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arwenadreamer · 1 year

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Omg you were at the jibcon!! I'm so jealous!

To set all the people straight who weren't there, how good was the Jared and Misha panels?! Did you feel any awkwardness or offence taken when Jared demonstrated his tackle of Misha?

I've read so much crap online from the cockles side and after watching the videos, I can't believe how skewed the stories have been!!

The panel was really, really great. And anyone who knows me knows that I'm not the biggest Misha fan. But I truly, genuinely enjoyed that panel. I loved Jared's and Misha's interactions. I did not feel any awkwardness. What I saw were just two friends having fun together. When Jared tackled Misha, he used a bit too much power, I think he miscalculated a bit. I could see Misha being taken by surprise and not getting on board with what Jared was aiming for fast enough, so he started to fall backwards. But Jared realised that and actually took hold of him and brought them both down in kind of a controlled fall. I could see Jared's face clearly, when they were both down, because I was standing off to that side, almost at the microphone to ask a question, and Jared made the exact same expression Justin!Sam was making in that scene. That painful "I am happy here"-grin. And Misha was acting along. They clearly re-created this scene, and in this scene Sam tackles Cass, that's what happens.

But I also knew the moment I saw it, that hellers would use that to hate on Jared.

One thing I realised last jib already and that got only confirmed at JiB 11 with Jared present is, that the reason I almost dislike Misha at times are hellers. (NOT DESTIEL SHIPPERS IN GENERAL! Only those people who bring so much hate into the fandom.) I genuinely enjoyed Misha alongside Jared. And in retrospect I have to say, he's making the same NSFW jokes he's making with Jensen with Jared. That's just him, and it's funny, and Jared is playing along. And Jensen is too, to an extent. But much less than Jared, because everything that happens between Jensen and Misha gets so much blown out of proportion, and Jensen has to be so much more careful. And that is the reason I don't like Misha making innuendos regarding himself and Jensen or Cass and Dean, but to be fair to him, he's doing the same with Jared/Sam. And Jared is doing it too. I think if there wasn't so much drama and hate going round in fandom spaces, I would even enjoy his panel with Jensen the same. (That panel was good, too, actually.) But as it is, I'm constantly thinking "how is that going to be interpreted?", and that dampens the joy somewhat.

I've met so many Misha fans and destiel shippers at JiB, though, who were genuinely nice and chill, and we were gushing about Jared together in his photo op lines, and I was happy for their amazing Misha experiences, and they were crying with me over my Sam and Dean photo OP. So I can only repeat what I said after last JiB: fandom drama and hate is mostly online. At conventions it's just a great atmosphere and everyone is happy with and for everyone.

And to conclude: I only heard laughter and screams of joy from the audience when Jared tackled Misha. No one booed or anything. The mood was great in the panel room.

#jared padalecki #misha collins #misha collins critical #<- tagging that to be on the safe side #arwenas jib 11 experiences #Jared and Misha panel #anti hellers

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a-little-revolution · 1 year

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good luck with your surgery, and happy new year! (i am not a little person, as a disclaimer) i've been jerked around by doctors and surgeons for over a year now in regards to my legs: i'm eligible for limb lengthening surgery, i'm not, i'm eligible but my rheumatoid arthritis is too severe, et cetera. i have miserable malaignment among other things, but the issues that would be addressed by osteonomy would be the twisting and turning of my tibias. i have knock knees, but in an atypical way, as my femurs and hips are correctly aligned, but my lower legs are all out of whack.

surgeons seem to schedule based on part of the leg, but the only options i'm ever given is "foot and ankle" or "knee and hip." i've been bounced between these subdivisions thrice now, as the one doctor that does address tibial misalignment and deformation specifically doesn't accept my insurance, but that's a whole other rant.

i was wondering if you had any personal experience with leg misalignment prior to your leg lengthening surgery, and if the surgery corrected that? i'm really worried about recovery or lack of improvement if we do go to surgery, but my legs are in constant pain and weak, and my tibias feel like they're going to bend until they snap. as far as it's been explained to me, i would be undergoing what's considered leg lengthening surgery, but i'm not very knowledgeable on the subject - and i wasn't aware they left hardware in! will removing it threaten the integrity of your bones...?

i hope your surgery and recovery go really, really well! i wasn't aware limb lengthening surgery was common, nor that it was common for people with dwarfism to undergo. is that because people pursue it to improve their quality of life, or because doctors are encouraging/pressuring patients? i'm ignorant about this topic and feel like it's important to know about, since it broadly affects so many people!

surgery can be really scary and hard. you're really inspiring and loved, and i can't send you enough well wishes. thanks for your time, too! ♡

Hello hello! Thank you so much for sharing your story. The surgeries I underwent as a child (ages 12 to 16) were not leg lengthening surgeries, but rather procedures to straighten the bowing of my tibia and fibula bones - so yes! I have experience to that regard, and the surgeries were successful.

My legs were straightened in two ways. The first was an external fixator installed in my right leg which operated sort of like an oral expander; metal posts and wires went through my bones, connecting at an external frame, which was twisted and turned gradually to straighten them and then removed. The second was a medical break which was done to both legs individually, where they realigned the bones and attached them with posts and screws, and filled any gaps with fake bone until it healed. Ten years later, my body was rejecting the metal installments, resulting in my most recent surgery to have the posts and screws removed. Since my bones have fully healed, I've been told their integrity is fine without.

I have heard there's been a new wave of American doctors persuading patients (particularly parents of child patients) to undergo limb lengthening surgeries. When these surgeries are pedaled for purely aesthetic reasons, they can often reek of a culture that aims to "cure" dwarfism and force mainstream beauty standards onto disabled people.

Though my surgeries did give me a few extra inches, their goal was to alleviate pain and improve mobility. Many little people go through similar procedures, as club food and leg bowing are common medical issues for people with dwarfism, but lengthening for the sake of lengthening is fairly uncommon due to it's problematic nature.

Thank you so much for the well wishes! I am just about two weeks post-op and healing well :) - Elliot (they/them)

#asks #dwarfism #dwarfism medical #disability #cure vs care #dwarfism awareness #disabled #little people #cw surgery

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athousandbyeol · 10 months

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this is a athousandbyeol appreciation post.

you make me feel emotions that I've deep down locked up and buried your writings brings out the raw and pure ethereal even human emotions in me and for someone who has gone numb for years now I feel so completed and (I am not so good with words I donot how to express shit beautifully) you know like I've been given a second chance at life after giving up

Weeks back when I discovered your work i read all your works in a day (FB realted) I even read them inbetween while rewatching abaab to give me a much more heavier side of the series in words and not in thoughts

Every paragraph is just soo beautifully constructed that I shed my demons with every line I read it holds so many emotions and feelings and rawness and pureness and love and heartbreak and happiness and literally every little and big human feelings

You know like how gold doesn't dissolve in anything but aqua regia you are one of my aqua regia your writings melt me and make me feel emotions that I thought I'd lost forever all these years

I am so in love with your writings and I am also proud of you and I hope you have all the best things in the world and hope you keep and grow your writing thank you thank you for all of it

#my rambling doesn't do justice to what I want to appreciate about you

#I woke up and chose feeling things today

#hope you have a lovely day week month year

#hi its me again that one rambling cute op

#susu na

it's almost 4 am here and i'm fighting back the smile and tears.

i'm sorry for every experience you went through in life that hindered your ability to feel. reading this, i'm grateful my words helped you experience the wonders of feeling again. maybe not much. maybe not that profoundly. but i'm glad it could help. i'm always insecure about my writing style. i've received some comments saying it's too much. doesn't make sense most of the time. overwhelming. yet, i'm thankful that my stories work differently on you. i'm happy to know you could feel.

oh, my... why did you read my stories ahh :( and going as far as to read everything forcebook-related works i published? i'm digging a hole as i speak. i'll sink into that dungeon for life. i get nervous whenever people read my stories because i'm not a native english speaker and i write in lapslock (which can be discomforting to many). so... i'm overwhelmed i'm happy. and undeserving. to know this. to know someone like you read my works and enjoy them. to receive kind words and a very long comment which i don't get often. it feels weird. almost.

You know like how gold doesn't dissolve in anything but aqua regia you are one of my aqua regia your writings melt me and make me feel emotions that I thought I'd lost forever all these years

i'm shedding tears... i don't know what else to say. i'm happy. i'm thankful. i'm elated. every good feeling there is out there for you.

oh. please, don't be too in love with my stories though because, at one point, i'll disappoint you :( it happens all the time and i'm just scared to feel attached to your praises. but for now, i'll embrace your love for my stories by trying to write with sincerity and (lots of incoherent) feelings.

this is one of the best things i've ever heard as a writer;

I am also proud of you and I hope you have all the best things in the world and hope you keep and grow your writing thank you thank you for all of it.

thank you. this means more than the world to me.

i'm proud of you too. thank you for being you. <3

#op... i hope one day i can formally show my gratitude to you #i'm thankful to receive such kind words from someone like you #thank you for everything #i hope my stories can be beneficial to you in one way or another #have a lovely day week month year too <3 #god bless.#su su!#thanks for the ask ^^#personal #na answers

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twinhood-2dot0 · 8 months

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More J-Pop :P

Yep, doing this again. I've discovered so many more songs that I wanna share.

Yorushika/ヨルシカ

Yorushika has become my favourite band in the past few... months? idk when my last post was. The vocalist is awesome and I really love their guitar and piano instrumentals.

Parade/パレード - I discovered this song yesterday so I haven't had the time to look into the lyrics yet. Will update when I do. I really love the instrumentals though. The violin is just awesome, and like in every other song, the piano is perfection. This is from the album That's Why I Gave Up On Music though, so it's sure to have deep lyrics, since the whole album is telling a story

Algernon/アルジャーノン - The music video doesn't have translations :(, so I didn't look into the meaning of this song either, but the music video looks awesome.

The next few songs I don't have too much to remark upon. (yet)

Say It./ヨルシカ- Okay I haven't looked into the meaning to most of these lmao. Gotta get on that. Has great guitars though.

Ghost In A Flower/花に亡霊- Awesome piano and guitar.

Setting Sun/斜陽

Spring Thief/春泥棒

That's Why I Gave Up On Music/だから僕は音楽を辞めた- Title track from the album. The album tells a story (that I haven't read yet) that concludes with this track. I especially love the piano-guitar duet after the opening verse, it's just, wow. Suis (the vocalist) did an exceptional job on this track, and lyrics are also just so good. The music video is just too good and you should read the lyrics so I'm dropping the youtube link for this one.

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Also an English translated version by Rachie because she did a great job on it.

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Minami/美波

Another artist I've come to adore very recently.

DROP - Just sounds really good. Will update if I look into meanings later, goes for every song I don't remark upon here.

Waiting For Rain/アメヲマツ- Words cannot express how much I love this song. One thing I really love about Minami is how expressive their voice is, and that is exemplified in this song. She explained that she did intend for this song to be conveyed through feelings and emotions more than words, and I think she succeeded in that. The lyrics are also awesome, the music video is awesome, the instrumentals are eargasmic. Music video for english translation and awesome animation.

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Crying For Rain/カワキヲアメク- The first song I heard by Minami. It also does the same, being very expressive. It's the opening for an anime called uh Domestic Girlfriend. Not gonna be watching it purely for how weird the name itself is, but the song is awesome. As far as I can tell, no relation with Waiting for Rain.

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Lilac/ライラック- The depressed gamer in me is in love the lyrics of this song, and the music lover in me loves the instrumentals. Seriously, just read these lyrics.

"Life's rough, Life's tough, It would be great if life could be as simple as a video game. There are even futures that I would like to bet on by pressing the A/B buttons."

yikes that's ugly, not doing that again.

"Life's rough, Life's tough, Genuinely, staying alive would be easier if life's a video gameThen a life where you can change the course of your future using A,B keys would exist."

The instrumentals are deceptively happy.

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Monogatari series

It's an anime series I've heard good things about but haven't watched yet. Looks pretty long, but the songs are tantalizing. These songs are uh very cutesy and upbeat in a way I can't explain why I like it.

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Chainsaw Man

One of my favourite anime as you already know. The S1 of the anime has 12 episodes, and it also has 12 ending songs. Anime usually have 1 for each season but they went above and beyond. I dislike metal, but I do like insanity so, despite that, I still love most of the tracks here for the sheer insanity. But Time Left by ZUTOMAYO and Chainsaw Blood are still my favourites tho. And can't forget KICK BACK, it's such a banger OP and the opening animatic itself is awesome with its foreshadowing and cinematic references. You can read more about what I think of KICK BACK at Alia's Corner.

Heh I just realised how ridiculous Chainsaw Man looks with chainsaws sprouting out of his hands and head and... a formal shirt and pants and a tie.

Song from Your Lie In April. Just sounds really good.

A jem from Attack On Titan that I somehow overlooked.

I hit the audio limit, damn you Tumblr, why you gotta make this so hard?

Anyways, you can sort by newest and see my newer favourites. Some particular standouts are 色彩/Color by yama, 三時のキス/idfk by Rokudenashi/ロクデナシ, again by YUI, 君のことじゃないよ by ZUTOMAYO, NIGHT DANCER by imase, Massarana Daichi by Higuchi Ai, from the same album as Akuma No Ko, the ED song for AoT Final Season Part 1, the two Natori songs, Overdose especially, Asphyxia, Kyouran Hey Kids!! by THE ORAL CIGARETTES and No Title by Reol.

Watching Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood now, you can read what I think of it in my page, and also updated my AoT thoughts.

#jpop #music #Spotify #Youtube

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carolyncaves · 4 years

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Hey op, I was wondering if you could give me some advice? High school senior here and I have no idea what to do with my life. Is accounting really as painfully boring as it's reputed to be? I'm a perfectionist and a good student and I feel like that might be helpful, but I've also nearly fallen asleep many times in math class. (I'm more a science and humanities person.) Is accounting actually as tedious and unfulfilling as people say? Do you like your job? Do you have any career advice??

Oh, no, advice ...

I've been sitting on this because I wanted to do your ask justice, and then it ended up extremely long - I'm apparently constitutionally incapable of giving advice without giving all the advice, just to be thorough. I started with my impressions of the accounting field and why I went into it (in case any of that resonates with you either way) and made it all the way to a probably-too-abstract meditation/ramble on careers, work, and purpose. Since I'm just a dumb 27 year old who is not entirely successful (yet) in any area of my life, you should maybe (definitely) take everything below with a grain of salt. But here are some things I think I've learned:

I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life either. I went to an engineering high school, but decided it wasn't for me because I didn't really care about it and wasn't spending my spare time tinkering with robots like some of my classmates. I almost majored in physics, but switched to accounting at the last second because I decided I probably didn't want to spend my whole life in a basement fine-tuning lasers.

I went into accounting because I thought math was boring but I was good at it, and I figured accounting might straddle the math-type-brain with the people-stories-humanities things that were more interesting to me. This is somewhat true - financial accounting is not math (thank goodness), but someone who is good at one will probably be good at the other and it is quite satisfying the way balance sheets always balance. (You can get into more math-and-statistics-intensive applications, but base accounting is just adding and Microsoft Excel, which is unironically one of the greatest tools humankind has ever created. How you feel about that opinion might tell you a lot about whether it's the right field for you lol.)

'Accounting' is really (at least) three entirely different types of job:

‘Industry accounting’ is the accountants who work for a business and keep track of its numbers. They record everything, analyze the data, and organize it into reports called financial statements, which are then given to the CEO, the board of directors, the shareholders, etc. to tell them how the company is doing.

‘Public accounting’ (as in Certified Public Accountant) has two main subclasses:

Audit, where you get hired by businesses to independently examine their financial statements and provide some verification that the managers who prepared them aren't lying or mistaken.

Tax, where you do taxes for people and businesses.

(+1: If you're a tech-savvy person, there's a huge amount of potential for crossover into technology work - data science, financial software, etc, etc. Though IT work has its own delights and frustrations.)

All three flavors of accounting require not only technical accounting knowledge but also at least some degree of business acumen to be truly good at (you'll develop this over time; I barely have any, the partners at my firm are very astute), and any of them can can put you literally anywhere, because everyone in every industry and lots of individuals need an accountant. (There are cross-state licensing issues that can affect how literal 'anywhere' is, so if you want to work somewhere specific that's a good thing to research in advance when planning out your degree, but even these are for the most part eminently surmountable). So particularly on the public side of things, it's a field that can expose you to a lot of different people and situations, and that's interesting. I like getting a glimpse of someone's life when I prepare their tax return. (I think I prefer individual returns to business returns for this reason, among others.) And if you're someone who likes business, it is a fantastic field from which to study it and could position you well for a more generally-businessy position down the road. (I have frankly found that I ... do not, so much. So keep that in mind when considering the rest of this opinion piece.)

All three types of accounting are, by their very nature, repetitive, in the sense that they're cyclical - you do the journal entries and close the books on one month, or you do a hundred tax returns and get through tax season, and then you do it all over again. Accounting isn't a field that really makes or does things - it measures what other people are doing, over and over and over again. It's a keeping-the-lights-on-and-wheels-running kind of field. It matters, because all three of those functions above are important in the context of our current economic arrangement. But some people are going to be happy doing that and some people are not.

Public accounting also has pretty punishing work schedules during crunch times. I can attest to that for tax (my current field), and have heard it's at least partially true for audit. This can be a good thing in some ways (I happen to like it), because it means there are some relaxed times as well - but again, some people are going to like the up-and-down rhythm and some people are going to want something more steady. (If you find this one isn't for you, you can always leave public accounting after a year or two and go into industry - that's what many people's planned trajectories are from the get go.)

In all three corners it's a field about developing expertise. You're doing something complicated for people which they don't know how to do for themselves, and you do sometimes get to come up with crucial information and/or creative solutions to help them. And in the broad societal scopes of public policy and the health of the economy, people having that expertise - in tax and its ramifications, in business, in financial accounting, in principled and accurate auditing - is important.

In a world where most of us regrettably have to do something for money, accounting is a pretty okay thing to do, and it pays money.

Being in the workforce for a few years has made me come to imagine a lot of things are tedious in some ways and important and interesting in others. Our incredibly complex global civilization goes because different people become experts in the minute, tedious details of their own different things, and then they all work in their own corners of the huge, infinitely complex machine. Tinkering with robots and living in laser-filled-basements are not that dissimilar to reading discourse over the minutia of the United States tax code. (These are all examples from relatively technical/'professional' career areas, because I don't really have first-hand experience with anything else (yet) - but maybe someone will chime in on that front in the notes.)

The extremely good news, which I can't emphasize enough, is that you're going to have a lot of opportunities to pivot, or change direction, or try different things, to eventually find the thing that at worst you don't mind becoming something of an expert in, and at best you absolutely love. I've already had three extremely different jobs, all of which have been very informative in terms of what I Do and Do Not like. It's surprising how often that doesn't line up with what I expected when I was younger. You might of course have a different experience - the point is you have plenty of time to experiment and find out.

But if I don't LOVE my career, isn't that terrible? Time for a confession, or something: I've always been an achiever-type, and in my youthier youth I would've answered the above question 'yes' - but in my first few of years out of school, whenever anyone would ask me what my future plans were, my answer was always '... I don't know? Try to get promoted, I guess?' I was really leaning on the external validation of what a 'good career' was without running that past whether it was what I wanted to achieve with my life. And over time that had a noticeable effect on my wellbeing. You're right that perfectionism will help, no matter what you go into - but you should be careful to keep an eye on whether it's really mostly helping your boss, and whether it's doing it at your expense. Don't get me wrong, this will make you a fantastic and therefore valued (read: employed) employee. Just be wary of it getting out of hand. (You might find you need to practice figuring out how and when to prioritize yourself even if it's inconvenient for others. I'm still practicing that now.)

Anyway, after a lot of reflection, I began to refine my idea of my capital-P Purpose, and it has little to do with working in a shiny fancy office or having a successful-sounding job title next to a well-known employer's name or really anything to do with accounting. Those things were only superficially rewarding. I'm working on rearranging my life to abandon some of the more costly ones to make room for my Purpose as I've come to understand it, and my license keeps me in overpriced coffees and, like, a house. It means even an occasionally disastrous person like me is doing reasonably okay (so far).

Some people love careers like that, though. Some people love living in basements full of lasers. It's really so individual. For me, it became clearer when I connected the dots between the things I kept coming back to time and time again, even in my most difficult moments, even years or decades apart. For other people, it might be very different.

But at the moment, you may not have all the information you need yet to make determinations about Purpose. Why would you, you're a baby; heck, so am I. It might evolve over the whole course your life. My main advice for you would be to just try something, or several things - whatever seems most interesting, or most practical, or ideally both! - and see how it goes. Like I said above, that will give you experiences instead of guesses, which will help you know. And you really do have so much time to work with. The most important thing, the thing I would tell my younger self, is to make sure that every so often you pause and honestly look. How do I feel about what I'm doing? Does it feel good because I like it, or because other people like it? Am I actually interested in building on and using the things I'm learning? Do I have a plan for the future? Is there anything about it I want to change, or add, or that doesn't actually matter to me? (And perhaps "What would I be doing right now/want to be doing in five years if I didn't have to make money?", because that might give you hints to what you want your money-career - if it isn't the same thing as your Purpose - to give you room for.)

Did I mention I think it's very individual? I think it's very individual. I invite anyone to add their own numerous-cents to this post - alternate takes on the accounting field (do you love it passionately? please tell this person why), additional career or life advice, etc. I'm just one person who's walking my one narrow path through the world with its particular terrain. Everyone's is going to look different.

P.S. Ask a Manager is imo an indispensable resource for getting a job - resumes, cover letters, interviews. Literally it has gotten me all my jobs.

It also gives a lot of great advice about what to consider in an employer and potential red flags - and I can attest that the culture of the company you work for and the management skills and style of your supervisor(s) matter more than almost anything when it comes to your day-to-day happiness in a job. This is part personal fit, part objective competence. It's not the end of the world if you take a misstep here either - it's something you figure out, just like everything else. You can do almost anything for a year - and you are NOT COMPELLED to even stay that long if it's really not working out.

P.P.P.S - and this is way out there ... I was exceptionally good at both reading/English and math as a young person - and it’s interesting that when that’s true, the careers people throw at you are all STEM-related. It’s almost as if people are predisposed to thinking STEM fields are more important, and that smart people belong in them. I have come to feel strongly that isn’t the case.

A lot of people (at least in my western/US culture) feel the humanities are an afterthought, but when I think about it, I think there are and have always been two main sources of human suffering in the world: nature and its limitations (hunger, health and disease, weather and environment, etc.) and other humans (war, murder, racism/sexism/all oppression and hatred, conquering and imperialism, poverty/socioeconomic inequality, and also elements of the way societies are organized that affect hunger, and health and disease, and weather and the environment, and so on).

STEM work is hugely important to making improvements in the first category, and helps with the second (it gives us the internet and weapons to defend ourselves from evil people who want to destroy us, for example). But a lot of the fundamental root issues in that second category are in the sphere of culture and the humanities - law and politics, sure, but those are derived from history, sociology and psychology, literature, cultural studies, philosophy, ethics, education, journalism, literature and the arts and pop culture (which informs and is informed by all of the above). The world needs smart people in those fields as well as STEM and business.

STEM fields often offer more money, or more certain money. Business fields offer sometimes significantly more. That’s a practical element to consider. And if you like a STEM thing, or a business thing, and want to go into it, please do and do fabulous things with it. All I mean is that if you find yourself considering a career in a humanities field, don’t be dissuaded only because people seem to think you’re too smart for it and would be better off doing something else.

#replies #accounting #careers #personal #p.p.s. if it somehow doesn't go without saying #my bullet-point AU is a highly cariacturized version of the accounting field #much the same way every TV show or movie set in a high school is a highly cariacturized version of high school #if any word of this has been helpful to you i'm glad #if not i apologize lol #you're going to have a great future!#there have been some very rough patches in my twenties and regardless i would never go back and redo high school if given the chance #it was fine it's just that even with all the tribulations #becoming a progressively adultier adult is better #if you have any follow up questions or like #ever need excel pointers lol #you know where to find me!#(seriously excel is legitimately delightful getting to do powerful things with it sometimes is literally my favorite part of my job)#(in another life I might've been a software developer)#(that life might be this life five or ten years from now who knows!)#(i'm going to stop and post this before I keep coming up with additional pieces of advice this is already so long)#(oh gosh i added another one it must end)#(also the read more got messed up and I can't fix it I do not know why)#(thereby validating that I am only a dumb 27 year old whose opinions you should not take very seriously)

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