#little aro things i guess

[quinn-pop]

(pt 3/3)

a question - 1 2 3

#is bandee aro? you decide #i don’t have a lot of headcanons on this stuff but i could definitely see it #kirbyposting #my art or something #meta knight #king dedede #bandee #bandana waddle dee #metadede #metadad #quinn does comics #if one thing about my art never changes it’s that my habit of drawing at an angle makes everything a little bit sillier #drawing affection makes me so happy tho wah #i hope you liked this!! it’s been a while since i’ve done a big comic and i’m excited to see the reaction #messy sketching and all #metadad & bandee i will fight for you /j #semi future au #because I guess that’s what this is called now #kirby oc

[autisticaradiamegido]

hi thank you for all the aradia love this blog

do you have a favorite headcanon about her, even a very small/niche one?

day 284

well i assume u mean aside from the one in the blog title lol

a fun one is this dumb imaginary report card i imagine sometimes

obviously i interpret her as autistic, but i also think shes asexual, sssomewhere on the aro spectrum? and agender! which is all fun because her name also starts with a. call that a straight-A student

#day 284 #year 3 #aradia megido #homestuck #tbf i dont think she thinks too hard about gender? like idk that shed DESCRIBE herself that way necessarily #but i think if you pressed her shed be like 'idk do most people FEEL their gender? yes? huh. well i guess i dont have one! interesting!' #and then not think too hard about it ever again #i think she truly does not give a shit #as for the aro stuff idk. its another thing where i think shes very affectionate but has a hard time distinguishing like #romantic vs platonic attraction and what the difference is? esp since the dividing line between some quadrants is like #'well do you want to have sex with them or not?' and for her the answer is 'no' regardless #even in my biggest ships for her i kind of imagine the relationships to be a bit more on the queerplatonic end of things than like #strictly romantic in the more traditional sense #and again im not sure that she thinks too hard about it! #but when you bring partners into it who maybe Do care about defining it a little more clearly i think she does have to stop and THINK hard #about the nature of her feelings and what words she wants to use to define them #wow this got long maybe this all shouldve been IN the post itself. well oops im not gonna retype/reformat it all sorry its past my bedtime

[transfloppa]

mentioned a friendship to my sister and she immediately tried to like. make it seem like I was romantically interested in them because I was gushing about them. cool👍

#dekoposting #being passionate automatically equals romantic interest. i fucking guess #mmmmmthat was really upsettin .g #i didjt even think of the possibility of us. together #because i dont think of myself as inherently romantic thing anyway #and it kinda really soured my moodddd #ygh #:( #that is my friend my little buddy my pal.!!!!! #the aroace is aroing. pls #romance is. eikghghogkhghfhfkb

[cha1cedony]

I have so much I could write 😦 I’m so free now… What should I do………. I really should NOT start another separate/unrelated longfic (my teachers AU) BUT. but. I want to

#I also want to wriiiite umm #next installment of Silver Linings (although idk if I want to do the next ‘main’ fic or a little Darryl one I have planned..) #my fuckass Oakworthy-centric socmed fic lol. bc it’s so fun but the HTML and especially CSS are miserable #a semi-rewrite about the JO crystals bit again. but ​Carol/Mercedes.. ahem #a billion other oneshots I have planned #AND. things for other fandoms I guess 🙄🙄🙄 lolol #I have plans for both a DRV3 (sorry) and a SDV (fun) longfic #I need to STOP writing longfics. bbbbut they’re so fun 😕 hehehaha #okay done rambling. I will now return to (procrastinating on) this online career course I have to do so I can registwr for next semester #chalcy stuff #OH AND my aro bi Darryl character study which will require extensive planning and be like 30k #but. fun! I wanna! hehshahsha

[tenacious-minds]

In terms of intimacy, if/when Steve/Robin are comfortable enough to engage, would Robin freak out at the sight of a penis regardless of circumstance?

Great fic btw.

In writing the reply for this, I realized that she’s probably ace. So, the answer is no, because it’s all kind of gross, actually, so the particular nature of it all is irrelevant. She will, however, have absolutely no idea what to do because she did not prepare for this eventuality, so she’s a little intimidated. They figure it out pretty quick.

I do have plans to write this though, and I pictured them having fun in it. Not taking themselves too seriously. Lots of laughter and trial and error and just learning each other in a way that is more intimacy than passion. There will likely be pillows involved. Of a thrown kind.

#transfem steve harrington #stobin #the funny thing is I wrote Eddie as aro in this and wrote a line about how the way he loves is probably closer to Robin then Steve #like two hours ago and still never actually processed what that implied #I thought attraction was a literary convention born of hyperbole until I was like 16 #so all my character are probably a little bit ace by sheer lack of understanding probably #my writing #fanfic #accidental ​asexual character I guess

[laurasyuriaccountiguess]

#aromantic #aro #just a silly little thing i thought up #y'know; tis the season and all that :P #ifnot a teensie bit aggresive but oh well #happy valentines; i guess

[vulpinesaint]

saw this post a little while back talking about all the unreasonable things someone had seen people say to make different fanfic tropes problematic. nd obviously all the examples given were very virtue signal-y illogical stuff but then they went "and even the wholesome stuff got cancelled!" and had this as an example:

which. uh. hey. king. queen. legend. a soulmate au is like. the Definition of amatonormativity. the idea that you have a single person out there who will complete you in a romantic means is not only exactly the kind of thing that amatonormativity describes but it's amatonormativity taken to a whole other level. that's compulsory romance babe.

like i get that their point is "aro people are complaining about nothing" which. yeah. hi. eat shit and die whatever whatever but it's also soooo stupid to put this down as a "look what these sjws were saying!!" example because you're just listing a term that accurately describes the trope in question. to say that it's amatonormative is a) not inherently a complaint, it's a perfectly valid observation and b) a very valid complaint. seeing the rhetoric of "everyone belongs with a single predestined romantic partner" when you're aro is both hurtful and alienating. nobody's saying you can't write soulmate aus. they're just expressing how the popularity of that narrative convention affects them.

also LOVE the reported complaint of "supports predestination". some REALLY angry anti-calvinists in the comments section of soulmate fics. "how DARE you suggest that god decides your ultimate fate before it happens." absolutely hilarious.

#anyway if you don't care about what aro people contribute to fandom spaces just say that and go #you're gonna look me in the eyes and tell me that someone saying 'i don't like this because of reasons personal to me' is a weird complaint #you're gonna look me in the eyes and say that you were what. attacked over this? by the mean nasty anti soulmate people? girl... #tell me you don't know what terms mean without telling me you don't know ig #soulmate aus are a reflection of larger societal ideals that are—guess what—still not really compatible with aromantic people #aro people have a right to be angry about amatonormativity anyway. and it has literally nothing to do with you. #take a breather go write your fuckin soulmate fic if you want to. i get it! it can be cute! but girl let people fucking live #notes on that post were nasty as fuck too dfjgksh all these 'wow antis are sooo stupid!' comments like. #antis? you mean the people who don't like incest? that's who you wanna dunk on? go off i guess #totally irrelevant. support aromantic people. #and don't be calvinist ig. or do?? op is pro-predetermination apparently so. take that as you will haha #aromantic #aro #aromantism #aroace #putting my little aro tags on things for funzies bc i love being aro <3

[asexualjedi]

Was like damn there should be an ace dating app for people who are like asexual or gray romantic or gray sexual. And then I went to google that and realized that would involve sharing my information with an app and giving up personal info to people. And I’m reminded of the people I had to block and the issues I’ve had with guys™️ in the past and that makes me want to break out in hives. Like would hopefully ideally be different. But. Alas. I’ll just have to believe in rom communism.

#normally I’m like whatver who even knows if I’d wanna date someone I feel bad about like trying to date someone if I was unsure if I’m #capable of having romantic feelings #my wanting to date people only happens after we become friends #and I have trouble understanding the difference between romance and friendship #so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #normally I’m like romance averse or neutral but sometimes I am like longing and I do want romance and I guess that’s today just randomly got #emotional studying during for property #I was like thinking about how I have as to explain to my dad like I don’t think I’m every gonna date or marry someone #and he’s like u could still date even if u don’t wanna do other things you should try to meet that #idk everyone I’ve ever liked sex has been a thing that’s too important to them lol or they ended up dating my brother #or it was a crush on a someone who lived way too far away for it to be realistic #idk. and normally I’m fine with that #but then (I started thinking about this bc of the Buffy danny poll bc it reminded me of my little cousin who really liked danny phantom #and who had a crush on danny when she was like 10 it was cute #BUT then I was like wait she knows I’m gay but does she know I’m ace and then I’m like well I’m 25 and have never had a date she’s probably #pieced something together #but then like also why would she think about it or care she’s a teenager #and then I thought about fi I’d ever have to explain which reminded me about the convo with my dad which made me think of all this idk #I truly thought maybe I was internally aro after all bc I hadn’t seemed for care or think about dating for like a few years now but then #boom maybe not as much as I thought #ignore me

[loud-whistling-yes]

you can be both demigirl and whatever gender you found that fits. we're transmasc and also a trans man and also nonbinary and our gender identity is tied exclusively to our pronouns. Do whatever!

I literally have no idea how to respond to this ask like a normal person but yes,,, thank you,,, this helped a lot

#asks #gender is such a weird thing man #but hey at least i kinda know most of my gender now! #for the past year ive been going by demigirl cause i mean #i Do feel partially girl #but its always been an itch to find out what the other part of it was #i didnt actually expect to ever find it so this is really neat #like i saw the pronouns page going Hey! Theres a flag for gender neutrality! and i went OH SHIT WADDUP??? #and i was so ready to end the search there like go Okay im a demigirl and the other gender i relate to is gender neutrality #BUT THEN i scrolled just a little more and ran into faesari ADN EVERYTHING CLICKED PERFECTLY #LIKE IT COMBINED THE GIRL PART OF DEMIGIRL WITH NEUTRAL SO NICELY IM GONNA SCREECH #so yeah #i guess im more specifically faesari now #i think ill still use demigirl as a general term? like how i have microlabels for aro and ace but i still just use aroace #hohoho i have the complete microlabel set im unstoppable now

[brainfullofbees]

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#it's kinda like. since figuring out i'm arospec it's like i've just gradually been becoming more aro lol #not really interested in a romantic relationship tbh #i love kisses and cuddles and doing stuff that could be romantic if put in that context but like #it's not romantic. it doesn't feel like that and honestly i don't really want it to anymore #funny how things flipped around like that lol #i guess i'm also still coming to terms with the whole aro thing #i think it's super cool and i'm really proud of this new aspect of my identity i've learned #but i guess it's also a strange feeling to go from being obsessed with romance to being so neutral about it lol #it also makes everything else mix weird #like. i don't want a romantic relationship but if i did it would be with a girl or enby or just. idk somebody who's not a guy #but also guys can be hot!! and i'd fuck a guy! but i wouldn't wanna date one #but also i don't wanna date anybody #but also. girls... <3 #does that make sense??? #i am a queer little bitch and it's silly and fun and i like having a funky identity lol #so like. i am a lot of things but right now? i feel like aro is the top thing. the other attraction stuff is less important lol #i am aromantic first and a pan lesbian second. but aro takes up like. most of that #idk i'm sleepy and i'm rambling but main point is. I'M FUCKIN ARO BABYY AND THAT'S COOL AS SHIT #(greyromantic and quoiromantic specifically but that's very wordy lol) #and finding this out has been so good for me. i feel so much better about myself now #i have a better understanding of my relationships with people now. i can actually start to parse out the difference between ''i want to do- #-romance things with this person'' and ''i wanna be really close to this person somhow'' ?! #GOD do you know how many times i've thought i've had crushes on people just because i was becoming closer friends with them???? #amd now that shit is easier to figure out!! #it's fucking freeing!! #good shit :) #okay i go sleepy lol

[supergraphicultramoderngirl]

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#going to rant ignore if u want but mutuals can respond/dm #update after writing the whole thing: i think i have solved my own problem. keeping this up anyway for entertainment #literally i feel like i’m going insane. straight up i do not understand this. what the fuck. #on the one hand. i met this guy. seems super nice. i see him semi regularly. i have crushy feelings abt him and it’s fine #except for the fact that i physically cannot picture myself doing any of the relationshipy stuff with him. #EVEN THOUGH I ACTUALLY HAVE THE FEELINGS THIS TIME. #meanwhile. #two weekends ago i went to a party. and one of my best friends kissed me. which is all fine and dandy since it was a joke #and she was kissing everyone so it didn’t matter. except it was my first kiss #which i kind of wanted to throw away my first kiss anyway so it’s fine #i didn’t really like it when it happened bc it was very very wet and i wasn’t expecting that and i am a germaphobe so i freaked a little #but anyway. i don’t have any actual feelings for her. but i had a dream last night where i kept kissing her and #doing all of the relationshipy things with her. BUT I DONT HAVE THE FEELINGS. #literally why can’t my relationship wants every line up with who i actually like. ever. #so essentially my problem is i can’t tell who i actually like bc you would think i would want to do relationship things with someone i have #feelings for but i fucking guess not bc i would rather do them with my best friend that i physically feel absolutely nothing for. #and then there’s the added stress of what if i don’t actually like either of them and in fact what if i don’t like anyone at all #and i’ve just been arospec without realizing it this whole fucking time just like with my asexuality #and like. as much as i understand that being aro is a normal thing to be (a great thing even) #i feel like i wouldn’t want to like someone this much if i was. like it can’t be that internalized right #OH. OK WAIT I HAVE CREATED BOTH A SOLUTION AND A NEW PROBLEM #what if i just. qpr with my best friend. this would solve the problem of no feelings but want cuddle #only thing is i have no idea how to bring up the idea w her #also this doesn’t solve my guy problem #hopefully he just ends up either being a dick so i can stop liking him or initiating the relationship stuff so i don’t have to have the #internal debate about it bc then maybe my brain will catch up to itself and be like ‘see u can do this with more than just people you’ve #already done it with’. idfk. anyway this was a good stream of consciousness enjoy the crisis

[problemswithbooks]

I’m kinda glad the next season there not adding no new characters and I’m hoping for a happy ending and according to duffers will is going to take center stage but I’ll believe it when I see it

Yeah, it'll be nice not to spend a bunch of time introducing new characters, especially since they seem to only be there so they people to kill that the audience cares about who aren't the main cast.

I do hope there's a happy ending.

Some people have speculated that Eddie might come back as an undead pawn of Vecna, who maybe they can save. I sort of doubt it at the moment sense they haven't done that sort of thing before, but I won't complain if Eddie comes back. He was a really fun character, and out of the dead cast, I think bringing him back would make the most sense.

AS for Will, I agree that he should play a big role in the last season. He has the biggest connection the the Upside Down along with El, and he has been poorly utilized for most of the show, usually ending up a damsel in destress. So it'd be nice if he got to have a better, and bigger role in the final.

I've seen a lot of talk that says Byler (Will/Mike) is going to be end game ship wise and that's going to be a part of his big role. Personally, I hesitate to say it will happen and am a little worried seeing how sure people are that it's going to be canon. I remember to much of that in past fandoms, like Sherlock or Voltron. People were so sure their ship was 100% going to happen and then were furious when it didn't materialize. With Sherlock that was understandable because the fans were purposely baited, but Voltron wasn't like that, yet people were still counting their chickens before they hatched, so to speak.

I'm not against the ship, but I do think if it happens the Duffers are going to have to be spot on with their writing to make it work and not feel tacked on. As many Byler shippers have pointed out Mike has been pretty shit to Will, while also being a crap boyfriend to El. For me at least it would be weird to have El break up with Mike because he's been shitty to her (only seeing El as a superman/weapon), and then to have Will and Mike get together, especially if he also develops powers.

Unless there's a time skip between them getting together, for me it'd just feel like Mike hadn't had enough time to grow and change after his break up with El. That he was bound to repeat the same mistakes with Will.

#ask #thanks for the ask :) #sorry it got buried #Stranger Things #I admit I am a little bias toward Byler because as an Aro person I'm a little sick of the #traumatized teens get together and live happily ever after trope #like to honest none of these people should be dating #they all seem rather bad at thanks to the Duffers writing #which is either brilliant because they act like real teens who break up every 5 min and don't really get relationship stuff yet #or terrible because they do mean for these ships to be really romantic and for watchers to see them as working out in the future #like even if Byler happened I'd have no faith that it'd last more then a few months given Mike's track record with El #which I guess isn't bad #gay teens deserve to have rep that shows them having crappy first relationships too #but i doubt any end ships will be treated as temporary #shows like to end on the ships being forever #which I would get for older couples like Joyce and Hopper #but not so much for teens who have already shown that they like breaking up at a moments notice #like I won't really believe any of the end game ships lasting more then a few months with any of the younger kids

[pathsofoak]

Anyway Heartstopper might be making me question uh... everything

#not sure if it's just me being a little jealous #but idk I normally don't get all warm and fuzzy when I watch romance happen #sometimes it's more of an ick thing #but here's it's not all kissing and lying on top of each other and it suddenly feels so different idk #like maybe I'm not aro-aro #like just demi or something? idk #maybe I'll figure it out when uni starts and I'm actually around people again #but it feels so weird #there is the whole gender thing too I'm just very confused atm #like not bad confused just. confused #I used to be really meh around romance but I think I'm just meh around more steamy if you know what I mean? #still definitely ace but I guess the aro thing is up for debate now

[a-bit-of-a-queer-one]

I loved Wild Blue Yonder, I thought it was a great episode. But if I see one more person proclaiming that the Doctor saying Isaac Newton was "hot" made the character "finally queer", I'm gonna set fire to sth.

For one thing, since they changed into a woman, the Doctor has, depending on one's definition, been canonically genderfluid/trans/nonbinary/genderqueer. That was made even more explicit last week in Star Beast. So saying that the Doctor as played by a man and using he/him pronouns calling a man "hot" somehow made the character queer is stupid in and of itself.

And secondly, the Doctor has long been regarded as aro and ace-coded by people of those communities and guess what? Aro and ace people really do exist and we are queer. And it would be lovely if other queer people could stop excluding us by saying that characters who provide what little, mostly accidental and incidental representation we get "become queer" by expressing same-sex attraction. It happened with Good Omens and it seems to be happening again with Doctor Who and I am so fucking tired of it

Edit (6th Dec 2023): Several people have pointed out in the notes that there have been quite a few instances of the Doctor ambiguously or indeed unambiguously expressing 'same-sex' attraction and exploring their gender identity/identities in the past, both in the show and in extended media. I just wanted to be absolutely clear on the fact that I was in way trying to diminish the importance of those moments by emphasing the aspect of asexuality and aromanticism in my post. That is not to say that I think anyone was implying that I was doing that, in fact everyone's been lovely (which is why I also wanted to thank everyone for their input, I learnt a lot, especially about the novels!!)

Of course, as an asexual, aromantic and agender/nonbinary person, that is the lens through which I watch the show and relate to the character of the Doctor. This does not make my reading of them any more or less valid than anyone else's. In fact, I absolutely love the fact that the Doctor is a character who speaks to people of so many different queer identities and I am so happy that RTD is exploring their queerness more explicitly, building on what he and so many other writers and also the actors have already established. I just hope that the fandom will respect the aro and ace aspects of the Doctor's queerness the same way they do their gender identities and other sexual and romantic orientations. Part of the reason I was initially quite worried about this was because of my experiences in the Good Omens fandom, particularly post series 2, as indicated in my original post. The other is that I doubt the show will explore the aro and ace aspects of the character as much as they may other queer identities - unfortunately aspecs have a history of being left behind in this regard...

But we will see, maybe I'll be proved wrong! For the time being, I just hope the queer community can celebrate all the different facets of the Doctor's undeniable queerness, including the aspec ones. And as the reactions to this post have been overwhelmingly supportive (I don't think I've seen a single outright negative response), I think this hope is far from unfounded.

(Sorry, this edit turned out to be longer than the original post...)

#doctor who #dw spoilers #doctor who spoilers #wild blue yonder #asexuality #aromanticism #asexual #aromantic #acespec #arospec