty insults, actively avoids each other*

Tp Link and Zelda when someone else insults them: *will absolutely defend each other with their lives*

#you know those people who you can’t stand when you’re around them #your personalities either don’t match or you don’t listen to each other #so you just don’t get along #but you know that deep down they’re a good person and you don’t like people unfairly insulting them? #yeah that’s them #they have their quarrels but Zelda knows that Link is a capable fighter who has a heart of gold #and Link knows that Zelda is a wise leader and deserves respect #love at twilight #smiles rambles

[mejomonster]

On a serious note, I do feel mysterious case lotusbook has a lot of sincere themes about getting older, realities of responsibility and dreams realized, how it's difficult to succeed and not always the direct path one expects, how there's value in little aspects of life. Almost every li lianhua scene seems to be about that to some degree. The murder cases aren't particularly deep as far as super complicated to figure out or Able to be predicted super well (since they don't always give all the details in the initial setup), but the themes about who was killed and why do connect to li lianhuas situation.

#mysterious lotus casebook #lb #by all this i mean: a lot of the positive things li lianhua AND di feisheng say are fairly good advice tbh #like a fei? hes like you need to be fair in your decisions for your actions to be worthwhile and earned #li lianhua: sometimes being the one taking all responsibility was bad for you and the people you led who felt burdened #by You taking the burden. and stepping back can be a respectable choice. #cooking is more difficult than fighting. keeping yourself alive is Hard and its the hardest thing we do #and its admirable even when youll never be a hero never be able to achieve what those around you might #your peers are worthwhile if they choose diffetently than you (qian wanmian isnt lesser for not choosing to lead a sect and instrad #dissolving it. di feisheng doesnt think li lianhua is no longef worth his time even though hes weaker now. li lianhua is still someonr he #wants to see alive see brlieve in himself see passionate about things. the monks think its never too late to #reconnect to people again. that people who love you will want you and accept you even when you fail. #even fang duobing by knowing li lianhua gets the experience of someone who wants him alive #and fondly smiles and Is proud of him. evrn if hes learning and fails and moody #fond of him in a way his family wasnt that strangers lied about due to his status #in a way that he clung to li xianyi for ALSO seeing value in him when he felt he didnt live up to expectstions of the world #its the Kindness of little moments of acceptance. of being kind to yourself and kind to others (even down to #not wantjng to kill suspects but take them to trial. not wanting scapegoats blamed. which arent usually done in wuxia) #its the fact this show is quite about gentleness and healing (i see the Love and Redemption screen writing ismilarities) #rather than about power struggles. do you know what i mean?

[ottiliere]

i love. i love your dios hairstyle? i have never ever seen someone draw his hair that way. this is so nuanced. your dio is so nuanced. you could be a licenced professor in jjba phantom blood university

you flatter me too much... I haven't even begun posting my essays or comics yet! I am very taken with his jojonium hairstyle because... well I think it's very cute. but also in part because of this part from Our Deportment by John Young (1882):

his physiognomy remains intact but the rest is true. of upmost importance to me that the way he dresses and appears in public is relatively abrasive to the societal norms of the time but he has a vision and you philistines would never understand

#also practical use crossdressing #dio brando #phantom blood #jjba #lucy art #etc. #when you read something and know immediately they are at least in part talking about oscar wilde 'savors of affectation' yeah ok. funny #dio would hate the aesthetes btw I cannot envision him respecting these people mostly because he doesn't respect anyone #your movement sucks the way you dress sucks *turns around and dresses in a way that is arguably more deserving of ridicule* #his evening dress is the most toned-down dress in his wardrobe but even then. jacquard up those silk lapels

[eggtrolls]

someone posted a picture of a map and captioned it: The oldest Ptolemy map of Palestine is dated 150 AD. The large red letters in the center say in Greek: Παλαιστινης or Palaistinis.

Map in question:

What's accurate: all of it. This is a Byzantine Greek copy of Ptolemy's 4th Asia map from the Codex Vaticanus Urbinas Graecus 82, Constantinople c. 1300. It was probably assembled by Maximus Planudes.

it seems like this post is some kind of 'gotcha' to prove that Palestine as a name/entity has existed for thousands of years, which it has. This is beyond dispute. The name Palestine is (probably) derived from Peleset, who you might know as the Sea People, who were from the Aegean. after they had fun times (not fun times) with Ramesses III, they relocated to the southern coast of Canaan, intermarried with the Canaanites, and became known as the Philistines. The Assyrians called that regions 'Palas(h)tu' since 800 BC; the term Palestine as "Palestine" first appeared in Herodotus' Histories in the 5th century BC, and this usage continued with other Greek and Roman writers (Aristotle, Ovid, Pliny the Elder, etc.). the term Syria Palaestina (literally Palestinian Syria) was used to refer to the Roman province which was created in the 2nd century AD. this is the name we see in the map above. cool.

What's missing: the Roman province Syria Palaestina was created by incorporating the province of Judaea and surrounding areas after they were defeated by the Romans in the Bar Kokhba revolt in 135 AD (the end of the third Roman-Jewish Wars). to put a button on the issue, removing the name Judaea is commonly believed to have been a 'fuck you, we won' - as in, the name change from Judaea to Syria Palestina was done to "sever the connection of the Jews to their historical homeland".

furthermore: Judaea had been a Roman province since 6 AD and the name Judaea was a Latinized version of Judah, a kingdom founded in approximately 930 BC, that bordered the Philistine City States, as in Philistia, mentioned above. They were BOTH there. They were there concurrently with the Kingdom of Israel (Samaria). Look at this map! They are RIGHT next to each other at the SAME period in time, directly south of the kingdom of, guess who, Israel (also founded approximately 930 BC).

like damn. this is the most contentious topic on earth right now. try to provide some context to whatever historical stuff you post on this hellsite before a bunch of people (smart people! people I know and respect!) see it and share it without having a clue about the context because they aren't inclined to do any further digging and it fits with the narrative they most agree with.

#there is really nothing I hate more than historical misinformation to prove a point. even/ESPECIALLY if it's a point I agree with #stop making the worst point ever to “win” an argument. all you are doing is losing the argument and the respect of me and those around you. #also. you do not (and I mean this) you DO NOT need to use the ROMAN EMPIRE as proof that your claim to existence is legitimate oh my god #if historical irredentism is gonna be based on Roman provincial names Greece Egypt Tunisia and Italy are about to EXPLODE

[caffeinatedopossum]

I don't understand why it's generally not socially acceptable to recognize your good qualities. Like I don't understand why it's bad to be a show-off or a know-it-all or to brag. Like I think most people know "those things = bad" but not why.

It also seems like people are always either waaaaay into one end of the scale where they are just so unbearably full of themselves and have preposterously high self esteem (and most people act like this is fine too? Like a lot of celebrities and white men specifically seem to be like this) and I don't understand why so many people respect them then. Or they're the complete opposite with self esteem way too low despite the fact that they have redeeming qualities.

I feel like maybe the reason it's considered bad to brag is because you might 'make' other people feel inadequate but see that seems like a stupid reason to me because the problem then is not that you stated an opinion of your own self worth but is actually that everyone else is conditioned to compare themselves to each other in a very unhealthy way. And I think instead of discouraging people from opening up about what they take pride in, what they like about themselves, what makes them feel happy or content or confident, maybe we could just be discouraging people from viewing those things as personal threats? Idk just trying to formulate some thoughts on this

#idk why but this feels like a very convoluted topic #like so many people are probably coming from different starting positions on this than i am and im afraid that might #make it be misinterpreted or something #like i feel like there definitely is a balance where some self esteem is too little and some is too much #it just feels like it is exceedingly rare to find anyone with ideal realistic self esteem and idk why #i also dont mean this in a way to say that every action is the responsibility of the people taking offense either #because obviously thats not how that works. its understandable to demand a certain amount of respect #and to accept that your words (even the ones you say about yourself) could negatively impact other people #and thats not necessarily on them for being defensive #idk social concepts are strange and foreign to me so im still figuring this stuff out and through an autistic lense to boot #so sometimes i feel a bit like im conducting a study or an experiment more than writing a blog post #im just trying to understand people because i need to #it seems like the overwhelming majority of allistics have absolutely no interest in why they do the things that they do #so i have to go around experimenting instead of asking direct questions about this stuff #because when i do ask direct questions they look at me like i just asked them if the sky is actually blue or if its just gasses up there #in case you are not the most common dimwit. the sky is both of those things. however when you ask someone a question #phrased like that about a topic they dont want to admit they dont know about. they will usually avoid the question or answer absurdly #its actually kinda funny you should try it sometime #now im distracted because i dont know enough about how the sky works and i need to know #anyways gonna go down a research rabbit hole methinks

[curiositykilledtheradiostar]

What is it about Zephyrus and Boreas that makes those albums hit like nothing else on the planet. Like there is so much ATMOSPHERE in that music it feels like you can drown in it.

#I guess Notos and the red one (eurus?? idr) too but those two go harder on the electric guitar and violin respectively as they SHOULD #it absolutely fucks #Soap has absolutely no right to hit that hard for a song called Soap. OH I THINK THAT YOURE WORTH KEEPING AROUND the amount of emotions #that song will give you. (that red valley animatic I saw my beloved <3) man I bet the oh hellos are so fucking cool live #curio chatter #the oh hellos

[words-be-upon-ye]

There are a couple tropes I really love in the space of Miraculous Ladybug fan works, but quite possibly my favorite is when the miraculous holders just get creature from using their powers.

Like yeah, I would say that hosting the power of an abstract concept given sentience, that got shoved into the shape of an animal and bound to a piece of jewelry, would kinda mess with your body a bit.

The little bit of this we get in canon is basically that Adrien loves being a cat and the whole Tikki munches incident.

But I love it when people give them ears and wings and tails, give them eyes that aren't quite human anymore. Fuck with their gender and their sense of body. Sometimes it's body horror, sometimes it's just aesthetic. Love it either way.

I just think it's so fun, a lot of the time it's combined with the like "when a holder and the kawami really respect and bond with each other there's nothing that can be done except having magic bleed into the holder" I think that's fun, but also just making the animal of the kwami a bigger deal is fun. Like if you're going to make it a ladybug you might as well give her wings and antenna and mirrored eyes.

#yes I do like ml #there's just so many characters I like to mess with in my head #also sue me I'm trans and have a certain respect for body horror. for the forced change of your physical self especially when you chose it #anyway I alwasys ramble in the tags #I set up this side blog to hide random writing thoughts I had and oh boy do I have a lot and none of them are on here #and recenetly (and by recently I mean like the past year) I've been hit with so many ml thoughts) #they're all gay #and some of them are cohesive #actually a lot of them revolve around chloe and au's where she gets a meaningful improvement arc #give that gay girl intresting stuff #miraculous ladybug #ml #although one of my ideas is also my very fun very gender take of ml where to conceal their identities ladybug and chat start pretending #to be different people under the masks like they don't need to like explicitly say. they just #switch costumes a lot and they like slyly hint at maybe theres dozens of people who pass around the miraculous to make sure that their #Identities are always safe #and to support the act they also start changing the genders they present as as holders. everyone is like “it's clearly multiple people” #and during this process marinette and Adrien are both like slowly having personal gender revelations #and gabe is like tearing his hair out over having to fight this secret group of superheros that he can never find or catch #but he's still just getting his ass kicked by two kids who're doing the world's most successful costumes change bits #it's like those “fake dating” tropes where they're like “oh but we really do love each other” but with gender #“oh I've got a great idea lets pretend to be different genders sometimes” #cut to “hmh ok so I think I'm not pretending anymore” #oh I do always ramble in the tags

[astralazuli]

So there's that D&D class quiz going around, & I took it & was so deeply offended I got Paladin.

& so I have had conversations with both Bestie & Birdfriend about this grave insult & they both were like, "Well... They have a point?" & informed me that my desire to absorb hits meant for others & deep drive to help whenever I actually can & strong convictions make me a bit Paladin-coded.

& I am just so... Idk. It's just interesting to get glimpses of yourself from other people's POVs. To be told that my defining characteristics are protecting & healing others & being incredibly fighty about the things I care about... Especially as someone whose brain specifically fixates on whether I care enough, do enough, give enough... Yeah. It's just kinda wild.

Anyway, I'm now adjusting my self-perception to include the fact that if I were a D&D character, I would be an Oath of the Ancients Paladin & not a wizard & that actually that's okay.

#I don't Believe many things #because I prefer to stay open to new perspectives #& think that a balanced approach to life involves embracing a certain level of ambiguity in reality #but the things I do Believe in? #Oh I Believe them with all my heart. #I don't know how my belief system will change in the future #But I do know that above all else I believe in Kindness #Kindness to yourself Kindness to everyone around you Kindness to nature #The point of society is to ensure Everyone is treated well & can enjoy existence as much as possible #The point is Joy. The method is Kindness. #& if you aren't fighting for Everyone to be taken care of & respected & treated with Kindness #then I am not interested in your revolution. #If you hate the people against you more than you love the people you're fighting for? #You're missing the goddamn point. #(Please note I'm speaking of Kindness as a separate concept from Niceness.) #(Sometimes you cannot be Kind without being Not Nice to someone who is doing unkindnesses.) #(But I feel like a lot of people mistake that concept for an excuse to deny those they disagree with Kindness.) #(& my dudes you don't actually have principles if they only apply to people you like & agree with.) #There is no freedom until everyone is free includes the people you don't like. #While I am not free right now due to my various axes of oppression & the oppression others face #I'm also not gonna be free if we straight up murder & imprison the current oppressors #Trading one oppressive system for another isn't actually all that radical??? #Just 'cause you think 'the right people' are being oppressed doesn't make oppressing them okay? #Like I'm a leftist because I believe Literally Everyone should be allowed to live whatever fulfilling life they want #so long they as aren't doing a damage to someone else in order to do so. #Not because I think I think the wrong people are oppressed. #Hm now that I've written this fucking essay on ethics in my tags #I am seeing Bestie & Birdfriend's points... #Birdfriend legit said that I'm the '**smacks others while screaming** BE! KIND! TO! EACH! OTHER!' type of Paladin. #I guess they were right.

[spotsupstuff]

ur grading people and if they get an f theyre blocked? my main you aint a kindergarten teacher this is a microblogging platform

yeah, that's why there's that function called blocking! :) cuz this is a microblogging site! that's what microblogging platforms have! :) so you don't have to put up with people's shit! :) interesting that kindergarten teachers where you live are capable of blocking people in real life, hope you had fun with that

#spot says stuff #this is the INTERNET You are the one who curates your own fucking experience and if i dont like someones vibes or what theyre saying to me- #-they are going to get blocked! ''grading'' people??? its called judging people and having set boundaries and self respect #im not here to conform to strangers tastes n the need to Watch Me i dont care about that more than i care about myself #i am not a ''content creator'' i am not someone with some power like a ''kindergarten teacher'' i am a stranger to All of you and- #-just another tumblr user and i dont owe you fucking anything just like nobody Here owes me anything besides base respect #n base respect includes watching what you say to people. i dont have to put up with strangers faults. im holding everyone here accountable- #-for their actions and words because i believe that you are capable of being a good considerate human person n acting sensibly #what would happen if i blocked a person on Tumblr Dot Com. the goddamn apocalypse? please. blocking isnt controlling people around you- #-its Boundaries. you can get over some random bitch blocking you on the internet. its not my responsibility if someone decides that their- #-entire emotional wellbeing depends on a *Stranger* #i have P@NSEAR blocked cuz i just Dont like their content. if someone ''gets an F'' from me for behaviour then MAYBE theres a REASON? #''ur grading people'' goddammit man who Isnt judging the people around them and the interaction they have with them #HOW many times ive said ''feel free to block me!'' in a positive way cuz of smth as small as a too gorey design. what do u think- #-blocking is ysee??? ''you are acting entitled'' because i AM! i AM entitled to having a good comfortable experience on the INTERNET #just like ANY OF YOU. please anon! you dont like my way of treating myself on the Internet do just that! block me! i wont throw a fuss?? #if Anyone here doesnt like the smallest aspect of me judge me. i invite you to. judge me and if that aspect is too loud for you Block me #to get along with this anons absolutely correct n in place anecdote: Grade Me. give me an F. boot me from the school whatever That means #keep yourself safe and make your experience on the internet comfortable #i cant tell if youre one of those dumb anon askers who r just lookin for attention or fight Or a reasonable person but heres my look at it #entertain it before you disregard it. got me pissed off from the moment i wake up u dont even know bout my whole blockin system dear god

[moonsidesong]

i think its kinda funny that ibis paint is regarded as the Broke Artist App or whatever (as opposed to more mainstream programs like csp or procreate) because its free and because of how popular it is with phone + finger artists while im jusg sitting here having used ibis for a cool eight years on purpose.

like i have an ipad and an apple pencil and all theyre very nice and i absolutely could move to a more powerful program i have the resources to do so but my change averse brain has decided they like it here a lot and im not leaving

#not talking smack on phone and finger artists btw. some of my mutuals use their fingers and their art goes crazy i respect that so much #even when i did use my phone (most of 14 crush was done on a phone!) i still had to use a cheap rubber stylus hahaha #anyway maybe ill try procreate someday but also i hate learning new programs and i like ibis's brushes too much #fingers crossed that they add fully custom brushes someday though #like id love to be one of those artists that makes really cool art with ridiculous shapes and nobody even knows until they tell you #younger artists might not know this but modern ibis is STACKED compared to how it was in 2015 #like i remember when clipping layers were first implemented. and they sucked. like they didnt fully go over the lower layer #so it just left a gross tiny outline around the shape #and there wasnt any border or text tools either #and there was a hard cap on layer count depending on your device's storage and the canvas size #modifying brushes wasnt even a thing HAHAHAHAH you just used what you had #anyway okiku reference window unrelated shes just there for something else im working on<3 #bri talks #for the record all this is to say i think the smack talk towards ibis is pretty unwarranted #like yeah maybe its not as powerful as a lot of these fancy paid apps but i honestly think its insanely good for being a free program #i think getting rid of the ads costs more now than it did when i paid to get rid of them but i mean #free with ads is still a lot more than csp's ever gonna give you!!!! #(psst. secret from me to you! you wont get any ads if you disable the app's data usage and turn off wifi when you use it) #(alternatively just use airplane mode but you can still get texts and stuff the first way)