#look i’m an introvert

[baby-girl-aaron-dessner]

#zero critical thinking skills in this fandom I’m afraid #too many of yall are celebrity worshippers who want tay to interact with her public persona as much as possible #just so that you can consume as much pop culture news as possible #please find other things to be interested in #you don’t have to know every detail of her relationship #y’all hate introverts too and it’s so obvious #your praise her when she valued her privacy and now you look back on that and say she was in jail? #taylor swift #taylorswift #ts #the tortured poets department #ttpd #joe alwyn #swifties #yall need to learn to not place value on superficial Hollywood celebrity gossip

[godblooded]

just an fyi, and it feels like it needs to be said here: your blog is your own space and you should be able to say whatever the fuck you want. if you’re sad? vent. get sad. maybe put it under a cut, definitely tag it, but get sad. if you feel like you need someone to talk to? drop a freaking message about how you’re feeling like you could use a buddy, or anything randomly engaging. if you’re having a hard time, you should feel safe and okay to talk about it in your own space. we’re writers and we’re people and while there’s a lot to be said for how engagement outside of oneself is necessary in rp (and really really needs to improve), i think there’s a lot that must be said about people reaching out to others. it’s become so solitary here — the whole ‘reblog from source’ thing when it comes to shit like about and musings is absurd. the whole refusing to like things is ridiculous. yes, curate your space, that’s important, but curating your space into a studio apartment only you live in doesn’t make this a community anymore, it makes it a studio apartment you live in.

just be yourself here. do whatever you want. but i’m always saying: remember you’re not alone, and don’t let yourself feel that way.

#ooc. o kaptain. #[this is illogically worded and after an argument I’m already upset but I just felt like this has to be put here. it’s been sitting on my #brain for so long and it’s something i just wanted to discuss. the way the rpc has become not even an echo chamber just… a shitty ny #apartment only one person lives in that can fit your fridge and your bedroom in the same room. the way literal fandoms have divided each #other through nothing but massive senses of entitlement and so much gatekeepy fucking language. it’s exhausting to watch this happen #literally all because i have no idea where interaction went and yes I’ve been virtually inactive for months now but. it absolutely isn’t for #lack of trying to come back. it’s hugely due to a lack of interaction whenever I reach out and then the feeling like I’m being either #entertained or dismissed. this is a social space and we’re people and everybody just needs to recognize that. like. last week my introverted #broski started discussing how as he’s older he feels loneliness more tangibly but he hates people and i looked right at him and said …yeah #dude. that’s natural. we’re humans. we need each other to live. we need spaces we create and communities we make. but like. there need to be #interactive people in those spaces. we’re social creatures. i love you guys and this is a ramble but… it’s been on my mind awhile. and #frankly? feels kinda good to finally speak my mind.]

[eugeniedanglars]

if you ever feel like you’re bad at your job just remember that joe jonas’ own pr team managed to turn the internet’s view of him from completely neutral to public enemy number one in the span of 48 hours

#turns out badmouthing the mother of your children in the press on a daily basis doesn’t make people like you! whoda thunk! #especially when the things you’re badmouthing her for are *checks notes* #1. booking one (1) role after being a stay-at-home wife and mom for 4 years #and leaving you with the arduous task of… being a father to your children while she’s at work #2. allegedly wanting to party (even though both of you have said in the past that she’s an introverted homebody) #(but even if she wasn’t partying is not a crime especially when sophie turner is 27 and has spent most of her 20s at home) #3. saying something on a ring camera #i don’t normally care about celebrity drama but i’m captivated by how every new article meant to make joe jonas look good #ends up just making people hate him more

[theshadowrealmitself]

A member of a species with feathers being insecure about their feathers because they don’t have as many colors as some of the other people in their species

Human crewmate offhandedly mentioning how much they like their crewmate’s feathers because the colors and the order they’re in remind them of a specific pride flag back home

Crewmate with feathers now taking any chance to display their feathers around their Human crewmate since they appreciate them

#personally I’m imagining that they look like a bi flag #but I wanted leave it vague so you guys could picture your own flags!! #hello everyone guess who’s sick again #I swear I got the fucking. constitution or whatever of a sickly Victorian child #does me being sick correlate to posting about safe and cozy nests? #hmmmmm……maybe…… #I’m definitely an introvert but I hate being alone when I feel sick #so shared nests or whatever definitely become more appealing in my mind #anyways #no fandom #aliens #humans

[ghosts-and-blue-sweaters]

If you sent me asks/have been in my notifications lately and I have not yet responded, DO NOT WORRY!!! My motivation/energy levels have been odd these past few weeks, but I’ve seen all the things, read them, and they’re so so appreciated :’D Thank you all so much for being so stunningly kind, y’all are awesome.

I’ll respond to everything as quick as I can :D

#my post #as it turns out! being in super crazy/hectic/loud/social environments for periods of time is incredibly draining to introverts!! #who knew am I right? :0 #alsgaksgajsgjag #I’m mostly fine just a bit worn out #I’m excited to answer asks and very appreciative over the sweet messages I’ve received #you guys are literally so nice #what in the world #hopefully I get some good rest soon :) really looking forward to responding to all the Things!! #!!

[sopekooks]

#if you see me start a yoon as cats thread please look away and leave me alone i’m trying to cope #my favorite introverts <33 #crystal rambles

[lucysweatslove]

Wait y’all I think I got it. I’m annoyed and disheartened about what is basically just another iteration of the halo effect.

Divergent bodies are labeled socially as “bad.” Divergent neurotypes are labeled socially as “bad.”

Neither are actually bad, but they’re labeled that way in society’s “constructs.” If you show a divergent body (eg, a limb difference, higher fat %, a different fat distribution or body shape), people WILL treat you differently. If you unmask neurodivergence and “act autistic” or “act ADHD,” people WILL treat you differently.

I think we ALL know this is true.

BUT BUT BUT.

If you unmask neurodivergence but present a normative body, you’re more likely to be “forgiven” for the neurodivergence. If you unmask neurodivergence but you have a divergent body, you’re more likely to be judged more for the neurodivergence.

Obviously eating disorders are far more complex, but I think some part of mine was basically “if I make myself as small as possible, my body will look closer to the normative, and my social deficits won’t be seen quite as negatively.”

And the annoying part is that it was actually fucking true. As I’ve gained weight, growing into a body that is both divergent from the “accepted shape” and divergent from the “accepted weight/overall size,” even if I’m masking the SAME EXACT WAY, having the same exact behaviors, I’m seen as even more neurodivergent??

I’m not kidding. I could get REALLY EXCITED about pugs and sunscreen when I was thin and people would think it’s a little weird but also cute and yeah, sunscreen is important!! But now when I get really excited about pugs and sunscreen, it’s obsessive and creepy and who tf cares? My “unmasked” thinking face uses the same facial muscles- nothing has changed about it other than the amount of flesh on my cheeks- but when I was thin, people would check in and ask if I’m doing alright (because it looked odd for the situation). Now, people don’t ask me about it- they just assume I’m disinterested or even worse, bitchy.

Even my INTROVERSION is seen more negatively?? (Keep in mind that US culture especially is extrovert-normative; despite introversion being so common, introverts are expected to ACT extroverted when they do go out and socialize). When I was thin, I was quiet, introspective, thoughtful, observant, intentional, intelligent. Now that I’m not thin, the same level of quiet reflection before I think is labeled as bored, slow (yes as in my intelligence is low), meek, reclusive, standoffish, antisocial, insecure.

#and I sit here and wonder why tf I feel a little triggered every time I am harshly judged for unmasking my autism or adhd traits #it’s because I really wasn’t judged so poorly when I was thing and had a more normative body #it’s like the halo effect where a thin person is just seen as all around ‘better’ #but it’s not just looks and fame and money that produced the halo effect #there’s even a halo effect for being an extrovert or being neurotypical compared to introverts or being neurodivergent #I imagine it’s even worse/more noticeable for people with other marginalized experiences or identities #I’m not saying I have it the worst by far #just that it shouldn’t fucking exist for anybody fo begin with

[justice4billiam]

It sucks being a introverted attention whore 🥴🙃🫠

#anyone relate? #introvert #attentionwhore #look at me! #but…like…don’t #i’m fine 🙂

[peapod20001]

I like to think that if my tumblr pals came to my house, they’d have a good time

#random post #I don’t mean that as in ‘yea woo let’s party and get fucked up’ like no lol #I just mean. our house is a place where people get along #there’s no expectations here. wanna sit and talk? we can hang out and talk about whatever #wanna play a game? chances are a few other people do to #need to get away for a bit and maybe take a nap? we’ve got plenty of beds take your pick. we’ll make sure no one bothers you #hungry or thirsty? help yourself don’t be shy. we can always get more #like we had ppl over on Saturday and it was so FUN like ppl would talk all together and then different conversations would split off of that #we would go outside then back in. we had food and some ppl had alcohol #we were laughing SO hard about funny shit (like discovering that my sisters bf worked on the gas meter at grandpas but didn’t SAY ANYTHING #ABOUT IT LMFAO) my cousin brought his gf to meet everyone and she just fit in perfectly and so obviously had an obsession for animals #her and my sister were like sudden bffs it was hilarious. my brother and younger cousin ate at 2:40 and slept upstairs till 6:00 #and all we did was turn of the light and put on a fan for em lol. crack up at how comfortable they were #me and my lil sister were walking up and down the driveway talking and looking at the stars. the nap duo were pointing out constellations #when most everyone left it was my household and my sister and her bf. she played uno flip and incoherent with me (usually no one does lol) #and we laughed very hard at all of the adult cards. one of the hints she gave for sidechicks was ‘sad used to have a lot of these’ and #I immediately got it. it was fun. we blasted music from the 2000’s and ate bread #I slept for 11 hours that night lmao and I was tired the next day but I wouldn’t have changed it. I like them lots #it’s days like that that make me think I’m more extroverted than introverted. just because I don’t always know what to say doesn’t mean #I don’t like to talk yn? anyways I’m writing a novel in the tags but I don’t care <3 I just love us and I wish #other people were able to have love and fun times often #I hope this doesn’t sound like me bragging about my home life. trust me I know it’s not some shining light in the darkness or whatever #but it’s something. and I don’t mind sharing my love with other people

[diamondseaside]

i went out for drinks with coworkers and it was a lot of fun but it made me realize how close knit everyone is and it just made me feel a little left out :/

#it’s hard being an introvert in an industry where most people are extroverted #now i’m looking back and realizing i could’ve def made more of an effort to reach out and make plans with people

[providnce]

have a party that I 🙂 really don’t 🙂 wanna go to 🙂🙂🙂

#an old friend’s birthday and i love her dearly #but i’m having an introvert moment rn #and socialisation is the one thing i do NOT need rn #i still look fierce whatevs #personal

[poetrybypuck]

10 random songs from my repeated songs playlist & then tag 10 people, tagged by @psychopomping THANK YOU SM ❤️🌈✨

1. No cambia nada by Emilio Cervini

2. All eyes on me by Bo Burnham

3. Disaster by Conan Gray

4. Little freak by Harry Styles

5. The rain by Ben Platt

6. I’ll call you mine by girl in red

7. You are on your own, kid by Taylor Swift

8. Stuck by Thirty Seconds To Mars

9. Out of the woods by Taylor Swift

10. Never ending song by Conan Gray

Tagging: @sleepysnivy, @mikeandwillel, @sorry-i-panicked

#it’s this… gay? #i like how it looks #i’m not tagging 10 people #that’s too many people i’m sorry :( #i’m an introvert #music #song recs #playlist #songs

[bluewithpurplepolkadots]

You are not entitled to a romantic partner of any kind just on the basis you want one. That isn’t how it works.

People might not be attracted to you for various reasons: and sorry but your bitterness and spite is likely now a compounding factor making you even less likely to find what you’re looking for. It doesn’t matter that you’re a woman. You still reflect, often word for word other than pronoun swaps, the same entitled and self righteous attitude of your average incel.

A real issue can be that women are sometimes, when not deemed attractive by a specific man, not always treated like people by said man. (Or even society depending).

But sometimes not even then. Sometimes you’re just an undesirable or desirable object by said man. And being bitter at the latter woman in this scenario is just silly and missing the point.

#Polka blabs #to say nothing that there are men attracted to women who look like you and you see them every day #the reason you are lonely is probably for other reasons #and won’t solve all your problems anyway if you got the hot bf you wanted #Ive never had a very long term bf or gf and I know it’s because I’m both boring and too introverted among other things #But I’m not bitter at women who do #Besides #just a look at advice columns means there’s far worse things than being single #Idk I’ve been kicking around too many bad tiktok videos in my head which prompted this

[historicalbooknerd]

Hate how society has somehow deemed being not available, but also not doing anything else “important” as an indicator that something is seriously wrong. Just because I am not doing anything else doesn’t mean that I am automatically available to talk and hang out with, and just because I want to be alone doesn’t mean that anything is wrong. I’m an introvert! I like and I thrive having alone time! Not wanting to have a 2 hour+ conversation at 9 pm when I worked my customer-facing job for 8 hours earlier doesnt mean that I’m two seconds away from having a mental breakdown, it means that I want to just hang out alone and play video games without having to pause every two seconds to respond to the latest text!

Am I not allowed to be alone without people assuming that I’m mentally not okay? Does solitude and enjoying the company of ones self make someone insane?

#introversion #introvert #rant #this may be about two friends of mine #and ngl #im this close to blocking one of them #not to mention #that he basically only texts me to talk at 10 pm while hes hyped up on meletonian #and looking for deep philosophical conversations #like #no! #im tired #and my head hurts! #i just got off work #where I had to be nice to people and in customer service mode all day! #i’m not gonna respond! #just let me watch youtube in peace

[waugh-bao]

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#well I can no longer tease Keith for being/looking obliviously in love with his bff #I think I’ve mentioned before that a big part of the reason I’m going to Taiwan this summer #is b/c my best friend from LSE lives there #we met the first week of university and it all just went from there #(rare for both of us b/c we’re introverted) #anyway #after I moved to the US for grad school #and she moved back to Taiwan to work for a bit and figure out what she wanted to do her MA in #we started sending each other care packages #(before this we used to bring each other stuff back from home during breaks ) #((we also meet on zoom every week for a few hours to talk + watch movies)) #they’re pretty good sized boxes with (mostly) food and also books and weird t-shirts/clothes and all of that kind of stuff #we’re quite good at this point at getting stuff the other will like #(I always trawl Trader Joe’s for interesting things I think she’ll enjoy. she got me 5 different flavors of salted plum from an indie #company in Taipei because she knows I love ume) #we always put notes for each other in the boxes too #I send hers to her parents house because it’s easier to have packages shipped to there than in her small flat share in Taipei #and her mom (with her permission) sometimes opens them and takes out something for herself to try #what I didn’t know until today #is that her mom also takes out the notes to put on her desk so they don’t get lost #and she’s been hinting to my friend more and more over the past 2 years that it’s okay if she’s ‘not into boys’ and her parents will support #her no matter who she dates (which is very sweet) #now I’m coming in less than a week #and when my friend was visiting home this weekend she took her aside and told her #that she didn’t have to introduce me as her friend and she could openly say I’m her partner of 2+ years #which (again) would be very sweet #if I were actually her girlfriend #I’m not #and I’m having dinner with her parents at some point in the next few weeks #my life is a bad sitcom

[beomcity]

wait you’re supposed to talk to moots?

#how does my introverted self do that #i thought? #but i saw people posting about and now i’m like ummm #am i supposed to be dming some of y’all 🫣 #or are y’all not #looking for friends? #hm #still don’t know whether to do a yellow or green moodboard #may just double post