So much has changed
So it has been over a year now, last time I posted was in Feb 21.
I wanted to write a blog post remembering all that has happened since then, but the post became a bit of a script for my next therapy session. Here it goes:
This is what happened to me over this 1 1/2 year that I've been away from Tumblr:
So i'm single now. I went back to therapy. I am very very slowly starting to realise that I need to focus on myself. I've heard this throughout my adult, professional, love, family life:
My mum keeps telling me I need to buy a house, car, whatever. All she's trying to say is that I should focus on me. On my longtime stability and success.
My bosses usually ended up telling me I need to figure out what I want to do, if I want to continue at my career path or if I want to go down on a managerial role.
My love life is basically me gravitating towards people to whom I yield my entire life-protagonism. Shrink tells me I always prioritise my partners over me, the people I actively get close to (my 'friends') are always the people with whom I don't need to have a big personality, I can just be there, so they end up out-shining me.
Lately my ex-husband and I have been fighting a lot, I felt like I had changed and I have started to stand up for myself. Amongst other things, the relationship was put to too much pressure and collapsed. I, left confused over the boiling pot my head has become recently, got stunned over what had happened, what that meant for my life, what I would do...
I got in a fight with my then closest friends because I got myself too involved with them and the situation we were in. And that left me stunned as well.
I developed friendships with people that are easily become the spotlight in social events.
I started dating someone who is a lead singer in a band, a true-hearted Leo! Interestingly enough, I'm also a Leo and that should be the opposite of the stereotypical Leo trait of wanting to be the center of attention. I'm not even in my own center of attention.
Anyway, I have written enough arguments for the next paragraph.
My next milestone in life is going to be: to move to Germany in 2023. For that I'd need to: improve my mental health to a level in which I can organise my head and have motivation to do what is needed to do what it takes to achieve this goal
A rough sketch of a plan is:
Study for interviewing: algorithms, practicing, having introspection moments about my recent career such as my highlights, my comeuppances, the interesting things I've done, etc That would build my confidence to do the next step;
Finding and attending job interviews
Getting a good offer
Back with learning German?
I'm not sure about timelines. Ball-parking 1 month for studying, 3 for interviews, then around 6 months until I'm there. So we're talking about a year.
Realistically, what could I expect if I take something like Ritalin or a focus-booster, anti-anxiety and/or anti-depressants? Is it a 1 month or a years-long kind of thing?
Anyway, to help with this plan, I'm intending to write constant updates to this blog. Weekly maybe? Or even daily, if that's not too ambitious of my part.
I'm hungry now.
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Okay, but with how the finale was going it would be much cooler and impacfull to show the big offline ray more in detail to dig into despair of situation than just go straight up to 'hey we can save them with magic rock and pretend nothing bad happened'. Especially considering how much build up it had. Such a missed opportunity here, ngl they had me, I wanted to feel it through
Or better, IMAGINE if they made it closing scene. That would be such dope cliffhanger to end season on, but NOPE 😭
Never thought I'd be unhappy to see a happy finale but here we are
basically robbed of feels
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