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nothwell · 5 months
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I am a human author telling human stories to other humans. Supporting human artists to illustrate these human stories is the only logical and ethical choice.
@thistlearts is my cover artist. He did incredible paintings for Mr Warren's Profession, Oak King Holly King, Tales from Blackthorn Briar, and Fiorenzo.
@lauravian_arts designed adorable stickers for Oak King Holly King. (Available now in my etsy - and perhaps soon, a Kickstarter?)
Collaborating with human artists is a joy and a dream.
AI is unethical, illegal, and dangerous theft from real human beings. No excuses.
(And thank you to @noahhawthorneauthor for inspiring this post!)
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iseeitiseetheisland · 3 months
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Adam Driver (with Sally Hawkins, Cherry Jones, Edward Hibbert, Mark Harelik and Daniel Goldfarb) at the opening night after party of Mrs. Warren's Profession, 2010
-Broadway.com via @adamdriverarchv
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lucifer-kane · 2 years
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love this book im reading rn. this clueless rich man is head over heels already for this other dude. the clerk is just like ‘i’m here for a good time. why is he telling me about his family this is just a fuck????’ it’s so funny i’m 23% into it
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mashmouths · 1 month
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why does every shaw scholar need to ride freud's dick so hard :/ cannot find a single article that talks about mrs. warren's profession without freudian analysis, and all the feminist critiques just talk about how shaw's plays don't live up to his feminist philosophies
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a-kind-of-merry-war · 9 months
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I've already shouted about these on Instagram, but I just finished reading these three books (Mr Warren's Profession, Hold Fast and Oak King Holly King) by Sebastian Nothwell (@nothwell) and aaaaaah I really enjoyed them.
I would definitely recommend if you're a fan of Hartswood or other queer historicals (like Cat Sebastian, KJ Charles etc). Oak King Holly King is a romantasy, set part in the human world and part in the fae world. All the characters are super engaging, and I couldn't put them down - I just kept on reading 😅
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copperbadge · 2 years
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Can I ask what brought you to Shaw?
Irish person wondering
Oh, I've loved George Bernard Shaw for ages. What a great weirdo he was. Ardent feminist and anticapitalist, advocate for sex workers and against puritanism, believed wearing wool kept you healthy, didn't like apostrophes, possibly gay but more likely asexual, magnificent beard.
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I have a copy of his published correspondence with Alfred Douglas that began when Douglas was forty and Shaw was sixty; in one of the earlier letters he says something about how he probably wouldn't be around much longer, and then they corresponded for like the next 20 or 30 years. Shaw might have been onto something with all the wool and vegetarianism given he died at the age of 95 not from old age but from a fall down the stairs.
I was a theatre major in undergrad, and I 'met' Shaw when my mentor gave me Major Barbara to read. I didn't fully understand it at the time but I loved it regardless, so I went looking for his other well-known works and loved those, even the essays, which is how I ended up ripping my way eventually through his very obscure stuff. I haven't read a lot of it in a long time but I re-read Major Barbara and Mrs. Warren's Profession every few years, and I have a soft spot for The Devil's Disciple and one of his short plays, Village Wooing. Shaw's work was absolutely formative to me as a critical thinker. It's a shame you very rarely see anything but Major Barbara produced these days. Honestly I think most of his work is still a bit threatening and he hasn't got the name recognition of Wilde, so he doesn't put butts in seats.
But I still love him. What up GBS. Looking fly.
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rowan-blood · 5 months
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Book Recommendations
Kellen Graves
Prince of the Sorrows (Rowan Blood, #1) Lord of Silver Ashes (Rowan Blood, #2) Herald of the Witch’s Mark (Rowan Blood #3) The Fox and the Dryad
K.J. Charles
The Smuggler and the Warlord (A Charm of Magpies, #0.5) The Magpie Lord (A Charm of Magpies, #1) Interlude with Tattoos (A Charm of Magpies, #1.5) A Case of Possession (A Charm of Magpies, #2) A Case of Spirits (A Charm of Magpies, #2.5 Flight of Magpies (A Charm of Magpies, #3) Feast of Stephen (A Charm of Magpies, #3.5) Five For Heaven (A Charm of Magpies, #3.6) Jackdaw (A Charm of Magpies, #4) Rag and Bone (A Charm of Magpies, #5) A Queer Trade (A Charm of Magpies, #5.5) The Secret Casebook of Simon Feximal Butterflies (The Secret Casebook of Simon Feximal, #2) Remnant: A Caldwell & Feximal/Whyborne & Griffin Mystery (The Secret Casebook of Simon Feximal, #3; Whyborne & Griffin, #3.5) Proper English (England World, #1) Think of England (England World, #2) Song for a Viking (England World, #2.1) A Fashionable Indulgence (Society of Gentlemen, #1) A Seditious Affair (Society of Gentlemen, #2) A Gentleman’s Position (Society of Gentlemen, #3) Wanted, A Gentleman An Unseen Attraction (Sins of the Cities, #1) An Unnatural Vice (Sins of the Cities, #2) An Unsuitable Heir (Sins of the Cities, #3) Spectred Isle (Green Men, #1) The Henchmen of Zenda Unfit to Print Band Sinister The Rat-Catcher’s Daughter (Lilywhite Boys, #0.5) Any Old Diamonds (Lilywhite Boys, #1) Gilded Cage (Lilywhite Boys, #2) Masters in This Hall (Lilywhite Boys, #3) Slippery Creatures (The Will Darling Adventures, #1) The Sugared Game (The Will Darling Adventures, #2) Subtle Blood (The Will Darling Adventures, #3) The Gentle Art of Fortune Hunting The Secret Lives of Country Gentlemen (The Doomsday Books, #1) A Nobleman’s Guide to Seducing a Scoundrel (The Doomsday Books, #2) A Thief in the Night
A.J. Demas
One Night in Boukos Something Human Sword Dance (Sword Dance, #1) Saffron Alley (Sword Dance, #2) Strong Wine (Sword Dance, #3) Honey and Pepper (When in Pheme, #1)
C.S. Pacat
Captive Prince (Captive Prince, #1) Captive Prince: Volume Two (Captive Prince, #2) Kings Rising (Captive Prince, #3) Dark Rise (Dark Rise, #1) Dark Heir (Dark Rise, #2)
Joanna Chambers
Provoked (Enlightenment, #1) Beguiled (Enlightenment, #2) Enlightened (Enlightenment, #3) Unnatural (Enlightenment, #4) Restored (Enlightenment, #5) Gentleman Wolf (Capital Wolves Duet, #1) Master Wolf (Capital Wolves Duet, #2)
Tamara Allen
Downtime Whistling in the Dark The Only Gold If It Ain’t Love The Road to Silver Plume (Secret Service #1) Playing the Ace (Secret Service #2) Invitation to the Dance
Harper Fox
Brothers of the Wild North Sea Once Upon a Haunted Moor (Tyack & Frayne #1) Tinsel Fish (Tyack & Frayne #2) Don’t Let Go (Tyack & Frayne #3) Kitto (Tyack & Frayne #4) Guardians of the Haunted Moor (Tyack & Frayne #5) Third Solstice (Tyack & Frayne #6) Preacher, Prophet, Beast (Tyack & Frayne #7) Out
Sebastian Nothwell
Mr Warren’s Profession (Aubrey & Lindsey, #1) Throw His Heart Over (Aubrey & Lindsey, #2) Hold Fast Oak King Holly King
Lydia Gastrell
One Indulgence (Indulgence #1) One Glimpse (Indulgence, #2)
Hale Ginn
Lord of the White Hell, Book 1 (Lord of the White Hell, #1) Lord of the White Hell, Book 2 (Lord of the White Hell, #2)
Adella J. Harris
The Marquess of Gorsewall Manor (After the Swan’s Nest, #1) The Earl of Klesamor Hall (After the Swan’s Nest, #2)
Cat Sebastian
The Soldier’s Scoundrel (The Turners, #1) The Lawrence Browne Affair (The Turners, #2) The Ruin of a Rake (The Turners, #3) It Takes Two to Tumble (Seducing the Sedgwicks, #1) A Gentleman Never Keeps Score (Seducing the Sedgwicks, #2) Two Rogues Make a Right (Seducing the Sedgwicks, #3)
Lily Morton
The Mysterious and Amazing Blue Billings (Black and Blue #1) The Quiet House (Black and Blue #2) Something Wicked (Black and Blue #3)
Freya Marske
A Marvellous Light (The Last Binding #1) A Restless Truth (The Last Binding #2)
Other Authors
The Devil Lancer by Amara, Astrid The Reluctant Berserker by Beecroft, Alex The Scottish Boy by Campi, Alex de Catalina Blues by York, Marlo The Rake, the Rogue and the Roué by Westfall, Eric Alan The Gladiator’s Master by Sutherland, Fae The Song of Achilles by Miller, Madeline When Skies Have Fallen by McGowan, Debbie Nova Praetorian by N.R. Walker The Reanimator's Heart (The Reanimator Mysteries #1) by Kara Jorgensen
(last update 2024/04/19)
I would appreciate your recommendations if you enjoy one or more books from this list.
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tophatz · 3 months
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favorite color(s): red, black, gray, purple and navy blue.
favorite flavor(s): Citrus, sweet stuff, sour stuff, spicy.
favorite music: Cabaret Rock, Garage Rock, Metal, Showtunes, punk, scene.
favorite movie(s): Saw (2004), Jojo rabbit, Road to El-Dorado, The Mitchells vs The Machines, Men In Black
favorite series: Far too many to count but the first two that come to mind are NBC's Hannibal, BBC's Merlin and NBC's Community. M*A*S*H, too.
last song: You - Five Finger Death Punch
last series: Scott Pilgrim Takes off ( Cartoon/ Animated ), Dexter ( Live Action )
last movie: The Hunger Games: Catching Fire. ( rewatch )
currently reading: Edward Albee's Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? and George Bernard Shaw's Mrs Warren's Profession.
currently watching: Mr. Robot ( first-time watch ) and Adventure Time ( rewatch)
currently working on: a novella, the final draft of an essay, OC bios on here
Tagged by: @dandeliicns ( tysm! )
Tagging: @indigodreames, @apurekindness, @rageagaiinst, @reverdies, @herstoriies, @unsnare, @oddlies and anyone else who wants to do this!
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dvar-trek · 3 months
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January Romance
hello friends i have not slowed down, and perhaps i have maybe even sped up. in the. shotgunning queer romance novels department.
i am mostly on a hockey kick lately. i know nothing about hockey. i have probably watched a grand total of 5 minutes of hockey in my life. i do not care about any sports at all. but i figured that if i can get invested in a sports movie without caring about the sports part (such as Hoosiers (1986) or A League of Their Own (1992)), i could get invested in a sports romance novel without caring about the sports part. and i was correct. thank fuck, bc i think i've read all of the historical romances that there are.
nothing i read this month was like. perfect. it's very hard to measure up to my KJ Charles faves. but there was still some good shit!
the best of:
Hockey Ever After Series (Winging It, Scoring Position, and Unrivaled by Ashlyn Kane and Morgan James- each book follows a different couple. the characters are so good and well fleshed-out, the team dynamics are fun, the plots are engaging, and the sex is hot. you really don't have to know anything about hockey (especially if you start with the 2022 edition of Winging It, which is definitely, definitely the correct choice), but also apparently their hockey shit is pretty accurate, which i always appreciate. overall, the complete package.
the rest of:
loved | liked | okay | didn't like
historical
 ●Undressing the Duke by Erica Ridley (a duke falls in love with his valet who is also his best friend. couldn't finish it. i know KJ Charles has me spoiled for historical accuracy, but i yelled 'WHAT!!!' so many times at so many things that i finally gave up. also it's just not very good in any of the other respects.)  ●The Campion Square series by Adella J Harris (three romances taking place in the same little neighborhood. the series is essentially just sweet and sedate and wholesome, and there is nothing wrong with it, but it did not make me feel a single emotion. the definition of 'okay'.)     ○Mr. Wilkins and the Lodger     ○Mr. Montague and the Pineapple     ○Mr. Jenkins and the Necklace  ●Best Laid Plaids by Ella Stainton (simply not that good, and not even in a fun way.)  ●Mr Warren's Profession by Sebastian Nothwell (clueless son of a wealthy baronet falls for an impoverished clerk. it's nothing special and requires so very much suspension of disbelief that it stops being fun.)  ●One Night in Hartswood by Emma Denny (it has its problems and isn't going to make the faves list, but is basically a lovely and heartfelt romance. two men who don't know each other's identities travel together through the winter. requires a normal-mid amount of suspension of disbelief.)
hockey
 ●Him series by Sarina Bowen and Elle Kennedy (guy falls in love with his straight best friend in high school and cuts him out of his life. they reconnect 4 years later for one last summer together. i loved 90% of the first book, but did not love the direction the authors take things. this series is a genre-wide favorite for tons of people though.)     ○Him     ○Us     ○Epic (novella)  ●On The Brink by Kate Willoughby (there's nothing fun wrong with it. it's just not good.)  ●Puckboys by Eden Finley and Saxon James (these are fine for what they are--just enough plot for hockey boys to have a lot of sex and fall in love, in that order. there are a ton more of these but i had no desire to keep going.)     ○Egotistical Puckboy     ○Irresponsible Puckboy  ●Light Up the Lamp by Kit Oliver (i cried my fucking eyes out. and then i listened to a bunch of songs that i knew would make it hit harder and i cried some more. the writing is... not that bad but also not that good. the premise destroyed me. childhood best friends who fall in love and then life takes them in different directions and they fuck it up so stupidly because they are nineteen years old. and then they go through life with this. chasm. where the love used to be. and then 15 years later they are forced to work together and they decide they will simply never speak of it even though they never resolved any of their shit and it is breaking them open. if you read this book you are contractually obligated to talk to me about it thanks!)     ○Biscuit in the Basket (epilogue novella)
other
 ●Hard Feelings by Ashlyn Kane and Morgan James (artist/graphic designer and software developer who can't stand each other are forced to work together, and they have a lot of hate sex about it. i do not think the authors know anything about design or coding. several parts of this book are cringe. it still had its moments that made my fucking chest hurt. possibly worth it just for that.)  ●The Rock Star's Guide to Getting Your Man by Ashlyn Kane (another one where a guy is in love with his straight childhood best friend. he goes back to his hometown 15 years later to hide from drama with his bandmates, and finds his former best friend still lives there. this one also made me cry, but mostly the dead dad parts. a little bit cheesy and awkward. some funny moments, and not, like, heavy, but also not exactly lighthearted. i appreciated the fact that most of the conflict was with the band and not with the love interest.)  ●The Inside Edge by Ashlyn Kane (tv cohosts who annoy each other and bicker on-screen -> casual sex -> fake dating -> real dating. just a delightful little bonbon of a romance. does go zero-to-i-love-you, which is a pet peeve, but you can't have everything in life.)  ●All the Right Notes by Dominic Lim (composer's dad asks him to come home and put on a charity performance, and to convince a former classmate, now a famous movie star, to perform in it. nice amount of focus on the asian family dynamics without being too heavy-handed. engaging story, and sweet, but clunky. it's a debut novel though, so i'm looking forward to seeing what else this author will put out in the future.)  ●Winter Ball by Amy Lane (i don't even know what to say about this book. i think it is from an alternate universe. the story and the dialogue both feel weirdly out of time, and the author uses phrases in the sex scenes that probably have never have never even been thought by another human. anyway it's about two best friends who discover their sexualities together, and decide to build a life together in spite of familial and societal disapproval.)  ●Iris Kelly Doesn't Date by Ashley Herring Blake (the third book in a series that unfortunately peaked at book 1. all of the things that were awkward about the first book have only become more pronounced as the series progresses. i gave this the old college try, but could not finish it.)  ●Date Me, Bryson Keller by Kevin van Whye (YA book wherein a popular boy agrees to pretend to date his gay classmate for a week. it is. not well-written, but it is basically a sweet story.)  ●The Best Men by Sarina Bowen and Lauren Blakely (this one just felt aggressively like a book by straight women for straight women. also they didn't do the anal research. also also they didn't research the jobs they gave their main characters.)  ●Top Secret by Elle Kennedy and Sarina Bowen (what if you were a straight guy in college and you were anonymously sexting another guy to set up the threesome your girlfriend requested. and then it turned out you were really into him. and then it also turned out he was the guy in your frat house that you hate. would that be fucked up hot or what. i will not lie to you, this book is kind of cringe. like one of the main characters insists approximately 500 times that he's only sexually experimenting because he's a scientist and it's scientific. but it's still fun and i still enjoyed it. there's also a bonus epilogue available.)  ●Heels Over Head by Elyse Springer (incredibly repressed olympic diver falls for his new teammate. full of heartache and shitty families and tenderness and choosing joy.)
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Below is a piece on mating psychology I wrote for Onn Health. It is aimed primarily at (heterosexual) men, yet the insights offered here are broadly applicable to everyone.
The two most powerful predictors of happiness and life satisfaction are working in the right profession and finding the right spouse.
You can commit a lot of blunders in your life, but if you manage to get two things right, you will maximize your chance of long-term wellbeing.
Our choice of job and our choice of spouse are central to our happiness because they are where we spend most of our lives—at work and with our families. Therefore, we should devote a good deal of time concentrating on how to make the best possible decision for these two sources of potential happiness. Indeed, making the wrong choice can lead to potential misery.
Interestingly, much of modern advice prioritizes education and career, often relegating relationships to a secondary concern or valuing them primarily for their potential to enhance career ambitions.
Relationships, though, are critical for our health and wellbeing. Studies have found that the effect of poor relationship quality on mortality is as strong as the effects of better-known risk factors, such as smoking and alcohol use, and even stronger than other important factors, such as sedentariness and obesity.
For those who are focused on their careers, choosing the right partner can fuel occupational success. For instance, people with conscientious romantic partners tend to report higher job satisfaction and income, and are more likely to be promoted. This pattern held even after controlling for the study participants’ own conscientiousness. A disciplined and hard-working romantic partner can help us succeed in our own careers.
Indeed, there are examples of well-known men and the women who have helped them in their journeys:
Mr Beast:
“I have someone who I think is very beautiful, very intelligent, makes me better, is constantly pushing me, is okay with me working hard, makes me smarter. And just all these different things. For me, love just makes me a better person.”
Connor McGregor:
“My girlfriend worked very hard throughout the years and stuck by me when I had essentially absolutely nothing. I only had a dream that I was telling her.”
Chris Bumstead:
“She just built this confidence in me… It was a really important moment for my personal growth, champion growth, relationship growth.”
Warren Buffett:
“Susie really put me together. She believed in me. She got me to believe in myself, and that changed my life.” “And I would not only have not turned out to be the person I turned out to be, but I actually wouldn’t have been as successful in business without that. She made me more of a whole person.”
These examples show only one side of the story. In healthy relationships, both partners are expected to receive net benefits and grow.
Research in evolutionary and social psychology has illuminated key findings that help us to understand how people choose mates, as well as the factors that predict relationship success.
George Vaillant, former director of the multigenerational Harvard Study of Adult Development, has noted that “warm, intimate relationships are the most important prologue to a good life.”
Warm relationships supply benefits to both happiness and health.
How do people go about choosing mates? In popular culture, we often hear two different adages when it comes to relationship formation: Opposites attract, and birds of a feather flock together.
The former might make for a good romantic comedy. But in the real world, people tend to mate assortatively. We generally favor romantic partners who are similar to ourselves.
This is especially true for education and intelligence. In the U.S., for example, if your highest level of education is a high school diploma, your probability of marrying a college graduate is only nine percent. In contrast, if you hold a college degree, your probability of marrying a fellow college graduate is sixty-five percent. Interestingly, though, couples’ similarity in intelligence does not seem to predict relationship satisfaction.
Beyond education, we also tend to choose romantic partners who are similar to ourselves in terms of age, political orientation, religious affiliation, and socioeconomic status.
Does similarity predict stronger relationship satisfaction? The answer seems to be no. A meta-analysis concluded that “similarity had very little effect on satisfaction.” This doesn’t mean, of course, that similarity is meaningless for romantic satisfaction. More likely, similarity is necessary but not sufficient for romantic satisfaction. That is, while similarity does not guarantee relationship satisfaction, strong dissimilarities might be “deal-breakers” that would contribute to discontent. Your romantic partner holding the same political beliefs as you doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be 100% satisfied with each other; but if they take the opposite stance on every view you hold, there’s a strong chance that relationship wouldn’t last very long.
So what does predict relationship satisfaction?
One factor seems to be authenticity. A team of psychologists found that the link between authenticity in relationships and relationship satisfaction is very strong. For instance, people who strongly agreed with statements such as “I share my deepest thoughts with my partner even if there’s a chance he/she won’t understand them” reported being particularly happy in their relationships. Interestingly, the study found that authentic people tended to mate with other authentic people, whereas deceptive individuals tend to attract deceptive partners. This seems to be another example of assortative mating, whereby people find themselves in relationships with partners similar to themselves.
What else besides authenticity predicts relationship satisfaction? A 2016 paper in Evolution and Human Behavior, authored by Daniel Conroy-Beam, Cari D. Goetz, and David Buss explored what makes people happy in their relationships. They discovered that people were less satisfied in relationships when their partners were less desirable compared to other potential choices. However, this was specifically the case for individuals who were more attractive than their partners. That is, people were satisfied with mates who were either more attractive than themselves, or more attractive than alternative choices. In short, when people were with partners who were attractive and hard to replace, then they were more likely to be satisfied. It seems that people aren’t asking themselves, “Does my partner fulfill my relationship needs?” Rather, they ask “Is my partner better than the realistic alternatives?” We aren’t gauging on some objective rubric. Rather, we grade our partners on a curve, comparing them to others we could reasonably hope to pair with.
This gets to the question of how we should approach searching for a compatible mate. An important idea from decision theory that can assist with this is known as the 37% rule, or “the secretary problem.” Suppose you’re looking for the best candidate for a secretary position (or any other job). The rule says that you should estimate how many total applicants are likely to seek the position, interview the first 37 percent of them, and remember the best out of that initial sample. Then, continue interviewing until you find a candidate who is even better than that. Once you find that better candidate, hire him or her. That is how you select the optimal candidate.
The problem with this rule is that it takes a lot of time and energy, especially if you are faced with a large number of possible candidates. You can’t realistically date 37% of all women you might possibly be interested in, and then keep going until you find someone more compatible than the best in that batch. However, researchers have found that a similar rule called “Try a Dozen” can work just as well as the 37% rule. According to this simpler approach, you would date a dozen possible romantic partners, remember the best of them, and then pick the very next prospect who is even more appealing to you. Of course, this is just a theoretical model that sheds light on the challenges of trying to optimize a difficult decision. It has many shortcomings and is not necessarily applicable to all individuals in all circumstances.
Many men try to get the hottest possible partner they can find. But this can present its own problems. As David Buss has said, “Mates, once gained, must be retained.” An average guy might manage to get a few dates with a supermodel. But the supermodel’s array of potential alternative options can introduce potential instability into the relationship. This can lead to jealousy, increased mate guarding, warding off potential romantic rivals, increased stress, heated arguments, and so on.
Of course, the reverse is not ideal. Entering a relationship with someone who is noticeably less attractive than you can give rise to dissatisfaction, conflict, and a wandering eye as you consider possible alternatives. The ideal situation, as Buss says, is “when both people feel lucky to be with the other person.” Of course, if your current pool of mates you could reasonably hope to attain is less attractive than you’d like, there is a simple option: Become more attractive yourself. For appearance, keep up on personal grooming and hygiene; improve your health and fitness; buy clothes that are stylish and fit well; get a good haircut. As a man, you can also level up your attractiveness by earning a promotion at work, switching to a higher paying position, or seeking a cool side job (bartenders, musicians, and volunteer firefighters don’t get paid like surgeons but still appeal to many women).
Many people have noticed that young people are unrealistically expected to know what career they will pursue at the age of 18 or 22. Seldom does anyone point out that the same logic applies to long-term romantic commitment. Interestingly, while there is a lot of guidance for how to choose a good career, far less support is available for choosing the right spouse.
Choosing a mate is not just choosing a mate. It’s also casting a vote for who you will be and who your children will be. [...]
Mate choice also profoundly influences children. If you have kids, your partner’s genetics will significantly influence their intelligence (at least 60% heritable), personality traits (more than 40% heritable), and mental health (more than 30% heritable). And as I cover extensively in my book, healthy, stable relationships benefit children. Having a partner who contributes to such a relationship will be instrumental in your child’s development and wellbeing. 
Given the importance of marriage in a man’s life, it is crucial to choose a compatible spouse. Knowing which qualities to avoid and which to seek out can save you from future emotional and perhaps financial ruin.
People often focus on attributes they would like in a partner, but it is perhaps even more important to know which characteristics to avoid. “Red flags,” in common parlance. [...]
Smith offers a quote in another of his books, The Tactical Guide to Women, “Look for the red flags early in the relationship. If anything pops up early on, don’t let that slide. Most people are on their best behavior in the beginning. They hide it well until around the six-month mark. For example, if she gets drunk and is screaming at you for no reason within the first month, run as fast as you can. Don’t let something like that slide. There are underlying issues there.” This doesn’t mean that they are a bad person or unworthy of love or anything like that. But drinking and yelling is a sign that such a person might not be ideal for a long-term relationship commitment.
What about beneficial traits, or so-called “green flags?”
Smith suggests seeking clarity, maturity, and stability in a potential mate.
Anybody can communicate well when they and the relationship are at their best. Clarity, though, encompasses reliable communication and the ability to communicate during stormy periods. [...] Good relationships require that both partners express themselves constructively, especially during times of stress.
Relatedly, inquisitiveness is an important skill. It cuts through ambiguities and insecurities. Within a relationship, if one person behaves in an insensitive manner, a sign of inquisitiveness would be if his or her partner, rather than expressing anger, calmly asks why and listens. This can open the path to communication and understanding, rather than mutually escalating hostilities. [..]
Emotional maturity is another green flag. Some signs of this skill: She can calm herself when she’s sad or angry, she accepts reality, she keeps commitments, she takes care of relationships and doesn’t burn bridges, she bases important decisions on values rather than impulse, and she possesses the emotional resources to function well among coworkers, family, and friends.
Stability, another positive quality, indicates that a woman handles her personal challenges and cares for herself so that her life (and yours) isn’t a series of crises. As Smith puts it, a woman “who is unwilling to strive for her best state of mental health is unlikely to succeed in relationships.” [...]
This perspective on relationships underscores the importance of mutual support and shared growth. The notion of the “special woman” and “special man” transcends the conventional understanding of romantic partnerships, emphasizing a deeper, more harmonious connection. This link is not solely about love or attraction or sex; it is about finding a partner who understands, encourages, and participates in your life journey. Such a relationship becomes a crucible for personal and professional development, where both individuals are not just companions but co-architects of a shared future.
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alphaman99 · 9 months
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"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them."-- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish comic dramatist
Source: "Mrs. Warren's Profession" (1893) Act II
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Driver was born on November 19, 1983, in San Diego, California, the son of Nancy Wright (née Needham), a paralegal, and Joe Douglas Driver.
He is an American actor. Recognized for his collaborations with auteur filmmakers, he is the recipient of various accolades, including nominations for two Academy Awards, four Primetime Emmy Awards, and a Tony Award.
He made his Broadway debut in Mrs. Warren's Profession (2010) and subsequently appeared in Man and Boy (2011). He rose to prominence with a supporting role in the HBO series Girls (2012–2017), for which he received three consecutive Primetime Emmy nominations. He began his film career in supporting roles in Lincoln (2012), Frances Ha (2012) and Inside Llewyn Davis (2013). He won the Volpi Cup for Best Actor for a leading role in Hungry Hearts (2014).
He gained wider recognition for playing Kylo Ren in the Star Wars sequel trilogy (2015–2019). He played a poet in Paterson (2016), and had supporting roles in the religious epic Silence (2016) and the heist comedy Logan Lucky (2017). In 2019, he returned to the stage in the Broadway revival of Burn This, for which he was nominated for the Tony Award for Best Actor in a Play. He garnered consecutive Academy Award nominations: Best Supporting Actor for BlacKkKlansman (2018) and Best Actor for Marriage Story (2019). He has since starred in Ridley Scott's 2021 period films The Last Duel and House of Gucci, and played Enzo Ferrari in the biopic Ferrari (2023).
Driver is a veteran of the U.S. Marine Corps. He is also the founder of Arts in the Armed Forces, a non-profit that provides free arts programming to American active-duty service members, veterans, military support staff, and their families worldwide.
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GEORGE BERNARD SHAW Mrs. Warren’s Profession (1898)
All censorships exist to prevent anyone from challenging current conceptions and existing institutions. All progress is initiated by challenging current conceptions, and executed by supplanting existing institutions. Consequently, the first condition of progress is the removal of censorship.
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August Wrap Up
Well, this month has sucked. And that’s all I have to say about that.
Books Read: 15
But at least I read a lot. My favorite by far was Babel, and I really don’t have a least favorite. There was nothing under 3.5 stars. But seriously, go check out Babel, it’s freaking amazing. Books marked with ® are rereads.   
Belinda by Maria Edgeworth - 5 stars
Blood, Bread, and Poetry: Selected Prose, 1979-1985 by Adrienne Rich - 4 stars
New Woman Fiction: Women Writing First-Wave Feminism by Ann Heilmann - 4 stars
Hard Times by Charles Dickens - 4.5 stars ®
Lady Windermere’s Fan by Oscar Wilde - 4 stars
The Clever Woman of the Family by Charlotte Mary Yonge - 4 stars
The Madwoman in the Attic: The Woman Writer and the Nineteenth-Century Literary Imagination by Sandra Gilbert and Susan Gubar - 4 stars
The Importance of Being Earnest by Oscar Wilde - 4 stars
Victorian Women’s Fiction: Marriage, Freedom, and the Individual by Shirley Foster - 4 stars
The Proper Lady and the Woman Writer: Ideology as Style in the Works of Mary Wollstonecraft, Mary Shelley, and Jane Austen by Mary Poovey - 3.5 stars
Kim by Rudyard Kipling - 3 stars
Babel, or the Necessity of Violence: An Arcane History of the Oxford Translators’ Revolution by R. F. Kuang - 5 stars
Marcella by Mary Ward - 3.5 stars
Mrs. Warren’s Profession by George Bernard Shaw - 4 stars ®
The ‘Improper’ Feminine: The Women’s Sensation Novel and the New Woman Writing by Lyn Pykett - 4 stars
On Tumblr:
There’s some stuff here; mostly tags, but I did participate in the first half or so of the 1K Pages Readathon.
1K Pages Readathon August 2022
July Wrap Up
Book Quotes: Babel by R. F. Kuang
Tagged: Sequel Stack Challenge
Tagged: Pink Book Stack
Tagged: Yellow Book Stack
Reblogged: Queer Fantasy Recommendations
On the Blog:
Hey, look, there’s something here! What a miracle!
Book Review: Babel: An Arcane History by R. F. Kuang
On YouTube:
And there’s a nice selection here, as usual.
My INSANE August TBR
July Wrap Up - 8 Books for Jane Austen July and Exams!
A Bookish Birthday Haul
Underrated Victorian Recommendations #3
Currently Reading 8/15/22
GarbAugust Trashy Book Tag
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tag 9 people you want to get to know better!
shucks @thermoskind, thanks for the tag!
Three Ships of All Time:
Remus/Sirius: my foundational "it's RIGHT THERE IN THE TEXT" ship and probably a lot of the reason I love canon compliance and little hidden scene fics so much. My og sunshine + darkness ship. Not an active fandom for me anymore, but knowing that the thing I liked best about it was built by fans and not by the author is a delightful fuck-you to She Who Will Not Be Named.
Will/Kim (The Will Darling Adventures): OFMD kicked off a 2022 full of reading queer historical romance for me, and this series was THE highlight. Will and Kim are from such different worlds, have so much damage, and still both try so hard to do what's right for the world and for each other. My brain was fundamentally changed by the last book in particular - it has so much to say about self worth and letting yourself love and be loved in spite of your trauma and fear.
Ed/Stede: goddddd it's so good to see middle aged queers learning to love, and these beautiful, hilarious men playing them, and their love spilling out and creating a whole lil lovely queer world for us all to play in together.
First Ever Ship:
Tom/B'Elanna (Star Trek Voyager): my token straight ship, an early queer awakening for me was how much I crushed on BOTH of them; but also I love seeing broken people love each other to heal each other.
Last Song:
Pokey LaFarge - "Goodbye, Barcelona" from my OFMD playlist. Extremely pirate coded, equal parts Ed/Stede and Jim/Oluwande
Last Film:
The Fabelmans. Surprised myself by really loving it. More honest and raw and real than I was expecting. A fitting Spielberg memoir full of great performances and hilarious moments and sad moments and Tony Kushner's perfect dialogue.
Currently Reading:
Two things on the go!
A Restless Truth by Freya Marske. The sapphic sequel to the beautiful and very gay A Marvellous Light. So far I don't like it as much, but it's still a lot of fun.
Throw His Heart Over by Sebastian Nothwell. Absolutely delightfully fluffy queer historical romance. Sequel to the slightly more substantial Mr Warren's Profession.
Currently Watching:
Just started White Lotus. Super intriguing, everyone on this goddamn show is wound so tight, can't wait to see who blows a gasket first.
Currently Consuming:
Nothing, because I'm still digesting a delicious spaghetti and meatball dinner made by a friend. I brought the Caesar salad, something I make with even more love these days as my mom passed six months ago and it was her specialty. I miss her a lot.
Currently Craving:
Sleep! I usually try to sleep in at least one weekend day but this weekend I was feeding my friend's bunny in the mornings so no dice. Looking forward to curling up in bed with the end of Throw His Heart Over.
Tagging - only if you're into it!: @fuckselfloveihatemyself @adickaboutspoons @abedofmoss @peanutbutterex @scary-flag @macpye @knifewieldingenby @bizarrelittlemew @mistysblueboxstuff
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