#Cis gay men

[angelic-transsexual]

Being a trans man (specifically a gay trans man) is both amazing and isolating. I love being a man, and I love being a man who loves men. I don’t like the feeling of being in this limbo as a trans man. I’m often not welcomed into gay men spaces because I’m trans, but also feeling like I’m not welcomed/accepted into the rest of the community because I’m a man.

#ftm #trans #transgender #queer #gay #transsexual #trans man #lgbt #trans male #ftm mlm #gay and trans #gay trans men #cis gays #cis gay men #lgbtqia #lgbtqia community

[certified-scoundrel]

"this pride month we support the girls, the gays, and the theys" SHUT UP OH MY GOD SHUT UP

#these are such weird categories #just say lgbtq #why the girls too #are they talking about trans women #or lesbians? #bc lesbians are gay too #and not all trans people are gay #and not all trans people use they/them #you're being less inclusive by saying this #not more inclusive #and this is almost always said by #cis gay men #or #cool 'allies' #yknow the kind who say the a stands for ally #yk the kind

[xan-the-emo-trans-man]

Just knowing some gay men wouldn’t date me just for the simple fact im a trans man makes me feel so invalid as a guy :(

#I don’t care if you don’t want to date me because of who I am as a person #But being gay and not dating trans men because you don’t see them as “real men” should not be normalized #I don’t care if you don’t wanna date trans people #Just don’t make a huge deal out of it #Super straight is fucking stupid but thats a topic for another day #Sick of only being seen as a woman #Ftm #trans men #trans masc #xans rants #Cis gay men #Trans gay men

[drdemonprince]

people who are obsessed with passing are gonna be the death of our community i swear

#i understand how and why so many succumb to that temptation and of course i get it ive been there but its POISON #listening to a podcast where a trans guy says getting maamed on the phone bc hes nice means he “failed” #is soooo .... ugh #my dude that happens to so many cis gay men are you kidding me #are you really about to study how to be mean on the phone rather than just correct somebody #or just like not define your existence by fleeting interactions w strangers #if you define yourself only by passing at all times youre gonna turn into a sad hudsons guide esque husk of yourself #fuck passing 2024 i am so over it #it truly is a never ending chase for cis validation and its bad for us!!!!!

[cruelsister-moved2]

cis gay men r here with the worst takes of all sometimes because its like theyre so naive to the realities women experience at the hands of men but they also dont question their allegiance to the institutions of patriarchy and manhood when it serves them. do u know how often i see cis gay guys basically claiming that they can’t be misogynistic bc they arent attracted to women. which is a whole can of worms on its own but its telling that they see all misogyny as a result of sexual attraction and not like an ideology of power & control. mb youre not dehumanising women by viewing us as sexual objects for your pleasure but you still don’t see us as possessing the same complex humanity as you and sometimes you still fundamentally understand us as sex objects for OTHER men n think ur just a privileged outside observer to it all. genuinely the worst type of guy 

#n like i said so many cis gay men see themselves as members of the Cis Gay Men Community and do not view the rest of us as anything more to #do w them than straight ppl

[seatokki]

denial and acceptance

#warm up sketch warm up sketch #just a fun little warm up sketch #tgcf fanart #tgcf #xie lian #hua cheng #hualian #tian guan ci fu #we as a collective do not talk enough about the fact that hualian r funny old men #I love them #sorry for abandoning you tumblr I wont do it again #gay

[ineedyoutotellmeyouloveme]

talking to each other across urinals while you’re both peeing is so weird

#weirdly GAY #badum tiss #no but seriously how to cis men do that #like how are you NOT thinking about how your bros dick is out

[isa-ah]

literally how do I cope with a movie where the baseline message is that trans children are treated like monsters who will destroy society but ultimately the only person they're trying to hurt is themselves bc they lack the love, support and resources their peers get unconditionally. and that the surveillance state would kill as many civilians as it takes to eradicate trans kids to maintain the status quo by any means necessary.

#and also that a cis gay man repeatedly ask nimona to be normal and just be a girl and wouldnt it just be easier #which is shit trans gay men have to hear constantly from cis gay men. fuck #we only ever went to a single gay bar in my life bc we spent the entire time being roasted by a bitter old queen who wouldnt stop harrassing #my husband for being trans wrong. that he was doing it to be inflammatory. that he was lying to me and everyone else by saying hes a man #we were there together! to spend time together! we had no intentions of speaking to anyone else or disrupting anyone elses night #but he wouldnt leave us alone. it went on for 45 minutes until we left. #bc we and specifically he dared to be a trans man in a gay space. fuck #i just cant stop thinking about it #nimona

[spacelazarwolf]

kind of tired of coddling other queer and trans ppl who are straight up just bigoted. i truly do not give a fuck about your trauma or mental illness if you’re going to use it as an excuse to say vile disgusting things and perpetuate real harm against other queer and trans people. if you’ve managed to convince yourself that everyone around you is your oppressor in order to justify saying heinous things about other oppressed people, you don’t deserve patience from the people you’re targeting. and you’re not a safe person to have in the community until you’ve figured your shit out and learned how to interact with other people in a not fucking unhinged way. go to fucking therapy.

#from cis women using their trauma to excuse transphobia #to trans women using their mental illness to excuse misogyny and transphobia #to cis gay men using their trauma to excuse misogyny #to other trans mascs using their trauma to excuse transphobia #i’m fucking sick of it

[abyssalzones]

I'm probably nonbinary but I have college so idrc about that rn

#man but weird. guy but kind of off with it. #okay my real genuine thoughts are that I consider 'nonbinary' to be just as descriptive as 'trans' #so to me it probably describes my gender experience. but in the sense that if you asked me what I am I'd tell you I'm a man #but idk.... my own relationship with the term “man” feels distinct from others.... I think everyone has their own unique relationship with #gender obviously BUT. I do not think I have the same thing going on as cis men. nor would I ever want that #...kind of a gender + bisexuality situation where any attraction I feel is gay attraction. I'll be honest #in an ideal world I could transition from female to Creature actually <- HE'S SANE #lab notes

[ifjenn]

# ➳ （◞‸◟） ꙳ ifjenn #hua cheng x xie lian #hua cheng #hong er #sang lang #hua xie #xie lian #spotify #hualian #hualian moodboard #hualesbians #heaven official's blessing #tgcf donghua #tian guan ci fu #tgcf #donghua #danmei #manga #gay men #gay #anime #red moodboard #red icons #butterfly #love moodboard #cute moodboard #crimson rain sought flower #wu ming #ghost city #vintage moodboard

[ot3]

this flavor of trans guy misogyny where they do rhetorical backflips to explain why them not caring about women is good, actually, and since cis men are also misogynists a lot of the time we should all just stop complaining about it.

#'no one bats an eye when-' #actually yes plenty of women but particularly black women and lesbians have a lot to say about the specific brand of misogyny #that you get from cis gay men. only no one listens to women who talk about misogyny. is the thing. s o. #IM LITERALLY NOT EVEN SAYING PEOPLE NEED TO PUT FEMALE CHARACTERS IN SHIT #IM JUST SAYING IF THEYRE GONNA BE THERE IT SUCKS WHEN THEY'RE ONLY THERE TO BE PLOT MOTIVATORS FOR MEN!!!! NO ONE GIVES A SHIT WHAT YOU DO! #like if you're a trans guy and you have a complicated relationship to womanhood and don't want to spend a bunch of time #in the headspace of female characters. i get that. i can understand that. i can sympathize. #but if ur response to seeing someone complain about misogyny is 'why should i have to care about female characters' then ur just an asshole #theres a time and a place to talk about the Unique and Woke Way That You Personally Dislike Women and it's not on my fucking posts!!!!

[is-the-owl-video-cute]

Saw your Neil Gaiman post and as someone that found comfort in Good Omens (and got hyperfixated on it), I'm finally glad that some people are finally talking about how he isn't that great.

Even as a Fan, GOmens fandom is so...weird. See, in other fandoms people won't give much of a flying f/ck about the authors besides some mild respect or praise, but GOmens praise Neil SO HARD, despite giving off some iffy vibes (that now I understand why, after that big post) Never liked how almost every single POC character in GO has such a minimal role, same with women characters, the fact he's been caught (and that can be easily checked) lying about his ideas surrounding GOmens, the way he went from "Is not a romance, but it can be if you want to" -> "i always wrote it as a love story" also how he went from "There won't be another season because of Terry and because the ideas for the next book were incorporated in the show" -> "It was in 2019 when I finished writing S2 with the ideas I discussed with Terry before he died" and like seriously no one never noticed how much of a clown he his lying and backpedalling all over again again? Then there's how bad rep for fat people Sandman was and instead of accepting criticism he just keeps giving some "vague intelligent answer" and sits and waits for his legion of fans with a parasocial relationship to defend him. But somehow he's treated as a world treasure and a genius with a big brain. And this is less problematic and more petty but I'll be honest. He isn't that much of a good writer anyway? The prose is okay is good, but the worldbuilding and lore and characters is mostly edgy and lacks deepness. His fans seriously want to make a sea out of muddle puddles,,, and that's fair! Is such a big part of fan culture to dig into the smallests of things and make an universe out of a cardbox background character, but please, don't give Neil the credit that he doesn't deserve. And what proves more to me that he isn't that good of a writer, is just...take a look at that mess of a S2 of Good Omens, it was so bad that some people had to THEORIZE that it was bad on purpose. I have such a beef with S2, characters like Muriel, Saraqael and Michael and Maggie and Nina were so heavily promoted and of course everyone was hyped, finally more POC, more disabled characters, and yay, women! And they're lesbians! And and...and hold on, how it is that Muriel didn't do that much at all? How it is that Saraqael after being so hyped BARELY had almost nothing to do, is really that all the disabled rep we got? How is it that Michael and Uriel barely had anything to do and were just background characters again? It just angers me with how with so many fem-presenting characters, and POC and disabled persons cast, they literally add nothing to the series, AND NO ONE EVER TALKS ABOUT IT. Is just this endless praise for Neil and his oh big brain. All praise Neil Gaiman, our lord and saviour of queer people. HOW IT IS, THAT THE TWO LESBIANS HYPED ROMANCE WAS ALL RELATED TO AZIRAPHALE MEDDLING WITH THEM TRYING TO SHIP THEM? And it also was bad, very badly done, is really this the women representation we got, seriously??? Talking about misleading advertising.

S2 was such such a mess, it just shows how much Good Omens needed Terry to be, well, Good Omens. I really suspect Neil stole ideas from the fandom because S2 was just a trainwreck of all the fanfic tropes you could find in GO fandom and is almost disrespectful to Terry's work in Good Omens, and I don't care for how much Neil makes his friendship with Terry as a pity party and as a "it gives me so much joy, Terry would be so happy", because seriously it's almost manipulative. Talking about Manipulative. His meddling with fandom is starting to feel unprofessional, but this ask is already long... Sorry lmao, something on me snapped after getting finally the solid evidence that Neil .Is. Not. Great

Oh he’s always been completely unprofessional but since he types in a mixture of corporate-speak and “cool dad” talk his fanbase doesn’t notice.

Here’s the thing about Neil, he’s both petty and extremely insincere. People criticized lolicon sin his presence and he was so offended on the behalf of weirdos who pleasure themselves to Hentai depicting child molestation that he wrote a several paragraph long response dismissing simulated child pornography as simply being “icky speech” that should be protected by the sacred American constitution despite, you know, the fact he’s not even American so his weird obsession with the first amendment and only ever really bringing it up to defend simulated child porn is and always has been suspicious.

As for his backpedalling, the man sees $$$$ and just goes for anything he can find to make more. People love to say “oh but he donates tens of thousands to charity!” yeah, usually to HIS charity for bailing out pedophiles. With funds typically out of the wallets of his fans due to fundraising it rather than coming out of his own checkbook so it’s not exactly a charitable action as much as it’s an empty gesture. And frankly he almost certainly just does it for tax benefits if we’re going to be honest here. He continued good omens because it would make money and generate more attention towards him and he’d be the brave hero who brought back show that did well. That’s it.

He’s just discount, off-brand Elon. Rich white man who thinks he’s gods gift to man despite bumbling through even the most basic concepts because his fans would walk into traffic blindfolded to defend him from even the mildest of criticism.

People on here just like him because they’re starstruck that a creator of a popular IP is active on this site and because he produces media that’s adapted with white middle aged twinks who are dubiously romantically affiliated.

#How was his weird comments complaining about people calling the main characters gay not the end for him #’oh they’re played by male actors and in love but it’s NOT GAY because they Uhm have no gender and also no genitals so they don’t have sex’ #there’s nothing wrong with writing the characters that way #but it’s very weird to make a major fuss because you think ‘gay’ only means two cis men boinking #and frankly his protests read more like he wasn’t actually comfortable with the idea of showing two male presenting characters #in an intimate manner #and the weird language he sometimes uses to describe characters in his writing really makes me thing I’m right about that

[dyketubbo]

not to be a woman womaning all over the place but i feel like if you genuinely like. do not have friends that are women then you have something to work on. if you cant think of any female characters that you treat the same way you do male characters then you have something to work on. if you cant handle even seeing "i dont like being called a guy/bro/lad/etc because it doesnt feel gender neutral to me" but can understand when one of your masc besties is uncomfortable with being called girlie or sister then you have something to work on. if your default in regards to how you handle other people and even characters is to assume masculinity then you have something to work on. if you cant even let women and otherwise feminine people speak about our experiences without bringing up how you suffer too then you have something to work on.

it doesnt matter if youre queer or a poc or a minority in whatever which way, if you do not include women in your life and cant even stand a fucking inch of genuine feminism (and i dont mean terfs but god is it fucking agonizing that thats all you people can think of when you hear feminism anymore) where the point is to treat women, all women, equally then you have something to work on. listen to women, even the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours (hell ESPECIALLY the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours). just like how we all have to check ourselves for racism, ableism, queerphobia, we all have to check ourselves for misogyny too. stop acting like it got solved at some point. it still exists and it exists within you and you have to actually fucking work on that. "women should be included in your life and you should listen to them" shouldnt be a hard goddamn pill to swallow.

#mask mews #truly i dont think if you can call yourself a feminist then thats a red flag. actually. like legit #yes fuck terfs we all fucking hate terfs but if thats all you can think of when you hear feminism youre letting them win #youre lettin the misogynistic assholes who call people 'feminazis' win. the mras the pieces of shit who treat our rights like a debate topic #and no transmascs yall are not exempt from them just because youve experienced misogyny too #i see misogyny from queer men all the time and yall need to stop acting like being a minority #prevents you from being harmful to other minorities #black men often perpetuate misogynoir. trans men often perpetuate transmisogyny. gay men often perpetuate lesbophobia #just as women can perpetuate the harmful shit against all of those groups too #we're all being shit to each other and we all need to check ourselves and im tired of people acting #like its just okay to like. exclude women from shit #its exhausting and its misogynistic and i think especially in this fandom none of you ever moved on from thinking gaming is only for men #watch yourselves. watch how you talk about women. about femininity. #how when yall talk about the annoying cis white women #its clear which of yall are annoyed about the cis white parts. and which of yall are annoyed about the woman part