#boomer parents

[elcanotorious]

I just read the phrase "the cost of refusing to take accountability for your actions is isolation" and my god does that shake me to my core.

#actually mentally ill #mental illness #mental health #boomer parents #no contact

[gentlelarkspur]

Be the change you want to see on the world. You can do it. You can get on your parents computer when they're asleep. Open their youtube account. Unsubscribe them from the podbros and f*x n3ws channels that have been radicalizing them. Don't worry. They're subscribed to hundreds of channels. They won't notice. Click the three dots under those conspiracy videos that get pushed into their feed. Pick "Not Interested" and tell them why. You don't like it. Tell Youtube to stop recommending the worst channels that keep coming up. Watch some Last Week Tonight episodes instead. Make sure its muted. Throw in a couple videos on their favorite hobby. Don't worry, you just need to click on them. Don't need to stay. Delete those videos from their watch history. It's easy, hit the big X on the side. Then go to Facebook and do it all again. You can do this every night. Delete the history and autofill when you're done. Don't get caught. You can do it. Change that algorithm. I believe in you.

#boomer parents #for legal reasons: I'm not saying you SHOULD do this #Just that you CAN do this #'why not just talk to them' says people who have not had 5 hour long circular arguments that go nowhere #safety first though

[she-is-ovarit]

The devaluation of elder people in western culture absolutely breaks my heart. There are reasonable frustrations to have against individuals of the boomer generation who are misogynistic, racist, etc., but to paint this frustration in broad strokes over an entire aged population is wounding us. I look around and I see just as many individuals who are homophobic, sexist, racist, etc., in denial of it or in encouragement of it. It's all the same politics just with new terms and technology.

What the boomer generation had was being told they were going to die in a nuclear war every day, and nearly experienced it during the Cuban Missile Crisis. Can you imagine feeing so powerless to protect the people you love as wealthy men with twitchy trigger fingers are in charge of you and everybody else's lives around you?

They saw and experienced their nation force it's male citizens to be sentenced to death and to be sentenced to kill in Vietnam. Can you imagine either sitting in the room with your family and hoping that a certain set of numbers aren't called? Or, perhaps, hoping that they would be, because many men back then hurt women in severe and immeasurable ways without nearly as many laws to protect abuse victims as there are today?

They were also the generation that observed homosexuality becoming recognized as legal in 1967 (different from gay marriage being passed), and this was promptly followed by the AIDs epidemic. Can you imagine being a gay or lesbian boomer back then? Can you imagine holding your dying loved one's hand as they are essentially killed after they contracted a common cold due to a disease that destroys their immune system? Can you imagine getting this disease and understanding you're going to die slowly and painfully and are scared, and then nobody wants to touch you?

This is also the generation that received the news of a black teenager refusing to move to the back of the bus. They watched or even participated in marches on DC spearheaded from Martin Luther King Jr. and then observed their own government assassinate him years later. Many people in this generation and their protests were why the Civil Rights Act of 1964 was passed. This was also the generation that was sent to the last American Indian boarding/residential schools, and the generation of Natives who endured the events at Wounded Knee in 1973 by the bloodied hands of the feds.

When we drag down this entire generation, we're also dragging down the boomer women who were beat in the streets by their husbands because domestic violence laws were not yet passed, and even after they were men were still en masse violent in public. We're dragging down the women who were involved in the hippie movement, protesting the Vietnam war, and the women who put their lives at risk marching for their rights in the civil rights movement. We're dragging down the women who established the first rape crisis centers and domestic violence organizations.

We're dragging down the generation that looked to the stars and sent us to the moon.

And this generation also is going through the same events we are. They saw the rise of security cameras being placed into parking lots and the slow erasure of privacy. They went through the #MeToo movement. They experienced (and some died from) COVID-19. They were more resourced, but many also suffered through the two recessions with us. They want us to help them understand this confusing technology that they did their best to parent us through even though it was some new magic they didn't quite understand. They're getting cancer alongside us because of the water contamination and environmental pollution. They went through the same story we are going through: the greater population being oppressed by the rich, and the greater population being divided by politics and social issues.

My intention isn't to say that sexism, homophobia, racism, etc. needs to be accepted or given a pass when it's done by someone from the boomer population - how we handle these situations in our every day lives is nuanced and sometimes its best to cut our parents out of our lives because their unresolved trauma is now hurting us. My message is that it is heartbreaking to know that there is a relationship wound between our generations, because our elders know and have experienced so much, and they have little time left on this earth with us. Their most treasured moments with their parents were probably the exchange of intergenerational knowledge, and even this isn't happening between us because instead Millennials, Gen X, and Gen Z look to the internet for answers instead. And because of this we don't get stories straight out of human history from them.

Their generation went through so much and are now seeing their children withdraw into our screens. Yes it makes us frustrated and it makes us roll our eyes when they complain about us being materialistic or having no social skills because of social media. I don't know. Sometimes I do get offended and my 72 year old father's words hurt and come off as out of touch. But I can't blame my mom or my dad for holding that resentment when they probably feel a core part of the generational relationship - the sharing of intergenerational knowledge - being stolen away by technology.

#tangent #boomers #intergenerational knowledge #human history #generational knowledge #millenials #gen z #gen x #boomer parents #baby boomer generation #elders

[goodwomanbadlady]

Five hours. Five hours between the neighbor's shouting match with their dead car battery and my mom calling assuming I'd be up. Even when I am home completely alone, I can't be permitted a fecking full sleep. And somehow I'm lazy (i.e. TIRED) and have an attitude problem. Gee, I wonder what causes that?! 😒😩

#i need sleep #intentional sleep deprivation? #third shift problems #boomer parents #i'm so tired

[o0katiekins0o]

Having your strict parents become grandparents is freaking wild.

My dad freaks out about casual cussing in front of my kids.

But one time when I was the same age my oldest is now, he was mad at me for taking a promotional Star wars prize out of a bag of Doritos and called me a "Lout".

And I didn't even know what it meant and had to look it up.

Honestly I wish he'd just saved me some time and called me an asshole.

#parenting #boomer parents #boomers be boomering #ex fundie #exvangelical

[tenderbittersweet]

Boomer moms will be losing their shit and you’ll ask them what’s wrong and they’ll scream NOTHING! at you with blood pouring from their mouths before turning back to angrily putting dishes away

#text post #boomers #boomer parents #personal #op

[foolondahill17]

My cousin wrote a book about her lived experience as a young woman in the 80s with limited access to abortion.

About the book, my anti-abortion dad emailed me:

"I know you are a very perceptive and objective person. As you read it, I think you are aware that Julie [cousin] has an agenda, and you may need to take some of the things she writes with a grain of salt."

I admire my restrain in not emailing him back:

"You're right. I am a very perceptive and objective person, which is why I know you also have an agenda, and I may need to take some of the things you write about with a grain of salt."

#abortion #us politics #boomer parents

[buildabruh]

#tiktok #gen z #boomers #gen z thoughts #boomer parents #funny tiktok #it’s funny cause it’s true

[breakfastteatime]

Shout out to everyone ever told to "take your coat off inside, otherwise you won't feel the benefit outside!!!!"

#winter #boomer parents

[dddemigirl]

#tiktok #not mine #parents #parent #toxic parents #bad parent #boomer parents #gen x #family #growing up

[herbirdglitter]

Just had to give my dear mother the “perhaps you should talk about your feelings to the man you’ve been married to for 35 years” speech. She says he “doesn’t do emotions well.” Yeah no shit Sherlock. The only emotion I’ve seen him show in the last 18 years was the occasional angry outburst, the one time he cried when his dad died, and the one time he cried at the end of a Lord of the Rings marathon.

Parenting your emotionally constipated and manipulative boomer parents is difficult kids. Don’t do it

She thinks opening up to her therapist (whom she never mentions because of course that’s taboo) is enough. Again, she’s been married to this man for 35 years. Maybe it’s a South African thing. Either way please send help and also caffeine because this is fucking exhausting

#toxic parents #boomer parents

[darthkieduss]

To think that I admired you, well I don't need your condescension I'm not a child to protect Was talk of virtue just pretension? Was I too naive to expect you To heed the morals you're purveying?

Emily's verse from "You Didn't Know" connects to me as I have parents that to this day treat me like a child.

#Condescending parents #Boomer Parents #Hazbin Hotel #I'm not a child #Don't treat me like a child

[taurgo]

Christ you ask your parent to do the most basic of self reflection and all of a sudden it's "well I'm glad your so perfect" and not "you're right actually there's zero need to scream at the top of my lungs about sports because I can express both my enthusiasm and dismay in a healthy way like an adult"

#like yeesh this is why i keep my visits to a minimum #like wow turns out when your angry and yell at the same tone between your child and minor inconveniences or sports #its hard for kids to tell the difference #sammumbles #boomer parents

[garlaholic]

When I was trapped, dependent on my abusive parent, and my siblings were multiple states away with limited contact with her, I had a depressive humor but I didn't usually share it with my siblings/sister. The little bit I did expose of humor, my sister told me the depressive humor looks really bad and it was embarrassing. Now I'm the child with the least contact with that parent and my siblings, who now live closer, see her and talk on the phone with her for hours and both of them are showing classic signs of depression, including the same humor I had that was apparently so embarrassing.

I would laugh or say, I told you so if it wasn't so depressing.

Like my brother just sent a meme about how people assume dads with young kids don't have depression and it's like? Dude are you okay? I mean that's more than they did for me but whatever.

My sister sent a meme captioned "Live. Life. Lobotomy." yet when I sent similar memes or made similar jokes when I was being abused at home, she gave me a tongue lashing.

At this point, it feels exhausting because they left me in that shit, under the same roof, unable to escape the abuse or get a job to leave. So now they're both adults who can hang up the phone or set boundaries as they have more freedom than I did as a kid at home.

Guess I just have to reluctantly watch and laugh it off 🤷🏽‍♀️

#abuse #boomer parents #rant post

[cherryblossombombs]

Mom: you don't watch anything on TV, you're just on youre phone on all time.

Me: *internally*: maybe I don't watch TV anymore is because there is nothing good on TV anymore and I steam my series/movies online :/, but sure, once again it's the social medias that causes these poor millennials/gen z to not watch another rerun of Reba or generic hallmark movies. Maybe it's also because you don't know what im looking at on my phone/computer 24/7. Yeah I love social media, but I watch shows/movies, but whenever I recommended things to you, you don't want to watch them lol.

#boomer parents

[smtgpink]

Mia madre: "Eh, tu non hai mai visto le cassette vero?"

Madre, ho quasi 30 anni

#boomer parents