#harm minimization

[57sfinest]

calling harry a “can opener” was SUCH a good play for so many reasons i think about it every day.

in the context of his work, it makes him a tool. as many people have pointed out, including martin luiga, part of the hdb tragedy is that he simply cannot leave the force, and his superiors know that and are using it to their advantage. no matter what happens, even if harry hated every nanosecond of every bit of the work and wanted to leave, he can’t and won’t leave. they can leverage anything they want against him and then reel him back in with a facade of kindness when they “allow” him to keep his job, as long as he does what they want him to. the 41st knows he has this inexplicable talent with people and they use him for it. he’s a cop: that talent can be used in so many awful ways, to push so many different agendas. and they won’t even be his own. a can opener has no particular desire to open a can, aside from maybe the satisfaction of fulfilling a purpose. a can opener has no agency, it’s just a tool for someone else to use to get what they want. and he’s learned to be okay with being used as long as it means he gets to stay. his complacency with this system makes him guilty even if he’s also being harmed by it.

but in the context of his personal life you kind of... flip it. the people around him are going to be opened up whether they want to be or not, and it’s terrible for his relationships. it’s shown that the questions, the prying- the can-opening- it’s become inextricable from who he is as a person. it’s like he doesn’t know how else to communicate, except it’s hardly communication when you’re just ripping people open. he’s invasive as all hell, although whether he means to be is debatable. he’s the kind of person that wants to take things apart to see what makes them tick. he dissects people, but really that’s too delicate of a word for what he does; if he doesn’t get what he wants right up front, he’ll abandon all subtlety and go for brute force. if he can’t get your screws loose he’ll just smash you on the ground and pick through your pieces until he’s satisfied, and if what he did to you isn’t fixable? oh well, there are other cans to open. 

and he’ll use it for personal gain: we already know he is (was?) manipulative. once he knows how you operate, he knows how to make you keep him. he can yell or he can cry; he can threaten you or he can threaten himself; he can be completely suffocating or he can withdraw completely; he can be an incorrigible liar or brutally honest; he can present himself as a threat or a joke or a talent. he’s a chimera- that’s why he’s got this inexplicable magnetism, even when people know they shouldn’t like or trust him. fidelity of character means nothing to him. he’ll be whatever he needs to be as long as it gets him what he wants. the can-opening is just his way in.

#disco elysium #harry du bois #and it works on us the audience as well! #look at how many different versions of harry there are out there. each tailored to our individual preferences #we exaggerate and minimize his traits according to what we want to see. he's can-opening us too! #it's just like. of course his job will frame the can opening as a positive thing #but it's honestly one of his worst traits. or at least it is when he doesn't keep it in check #there's nothing wrong with wanting to understand people but the way he goes about it is harmful to everyone including himself #he's doing it because he has ulterior motives like 99.999998% of the time #this is mostly about pre-martinaise harry but i have no doubts that post-martinaise harry can go right back to this btw #a lot of us prefer to think of harry as drastically improving after martinaise which is great and i'd like to hope he does but. #it's also good to consider the overwhelming possibility that he will go right back to being a total shithead #and that may be completely unintentionally! which almost makes it worse! #ALSO. this is part of why kim makes a very good foil #for the most part kim will stonewall anything he doesn't feel like sharing #harry needs to respect boundaries and by god does kim have a lot of those (affectionate) #HOWEVER kim is definitely susceptible to the can opening as well #wait okay i have another post idea. #anyway thanks for reading. as always feel free to add and share thoughts! #kiwipost #hdb meta

[onceuponapuffin]

Behold my Art!!

#minimal inconvenience for the employees #ideal pranks harm no one and nothing and can be cleaned up in 5min #good omens #crowley #aziraphale #ineffable husbands #aziracrow #good omens 2 #good omens fanart #aziracrow lasts forever #good omens fandom #aziraphale x crowley #it's ineffable

[craycraybluejay]

You said in tags once that pedophiles and child predators aren't the same, can you explain why? /GEN

For the same reason that people with any kind of attraction to anyone ever aren't all rapists/don't all pursue romantic/sexual feelings that could or definitely would hurt the other person. Because paraphilias are simply the morally neutral state of experiencing attraction and rape/grooming is Not That. Because people *choose* to hurt others, but not what they feel. Because a good majority of child sexual abusers aren't even pathologically/paraphilically attracted to children, they *just want to hurt them because they can.* Because they're dissatisfied with something in life, or want a punching bag, or want to feel powerful, etc etc.

It's not really different conceptually from physical abuse. Do people do it because they have icky feelings about liking blood or violence? No. They do it to feel powerful. Sexual abuse is not about sex but about power. Hope this answers your question. I've answered it a good million times on this blog but eh I'm in a generous mood.

#anon response #pro para #girl imagine if ppl blamed randomass sadists for me getting beat up as a kid #like. no. thats not how that works. if they got off on hurting me in a literal sense they mightve been a little nicer ab it. #honestly its just flat out offensive to equate thoughts and feelings with abuse #regardless of someone's pathology you can always choose to do good and always choose to do evil #what you do with that ability is up to you. but rather than focusing consequences on random 'freaks' maybe focus them on #'normal people' who decide to covertly abuse their kids. or the priest who got tired of being godly and did some fucked shit #it is not the freaks you should fear but those who put on a face of normalcy while treating others like garbage and hurting people #also mostly those that are self aware know how to Be Good so to speak and im saying this broadly ab all 'dangerous' thoughts #ppl who know they can get triggered into violence will usually avoid sais triggers. ppl who spiral out of control during an episode will #have someone watch over them or find some way to offset any possible damage #even for people in whom some sort of harm is an instinctive reaction and not a conscious decision #steps can be should be and are taken to minimize problems and recover from anything that needs it #i trust a big 3 paraphile easier than an unstable person in power with no self awareness #because ive met both and only one has ever seriously hurt me. guess.

[uncanny-tranny]

It is okay if you can never forgive somebody who has harmed or abused you. You don't have to forgive them, but you deserve to find peace in other ways. If you can't forgive or forget, then do things for your sake. Find what fulfills you, if to make it easier for yourself. That is okay. Forgiveness isn't forgiveness if it is demanded or expected, and it isn't fair for you

#gentle reminders #abuse #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #i'm pretty sure i've made a post like this but like so many other posts i think this is important #i will never forgive my abusers and that doesn't make me bad or AT ALL 'like them' <3 #and it's quite evil to MAKE victim/survivors forgive the people who harm them because it 'makes them better' #forgiveness isn't a moral high ground and it doesn't 'make you move on' #you don't even have to forgive others for your own sake if it's not going to ultimately help you #forgiveness should come from /you/ because YOU want that #and if you can't get to that point then please find something else to help you <3 #i'm healing through investing in ME. i don't give a rat's ass about how my abusers feel frankly. they were monsters to me #and i don't have to forgive any of that. and the same goes for you #people like to think that forgiving something like abuse is akin to forgoving somebody for eating the last klondike bar... #...because they do not/cannot/don't want to consider that it's SO much deeper than 'they did small bad thing to me :('... #...so that minimalization makes it easier to blame victim/survivors for the crime of 'not forgiving'

[magic-can]

Regarding what’s going on with staff, I’ve seen people think that our criticisms are just trying to get someone fired over certain pieces of media but like. that’s not really what this is about.

Radfems, fascists, and other scumbags are allowed to run around freely and harass people on this site without staff even thinking about doing something. Yet when someone says “hey supporting a TERF is bad and this person should know better” they immediately jump to silence that criticism. People are upset because it shows that staff clearly has the ability to take things down if they wanted, yet they do it to silence a genuine concern and not take down literal threats and hate speech.

#for the record: with that first part I’m not trying to minimize what harmful media can do or anything like that #I hate the whole ‘it’s just fiction’ thing as much as the next guy #but like. there’s more to it than that #tumblr staff #staff

[notaplaceofhonour]

Take the “sneaky Jews are trying to trick me!” goggles off, I am begging you

#at no point in any of my posts do I ever minimize any death or material harm to Palestinians #I’m literally just trying to explain that bias against Jews is driving people to leap to THE worst possible conclusions about Jews #congratulations for providing another example of exactly that #antisemitism #i/p

[dutybcrne]

Love the idea of Kae painstakingly learning Hilichurian, at first bc he figured it was another skill under his belt then bc talking with them made him curious abt them and their origin

#hc; kaeya #//And then learning they used to be Khaenri’ahn from Dain or the Traveller; or even some other source heckin CEMENTED it to him #//Talks to them in Hilichurl; tries to see if they can understand him in Khaenri’ahn #//If they could; he would actually end up crying—and anyone who knows him; knows THAT is genuinely Serious #//Would try to figure out alternate ways to handle hilichurls around Mond if he could; but it’s tough when everyone’s so set in their ways #//Tries to relocate and tend to as many Hilichurl related commissions as he can to minimize any harm btw human and Hilichurl #//Is prolly another contributing factor why he’d fall in the Abyss verse #//Despairing over their situation then realizing there IS a way to help them; he would latch onto it in a heartbeat #//Perhaps still doubt and be wary; but make him for sure more open to working with the Abyss if only for a Solution #//Only to get Got and mildly mindbroken if he talks to the Sinner/keeps such frequent exposure to Abyss energy #//The latter esp; dude just damn near being driven mad like Clothar the more he harnesses and is entrenched in it #//idk thinking bc i thinks it’s so funny he went as far as to write Venti a threat in Hilichurl that one event lololol

[lasnevadaslaborunion]

I need to say this: while I'm glad to hear that Tubbo is taking the situation with Dream seriously, I also agree with him completely that it's not appropriate to send public live donations about the allegations.

You don't know how many people in the audience could be triggered by hearing this brought up unexpectedly, especially during a lighthearted stream they tuned in to process and decompress from the last few days of rollercoaster emotions. Nor is it helpful to force ccs who might not fully understand the situation or are still formulating their responses into a corner.

Tubbo handled it very gracefully, all things considered, and now that we know he isn't being dismissive, it's important to give him space. If someone is engaging with evidence in good faith, the correct thing to do is clear the way for them to learn more, not to bombard them.

I know how frightening this situation is, but we need to be patient and considerate above all.

#if anyone has alternative ways to bring this to the ccs attention then feel free to suggest them #but PLEASE. take the voices of victims and survivors into account first. #our goal should always be to minimize harm. #the dream situation

[hippityhoppityyourenowmyproperty]

Hey guys, remember that fucked up fic Lily pulled from ao3 tilted "Broken Champion"? I don't think she did it because of the torture porn accusations. She did it because it has another hint of her molestation of Courtney during their youth in it. She's trying to cover her ass, just like with the "Violate" arc in her pokemon comic that she tried to bury.

Another instance of Lily writing about molestation/rape of an unconcious woman but framing it as "just trying to help" and it being "the only solution". To add insult to injury, the victim is thankful for the assault and rewards the perpetrator with a kiss.

Lily has tried for years to convince herself and others that her molestation of Courtney must have been "romantic", mutually assured, and had noble intentions. If she had her way, she would have married Courtney, HER SISTER, without them having a say in it.

@opinated-user @pleasetiemyshoe @britts-galaxy-brain

#lily orchard #courtney orchard #tw incest #tw rape #tw molestation #She sure likes recycling plots in which sapphic women molest each other huh? #it's so obvious she wanks off to the thought of molesting her sister and thinking what she did was in any way reciprocated #Men assaulting women? Jail and torture for a thousand years #Women assaulting other women? Oh well she didn't mean any harm #She was just trying to help! #or any other bullshit excuse to minimize the assault

[buckttommy]

I don't think people think enough about their actions in terms of harm and how much they are adding to the world, either by harming themselves (still harm) or harming others, but I really think they should

#We have to minimize the damaging impact we inflict on ourselves and each other #and often times by inflicting harm on each other #we are actually inflicting it on ourselves #So before you act today #take at least one to two seconds to ask yourself why you're making that decision and if it's coming from a place #of harm or from a place of healing/wanting to be healed. At the very least: is it a neutral action? #You will be surprised what the mindfulness and awareness does for your engagement with the world

[retconomics]

babygirl you are my EVERYTHINg..!!.,1!1!

#attollo #in the tags because he's mary sue af and its embarrassin... #i've said it before but her power is p much transferrable healing factor so like. can take other peoples ouchies or give his to others #and then heals really quickly as long as there are enough excess calories to burn through #side effects often include light headedness or fainting if its a big job. #also like. she tends to transfer any big cuts or injuries that would result in visible scarring.. only exceptions are the piercings and #the edgelord tattoos he got on his fingertips to warn people about his fatal cheese touch (ie touch of extreme wound generosity) #oh right yeah can only transfer wounds through direct contact #like skin to skin #shed still die if like. shot to the head. but everything else theres a chance of survival ESP if shes touching someone or smthn else living #uhhh what else what else. #hangs out with sysba and suha for the clothes probably. #still has medical training.. maybe is an underground doctor or smthn idk #my art #and YES thats his natural hair yes its bleach damaged no idk how to convey that. next. #.. oh yeah lol works with ovo. like not FOR them but. might as well. #oc: alice #EDIT: I want it to be more balanced and less. multifaceted (u get ONE power) so: #instead its just status transfer like maybe a suuper mild healing factor because of how the transfer works - #-can spread trauma to other cells in other areas to minimize overall harm' #-and its semi-automatic so the IS potential for a ned the piemaker situation #so like if alice is freshly dead but the cells arent.. boom transfer #ok i think thats better.

[evermoredeluxe]

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#i just know half my mutuals hate me right now for obsessing over taylor and travis and you know what? valid #but also im doing minimal harm on my blog on freaking tumblr dot com #im sorry #arshia talks

[capriszn]

banning the word girl from my vocabulary for good thanks 😉

#hiiiii im here to girlsplain to you that you need to do better you privileged asshats!!! now you know😘💋 #tiktok is fucking brainrot at least engage critically!! hope that helps xx #i never found this movement or joke or whatever it is funny but now ive started to see the actual feasible harm it has inflicted onto #my own surrounding so i need to gear up and tell everyone that they are actively contributing to make the world a little bit worse 🥰🥰🥰 #im not a girls girl i will actually beat a mf that dares to excuse their efforts to minimalize intellectualism and literacy #girlpunch if you will🥹 #nope im not letting people enjoy things and have fun if they dont realize that these little online actions have real life consequences #i wish people had the spine to say YES i do little stupid trends on tiktok AND that makes me actively anti-progression! #yes im just a girl and i slow down liberation! so what 😇 yes and? 🤪 #but noooo they have to do ALLLL that and still try to avoid responsibility like yes it is that deep and it is that bad #you gotta make a choice eithet keep having girlfun and girlignorance but stand by it OR drop the fucking act and CONTRIBUTE #you cant have both.. #anyways yeah i will actually implode if i see the word girl one more time☺️☺️☺️ #personal

[blueish-bird]

thinking about how Aki can’t (won’t let himself) forget & Angel can’t (is not allowed to) remember

#minimal context to avoid spoilers as well as to make it sound more poetic #I love parallelism or whatever the rhetorical term is for punchy comparison statements like this. crunchy #csm #csm aki #csm angel #aki & angel #csm part 1 #when Reze said ‘we will not remember’ #I feel like Reze and Angel would get along pretty well. wish they could’ve gotten to be besties #instead. forced to harm each other. rip. #not fair #chainsaw man #meposting #csm Reze #tee hee #I put this in some tags but I just. can’t stop thinking about it

[girlwithfish]

can anyone recommend me a book to read literally anything. books for im im a weird place in life rn 🙏

#books for ppl in a weird place in life rn #i want smth super captivating bc im trying to take it easy this week minimize harm and suffering and do things that wont trigger me like #relaxing solitary activities 🙏 prescribed by my therapist 🙏 #Maybe ill take a library visit idk!! #or i shld read one of the many books i have at home that r unread 😭

[lostryu]

So YOU want TRUMP?? The villain who wants all queer people dead? You are obviously a psy-op, you russian commie.

no, i actually dont want Trump, believe it or not. i just want fucking accountability from the white liberals and queers, who are going to be voting for genocide joe. i want them to acknowledge who they are putting in power. i am sure this will shock you but joe biden is just as bad as trump at this point. there is no lesser evil. children are still in cages, as of 2022 over 204 anti-lgbt laws were passed, and he is actively helping israel genocide palestine. do not fucking say he is the lesser of the two evils, because by doing so you are minimizing what is happening in gaza.

and like. once again i am pointing to the 13 other people who are running for president for the 2024 elections. im sure the great white queer liberals can pick literally anybody else to support.

#ask #anon #like you guys are actively minimizing the harm genocide joe is doing to gaza by calling him 'the lesser of the two evils' #there is still time to push a different candidate forwards