#close acquaintances at most

[that-disabled-princess]

I remember seeing a post about how being aromantic is akin to being allergic to corn, and like... yeah. Being romance-repulsed, loveless, and aplatonic in addition to being aromantic is like being allergic to olives and corn. And also their common substitutes. Olive oil and cornstarch are used in everything. There is no escape.

You tell someone you can't have a food because olive oil was used, and it's "oh, but surely you aren't allergic to olive oil! That's not a real thing."

You can't have a food because there's cornstarch in it and it's, "oh, but it's such a small amount of corn, surely you'll be fine. I know you can't have corn, but a tiny amount of cornstarch?"

You tell someone that, actually, you are also allergic to a common substitute, and it's "so you just can't eat at all? that's so sad!" or "then what CAN you eat? it's so sad you have such a dislike for food."

"Surely, you aren't actually repulsed by romance! That's so sad! And also, you made that up!"

"I know you're aromantic, but you can't actually be uncomfortable with people using the word 'love' as a blanket for emotions, can you?"

"So you don't feel love for your friends AT ALL? You just don't feel AT ALL? How sad!"

It's exhausting.

#i'm so sick of being told my very self is depressing #like fuck off tIfFaNy *i don't care* #i am living my best life #like yes tiffany i AM repulsed by romance and uncomfortable with overly romantic things #i AM uncomfortable with people automatically using ''love'' as a blanket word to describe my emotions and the emotions of those around me #saw a post that was like ''your friends love you more than you know and love you just as much as you love them'' and now i'm venting #sigh #also i don't like the word ''friend'' being used for me unless... well i don't actually know the ''unless'' #all i know is there are a couple people i'm really close to who i'm comfortable with using the word ''friend'' with #and most others are friendly acquaintances /pos #aromantic #loveless aro #amatonormativity #romance repulsed #aplatonic

[yardsards]

"i dunno, i don't think i have social anxiety or anything, i'm just awkward. like, i can do public speaking with no problem so long as i have a script, it's just that certain weird things make me nervous. it's fine, i just make it sound worse than it is when talking to my therapists." <=guy whose gut feelings are frequently convinced that basically everyone wants to beat him with hammers

#eliot posts #my mental issues just tend to manifest Weirdly lol #some things that make me socially anxious: #asking for things #approaching/talking to people individually when i previously only knew them in group settings #approaching ppl in general if i don't have a specific social script #talking one on one to much older adults #joining new groups of people where they know each other but i don't know all of them #also when ppl reference inside jokes to each other that im not in on i think they hate me and are leaving me out on purpose. bc they hate m #the middle stage between ''polite small talk acquaintances'' and ''actual close friends'' is both difficult and confusing AND scary #things that don't make me socially anxious that make most socially anxious ppl anxious: #public speaking #ordering food #making small talk when expected to #going places alone #so i'm totally mentally healthy see :)

[foolishnpd]

am I aplatonic or am I just incredibly narcissistic with the tendency to view the vast majority of people as a waste of time and not up to my level to even consider being friends with

#lilyroaring #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #it's not that I don't enjoy having friends #but I'm not unhappy in being alone either. I'm good enough for myself after all #but most people truly don't interest me #I don't have a desire to make friends #I don't feel that need for connection #I'm not incapable of making friends either. I used to be very social and well known around my school #but I just can't help but look down on most people #I think their attempts to befriend me are hilarious #I can play along for a bit but do they really expect it to come to anything? #it's different if someone's got traits I respect or even admire #but most people just don't have that #classmates or coworkers. why am I expected to get close to any of these people #they just bore me too much to be worth the effort of even maintaining status as an acquaintance #how can I expect to feel love for anyone when almost everyone is a boring irritating disappointment

[totheidiot]

i hate that the solar eclipse just now serves as a reminder that nobody loves me.

#🍂 arian's shit #IT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL AND NOTHING HAPPENED. but yeah #i will always think of the solar eclipse i witnessed and think about that #two people one of them my friend the other i thought i could consider my friend but HE PROBABLY DOESN'T GIVE A SHIT. #they both talked and did their things and laughed and they are so damn close to each other it almost made me cry and reminded me that #it was such a profound moment too when i realized what was going on #they were in another world that didn't have me and i get that. i do. they have known each other for a year and i abruptly showed up #two months ago and one of them we are getting close she likes me around #at least i think #the other one he is nice he is supposed to be like this he is nice to everyone that is who he is #so what is happening: he is completely indifferent to me. most he did was remember my name and face. but he is nice. #i like them both so so much it almosg does hurt when i stood there awkwardly almost like i was intruding #and i realized that i have never not been close to anyone #no acquaintances all the friendships i have had they sre the reason why i live and i know that they live for me too #we have known each other since kindergarten. they held my face and cried and told me that i was love when i was leaving for the last time #they love me. i am sure of it. #but now i don't have anyone near whom i do love. people don't love me. i used to be love. #it also hurts that i am Average Person In The World #i am not funny. i do not have unique quirks. i do not have a single talent. #all i am good for is saying the wrong things all time. #even in my old life i was someone. someone who isn't the same as the person who saw the solar eclipse today and felt all this #i was the idiot. I WAS THE IDIOT. i was the writer person. #i don't feel like any of these things now. they had a thing in common: their capacity to love and be loved. #i love very easily but i am not an easy person to love. #vent post #god this is such a small little thing i am the most pathetic thing in the world #feel free to scroll away don't even read this shit #arian contemplates his universe

[insignificantfailure]

I wonder if the person I consider my best friend even considers me her friend

#maybe I'm nothing more than a close (????) acquaintance to her that she sometimes talks to and has fun with #I wish I could say this is just in my head #but I explained the situation to my partner and she said that unfortunately it's most probably this way #it hurts #it hurts to bad #friends can shatter you #friends can literally break your heart #im sad and tired #i'm sad #alone with my thoughts #lonelihood #depressing shit #vent #venting #personal #friendship #friends #tw depression #mentally tired #anxienty

[cityandking]

"inquisitor!narayani would not be friends with companion!vesper" i would love to hear more about this

it's not personal or anything, it's just that inquisitor narayani lavellan isn't really friends with anyone in the inner circle. even the ones who profess to see the person beneath the mask don't really know her and don't really try to—varric outright tells her that no matter what, he sees her as some holy savior, and that kind of sours the whole Making Friends thing. they all have their own opinions on how she should act and what she should do and what it means to be The Herald of Andraste (a title she didn't ask for and doesn't want, saddled with a religion that isn't hers) and that makes connecting with people a little. hm. difficult.

#ok that's a Little untrue. she has people she's friends with but mostly at the work acquaintance level. idk if she's Close with anyone #maybe dorian but they had a rocky start. she likes bull and leliana (the spies) but they're also some of the most inaccessible #she'd get along with vesper fine but they wouldn't be Friends #narayani #I should say. the notable exception is solas; he may insist he's not dalish but the stories and history he holds are deeply compelling #as is the respect and admiration he pays her #and that elastic band of wanting that so clearly runs between them #solavellan

[sotogalmo]

9:24

I enjoy Schmelly but I would rather not have it be canon. Does that make sense??

Like. Keep them as best friends, at least

#time diary(?) #audrey/kellie's time diary #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #fnaf movie #mike schmidt #vanessa shelly #vanessa afton #schmelly #mikenessa #mike x vanessa #they are great for each other when they learn to heal together. but need as much alone time as possible to heal by themselves #in canon. the most close they are are actually moreso best known-acquaintances. at best. they know each others #pain(a lil. mike guesses about vanessa's while he told about his pain and why he has those pills) #not rlly against it. but like. romance for a guy who seemingly shows little to no thought about it?? weird feeling.. #and romance for a truama riddled woman? she.. i feel like she'll need to like. unmask & unlearn alot of it #so. give her time. ... yeah #<- writing smth about them. 👍

[pigeonriot]

when will i ever learn how to make close friends in my area sgsgsgsgdg i am just hanging out alone so much of my time shdhdhsg

#like i know ppl a lot of acquaintances here a lot of ppl i would say we are casual friends #but i am so bad at actually making friends w ppl u do regular stuff w dgsgsg #everyone always seems like they got their set of friends already and i dont wanna intrude sgsgsggs #most of my close friends dont live close to me😭 #my post #personal

[hoodieimp]

I fucking love the specific flavor of ND conversation where everyone is just infodumping back n forth and going "!!!!!!!!" whenever you hit on something that you Both really love and steamrolling thru 50 wildly different topics in the span of an hour, and you end up lowkey Exhausted afterwards but in a good, Energized "that was fun!!" way rather than a "my social battery is fuckin Drained from trying to Act Normal" way

#dizzyisms #brought to you by: had a discord call w a guy from my past English class last night and it was the best time I've had all week #probably the most I've ever talked abt BatIM to an IRL acquaintance who wasn't my partner hdjdkd #I WENT OFF ABT ONE DOOR CLOSES AU OF ALL THINGS AND HE SAID IT SOUNDED COOL #N SAID HE'D LIKE TO SEE SOME OF MY WRITING SOMEDAY #STILL VIBRATING ABT IT THANKS

[snekdood]

saw a post yesterday that was like "if you dont have trans women as friends u gotta think about why that is" and i really had to restrain myself from saying "it goes both ways my friend!". if you dont have any trans men as friends, ya gotta think about why that is also!

#personally? i dont choose my friends based on which minority category they belong to. #also im not out here going to 'trans group meetings' or whatever tf either. whoevers my friend is ppl who actually come into my life #who i actually get the chance to see and meet. consider: i havent actually met that many trans women irl at all. #i havent even met that many trans ppl irl at all in general- most of the trans ppl i DO happen across are NB #and i dont like making close friends online esp tumblr bc i dont trust none a yall #there are like two trans women i know that i met through someone else and 1 of them i literally just met and the other.......... based on #my interactions with her- i dont think we'd make great close friends. #acquaintances? sure. im mean thats kinda unavoidable at this point anyways. #the biggest issue is i havent met any trans women i think i'd actually click with- but thats a little unfair bc its hard to find friends #to begin with anyways let alone a trans woman specifically- if you think i gotta be out here hunting for trans women to be friends with to #fulfill your woke quota you got a weird fuckin world view on how friendships and the world in general works. #i dont make friends based on their transness or whatever tf thats fuckin weird. #theres a lot of trans women i follow online that i think i'd make great friends with- but the fact there aren't that many trans women #in general and the only ones i think i'd actually click with are ppl ill likely never meet irl? yeah i dont rly think its my #fault bud its kinda just the circumstance of life in general- there's just not a lot of trans people out there. #and no im not going to trans meetings bc that shit is usually toxic as hell anyways bye #new dating type of app but for looking for trans friends to make tumblr user buttfaceass happy about my choices #maybe if i lived in cali w my gay uncle i'd meet more but alas i live in missoura' and i dont blame trans women for wanting to hide #more here. shit i mean i do. #in total? irl? ive only met like 4 trans women. one of which im p sure is actually transfem and doesnt even live in my state #she and another one were part of a toxic abusive ass friend group and i really dont think im missing out on much. #so yeah what- you want me to try to befriend them again? bc im p sure my abuser filled their brains w bullshit about me so. #kinda not waiting on them to come around ever. #like im not exactly sure what that post wants me to do besides idk. act like the op of it? #go to toxic ass irl trans group meetings and befriend random ppl online who have no concept of friendship loyalty? yeah ill pass bud #actually actuall wait scratch that- i did know another trans woman--- she mightve been transfem too- but we met on discord #and primarily interacted there bc it was like a friendgroup discord and i think we were good enough friends we just never got super close #mostly bc im weary of queer friend groups that are predominately white and also i felt like that friendgroup only kept me around #to make fun of me. i dont think she was like that but.... the other ppl in it...... yeaaahhh... #so naturally we kinda stopped talking all together when i left the discord and stopped interacting w that friend group

[starpros-sunshine]

Also I have to confess when Eichi does the the "I've heard usually people do this and this" or anything in that vein as a statement it's so real to me

#speaking as someone who learned most of their way of existing from tv and movies ans audio books and audio dramas. #I wasn't confined to a hospital bed I was just very enamored with movies and TV shows and audio dramas #and never really interested in interacting with other kids #and I'm an only child #and my social life began around this winter when people started celebrating their birthdays and inviting me and hanging out and inviting me #before that I never did anything with my friend acquaintances #We're too close to be acquaintances but i don't like labeling people as friends it puts an obligation on the relationship #there's one of them i genuinely consider a friend but we mostly talk about our interests and that's where it stops #she's the only one I talk with outside of the shared WhatsApp chat and ever since her number one friend found another number one friend #We've started talking more because what else am I supposed to do #it's nice. I'm a tea drinker now. #somewhat #in movies they always have bigger friend groups but i cant manage that many relationships at once #so it's better if I reserve the term friend for people who I actually talk to outside of certain contexts #but yeah it's so interesting when life imitates art #teenagers are supposed to get drunk right recently I accidentally got drunk enough to deliver the finishing blow to an already weak glass #never doing that again imagine the things I could've revealed about myself #but it's a fascinating experience because now I can look at that in fiction and understand!! #and I've been told I'm a bit cartoonish in the way I carry myself #which is a little funny to me because I as a person am pretty apathetic to a Lot of things #few things that make me happy a lot of things that annoy me and the rest is jusg kind of in the soup #but it's fine rhats just what being normal is like i guess #i should sleep it's lateeeeee and I need to get up early tomorrow. #regrettably #enjoy the tags while you still can because those things will be going down with this post in a few hours when I'm awake again and #less uncomfortable with sharing any kind of personal information

[valdotjpg]

forever thinking abt where the fuck he got that flamesprayer from btw.

#ive seen a bucha hcs/theories regarding this specific topic but i cant rlly decide on one myself #cuz i think that the theories abt him being an ex hunter are cool but also like. he claims hes 'never made use of it' so im a bit torn #ik that he could be just like . lying. hypothetically. but i also have this disease that makes me believe everything gilbert says ever #so i think abt other ways he couldve gotten it. #for a while i just thought that he couldve like Bought it somewhere for self-defence #which is. yknow. still a possibility! albeit an unlikely one if u start overthinking it a bit #the flamesprayers description mentions that theyre (usually) used by 'certain members of the healing church' #and all the commoners in central yharnam are armed w/ simple guns and like . pitchforks and shit #so getting your hands on one of these bad boys would probably be a very rare occurence. like a church member kicking the bucket #and then their family or friends managing to keep the shit the church gave to the aforementioned person. and then parting ways w/ it #in exchange for a small fortune. #another possibility (which i quite like) is that it was a gift from someone #it could be from some random person we know nothing abt #OR. and hear me out here. gilberts place is close to ipsefkas place right. thats most likely where he used to receive his blood treatments #and iosefka wears the white church set. same set the dudes in cathedral ward wear. the ones that have flamesprayers #so like. *pushes my 'theyre friends' agenda on you* #ok most likely definitely not friends. Acquaintances #i think it somewhat fits iosefkas generous nature. maybe if she felt guilty enough abt not being able to cure him.. plus gilbert being #stuck in yharnam bc of it...... #its an interesting thought. #but. again. the ex hunter (or ex member of the church. after all the flamesprayer isnt used exclusively by church *hunters*) theories #have their appeap too. theyre tasty #augh see what i mean. i think abt this too much #new theory: he found it on the floor somewhere.

[mean-scarlet-deceiver]

What do you think of Big City Engine?

I don't have many thoughts tbh.

I do think it would be funny if he and Henry had a years-long rivalry. Bit of a standard-bog macho chest-thumping who's-the-bigger-badder engine sort of deal, overlaid with some city mouse vs. country mouse dynamic. The NWR lot spent much of early nationalisation listening to Henry gripe about the Big City Engine's arrogance or make plans to put him in his place but it never really did get too dramatic. Big City Engine isn't a bad fellow really, he's all right. So it's not an existential threat or anything. It was just kind of a low-stakes little sideshow that always entertained the rest of the engines once in a blue moon when BCE came in.

Gordon fancies it's due to his superior diplomacy and mediation that the rivalry never boiled over. Gordon believes this because Gordon likes to nurture his little delusions.

#bce might not be an interesting character to me #but the gradual loss of their various mainland *casual acquaintances* is a very specific modernisation trauma #like individually the sodor bunch didn't know any of these guys enough to be devastated but the cumulative effect caused so much fear #shit on the mainland was getting the most unsettling medium between too close and too far #(so no i don't think he survived. someone's gotta appear in a bloody rws book and not get preserved #and i vote This Guy over a lot of other one-offs) #chatter #the railway series

[rifleseye]

daaamn percy needs more friends

#【 ❝ i will never stop complaining and that is a promise ❞ 】 ✕ ooc. #well he more or less needs CLOSE friends #i get sad thinking about how he's not really super close to anyone and how it's often a result of his asocial behavior especially postwar #he is very good at keeping others at arm's length though i wish he weren't #additionally i'd imagine he has fairly complicated relationships with his acquaintances from the war #ESPECIALLY those who were wreckers. #i've a lot of thoughts of how he copes with everything post war though i'm too shy to talk in depth about it most of the time flkajsldfkjal

[mxrtified777]

What do you think of the ibvs fandom? (I'm a bit anxious to talk to new people and wanted to find out if it's welcoming.)

everyone in the ibvs fandom is fairly agreeable and friendly, its mostly younger teenagers so if you're in that age range you'll fit right in :)

#im in my later teens so im not super close friends with a ton of people in the ibvs fandom but im pretty acquainted with most people here #chrisdom #but in general its a fairly tame fandom

[yugiohz]

I loveeeeeeeeee how dramatic akira is about their middle school rivalry pleaseeeeeeeeeee

#theyre not even close enough to either hate or rlly like eachnother y'all are friendly acquaintances with a bit of tension at most lmaooooo #akira is so funnny i thought he'd be the serious edgy one #theyre so cute