#romance ambivalent

[romance-evil-aro]

IT IS OKAY TO HAVE COMPLICATED FEELINGS ABOUT ROMANCE!!!!!! IT IS OKAY TO NOT BE ROMANCE REPULSED OR ROMANCE FAVOURABLE!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE DEPEND ON CONTEXT!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE ARE!!!!

#aromantic #aro #aro positivity #romance neutral #romance ambivalent #romance indifferent

[merely-a-caricature]

What does it mean to be Sex/Romance Ambivalent?

The majority of people on the aspec are aware of favorable, indifferent, etc. when talking about personal stances toward romance/sex. But what about ambivalent? I don’t see people mentioning it nearly as much. I’ll give a brief explanation for those who don’t know what romance/sex ambivalent is.

Since I’m sex-ambivalent, I’ll use my personal experiences as an example. Sex-ambivalent is a personal stance on sex. Your feelings toward sex may fluctuate and be unclear. (Everything I say can be applied to romance-ambivalent as well with some obvious tweaking). Your personal stance could range from the feeling of being indifferent to averse, favorable to repulsed, indifferent to repulsed, whatever. Personally, I fall anywhere from feeling like indifferent to repulsed.

How we feel may vary depending on mood or what types of acts are being performed. For some they may be more comfortable when it’s with fictional characters. Or maybe they’re more comfortable with different people. I may be in a in a mood and be rather repulsed by the idea of anything sexual, but when I’m in a better mood it doesn’t bother me as much. There are many other reason why your feelings towards romance/sex may fluctuate, but this is just a general overview.

I may occasionally read erotic fanfiction and enjoy it, but I can’t even stand the thought of actual p*rn. Sometimes I don’t even want to read any kind do fanfiction like that. While I do enjoy certain types of more erotic fanfiction, I only enjoy it when certain types of acts are performed. Usually I just like a passionate make-out that gets a bit heated. Maybe some stuff that gets more suggestive too. But anything that involves actual more intimate parts on top or bottom gets an immediate “Nope” for me and I suddenly get more uncomfortable. I can’t stand the idea of intercourse or read about, but I can be totally okay with other “less intense” sexual acts.

I also want to point being being greyace is not equivalent to being sex ambivalent. I’m a black stripe ace meaning I experience no sexual attraction, but I am also sex-ambivalent. You can be greyace and sex ambivalent, be black stripe and ambivalent, and even be allo and sex-ambivalent! Ambivalent isn’t just a way to describe aros/aces, it can apply to anyone no matter your orientation.

Romance/sex-oscillating is also another slightly different term that describes how feelings towards the concept of romance/sex fluctuate/change over time. The factor for changing feelings when your oscillating is the passage of time v.s the factor for changing when your ambivalent is going to things like mood, whether or not it’s the written word, fiction or non-fiction, the types of acts being performed, etc. It depends on the person what external factors may change their feelings. Some people use both labels, some people, like me, don’t, and that’s okay. I apologize if I didn’t explain oscillating well enough. I do not identify with the label myself or feel that way, so please tell me if I could improve upon anything said.

All of this to say, some people feelings on romance/sex are very complicated and don’t fit super neatly into one single stance or they can fluctuate over time. You may feel differently about different situations than I do, and that’s okay. All us ambivalents aren’t the same after all!

#aromantic #asexual #aromantism #asexuality #arospec #acespec #aspec #romance ambivalent #sex ambivalent #aroace #lgbtq #queer #i hope this post can shed light on this topic #sex oscillating #romance oscillating #grsm #ace post #asexual things #ace things #ace thoughts #aromantic asexual #aromantic spectrum #asexual spectrum

[entropy-sea-system]

Flag redesigns !

of the aro alignment terms made by @polyfragmentedchaos ! (Calling these the aro celestial alignment terms for now but idk if there is a broad term for these?)

(made bc I wanted to make alternate designs, colors based on the names of the labels, Im a sunshine aromantic and eclipse aromantic!)

Sunshine Aromantic - Someone on the aromantic spectrum who wants to date anyone

Moonlight Aromantic - Someone on the aromantic spectrum who doesn't want to date anyone

Eclipse Aromantic - Someone on the aro spectrum who switches between wanting and not wanting to date people

Starlight Aromantic - Someone who is on the aromantic spectrum and is unsure whether they want to date people

[This post is about aromanticism. Do not tag as ace/asexual/acepsec.]

#aromantic #entropy redesigns #entropy flag redesigns #entropy flags #flag redesigns #arospec #sunshine aromantic #moonlight aromantic #eclipse aromantic #starlight aromantic #romance favorable #romance averse #romance unsure #romance ambivalent #aromantic spectrum #aspec #aro #aro terms #aromantic celestial alignment #aro celestial alignment #notes: #moonlight meant to be silvery white and blue and represent solitude and peace #sunshine meant to be orange and gold #and represent warmth #and starlight kind of what reminded me of the night sky in supersimplesongs twinkle twinkle little star song #and eclipse is mostly based on the original one just somewhat different hues bc I liked the original one #it does remind me of npd symbol colors though! #and my headmate said starlight one reminds em of irises and I think it also looks like violets!

[cartoonygothopossum]

I might be biased as a sex-repulsed, romance-ambivalent asexual (who might also be aro-spec), but does anyone else hate the trope where either a couple argues constantly but stays together anyway, or a character is attracted to another character, but acts like a jerk to them? I get that not everyone is a nice person, but if you're going to be in a relationship with someone, or at least show romantic interest toward someone, one would think you'd try to be good to them!

#asexual #aromantic #sex repulsed #romance ambivalent

[alien-ally]

i think i figured what my preference is. If it’s a show about romance, where romance IS the major plot, i’m okay with it. enthusiastic and enthralled even. but god forbid it shows up anywhere else and i’m deeply upset, cursing out god damned amatonormativity, my disappointment is immeasurable and my day is ruined. LIKE CANT YOU SEE THERE ARE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO FOCUS ON HERE?

#admittedly it shows up in rom shows too #ofcourse it does amatonormativity never fails to rear it’s ugly head #but then depending on how i feel about things in that period i’ll excuse it if it’s funny or cute or literally has any emotional value #but then again it would be deeply appreciated if that’s made clear from the get go #instead of trying to bait us with some complicated cutting ass plot to throw it out the window midway and hyperfocus on the romance #literally fluctuates how much i enjoy shows #i’m having a fantastic time now #but later? #who knows #romance ambivalent #aromantic #aro #amatonormativity #fuck amatonormativity #aa mine #skate's strokes

[aroaceconfessions]

something I’ve always felt confused about is that I love the idea of romance and I love romantic things

going out on dates, holding hands, kissing, hugging romantically, I really love all that stuff

but for some reason, I’m so grossed out by the idea of actually being in a full-on relationship

the thought of being someone’s ‘boyfriend’ really creeps me out, and I don’t know why

I love relationship things so much, so why do I hate the actual relationship part of it

Submitted April 17, 2023

#aromantic #aro #arospec #aspec #romance favorable #romance ambivalent #romance averse

[siriusly-remu]

OMG I FINALLY FOUND THE WORD FOR WHAT I'M FEELING IT'S ROMANCE AMBIVALENT

@aroastronaut THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BRINGING THIS TO MY ATTENTION ❤️❤️

#aromantic #aro #romance ambivalent #aroastronaut <3

[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Five pixel hearts of various flags in order being Romance Favorable, Romance Repulsed, Romance Ambivalent, Romance Indifferent and Romance Averse. End ID]

#romance stances #romance favorable #romance averse #romance repulsed #romance indifferent #romance ambivalent #rentry #pixel #heart #discord emoji #liom #mogai #queer

[flip-flopping-frede]

My attempt at Lithromantic Positivity

I want to preface this by saying I am ~in general~ not a fan of positivity. Trying to “force positivity” is quickly a slippery slope to toxic positivity and superficially. Nonetheless, I feel like I could have realized some lithromantic positivity, and thought it was necessary to share rather than keep it to myself.

It is ok that there’s nothing good about being lithro. It is ok if there are no benefits that we can exploit from ourselves and take advantage of ourselves (or our relationships) with. Lithromantics not necessarily having *any* positives to being lithro (besides our dope flag) means that those of us that have accepted ourselves, are some of the most compassionate, kind, strong, and resilient souls. The amount of self-compassion one has to develop before they can radically accept themselves as lithromantic, is so much higher than essentially any other queer identity.

In a world that has yet to be educated on aromanticsm, aromantics and cupioromantics are scared to date alloromantics, due to alloromantics behaving like it is a “dealbreaker” or “end of the world” if their [romantic] partner is not “in love” [essentially experiencing romo attrac] towards them. It’s valid for both aros and cupioros to be scared to date alloros because of this arophobic mindset they have, tho.

Anyways, a lithromantic might “seem” more appealing to an uneducated alloromantic, since we do experience the romo attrac, or what alloros mistake for “love”. At the same time, once an alloro experiences and returns that romo attrac towards the lithro, the lithro’s romo attrac fades. Not necessarily fades, but flees and turns into romance repulsion (for most lithros). Uneducated, insecure, and/or unaccepting alloros might feel very hurt for the lithros sudden change. Simultaneously, the lithro may also be hurting for not being able to “keep” or “hold on” to the romo attrac. It feels like, being lithro leaves everyone worse off (and is potentially traumatizing for the lithro). This is why lithros who have accepted themselves have learned how to be compassionate and kind to themselves to an extent that most other queer identities never have to go to before they can accept their queer identity, due to there being more external support, education, and acceptance for their queer identities (including for aros).

It is so easy for lithromantics, especially lithros that have chosen to remain closeted, to drown in a sea of their own self-hatred and shame of being an arospec identity that leaves the alloromantics that reciprocated the romo attrac angry and confused. In a world where alloromantics have all the privilege and amatonormativity is everywhere, lithros are so strong, brave, and resilient for existing as our lithromantic identity in a world that refuses to see us, acknowledge us, validate us, support us, accept us, or understand us.

This is where the lithromantic positivity comes in: lithromantics can relate to everyone. Lithromantics know what it feels like to experience romantic attraction; and we know what it feels like to have a romantic relationship look you dead in the face and not want it. We are also romance ambivalent! We understand what it means to have more than one attitude towards romance. We can understand both apothiros and cupioros. We can relate to another largely unknown arospec identity—frayromantism, since frayros also experience involuntary, primary romantic attraction, just like lithros do. We can even relate to alloros in terms of experiencing romantic attraction involuntarily and getting crushes. And finally, we can relate to aros with struggling to desire romantic relationships in the same way an alloromantic does.

There are so many other identities lithromantic is similar to, like aegoromantic, bellusromantic, and frayromantic. Lithros belong in arospec spaces, and lithros’ voices are so valuable to the arospec community. Lithros are essential in terms of helping to bridge the distance and alienation that is only growing between aromantics and alloromantics.

At the same time, lithros need support. Unfortunately, a lot of lithos hate their identity, and feel no pride for it. We don’t feel seen or validated, and a lot of us feel a lot of shame for being lithromantic. I personally didn’t really see any actual lithros celebrating their lithromanticsm during this year’s arospec awareness week, which is sad. We need the arospec community to affirm that are voices are valuable and that our experiences are valid, especially as we are struggling to accept ourselves.

#Lithromantic positivity #arospec #lithro positivity #lithromantic #lithro #the lithro flag is dope #lithromantic acceptance #lithro acceptance #lithro neutrality #lithromantic neutrality #aromanticsm #aromantic #cupioromantic #aro #cupioro #alloromantic #alloro #arophobic #uneducated alloromantic #uneducated alloro #romantic attraction #romo attrac #love #amatonormativity #romance repulsion #romo repulsion #internal support vs external support #because lithros don’t have external support #romance ambivalent #romo ambivalent

[aroace-cat-lady]

Im romo ambivalent which means that romance could make me want to throw up or has me giggling and smiling and prophecing the ship as a preacher would do with the bible. There's not in between

#romo ambivalent #romance ambivalent #aromantic #aroace #aromantic pride #actually aromantic #aro things #aro thoughts #aromance #aromanticism #aro stuff #aromantic asexual

[coopedcooper]

First flag: Aroflex: link to it below, but the flag I made is a higher quality version of the one in the link.

Second flag: Aceflex: An identity characterized by consistent but weak sexual attraction, while also being sex ambivalent.

Third flag: Aroaceflex: An identity characterized by consistent but weak sexual and romantic attraction, while also being sex and romance ambivalent.

#aroace spectrum #aroace #aromantic #aromantic spectrum #asexual #asexual spectrum #greysexual #greyromantic #greyrose #sex ambivalent #romance ambivalent

[shk0lstun-flagz]

Romance / Sex Ambivalent A Spec Flags

Romance Ambivalent Aro spec : ⬇️

For Aro specs that are romance ambivalent : One has mixed or complicated feelings regarding romantic interaction, One’s feelings towards romantic interaction are confusing or unidentifiable

Sex Ambivalent Ace spec : ⬇️

For ace spec that are sex ambivalent : One has mixed or complicated feelings regarding sexual interaction. One’s feelings towards sexual interaction are confusing or unidentifiable.

Romance and Sex Ambivelent Aroace spec : ⬇️

( For those on both Aro and Ace spectrums ) Being both romance and sex ambivalent

These were intended to be “side labels” or something like that ( eg. Sex-Ambivalent Demisexual, Romance Ambivalent Aromantic, Sex and Romance Ambivalent AroGreyace etc.. ) but they can also be used as a single label by itself

Links to the other flags

Romance / Sex Indifferent

Romance / Sex Favorable

Romance / Sex Repulsed

Romance / Sex Oscillating

#romance ambivalent #sex ambivalent #a spectrum #a spec #aroace spectrum #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #asexual #aromantic #aroace #grey a #greyroace #greyromantic #greysexual

[thegyusorcerer]

for a long time, right after realizing I'm asexual, I thought I was romance repulsed bc I was never interested in romantic relationships growing up. thinking more about it, I realize now that I was never romance repulsed; I was not interested in the idea of romance that I was being sold bc it was very much sexualized and while sex can be an important part of many romantic relationships, it was never been a priority for me and this made me reject the idea of a romance because it was always intertwined with sex.

fast forward almost a year later, now I know that romance without sex is very much a possibility and I can absolutely desire romance and enjoy romance in shows, movies and books. I am arospec, and I do desire a romantic relationship. It is not a priority for me nor my main goal in life (fuck amatonormativity), but I know that I do desire it and that's OKAY. and absolutely possible for me, as a demiromantic asexual person, to have romance with my boundaries respected. it makes me hopeful for the future if I ever decide to engage in a romantic relationship 🥺🙏.

#some thoughts I've had lately 💚 #aro thoughts #romance ambivalent #aro #aro pride #demiromantic #asexual #june's post ⭐

[revenant-coining]

Romance-Ambivalent

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Romance-Ambivalent flag for anon !

@radiomogai , @oneofmanyarchives

#interaction stance #romance stance #romance ambivalent #liom #mogai #requested #🪼 creations #category: flags

[acore-ballt]

Romance Ambivalent

#Romance Ambivalent #lgballt

[alien-ally]

Finally i figured it out. I'm romance-ambivalent.

#toffees to everyone that had to pay witness #aa mine #romance ambivalent #skate's strokes