#I’m just venting y’all

[whatohitsonfirewelp]

At some point I just stopped caring. I stopped cari g about being the Helpful One, the Responsible and Polite One. Like what’s the fucking point?

Because when I did I only saw life get worse. Why should I still have to smile and play nice and do what isn’t even asked?

#baby me did SO much just to PLEASE everyone and it took a toll #but life went shity and KEPT going downhill #so excuse me if I ain’t exactly first in line anymore of being Ms helpful and golden child #because that’s who I was for years and all it did was fuck me up and show me none of them care #nah they only cared once it meant I stopped and was apparently spoiled #which sure y’all can Think that #but Christ I was a kid not even in middle school when my life was torn apart and upside down like three times already #so yeah what’s the point of trying when it’s all bullshit #like for MY life I will when it comes to shit like a career and school #because I KNOW I can take care of me but I know THEY can’t #why give my all and burn myself out for the peopl who did jack shit for me in the ends #because that’s certainly what it feels like #whatoh back at it again #I’m just venting y’all #I’m tired and annoyed at my family because they just Don’t Get It #I’m not the same child I was years ago and I never will be and I don’t Want to be #but they did shape me into who I am and who I am isn’t all soft and sweet

[chrollohearttags]

y’all won’t be satisfied until you run every black writer off this app and I’m so serious. Yes, I’m being rude to anybody that takes time out of their day to post some dumb ass remarks (a recycled one at that) and uses it to disrespect black writers of any capacity. Sitting up screaming about wanting more representation and the black reader fics being nonexistent but y’all get mad about everything. Yes, I’m cussing y’all out everytime I see it and I’m blocking idc. Free, FREE content that people took time to create, y’all are being nasty about it. We don’t owe y’all grace or kindness. Especially when we can see the hypocrisy. Go to hell with gas undies on and leave us alone. And please write whatever y’all want and fuck these people. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk

#rant #vent and rant #cw discourse #I see fifty toxic baby daddy fics with toji’s dirty ass and nobody moves #but damn #a character who’s balls y’all were just sucking two weeks ago can’t smoke a blunt #I don’t even write these so called ‘toxic’ hcs but I’m all for black women having representation in whatever way makes them comfortable #get over yourselves #like who do you hoes think y’all are #nobody has to write to appease a bitch who can’t even spell her own name #the way my lil hiatus is about to turn into me archiving this shit and leaving #cherry chats 🍒 #my blog is not a safe space for you fucking losers #and if you don’t like it #unfollow me #I love eren and the AOT characters over here and I’m not gonn stop writing for them bc you bitches got a new character to gush over

[cpressmn]

i’m about to start gatekeeping interacting with fic authors from a lot of y’all. u need to learn how to behave

“i need more” “pls continue this” “when are you posting the next bit” why don’t you try showing some proper appreciation for what’s already written before you go demanding more!!!

​a lot of time and energy goes into each piece of writing and it is incredibly disappointing for the primary feedback to be “give me more!” if you’re trying to motivate authors to continue, this kind of response has the opposite effect.

you know what is motivating? specific praise.

let me break it down for you.

How To Leave A Comment Without (Unintentionally) Sounding Like A Pri- [GUNSHOT]

point out a few specific things you liked about the fic and why. how it made you feel.

highlight a line or two or three that stuck out to you.

if it’s an incomplete work, express excitement at seeing where they’re going — without a demand for more.

it’s quite simple, and it doesn’t even have to be a long thing. this can be done in a hundred words or less.

and yeah, it takes effort. takes a bit of time. but fandom is about mutual support. it’s about community.

fic authors are not celebrities who don’t even see your attempts to get their attention. there is a real person on the other side of that screen living a real life, and if you want to encourage them in their craft and properly motivate them to write, try treating them like a fucking human being.

authors put in hours to create content (that only ends up not being truly appreciated). i think you can spare a few minutes to leave a detailed, thoughtful comment in turn.

idk just a semi-friendly reminder that authors don’t owe you shit actually

#the entitlement is truly staggering sometimes #with all the respect that is due….what makes you think you get to ask for more content? what have you done to deserve it? to welcome it? #also if you’ve studied any kind of human behavior ever then you know that positive reinforcement does HEAPS better than whatever tf these #demands could be classified as. #shine talks #shine vents actually. WHEW #just a little bit worked up!! very upsetting to see talented people put in so much and receive so little in return. #this is my formal request for y’all to start doing better #.txt #fanfics #fanfic comments #and for anyone saying i’m being too harsh: i said unintentionally :/ #if this is you then congrats! this is a safe space to fail at it. now’s when you learn and change your behavior. that’s all

[candyheartedchy]

Feeling disconnected again…

#im trying not to isolate myself but I been finding myself pulling away from folks again #maybe I’m just tired but idk #like I been feeling fine and drawing helps as an outlet #but when I go a day without drawing I end up feeling terrible #and I been noticing I haven’t been engaging a lot lately either which I’m mad about #like I’ll scroll a bit maybe post art and asks and then disappear #but also I been feeling like I’m gonna embarrass myself around people again #so if y’all have noticed me interacting less in servers or not as talkative in dms that’s why #vent #I guess??? #I mean it’s more of just me noticing this lately and wanted to let y’all know that I just been feeling off lately #ventish #💬 chy chatter 💬

[zootopiathingz]

First pic with my dog Bella (seven years ago) vs the last (today)

Had to say goodbye to my sweet angel earlier. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. She got me through some really rough times and I’ll always be grateful that I had her in my life❤️

#idk how to tag this really I don’t want anyone reblogging or anything #just wanted to show off how beautifully she aged and how much I adored her #I miss her so much already #saying goodbye was the hardest thing I ever had to do #but I’m glad I did cuz I didn’t get to with my last dog #I wanted to be the last thing she saw and I was. and that’s all that matters #I’m glad I gave her a last good Christmas too #anyway y’all can ignore this I’m just venting #might delete later too idk

[moodymisty]

I very very rarely get upset on this blog, but this email pissed me the FUCK off. I’ve gotten quite a few messages with this tone before, but this one really set me off. It's been a shit week for me, and I didn't need this.

I spend hours a week trying to write shit for free for all of you, because I genuinely enjoy it and love it so so so much. Your ideas and comments make me so happy. But sometimes I need to take a fucking break.

Three days ago one of my birds suddenly went from alive and happy to seizing and dying in my arms while I comforted her the best I could, so I'm taking a few days off. Sorry if that's inconvenient for you.

Jesus Christ. And you guys fucking wonder why so many other writers are so fed up with the 'content' grindstone and just quit or hide in private discords. You don’t update something for a bit and you get people knocking at your door like you're fucking Wal-mart. If you can’t be bothered to add a few more words to your comment, why should I be bothered to write more.

Put some basic fucking human effort into communicating with the people who spend hours creating your self indulgence pieces out of kindness and a love of the community. How about instead of saying "MAKE THIS" you say hello and put some effort into your ask. You're asking someone to spend hours of their life writing something for you, not ordering chicken nuggets.

And if the person who sent this comment sees this? I'm sorry I'm this angry and you're the unfortunate target of it, but maybe next time you notice something hasn't been updated in a few months you remember that there's a human being with a life behind it before sending a one word demand for more. Shit happens. I highly doubt you can't find something else to read.

#I’d say delete later but I’m leaving it up so y’all see how so many interactions between writers and readers are now #theres so many good and fun readers but I get asks/comments like this at least a few times a week and I’m a small very niche writer #I delete any snooty/demanding asks or hate but this one pissed me the fuck off for some reason #I just feel like a hello or please isn’t too much to ask for #vent #not writing

[cheesy-sunny-days]

woah guys, that last post was a lot

TOO BAD DEPRESSION HAS NO MATCH FOR KINITOPET!!!!!!!

(mostly isolated doodles)

#art #help #fanart #cheesesticksart #kinitopet #kinitopet fanart #samnito #sam x kinito #jade the jellyfish #pre out of reach au #you’ll get digital art soon I PROMISE #but yeah i’m still not feeling so good but ig i’m a bit better now #i just needed to vent #anyways hope y’all are having a good day #<3

[lifblogs]

Wow, I’m reading reviews for a book I’m trying to read, and I’m appalled that so many people have a problem with a male author writing a sapphic main character. Damn, get your fucking head out of the sand.

They don’t even complain of him messing up representation there. They just hate it for some reason!

Sorry, but that’s just not it. A man can write a sapphic main character. There is no inherent problem with that. He’s just writing a character he finds fun and fascinating!

#y’all would hate my dad for this then #when really his sister was a lesbian #and he supported her through hell and high water #so of course he’d want to share that representation with the world #and people don’t even need a story like that to write whoever they want #i’m sorry am i going to hell for writing a chinese character #despite my minor in asian studies and hours of research? #thinking of rebecca kuang mentioning #this same idea that you can just write that representation #just do it #my god people #vent #salt #also one of my guy friends has a lesbian main character in one trilogy #what is wrong with that #nothing

[skyloftian-nutcase]

If the seasonal depression could stop making me just ✨exist✨ outside of work, that would be great. 👍🏻

#random rambles #I have a bird to take care of dammit #And I’m just existing on the couch or sleeping instead #It’s a good thing I don’t have kids good grief #It’s fine Nev and I will play Zelda together and I’ll just let him stay up late with me #I despise short days with every fiber of my being #My life is just work-exist-work-UGH #I know everyone’s going through this so I’ll shut up now but just needed to vent for a second #Gonna get my stupid butt up and moving now 👍🏻 #If y’all see me on tumblr YELL AT ME

[melrosing]

anyway in an absolutely wild turn of events I think I’m free of my hideous job and like. substantially richer for it??? lmao 2023 you really owed me

#ok so this a lot of personal shit but I’m just gonna incredulously vent into the tags #like I don’t even know how to describe what 2023 in this job has been like lol #since April they’ve been insulting and scrutinising and scapegoating me over absolutely everything #they were really angling for just firing me outright for never measuring up to their constantly shifting and increasingly bizarre goalposts #and it got so personal man they kept insisting that it wasn’t but my god #then my dad gets sick and it suddenly becomes awkward for them to keep insulting and overworking me #so they switch to just ignoring me entirely so they don’t have to reckon w what me and my family are going through #like they never ask how he is or how things are going just every Friday they say hey do you reckon you can take more work on again? #and THEN I get a gut infection and suddenly im being guilt tripped for taking sick leave and pestered for evidence #it was giving like ‘we had to give you time off for your dad but now you’re taking the piss’ #to the point I DID reach out to a third party at the company and was like ‘I’m sorry but why the fuck are they treating me like this’ #and she was like ‘confidentially this is disgusting and I advise you to report it’ #WHEN SUDDENLY I get back from sick leave and it’s like ‘the business is falling short so we have to make some redundancies….’ #and now they’ve had to pay me a SUBSTANTIAL sum to fuck off!!! I think I win??? #like I was so close to quitting but thank god I didn’t because now I’m getting a sweet deal to fuck off with no notice lmao #i leave end of the month #at first I was shocked like y’all really doing this now??? but suddenly I’m like. this is the best possible thing that could’ve happened #I spoke to that third party again and she was like ‘I am so happy for you’ like omfg it was a curveball but we’ll take it!!! #I’m fucking outta here and in due course I WILL be writing on glassdoor how fucked they are

[aheathen-conceivably]

Pretty sure I went too hard on the mini arc and gave myself burnout before the real story even begins y’all…

So much for uh, super chill gameplay time, huh?

#someone help me find some chill for real 😅 #I can’t be doing this with the actual story posts and get any done #for real I turn into more and more of a perfectionist with each post #tomorrow’s post took me almost three nights of game time just to shoot #my disappointed sigh is for me and only for me 😂 #shoulda known we couldn’t have had chill gameplay time for the pixels OR their watcher #alas #‘tis who I am #gif warning #just a heathen rambling warning #and have no fear this doesn’t mean I’m not getting back to the story #just wanted to vent with y’all thaaaaanks 😙

[star-is-a-cat]

Being burnt out as a therian is like. If I was physically my theriotype I wouldn’t have to deal with this shit. And that thought doesn’t make anything better at all. But you can’t stop thinking it.

#star vents #vent #therian #alterhuman #catkin #dw y’all I’m all good just busy and tired

[bones-of-a-rabbit]

Did you know you can block people. It's free!

Me: makes a post about how a Broad And General Topic/Idea in the DCA community makes me uncomfortable

This person, for some god damn reason: Just Block People! :) Block 60% of the fandom! Block some of your otherwise favorite artists! Just block a bunch of your mutuals/people you like the art of instead of hoping maybe one day they can maybe properly tag their art with a small warning or other notifying tag when a character is being a creep/acting like a sexual predator :))

Do you regularly entirely miss the entire point of a post venting a frustration about their trauma based dislike of a topic being so common in a community they otherwise enjoy or is this just for me specifically

#vent #rant #trauma vent #asks #anonymous asks #frustrated #tired #I just woke up man cmon #can y’all pls stop taking vents/rants about broad vague topics so personally and/or treating it like a personal attack #bc it Ain’t About You Fam #long tired sigh #I’ll delete this later #and I’ll regret this later #or I already do #idk I’m tired and emotionally wrung out #anyway jf you hate seeing me be bothered by things that trigger me pls block or smthn idk #I try to tag my vents at least #idk man I’m just tired and idk how to make u guys happy

[candyheartedchy]

I’m not gonna lie, as much as I want to interact with fandom blogs and join in on the discussions on my favorite shows and characters, the fact that I might make some of them uncomfortable due to being a self shipper make me anxious and sad.

#i know there’s some that follow me and I’m honored and greatful ❤️ #but honestly when some of y’all first followed me I was scared lol #i know other self shippers probably feel the same way too because we’re TERRIFIED of having fandoms know about our ships and stuff #and it’s a struggle #that’s why I rarely reblog other’s fanart because of this #it’s just you’re watching the fans have fun but your on the sideline too scared to make the first move #i just wish I was move braver to reach out more and interact with folks #but that fear of people knowing about you and your work and judging is real #vent i guess #💬 chy chatter 💬

[carefulfears]

Demons Scully is my fav type of Scully because she’s so worried for her partner she parks her car horribly, yells in the guy’s face because Mulder is hurt and she doesn’t know where he is, and is also very mother hen, that’s my sister !!!! 🤌🤌

thinking about the dichotomy in demons of a scully that is like…so beaten down and fucking exhausted from the disease that is very quickly killing her entire body that she just doesn’t have it in her to call mulder out for essentially trying to kill himself and getting arrested for double homicide. but also being such a fierce bottle of protective rage that she literally grabs a man and throws him against a police car screaming.

like that’s what’s most affective to me about the episode…it’s the only time where she plays such a passive role with mulder, and kind of just lets him off the hook, but also kind of the only time that she reacts so (physically) explosively to those threatening them, especially during this arc.

i wrote demons fic once and i said:

it’s barely a surprise when he leaves through a window; she has always been watching him from a distance. what shocks is the way she grabs the doctor, the way she hears herself scream. she didn’t know she had force left in her, until she felt herself throw a man against a seat.

but that’s truly how i think of it, like…it’s a certain spark that’s missing amidst the crying alone in cars and defeated hospital trips of this storyline, but it isn’t scully’s usual righteous anger either. it’s desperate, and it’s all she’s got. she just needs this fucking awful doctor to tell her where mulder is, and she needs to get there.

she won’t let mulder drive, but she can’t park the car correctly. she can’t figure out what’s going on, but she won’t make him go to a hospital.

in the next episode, she tells him that proving the existence of extraterrestrials is not her dying wish. it is not what she wants to spend her last days doing. how many of those final days did she spend in rhode island, trying to get charges thrown out and exorcise wounds?

what can she do, except sink to the floor next to him and hold him? she’s dying and he’s going to be alone again and abandoned again and he’s going to do things like this when she’s not there to grab him, and that will be that. he can’t find out anything about samantha. all he has left is his mother, and scully heard that slap.

she’s leaving him and what is there to do except pull him close, and write about how she’s afraid?

#sorry that i’m always taking y’all’s lovely commentary and messages and rambling about my convoluted bullshit #i just use my asks as an excuse to vent what i’m thinking about and this is GENUINELY WHAT IM THINKING ABOUT #love you mean it #asks #demons

[giggleesblog]

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#one of the biggest things i worry about is people memorizing my pronouns but still seeing me as a girl/feminine 🙃 #pls i know i don’t pass well but pls pls don’t see me as a girl 😭 #i’m just a silly little guy #in a nonbinary way #but also please call me masculine pet names and call me pretty boy #baby boy #etc #ignore this i should be sleeping and my brain is being mean #tldr: not a girl ❤️ #also not quite Full boy #a secret third thing #it’s called transmasculine ✨ #but fr if y’all are ever confused you can either ask or check my pronoun page in my linked post #vent post #gender dysphoria #kinda #anyways #shut up spencer