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Oh my god this is a callout post for me specifically.

my number one woman behavior is saying i’m fine with any pronouns and silently ranking people in my regard based on what they do with that information

#I want to see what pronouns they got #hit me with your best pronouns #queer #trans #gay #lgbt #non-binary #nonbinary #lgbtq #intersex

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#yeah that's how it works #social anxiety

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I have always thought of myself as fully able bodied and it took me decades to fully realize and accept that everyone around me views me through the lens of disability at all times because of my one visible difference. I just thought everyone was really weird and condescending for normal reasons.

#little person #not dwarfism but something like that #also autistic #the body I have is fully functional #it's just it's a foot smaller than the average person's body #I thought only the really tiny people were really disabled by their size #i didn't think that applied to me #but oh boy average people do not see it that way #in some sense I relate better with my 6'5 autistic friend because in his words #from up there I look the same size as everyone else

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the whole thing with f1nn5ter coming out is such a perfect example of why we should never allow accusations of being a "fake queer" or anything like that to be taken seriously, especially when it comes to people with non-conforming gender expressin, or people who are experimenting

I heard so many people (granted it's not a super mainstream take) saying that f1nn5ter was just dressing as a girl for clout, and that he's harmful to LGBT people, and "appropriating transness" or something, but it turns out he's now identifying as gender fluid, and i'm so happy for him that he had the space to figure this stuff out. if he took that discourse seriously though, he would have either been forced to out himself at a time when he wasn't ready, or just forced back into the closet and not allowed to experiment with gender at all

also as a side note, he spent ages being the most gender non-conforming person on the planet. if that's not queer as fuck then i don't know what is, and i can't believe some people tried to make that sound like a bad thing. identities are messy, and sometimes you need to just have space to experiment with yourself, and allowing that, and allowing people to play around with and change their identity, whether that's gender, sexuality, or something else, is necessary for having a welcoming and accepting queer community

#yall have no respect for crossdressers or abinary people and it is SURFACING #< prev #it's super accurate #queerness is not limited to arbitrary standards #gender nonconformance is a spectrum #and f1nn5ster is on that spectrum #even if he never came out as anything #it's also why the word “queer” is so useful #for people who don't fit into easily defined categories but who don't fit into the cishet standard either

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Question!

What the fuck does this have to do with my post about my friends and their fun silly drag performances?

I know SEVERAL afab nonbinary people who, as soon as they came out as nonbinary - immediately began dressing in ridiculous hyper-femme outfits they never would have worn before.  A lot of people see this and say shit like “Theyfab” or say they are only nonbinary for attention.  After all, look how femme they are.

But to me, this makes perfect sense.  When you are forced into the category of “woman” against your will, femininity is a chore.  It’s a job that you have.  As soon as you say no, I’m not a woman, suddenly femininity isn’t your job anymore.  It’s not a requirement.  It’s just a fun hobby you can get into.  Or a little treat sometimes.

#lmao the post says #performing femininity should not be your job you should only do it if you want to #and people are like #“how dare you demand I perform femininity better!” #I am making no demands of you #merely commenting on a phenomenon I noticed #it's like if we were holding hands in the park and I said the geese are so beautiful #and you screamed and said how dare you demand that I cover myself in feathers and shit out an egg #such nonsense in the face of beauty

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Oh wow there's a great paralel to this scene in Chuck Tingle's Camp Damascus I wonder if that was on purpose. Probably not. But knowing Chuck? Maybe.

Hellraiser III: Hell on Earth (1992)

#chuck tingle #camp damascus #hellraiser

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We need shittable cities (actively maintained public restrooms).

#transphobia #urinary leash #shittable cities

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I am such a nice person considering the constant rage I feel from having to be around unmasked people with deep wet hacking coughs just open mouth coughing into the room and into my face not making any attempt to cover their mouths.

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things people have done to help me during a psychoses episode

i was on the buss and i hallucinated bugs crawling all over my hands, so my friend pulled my hoodie sleeves over them with permission and held my hands through the sleeves to "keep them off". they used the logic you would in a real bug situation.

i went nonverbal in a bad one in class, so my friend wrote me a note to give to the nurse since the teacher wouldn't let her go with me.

i often am very paranoid about the delusion that meat is actually rotten, so my dad will sometimes eat a bit of it before me

instead of telling me my delusions arent real, they help me through it using logic like it was real. they dont tell me that nothings going to hurt me in my sleep, they stay with me to keep me safe. then when it passes i can realize its not real

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repressed aziraphale i love your fail life

#good omens #I'm loving it so far

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People have gotten way too comfortable risking serious disability just because they feel they have the right to selfish.

Do you want to kill your parents?

Do you want to disable your partner?

Do you want your friends to lie in bed wishing for death?

Wear a fucking mask.

#covid #covid is not over #covid 19 #still masking #covid safe #disability justice

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it is my hope and dream that everyone on tumblr can go outside and visit a gay bar or go to a queer event and see that our community is very beautiful and very diverse and that half the internet discourse isn’t real

#yes please #go to physical queer spaces in material reality #please #queer #gay #lgbtq #trans #lgbt

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#that's it that's the movie #saltburn #I loved it so much #I love a fucked up bisexual freak

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I call my partner "babygirl" a lot but I started to say that to a friend and realized as I was speaking I didn't want to call him a girl so tried to switch to "baby boy" but what came out was "baby goy," which is technically accurate.

#baby goy #lmao gonna start calling everyone that #jewish

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What's JRWI?

No YOU can't cure Autism. I've personally sucked the autism out of hundreds of people and absorbed it all into myself. I've become more powerful than you could possibly imagine.

#JRWI #some kind of podcast I guess #autism #feels like you're being very rude to whatever JRWI is in the tags #but it could also be a compliment #unclear

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#muppets #the muppets #very relevant