#but they require 3 years of experience...

[plumbewb]

just julia, a bachelorette challenge ♡

julia feng is back at it again after trying for a chance at romance with the lovely scarlett on @theosconfessions love is embarrassing bc (we hope my girl finds the love she deserves, the top 5 was just announced so go check it out!! <3) there will be seven spots in the del sol mansion, waiting to be filled with your lovelies! this will be minimal & casual as this is my first challenge there will not be too much story telling as that really isn’t my strong suit but we’re gonna damn well try & my laptop isn’t the best so i can’t do toooooo much! so please bare with me, and now onto..

a little about julia~

julia feng is twenty-six years old, and the adopted daughter of lily & victor feng. previously, she had thought she was a lesbian but has been experimenting since love is embarrassing, now she as came out as pansexual. she is the owner of feng beauty, and has a youtube channel where she emassed over one million followers. she was living in the spice district in san myshuno but moved to del sol valley after appearing on the bachelorette. julia loves rock & blues, and enjoys attending concerts and local shows. she’s a big hopeless romantic, and dreams of finding her one and only (& living happily ever after all that jazz). julia is very down to earth, despite being very rich, she doesn’t like being in the public eye. she wants someone to love her for her, not just the feng name, and that’s been hard for her as she only finds people who want to be with her for being rich. she’s never had a had a real relationship, only flings. but she knows what she wants, she’s gonna be thirty soon, she knows she’s ready to is ready to settle down & give her all to someone (not just her work). she knows a reality tv show may not be the place to find love, but she’s willing to try! you can read more about julia here!

requirements

⭒ humans only, maybe next time occults <3 ⭒ young adults preferred, any gender welcome ⭒ alpha/mix preferred, but maxis hair only ⭒ backstories are welcome, be detailed ⭒ include traits, skills, likes & dislikes ⭒ you can give them skills in-game or i can do it for you ⭒ no romantic traits or aspirations!!! ⭒ one outfit for each category ⭒ be okay with mods like ww & basemental

deadline ✄

the deadline will be two weeks from now on the 8th of may, please tag me @plumbewb & #justjulia for all submissions so i can see them & reblog them properly! sorry if that seems too soon, i’m excited to get started on this. subject to change depending on how soon i receive all sims!!! (any questions just reach out via messages)

#justjulia #a bachelorette challenge #ts4 bachelorette challenge #the sims 4 bachelorette challenge #ts4 #the sims 4 #sims 4 #sims #the sims

[californiannostalgia]

Processing identity as a child abuse survivor

Recently I had a huge revelation. Come with me on this childhood trauma realization journey (if you want).

This post was written for those wavering on the 'was it abuse' question.

Fair warning, each of these revelations were a whammy. I recommend you keep in mind that these revelations will transform the way you see yourself and the world. This took me out of commission for hours at a time.

Revelation 1: Was I Abused?

Read this Tumblr post. Go down the list. Check the 'yes'es and 'maybe's.

'Was I abused' is a yes or no question. I need you to really think about this if your answer is 'kind of'. If you could be truly honest with yourself, what would your answer be?

For years I've gone to the logic of 'it wasn't that bad,' and 'at least the worst didn't happen,' or 'others have had it worse'. This is such a low bar. You deserve better than the bar your parents set for you. The socioeconomic circumstances and the normalization of violence in your living area? Yes, influential. But not a justification.

At the end of the day, the veracity of these statements don't even matter. It's a yes or no question: 'Am I a survivor of child abuse?'

It may take a really long time to truly process, and even then it might feel uncomfortable saying it like it's truth. I need you to know your truth is truth. It's a yes or no question.

Take a break. I recommend you don't progress further until you've processed Revelation 1.

(Shameless plug-in of my fandom blorbo interests: Rick Riordan's Trials of Apollo series really helped me with this first revelation. It made me feel seen and less alone. It may not be perfect, but I personally liked it!)

Revelation 2: What does this mean? (health-wise)

Listen to this Ted Talk by an expert (medical professional).

This is the part where I got angry and really fucking sad. Let yourself be sad. Let yourself be furious. Our life is not our fault and we're still stuck with this lot.

Genuinely this was such a shock for me to realize. The thing that has the biggest impact on my life is not my anxiety, depression, ptsd, insomnia, blood pressure, immune health, etc. The root cause of my physical and mental illnesses is Adverse Childhood Experiences.

ACE is more common than you'd think. Acknowledging that what happened to you was bad will be beneficial to humanity's survival in the long run. Like any illness, ACE can be fought at a societal level.

Take a break. I recommend you don't progress to the next revelation until you've processed Revelation 2.

Take your time to be angry and sad. Take forever. You never have to forgive your abuser, even if they change their behavior. The chance at a civil acquaintanceship you might be willing to extend to your parents doesn't require your forgiveness.

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Revelation 3: Why is your therapist recommending you retell your life story?

This one is mostly for when you have steady access to a therapist. Here are some things I wish I'd known before seeking out therapy in the US.

(Is it shitty that you can't get therapy on your own terms when you're underage? Yes, it fucking is. To those of us who survived to adulthood: holy shit y'all. At 19 I felt like absolute fucking bullshit, like my brain was a burning ball of tangled barbed wire. It does feel absolutely shitty. But reaching 19 is an achievement.)

The thing is, I do or say a lot of things that I later come to think of as embarrassing, inappropriate, or in certain circumstances, potentially abusive. Genuine trigger reactions happen. I will always have to live with a piece of my parents in my head. But I don't want to do to another person what they did to me. Self-awareness is what separates me from my abusers.

What to do about this? Number 1: chill out. You're not gonna be your abuser. Humans are unique and imperfect. They have not replicated themselves in you. It's okay to make mistakes when you're talking or reacting. Your brain is fucked up. You can do something differently next time.

Number 2: read this article about Overthinking, Over-apologizing, Oversharing, and Overwhelmed as trauma responses.

Then read this article on how to deal with Unresolved Trauma.

Yeah. It be like that. Isn't it fucked up? Recognizing the four Os in my behavior helped me realize I'm not an antisocial asshole by default.

Unresolved trauma is the root cause for my behaviors that I think of as unhealthy. This revelation happened very recently for me. Before this point in time, I couldn't understand why I would want to recount traumatic events in therapy.

At this point in time, I have regular access to a therapist I'm okay with. Going over memories and deconstructing the blame system seems like a reasonable thing to try.

What happened to you as a child is not your fault. You're not the one who landed yourself in your life. You've been given an unfairly difficult situation to be responsible for. You did not create your coping mechanisms for shits and giggles.

So yeah. Number 3: figure out your life with the help of a therapist. Let's see where we are ten years later or something.

Nothing is easy and everything is confusing. Take a break, hydrate, eat, sleep, do something nice for yourself. Do something you like doing. Thanks for reading.

#child abuse #domestic abuse #trials of apollo #mental health #life advice #my thoughts #resources #therapy #Youtube

[syn0vial]

how each of the BG3 companions gained their combat expertise

wyll: i was trained as to be a formidable and honorable combatant since i was young, i've protected the frontiers for years, and i have magic devil powers karlach: i was forced to serve on the front line of the blood wars in hell for the past decade lae'zel: i was brought up in a strict, militaristic warrior society that emphasized martial prowess even in its youngest members shadowheart: i spent most of my life being prepared in the ways of subterfuge and magic by a brutal cult gale: i've spent decades obsessively studying magic and even studied under the goddess of magic herself to perfect my craft astarion: i've got a lot of repressed rage and a dagger i found on the ground 15 minutes ago. let's go turn someone inside out :)

#seriously DOES astarion have any combat training or experience prior to the campaign? #bc all we know about his life is ''magistrate for a bit and then unwilling honeypot for 200 years'' #neither of which seems like it would tend someone towards any sort of combat role #i guess he kidnapped kids occasionally? but that doesn't seem like it would require a ton of combat prowess #honestly i'm very amused by the notion that astarion has zero martial background and is just very enthusiastic about stabbing people #maybe that's all you really need.... #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 spoilers #baldur's gate 3 spoilers

[beaft]

if i think about job hunting too much i get so angry that my face blows up and goes bright red like a person in a cartoon. so i try not to

#no role should require you to write multiple mini essays about 'a time i exhibited good customer service' #(or whatever) #entry level jobs should not require 3 years of experience. #recruiters should email you after an interview to let you know if you got rejected or not. #you shouldn't have to change your cv for every job you apply to. #you should not have to spend over an hour writing an application for a minimum wage job. #your company should compensate you for the cost of your commute #interviews should be judged based on your skillset rather than your ability to answer cryptic questions in a socially acceptable way #ahhhhhhhhh. ahhh ahh ahhhhh

[antirepurp]

the sonic movies are fun but if they turn this into a fucked up cinematic universe im going to sink my claws into something. do not force me to Consume a million miniseries and spin-offs just so i can understand the plot of a single movie. do not ruin this for me

#soda offers you a can #look. early 2000s sonic games all tie into a larger narrative. but with the exception of shth you don't Need to play all of them #you can pick up sa2 and enjoy it on its own without sa1. you can pick up heroes and enjoy it one its own. same for 06 #shth rides on you knowing what happened in sa2 and a bit about heroes but it's a very exceptional game in many ways anyway #so it gets a pass. it's spiders george and we can have one of those #point being that i don't want these movies to become an impenetrable wall of lore #where you have to watch everything tangentially related to them to get the full experience #miniseries and shit are fine but i don't want to be required to Consume Consume Consume if i want to enjoy One Movie once every 3-5 years #without feeling like im missing key details and elements and shit #sorry i just thought about marvel for a bit and turned into a feral animal im good now

[peachcitt]

normally i never make resolutions because im of the opinion that you can change your life whenever you want and technically speaking any day of the year can be the start of a new year. that being said. my past year was kind of garbage.

so! i have decided to be more keen on new years resolutions, especially making ones that will hopefully make me feel better if something i can't control affects me negatively. i actually made a huge list of resolutions, more than i put here, that all kind of boil down to trying out ways to make my life more comfortable and fulfilling for myself and the people around me.

happy new year everybody i hope this year treats us all kindly :)

#new year's resolutions #new year's resolutions 2023 #my art #peach stuff #also i know it's a scientific fact that if you write your goals down you're more likely to achieve them #have i ever written my goals down if i wasn't forced to before? no. and maybe that's why ive been so shit at reaching my goals<3 #also about the goal that's about finding a hobby that uses my hands: ive realized recently that both of my main hobbies #(reading and writing) are both very brain-heavy things to do. like those are both two things that require a lot Being Inside My Head #and you know! maybe ive realized that it's Not Good to be in my head so much! #so i want to find a more tactile hobby that won't require so much brain time and can connect me more with the physical world #also i drew this all in ms paint with my new laptop and laptop pen and maybe i just don't understand ms paint enough #but this was kind of a bitch to draw. where is the layer function. why was my laptop screen still registering my skin when i was using pen #but still i like how it looks. especially the peach and my hair. the peach just because it looks cute and peach-like #and i think this is the first time ive drawn/colored my hair since i died it this past summer so it was fun to experiment with #how to make it accurate but still cohesive with the colors i already had down #my hair is actually variations on an auburn sort of shade since its faded from a really shitty (self-done) red dye job #but the pink here is fun :) #anyway. that's all

[gottagobuycheese]

word counts were made to murder me specifically, actually

#why do people talk so much #why can't everything you say be the exact minimum amount required to move the scene along #why must you actually CONVERSE with each other #the final make up seems like it's gonna be 50% 25% 25% and that's if I'm lucky #I was really hoping for 1/3 1/3 1/3 but we'll see lol #maybe in editing #if I have time to edit #ah I didn't do any questions today either #this first quarter of the year is going to be so painful #and yet for better or for worse the art experiments continue... #Cheese's personal molasses

[banannabethchase]

Oh hello monstrous wave of anxiety get the fuck out of here right fucking now.

#it is extremely difficult to do one's job when's one's job requires others to do their job correctly #I cannot write this learning plan for this child if the classroom teacher does not give me samples of the child's work #nor can I do so if the testing specialist does not give me the test results beyond a random number #standard scores can tell me the approximate learning level of the child #standard scores do not tell me anything about the individualized skills a kid can complete independently #this is why people without special education experience shouldn't be allowed to go into sped leadership without a year in the field #insufferable arrogant fools who think they know everything are my rage trigger #I've been writing IEPs since 2014 lady stop pretending like you know more than i do #anyway we're also getting four to six inches of rain in the next 3 days and my campus can barely handle one so that's on my mind too #anxiety meds you are gonna get some sara time tonight #in which sara is a teacher #fuck off anxiety

[impgall]

A woman talks to her maternal grandmother and the whole world collapses

#a woman visits her maternal grandmother with her older sister 1 dying 2 drunk #a woman and her older sister visit their maternal grandmother 2 dead 3 injured the killer is still at large #etc etc a family ruined. shes mothering her mother. shes enemies with herself. after 25 years she remains chained w umbilical cordage #a 5'6 brunette stands in front of a mirror and it reflects back with a 4'11 woman with green hair. listen to their voices #im standing at the end of a hallway. a 4 year old is on the other end. shes speaking Pennsylvanian dutch. #i know her. i hear stories about her. i took a picture of her gravestone a few years back #it was with family plot that we arent related to. #a 13 year old girl sits in the car with her mother. its been a few months since her parents separation. #rejoice! this 13 year old had been promoted to therapist. entry level no experience required. #a woman drinks at a bar with her older sister after visiting their grandmother #a woman grieves the loss of her father with his mother in law #a woman lays on her bed in the evening #she laments her strained feelings towards her family but it wont be forever. one day theyll stop causing strain #and then she'll grieve them too

[butchvamp]

every job i actually want either requires 3 degrees and 5 billion years of experience or is unpaid volunteer work this shit fucking sucks. trapped in hell oscillating between retail and food service until i kill myself i guess

#i did unpaid work for like 3 yrs before covid where all i did was make a living stipend #and honestly most of those jobs were the best jobs i've ever had #even tho i was flat broke the entire time #at least it was kinda fun #my job now is just Miserable #and its the only kind of job i can get so #i can really only see myself feeling fulfilled doing trail work again #or doing work for some kind of lgbt organization #unfortunately i dont think i'll ever do trail work again since my body is slowly deteriorating lol #and most work for lgbt orgs is volunteer or office work which i Can do like. anyone can send an email #but they require degrees and like years of experience and all the ones i apply to i never ever hear back #i hate my current job so much to the point where i like fantasize abt kms before getting to work every morning lmfao #but i also know getting a new job wont fix the problem #cus the only jobs i can get are all the same and are all horrible #like going from target to another retail chain that is exactly the same or going back to food service #which is even worse. #cool how this is just my life forever. work a bad job you hate until you die! and that's it

[coolcarabiner]

i love having a religious studies degree it’s so much fun because every day i receive emails from ziprecruiter and indeed with jobs ranging from shake shack team member ($22 an hour) to catholic charities disaster case management specialist ($63,000 to $73,000 per year)

#and realistically. i’m only qualified for the first one lmfao #technically i’m qualified for the catholic job i have a bachelors and the one year of experience is preferred not required. however. #i’ve worked retail and food service since i was 19 lmao it’s me n these $20/hr jobs forever baby #also the $19.50 i’m gonna make at my new job is the most i’ve Ever made. when i got hired at sbux in 2019 i made $9.75/hr in nv. #and my gf at the time was working at mf hot topic in the mall for $7.50/hr are you insane 2019 and u pay 7.50???? anyways. how could one not #be radicalized by this lmfao like i know people who paid 70k a YEAR in tuition for undergrad and graduate school who can’t get jobs. hell. #it’s hell i gotta unsubscribe to these fucking emails. ok wage rant over now <3 #i simply don’t understand how we r supposed to be living like this! #posts

[here-be-a-dragon]

job hunting is literal hell on earth

#its listed as an entry level job what do you MEAN 3+ years experience required #its listed as remote what do you MEAN i would have to move to florida #i am filled with rage #i speak

[nancyboyy]

like i know i’m not the only one who feels like this especially post graduation but i just feel sort of hopeless about ever having a good career i’m passionate about. like im trying, i still am, but it’s really weird when ur entire family is staring at you and is confused as to why yoh didn’t get a job w a good salary right out of college and can’t support yourself when none of them did that either

#i think my family bought more into my gifted kid thing than i ever did #like idk im not a miracle child i’m just a 20 something w a degree that requires 3 years experience to get an entry level job

[eats-the-stars]

Consider Machines Over Customers

don’t know how useful this is, but for people who hate the customer interaction part of their jobs, like, if you think that is the worst part of your job, consider looking for a job that does not involve you interacting with customers. the hard part is that all the “basic job that you don’t need a college education to get” kind of jobs that I could think of to look for on job sites were like call center work and waitress and hotel staff and front desk work and retail and, you know, customer service positions. so I was searching job sites with those key words and did not know about a lot of other options. namely...machines. yes, that’s right. turns out there are so many machines out there and they all need people to operate them. there’s also warehouse stocking jobs but i haven’t tried one of those so I can’t endorse or diss them. BUT...I am working a machine operating job right now and I actually love machines. they are great. they also have yet to yell at me about an expired coupon. i mean, sometimes they do complain about thread breakage or refuse to read a positioning mark that is RIGHT THERE, but still...I love machines. I also do not have to see customers at all. like, I know the orders go to customers eventually, but I do not need to help them place the orders or receive the calls when their package does not arrive on time. I just need to fill the order and I’m done. whatever happens next is out of my hands. actually...the delivery workers might be another “customers are not my problem” option. they pick up orders from us and I think they just need to whip those at the front doors of customers, but they don’t actually need to talk to them.

just...the main point is that I spent a long time stuck thinking that all the “non-career” jobs I could get required customer interaction. unless you were, like, a cook in the back or stocking jobs, and i can’t cook or lift that much. so my advice is...just try getting creative with the keywords you plug into job sites. I hit on my current job by pure chance, no idea why it showed up when I was typing in stuff like “front desk” and “call center representative.” If you want machine stuff, try typing in “manufacturing” or “assembly” or “operator” or “production.” I am mostly just throwing this out there into the void in case it helps anyone. I spent way too long doing customer service and hating how draining it was and how much I would dread going to work. but now I am shocked that I actually do not mind going to work. it is tiring, but only physically, and otherwise actually enjoyable. so...consider machines over customers.

#job stuff #i don't think most ppl are generally aware of these kinds of jobs #especially since whenever i mention that i'm an industrial embroidery machine operator #people tend to have no idea what that means or what i do #i literally needed no experience or education either. i think these type of jobs have a lot of entry level positions #and they did train me to do it and there's nothing that would require college education #i am not saying this is true for all jobs like this but i did spot some similar jobs on Indeed #usually it looks like they just require high school education #some look like they're more high end than others and give benefits but might require prior experience #if you wanted one of the nicer higher paying jobs that say 'prefer 3 years of manufacturing experience' #i feel like you could easily do a few years of a lower-paying 'no prior experience necessary' jobs like the one i have #and then upgrade once you've got the experience #also this may or may not be a factor in how much i am enjoying my new job but i am very autistic #so a job that focuses on attention to detail and sorting and matching and also colors and lots of repetition... #yeah it's like they made this job just for me as a treat #and i'm not saying your jam is definitely machines. just that i really love them but i never thought they were an option #for like your average person who did not get some kind of welding certification or engineering degree or something #because i did not do any of that. they just let me touch the machines right away #i'm not even good at math this feels like a sin #but i love these machines way more than i've ever enjoyed a customer interaction #so i highly recommend trying to look for more 'obscure' jobs that you didn't hear about during school job fairs #also some other jobs i did know about w/no customer interaction but have not personally tried #are data entry clerk and transcriptionist #also i love animals so i looked for jobs where i work with animals but no dice for me #i don't really want to work at a doggy daycare that's too high energy and lots of cleaning but i did consider it #my friend was a dog groomer for a while but that is also not my jam #oh and a lot of teaching assistant/teaching positions don't actually require an education #they seem to be always hurting for staff #my sister is an aide at an elementary school and she didn't go to school for that #hmm...janitorial jobs. landscaping. delivery

[peakvincent]

honest to god just saw a position describe itself as entry level with a pmp requirement. i want to walk into lake michigan

#* #blah job law blog #(a pmp requires 3 years of pm experience to even apply for)

[iloveyoumorethansoup]

Ok college review now that I’m almost a month in. I’ve gained nothing from this experience but a janky apartment that I love

#no literally like. I’m not a people person. so that aspect of college doesn’t appeal to me #and also I’m in 4 classes. my library science one I was excited for is entirely geared towards being a school librarian and teaching #so I’m out here making lesson plans. which I have negative interest in being a teacher #my business class is structured in a way that makes lectures useless but I’m required to go #my theatre class. we haven’t really started anything so my opinion is neutral but tainted by last years experience. 2.5 out of 10 #my programming class is fun though. I’ll be the one programming sketchy apps now #i do really love my apartment #but yeah. i don’t often leave it. and god people love to knock at my door and windows #i don’t like. wanna shut myself in and not speak to anyone ever. but I’m not saying I’d hate that either #bc ok. last year I talked to two people. one of which didn’t come back this year and the other one who chronically cancels plans #but also just in general. confuses me?? like bestie will do something and I’m just like. why #oh but there’s 2 guys who live above me I know. one of which was the one banging on my window at 1am wasted #the other guy is nice but also talking to him tends to tire me out bc he’s the type of person who has to be right #not in like an argumentative way. moreso the type to repeat himself and rephrase things until ur like fine fine ok #also a tiny bit of a show off/one upper type #but I do have my friend who lives a good 45 mins away we see each other often and it’s fun #so yeah that’s my academic stuff and my social circle summary! #also. my ex best friend? lived 45 mins away. same city. saw her like 2-3 times the whole year. she could have done so much better #but yeah. i don’t do much in college and am 97% certain I’m taking a gap year to go hang out at my summer job #soup talks