diaryofsinglehood

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I have been inviting people who think they are single at heart to answer lots of questions, in their own words, about their life and how they realized they were single at heart. (You can find the questionnaire here if you want to share your stories.) Some have told me that for the longest time, it just never occurred to them that it was fine not to want to be coupled. Some worried that something was wrong with them because they were so drawn to single life. It was a new concept to them that if they are thriving as a single person, then there is nothing wrong with them at all. Single life may well be the best life for them, and it is pointless and even counterproductive to go through the motions of searching for The One. It is a waste of their time and emotional energy, and potentially hurtful to the partners they will most likely end up leaving.

Bella DePaulo Ph.D.

People who are not singles don't understand why this theme is such a big deal to me. Like we're not opressed so it's made-up problem to them. Well, I guess someone who never tried themselves the brainwashing experience of "feeling bad for feeling good" to adjust to social expectations - might not understand how it feels to finally shed the shame of simply enjoying your own life...

[diaryofsinglehood]

I have been inviting people who think they are single at heart to answer lots of questions, in their own words, about their life and how they realized they were single at heart. (You can find the questionnaire here if you want to share your stories.) Some have told me that for the longest time, it just never occurred to them that it was fine not to want to be coupled. Some worried that something was wrong with them because they were so drawn to single life. It was a new concept to them that if they are thriving as a single person, then there is nothing wrong with them at all. Single life may well be the best life for them, and it is pointless and even counterproductive to go through the motions of searching for The One. It is a waste of their time and emotional energy, and potentially hurtful to the partners they will most likely end up leaving.

Bella DePaulo Ph.D.

People who are not singles don't understand why this theme is such a big deal to me. Like we're not opressed so it's made-up problem to them. Well, I guess someone who never tried themselves the brainwashing experience of "feeling bad for feeling good" to adjust to social expectations - might not understand how it feels to finally shed the shame of simply enjoying your own life...

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Dear diary...

11:30 pm Sat Feb 10th 2024

Messages to my Friend

What I'm realizing about what I'm lacking in the love department is more to do with my lack of community and family in my life. How can I build love all by myself? How can I be my own family?

#singlehood #there is absolutely nothing lonelier

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Where are you, my someone?

As Valentine's Day approaches I can't help but feel resentful for everyone who's in a relationship. When will it be my turn?

These are the thoughts that were stewing inside of me as I tried working on my manuscript today.

#singlehood #dating #breakups #self love #women who date #confidence #single #beautiful women #self care #women empowerment #sadgirl #sad poetry #poem #poets on tumblr #dear diary #mental health #mentally fucked #valentines day #love myself

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Hating yourself is exhausting and stealing all your joy. Who cares? Who cares if you're not the next topmodel, who cares if you're not the beauty standard, who cares if men don't throw themselves at you, I have loved many times and it was always faces who told a story, who looked interesting and different and unique and those were the people that were the most beautiful in the world to me. It doesn't matter how you look. The right people will find you stunning anyways. It's what makes you interesting.

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[Photo of me in Grasslands National Park.. by myself!]

31 January 2024

Welcome to another entry of the Diary of Singlehood.

In today's episode, I go on a "walk-n-talk" because I thought my thoughts would come out better on a walk. While they did, I was also super distracted by the cars and people so if I seem a bit less present and less communicative, that is why. I was also speaking off book without a script in mind so I found it harder to say everything I wanted to say. However I think it's important to speak freely because all of these feelings of confusion, frustration, and bitterness towards others are everything you feel when you're low in confidence and major PMS-ing.

Until next time,

Bekah

#singlehood #dating #self love #breakups #women empowerment #empoweryourself #empoweredliving #self care #self worth #self healing

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Okay I was hesitant to make this because I feel EXPOSED but I also really wanted to put this out there in the world 🙈 I heard this song and had a compulsive yearning to make a video of it because why the fuck not 💪🏽 💯 I wanted to compile footage of everything I am and everything I've done to feel empowered out here. Lifes hard out here in singletown and I want to see more people showing their vulnerability #beabadbitch😛✨❤️

#bad bitch energy #self love #breakups #singlehood #dating #confidence #love myself

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"I'm going to soak up the sun. While I'm still free... I'm going to soak up the sun. Before it goes out on me.."

I changed the lyric because there's so much meaning here. As single women we should soak up our singlehood before it's taken away. Before things change. Soak it all up and live through it all. Don't dwell on it. Thrive in singlehood ❤️

#dating #singlehood #women who date #self love #love #SoundCloud

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I was reading Gathering Moss by Robin Wall Kimmerer - an icon in biology. And when I read this section I began to think... Wouldn't life be so much better if we could choose to become moss? In another life I would love to become moss. So I wouldn't ever have to deal with the bullshit of men.

I would never have to rely on a man to succeed. However life and love is much more complex and dynamic in human life compared to plants, moss and fungi.

#gatheringmoss #biology #confidence #singlehood #idontneedaman #hate men #self care #women who date #women empowerment

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Welcome to my first diary entry. These are 9 commitments that I have for myself that I vow to take seriously. These are non-negotiable commitments. I've dated a lot of asshole douchebags, emotionally abusive, and non-committal men that have affected my self-worth. With these commitments, I hope to change my feelings of self-worth and self-love and regain myself.

It's rough living in singlehood and in general, life in my late 20's, so I wanted to outline what I need to do to live the most fucking amazing life while being young and single. Until next time..

Music: The Diary - Christian Larssen

#self love #hate men #singlehood #dating #women who date #self expression #self care #self worth #therapy #live your best life #lifestyle #relationship #quarter life crisis #late twenties #growing up #childhood