#needed gay marriage to be legal

[atomicradiogirl]

yes house md as a show is outlandish and insane. house is literally a truman show of his own show. background characters are made out of cardboard, the walls are glass, he is just allowed to bully patients and his coworkers for funzies. but like there is also a deeply realistic element to house as a character. his actions are in line with his life, his backstory, and with his predicament. his chronic pain which lead to an opioid addiction, his childhood trauma, his trust issues that have definitely been shattered throughout his life leading to his cynicism, his refusal to seek mental support. of course the one constant and true trusting relationship in his life will also be codependent. this all makes sense. but this is also a show where house gets shot, gets recruited by the CIA for an episode, goes to jail multiple times. but it’s also a story about a deeply damaged man making the best of what he has and also learning to accept love? oh yeah and this is also a sherlock adaptation.

#i’m normal about house md #house md #this show is insane #this show will be the death of me #gregory house #need to do a character study on him #james wilson #to be loved is to be changed #how is this show real #and bbc sherlock did it worse #this show is from 2004 #what the hell #hate crimes md #the medical malpractice universe #house md ended before gay marriage was legalized #house and wilson were life partners #hilson

[helioleti]

Btw the idea of Zuko (who comes from a family that glorified their bloodline to the point of a god complex that it’s destroyed them each in their own way) deciding not to continue his royal bloodline & instead adopting Izumi (perhaps an orphan whose parents fell victim to post-war conflicts) is really neat actually

#and he never married a woman either #his lover was Sokka #just thought y’all should know #he canonically re-legalized gay marriage too just in case y’all needed a reminder #avatar the last airbender #atla #zuko avatar #izumi avatar #zukka

[anistarrose]

I think when a lot of queer people who aspire to marriage, and remember (rightly) fighting for the right to marriage, see queer people who don't want marriage, talking about not entering or even reforming or abolishing marriage, there's an assumption I can't fault anyone for having — because it's an assumption borne of trauma — that queers who aren't big on marriage are inadvertently or purposefully going to either foolishly deprive themselves of rights, or dangerously deprive everyone of the rights associated with marriage. But that's markedly untrue. We only want rights to stop being locked behind marriages. We want an end to discrimination against the unmarried.

We want a multitude of rights for polyamorous relationships. We want ways to fully recognize and extend rights to non-romantic and/or non-sexual unions, including but not limited to QPRs, in a setting distinct from the one that (modern) history has spent so long conflating with romance and sex in a way that makes many of us so deeply uncomfortable. And many of us are also disabled queers who are furious about marriage stripping the disabled of all benefits.

We want options to co-parent, and retain legal rights to see children, that extends to more than two people, and by necessity, to non-biological parents (which, by the way, hasn't always automatically followed from same-gender marriage equality even in places where said equality nominally exists. Our struggles are not as different as you think). We would like for (found or biological) family members and siblings to co-habitate as equal members of a household, perhaps even with pooled finances or engaging in aforementioned co-parenting, without anyone trying to fit the dynamic into a "marriage-shaped box" and assume it's incestuous. We want options to leave either marriages, or alternative agreements, that are less onerous than divorce proceedings have historically been.

I can't speak for every person who does not want to marry, but on average, spurning marriage is not a choice we make lightly. We are deeply, deeply aware of the benefits that only marriage can currently provide. And we do not take that information lightly. We demand better.

Now, talking about the benefits of marriage in respective countries' current legal frameworks, so that all people can make choices from an informed place, is all well and good — but is not an appropriate response to someone saying they are uncomfortable with marriage. There are people for whom entering a marriage, with all its associated norms, expectations, and baggage, would feel like a betrayal of one's self and authenticity that would shake them to their core — and every day, I struggle to unpack if I'm one of them or not. If I want to marry for tax benefits, or not. If that's worth the risk of losing disability benefits, in the (very plausible) possibility that I have to apply for them later in life. If that's worth the emotional burden of having to explain over and over, to both well-meaning and deeply conservative family members, that this relationship is not one of romance or sex. (Because, god, trying just to explain aromanticism or asexuality in a world that broadly thinks they're "fake" is emotional labor enough.)

Marriage is a fundamental alteration to who I am, to what rights an ableist government grants me, and to how I am perceived. I don't criticize the institution just because I enjoy a "free spirit" aesthetic or think the wedding industry is annoying, or whatever.

#to claim “gay marriage is assimilationist” is of course bullshit and ahistorical #but to claim “gay marriage is the last marriage reform we need” is even more bullshit. in the vein of “fuck you; i got mine” #amatonormativity #marriage #there's also something idk if i'm that qualified to articulate as a culturally christian person (even if nonreligious) #but concepts of marriage (or lack thereof) vary across the globe and across cultures #yet legal marriage - which crosses borders via presence in immigration law (in addition to obvious colonialism) #can impose extremely eurocentric norms onto countless people #which is a strong argument for separating spiritual/religious marriage from legal benefits tbh #they're *supposedly* separated in the US but you know obergerfell wouldn't have taken until 2015 if that was fully true

[awakefor48hours]

Here's your yearly reminder that korrasami is not an "ambiguous" relationship and they did not "just hold hands"

See you guys again next year.

IDs in alt

#korrasami #if you're wondering where these screenshots come from #they're from the LOK Turf Wars comics #if you've been here long enough #you know nothing will make my blood boil quite like seeing people call korrasami bad #remember this all came out BEFORE gay marriage was legal ANYWHERE in the US #not to mention LOK is a kid's show meaning that the censorship korrasami faced #is so much more aggressive than other shows #LOK and korrasami did not fight years of misogynoir/budget cuts/unclear scheduling/queerphobia/and more #just to be reduced to a “boring/unremarkable relationship” #korrasami and LOK changed western animation as a whole #and why shows like TOH and SPOP can exist they way they do now #you like lumity and/or catradora? you need to thank korrasami for that

[fortyfive-forty]

i've been ruminating a lot on it because i think i'm bad at putting my thoughts into words but i need y'all to understand that while there are absolutely a lot of Not Good Things about the finals being held in saudi arabia for three years...the way people seem to treat is as morally black and white is shortsighted and unhelpful.

realistically the players traveling there will be protected. it may be uncomfortable, it's certainly not ideal, but they will travel there for a few weeks, play their tennis, then leave. there are a lot of women, a lot of queer people who actually live in saudi arabia who cannot just leave, who are actually subjected to laws and social climates...and to me it just seems very disrespectful to that actual lived experience, for everybody to sort of turn their noses up and get on their high horses. of course, if the players wish to opt out, that is their choice, but that is their choice to make. that's their judgement. not ours.

and then, what about a tournament like miami? florida is literally experiencing one of the worst active regressions that i've seen in the us (granted i'm young). things like critical race theory and lgbtq+ ed are being removed from curriculums, rights for trans youth, trans healthcare, etc. are going backwards. abortion rights? gun violence? and yes i know that the laws and climate in saudi arabia are different gravy, i understand that, but my point is, no one would ever DREAM of arguing against hosting a tournament in miami despite all of these issues. and we can extend this to a lot of other tournaments! i mean, all the outrage about fifa hosting a world cup in qatar, but we don't have any of these sentiments about doha? i've seen other people bring up that the finals were hosted in singapore when gay marriage was still illegal there. we've already talked about italy's fascist prime minister. and i could go on and on and on about the war crimes of countries like the us or the uk - is the us not participating actively in genocide right now? where is the standard? if you argue against hosting the finals in saudi arabia for the reason of human rights, to me it seems you have to uphold that standard for the location you do land on. and i can guarantee, you will not find a single country in the world with clean hands.

i want to be clear i am not arguing that hosting the finals in saudi arabia is a good thing, especially for three years, especially because it's definitely going there because of money, and not for any of the "good" reasons i think some people want us to believe about "improving the region" (which is very weirdly white savior-esque anyway). i don't really have an official "conclusion" to this discussion.

what i am arguing is that i think a lot of the protests against saudi arabiahosting the finals are more an example of implicit anti-arab bias and islamophobia, rather than genuine discussion. key word implicit: i don't think most people are purposefully trying to be anti-arab/islamophobic. or at least, i'd like to believe nobody is. but i also think, particularly in the west, there is already so much of this xenophobic sentiment ingrained. and this is why i think it's really really REALLY important to check ourselves when we talk about it instead of just jumping straight to the human rights conversation without a second thought.

i'll say it plainly: i don't think the finals should be held in saudi arabia. but for me, it has more to do with sportswashing, with the dangers of the way money is thrown around in sports, and because i think it's more evidence that the wta doesn't care about player welfare but rather about making a profit (what else is new). human rights are absolutely a concern of mine, but how is it fair to hold saudi arabia to a standard that we don't seem to care about for literally anybody else?

literally look at the us's ugly ugly history, past and present, and tell me why we deserve to host a tennis tournament.

#long post #idk. this is not even all my thoughts #this is long and confusing and convoluted and i'm sorry #but i need y'all to understand it's not as easy as just saying 'oh we can't host it there' #'oh the players should boycott' #it's more complicated than that #and again i'm not really arguing one way or another #i do have my own opinion but i'm not positing that as The Right Choice #i'm definitely open to a lot more discussion on it #because i know i don't have the full perspective either #but i'm tired of seeing takes talking about how 'evil' it is to host the finals there #the way that it's happened and my suspected reasons for it (money)? yeah that's fucked up! #but just the fact that it will be hosted there...hold your horses. slow your roll #saudi arabia is like. a real country with people who actually live there and experience their own regime #god forbid they get to watch some tennis #and again. i just don't think you can ever really talk about these kinds of things and not bring up #the way countries like the us ALWAYS go unchecked #also like. gay marriage wasn't legal federally in the us until 2015. so. were do we go from here

[willgrahambf]

#we really saying hannibal was queerbaiting in the year of our lord 2022????? #some of u all need to remember that queer subtext has been an integral part of queer film history #we have not always lived in the era of rainbow capitalism where it’s possible to canonize everything #let’s not forget hannibal aired before gay marriage was even legalized #and as much as i hate bryan fuller i think it would do to remember that he IS a queer creator working within an unfriendly system #this was nbc after all and he slipped as much by them as possible #anyways….. #hannibal #img :this is my design:

[heretherebedork]

I love Thailand's BL media and their gay marriage agenda. It's one of their finest features.

#cutie pie #cutie pie 2 you #gay marriage #marriage equality #thai bl #thaibl #bl drama #bl series #thai bl series #thai series #thai drama #asian lgbtq dramas #asianlgbtqdramas #asianlqbtqdramas #asian lgbtq drama #lian x kuea #best agenda ever #seriously these shows go hard sometimes #love is not enough #sometimes you need legal rights #and you deserve them

[twpsyn-who]

Thinking about Steve and Eddie waiting for the right time to propose to each other and they somehow do it at the same time.

And they don't know that the other wants to propose, nor do they tell the same people. Nancy and Jonathan know that Eddie wants to propose to Steve. Robin and Dustin know that Steve wants to propose to Eddie. The reason why Steve hasn't said anything to Nancy and Jonathan was because it felt a little bit weird to talk about it with your ex and her partner. On the other side Eddie KNEW neither Robin nor Dustin could keep a secret from Steve he didn't trust those two with the secret and Eddie really wanted to be special.

They chose the same place to propose, too - the Lover's Lake because that's where everything began and they wanted to give that day a good connotation. Steve and Dustin and Robin has worked hard for a character sheet for Steve ; it was literally Steve if everything they had gone through was part of a DnD campaign but with the difference that he was married to 'Eddie The Banished' (Steve planned to give the sheet to Eddie and wait until he got to the married part until he asked "If you would have me?" and get out the ring). Meanwhile Eddie and Nancy and Jonathan worked on this album full of photos with the party together over the years (the kids through high school + the graduation photos ; the photos from their trips around the state ; Steve with either Robin or Nancy and Jonathan or Eddie or the kids or the Byers or everyone ; little moments and random photos with caption like 'First time trying pineapple on pizza!!!' or 'First date without the kids around') with the last photo being of Steve and Eddie (the very first photo they took together) with the question "Will you marry me?" under it.

They looked over them at the same time. Stopped to fucking process what was going on. Look at each other like two idiots. They took the ring out at the same time and I don't know if they started laughing or crying or arguing over who would propose but I can guarantee the answer was yes from them both.

BONUS : Meanwhile Robin & Dustin meet with Nancy & Jonathan while hiding near the lake and they all do the Spider-Man meme while questioning each other what they were doing there. Everyone fucking face palmed when they came to the conclusion that those two were going to propose at the same time. Pure gold.

2 x BONUS : Somehow Max knew about it and said nothing because she thought it would be funny (and was 100% right)

#they would do that #idk were this came from nor do I know how DnD character sheets work but they ignored some of the rules anyway so is ok #I imagine them staying down on a blanket with the lake next to them and the moon their only source of light #Steve totally teared up a little while looking through the album #stranger things #stranger things eddie #eddie munson #stranger things steddie #stranger things steve #steddie #steve harrington #we are ignoring the fact that gay marriage probably wasn't legalized when this took place (I'm thinking Eddie's probably 27 and Steve 26) #they wanted to do it way earlier but weren't sure if it wasn't too soon #and we are ignoring the fact that Eddie should be dead. they won against Vecna and lived happily ever after #before anyone asks : yeah you can use this in your fic/write something with this idea #no need for credits but I would love to read it once it is done!! #also idk if somehow someone already did it I haven't looked it up

[castielfucks]

man we need to stop forgetting that gay marriage has been federally legal in the US for less than 10 years. and exactly 10 in the UK. if you are 10 years old, you have lived longer than most gay people have been able to get married. sigh.

#some of these young gays.... need perspective. #acknowledging how far weve come does not dismiss how far we need to go. #just because you dont like the language our community used to use for themselves or still use #just because queer people used to be queer in a way you didnt like #doesnt mean they were doing it wrong. in fact they were doing it very very right. #history doesnt repeat itself but it often echoes. as eric marcus said. #queer then doesnt have to look like queer now to be important and valid and real and revolutionary #it still was. it still is. please god pick up a history book before shitting all over the gays who paved your path. #i remember celebrating in the living room with my mom when they announced on tv that gay marriage had been legalized. #get some PERSPECTIVE.

[villainanders]

Just living in my mind palace rn but I think my canon Hawke and Anders did get engaged in the Act 2/3 break and set their date for like. a month after the Chantry explosion. so there’s at least partially an element of “so like could you not have waited or did you not want to go through with this or what”

#the answer is literally yes bc once Anders realizes this is something he’s going to do the guiltier he feels about. everything with hawke. #also dedicated chloeverse knowers will know that I don’t believe thedas has gay marriage yet but also they couldn’t legally get married bc #of the Anders being an apostate thing so it is partially just for funsies partially as a political statement #which I think as time goes on Hawke is more into and Anders gets more and more like. oh this means nothing I need to plant a bomb #Caleb hawke

[kithj]

Hey, hope you're doing well! Had a couple questions for you if they're not too personal:

1. Whats your favourite story you've written so far? Is it something public? Is it finished?

2. Do you have any long form non-interactive fiction you've written that's available to read? I would genuinely kill to read something like that from you

hi :-) ohh these are fun...

my favorite story is probably My NovelTM which isn't finished yet, i've written a first draft and now it's just been languishing until i can find the motivation to start a second draft. i finished the first draft in august i think, and started editing it pretty heavily before i realized i was just going to have to rewrite the whole thing again. i'm mostly having trouble with the ending, which always seems to be my problem lmfao... anyways it follows the relationship of Angel and Valerie, after Valerie has been missing for a few months and suddenly returns as a vampire with no memory of Angel or what happened over the months while she was away. it alternates between both their povs in both present day and through flashbacks.

so unfortunately for your second question, no, but i do hope to publish Angel and Valerie's story one day, either traditionally through a small press (lol here's hoping) or by self-publishing it. otherwise my only published work is what's available on my itch.io (siren's call, one day hike, etc)

i am working on a short story for vampire jam, which i'll hopefully be sharing next month. it's still in the form of interactive fiction, published in twine, but it's more of a short story than anything like blood choke or tnp. i also have a butch cowboys and zombies story i've been working on for a while, but i'm not sure when i'll get around to finishing it since it's not a priority project.

i do want to write another novel as well, a very old story i've been kicking around for years, but as usual i haven't been able to come up with an ending for it... but maybe one day.

#one thing that amazes me abt published authors is just. the way they churn out books #how do they have so many ideas.... esp when their stories are so varied #i feel like my work is very one note lmfao one day hike & blood choke & hell's holler& even my vampjamp story& the cowboy story #are all very similar. it makes me feel self conscious tbh like im just writing the same thing over and over #but whatever it's what i need to write rn to keep myself sane even if it's all jsut sad lesbians LOL #i tell myself it's helping me refine the narrative i want to perfect in hell's holler (the novel) #idk i would like to write something more happy eventually #like i want to write a YA book. everyone brace yourselves but i want to write a historical fiction during the early 2000s/2010s #it sounds silly to call it historical fiction but like. it would be #around when gay marriage was legalized in the US & the lead up to it #as well as political/cultural attitudes in the US during that time post 9/11. through a high schooler's perspective #think something like the old american girl doll stories when they were actually historical and educational rather than nostalgia bait #yes i AM bitter about the 90s twins why do you ask #anyways. yeah 👍 #ask #sproongoose

[keysmanydudes]

was talking about the tomodachi life screenshot I had where I wrote something like "legal marriage, or yaoi" at judgement bay and finding lambert's wife saying some shit like "there's always more than one answer 🤔🤔" standing on where I wrote "yaoi" in the sand and drew this with my mouse

edit: IMPORTANR CONTEXT I FORGOT I MADE THIS IN RESPONSE TO MY FRIEND REFERRING TO THE TWO LAMBERRTS AND HENRI AS "the 1916 polycule" IM GONNA DIE 😿😿😿😿😿

#wtf is up with her gay ass hat #it looks like a toupee with lichen growing on it #amnesia the bunker #amnesia: the bunker #(my art) #oh yeah btw both of the boys were on legal marriage side #I dont remember about the older guys #edit: I had to get that it of the reblog I need it

[bookofwambs]

a really dark thought occurred to me: what if byler does go canon somewhere in the middle of the season and will gets the happiness he deserves and the love from mike and they live out a cute little love story in the apocalypse

but he still sacrifices himself in the end and dies but bc he got to be happy for a bit, he got to be with mike after all even for just a little bit, it’s still a “beautiful and perfect” ending for him…

i need s5 now so i don’t have these thoughts.

#byler #sorry to put something sad on the tag #will byers can’t die he needs to live so he can witness gay marriage become legal in the united states #will byers #noah schnapp

[theaxolotlkween]

This might be from my nextgen fanfiction but in my heart it is canon.

#kira phantom #danny phantom next gen #vlad has no understanding of the fact that people are allowed to move on with their lives #danny phantom #vlad plasmius #he’s just been repairing his bones in space for two decades the man needs to get with the times #he doesn’t know how harry potter ends or that gay marriage is legal #kira’s just vibing there on that floor definitely not unconscious after accidentally turning a ghost portal on herself #theaxolotlart

[butchviking]

crazy that trans ppl not being allowed to transition is considered a 'fight for their existence' while gay ppl being told not to be openly gay isnt. like technically speaking neither of those things are about our existence, neither is some kind of genocide. they're both about the freedom to live our lives the way we want. why is one so much more vital than the other? why don't BOTH of these issues matter to the lgbt+ community or whatever?

#hi. do you people understand that medical transition has been legal in the US and UK for longer than same-sex marriage #? #gay people's issues arent some outdated shit we got our rights for and need to shut up about now. #our fight is just as real & ongoing & important as yours. why are we supposed to drop our own battles to fight yours?

[coyoxxtl]

also i must add, if you’re still voting biden to keep human rights for american citizens “safe” but don’t think that him ripping rights away from people across the world isn’t worth withholding your vote then you’re selfish and also a big fucking idiot

#none of us are free until we are all free is a Literal statement #how are you so confident that a genocidal maniac will keep at home citizens safe when he’s making hell on earth across the planet #who cares if thousands of palestinian people were killed. we need him to keep thousands of queer americans safe. #but again he wont because look. hundereds of anti trans/gay legislation. potential overturn of federally legal gay marriage. #NOT TO MENTION PALESTINIAN/ARAB AMERICAN CITIZENS #WHO ARE GOING TO RECEIVE A HEIGHTENED LEVEL OF DANGER BC OF THIS #txt