#and they shouldn't have to either btw

[whydooldpeopletalk]

Speaking as someone who's been outed many, many times, by both "allies" and homo/transphobes, some of yall are way too comfortable sharing other peoples' queer identities.

"But what if I'm trying to be funny?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm an ally?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is an ally?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm queer?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is queer?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if the person I'm talking about is a stranger?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if it's really obvious?" First of all, ew. Second of all, Doesn't matter.

"But what if they didn't come out to me, I just figured it out on my own?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if they're getting misgendered?" It's just as easy to say 'actually she's a girl' as it is to say 'actually she's transgender and uses she/her'. If that person is pretransition, it's also easy to just bite your tongue and not say anything.

Unless that person has explicitly given you permission to share that information, you DON'T. No matter how certain you are that everyone is accepting, no matter how noble your intentions, it's not your information to share. Getting clocked sucks, getting outed sucks, and they're both an invasion of privacy no matter who's doing it.

#I told this girl I haven't seen hazbin the other day and she said 'you're gay and autistic how have you NOT seen it?!' and um. #This was in front of other people btw #im not actually gay or autistic either #Anyway. there are some things people say on tumblr that they shouldn't in real life. #lgbtq #gay #lesbian #trans #transgender #queer #bi

[inkskinned]

what is considered "beautiful" by society is inevitably sexist, racist, ableist, classist, transphobic, and bigoted. it targets and attacks any perceived difference, and it particularly villainizes women of color while co-opting aesthetics; as if features and cultural norms can be worn as accessories.

and the scary thing! you can see all of these things, know them to be true logically, and also know that you are treated better if you are perceived as beautiful. if you have ever been treated as "ugly", you know exactly how much society reviles you if you don't manage to scamper along and perform to their rules.

and how are you supposed to balance that? do you want a nose job to fix your broken nose, or have you just recently been seeing videos about how many people look better after nose jobs. do you want to lose weight to feel good, or is it that when you lose weight people treat you better. do you want to wear this outfit, or is it just the thing that's least likely to get you harassed. do you want to get lip injections for your reasons or is your whole reason that you don't feel beautiful unless you get those lip injections?

and the definitions shift. the goals get more specific. in the way that you only become aware of your tongue when someone mentions it; parts of your body are introduced as problems. i had never heard the term "hip dip" until about a year ago - and it was in the context of how to get rid of this. i'm 30, i know this shit is invented, and yet! i still find that strange voice saying but do you think someone is going to notice?

how the fuck am i supposed to say "this is my genuine choice i am making for my body" when i also know that years of my life have been spent socializing me to accept this as my inevitable fate? how do i know i'm actually doing this out of love for my body - or am i doing it for how i want others to see me, which will be lovely enough to feel loved? how am i supposed to recover when my unhealthy habits are seen as self-discipline but if i relax i'm openly mocked for "letting time win"? how the fuck am i supposed to say "i'm doing it for me" when i'm also very aware that i'm doing it to stop myself from being teased or demeaned? is it my choice if the other option is being bullied?

we are living in a hostage negotiation - either consent to the demands or spend the rest of your life being treated like you're a despicable person.

#i also have things to say about how gender plays into this #but it became like 1450 pages #so i saved the rest in a draft #btw? hip dips used to be like valued in the 90s & 2000s during the ultra thin craze #which is so fucking wild to me bc i am old enough to REMEMBER that people WANTED them #bc they're literally the shape of your bones. they're your hipbones showing. & you literally CANNOT 'target' that area #that would be like targeting your elbow. it's a fucking JOINT. #it is a place where you either do or do not carry mass. the lower ur bodyfat percent and the higher ur thigh & glute strength #the less that you will carry weight there #which is even MORE fucking cruel bc !!! the type of people who are already trying to improve themselves helplessly #are going to be aware of their body! and ur literally GIVING them an insecurity they LITERALLY do not decide!!!! #“it rounds out ur figure” here's something my guy! maybe people shouldn't have to look uniform and sleek !!! #maybe you just want to fuck a manatee !!! #if we're really at the point that you have to apologize for LITERALLY HAVING BONES..... #like sorry my legs had to connect somewhere in my form :( i will hide that from u. my apologies ur honor #(fashion bloggers gagging bc there's evidence other people have skeletons)

[commsroom]

i think to really understand hera (and, by extension, her relationship with eiffel) you have to recognize that she values the same things he does. hera works harder than eiffel does because she has to, because more is riding on her doing her job, because the bare minimum she's allowed to get away with and not have everyone die horribly is... still kind of a lot of work, all of the time. and even then, she does the bare minimum when she can. she cuts corners she probably shouldn't. she hates drudge work. and she really hates being told what to do.

eiffel and hera are both prisoners on the hephaestus - and that they're the only two who really know they weren't given a choice is central to their bond as well - but, at the same time. eiffel both embodies and extends to hera a kind of freedom she wants very much. no one else has ever made room for her to goof off or wanted to talk to her about nothing, just wanted to hear her voice, just wanted to make her laugh. wanted to hang out with her and talk, just for a little while, even as he's falling asleep after days without rest.

that's what draws her to eiffel. "you hate rules as much as i do, don't you, doug?" because the first time she ever speaks to him, it's while he's clamoring around in the dark, clearly no idea what he's doing, not having paid attention to anything about the station or the mission or, of course, the rules. because she tells him about the contraband cigarettes floating out of his pocket and makes a point of keeping it a shared secret. she likes those things about him.

#wolf 359 #w359 #doug eiffel #hera wolf 359 #eiffera #i don't know. sometimes people want to girlbossify hera so bad #and she is very smart. and capable of so much. #but it's like. what cutter mistakes for ambition in hera is mostly just a desire to survive and be treated with basic respect #and she has to work a lot harder for that than other people do. and she shouldn't have to #and eiffel really does. create that space. in small ways but also #because he values her as a person and wants to be around her and her productivity could not be less important to him #this is why they need minkowski btw #in spirit eiffel and hera are minkowski's slacker roommates and she is begging both of them to get real jobs #also: #i still think a lot about hera only ever calling eiffel 'doug' when he can't hear her. and how #unlike with a lot of other characters. there's never a later moment where she calls him by his first name in a Meaningful Way #i have. some thoughts about that maybe. #i just. think about this a lot. how much eiffel and hera are a refuge for each other and how lucky that is #because i'm really not sure either of them would've made it without the comfort they offer each other and the faith they have in each other #nothing new but. they love each other very much and i love them

[bipunkharrington]

Read the people.com interview, and I'm literally cackling because they got us all so good 😂 to the point I'm side-eyeing the "married to my best friend" comment even though it's a completely normal and sweet thing to say about your partner and still thinking "... married for the bit?"

#smosh #shourtney #married for the bit #don't jump down my throat for this btw #i assure you my scepticism isnt causing any harm to either of them #nor am i demanding anything from them or insulting them by jokingly insinuating maybe they're still doing a bit #shouldn't have to add that but y'all be violent about this 😂 #“in 2024 I married my best friend... my girlfriend was mad about it #but we found it hilarious “ #😂

[coquelicoq]

i need to do my taxes, it's really hanging over my head & i just need to get them out of the way. i was like tonight's the night. calendar blocked. paperwork sorted. mood lighting. but then i needed something in my email in order to do my taxes, which led me to spend the next five hours getting the 4700 unread emails in my inbox down to 273. now it's nearly 1 am and i am too tired to do my taxes. why is society arranged in such a way that makes it possible for this to happen.

#first of all i shouldn't have to do my own taxes in the first place. the government should do them #and then send me a thing either saying here's some money or you owe us some money #why do *i* have to tell *them* if i owe/am owed money? you figure it out!!! #secondly taxes should not be due right after march madness. unbelievable. whose idea was that #my posts #people should never send me emails btw i do NOT read them. #fully looking at emails from my loved ones circa 2021 that i have never opened. still haven't opened them. i'm allergic

[pinktinselmonstrosity]

alright i have a mild dilemna that i need advice on

on my course we have to post these weekly self-reflection things responding to the themes of the week's class and some questions about it. i posted last week's and yesterday the course convenor replied to it in a way that implies i was wrong (in my SELF reflection) and just generally misunderstands my point/takes it in bad faith. i've shown these posts to others on the course and they agree that my original post adressed the things her reply asks about and that she has misinterpreted me, in quite a "cheeky" way

my issue now is: do i reply and try to explain myself better? or is it better to just let it go?

i don't want to dig myself in deeper if she's really opposed to my viewpoint, but at the same time i do feel like i answered the questions thoroughly in the first place and the things she's accusing me of aren't fair

#to be clear we were working on issues of identity this week #and we visited a specific gallery in the national museum of scotland and in our reflection we had to talk about how it reflected identity #and i talked about how all of my scottish friends loved it and it was really effective in provoking nostalgia in them #but that as a non-scottish person i wasn't able to access a lot of the exhibits because they assumed prior knowledge #and i said (or at least i thought i made clear) that i think it's good to have a gallery focusing on scottish identity #but that for a museum which aims to ''show scotland to the world'' this gallery doesn't do a very good job #and i finished by saying that i understand issues of identity are difficult and i don't have an answer for how they should be negotiated #these were just MY observations and feelings (which. again. is what i thought the SELF reflection was for) #and one of the other non-scottish students (a chinese girl) replied and said that she agreed #and that she even tried going on a guided tour of the gallery but she still couldn't really learn anything from it #and the course convenor (who btw is not scottish either so. take from that what u will) replies saying that #the gallery actually isn't MEANT for international visitors it's only meant for scottish people #and ''why can't scottish people have somewhere to express their identity in THEIR national museum?'' #which. first of all were all points i made in my post #and second of all - if that gallery isn't meant for international visitors to be able to understand then WHY DID YOU ASK US TO GO THERE #WHAT DID YOU EXPECT US TO SAY??? bear in mind i'd say at least 60% of people on the course aren't scottish #anyway yeah. i wasn't trying to say that scottish people shouldn't be able to express their identity #and i thought i made that clear in the post but obviously not? #but the people i asked about it are all scottish and they all said they thought what i said was fine #and in fact they agreed with a lot of my points!! #ugh i just don't know what to do #bc my instinct is to defend myself and that if i just re-explain then she'll get what i'm saying #but maybe that's not sensible? especially bc i was pretty clear the first time #🧃

[fleetsonourgecentral]

I suddenly remember That you never told us how a meeting between Prime/Archie! Sonic and Fleetway (Amnesiac/Good) Super Sonic would go.

Also I want to read Fleetway Sonic and scourge reactions if They somehow end Up dating (I like Fleetonic and I need something to draw lol)

I imagine any meeting between Prime and Super would likely come after Prime has already had the misfortune of meeting Sonic, and subsequently had at least one (1) argument about Super. If the argument hasn't already happened by the time Prime and Super meet, it's definitely imminent. I imagine Prime would be a lot more forgiving of Super than Sonic is (partly because he just doesn't have the same baggage Sonic does and partly) so he'd be sympathetic to his plight. He'd be much quicker to believe Super when he says he doesn't want to be that evil person who hurts and kills people for fun. Sonic would scoff and call him a trusting idiot, but it's not that Prime is oblivious to or ignoring the danger that Super can cause, he just doesn't believe dogpiling the guy about it will actually help his situation

Sonic's reaction to finding out they're dating would just be more "I think you're fucking stupid" or, depending on how not-awful his relationship with Super is, just a quiet scoff. He probably tells Prime that if he's soooo fond of Super, then he can take Super with him back to his dimension, but he's probably also secretly worried about Prime actually following through, because if anything goes wrong, Sonic isn't there to help stop it. Chaos energy in the fleetway dimension is fucky and corrupted; for all his bitching and "don't come crying to me if he tries to kill all your friends", Sonic doesn't actually want another universe to suffer from that corrupted energy. He definitely doesn't want the chaos energy in the prime zone to become corrupted the same way his was, either

I can't imagine Scourge has much emotional attachment to Super to care too much. Like, he sees a part of himself in Super, specifically in how both of their identities used to be tied to Sonic, but he doesn't like that he can relate to Super. He doesn't hate or dislike him, but he definitely doesn't like him, either. He just often ends up being the one Ebony calls for out of everyone else in the freedom fighters because he's the one with the least amount of history with Super, so Super doesn't put him on edge the same way he does everyone else. So if Super started dating Prime, he'd probably just make some snarky comment about weak-hearted goody-two-shoes flocking together

Ultimately, the two of them together will probably mock the relationship. They probably only find out because one of them comes home and immediately starts bitching about how "did you HEAR Super and Prime are dating now???" and then they spend an hour talking shit about them. After all, even if Sonic has warmed up to Super a little, he probably still doesn't trust him or is comfortable being around him, and Scourge is a stubborn fucker who won't change his mind about disliking Prime out of sheer spite, so neither Prime nor Super have much of Sonic and Scourge's respect

#sonic the hedgehog #scourge the hedgehog #fleetway sonic #stc sonic #asks #headcanon #fleetway super sonic #prime sonic #they would not be polite about it because they're fucking rude #prime and super are missing nothing tbh let them live in bliss away from these two assholes (affectionate) #i'd elaborate more on sonic and super's relationship but 1 i'm sadly not that familiar with sonic's characterisation in the archie comics #(yes i could fix this by reading the comics properly no i won't do that. SO many issues of that comic and i am. so lazy) #and 2 i feel like that would probably be a little too off topic for this blog #probably shouldn't spam the ship blog with posts talking about a different ship lol #the amount of times i have to remind myself to stay on topic instead of replying with unrelated shit when i'm answering an ask is unreal lo #i'm so sorry i couldn't make the 'scourge and sonic finding out' part a fic btw #i WANTED to but the writing part of my brain was Not Cooperating #i hope writing what few thoughts i could scrape up as headcanons will suffice instead #either way thank you for the question

[roombagreyjoy]

Siren's call to change unhealed piercings for new jewellery my beloathed

#i *know* i shouldn't. but i really want to #my impulse control is practically nonexistent btw so i may end up doing it #and then having to change them back and experience regret because they will heal twice as slowly as they would've #under normal circumstances #i disinfect them twice a day etc etc i should be allowed to go apeshit. as a treat #(said by person who has 7 piercings already) #i've never got an infected piercing either which. i think is mainly due to sheer luck tbh #mine

[blazeturbo102]

So funny how when my dad makes an homophobic comment, he just let's it out and that's it. But when I'm about to answer to that comment, everyone makes me shut up bc they know if I respond to it my dad and I will get into an argument, and they don't want to start an argument.

But still my dad was already able and allowed to say his harmful comment.

Instead of him just not saying that in the first place, I'm the one who has to shut up and "not get so defensive" or to "relax, it was just a joke".

So fucking funny, really.

#no matter how mant times I've told them their little comments and jokes are harmful; they just keep going with the 'its just my opinion' #ive straight up told them that bc of their comments and jokes; if I was gay I would never tell them bc I wouldn't feel safe with them #(which btw i AM queer) #but apparently they don't care #or maybe they think I am straight; so for them it doesn't matter; idk (even tho i still think they know but they just deny it) #but yeah; nothing better than knowing my parents don't care about hurting people as long as they can do their unnecessary jokes and comments #including if those people are their kids #bc apparently the problem is ours for being too emotional #they're lucky my sister was there or Id have said things that I know would have hurt them; but they're true so #and anyways; apparently they don't care that they may hurt us; so maybe I shouldn't care either #delete later

[musicncomics]

FILL ME UP

POUR ME OUT

WASH HER NAME OUT OF MY MOUTH

I AM READY TO BE CLEAN

BURN MY LUNGS AND SHE WAS GONE

LONG BEFORE THE LIGHTS WENT ON

GOD I HOPE SHE'S DONE WITH ME

DO YOU BEG?

DO YOU PRAY?

TELL ME HOW YOU GET AWAY

FROM THE VOICES IN YOUR HEAD

I AM LOST

I'VE BEEN DONE

LONG BEFORE THE LIGHTS WENT ON

SOMEONE PLEASE PUT ME TO BED

Cause I-

I AM NOT WELL

#Having Linebeck thoughts again #Especially centered around this song #And the idea that fragments of Bellum remain post PH #And maybe become stronger the more he indulges in the...less moral aspects of being a sailor #Song is “Before the Lights Went Out” by Emilee Petersmark btw #She's one of the singers of “The Crane Wives” #My All Time Fav band #And I've recently become obsessed with her solo stuff #I usually use gender neutral/ it/it's for Bellum when writing #But in this song Bellum is she #The Crane Wives also have another song called “Nobody” #And I absolutely see that song as being another Bellum possessing Linebeck situation #But I usually view it as it being during the ACTUAL Bellumbeck fight #Like Bellum is showing Linebeck some of his past relationships/ using the faces of past lovers to keep him in a feeling of regret/ #Hopelessness so that it's easier to control him #Bellum eventually reaches a breaking point though #And Linebeck realizes he shouldn't have put up with as much shit as he did then and that he shouldn't put up with it now either #Then starts fighting back a bit just in time for Link to win the fight #Please for the love of God #I need the will to be able to put these thoughts onto paper or into reality SOMEHOW #THIS ARE VERY VISUAL THOUGHTS BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO ANIMATE GUYS #AAAAAAAA

[nana-glass-chillhop-radio-hour]

fucking hilarious to me that Hayward has now been a part of creating not one but TWO separate gods and he did not think to mention his previous experience even once to his comrades-in-arms the second time around. head empty. literally just carnival music playing in there are all times.

#based solely on vibes it's probably Nirvana #Hayward is a Nirvana fan truth 2k22 #he WANTS to be a boomer but he's a sad Gen X little man #Carpenter is actually everything Hayward thinks he is and wants to be #Paige is too actually #which is why he's a little bit obsessed with both of them #(psychosexually) #(not that either of them would ever desire him carnally and also he'd probably be too afraid to ever make a move so that's a nonstarter) #(but the fact remains that I am *positive* he thinks about them driving away together in a squad car #and leaving him chained to the doors of the police station during an environmental catastrophe #and thinks 'it's weird that I liked that right? I probably shouldn't have been into that? #shouting about how I'd hunt them to the ends of the earth was probably like... tipping my hand a little? I should have played it cool. #dammit Hayward you always do this.' <-- content of Hayward's inner monologue livestreamed directly into my brain) #fuck I don't even have to write fic anymore I can just post the most deranged kink takes about TSV characters into the notes of siltposts #this is not a headcanon btw this is me seeing and perceiving the truth #there is just SO MUCH psychosexual weirdness to how both Paige and Carpenter interact with Hayward and I for one love it #Paige never explaining to her dad that Hayward is NOT her boyfriend lmfao #taking him to her farmhouse where she used to bring her exes #'i made you eggs' #people are not going to like this because no one wants shipping in this fandom and quite frankly it is great that we don't have that here #but you cannot erase the fact that Hayward's sole mode of interaction with other human beings seems to be: #'please bully me in a slightly kinky way' and nearly every character is just like 'ok can do <3' #Paige doesn't flirt-bully anybody else! Carpenter only does it to Hayward and Paige! the other people she bullies is totally platonic #Carpenter clearly bullies Faulkner with purely platonic affection and now even that is basically just for show #but I'm sure if she was in a room with Paige and Hayward she'd be flirt-bullying the absolute SHIT out of Hayward to impress Paige lol #fellas is it homoerotic to handcuff a guy and drive away together into the sunset #siltposting: after hours #siltposting #tsv spoilers #the silt verses spoilers

[pyreshe]

one thing i did not anticipate about me leaving my job is the amount of people who came out to tell me how much they enjoyed working with me and will miss me. the lead of a different department even went as far as telling me that she would have hired me to her team on the spot had they had an opening & that she will tell me if they ever do have an opening so i can apply (if i want to). like the fuck?

#my self esteem is genuinely never anywhere good and this blew me out of the water #like i told people i am quitting due to health issues which isn't even technically wrong. my doctor told me that i shouldn't be #in a career like caregiving right now #his sentiment was smth along the lines of 'i wouldn't feel great about you doing a desk job- let alone something like this' #and encouraged me to either rest and get on temp disability or find lower intensity work #the people at work know vaguely about this #and occasionally some of the residents #btw SEVERAL have told me how much they are going to miss me and at least two have made me start crying in the hallway #and there are a lot of parts of this i am going to really miss too!! #if it were just the company and my coworkers occasionally being shitty i would have stuck it out as long as my client needed #but at this point my health is in the mix and if i don't take care of me no one will #but. i didn't even think i made that much of an impression? and here people are telling me that they are gonna miss me #idk my feelings are all over the place about this and next thursday is my last day #tbd #✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ: ooc / [mothman vc] take me home country roads #medical cw #ask to tag

[bredforloyalty]

woke up in a cold sweat after dreaming that rcg became infinitely more cringe

#i don't remember exactly what their new thing was but i wouldn't describe it if i could #but it was just shameless and lazy and out of touch and yet still a cash grab #and my parents (mom mainly) somehow knew and disapproved?? i think that was in the mix bc you can't just have interests or like things in #this house your things are either gonna get shat on often and profusely or only sometimes #if one parent doesn't hate what you love the other one is gonna #i'm tired of explaining and apologizing for being myself all the time because these people refuse to be open and accept who their #own fucking children are lol #and it's tiring to live under scrutiny and social media already provides me (and us) with scrutiny and i'm already sensitive to it #because my parents couldn't be normal about me 🙄 and then there are men and capitalism out there and that's scary.. #and it's scary that so many people unabashedly chase money or fame or whatever and put on masks and btw an influencer is a #type of horror creature #anyway that's all whatever‚ it also scares me that it's possible to hurt yourself through parasociality gysgxy and that loving anything #that someone else made comes with uhh implications. it shouldn't (i should allow myself to exist) but it does for me #and this was all wrapped in a nice little shit bundle of awkwardness and pity and regret and i did not like this dream #kata.txt

[helenawa-art]

I didn't think I needed to say this but please don't rb my vent posts I just do it to express myself here so I don't explode from everything I have in my life but I always delete them later so they dissapear

#maybe it's just my fault for venting here honestly like i shouldn't be doing it on the first place so i won't do it anymore #but yeah #I'll also delete this later so please don't rb this either #oh and btw i don't have the feature where you can make posts impossible to rb btw

[the-acid-pear]

I hate that Google is like "if your eye spill hurts that's fucked up go to a doctor asap" like girl i can't do that just tell me what to do tf -_-

#luly talks #like for the record i dont actually have a fucking big bloodstain on my eye but the thing turn fucking orange and it HURTSSS #and last time it did affect my vision it was really annoying which btw shouldn't happen either which uh. poggers

[leaf-green-spring]

NO its about the ppl who make their whole personality into "im a feral chaos goblin gremlin child uwu"

Ahh thank you ;~; that's relieving

#I have absolutely no idea what my personality is; I'm still not entirely convinced I have one; #but it's easier to be nice enough to avoid having an asshole one than to know what people find unbearable annoying etc and avoid that 😵‍💫 #People™ as a greater entity shouldn't matter to me though; I don't talk regularly with more than a handful- #Please tell me if I cross into either of those things though please? I wanna be like... bearable #Sorry for the trouble btw