#your pain is valid

[thepeacefulgarden]

#apologies #boundaries #you are not too much #you are not a burden #your feelings are valid #your pain is valid #your trauma is valid #you matter #you are enough #self respect #you are worthy

[tenaciousmoneymuffinzine]

I went through my old photo album and found a bunch of pictures from over a year and a half ago when I was dating my ex (the one who cheated on me). I pulled them all out of the album and.......yeah

Anyway, this is a part of what healing can look like:

#healing #breakups #mental therapy #trust issues #trauma #your pain is valid #cheating #the best part of this is that it hasn't even out of impulsive anger or hatred #it was my way of letting go #i pulled them out of the book and wondered what to do with them #because it seemed weird to me to throw away these perfect and glossy photographs no matter who was in them #and i have an issue with attaching myself to random things and being unable to throw them away #to be able to look at these pictures and not only throw them away #but to cut them up #to DESTROY them #turn them to shreds #it was healing #for someone who struggles to let go #to be able to just destroy that evidence of that relationship and that hurt #it was powerful #and so healing #i removed those from my life #empowering #healing is hard #it's long #and you don't control how long it takes #but you can control how you heal #everyone deserves to heal and if you're struggling just keep going because you will get there #anxiety #depression

[isellnudies]

Remember loves:

You can always be thinner, look better.♥️✨

#pro ans #proannna #pro mi4 #thinsp1 #ed but not sheeran #you can always be thinner look better #thinspiration #we starvin #meanspo #ana trigger #ana probz #disordered eating thoughts #tw ana related #ed disorder #patrick bateman #sweetsp0 #remember #your pain is valid

[drawbecauseitsheard]

From my upcoming comic, Part 3: Salty.

“Kek. Maybe I have been salty. Thinking of what life might have been without you.” -Matilda

“But I love you! Your pain loves you and wants you to be safe!” -Sami :-)

“What? So [redacted] during a zoom call is meant to protect me?” - Matilda

#mentalhealth #project sleeve #reclaiming trauma #trauma recovery #reclaiming art #taste of me #hot face #ghostie #ptsd #haunted #salty #your pain is valid

[islyingtoyou]

of irony and fireflies

my mother is a carefully stapled discreet document with the word irony printed on its front page with font size 30 times new roman, black in bold.

i'm sitting next to her making an introduction page for my project and she tells me to add a border with flowers in it.

some days she witnesses the flowers in her home wilt in her hands; she tries to paint on them to bring them back to life.

i don't know how to tell her that colours do not always mean life; the red of my heart dies and becomes a darker shade everyday for someone who loves someone else and not me.

sometimes her words cut my limbs into half which feels like a slow death; sometimes she cuts a fruit for me and returns my limbs back.

she prays to her god to keep the ghosts of the past away from this shelter we live in, which is made out of the tears and sweat of a mother who could not save her daughter from her fate; sometimes my mother goes to my bedroom and plays with the ghost of the girl she wanted me to be.

she has my father's fake promises pressed into dried leaves for eyelashes and a black ball of disappointment in me for her iris.

the kitchen smells like regret for every decision made in this home; she wakes up every morning and makes food that smells like satisfaction.

in the night time, the kitchen is glinting with the fireflies that escaped from the bottle gourd she cut this morning.

it's 2:28 a.m. in the morning and i see my mother brooming the grey dust off the bedroom floor that is now choking the windows of this home.

i ask her what is it; she tells me, they're your remains.

the next morning she sits beside me & asks me what am i writing; i tell her, it's her remains.

#mother #mothers #in love #dried flowers #dark academia style #desi academia #desi writers #thoughts of a writer #writing #writers on tumblr #desi poetry #original poetry #depressing post #im crying #if only you knew what goes on in my mind #your trauma is valid #your pain is valid #you were supposed to love me #i miss u #heartbreak #sad notes #fireflies #killme #love quotes #advice #old poems #family poem

[mental-illness-bingo]

If anyone out there has been waiting for a sign to tell a trusted adult something bad happened/is happening to you, this is it. Here is the sign.

If you thought "it's not that bad", "I'm making a big deal out of nothing", "it's not worth upsetting them", etc. I want you to know I'm talking to you too. It is bad enough, whatever it is.

Talking to a trusted adult does not have to mean everyone in the world finds out, if it does turn out to be not as bad as you thought. If it's upsetting you or making you uncomfortable, it's important and worth talking to them about.

Part of trusted adults' jobs in your life, whether they are family, chosen family/friends's parents, social workers, school counselors, teachers, principals, doctors, coaches, etc., is to listen to this type of thing - whatever type of thing it is - and help you work through your feelings with it no matter how big or small it is. Another part of their job is to decide if it's important enough to talk to others about.

But none of that is your job. Your job is just to talk to someone you trust, tell them the details of what happened, and help them help you.

They may have seen signs but doubted themselves, or they may not have realized anything is wrong yet, which would be why they haven't asked you about it. Just because they haven't doesn't mean they don't want to know.

Sometimes because you're going through it, it feels like the whole world should be able to tell, but the truth is even if you are showing signs, most of the time adults won't want to overreact and push you away/freak you out if nothing is wrong.

None of that means they don't want to know - often it means the exact opposite; that they are trying to make sure you feel comfortable talking to them and know that they won't push/force you.

Trust me, if you have adults in your life you can count on, and you don't tell them, one day you will find yourself regretting it.

If you're anything like me, you'll realize that some things you thought you were "being dramatic" by even feeling upset about were actually worth talking to police about.

If you're anything like me, you'll realize the adults you were protecting would give anything to go back and time and protect you.

Even if it turns out to be a "normal thing" that happens to everyone, you deserve to have your problems talked about and understood.

If you don't have anyone safe to talk to, I'm sorry. I wish you all the best, and I hope soon a safe adult enters your life who you can tell.

Most importantly, I want you all to know that I believe you. Your hurt/anger/pretty much any emotion you feel about this is valid.

Please, if you have the choice, don't deal with this all by yourself or with other minors who can't help you as much as they'd like to/don't know what to do.

If there is someone you trust, talk to them. If this post resonates, it's for you.

#no blame to anyone who doesn't though #no matter how you handle this #it is not your fault #even if you stay quiet #even if you don't want people to know #your pain is valid #tw #tw csa #tw self harm #tw sa #tw assault #tw domestic violence #tw abuse #tw eating issues #tw ed #tw sui #tell someone #trusted adult #your sign #sign #be safe #good luck #mibingo

[golbenflubber]

These holidays

When the expectation of joy

Outweighs the reality of life

We all will cover our scars

Convert our exhaustion to extreme motivation

Smile through the tears

As those you love

Take everything you are

Describe your failure

And call it love

#poetry #poetic #poets on tumblr #christmas #struggle #your smile #your pain is valid

[nervousloveheart]

Something I wrote for the story I'm writing { am I torturing these characters? yes, yes I am. Do I like torturing them? no, no I do not. will I carry on doing it because I have have been tortured in my life and I want others to feel the same way even if they're not real? yes, yes I will}

Listen, I'm not trying to say I completely understand you, that is impossible as I am not you.

But I will say this, the pain you feel--I've felt similar to that many times my life.

I'm not going to try and rush you through whatever you're feeling, others tried doing that to me in my darkest hour and it only worsened the situation.

I'm not going to try and tell you to get better, because if you're going to get better, you have to decide that that's what you really want. I can't make that decision. I'm not going to force you to find a reason to keep on fighting, that is something you have to do on your own.

I cannot say that things will get better, because I just don't know if they will. I won't give you false hope, you've probably already received that and was disappointed by the outcome.

But please, just hold on a little longer. Just for today. I know it'll be hard... but I just don't want to be in a world without you in it.

#hold on #please #I don't want to live in a world without you in it #your pain is valid #pain #I don't know if it'll get better #just for today #I am an author #novelist #writing life #fiction #creative writing #write #author

[shiraishi--kanade]

"It's so embarrassing to admit I only create art for validation" did paleolithic humans not paint for other humans to see. Does a child making their first drawing to show their parents makes it any less valuable. Do gardens arranged for the visitors' eyes make the roses any less beautiful. Do love poems written for one person alone to hear make your heart ache less. You're fine

#jay rambles.txt #two very hard pills to swallow: 1. art has always been created for money and it's a very normal practice in human history #and actually artists being expected to produce art for free or as cheap as they do now is a relatively new thing #2. humans have always created art for validation because being recognised and understood by your fellow humans is a universal human need #if you start to idealise artistry as something inherently selfless that needs to come with no gain or benefits or instead brings only pain #you are going down a VERY dangerous path of not being able to express yourself without shame - if at all #and potentially dragging other people you told close down into that mentality too if you're vocal about it #I've been there #I am there #It's a shitty feeling but the only way out of it is true embrace your need to be loved and desire for human connection or it won't end well #idk that's my opinion tho

[podcastenthusiast]

Sure it's all fun and games Tav telling Astarion to "say please" and calling him a good boy before having sex, but he'd have a mini panic attack if Tav explained safewords and like actually gave a shit about his wellbeing in bed.

#rotating astarion thoughts around in my head like a salad spinner #i don't think he's ace exactly although trauma is a valid reason to be but i do think his feelings about sex vary a lot #and sometimes he might not be comfortable with it even in the best circumstances. sometimes it's gonna be too much #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #astarion #lots of good smut but ngl i want more fics just processing this stuff. how to heal your trauma when all you know is pain and manipulation #maybe that means not having sex but also that's how his worth has been defined for so long so what then? uuugh #astarion romance

[thepeacefulgarden]

#get curious #mindfulness #acceptance #feel your feelings #trusting yourself #your feelings are valid #your pain is valid #your trauma is valid #feelings #emotions #self compassion #self care #healing #recovery #trauma #grief #it's okay to not be okay #cry it out

[thedisablednaturalist]

It's so fucked up that every time you mention even being just "chronically ill" either IRL or online, people come from out of fucking nowhere on their high horse to lecture you, without even knowing what illness you have!

#wrenfea.exe #chronic disability #chronic pain #chronic illness #and idgaf if the person actually became chronically ill due to poor eating and lack of exercise! thats not your fucking business! #they still deserve to be have their struggles validated and respected just like anyone else! #if you aren't our trusted chosen doctor you can shut the fuck up! #spoonie #disability #cpunk #cripplepunk

[iamnotafishokay]

if one more person tells me to stretch or go on a walk as if its some amazing cure for pain i will scream

like bro its not a cramp im disabled

#ehlers danlos syndrome #postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome #pots #scoliosis #chronic pain #this goes out to all the “lazy” people #yall are so valid #dont listen to random able-bodied people about your disability #theyre dumb

[weedle-testaburger]

i will always maintain the worst phase of this site is when ‘’‘ace discourse’’‘ was a thing. even before i realised i was queer when i heard about asexuality i was like ‘ok that makes sense as a valid queer thing like gay or trans’, and yet some people got so pathetically angry about it, refusing to acknowledge aspec people are lgbtq despite the prejudice they face (up to and including sexual violence), trying to accuse aspecs of being paedophiles for saying it’s ok for teens to not want sex (which is a take i will always find insane), accusing them of just being prudes and turning ‘aphobe’ into a joke insult. fuck all those losers who did that so hard

#personal crap #lgbtq #aspec #asexuality #tw aphobia #anyway aspec people are valid af and ilysm #also considering i've had a fair bit of 'iT's JuSt ThE sAmE aS bI' shit from people as a pan person i feel your pain

[islyingtoyou]

crazy how almost always, the person who hurt us is the one who we explained our pain to.

#your pain is valid #hurt/comfort #breakup #friendship #painful #life is strange true colors #its true #love quotes

[hyakunana]

Surfing the vibes of my most recent work to participate in my first @D2ArtEvents Solar Embrace Vol3 zine!! Because they still deserve some good time of quality

#destiny #destiny 2 #destiny the game #destiny art #bungie #ana bray #anastasia bray #elisabeth bray #elsie bray #exo stranger #banshee 44 #fanart #solar embrace #GUESS WHO FORGOT TO SCHEDULE MY ART TO POST HERE TOO? YOURS TRULY #did this art in about 24 hours im still a lil stressed but happy and relieved i managed to do it in time #the only valid members of the bray family having some vacation from pain and suffering #hoping this art redeems me from that one dark future angst art i did last year kjxcvbcxvn #ana and elsie deserve the world - i say as i still have df as my fav lore book