#i am on my soap box

[gomzdrawfr]

small habits

#something about filling in the silence #personally I am (unfortunately) one of those people who doesnt realize they're tapping their finger on the table when im in the zone focusi #i try not to do it now ever since it was pointed out #instead i just tap something softer like my pencil box LOL #modern problem requires modern solution #anyways you may notice im also trying a new signature here #i hate it #so im doing another one when i can #gummmyart #doodle #simon ghost riley #john soap mactavish #soapghost #ghostsoap

[atopvisenyashill]

i was thinking more about characters Performing Gender, but not necessarily Transgressing Gender. I wound up focusing on Ned and Sansa bc I feel like I understand them the most but-

Sansa as a hostage is imo the most obvious (bc it’s so well done) moment of someone clearly Performing Gender but not being transgressive in that performance. Which isn’t to say it’s not a complicated performance; it’s a fine line Sansa walks between weaponizing her gender to protect herself without seeming too fake. She’s trying to placate the Lannisters by playing the perfect, dedicated, air headed betrothed because it’s the only defense she has - if she outwardly rebels, she will be punished in a likely violent and/or sexual way (which isn’t even conjecture - when she says “or maybe he’ll give me yours” Joffrey has her struck with an armored hand). She’s not quite successful in being convincing but that’s because it’s a rather extreme situation; despite no one believing her, she does make herself seem meek and stupid enough that no one suspects she’s plotting to escape with Dontos until she’s well away from KL. The fact that she even has Dontos to confide in is because of Sansa’s relationship with gender! When she saves him, she covers her rebellious slip by playing up Joffrey’s intelligence & his role as King; she reaches for “tools” of her gender AND of ~proper manhood~ to save a life and herself from another beating. Her retreats into the godswood and silence are very much Sansa attempting to recharge from these draining interactions, the same way a knight would need to stop and eat and rest after a fight. She is fighting, constantly, by forcing herself to stay within the narrow confines of a specific type of gender performance as a way of shielding herself from harm.

Ned yelling at Cat is another big one, and I’ve seen the scene referred to as Ned using his patriarchal power to scare Cat, which is a great description. It feels like a Performance because Ned is putting on this terrifying Lord Stark mask in an attempt to get Catelyn to stop asking about Jon (and Lyanna). This is not how he usually acts with those he loves! When Ned is with His People, he is welcoming of questions, curiosity, emotion, even transgressive thought (to a point! the idea that Ned is a feminist because he lets Arya learn to fight is Not accurate but you can’t deny he allows significantly more flexibility wrt gender expression than most of the fathers we meet in this series. the bar is in hell tho). Yet when Cat asks him about Jon’s mother, Ned scares her so well she stops asking & still remembers the moment bitterly over a decade later. And if that snippet we see through Bran’s eyes of Ned praying that Cat will forgive him does come after she asks (like it’s suspected), it’s clear not only that this is a performance he’s putting on & weaponizing against Cat, it’s one he does not like using as a weapon against someone he is close to. After using the power his gender gives him to cause harm, he retreats to the godswood and silence to pray and rest, much like Sansa. A spiritual cleanse, the way a soldier may pray after battle, to reset and reconnect Being A Proper Man to Being A Kind Man.

I think there’s something interesting in that two of the characters most widely defined by how well they adhere to Westerosi gender norms both dislike feeling like they had to weaponize their gender. They are exhausted by the performance, because it’s a performance. This isn’t Sansa getting excited over tourneys, or Ned teaching his sons to fight; it’s toxic masculinity, it’s structural misogyny. It’s something they’re good at, excel at, and connected to something they enjoy but when it’s paired with violence, whether done by Ned or done to Sansa, it crosses over in their minds from an innate part of themselves (The Gender) to a performance necessary due to survival (The Gender Role). And that after these performances, both retreat to nature & god as a way of resting and cleansing from the experience.

#valyrianscrolls #ned stark #sansa stark #getting on my soap box #there’s something here too about romanticism. like shelley and coleridge and whitman. the need to return to nature to undo society’s harm. #especially with the way various romance movements and romantic tropes are played with by their characters. #i can’t even remember who said it which just shows u how shitty an english major i am aksjd but about how. #like society is necessary but just as necessary is the ability to escape into nature. i *think* it was coleridge i’m probably wrong. #the gender war makes corpses of us all #gender politics in asoiaf #obviously you can point to several moments for both of them. sansa calling petyr father. ned’s relationship with theon. wherein they both #are clearly performing something for an audience. #there’s like 12 other branches of this in my head. jaime’s romanticism. being knighted bloody & the sacrilegious nature of the sept sex. #and his inability to escape his gender performance the way ned & sansa do. ned being willing to cry in front of others but robb only ever #crying in the dark with his baby brother after he loses ned. cat’s tower stuff & finding solace in sewing. #i’m gonna try to write up something about loras & renly here too. tomorrow. #also i wrote this at the train station after work so if there’s errors or it makes no sense just pretend u never saw it skskdj

[sequesteredbhaalspawn]

Still just thinking about how it makes no sense for Bhaal to want there to be more Bhaalspawn. The existence of Bhaalspwan literally weakens him because they carry paces of his divinity, like in a way that that divinity is now separate from him, he cannot personally use or tap into it for power for himself. That's why all of Bhaalspawn born out of The Time of Troubles had to die (this includes the offspring of Bhaalspawn like Abazigal's son Draconis. Which Abazigal is literally a dragon not a Dragonborn. It would have been funny of Larian to make a Blue Dragon be a merchant. Or at least give him a human form resembling his portrait in Throne of Bhaal- dragons would never take the form of Dragonborns. Dragonborns where their slaves at one point after all. They don't respect them and would not take their form (this is also why it's very fucked up for Lae'zel to imply Dragonborns are inferior to dragons). I digress. That's an issue for another day.)

The last thing he would want, in his weakened state of not being a fully deity, would be more Bhaalspawn living in the world. He wouldn't want Bhaalspawn siring more. Because the children of Bhaalspawn are also Bhaalspawn.

The idea that Bhaal would want Durge to sire an army of Bhaalsapwn is just so wrong. Like why is it written like this? It just makes zero sense. I can only guess that they want to make Bhaal look sexually predatory? 🙄 (the only time it was implied he acted as such was with Gorion Ward's mother, it was not implied to be of SA for any of the other mothers either- from what I remember, but that was proven to be a lie implied by Gorion himself because Gorion's Ward's mother was actually a Bhaalist priestess who had his child willingly. I could go one forever by how none of the weird sex stuff surrounding Bhaal and the Bhaalists in bg3 is not supported by any sources outside of bg3. It's just really weird choices that I can't see as being made as innocent mistakes and not born out a place of ignorance or bigotry. That's just how I feel though.)

I seriously think that Larian doesn't know any lore.

#bg3 #larian critical #bhaal #bhaalspawn #the dark urge #dark urge #durge #( i'm getting back on my soap box of defending the lord of murder from how badly he is written in bg3 and I am not sorry. it's just so bad

[molinaskies]

Some people playing the DLC rn have never played Eggmanland from Sonic Unleashed and it shows.

To be fair, I ALSO think the DLC is holistically too hard (it’s unforgiving on hard mode and, at some points, even on easy). I was stuck on master king for 9 hours. But I’ve seen people say that the DLC is unrealistic for a child as if Sonic has never been this hard before.

Sonic Unleashed is difficult. Sonic 06 (for a number of reasons) is difficult. Hell, Sonic Adventure 2 is difficult. All of the classic games, to a degree, are difficult. This is also an optional, free story. It can be entirely bypassed, if needed.

Sonic is a franchise that challenges you. It dares you to push past your limits because that’s the whole entire thesis of these stories (quite LITERALLY for Sonic Frontiers).

The beautiful thing about being a child is that you have resilience. You will get up and try again. Something we can learn from children (and this franchise) is that it’s okay to fail. Pace yourself.

It’s okay to struggle and complain about your struggle. That’s a good thing, in fact. But this isn’t new.

#to my followers i am sorry that im repeating myself but this for the people who dont follow me lol #resilience #i stg if i see another post crying about the second dark age of sonic im gonna have to buy a second soap box #it was never this serious #I’m not talking about the people who are enjoying the rage #sonic isn’t dead #nor is he dying #sonic the hedgehog #amy rose #sth #sonic #sonic frontiers #knuckles the echidna #tails the fox #miles tails power #sonic unleashed #sonic adventure 2 #classic sonic #sonic 1 #sonic 2 #sonic 3 and knuckles #sonic cd #sonic frontiers final horizon #sonic frontiers final horizon spoilers #sonic frontiers spoilers #sonic 06

[pyjamacryptid]

I’m trying soooo hard not to rant to my friends about unfortunately common writing conceptions but I remember that I was once studying to become a literal editor, so I feel justified for a second, and then I’m back to staying my hand because this soap box feels like a face reveal! The face of pretension!!!! Lmao!!!

#I know I’m thinking myself in circles!!!! #aksjsksj #I hadn’t thought of editing (writing) as a career until my creative writing teacher came up to me after class #and was like hey… kid…. you wanna do what you were doing all class for your classmates while making a living?? #and I was like 👀? #anyway that likely won’t happen now and I’m much happier with my current studies #but studying it or not it’s because I CANNOT TURN OFF WHEN I READ #I AM UNABLE TO!!!! #it’s about the rhythm of sentences!! pacing!!! #EMOTIONAL pacing too!!! #the tonal difference between minute changes in syntax!!!! #I’m so passionate about it and opinionated wjdjekd #I both want to go on a rant about it and hide lmaooo #anyway #writing #creative writing #ren rambles #ren rants #ren keeps hovering her foot over the soap box and doing a walk away and then a spin back to the box and then back again and

[bottomvalerius]

Since the Portia post is making rounds again, i do also want to say that you can just. draw characters fat. i objectively try to draw portia larger than she is depicted in some CGs because fuck the devs. artists that are like "well acTUally, if you look at her at this specific angle in this one screenshot, she doesn't have a pronounced belly" are just.... cowards IMO? LMFAO you won't get thrown into fat-people jail for drawing a character larger than they're depicted.

Portia specifically was at least MEANT to be a plus-sized character in an already "diverse-for-otome-game-standards" cast. and this applies to literally any character. the only one stopping you from 1.) learning how to draw fat bodies and then 2.) drawing characters fat even if they aren't is yourself lmfao

#this applies to many things in general when it comes to art but i am too tired to go into that can of worms too lmao #but that's it that's my soap box for today #back to regularly scheduled bull shit lmfao #'oh so the piss guy is preaching to us??' yes. #rambling

[simpjaes]

no because you saying that just excites me knowing this will be my type of fic. tho honestly i get you, it's frustrating when no one's forcing anyone to read something they're not comfortable with. ily just know there are readers out there that appreciate your time and work 🫶

like i said in the tags. if someone finds my fics, reads the warnings, and clicks that fucking "read more" tab thinking they're not gonna get exactly what i fucking said it would be, that's entirely between them and god.

whether they liked it or not. whether they feel guilty or not.

when you come to my inbox to tell you how bad you feel about being turned on by something i literally wrote, i can't help but question what it is that made you feel the need to send me that as feedback of all things.

i know, i know. i ask for feedback. I want feedback. but do you wanna know what I don't want?

someone's post nut clarity.

on another note, if someone reads my warnings and then clicks in to read just to find things to bother them and disrupt their peace? once again that's between them and god. i write within my own triggers and no one elses. curate your own experience online, because i'm not gonna do it for you. i do my part by warning you.

#ask #anon #am on my soap box sorry #its not that i don't care about the well being of other's im just simply done being held responsible for a choice i didnt make. #really happy ur excited to read it tho nonnie!!

[pollinatedpansy]

Just a random FYI to anyone who cares, I'm a weird little gender anarchist trans freak thing and if you have any attraction to me that makes you gay (blanket term) regardless of who you are, hope that helps 😁

For anyone who wants to feel my wrath/understand what the fuck I'm talking about please read the tags, you should get the jist 💕

#terfs can suck my dick thanks #being enby is like not being enough but also being too much at the same time #im not trans enough for some of my trans counterparts #but at the same time im too much for them #and ofc there are the cis people who think my identiy and existence is too complicated and too political #and dont get me started on the cis people who think im just “woman lite” or whatever bullshit they make up to make themselves feel better #IM A WEIRD AGENDER TRANS FREAK THING THANKS #to anyone and everyone who actually sees me for who i am. thank you #to anyone snd everyone who cannot get it through your thick skulls who and what i am. go take a gender studies class #if i have to get back on this soap box again im gonna start chasing people with my wizard staff while throwing dubia roaches at them

[blackbirdffxiv]

Hello I actually follow you on x and was wondering if you have any tips for a new xiv player when it comes to gpose 👉👈

Oh hey, thanks for stopping by! I don't have anything major that hasn't been said before, but I think besides just technical things, the best things I can tell someone who is new to gpose are some things below.

Just because you think the gpose is "bad", doesn't mean it is. We are our own worst critics, so just because you think something looks bad, doesn't mean it is. Also, good is a subjective term for gposing; what may not be one person's cup of tea is the entire party for another.

Rome wasn't built in a day, and you don't get good at something overnight. Learning how to take good gposes is a skill that takes time, effort and practice. That being said, don't force yourself to gpose every single day; take breaks, enjoy the game for what it is right now, catch up with other things in between. If the drive isn't there? Then you clearly need to rest your brain and focus on other things.

Just for context: I've been gposing for four, maybe five years now. I didn't get where I am immediately, it was a lot of trial and error. And even then, I am not the greatest; I just developed pride in my style/effort.

Simplicity is one of the many spices of life. You don't need all the convoluted mods and stage props to take a good gpose. Sometimes a nice picture is just of your character vibing, and that's okay! Even OCs need a moment to stop and smell the roses, sometimes literally. Vanilla is also a valid part of the spice cabinet, so don't throw it away because you don't like the taste of it

Respect your fellow gposer. Just be respectful of those who are also gposing; at the end of the day, we're all playing digital dress-up with our imaginary characters. We're not that different from each other, so why not enjoy the hobby we all share in peace?

#Anonymous #Thank you for the ask! #Also rules to live by with gposing #gpose tips to live by #And with that I am off my soap box #I hope these tips are at least something you can remember on your gpose journey #Also welcome to the game/community! #Also whoops put the wrong tag thing here by mistake :sweat:

[frasermints]

when 20 year old kids have to retire because of head injuries, you need to reevaluate the safety of your sport and the equipment you're putting them in.

#ethan mackinnon baby i am so sorry you were failed #no one should have to retire because of concussion symptoms #i'm sorry but this is my soap box #this will ALWAYS be my soap box #working with 14-18 year olds on concussion protocol made me an extremist lol #my post #ohl #ethan mackinnon #london knights

[aeviare]

{like? are we also not gonna talk about traveler having the ability to purify abyssal energies *points at dvalin's tears and then aggressively pointing at xiao canonically stating he feels lighter when he's around traveler* helloOOO? we ain't gonna talk about that!?}

#❥ 🇹‌🇭‌🇪‌ 🇰‌🇪‌🇪‌🇵‌🇪‌🇷‌ 🇮‌🇸‌ 🇫‌🇦‌🇩‌🇮‌🇳‌🇬‌ 🇦‌🇼‌🇦‌🇾‌ {ooc} #oh dear here we go i am on my traveler soap box i'm sorry

[toshidou]

for the love of everything unholy...

dominating graves after you pull him out of the burning tank and punishing him for being so recklessly stupid by betraying 141..

dragging him back to base and tying him up, then edging him endlessly until hes sobbing and apologizing..

pegging and overstimulating him until all he can do his choke on his moans and whimpers, barely able to speak as he tells you how sorry he is...

making him pass out from pure pleasure and bathing him afterward because even after that he's still your sweet misunderstood boy <3

THATS ALL I CANT THINK ABOUT RN AUAUUSUSH. Your sub ghost fic was like.. yes... and I'm definitely gonna send you more asks in the future if you don't mind- 😩✨

You know what, I'm not even a Graves girl but honestly??? Pegging my frustrations out on that man sounds like a whale of a time. Honestly I think if you make any male character a sub bottom I'll find them attractive, I have a problem LMFAOOO

I'd definitely make him call me Sir though, that man needs an authority figure in his life that ISN'T a piece of shit *cough Shepherd cough*, but please, if you ever write anything about subby Graves.... gimme a tag, you might just turn me from a hater to a lover AJDJWKD

And of course!!! Send me asks about whatever, whenever you like, I'm always down to chat 🥺

#inator-procrast.exe #subby baby boys are the key to my heart #i have an ask about sub soap in my ask box right now which i'm working on #i have a weakness for them it's so unhealthy #maybe it's something about wanting to dominate the patriarchy #who knows ANXJAKD #anyway thank you so much for dropping by!!! #because now #somehow #some way #i am thinking about graves in a way that isn't me calling him a little bitch with just spite

[atopvisenyashill]

why do you think jonsa is happening tho? jonerys is different bc they are going to be enemies, but i don’t see what jonsa does for the story

so let me first lay out roughly what i think is going to happen should jonsa become canon. I personally love going down meta and graphic spirals, so I'm including links to other people’s theories/explanations/graphics of events too - also I would like to shout out @istumpysk because half these metas and gifsets were stuff I found on their blog initially, and also was the one who really convinced me that jonsa is less of a crackship and more of a contender for an actual canon theory, and from there i really found my niche in this fandom. specifically this meta about jon being the mummer's dragon is what pulled me out of my "we're never getting twow and if we do it's just gonna be that stupid dany has jon's magical baby while tyrion watches, then they all die theory" slump and lit my brain on fire again. let's goooo:

The Ashford Tourney Theory - Something Shady goes down at the tourney Petyr has planned that requires Sansa to make a quick getaway, and likely causes her to run into Brienne while fleeing. This theory for me is about hinting at Sansa's romantic future, allies, and how she's getting the hell out of the Vale: both the dark haired, Not Targ Looking Targ Prince that is the son of A Great Prince That Never Was being her romantic endgame but also it's about Brienne (/Dunk) getting her the hell out of there and becoming Sansa's number one ally and protector (with Sansa's number two being Bronze Yohn!! But he's not fleeing with her - if he helps her get out of the Vale, it'll be to cause a distraction or a fight so Sansa can slip away unnoticed. Bronze Yohn is coming with the knights of the Vale later to help defend his girl!).

The Girl In Grey - Out of options on where to go, Sansa & Brienne makes a long, fast, and dangerous trek to the only family she knows is still alive: Jon Snow at the Wall. No, I don't think Alys Karstark is the girl in grey on a dying horse; I think she's a red herring, the same as the scene where Sweetrobin destroys the snow castle, and that the real girl in grey (who slays the savage giant) is Sansa. Melisandre says that she sees "Jon's sister" but doesn't specify more than that, or how she knows it's Jon's sister, even - why would she assume Alys is Jon's sister and not some random Northern girl? Why was she so sure that it was his sister? It's because Alys isn't the girl in grey, it's Sansa, her horse dying because she's traveled halfway across the continent with Brienne and Pod, desperately trying to keep ahead of the dozens of people hunting her down.

The Blood of Winterfell - Sansa and Jon will reclaim winterfell together. This one is similar to above; just like Alys was a red herring, the scene where Sansa rebuilds the castle has a lot of foreshadowing (imo) but that isn't the moment in the prophecy Arya hears. The Savage Giant is Littlefinger, the castle of snow is Winterfell, and Sansa is going to liberate her home alongside Jon and what's left of the Northern lords.

Stone and Snow Remains - THIS is where Sansa and Jon will fall in love while fighting for the North. This is also the part where you lose a lot of people, because they think the evidence is real weak sauce but like, I also think the Jonerys "evidence" is weak af too (and no wonder, we have at minimum 2k pages left to get through!!). There's several believed foreshadowing points to this one, bare with me for this weird ass formatting because I can't do sub bullet points on tumblr:

1. Sansa's linking of snow with love and affection - "drifting snowflakes brushed her face as light as lover’s kisses, and melted on her cheeks...She could feel the snow on her lashes, taste it on her lips. It was the taste of Winterfell. The taste of innocence. The taste of dreams." along with her snow maiden and snow knight.

2. Bael the Bard and the Rose of Winterfell - the chapter where Sansa gets her period for the first time, Cersei refers to it as “flowering” a dozen times, linking being a maiden (a young girl, not quite of age or just barely of age) to flowers and several people refer to sex as ~plucking. Also notice the one who stole her from KL is Lord BAELish.

3. Aemon the Dragonknight & Queen Naerys - Sansa compares herself to Naerys, Joffrey to Aegon, and wishes for an Aemon, among the many similarities between her life and Naerys'. Jon not only calls himself Aemon, he has a deep connection with a different Aemon Targaryen. And if you’re thinking “Sansa isn’t Naerys, X is Naerys” I would remind you that Sansa as a character existed first, George purposefully had her compare herself to Naerys, and parallels don't belong to just one character.

4. Jenny of Oldstones and The Prince of Dragonflies - there's honestly a lot of parallels between them but like the Aemon/Naerys parallel, the Jenny/Duncan one stands out to me.

5. Janos Slynt - I mean. Iconic. This was the scene that made me first think about what their relationship could be in the future and there’s a reason Jonsas fixate on it. It’s about Sansa being desperate for a hero and the hero she dreamed about being Jon the whole time. 6. Societal Alienation - There's the bastard parallels here, the "it would be so sweet to see him again", the "Winterfell belongs to my sister, Sansa." It's about how Jon, through circumstances of his birth, finds himself alienated from the rest of society and reconnects with his prim and proper sister Sansa, who finds herself alienated from the rest of society as well but for vastly different reasons.

Robb’s Will - Howland is going to show up in the North, along with Maege and Galbert, with some WILD news about why Jon can’t rule Winterfell. There’s a lot of contention around this. Bran probably shows up around this time too, and Arya gets to the Riverlands to discover Lady Stoneheart and give her the gift of mercy. This is where all the inheritance stuff is going to happen and I have no idea how it's going to go down besides it's going to be messy as all fuck.

The Pact Of Ice And Fire - Jon & Sansa get secret married bc they’re in love, not siblings, & jon is the only man she trusts not to steal her claim. This isn't the only possible foreshadowing instance of a marriage either - some believe the Sandor/Sansa scene during the Battle of the Blackwater is foreshadowing as well (personally I feel that's a bit of a stretch but I wanted to include it anyway).

Jon As An Envoy - I talked about this in my "what's Jon's ending" a little but I believe Jon will act as an envoy for either Sansa or Bran to Aegon VI, essentially playing out a similar story that he does in the show with Daenerys. By which I mean, Jon is not the King because the ruler themselves do not go as an envoy, that’s stupid and dangerous, but he goes as an ambassador for Sansa or Bran, to treat with a new claimant to the Iron Throne that is gaining support - Aegon VI & Jon Connington. They will probably clash, Jon will probably have yet another identity crisis, there had BETTER be gay incest subtext, then Aegon dies, and Jon has his sixth quarter life crisis in a row.

“King” of the Gift - again, something I touched on in my Jon meta is that I think he’s going to have a hand in resettling the Gift. Personally, I think it's likely that Jon leaves to protect the claims of his siblings (see: Duncan and Jenny) and goes to the Gift to help resettle it to keep out of the way. This ending is typically referred to as the "bael the bard" ending but i like to think of it as the "brandon's gift" ending instead - though he is not physically with his family, Jon feels fulfilled having confirmed his family loves him through reclaiming Winterfell and marrying Sansa, being reunited with Arya, and being given the Gift by Bran. Sansa claims her children were fathered by a wolf.

So…what does all this do for the story?

Well, in my opinion, several things.

I think the main barrier here is that most people in the greater fandom describe Sansa's story as ~growing past childish wants~ and Jon's as ~rejecting love~ and I do not agree with either of those takes even a little bit. This is where (imo) the dividing line between Jonsas and the rest of the fandom is. I don’t think the answer to Sansa’s question “will anyone ever marry me for love” is going to be “nah" - that's not just a sad story to me (wanting to be married isn't childish! craving intimacy and understanding isn't childish! it's also not wrong for a child to be childish!), I think the idea that Sansa (or Jon) will not find another love just doesn't line up with how George approaches his story. Who Sansa's husband will be has been such a big question, and her story is so heavy into the more romantic tropes like courtly love and chivalry and the line between politics and love and identity, that the question of Sansa's hand in marriage will be plot relevant. I also think it's kinda naive of people to pretend like George isn't very interested in the sexual dynamics of the characters he writes about (yeah, sure, no woman needs a man but "needing a man" is not what this is about. look at everything this man wrote in F&B and tell me he is going to write a female character that longs for sex and desire and doesn't get it!).

After AGOT, nearly every time Sansa thinks about marriage involves her longing for love but believing she will never get it because a man will only ever love her for her claim. Giving her a man - like Jon - who not only will not steal her claim and in fact has defended it twice over already, who will love her for who she is and not what she can give him, is a really important aspect of her story in my opinion.

As for Jon, I am even more firmly against the opinion that his story is about rejecting love; Jon’s story is about wanting to be a good man, to measure up to his father ~despite~ his bastard blood. When Aemon asks if Ned would choose honor over love and Jon stubbornly says yes, Jon is wrong and it’s important to not forget that. Ned has never once in his entire life chosen honor over love; he chooses his daughter’s life over his honor, he chooses his sister & her son’s life over honor, he chooses Arya & Nymeria over honor, and on and on!!! Ned chooses love at almost turn but none of his children know that just yet - look at Robb choosing Jeyne’s honor over his own and how upset he is at the idea that Ned would be disappointed despite the fact that Ned would have understand Robb’s decision! Jon's whole arc is tied up in realizing that it is not wrong or dirty to feel and choose love, passion, and desire and if he never has another romantic arc again, I think you lose the second part of that lesson which is "you are responsible for how you act when you feel love but that doesn't mean that simply choosing love makes you a bad person."

There's also the fact that George has talked a lot about "who lives, who dies, who gets married" and yet we have not one marriage at the end of the show AND there's not a lot of guesses at what "who gets married" means besides Jon/erys (and even if Jonsa doesn't happen, I simply do not see Jon/erys happening. they are not similar enough, they will not be in the same space for long enough, and they are on wildlly different trajectories for their story, they are not getting married let alone having sex). I think Jonsa fits that bill very well.

These various theories - from Sansa being queen, Jon living in exile, The Ashford Tourney Theory, the secret marriage, every one of them - are ideas and themes that I have really been thinking about for about 12 years now. I think Jon and Sansa's relationship could fit with the themes in their stories, the overarching themes in the books, and my own personal opinions. I think it gives George a great opportunity to delve into the courtly love aspects he enjoys so much, as well as delve into inheritance, legacy, legitimacy, honor, incest (yes, that too), and above all, what George himself has said the whole series is about - love. The human heart in conflict with itself is what I think Jon and Sansa as a romantic couple does for the series.

#okay if i don't post this now it's going to continue to sit in my drafts while i make minor edits oh my god #anyways behold my jonsa manifesto with sources. i'm gonna go kms now bye #jonsa meta #jonsa #jon snow #actually jonsa #sansa stark #getting on my soap box #stone and snow remains #twow speculation #ados speculation #asks #anons #also stumpy's post being reblogged to asoiafuni just so people could dogpile her. is exactly why i stopped engaging with asoiaf fandom #after the show ended because it was just these obnoxious ass people dogpiling on fans with theories they didn't like over and over #annoying and not conducive to theory and analyzing!! #i hope i'm not missing some important meta here don't tell me if i am i'll die

[curseplay]

been having a rough go of it lately thank u all for ur patience

#idk if its the seasonal depression or the fact that im a 5th year undergrad student but #i feel very trapped in my life very jealous of others and am very in need of some major changes #i just want to be at peace truly idk . sorry this is my soap box now #kisses paris on the head tho. me and my penchant for making muses i need at the moment for catharsis #: /‏‏‎ ♯ out. … it's kitty time. ' #tbd /

[zmeydeva-arch]

this whole nsfw sideblog thing is getting out of hand. i have been in this community for years and have never seen less (written) porn on the dash so i don’t see why relegating mature content to another blog serves a purpose when this site censors us enough. also i thought we were past the whole shame culture when it comes to sex considering it was y’all who wanted to rebrand “sinday” but now you are hiding your porn on another blog? make it make sense anyways post p*ssy on main just tag accordingly i truly do not care 🤷🏻‍♀️

#signed someone who barely writes p*rn here but also acknowledges that the read more Exists #whether you write this kind of content or not is your choice but i feels like the whole sideblog thing is some moral superiority grab #idk i just feel like we are all adults and it is childish to be so coy about sex the whole tikt*k censorship algorithm is a curse #i don’t usually get on my soap box here but i am seeing a larger issue play out here #between book banning and the way you can’t say gay on youtube without getting demonitzed all these things are linked #sorry for the rant 🙇🏻‍♀️ #𝖎𝖎. *ੈ ˖ ° ⥽ carlisle cullen? no carly rae cullen ⥼ ⅋. ooc #perhaps this is just a ‘trend’ i am reading too much into but before you make that sideblog consider why you view it as necessary

[bunnyb34r]

Oh! I figured out what the lush box scrubbie reminded me of! It smells like popsicles! Specifically the yellow ones in the mini Pop-sicles box, or the mango/pineapple otter pop! :D

#marquilla #tastes like it too 😏 #i really really hope it wins bc it's the only good thing in the box sgsgsgsggs #it's a scrub but you can also use it like an exfoliating body wash which is really cool bc it's moisturizing too! #i decided i hate the passion fruit soap agsgdggd it smells nice when you open it but the second you pour it out it gets so strong #and so unpleasant imo but i am trying to use it up so it doesn't go to waste but im just using it on my legs bc it's #exfoliating and i can use all the exfoliation i can get on my legs but also so i dont have to smell it agdgdgdgd #havent used the coffee scrub bar yet not sure if i want to... im just gonna cut a small piece off if i do. and im not gonna use the lip #scrub bc i hate coffee so much it's espresso so double yuck. still have to try the lotion though which ill try this week hopefully