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perpetuallypottytraining · 2 months

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(im the anon that said regression is not nsfw)

oh okay i get it kind of :thumbs_up:

do u talk abt potty training stuff on ur main age regression acc too or is it just this one? cuz if u do i might follow idk hehe

okay, I thiiiink these are the same person? Probably? Unclear. I'll answer both here, for clarity.

1 - No, I don't talk about potty training stuff on my main, not anymore. I moved those posts here a couple of years ago. The only content that's there are maybe some reblogs from other regressors.

2 - Okay, first of all, age regressors did NOT come up with those terms, nor do they have exclusive rights to use them. Those terms have been used by people for, like, ever. Parents calling their kids "little ones", family members calling out "littles, come over here!" to refer to any younger members, the obvious origins of "mom" and "dad" and their variants, and "caregivers" being tied to both people who care for babies, children, the elderly, and those with disabilities.

If anything, age players have more rights to the terms "littles" and "caregiver" in the context that we're using on this site. They're the ones who originated/popularized them. I know this because I was here, on this site, in 2016, when age regressors decided to split off from the sfw age play community, and there was legitimately tons of discourse about who had the "right" to those terms.

(who here remembers the chire and the other handful of communities that attempted to exclude anyone who liked the parental nicknames and the usage of the word "little" in their regression? I do. god, do I remember. this is the main reason that a lot of old regression blogs specify that they're "community free regression")

Second, I... don't? Tag anything here as ageplay? Everything here is just tagged with omo tags, then with assorted organizational tags - there is nothing here tagged with agere or ageplay - just posts that use the very vague term of "little" and the other term of "caregiver" within the post itself.

(which, I just feel the need to repeat, is a word that even normies use!! my own parents, aunts, and uncles call me and my cousins littles!!! Outside of that, "Littles" is a shared community term!! Littles and Caregivers, as we use them, originated from Dominant Daddy/Mommy and Little Boy/Little Girl - it's the gender neutral version!! Cg/L! Regressors are the ones who decided to keep it!! Because it's vague!! That's intentional!!)

But, yeah, you're allowed to feel your feelings, and, honestly, the fact that you're uncomfortable with the "playing grown-up" tag is something that I anticipated when I made that tag - that it might make people uncomfortable! But, I've been working on making my own boundaries and enforcing them, while not immediately catering to make other people comfortable at the detriment of my own comfort/space.

This is my blog. People didn't like when I put non-sexual omo on my agere blog because it helped me regress. That's okay, and even I became uncomfortable with it after a while, so! I made this blog! It's not my agere blog. It's my soft omo blog. It's nsfw and for adults only. And, only just recently, I decided to take advantage of those two facts and put some other nsfw posts here. I do not want to make yet another sideblog for the handful of "icky" posts I'd like to reblog, especially when this blog is already here.

A nice thing about Tumblr is that tags are now blockable, so if, for some reason, you wanted to follow me still, you'd still be able too view all my other posts while excluding that specific tag. Or you can block me, if you wanted to - you curate your own online experience, and I'll hold no ill will towards you for making sure that you're comfortable and safe.

As for saying thats someone can't be both an age regressor and an age player? Literally what are you talking out????? Huh???? Do you think that adults can't age regress and slip into the mindset of a child while also being capable of, while in adult headspace, in a consensual relationship, roleplay as a child for sexual gratification??? Those are two different things!!! Ageplay is roleplay, and as such, one is capable of adult things! Agere is someone slipping into the headspace of a child!! Healthy communication with one's partner makes it clear what's okay in one headspace and what's okay in the other!!!

I'm not even an ageplayer and even I know that it's possible to do both 😭😭😭 and I just read fanfiction and people's actual blogs!!

As for your sign off, um. Okay? I don't even interact with a.geredips posts and blogs.... even if they're very relevant to me and my regression! Not even with my main!! (I'm also very shy and timid and a bit scared to interact) And, on my main, if people who follow me start breaking people's DNI, I literally softblock or block them - if they can't follow people's boundaries, then they can't interact! I'm just one blog, and I doubt that if anyone wanted to demonize age regressors, they need any help from me - people who deliberately mistag are probably more than enough tbh.

Ageplay and age regression, like it or not, was cut from the same cloth - a cloth made out of a gradient from black to white, with shades of grey all in between. Like a baby blanket! Black/ageplay and ABDL on one side, white/agere on the other, with you and me and my friends and mutuals somewhere in the middle, all spread out across!

Plenty of adults don't think anyone should return to the comfort of childhood things, and look at the whole blanket with scorn and disgust. Cutting off more and more of the blanket, because you think that my grey isn't as palatable as your grey, is not going to change these people's minds. Both of us live in the grey zone, and I personally think that by accepting more of the grey, our baby blanket will be strong enough to handle anything - even and especially people who think our blanket should be torn to shreds.

#im not even an ageplayer.........#i just thought that those posts were Really well written!#ah well.#asks #long post

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sailorblossoms · 2 years

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@bookish-bogwitch brought this to my attention, and it made me think again about how much heteronormativity and internalized homophobia weighted down on Simon during his teenage years. This is before Simon tells Baz he was sure he wasn't actually gonna marry Agatha–he was sure he'd have died first, that was "the job" (so he never truly considered being married and what that would entail) and before he finally allowed himself to realize he was never into her. It's clear enough that comphet came partly from being cast in roles: Simon was the traditional hero, Agatha was the damsel/prize etc, typically heterosexual roles. There are other elements at play too, like the mage being homophobic/possible care-related trauma, and here's another layer, one that concerns Agatha's family (and their house as the setting) as some sort of "heteronormative cage" for Simon:

Simon being an orphan means that Christmas at the Wellbelove's was the closest he has ever been to experiencing the traditional nuclear family–relevant here is Agatha thinking about growing up with him as if he were a brother. But Simon has "a calling" as "the most powerful mage" "the mage heir" "the savior" and he's a boy and she's a girl so rather than letting them have a friendship where they felt "like siblings" (they would have been allowed if they were both the same gender) Simon became "a very suitable candidate for her daughter" for Agatha's mom, who's likely to be one of the forces pushing them together (certainly the biggest in her house). But even before the breakup Simon doesn't think of that house as "a place to be with Agatha", it's just a place to not be alone, to experience a family welcoming him (Penny's mom specifically didn't want him in her house) and a place where they have a really cool tv and the like. Normal stuff for someone who has a nice home, but one of the things that stands out the most for him. And most notably, this is where it's most likely that expectations of straight marriage and a traditional family would be voiced, very inescapably (why would Simon think it's likely for Agatha's mom to have planned a whole wedding, if she wasn't the type to talk about these things a lot? If she wasn't one to involve herself in the whole thing?)

After the breakup, there's a shift. Simon's invitation is removed (and notably, he goes to Baz). From that point onward, everything about that place makes Simon feel like he's trapped, even the idea of just going back there. It's during the car ride to go there with Agatha and Penny that Simon imagines telling Agatha (and not Penny, even though she also doesn't know yet either) about liking Baz, and he pictures her not accepting him, telling him Baz is not even alive (he's so alive for Simon, he has observed his soul) that Simon is not even gay (he's no ready to even began to process that) and what would the mage say?? (a bitch who can catch these hands, let me tell you, fuck him). At this point Simon starts feeling very shitty and trapped, like he needs to jump out of the car, and this is when he feels he needs to go back to Baz because he can't go back to how things used to be before he realized he has extremely gay feelings for him.

And then there's this scene. "We were a sure thing when I was a sure thing" most of us grew up with stories where the hero kisses the damsel and rides into the sunset. For some of us it took long to realize we could not relate to that fantasy, not really. And here is Simon, alone, facing a place that became representative of typical straight expectations with his gay little wings on display. This is the closest Simon has to a "going home for Christmas and pretending you're not the gay cousin because all your relatives are going to be there and you don't want to deal with their shit" experience. And he feels out of place. Uncomfortable. Forced again to face how so much of what he believed in while growing up was wrong, and how he takes that as a personal failing. His wings are closely tied to his queerness and his love for Baz, but this right here isn't about Baz. When Baz is in front of him, it all becomes so much easier. He spends a book thinking about breaking up with the guy, but it takes like 24 hours for him to run back to him because Baz told him he was giving up on him without putting up a fight. Later, when he thinks about losing it all, he still feels like "he has the better end of the deal" because he has Baz. But Baz isn't mentioned there because again, this isn't about him, this is about Simon's issues with his identity. It's Simon being in an environment that triggers discomfort and internalized homophobia. It reminds him of yet another expectation (a heteronormative one) he failed to fulfill. (Not knowing whether the mom is disappointed or relieved says a lot too, feels like disappointed: "unfulfilled expectations" and relieved: "at least we're not stuck with what he is now!") (This is also why things like the "gay at Ikea" scene that comes later and his conversations with Baz are important)

#local tumblr queer overthinking about how the series explores queerness once again #snowbaz #baz pitch #baz x simon #simon snow trilogy #awtwb #pennelope bunce #i always feel bad about tagging agatha in this kind of analysis where the focus is entirely on simon lol #carry on #wayward son #simon snow #baz grimm pitch

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rametarin · 4 months

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well at least they're being more honest about intentions, now.

Been a bit amused at how they've been trying to put Peter Parker out to pasture, because they don't want Spider-Man, the iconic character, to be white anymore.

Miles Morales has his own niche, but it isn't Peter Parker Spider-Man. Any time interest has faltered for Miles, they went and whipped out Peter to come play support for him and have them interact. Which is nice and all, but there are about a million characters that are not as popular as the iconic ones in comics, from all brands.

youtube

And it boils down to people that believe themselves to be administers of Culture Itself to having decided The People will kiss the feet of a black/hispanic, or at the very least, not cishetero white male Spider-Man as their hero and icon. And they're kind of mad they can't make that happen, just because they want it to be so.

Where their principles matter more than whether the work they produce or the characters are actually good. Where they define what's good and enforce it so you can't have anything BUT what they say is "good." And if you demand anything else, they accuse you of simply being bigoted, evil or demented.

And when they can't bait&switch to replace the icon, they instead decide to character assassinate to try and make that thing you like be tortured to death on the altar before the fans, metaphorically destroying them so they have no choice but to like the silver or copper winner that the would-be ministers of culture want them to like.

When you play their game enough that eventually they get tired of trying to be clever, strategic, subtle, they'll inevitably upend the table and start trying to force it down your throat. Politely duck and weave that, they'll show their true colors and start berating those whom resist as just hating characters like Miles, "because they're black."

This goes beyond such petty topics as racism or sexual or gender-identity inclusion. It goes into this very wrongheaded view of where culture comes from, what it is, and who has the right to censor, and what censorship is. Censorship that comes from the HR department after they do a circus' worth of mental backflips about how religious right soccer moms have no right to demand tits be censored in media, but they can make you attend weeks of tolerance and diversity training for not saying, "chest feeding."

It's about asserting dominance and expressing power on the assumed basis of protecting people, or even culture itself as a principle. But it's something the majority in America have not been allowed to say, because every dissent gets aikido flipped into a conversation about how white people just don't like being called out for racism or sexism or historical inequalities.

You can't force the public to like sub-standard shit just because you insist it's technically, "entertainment." You can't try to use something people like to gut it, hollow it out and try to make your frankly Courtney Love-ian Yoko Ono garbage appealing.

You can order the entire MCU to come out on stage and have them scream about queer this and "whites are capitalism and bad" that. It just shows you think both the people and cultural practice of chasing coattails and limosines makes you popular, just because you manage to catch up to them. And it also shows you're willing to kill existing, healthy pieces of culture in a hostage situation if they won't support your viral loads by making the continued survival of the things people love dependent on also accepting the stupid shit you graft to them. That's a level of hostility, callousness and obsession that cannot be ignored, and you kill enough peoples sacred cows, eventually they'll understand the ways and means of the heretics.

I only wish I spoke Japanese. I have so much I'd love to say to Japanese fans of western content, but the language barrier is incredible.

#Youtube

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scarecoen · 3 years

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Trigger warning ⚠️ domestic violence.

I've typed this story a million times so I'm just going to summarize as much as I can.

A few days ago I was assaulted by my partner's family members. And as I've mentioned, I've typed this a million times and I'm honestly just exhausted thinking about it, but we could use some help.

My partner has always had a transphobic family. (I don't have anyone but my dad, who's in no position to help anyone.)

Her mom used her disability against her and manipulated her into giving her MOST of her checks. She's abused the system and my girlfriend.

When I met Jackie, she was with a terrible biggot. Jackie had came out, and her mother conspired with an abusive long distance ex, to fly her here, to stage an "intervention" and stop my partner from transitioning.

It worked. For years.

I met Jackie here on tumblr, we became good, SECRET friends because she wasn't allowed to talk to anyone.

I told Jackie openly about my views regarding gender and how I myself, was not cis.

Eventually she told her partner about us playing games together, which she responded to by harassing me.

Jackie ended up spilling the beans to me, about her mom, about the ex, everything. I realized that she had been extremely isolated and controlled her whole life.

So I intervened.

I got the two of them to separate, which wasn't smooth because Jackie was scared. She had been with her abuser for 9 years at this point. She's never known anything else.

The ex moved back to her state, and I started seeing Jackie, although she was stuck at her mom's... who was trying to play innocent at this time.

Eventually, I kinda just came and picked her up, she stayed the night, she didn't want to go back home. And I can't blame her. The house wasn't only disgusting, her family microagressed her all the time and they would tell her to pretty much stay in a dark room all day.

Ofc I didn't bring her back.

During early quarantine, we had a lot of self reflection and she started distancing herself from her mother, coming around to holding her accountable for her horrible actions.

Her mom messaged her things like "Why won't you talk to me? It's like you're trying to punish us!" Ect, just every fucking manipulative thing she could say, without ever apologizing.

Unfortunately the place we were staying fell through when my best friend's ex husband decided he wants a divorce and decided to throw in some transphobic hatespeach towards me.

We were all looking for somewhere to go.

I'm sure you know where this is going but listen, she told us EVERYTHING we wanted to hear. She told us she's not hateful now, told us she would go to trans support groups, pride, said she's realized how much she loves Jackie and it's time to accept her- and look- we had NO WHERE TO GO. We have 2 cats and at the time, a car that has no a/c or functional locks. AND I have a chronic autoimmune condition that I recently started taking chemo meds for. (Methotrexate.)

I'm too sick to be on the street, and survive. I had to think about me, Jackie, Zoe, and Boops.

And Jackie wanted to go..

I told her we'd be cautious and try to get out asap.

Well, looking for places right when the housing market crashed really fucked us up. That- and because I had only just finally got approved for disability, means I was set back in life- and had no credit to my name. No credit= no place to live.

I had almost built enough, but things went down hill very quickly with her family. Which leads us to right now:

After weeks of microagressions, giving us breakthrough covid cases, yelling at us to clean other's messes, and forcing us and our cats to isolate in our room, many broken promises, and straight up transphobic hatespeach (because she promised to get vaccinated but then said nvm as soon as we moved in and she went on vacation and got covid and gave it to us, which nearly killed me--) she said not getting the vaccine "IS A CHOICE, JUST LIKE YOU BEING TRANS AND TAKING *gestures to my testosterone* THOSE DRUGS."

We just were avoiding each other while I desperately try to gather resources for us to get out, NOW.

Of course, that wasn't good enough, so when her step father messaged her in all caps about our cats having to stay in our room and "I WON'T FUCKING TELL YOU AGAIN" my partner had a breakdown..

Her mom had let her step dad talk to her like this her whole life, basically.

Out of desperation, we went to her sister for help, maybe hoping she'd give us a place to stay for two weeks while we sign off on the lease for our new apartment.

She pretended to want to help and even said... something fucking weird? She made the comment that I'm a good person and I'm so much like her own boyfriend, that it's "scary"...

A few hours later she came to the house. She talked nicely to us, to gain access to our bedroom.

Then she attacked me.

I called the police right before, and was on the phone with dispatch when she lunged at me because she was aggressively trying to MAKE Jackie go into a separate room WITHOUT ME and Jackie was saying no, BEGGING her to STOP.

I wasn't going to let her take Jackie into that room. She looked fucking crazy.

All of the family came into our room, her two sisters, her mom, and her cousin- When they heard yelling.

It was actually me telling her mom that she's a terrible mother, that triggered her sister to try and attack me- although I knew she was planning on trying to from the moment she came into our room.

And that was after her mom was screaming in my face that if I have something to say, say it now.

Dispatch heard everything and sent emt as well...

But the police stayed outside, talking to them for a WHILE before even asking for us.

Her cousin is the only one that would have stood up for me, saying her sister never should have tried to hit me. But he was in the room with Jackie, giving her support...

I faced the cops alone.

He already had "that look."

He shined a light into my eye, letting the family stay on the porch, throwing insults and just letting it happen. He asked me where I'm hurt, and before I could even show him the scratches on my arm, he said "how do I know YOU didn't put those there?"

I wanted to fucking die in that moment.

This is a conservative city.

No one has equality stickers here. No one flies gay flags. People here that are lgbt- they LEAVE.

This is EXACTLY WHY.

I said "well is there any reason I should tell you anything when, clearly, you're already bias?"

I looked at the emts. I looked at his partner. I looked at all the lights and people coming out of their houses-

And behind me was her family.

Her sister that assaulted me, was laughing about having work in the morning.

All of them were looking at me, with hate in their eyes.

He tried to feed me bullshit about "well if I'm taking someone to jail, there has to be proof."

He dismissed everything I attempted to say, until I just stared at the ground and he decided he did his job here.

I told him my whole fucking body hurts because I had 4 people fucking toss my 100lbs ass all over the fucking room, which was a mess that he refused to look at.

He said "I don't see bruises."

I SPAT "BRUISES TAKE TIME?"

He retorted IMMEDIATELY- "YOU'RE NOT EVEN RED."

I asked what about the dispatcher- she seemed concerned- to which he said "you see, sometimes when people call us- they scream and be dramatic- for a quicker response."

I asked what we could do while the two weeks go by for our new place, and he fucking said "I DONT KNOW. BARRICADE YOURSELF IN YOUR ROOM OR SOMETHING."

Needless to say, we are now safe, in a hotel and I've gotten in touch with a few lgbt organizations that are attempting to help us get justice.

Unfortunately because it's a holiday weekend, all we can do is wait right now.

Our first order of business is getting a protection order, so that we can retrieve the rest of our things without her sister trying to attack us again. (I say us because she kept jumping towards Jackie, like she was threatening to hit her.)

I've been so gaslit and victim blamed that I was too scared to go to the er, even though this all happened in the midst of a flare, possibly including my liver health.

There's so much more to this story, as I'm sure other trans people can relate.. unfortunately.

The emts reluctantly offered to take me to the er, but I was like "and leave my partner here with them?" And he just fucking shrugged dude.

I hate this city.

I want out so bad but unfortunately I've committed to a year, but at least it'll be *our* apartment.

We could NOT stay there for two more weeks. Her step dad is a violent offender that has attempted to murder a homeless prostitute over some fucking pocket change- and he has a GUN in the house.

This hotel might run us into a hole, despite it being the cheapest, shittiest hotel in town, it's still going to be about 700$ for ONE week.

To ADD INSULT TO INJURY, SOMEONE ATTEMPTED TO STEAL MY VEHICLE WHILE WE'VE BEEN STAYING HERE.

I'm feeling incredibly paranoid and unsafe, but I'm on anxiety meds now at least and its SORTA helping us cope (My partner and I have the same Dr and she gave her permission to have some.)

The organization BRAVO is trying to help us with a hotel voucher, but because of all the natural disasters, it's hard to find room in charity for people like us, which is fair enough. We aren't immediately on the street, and for that I'm incredibly thankful.

However, if you or anyone you know wish to help you can donate to venmo: kittyzibby. Or you could just signal boost this.

If you can't help, I understand. And IF YOU'RE STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY, don't worry about it, for real.

Right now I'm just scared we'll go into debt before getting the apartment settled in.

I will update on things once our case moves along more, and we were already considering turning to OF sexwork before all of this, so if there could be support that way, maybe we'll get that going once we get moved in. That way, I feel good about providing a service in return.

Thank you so much for sticking with us during all of this. And really- we're doing much better today. We've given each other pep talks, but we are still determined to start our lives together.

Her family was merely trying to scare me away from her, but I got my girl's name tatted on me for a reason.

I know I'm not the bad person here.

Every time Jackie is feeling more gender euphoric, and showing me her changes, and seeing her get more confident, the more I know that what I'm doing with and for her, is right.

I love her so much. And I will never abandon her, like they tried to get me to do.

Jackie is taking a break from some socials, but she's given me permission to talk about what's been happening.

She needs justice too.

I will update as much as I can, but seriously, I think we both just have a fire under our asses now.

Mentally, we're stronger than ever.

Thank you for reading. My heart really goes out to the rest of the queer community that have experienced or are going through similar things.

It's really made me realize why we need to stick together and fight this bigotry bullshit! 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

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