#then tbh i don't want to hear from you

[cerbreus]

not enough adult party games where the gist is hunting each other for sport lets bring back hunting each other for sport as a party game. what’s more exhilarating than going into survival mode with 5-15 people all scrambling to be the last person standing by cunning, or throwing ur friends under the bus,

#miss flashlight tag #and ghost in the graveyard #and midnight blindfolded cherry bomb #(or i guess it's like modified hot lava tag but blindfolded and you can step on the ground so long as people don't hear you) #'ohh lets just play drinking games' #'ohh lets play jackbox' #i want to hide from you and taunt you like a racoon living in your attic that you can't reach #i want to hunt u down one by one in the dark #i don't drink so maybe that's influencing this because parties when ur sober are pretty boring tbh

[thedreadvampy]

btw about Neil Gaiman I periodically agree with the 'Neil Gaiman is annoying' stuff bc I feel like both he and Amanda Palmer seem like people who I would go insane stuck in a room with bc we have very different ideas about art and suchlike. and I also do think that the career trajectory he's on lately is cynically redoing his greatest hits and pretending that was the dream all along when it clearly was not. which is at best meh.

having said which

as far as I can tell by far the most common complaint about Neil Gaiman is "Snow, Glass, Apples is problematic/gross/it's got incest and rape and frames the child as the aggressor"

which strikes me as a weird complaint to pull out of a 40 year body of work tbh when that short story is pretty clearly coming from a place of 'how far can I push this'. like you don't have to like the story. I don't really like the story. but it is. a horror story.

like and this is the thing with particularly 90s alt horror right? a lot of the interest is in transgression and sitting in the worst possible perspective and seeing what happens if you pull those strings. like I really like Clive Barker for example but there's a good chunk of his short stories that I'm like I'm not picking up what you're putting down Clive this seems Kinda Off. but that willingness to write some trite or Bad Message horror fiction that doesn't land is imo a side effect of being willing to try writing uncomfortable and unpleasant fiction at all. which is what horror is for, among other things, it's for creating discomfort as a form of catharsis or engagement.

like I am not a huge fan of the type of sex-horror that pops up in a lot of Gaiman's work and other contemporary horror writers - to me I don't find it upsetting or horny it just ends up feeling kind of edgy and tryhard - but I'm also a bit like. it does seem like a lot of people's beef with Neil Gaiman is that In The 90s He Was A Horror Writer

and this approach to Problematic Horror in Snow, Glass, Apples I find kind of microcosmic of how The Discourse often approaches art in this kind of 1:1 way. if you write a story which seems to line up with rape apologia it can only be because you agree with it. if you write a story about transphobia you're a transphobe. if you write a story that makes me genuinely uncomfortable you're attacking me.

but artwork, especially art like horror that's not necessarily trying to provoke enjoyment as its main response, is necessarily hit and miss. and if what you're shooting for is discomfort then whether it works, falls flat or goes too far incredibly depends on your audience. and making good art - as in art that makes its audience think, art that opens the audience up to discomfort and catharsis and sticks with them and changes them - requires the space to experiment and tbh the space to fuck up. like they aren't all going to be winners and they certainly aren't all going to work for you as a singular audience.

personally I don't see the appeal of Snow, Glass, Apples, less cause it's nasty and more cause it's hack. ooh an edgy monstrous version of a fairy tale where there's lots of rape and cannibalism? you're soooo original Neil. but like. that's fine. I don't really vibe with like 70% of Neil Gaiman stuff I've read but I still like Neil Gaiman because the stuff that works for me really works for me.

idk I think there's a lot of folk on this website who shouldn't interact with horror cause they clearly aren't interested in being horrified. that's not everyone who dislikes Snow, Glass, Apples, but it's a real undercurrent to a lot of the criticism and tbh this kinda vibe is shit for art. making standout art What Is Good also requires being ready to make art which stands out for the wrong reasons. sometimes they'll be the same art to different people.

#red said #not to Cancel Culture this but isabelle fall springs to mind in a lot of how folks talk about stuff like this #like she wrote a transgressive piece exploring her own negative feelings about transness and her anger around a transphobic trope #and she made something which i found really resonant and interesting #and she got torn apart for it because it Might From Some Angles Agree With Transphobia #and I'm not making a direct comparison. because i think attack helicopter is a really GOOD story and i think SGA is gratuitous and hack #but that's the thing right? transgression and discomfort and speaking about unpleasant things in an openended way are KEY #to making art that engages directly with your own pains and angers and discomforts #and that's hard to mediate tbh. but it's also very necessary. #i think as well thinking about Gaiman this is also a thought I've often had about Amanda Palmer #who over the years has written a lot of songs about things i find genuinely uncomfortable or offensive. #and i can engage with 'it's fucked up to tell your ex they transed their gender At You' or 'your partner's suicide is not about you' bc yeah #but #you can't celebrate someone for making confessional music then get mad because you don't like everything they confess #if you only take about your socially acceptable thoughts it's not really confessional is it? #if you only talk about discomforting things that people are comfortable hearing about its not really discomforting #and you can only really discern what's Good Transgressive and what's Damaging Transgressive through doing i think #so if you want challenging art you are going to have to get some art which challenges you and you go hmm no i still disagree #is what i think #so yeah you can hate the artwork but when an artist is specifically setting out to make challenging art it's weird to hate them #for making 50 pieces of art you like and 1 you hate

[craycraybluejay]

"You can have thought crimes but only the ones I don't personally find gross. Thought crime is real tho."

?????

We live in an era where people with public facing careers can get smeared into homelessness by an armchair diagnosis of an "unacceptable" attraction based on a drawing they retweeted and you really want to die on this hill?

"People deserve to die bc they have feelings and thoughts I don't like." Do you hear yourself.

Let's go ahead and persecute half or more of all mentally ill and queer people, too, for thinking about suicide (which is a crime in many places), murder of people abusing them or just in general bc mental illness, people with p-ocd, people with attachment disorders who want to stalk their crush (but don't do that.) In fact let's just be cruel to everyone who's ever had a "morally unacceptable" thought. Oh wait. That's most of the people on Earth. Huh.

#some of y'all don't know how to act #blocklist longer than the nile river #thought crime #step on a lego. tbh #pro para #pro kink #thoughts are not actions #thoughts cannot be crimes #random kid with an abusive parent: 'i wish i could just kill them' #the thoughtcrime police: 'GO TO JAIL YOU DISGUSTING MURDERER' #urgh #touch some grass. people's brains are not perfect moral canvasses of exactly the actions they plan to do irl #and if you think thinking something BadWrong is the same as acting on it you have a Problem that necessitates I not being around you #because that's exactly the kind of justification I hear from actual abusive people. #'oh well i needed to do it because you made me feel angry!' #but you didn't need to do it #'i needed to do that to her because i want her' #but did you though? #when people say that shit it is NOT a valid explanation. it is an excuse for abhorrent behaviour #stop asking people to justify their thoughts and start asking why your mindset is exactly the one abusers use to justify their actions #bc i promise you even people with dangerous IMPULSES who havent hurt a fly will tell u their thoughts dont justify or force them to do shit #also yall are super fucked up to people with ocd #and while i dont have ocd i am SORRY to those of you that do that are constantly bombarded with triggering moral high horsing

[lesbiankordian]

now why did dazai say here he wanted to ask chuuya sth 🧐🧐...? WHAT WAS THE QUESTION SUPPOSED TO BE?! like I know it'd be probably another joke but what would he say hadn't he made that joke...

#also yk when you're scared of ur feelings / don't want the other person to know sth so you start saying sth and then stop mid sentence? #not bc u didn't realize what u were saying but bc there was some hope maybe you'd hear what you wanted to hear #or just that you wanted to live in the fake reality for a moment and imagine yourself asking that not necessarily wanting an answer #yeah that's what happened here 😍 #no but tbh i think sth similar happened in ch 101 #but actually not similar ahhhh I'll make a post abt that #anyways WHAT WAS THE QUESTION SUPPOSED TO BE DAZAI I NEED TO KNOW 😭 #and don't tell me it would've been a joke i listened to one too many skk songs today #soukoku #bsd #okay actually im not finished bc this is another time where Dazai purposefully acts like a person / character in love with the other #(character bc how he does that is stereotypical. like an archetype from a movie) (the Book thoughts in my head rn) #so yeah like you don't say such a think to a random person or a colleague like THE BONDDDD god #and the fact chuuya really gets scared.... #remember in 15 when they first met and Dazai was like 'will you let me go... if I talk?' and then he said chuuya ought to drink more milk😐 #imagine if adult!Dazai's question was meant to be 'have u been drinking milk?' with that blank annoying expression of his #bungou stray dogs

[musical-chick-13]

Can somebody please explain to me what the appeal of vampires is.

#I'm genuinely curious #people seem to go absolutely feral over this concept and I want to KNOW I want to UNDERSTAND #and there are some really excellent vampire aus that I love and I want to love them MORE because I want to GET IT™ #because all I see are like...societally conventionally attractive people with fangs. who maybe (depending on The Lore™) #can't go out in the sun. and that just...doesn't resonate with me? #like I understand metaphors for 'othering' and the concept of monstrosity but I feel like that gets a little lost if there isn't anything #actually UNPALATABLE about them. like if they just look like what we culturally have idealized in human appearance then how can #they serve as a metaphor for ostracization or being misunderstood? #is it primarily an aesthetic thing? is it a *danger is sexy* thing? #but ordinary humans can be plenty dangerous too (see: 90% of the female characters I'm obsessed with) #so is it in the sense of you can vicariously experience that danger and heightened emotion in a situation that's removed from reality #so it feels less overwhelming when you're watching/reading the piece of fiction??? #like I have seen this used effectively as a metaphor for marginalization (undead murder farce) and an exploration of how society #defines a 'monster' (shiki) but that doesn't seem to be the way most people or works engage with this concept #is it just that people like when characters are covered in blood because I DO understand that one lmao #I just feel like vampires have been branded as a Key Aspect of Bisexual/Gay Culture and I feel like I am on a separate plane of existence #because It Is Not Clicking For Me #(tbh I feel like there are a lot of Quintessential Queer Experiences™ that don't apply to me but. that's a whole separate thing.) #ANYWAY would love to hear people's thoughts! #I am cooking up a Meta Post™ about fandom reaction to the concept of monstrosity and I want to gather as much information as possible

[magentagalaxies]

having a moment about my gender rn and i'm just like ugggggh @ my brain do we have to. like can we just not

#i need to go to bed soon bc i have a 10am class tomorrow but shoutout to the identity crisis i've been having since at least feb 6th #idk if identity crisis is even the right word. bc like one thing about me is that i have a very solid sense of self #like i know who i am and what i want and how i move through the world and what it feels like to be me #but in terms of how i label and explain that to others? that's where the identity crisis comes in #but no one else gets to experience me in first person POV so the descriptors i use and they ways i present myself are reality to them #and tbh? as i think about how some of the descriptors i use for myself don't accurately describe me some people are getting mad??? #which is so fucking bizarre bc like. what the fuck it's my gender why are YOU being offended??? #but it's also making me low key be like ''wait am i a bad person now????'' #even tho i don't believe morality works like that. idk it's just been an exhausting month and a half #if anyone wants to hear more in depth thoughts on all this i would love to vent about it #(but not rn bc i will be going to bed as soon as i get this all out) #but like what i will say now is even tho this past month and a half has been ROUGH (for several reasons especially gender) #and people might expect that me spending so much time with scott in february made it more exhausting #which is understandable we love scott but touring in general is tiring and also i am the most opinionated person i've ever met but so is he #and also like. if you've heard scott talk about gender it's very obvious we disagree on a lot of things and he doesn't shy away from that #but the thing is. i'd actually say spending so much time with scott (even when we talk about gender. even when we *argue* about gender) #was actually such a good thing for me throughout all of this bc even when we disagree on semantics of labels #scott actually sees me beyond that rather than reducing my identity to what i call myself #which is how a lot of well-meaning allys tend to treat me. like i'm just one thing. #so when i'm with scott i never really have to think about my gender #bc he doesn't treat me like i'm (insert whatever gender people treat me like). he just treats me like i'm jessamine #and i'm tired of having to explain myself into smaller pieces so people can pretend to get it #but i feel like there's no way not to do that in our society rn especially at my ''progressive'' liberal arts college

[piplupod]

mother: "theres this great job where you'd be on-call to come in!"

me: "ahhh i don't really want to be on-call, that would stress me out a lot because I'd always be on edge,,"

mother: "no you wouldn't, you could make it your thing!"

me: "...my thing?"

mother: "being on call! it'd be great! :)"

me: "i would probably be crying like... a lot ahaha. because I would always be on edge never knowing when to expect having to go into work, yknow?"

mother: "nooo, you could just make it a thing!"

me: "sorry, what do you mean by thing?"

AND I NEVER FOUND OUT !!

#i feel very ill fdsjkl tonight was ... not good #not the worst definitely not the worst #just. a lot of diet talk and making fun of other ppl that she expected us to all laugh at (and we did. idk if they found it funny.) #and brother labelling some influencer having rape charges against him just ''internet drama'' #number one: i dont want to hear about that. number two: that is not just ''drama'' that is like. serious. what the fuck is wrong w youuuu #my mother will say that all the food i eat is very bad for me and do that while knowing full well i struggle to eat Anything #and say that simply Adding things to the diet is pointless bc ur poisoning urself still! u have to Take Out things! i cant fucking do that! #im still baffled that two years ago when i tried to go to them for help when i was almost fainting from not eating they just shrugged at me #''okay? why are u telling us this?'' BECAUSE YOU ARE MY PARENTS. AND I AM TRYING TO GET HELP. #i should've known better than to try tbh but like. its so hard to completely let go of every sliver of hope that they'll... be kind #like me saying i was feeling suicidal a few yrs ago just garnered a ''oh don't start this again. we're not doing this again.'' #and me admitting my own damn self to the psych ward just had her telling me ''i dont think you actually needed to go :/'' #mother dearest if it werent for the other fuckers in the brain (caused by you abusing me) then i would've been dead several times over #i am so fucking tired i am so sick of these ppl it is so incredibly painful and terrifying that this is supposed to be my family #this is the one support system i get in life. and it is no support system at all. i am fucked !! i am so unbelievably fucked!!! #i know other ppl make it thru but they are much stronger than me. i am lacking something that they all have lmao. i am cowardly and weak!!! #i have been trying so fucking hard to figure out how to like. make this work. how to survive in this society and its just. impossible #i think we're back to the clock ticking down as my bank account runs out #i cannot be employed and ppl keep telling me disability won't accept me so i am just. unanimously fucked over i suppose #i have two years !! two years until i run out of money!!! thats a lot of time!! to make all the art i want to make!! #i will make this work for these two years i will cope and make my art and disconnect and daydream through the intolerable parts #i will make these two years so good sdfjkl im gonna make it to the end of them #sorry this is all coming flooding out fsjdkl i've just tried so hard to be like. positive abt things and laugh abt things and be okay #im tired of trying to make it okay fdsjkl i am wallowing tonight i guess. boohoo poor little me fdsjkl i'll probably get over it soon #just need to like. let a little of the pressure leak out so i don't completely crack and do smth stupid #it will be okay !!! or as okay as it can be !!! this will be blocked out by tomorrow morning probably!! #or it'll have to be LMAO i have my silly old lady yarn group tomorrow and i need to be Normal for that #suicide tw #abuse tw #ed tw

[mountain-lion-gremlin]

GUYS SO YOU KNOW IVE TALKED A BIT ABOUT HAVING A LOVER

AND I JUAT GOT THE WONDERFUK OPPORTUNITY TO TALK WITH HIS LAZY ASS PARENTS

(GUYS HE GOT HIS PHONE TAKEN AWAY I AM SK SAD)

BUT LIKE THIA BITCH IS SO LAZY COULDNT EVEN BOTHER TO TRY AND REPLICATE HOW MY PRETTY BOY TALKS

like from the get go I could tell it wasn't him it was SO FISHHYYY

(*gossip girl voice is fully activated btw*)

But also I am so worried for him. I hope they weren't snooping, and I'm glad I followed my gut and didn't try to make contact immediately again outside of the one chat we have

Because if they found out he would be in absolute HEAPS of trouble.

I hope he gets his phone back soon. I can't wait for him to return.

#pls pls pls if you know who I'm talking about #do not say or comment about it anywhere else #this is for both of our privacy and pretend you never saw thus #it's just so frustrating that he got his phone taken and they didn't even try hard to convince me #I think his parents thought I was so emotional over it that I was just in denial #like I'm not stupid 💀💀 #my love does NOT talk like that #craziest thing that has happened so far in this relationship tbh #I really hope he's okay and doesn't think I'm really hurt over this #because I'm not I just find this a pitiful attempt from a parent #I also made sure to contact some of his close friends that i know of to not contact him #because he is also a wolf shifter and I really don't want him to be accidentally exposed #I was spamming him though I think they were tired of hearing it every night for the last 6 days 🤠✨️ #I didn't know if he was okay I had no warning that his stuff was taken #I was completely in the dark #GUYS IM SUCH A GOOD ACTOR #but yeah #wanted to tell you guys because I did NOT expect this #most likely I will delete this after this whole thing is over #I'm pretty sure he will get his phone back just based on how they talked to me #pretty sure it was his mom or stepmom or something #too nice and passive aggressive to be his dad #plus the energy behind the texts felt more... feminine so to say. MY LOVE IS THE OPPOSITE OF FEMININE #I LOVE YOU HONEY #I'm pretty sure he cut contact with everything he could before his parents took his phone but couldn't get to Amino on time. #I really hope they didn't snoop #that would be horrible for him #I'm really worried #like I was worried yesterday oh hell yes I was #but I am WAYYY worried now

[torchickentacos]

I never do this, but reblogs were off and I want to shout this at everyone. stealing this post.

more thoughts under read more. I know it's a popular saying and I never look down on people who say things like this before knowing the impact they have (or even after to an extent, I have too much benefit of the doubt to go around), as we all have things we say and do that have negative impacts, and sometimes you never know to change that until someone points it out. So this is NOT a call out post or whatever, this is my rambling emotional thoughts on a topic.

I think first and foremost, I'm bothered by the ableism of course. But secondary to that is my annoyance at seeing people act high and mighty about fandom discourse. Like, if you want to talk to adults with jobs, go to linkedin or something, not tumblr, where we do care about things, and where we do discuss things.

And I GET thinking some discourse is stupid. I DO! because guess what. some discourse is stupid skjfhsdjkjfhsdjfhkdjs. I've joked about the poke/amour stuff before. I'll clown on some things, and maybe that makes me a hypocrite, but I feel like a step is taken when you take it from 'making fun of the discourse', something we all do to an extent (which dare I say is a form of participating in it) to 'making fun of the people who engage in such discourse'. We are FREE to talk about how silly the voltron stuff was. We are FREE to be snarky about things because human nature is to be a bit of a hater sometimes. but do it in a way that jabs at the topic and not the people.

But I think a lot of it also hinges on how we see human value on a larger scale. People make fun of people who work retail, people who don't have jobs, people whose jobs are considered extra or undesirable like sex workers, et cetera, despite these jobs being IMPORTANT. It's disheartening to me to see people lean on these types of jabs, and I think it tends to paint human value as something purely based on what you can give out to the world. It leans on this sort of input-output based system of determining how valuable or worthy someone is. And if they don't meet that standard value of 'adult with job', then their opinions are moot as jobless losers in their mom's basements or whatever the fuck. I think the whole thing leans into the conservative 'special snowflake' attitude, which isn't something I think we should be leaning on in arguments or discussion.

And I think that the intent is usually not to be ableist. Most people don't start their day wondering how they can insult disabled people, I'd hope. But intent and impact are often detached, and good intent (avoiding discourse) can have a bad impact (making fun of people in the name of pointing out issues with disocurse). I also think race could be a component, given how racial discrimination in hiring is still a very real thing and is a real factor preventing people from getting 'GoOd ReAl JoBs', but I'll leave that side of the discussion to someone who is more qualified to talk on it than I am. Feel free to chime in with any insight on that side of the coin if you want!!! I imagine the same also goes for visibly queer people but I'm not going to get into the straight/cis passing stuff right now.

And maybe I'm looking too far into it. Maybe I'm just thinking about it too much, maybe it's just a funny little saying that TOTALLY doesn't affect actual people in any way. After all, I'm just some jobless disabled loser in my parent's house talking about discourse on tumblr, aren't I?

#rbs are fine but please be kind if you're going to send anons about this topic. #reblogs were off for a reason presumably so I'll leave it anon #i don't know or care what side of whatever discourse op is on. they're right about this specific thing. #i genuinely don't want to get into back and forth discussion about how wrong i am on this right now tbh #I don't want to hear WELL ACTUALLY- #like no please just let me say my piece and step down from the soapbox #this isn't a callout post or like OH YOURE SOOOOO TERRIBLE IF YOU SAY THIS #like no i've said it before i think khdfskdjfhdzb just my thoughts right now #it's annoyance at the societal aspect of it as a whole #like i'm not mad at cashiers for taking my money. i'm mad that as an entire society we have no money for groceries. ya feel? #never mad at any individuals! always mad at the societal aspect as a whole #beause it really isn't something any one person should have blame for imo #also reminder i am a random tumblr user and not some moral lighthouse to guide everyone. what do i know lmao

[moinsbienquekaworu]

止まらない未来を目指して!!!!

#(this is me yelling that line to y'all. btw) #(you can't hear me sing in my room so you get the closest thing i can do on tumblr) #(The line from magic knight rayearth's opening which i need to watch like many other things) #(it reads as tomaranai mirai wo mezashite if you're curious and want to join me) #(that means uh. i did a bad translation myself because i don't want to loose my japanese instead of just looking it up. so) #(like. aiming for an unstoppable future? i just like how the singer sings it tbh) #wow i have a ramble tag now

[dimiclaudeblaigan]

Okay I don't do this normally but out of curiosity, I looked at that guys' posts and yeah they're going around sealioning anyone who likes Dimitri being all like "how can you say Dimitri/AM is your favorite when you didn't play all the routes". Buddy it's called having preferences, subjectivity and opinion. I'm sure if we twist their behavior around back at them, they'll be like stop bothering us for liking Edel cause double standards is their bread and butter.

Yeah, I had taken a brief scroll through their blog the first time I saw them argue with Random about Claude because I had a pretty strong feeling that they were just another stan running around around against Rhea and Dimitri fans because I knew that person didn't follow Random when they started pulling the bad faith Claude takes.

I scrolled through a few posts before I was like yeah I'm not even gonna bother looking further because I could see all they were doing was arguing with people whose names I recognized, and the only people who ever do that are the stans. They also have absolutely nothing else but discourse on their blog.

It's crazy to me too, because I've seen those same Dimitri fans try to talk about anything else FE related and yet they still get pulled back into discourse. Like, I'm at the point where I believe everyone in that immediate group is just actively being stalked by the stans (and I recall one of them mentioning they are being stalked by them, but my guess is if one of them is, all of them are).

Also, the stans tend to pull the "you didn't play xyz route" when I'm quite certain most if not all of the Dimitri fans on Tumblr have at the very bare minimum watched the full route on YouTube of anything they didn't play. All these people have the information they need to know where they stand opinion-wise, and like you said, it's just... having an opinion. The stans have their opinions, we don't agree with them, and we don't engage with them unless they engage with us first.

Something I've noticed about the group of Dimitri fans that gets stans going after them is that it's always the stans who start it. They always respond to asks sent to those people. In other words they go onto those people's blogs, look at their posts/their replies to their anons, and start arguing at them over literally anything they say in thsoe ask responses.

Every single time I see a post reach my dashboard from any of those people (you might know the Faerghus/Dimitri group I'm talking about), it's always a stan going after them when they were just answering one of their own anons and posting something on their own blog. I'm sure there are people who think they engage in discourse too much, but they don't even start it. They get harassed and can't just blog in peace.

Unfortunately those same stans have been targeting Random as of late (and I've noticed it's more and more different ones so they're probably going after someone as soon as they notice their buddies are doing so) so it's not that surprising that they've taken notice of me since she and I interact regularly. They basically go through the chain of who interacts with who and try to start shit.

Oh nonnie honey, you better believe if even a single Dimitri fan did to them what they do to us, they'd be all over that and whining about it and posting callouts and shit.

I just want to be able to post whatever my feelings are about Dimitri without worrying that people will try to tear it down because "it's not about Edel-chan and it portrays Dimitri in a good light".

I've blocked every Edelstan I've come across but more of them keep popping up, so... I guess the blocking never ends. My block list is basically just Edelstans and bots at this point with few exceptions.

Funny how the stans don't block Dimitri fans who hate Edelgard to avoid seeing them (it's because they don't actually want to, because they want to argue), even though we're all over here trying to block them, but some of them block evade to keep going. Literally like Dimitri fans have tried to block them and move on, but they persistently find ways to keep harassing. And like I said, they go down the line, so eventually they'll just find every active Dimitri lover who posts about him and whine at them.

#DCB Ask #it's fucking wild to me how many times the same people have tried to block and move on and avoid these people #and how many times they've tried to talk about anything else or whatever they want in their own space #but the stans keep coming back and bothering them #there are even people whose favorite isn't Dimitri but they've ended up hating Edelgard because of the stans #and are wary of discourse bc of them. and like... their favorites aren't part of the general discourse much if at all #but they still hate Edelgard bc they just don't like HER but her stans made them despise the sight of her #it's tiring stressful and pathetic tbh. maybe I'll just like. write an analysis about a character I love #from another game so I can write about something fun and that I love and try to help #convince people in a happy positive way that he's GooD. bc like if you want someone to like your faves #the best way to change their mind is to have fun and talk in detail without discourse about them #if you're talking about them in a good way and explaining the depths of the character #and people can tell you're passionate about the character then they're way more likely to walk in open minded #than if you come at them insulting them and bitching at them for who they DO like or for not liking your fave #when ppl get interested in Dimitri and want to hear from me why I like him and stuff #I tell them all the great things about him that I love and gush about him. I don't start going #AND EDELGARD -INSERT EVERYTHING I HATE ABOUT HER- AND THAT'S WHY I LOVE DIMITRI #and I don't include why I hate Edelgard when ppl ask why I love Dimitri. I tell them why I love Dimitri and am happy to talk abt it #I LOVE getting ppl to enjoy my faves and sometimes it works! and that's bc they enjoy the vibe they get #when I'm talking abt my faves. they like seeing the passion and interest and positivity #I do this with my faves in another franchise all the time with an entire group of side characters who are sides but #also very plot important and it always makes people see them in a different light and appreciate them more

[unluckystreak]

If you are OR WERE an ADHD kid and an adult, teacher, or other authority figure has ever told you, "you just need to apply yourself." or anything along those lines, I need you to know that you're NOT incapable of being motivated (lazy), you're NOT intrinsically incompetent (worthless), and your brain DOESN'T "work wrong" (stupid).

You are not defective for needing guidance. And it's not your fault if the don't know how to give it to you.

#anyway hearing that over and over again as a teenager made me want to bash my skull in so #if anyone needs it #things i wish i realized when i was a teen #and now tbh #i know there's a lot of posts about (former) gifted ADHD kids #and that's great /gen #those conversations definitely need to happen #and whole i don't think this topic is purposely or at all being neglected #i want to talk about the quote unquote low preforming adhd kids #the kids the teachers didn't pay any mind to #the kids that were exhausted by school #even when they didn't do any hw #the kids who compared themselves to everyone that breathed #the kids who got bitter when someone complained about a better grade or overall standing than you #and feeling guilty being bitter in the first place #because you know they had their own problems and their feelings were valid #but you couldn't help thinking I WISH I HAD THAT PROBLEM DON'T THEY KNOW WHAT THEY'RE TAKING FOR GRANTED #and you ping pong from bitter to guilty for that bitterness to steeping in both at the same time #the kids who wish they were the smart kid that just didn't try #but just felt genuinely stupid kid and everyone knew it #the kids who knew they were being looked down on #and the kids who didn't blame them you just wanted them to know AT LEAST that you knew you were inferior #and felt guilty thinking any kind peer might look down on you at all isn't that just a product of your own evil and malicious nature? #the kids no one expected anything from #the kids who didn't get the material #the kids who completed classwork and tests slower than anyone else #the kids who like their classes and like their teachers but just can't do it #the kids who hate their classes and hate their teachers and just can't bear to do it #the kids who feel nothing about their classes and their teachers and just wish they could stop feeling numb #i didn't resent the adults for telling me to just apply myself i just wish i knew how to make them understand

[a-passing-storm]

Would be curious to hear about Good Life Skills people picked up through D&D in the tags! 

#in the tags #tag game #d&d #dungeons and dragons #dm'ing #dungeon master #i shall start! #i'm big on the 'if you can't deal with a roll you didn't predict then don't make it a roll' guideline with dm'ing #and it's carried over into my personal life in regards to like... #not asking questions that i don't actually want to know the answer to #and if i have a question where i want an answer i should make it into a statement #eg. 'do you like my writing?' is a bad question if i'm not ready for someone to say 'no' #that example is like... in keeping my feelings from being hurt #but there's also like... polite conversation where if i'm asking questions in the interest of just saying what *I* think #then i shouldn't ask a question #tbh guilty of that a lot like 'omg have you had any cool dreams recently?' when i actually want to just ramble about my own dream and... #would be like rude and uninterested in hearing someone else's dream type beat #dante dicit

[swordwife]

been a while since I posted pics of my little meow meow. she’s so cute I love her.

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#yes I spent four real world dollars for her new outfit. what about it. #I really wanna take more cute pics in gridania since its her home but there's eggs everywhere 😭 😩 #her old outfit is dearly missed but the one she's in now matches what i've always had in mind for her #been wanting to write about her lately tbh. i'm best at conveying information via bullet points and similar manners of listing-- #--so I was thinking of just doing something like that instead of a proper bio lol #i've been dreading (but also looking forward to but you didnt hear that from me) getting to this part of the story since day 1 #so i'm using cute pictures and off-game content for coping :) #don't worry about it

[vamptastic]

the name vittore DOES fuck severely but i have grown oh so tired of the jokes ppl used to make with my deadname bc of that twilight character and the underwear store

#itd be like extremely easy to figure out my deadname from this blog ive prolly outright said it before #idc if someone wants to go thru that work to deadname me tho like congrats dude my dad does that every day #do u think im gonna cry abt it. thats literally my legal name i spend all last summer going by it exclusively #and significant numbers of ppl in my life don't even know ppl call me anything else #always been mystified when transphobes think thats going to be like emotionally devastating tbh like #i think it would be worse the longer youve had nobody call you your deadname to be sure #but i think a significant portion of trans ppl hear that name from distant family ppl they only knew as kids etc fairly often #why is some loser on the internet going to be their breaking point yk. just say a slur or something

[teacupchimera]

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#tea's boring life #ya girl is FINALLY back on her meds #I'm not sure if I made a post abt it before but basically there was an issue with my insurance and I was off my meds for a month #it's been absolutely hellish tbh #I def coped better than before I was on meds at all but it still mega sucked #and ngl? I'm feeling a little bitter cause my friends barely ever ask me how I am so nobody rly knew how bad of a time I've been having #like ffs. I'll ask someone how they are and they'll tell me about their day or whatever and then they just??? won't ask me how I am????? #like who raised you!!! it's common fucking courtesy!!!! like. don't you care how I am lmao?? it fucking sucks #I'm sick to death of always. ALWAYS. being the one to reach out #like if I don't periodically ping my friends I just. won't fucking hear from them at all lmao #I just want to scream sometimes like. do you even fucking care about me!!!! at all!!!!! #whatever #I'm just glad the month is over and I'm back on my meds