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Aromantic awareness week!!!!

#SLAY #aspec #art

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a cartoon for the guardian

#EPIC #comic #books

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Another hurricane with a sardine garnish please.

Ink and watercolour on paper, 6x8 inches.

#seal #art

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Crochet beholder dice bag for a dear friend. ❤️

Patterns:

Beholder Crochet Amigurumi Pattern by CraftyTibbles

Plush Beholder Dice Bag by MoreThan1WayCrochet (not currently available)

A lot of freehanding

Materials:

Big Twist Twinkle Sapphire worsted acrylic yarn

Any brand worsted weight yarn in white, black, and other optional colors for the different eye colors and different-colored interior layer

White fingering weight yarn for the teeth embroidery

(Optional) Wide-hole bead for closing the drawstring

4.0 mm (G) hook

Darning needle

Pins

#crochet

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Shubho noboborsho!!!! Bhalo theko

Belated shubho noboborsho!! Onek bhalobasha ar barir boroder pronam janalam!

#dakbaksho #shankhachil #hope you're doing well #i'm so out of it i'm barely online these days hsjdjdhdh

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#politics

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Colourful butterflies in Central America

#wah the colours are so pretty #butterfly

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No. 6029 八重の梅

#nature

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Angry penguin noises

#💀 #birds #penguins

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Home cinema

(via)

#animals #cats

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“Flynn the dog taking a dip at the beach!”

(via)

#i wish that were me #animals #dogs #good vibes

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#animals #cats

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Rainbow mo

#cats #art

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If you use arab.org like I do please consider taking the extra 30-60 seconds to click on ALL of their causes. Palestine is important but so are the environment, refugees, children, women, and the impoverished across the middle east and it doesn't take away from Palestine to click for multiple causes. The arab world faces a lot of problems and they only get worsened by how western nations have oppressed and attacked them. Clicking is small but it generates something and overtime it does benefit the greater good. It takes all of us clicking as often as possible but we can do it! It's really easy and safe and they have proofs on their site on how they do make an impact and are donating your click money

#signal boost

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i don't know if i'm aro or ace or both or aspec, but i've been thinking about it lately. can aromanticism and/or asexuality be something that is chosen? so much of what damages my self worth is the idea that i'm unlovable and untouchable. i've mostly only had experiences of abuse when it comes to romance and physical intimacy, and when that wasn't the case i felt deeply uncomfortable with "performing romance" and "performing love". i often tell myself it's just because i haven't found the right person, but then i think about how that person can't possibly exist because of the every thing about me. i just want an escape from it all. this is killing me. whether or not i'm aro or ace or both, amatonormativity is killing me.

This may be a Hot Take, but in my opinion, it can absolutely be a choice.

The thing about all identity is that it is chosen to some degree. The feelings/experiences we base our identities off of might not be, but how we make sense and express these feelings to ourselves and others is something we choose. We, even queer people, tend to conflate the labels we use with the experiences we use them to express.

I'm sure there are some people who will see "you can choose to ID as aro/ace because of trauma" and insist that's the same as encouraging people not to heal at all. Which is not true. What is healing for you and how you go about that is your business, first of all, and you may never decide to engage in these relationships and still have a meaningful life.

Secondly, it is absolutely fine if one day you decide not to ID as aro/ace any more. Identifying as aspec (or any kind of queer identity) should be about what best helps you make sense of your experiences, express them, and/or find community/resources right now. As you said, amatonormativity affects people regardless of if they are aspec. Accepting that you deserve to be cared for and have value regardless of your ability to perform sex/love is good for anyone. If these terms work for you right now, there's no good reason for me to tell you not to use them. Like I said, one day you may feel differently, and as a result you may use different words to express that. There is nothing wrong with that and you should never feel any pressure to stick with a label just because its what you've been using.

Thirdly, it is of course possible for someone to both be traumatized and aspec. I have issues with vulnerability and just don't feel any romantic attraction or desire for marriage. These things can co-exist, and the distinction may not matter to you as much as it might for someone else.

#queer #aspec

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"I often wonder if my diagnosis makes sense. Female to male transsexual is not a very good description of what is going on. It's too neat, too chronological. Too trapped between two states, man and woman. I find neither of these possible or desirable. I need the diagnosis for the surgery but I question the link between the two. I refuse the social construct of gender and desire a flat chest. I am forced to advocate that which is arbitrary and false. If I were to diagnose myself, I often think essay would be the better term. I am a piece of writing that I want to look and sound a certain way. I have this deep impulse to sculpt and shape my body. I think of the surgeon's scalpel like the squat nib of a fountain pen, marking up and crossing out. When I write, I am trying to say something true about the world. I am trying to polish language until it vanishes, becomes a window. I am not writing for the sake of writing, I am writing to bring the world into being. Living seems to be much the same process; I am not living for the sake of living, I live in order to carve, and sculpt and incise, wax/buff/burnish, weather/age/distill myself. To do this until I am a walking transparency, making the whole world visible. And people say I am an idiot for doing this, for carving up my body. I have two long scars where my breasts have been. Two dry rivers or else a tightrope with a gap. Maybe they agree with me about the fallacious sculpting of the fallen branch. Maybe the art was done when two fatty protrusions emerged, hanging from my sternum. Maybe nothing will be as masterfully mound as the glands I excised. Nothing as masterful as my big, fat areolas, my moving, hanging milk-works. If the artist is wrong-headed, then so am I."

— Jay Bernard, 'Idiot', 2021 Edinburgh International Festival

#gender #trans #jay bernard #transmasc #nonbinary #transgender #quotes #poetry #found out about this from a seminar I was attending and it's So #are we allowed to mention tiddies on tumblr btw idk what's even going on here anymore #queer #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #black writers #peevesie speaks #sorry about the huge paragraph i don't think i can break it up 😭

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Time for a diaper change

#💀 #animals #dogs