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lethbians · 4 years

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can you explain what's going on right now? i keep seeing big IT blogs talking about some discourse or something but i have no idea what they're talking about other than it involves you lol

alright i like. i truly do not like having diScOurSE out in public because i’m not one to air out my dirty laundry 24/7 but seeing as how it was brought into public against my will i feel like the least i can do is clear up the situation for those who’ve been seeing the posts.

i’m putting this under the cut bc it’s long. tws for some biphobia, brief mention of transphobia and, at the end, a rape mention.

so if you don’t know: hi, i’m migz, i’m an it fandom blogger. its okay, i know, its really cool. part of my shtick here is that i like to turn normal thirst tags into works of art for the sake of comedy. perhaps you’ve seen some of my highlights from my “fhg” tag - perhaps your brain has been spared. either way, it became kind of “my thing” around the third or fourth week (mid nov) of me having this blog. at first, i tagged just about every ask i got mentioning the thirst tags with “bill hader” - they had to do with him, so why not tag him? it would draw more like minded people! about two days into that i got a message asking me to tag my nsfw. i am a big dumb idiot, and apologize for not initially doing it. i havent had a following bigger than like 10 in several years and completely spaced on basic etiquette. so by the end of november i was tagging everything applicable with “notsfw” and “bill hader”.

now you’re caught up.

on december 1st i got this message from user billhaderanti:

now i want to start by saying i absolutely was in the wrong here. i didn’t even think about how many people were being subjected to the asks i was getting - especially ones who had no idea they were all jokes. i don’t track the bill hader tag, so it just didn’t even occur to me - that’s ignorance on my part, and to anyone who was subjected to the terrors of me before my tagging system: i am genuinely sorry. i relay the same sentiment in my response, though you can tell i’m on edge.

and they replied:

clearly they Were offended by it but thats.. not the point. at this point, im feeling Really weird about the whole interaction, but still understanding, because again - i GET it. i know my posts are gross - that’s the point. it doesn’t make it excusable, though, which is why i understand why people are offended. so i responded with the only solution i Knew would keep us both safe and happy posting on our own blogs.

so i thought this would be the end of things! i’d been pretty anxious lately already since i’d started to receive anons telling me i was gross and whore-ish for thirst posting in this way (i delete all of those, so if ur thinking about sending one, i guess no one’s stopping you but it won’t be seeing the light of the dashboard). i’m unsure if it was immediately or a few hours later, seeing as how i have a bad concept of time and the post-dates are right on the edge between nov 30 and dec 1, but i went to their blog - because anyone who has been on the internet knows the opportunity to vague post is near irresistible. and...what do ya know

fair! it’s their blog. however i am an emotionally fragile egg girl and immediately got freaked out. the odds that they were the only one who thought this were low. and, again, i’ve been very open on my blog about how important it is to respect boundaries; my posts are absolutely prone to breaking those boundaries people have created for themselves.

so i made my own, semi-vague post, letting my following know (and i’m pretty sure i’d answered asks about it before, but this is going to be long enough w/o me searching those up too) that i understood if they wanted to block me or unfollow or whatever - people need to create their own safe spaces. the tension is pretty clear in the tags, i’m not trying to hide that. i felt that the way this woman slid into my dm’s was pretty abrasive (just my opinion/how it made me personally feel) and i let myself be a lil emotional about it in the tags of my post.

alright! maybe this is the end. maybe we both go our separate ways and post happily on our own blogs... except it’s not the end. later in the day (some of this was happening like 1/2am, so now its Day day, i believe - again, not good w time passage lol)

clearly, i’m upset. my groupchat double checked that i didn’t get too emotional in my response - did i mention im anxious about discourse lol - and apparently.. it did the trick. she didn’t message me again. great. it was over.

at this point, i decided i needed to make an even bigger change. so a few days after i’d calmed down i created an entirely new tag for my thirst posts so if people hadn’t already hidden the notsfw posts or just blocked me outright, they’d have a third option to escape the madness. at this point, id had my blog about 6? weeks, but there were still 2k posts for me to sift through - some of them were completely untagged. i also had to do it post by post, because one of xkits features - the mass re-tagger - was getting blogs deleted for some reason, and i wasn’t going to do that. so i spent a few days going through all 2k+ posts, adding the “fhg” tag.

YEEHAW! a brand new tagging system, no more hopping into the bill hader tag (minus one or two really funny, not super explicit asks, like the bill hader farquaad meme), and, tbf, i’d completely put this woman out of my mind. i don’t seek out drama and do my best to stay in my lane. yesterday, i checked my activity for the first time in awhile since id put out a couple new original posts that had started to get traction and i Love reading tags. i noticed a mutual had @’d me, and realized i havent checked my @’s in...ever, maybe. i see a post from my good pal billhaderanti.

since i dont follow them and never check my @’s, i’d completely missed it. however, once i did see it, i was horrified. id gone through all that fucking work to keep my blog My Blog and also respect everyone’s boundaries and it still hadn’t been enough. i’d been awake for almost 24 hours and went. a little crazy. and i didn’t reply immediately because i just had no words. i sent it to my friends because i... i just wasn’t going to be able to figure it out myself.

there’s a lot to unpack in this post alone, but whatever, i’m gonna put my own grievances with the immaturity of 1. making a callout post to begin with when i’d been nothing but civil 2. making a callout post about something as (in the grand scheme of Life) minor as some tags where i refer to a someone’s genitals as a “whack pack” and 3. making a callout post in such a rude way - aside. at the end, she calls me (and whoever else!) a demonic mlw (man loving woman, we assumed, and then later confirmed with a post further back on her blog).

which - yeah, we started scrolling. at first we were looking for more vague blogs, and then we just...started finding things. billhaderanti is a self proclaimed lesbian separatist, which... fine. but it’s already pretty clear that this woman hates me on some level simply because i am a bi woman (demonic mlw, remember!) which is just. damn man i can’t believe we are still fighting the biphobic fight lol. so the more we scrolled, the more we uncovered - and not just the biphobic / vaguely mtf transphobic things they posted (or put in tags), but we also found that they had their OWN thirst tags. certainly not as hyperbolically comedic as mine, but they were there, talking about his body and his person the same (and, frankly, a bit creepier for other reasons) as mine.

there’s one post in particular that snatched my wig in it’s creepiness - and i say creepiness in the sense that it feels personal. like this woman feels like she knows bill to some degree where she can say these things. my tags have always had a sense of distance, as they’re written for humor. and maybe this particular post was written for comedic purposes, but it doesn’t read that way, and if it WAS, then she has no right to call ME out for MY comic tags and posts.

i’ll let it speak for itself, mostly because i don’t want to read it again.

i also won’t be going through her blog again to find the posts with biphobic and other Interesting:tm: tags because there are plenty and i just really! want to be done with the whole ordeal! her blog is public and i’m sure you can all find it and look to your heart’s content.

feeling a bit feral and a bit pissed off now that we knew the depth of how rotten this woman’s vibes were, a couple of my pals made a post or two similar to what my tag’s are like except turned up to eleven (if possible) - and tagged them with “bill hader” (and notsfw!!). yes, a bit childish, but at this point, the entire situation was childish, and making jokes was truly the only way we were going to get through it. another vague post went up on her blog soon after.

talking down to us, calling us children, and then for whatever reason calling us virgins... whatever, weird post. around this time most of us (est) went to bed, because it was nearing 3 or 4 in the morning.

and then today happened. i woke up fresh and ready for the day after a wonderful 4 hours of sleep and found that jane had made an incredibly intelligent post in response to the situation. i won’t ss it, but i’ll LINK in case you missed it. attached there in the reblog is my own response. i think they can speak for themselves.

after that, things were kind of jumbled, since i wasn’t online a lot and when i was i was Not checking my activity simply because i was afraid of what i’d see. for the most part, it ended up just being support (which i am very grateful to all of you for - it means a lot that you all enjoy my content to any degree).

there was some more vague posting from both “““““sides”””””” of the “““““argument”””””” - mostly just people restating the fact that this is a public space and we should All be aware of how we effect others. i still hadn’t heard directly from billhaderanti, so i assumed we’d all be dropping and disengaging and moving on. i still wasn’t blocked, though, so who really knew what would happen.

eventually, it culminated in this last post. tw for mentions of rape

i’m going to start by saying that

1. there are nearly no teenagers that were involved in this. im turning 23 in january and most of my friends are 20+. maybe one or two are 19.

2. none of us sent any sexually violent asks - most of us didn’t send asks at all. i believe one or two of my friends admitted to sending asks however they assured me their nature wasn’t bad; as far as i know, everyone remained civil in whatever went on (again, unclear to me as to what was being sent; no one was actively posting or talking about it. if billhaderanti wishes to elaborate, they can, but i don’t have anything to put in).

3. before i finish this, i would like to apologize to billhaderanti. as a comedian - not just my stupid tags, i mean in real life, too - i know that humor can hurt. it’s not always funny, it’s not just stupid hahas. sometimes things that are supposed to be jokes just hit people differently and cause bad things. i recognize that. i never meant to trigger you (if you’re reading this) or cause you any severe mental/emotional harm. i apologize for my humor bringing up your trauma, and i never meant for that. regardless of my own thoughts and opinions about the nature of my posts/the thirst tags themselves, they hurt you, and i’m sorry.

anyway, i’m going to wrap this up (i’m bad at endings, what can i say! steven king and i took the same writer’s class!). if you read all this... sorry. i probably won’t be taking any asks about it, because i find the whole “drama” of this to be stupid and rooted in some seriously biphobic issues this fully grown woman has.

tldr; i attempted to contain my blog so this woman could exist and function safely on her blog, but it wasn’t enough for her, so she called me out, and then some of the fandom called Her out for being biphobic and mean and overall just immature about the situation. as of now, she’s yet to block me, though her and her wife have blocked a few of my friends. her wife continues to clown on my friends. this post was made for clarity’s sake. the end, i’m getting a drink.

#discourse #biphobia tw #transphobia tw #rape tw #ok goodbye im done with this im back to #only posting gay clown movie #Anonymous

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groundramon · 7 years

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For the send a character... Pidge?

First impressionMy first experience with Pidge was seeing her on the front page of Wysp. I liked the art and the character looked cool, but I had no idea who she were (nor what her gender was because…well, that’s an entire plot point in the series lmfao) and I honestly just assumed she was an OC. But then I saw someone else draw her and I was like “wait a minute…who is this character and what are they from bc I wanna see it” (still didnt know their gender)

Impression nowPIDGE IS EVEN BETTER WITH CONTEXT I love pidge…a lot…precious pidgeon child. Giving a more formulated response, Pidge is in my opinion one of the two best characters from Voltron (tied with Shiro, with Allura somewhere nearby behind and Keith behind that) because she has an established motivation, backstory, and distinct flaws and good personality traits despite being a genius who isn’t a dick. She also has quite a few personality quirks, which can do wonders to make a character more relatable even if they arent a great character (which Pidge is, but you know what I mean). Lance and Hunk, ‘least in my opinion, dont have much in the way of motivations nor backstory. Keith was given the barebones of a backstory in season 2, but it should’ve been established in season 1 how much he knew about his home life if they wanted to play that card. Because right now, I dont know how much he knows/remembers. Am I supposed to assume he has some kind of amnesia? WHY WERENT THESE THINGS ESTABLISHED?? But this isn’t the place for my grips with 3/5ths of the voltron team lmao, so I’ll leave it at that. I have tons more I could say, but yeah- Pidge has the best of Lance and Hunk (can take a joke, can make a joke, has a likeable/relatable personality), the best of Shiro and Keith (one hell of a backstory, a lot of mystery and potential surrounding it, can call out Lance on his shit when need be), and the best of Allura and Coran (proper motivations, plus I’d say Allura’s a decently well-rounded character as well. Her personality just doesnt pop as much as the paladins’. Coran falls into the same role as Lance and Hunk, but he does have an excuse since he’s clearly a comic relief. But Sokka was also a comic relief so that’s not a very good excuse.)

Favorite momentThat one time in the season 1 episode where she was playing with a robot while all the other paladins were talking about something important. She seemed so happy, I love

Idea for a storyMmmmmmMMMM I’d love for Pidge’s relationships with the other paladins to be explored. I dont really know what Pidge thinks of Keith or Lance, and the most I can do is assume her opinions of Coran, Shiro, and Hunk. (Her opinions of Coran and Shiro are clear enough I suppose, but I’d love to see more development. Any development of Coran is greatly welcomed, and I love Shiro and Pidge’s brother-sister relationship ;-; but the most I’ve seen of Hunk and Pidge is hanging out without any establishment of how much they like each other. Since they’re both engineers, I can assume that they like one another, but whether they’re good friends or just kinda acquaintances is beyond me.) I dont really have any ideas for Pidge and Keith or Pidge and Lance, since I know nothing about their opinions of one another other than Pidge likes to yell at Lance for being a flirt. But I dont know, send them off on a mission together, make them bond damn it. A scene developed to establishing Pidge’s relationship with Coran and/or Hunk would be pretty easy, though; maybe the three of them are working on a machine together and they have a heart-to-heart? I dunno, something like that. I cant think of any ideas for Shiro and Pidge’s relationship being developed either, but it’d probably have something to do with her father and brother.

Unpopular opinion…Does my opinion on Lance/Hunk/Keith that I expressed earlier in this writing count? //shot// because everyone loves Pidge and I do too so I dont think I have any unpopular opinions about her lmao

Favorite relationshipPidge and Shiro!! Like I said, I love the brother-sister relationship that they have. Unless this meme is referring to romantic relationship, in which case nnnnnnnnoooooonnnnneeee Pidge is 14 and everyone else is over 16 (or…I’m assuming Allura is) so no thanks (I feel sick every time I see Pidge x Shiro shipart, god, why would you taint their relationship like that-)

Favorite headcanonHonestly playing into the last one slightly, I’d have to say ace/aro-pidge |D totally a biased choice, but whatever, isnt that what headcanons are for? But yeah, I’d be beyond happy if the series ended with Pidge not showing a lick of interest in romance. I’m really hesitant to call a character that hasn’t flat-out said “I’m not interested in getting married or dating” ace/aro, because a character can still be straight, gay, bi, or pan without it being shown in the show. Like 90% of my characters show no interest in romance because there’s just no room for it in my stories, but they aren’t all ace/aro (I have too many characters that I’ve decided are ace/aro or ace-spec as it stands haha, I dont need to assume more of them are just because I havent decided on a sexuality). But even if it’s just not explored with Pidge, I’d be beyond happy with that. But like, if they wanna explore romance with Pidge, that’s fine, who cares? It’s just a headcanon, and you can still have a headcanon that conflicts with canon so long as you dont force it onto people (and dont force the canon onto people too). Just…please dont make her date any of the current Voltron team? Please?

#stormy answers #voltron #thanks for the ask!!!

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