#to be loved to the point of codependency

[turtleblogatlast]

Something I really like about Raph and Leo’s relationship is that Raph noticeably doesn’t hold back with Leo nearly as much as he does with Donnie and Mikey, and it’s really nice to see that from him.

Leo too would frequently fall into a natural strategist and second-in-command role of sorts, often actually giving his worries and thoughts to Raph where he wouldn’t normally.

Then the Shredder happens and this dynamic is thrown into a loop where they both stay solidly in their own camps of “we’re heroes, it’s our duty” and “we’re teens, who cares?” And during this, Raph not holding back from Leo is cranked up to an eleven and Leo flips around to mask more with Raph than he ever had before and deliberately riles Raph up so that fights are all but guaranteed.

Post-invasion, it’s clear they’re (mostly) back to how they were before for the most part, with an added level of respect and maturity (and trauma) there too, and it’s great to see because they’re an amazing duo when they’re on the same wavelength.

#rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt raph #rottmnt leo #I love their dynamic a lot actually #it is funny to see Raph be all ‘hey buddy ☺️’ sometimes to Donnie and Mikey but Leo he’s like nah it’s on sight #and Leo for his part is like okay we should probably not trust the spider lady right Raph? RIGHT Raph?? #they work really really well together tbh and cover each others weak points amazingly #strong and defensive Raph and quick and strategic Leo #lethal combo #I could say more but that essay is for another time #codependency mention below / #okay but *eyes my post-invasion codependent Raph & Leo idea because the movie could so easily lead to that*

[fourteenthz]

— DOGS ARE LIKE THAT, SO LOYAL

The lord of night, the one eyed demon, and the MAD DOG OF SHIMANO. (insp)

#yakuza #yakuza 0 #goro majima #mine #gamingnetwork #gamingedit #vgedit #dailygaming #userliliana #mrdekarios #yakuzaedit #userlockescoles #yakuza 0 spoilers #useravallachs #userwolfkissed #mikaeled #userdina #rambling now bc EVERYDAY I WAKE UP #and think that he knew his only way out of yakuza was with makoto until she was hurt and then he just concluded there wasnt a way out #aka when he said he could protect her from them until she was like “its not enough. I need them dead” and he kinda just started to accept #imagine you only know 1 way of living until you find a new home. and then the new home isn't safe anymore #so you just think that it must be a you problem and then you go back to your unsafe home from before #what I want to say is that majima always cared. that post. shelter dogs are still dogs. #everything he is and what he becomes is because of the ppl he met along the way and I just LOVE. #*points at the codependent man* MY BABY GIRL. #I put makoto on the first gif at first but I was like wait maybe not. maybe I should lean on the yakuza life. #holding my shoulders like 'not everything is abt majimako' but in my heart it is. #so I decided to be at least a bit more sane and normal abt it anyway. pls look at the insp link majima enjoyers pls. #posting this as a commemorative ill-start-kiwami-today wish me luck

[sysig]

i want to go on a big and elaborate date with papyrus SPECIFICALLY bc of the way u draw him bc he’s so bbg cutie patootie

PapyrACE 💚💜 Happy Valentine's Day!

#DDoodles #UT #Papyrus #AroAce Papyrus Supremacy #Lol #I'm actually really delighted to see how much aroace positivity there is around the skelebros :D #I was a little on the worried side since y'know - Sans especially. I've been in the fandom for a while lol I'm Aware #But genuinely there's so much lovely energy towards the bros being aroace which I - unsurprisingly - am very inclined towards lol #Me constantly: And you're ace! And you're ace! And you're ace! Ace for everybody! #I'm tongue-in-cheek about my Projecting Constantly lol but I do try to base my headcanons on The Actual Text haha #I think Papyrus is kind of a no-brainer lol he literally turns you down if you go on a date with him that's pretty textual #And you have the option to completely avoid going on a date with him and he still clarifies platonic affection! #I like him very much haha <3 #As for Sans I know some of it stems from my Handplates filter lol - their codependency points to an interesting interplay with romance #I'll start thinking about the Vargas Dating Sim again if I keep on that train of thought tho lol #But to me it feels more than just ''He's too busy'' or w/e - Feels Different #It's all speculation anyway haha - I'm glad you like how I draw Papyrus! :D He's the sweetest boy and I love him!! #Wanted to try something a bit Extra hehe ♪ I keep wanting to make animatics and the like! #Storyboards - animations if I can swing them lol - but I'm very impatient :P And perfectionistic >.> #So have something a bit more sloppy and silly :) It's good practice for me! #All told it wasn't too bad! :D I had fun making it and I'm fairly pleased ♪ #Hope you enjoy hehe <3 Happy Valen's! :D

[phatcatphergus]

I also want to talk about how Tubbo is so accepting of Sunny’s death now bc he was talking about it for a while.

Personally, I found it as a codependency thing of “if you die I die” because he’s no longer afraid of death or the people he leaves behind. When he pulled himself out of the lava the only person waiting for him was sunny. Most people barley have him a second glance when they saw him again, just saying “I thought you died” before going back to their daily lives. Acting like nothing substantial happened.

Tubbo now knows that no one cares enough for him to even make sure that sunny is okay. The signs on his bedroom wall were testament to that. If he dies again, he won’t be going alone. He won’t let sunny go through that again. They have a suicide pact after all

#I fucking love codependent relationships that end up isolating the people to a point that no one can reach them #but irl tho #you know what I mean #qsmp #tubbo #qsmp tubbo #qsmp sunny #tw suicide

[lloydfrontera]

so say you have a best friend. are you a 'spend a lifetime at his side and then after death condemn him to the possibility of eternal existence because you can't stand the idea of spending your own eternity without him at all even when your paths may only cross once every century and the occasional phone call' kinda guy or are you like. normal about him.

#i talk a lot <3 #tged #the greatest estate developer #tged spoilers #javier asrahan #lloyd frontera #when love makes you selfish and you refuse to let go of your dear one even when it would be the kind thing to do <3 #when the codependency makes you look at eternity and refuse to spend it alone <333 #when love makes you hold tight to the point of suffocation <333333 #crown prince sells medicine #cpsm

[designernishiki]

ever think about the fact that nishiki largely spiraled the way he did because of being considered incompetent and unfavorable in comparison to kiryu by everyone important in his life, and thus was constantly neglected and forgotten about. and then think about how the bomb would never have had to go off if kiryu and/or yumi just paid literally any attention to him after the showdown. talked to him. helped him to his feet. kept an eye on him. anything. instead of more or less forgetting he was there and allowing him the opportunity to do what he did. do you ever think about that. i sure do

#there is. no conversation between kiryu and nishiki after they fight. at all. #which is. well #I don’t blame nishiki too much for going jokermode there because uh. yeah. ouch #all of this was supposed to be about him. the showdown was supposed to be about him and kiryu #and kiryu just ignored him and talked to yumi instead like he wasn’t even there- let alone the focal point for All Of This #anyway yeah having them not fucking talk to each other there and focusing on the pointless and Bad attempt at a love story was just #flat out bad writing #because it’s not in character at fucking All for kiryu both due to who he is as a person and- more importantly- the relationship they built #beteeen him and nishiki in y0. like. how fucking close they were. like yumi had literally nothing to do with anything here #they were literally basically codependent and hadn’t lived their lives apart ever for the most part up until the sentencing #and they just sorta. gloss over that. in favor of yumi. who we know nothing about and have no development with and no dynamic in place with #her and either of them or anything #it’s #anyway #I need to stop bsnchdjmfd #nishiki #yakuza kiwami #yakuza kiwami spoilers #akira nishikiyama #rgg #yakuza #rambling

[spending-life-pretending]

so fucked up that judith said no to being coronabeth’s new necro. the only thing more fucked up would’ve been if she’d said yes

#me #the locked tomb #as yet unsent #jodybeth #I often think about this #bc like yeah the communication is lacking #but in a world filled with fucked up/codependent-to-the-point-of-being-toxic relationships #I honestly think Jody’s choice becomes (when looking relatively) one of the most mature and logical decisions in the whole series #like I almost can’t believe Ms muir didn’t take the opportunity to enmesh them in that way #love them

[lokittystuckinatree]

2 months later almost to the day and I’m still literally sobbing into my pillow about the Shakespearean tragedy that was Sylki

#I’m a strange mix of pissed and heartbroken and frustrated and confused and bitter and bittersweet #it’s like my own breakup #Sylki #now I’m seeing people argue that Sylvie doesn’t love Loki back anymore or even in the first place???? really???? #it’s in written and live interviews that she LOVES him like no one she’s ever known #by the end of season 2 she is emotionally glued to him the way she was in season one #is Lokis love of her more obsessive and codependent and unconditional to the point of being unhealthy? #yes. #does she still love him as deeply as someone with her level of attachment and trust issues and stunted emotions physically can? #yesssss #stop the mental gymnastics #they just have realistic attachment styles #and she needs to be warmed up to opening herself and her life and heart to people and coaxed into a relationship like a feral cat #while Loki glomps onto anyone that shows him affection like a touch starved baby monkey #I feel like the only one who freaking GETS them

[fagdykepearlescentmoon]

Toxic codependency and mutually assured destruction is quite often seen as something vicious and sharp and cruel. But what if it was the opposite.

What if it was soft and sweet and loving. What if instead kisses that leave skin bloody and raw it was a gentle peck on the lips. What if there wasn't hate or greed rather sonething kinder. What if every brush of skin was a silent 'I love you don't leave me I can't live with out you'.

Maybe instead of blood and jagged nails it was feather-light touches and rustling leaves. What if instead of fire it was sickness. Creeping through the soul and hollowing out your insides so flowers can grow from your heart.

Looking and eachother and knowing that if this person was gone you wouldn't be able to function or so much as breathe. You would simply lie down and not move until your body was covered in oleanders and moss and your soul found a home again with the earthworms.

what if toxic codependency was a love so deep you could drown in it? Or something

#just saying words #Was doing the washing and had to sit down to write this lmao #mutually assured destruction #codependant #toxic love #Man idk what I'm saying at this point but yk

[missingexaltation]

The codependency issue:

(probs not a popular opinion but...meh)

Steddie break up after a couple of months because of how codependent Steve and Robin are. Eddie's fed up because he never gets time with Steve without her, unless they're literally going to be intimate. Even then, Robin makes a face and a jokes about it, while Steve laughs and walks her to the door.

Eddie can handle that, kind of, but he can't handle it a few days later when Robin stays in the bed with them after a night of watching movies. It's the first proper fight that he had with Steve, and they don't even see each other for a couple of weeks, let alone talk.

When the kids ask, Steve and Robin have wound themselves up to the point where they think that Eddie was being really controlling, and as a consequence the kids are all pissed at Eddie, who disappears off the radar.

Nothing much changes until Robin gets a girlfriend, and is instantly spending less time with Steve. Instead of being together 24/7, she's suddenly busy all the time and Steve feels lost without her. They have a fight about this too.

'You were with me and Eddie all the time' versus 'I'm allowed to want privacy Steve'.

He bumps into Eddie, who's very upset when Steve tells him how they're fighting too. 'I get called an asshole for wanting to hang out with my boyfriend alone, but it's fine for Robin to want the same with her girlfriend? Screw you both, man.' He says, and walks off, blaming them for turning the kids against him.

Steve's reeling by all this. He feels like he's being abandoned by everyone he loves, and ends up working through a six pack with Hopper, who gives him fatherly advice.

Steve wants everyone to be happy all of the time, Hopper says, and sometimes it's not possible. Nobody is entirely in the wrong, but Steve is gonna have to talk to them both to explain how he feels, and see how they feel. Hopper also makes a gentle point of saying that Steve might feel like he has to give people whatever they want so that they stay with him, which is probably a consequence of his parents abandoning him.

Steve goes to Eddie first, and it takes less than a minute for him to start bawling his eyes out. Eddie crumbles too, he was genuinely upset about losing Steve, and after a long talk they decide to try again, but with boundaries in place.

It takes a few days for Steve to work up the nerve to talk to Robin, and she immediately apologises too. Her girlfriend had pointed the same things out to her about their codependency, and she was similarly embarrassed by how she'd treated Steve and Eddie and indirectly contributed to their break up.

Things are a little awkward for a while, but they're fully patched up by the time Robin and her girlfriend head off to college together.

Steve and Eddie stay in Hawkins for a while, saving up to go on a long road trip around the country in style. They end up in Robin's college state and hang out for a while before going their separate ways again until the following summer.

#i love stobin friendship but i hate the trend of making them codependent to the point that they can't function without each other. #it's so fucking unhealthy i hate it...and i think any boyfriend/girlfriend of theirs would too #and i also kind of think that they'd become an echo chamber...so Eddie would be turned into a control freak in their narrative #When all he wanted was a evening alone with his boyfriend without being called gross #and Steve's not exactly the poster boy for healthy relationships...romantic or friendly...he just wants to be loved #It's a classic part of growing up...balancing between the boy/girlfriend and the best friend #steve harrington #robin buckley #eddie munson #steddie

[val-el]

i need someone to be as insane about my apocalypse jayrose as me

“You can just…” the words are hoarse, quiet, barely more than a croak; “you can just...keep going without me.”

Rose looks over at him, panting heavily. The veins of his face are pitch-black by now, green eyes dulled to a dark gray. It doesn’t look like he’s breathing, or even alive. “What?”

“Just…” Jason takes in a ragged breath, entire body shaking with it. She thinks she hears his ribs rattle. “Go on without me.”

That’s not an option in her mind. Maybe once, long ago, when they first found each other. But not now. Not when they’re so close to somewhere they’ll finally be safe. Not when Jason’s all she has now, all she’s ever had. Leaving him behind isn’t an option. No matter what. Infected or not, it’s both of them. Always. “Fat fucking chance,” she breathes out.

#its SO funny because at the beginning of the fic #rose is like who IS this guy i HATE him #and by the middle point shes like #if anything happens to you i’m killing myself #i love them in this au so much #codependency brought about by needing to survive etc etc #my writing #jayrose

[aingeal98]

My favourite thing about the buffy fandom is that the show is filled with evil awful men who consistently drag Buffy down and make her miserable but fandom will ignore all that to focus on a few of the traumatized child soldiers who are either orphans or have abusive parents and they'll be like hmm actually THIS character sucks and is the worst because they were not nice to Buffy. If I ignore everything else and focus only on a handful of episodes it proves that they were horrible people the entire time and Buffy deserves better. The only one who was REALLY there for Buffy is MY fave.

(Their faves tend to spend a solid third of their screen time being misogynistic but shhhh no trust me he GETS Buffy like no one else. It's a special romantic bond, dark gothic horror or whatever. He calls her a bitch 10 times but look how sad he is when she finally snaps.)

Like absolutely Buffy deserves better she deserves therapy and a fresh start and healthy boundaries but we simply wouldn't have a show if they weren't all messed up kids with ptsd who hurt each other horribly and the love that saves them is also what dooms them, an endless vicious cycle until the whole city collapses. They start off as friends and end up as... something else. Buffy and Xander and Dawn are family and no matter what happens or how shitty they are to each other at times nothing can change that loyalty. It doesn't matter if x or y deserves better they're never going to go searching for it they've simply been through too much trauma for anyone else to come close! Willow would need an entire other post to summarize the friendship development she and Buffy go through but it's so good exactly because of how it goes from sweet to pure pain and grief.

Everyone is free to like and dislike whoever they want but I do feel bad for people who genuinely hate Buffy's friends because what a miserable way to watch the show considering what a huge part of it they are lmao. Yeah yeah Angel and Spike scarred her for life and their love is so powerful whatever. Willow literally will not let Buffy stay dead she is going to get an A in best friend sidekick, something that is normal to want and possible to achieve. Buffy has no choice in this she's the hero so get your ass out of heaven girl we need you to pose and fight monsters so Willow can pretend to have self esteem. Oh you got shot? Walk it off bullet fixed. You might be needed later if the one who healed you decides not to kill the entire world.

Cordelia and Anya take turns being the funniest and most refreshingly straightforward person on the show. Tara is genuinely lovely and I am so sorry Willow and the Scoobies happened to her but it is very nice that they all get a kind friend who stays kind until the end. Dawn is so fascinating her life is a horror story and she wasn't even real at first or there at all for the first four seasons and yet I clap and cheer whenever Buffy gets extra violent with the people that hurt her. Xander... yeah no I get the Xander hate fully he's exhausting especially as a teen. But the fact that the mental wellbeing of two of the most powerful people on this planet is tied to the aliveness of Just Some Guy? It's delightful. He made friends with a shy autistic girl in kindergarten and they later both trauma bonded to Buffy and it saved the world. Amazing.

#i always find the “scoobies or dawn or x character” were awful to buffy arguments so funny #because beyond their first season not a single dynamic on that show was free from toxic codependency #it's the trauma bonding your honour #like yes they suck. absolutely! that's why it's so fun #the counterarguments of “No they were really good actually” are equally funny because sure they were at points #but they were definitely all fucked up #I wouldn't love Willow or Faith as much as I do if they weren't just. Awful people. Nightmare kids who grow into even worse adults #before eventually mellowing out a tiny bit. #btvs #btvs rambles

[pbnmj]

actually you know what the mcu was absolutely evil for introducing spider-man and immediately making him follow iron man around and then ALSO using him as a prop to make iron man look cooler meanwhile peter barely gets a faithful story of his own IN HIS OWN MOVIES

#sorry that it takes like. one textpost to get me writing a paragraph wall #THE FACT. IRON MAN . IS A MASSIVE PLOT POINT IN HOCO AND ALSO IN FFH. BROTHER I DO NOT FUCKING CARE ABOUT THIS GUY #DO NOT GET ME FUCKING STARTED ON THE SONY MOVIES . I AM SO . FUCKING . INSANE RN #I MISS HARRY SOOOOOOOO BAD I WANT PARKSBORN CODEPENDENCY NOWWWWWWWWWW #PERSONAL #THE FACT THAT HOCO IS 'peter is so young and naive he keeps making mistakes' #AND THEN FFH IS 'peter is so young and naive he keeps making mistakes' #AND THEN NWH IS 'peter is so young and naive he keeps making mistakes' #DUDE WHEN DOES HE LEARN. WHEN DOES HE GET CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT #ALSO THE FACT HE JUST . EVERY MOVIE HE FINDS OUT TONY IS ACTUALLY AN EVEN WORSE PERSON THAT HE PREVIOUSLY BELIEVED AND #NOOOOTTTTHINGGGGGG IS DONE ABOUT IT #the fact it took 3 movies of fucking around and it ended up with the mcu implying he's going to be more comics accurate. or at least less .. #like that.... #like you have a trilogy to do something with spidey and also an EXTENDED UNIVERSE and nothing happens #the nymcu (new york marvel cinematic universe) where its just daredevil and spider man and some select avengers that i like is very real to #me. VERY real to ME #we also seriously have to lower the stakes i'd love for him to be a friendly neighborhood spider-man #im not joking. why was he even in england. like just write any semblance of plot so peter feels responsible and FOLLOWS beck to england #because he literally cannot leave it alone. because it is his responsibility. because he cant help but think this is his fault #mostly a joke cause i dont love england but still. #SOMEHTING LIKE THIS PLEASE. PLEASE PPPPLLLLLEEEAAAAASE (the sniper on the opposing rooftop takes the shot and kills me) #edit: excuse me everybody i am not hating on tasm i love andrew garfield so much i can look over its issues #i AM hating on the weird little fucking spiderman universe theyre making without a spiderman. LMFAO #like what is sony thinking . WHAT. #morbius and also the kraven movie i have so little hopes for you its insane #and i very much enjoyed the venom movies but theyre also soooo fun as a standalone #where eddie is just going a widdle batshit

[fatcowboys]

im done w moving and out of the shitty apt w the shittier roommate (who did not let move out happen without adding as Much drama as possible) and have just. been feeling so much better. living w my two friends who actually communicate well and all work together on our needs and gah. so less stressed and anxious now!!! and also in a week kitty introductions have gotten farther than they ever did w shitty roommates kitties (they were kinda bullies, so we had to move glacial speed even w oregano cat expert) and just. thank u the universe things are so much better now

#only improvement would be if anjo Also lived here curse grad school!!!!!! #i moved out over a week ago but we just tuened in keys after cleaning day on sunday #and across just those two days bad roommate accused me of faking cleaning a part of something (that was not requested or clear) #tried to turn anjo against me by saying im a liar and manipulator and gaslighter (which. listen the last one i could say the fuckin same) #(which is also so funny bc anjo and i are so close. became codependent in a heart beat. why tf would u think anjo is gonna be on ur side) #then at the walkthru pointed out things that were damaged (which they are Alsonin on that security deposit what are u doing) #and the texted again accusing me of shit with a stupid fucking infographic on weaponized incompetance #thankfully like all of these i had my friends with me bc when infirst got there for cleaning i uhhhh had a panic attack lol #so i had good support thru everything and now never have to deal w them #its just. been So much lmao. and its so fucking nice how calm and smooth things have been #like i had that sort of shit. i in general am good at communicating and avoid shitty drama like this person #so its been So exhausting. but im done now thank god #and the new place is so much better and nicer and i love the friends im living w and Yeah :')

[thegrimreaperisanerd]

"It's annoying how much of Disco Elysium fandom is shipping!"

I mean, sure, but somebody drawing smooches doesn't necessarily mean they didn't enjoy the haunting, beautiful writing; deeper messages; well-rounded characters; or the wonderful world of Elysium that was loving crafted over a decade then cruelly stolen by money-grabbing fuckwits

"I mean they're cops! And horrible people!"

Babes, I'm a Metal Gear Solid fan: I have been 👀ing at the fat tits of dudes who should be locked in a concrete box and dropped in the sea for the good of humanity long before 2019, as is the nature of faggotry

#im fully grown i dont care about heartthrobber or whatever the new one is #i wanna watch an arms dealer steal a guy and brainwash him/ give him cosmetic surgery to the point he thinks he's arms dealer's former love #because arms dealer's former lover fucked off to make war forever #also solid snake and otacon hrnrnrnn #'kim and harry are both codependent and bad people' i know it fucking rocks #i wanted house and wilson to fuck nasty too #i should probably watch hannibal i bet id love that shit #not to sound like lady gaga but i love 'bad' romance #i have a healthy relationship irl let my video games be full of freaks its funny #disco elysium

[judasisgayriot]

I can’t do this without you, Nathan.

#heroesedit #primatech #heroes nbc #heroes #anni edits #nbc heroes #peter petrelli #sylar #claire bennet (offscreen) lol #meant to do something extraordinary #oh thanks fking Psychoanalyst Sylar. really helpful. #hit him with the hammer peter. hit him. #i think i also havent let go of MY anger lol. every time i'm surprised how strongly I feel about this but i apparently do. #no he doesnt have to forgive him ever. bash his head in and escape the wall with the power of hatred instead. lmao #anyway sorry i have a lot of feelings on that subject apparently #the POINT is that peter doesn't want to skip all 5 stages and go straight to acceptance. he will fight them all the fkin way #and that's what I love from my insanely codependent brothers. lol #im being such a hater today but i swear i dont have beef with any other ships or fans lol. the show however- #oh we go way back. 17 years in fact. square up heroes why do i do nothing but make content for you. turn on your location b*tch. #(can't believe i've actually been mad about the wall longer than they were actually in the wall. asdfghjk) #how to stop an exploding love #heroes season 4