#aroaceprideispridetoo

[codthefishgod]

Am I the only person who hates telling other people about my sexuality irl? I'm proud of being aroace and all, it just gets tiring to explain it every single fucking time.

I mean, I can just say I'm not straight or I'm queer, but then people immediately default to thinking I'm gay if I say that.

It usually goes like this:

Stranger: "Are you straight?"

Me: "Oh, no."

Stranger: "Oh, so you're gay."

Me: "...Nope. Try again."

Stranger: "Bisexual?"

Me: "Nope!"

Stranger: "Can you give me a hint?"

Me: *long sigh* "I can, but I don't think you'll like the answer"

Now cue the explaining it for ten minutes and gods forbid they're aphobic (which, unfortunately, a large percentage of the people I've told are) because that's just a whole other fucking rabbit hole

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[codthefishgod]

A list of rules when interacting with an aroace person, by an aroace person:

- Do not romantic our platonic. We will not hesitate to smash a rock into your skull.

- Do not piss us off. We're all attached by invisible walkie-talkies. It's like roaches--if there's one, there's definitely another one nearby.

- Do not say things like 'when you're married' or 'when you meet that special person'. Trust me, coming to terms with an aroace identity in a romance-centered world is not a fun, quirky choice.

- Do not assume that we don't like seeing romance/sex in the media. I'm aroace and one of my favourite genres is romance.

- WE ARE LGBTQIA+. Doesn't matter if we're cis, heterosexual but aromantic or heteroromantic but asexual or any other combination of all the various shades of aspec, WE COUNT AS QUEER PEOPLE.

- Do not equate being aroace or on the aspectrum to being celibate. It's not the same thing. Being aroace is not a choice.

- Being aroace does not mean we're all lonely or sad. Eating garlic bread is scientifically shown to boost your serotonin levels (don't fact check me on this)

- Living with someone or wanting to live with someone doesn't mean we want them romantically! If you have the option to establish a hideout for you and all your buddies, why wouldn't you?

This was, again, a list of rules when interacting with an aroace person, shown to reduce chances of dying by burnt breadsticks and pasta by 100%!

#lgbtq #aromantic #aroace #aromanticism #aro pride #asexual #ace pride #aroace pride #aroaceprideispridetoo

[codthefishgod]

Okay shit I need to start posting about my aroaceness again, *cough cough* erm... *looks at script* garlic bread, amirite?

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[codthefishgod]

To all the people who think aspec people aren't LGBTQIA+ because we aren't "discriminated against enough", here's a lovely list of reasons why you need to educate yourself:

- We suffer from dehumanisation, people actively devaluing or even erasing our humanity because of our identities (The voidpunk community is heavily supported by aspec people because of this)

- We suffer from self hatred due to feeling as if and being told we are broken, that no one can be happy unless they're in a romantic/sexual relationship, because of allonormativity and amatonormativity that actively damages our mental health

- Amatonormativity shapes laws that put us at an active disadvantage, such as giving married people financial and legal benefits

- Aspec people have been victims of conversion therapy, correctional rape, a lower quality of life, and other effects of being a marginalised and oppressed group

- We suffer from our identities being pathologised and deal with medical stigma because of this, causing many of us to feel unwelcome in and even avoid health care settings

- We suffer from our identities being erased, which can range from people completely denying our existence and people equating it to celibacy, to an almost complete absence of aspec representation in the media (It's been getting better lately, especially for alloaces and aroaces, but I have yet to ever see a canon aroallo character, and representation for those on the spectrum rather than in the extremes is often ignored)

- YOU are creating a hateful, exclusionary space in a community meant to be about inclusion. The same thing that happens to us happens to bisexual people, to polyamorous people, and other identities that are "disputed." In a community meant to be about rejecting the norm, YOU are shoving us out because we don't fit the norm of being LGBTQIA+. Because we're not enough like you.

These are only a few examples of aphobia that people like me deal with. Discrimination and oppression against aspec people stretches far beyond this.

But even if it didn't, it is disrespectful and harmful to everyone involved to gatekeep membership in the community based on oppression and discrimination.

We aren't LGBTQIA+ because we experience oppression. We are LGBTQIA+ because our existence alone goes against heteronormativity and other societal norms forced upon us.

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #aromantic #asexual #aromanticism #asexuality #ace #aro #aspec rights #aspec #aro pride #aroace #arospec #ace pride #ace rights #acespec #aro rights #this has been a psa #psa #information #important psa #aroaceprideispridetoo #we are enough #allonormativity #amatonormativity #discrimination #aspec discrimination #oppression #inclusion #educate yourself

[codthefishgod]

I've suddenly become very interested in making bingo cards so I made a shit ton

Aroace experience bingo card based off my own personal experiences:

How much you're like me bingo card:

I'm also making bingo cards for Fenn & Tobi, but I only finished Fenn's so far and it's LATE so I will post them tomorrow. Buenas noches, my captive audience.

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[codthefishgod]

Probably the most common reaction to telling an allo person I'm aroace is

"Okay. But what if- *insert reason why they think people like me don't exist*"

#lgbtq #gay #arospec #aroace #aromanticism #aromantic #acespec #asexuality #asexual #aroace struggles #aroaceprideispridetoo

[codthefishgod]

YOOOO AROACE AND ASEXUAL TAGS ARE TRENDING AGAIN WE'RE WINNING

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[codthefishgod]

Finding out you're aroace is realising allo people don't personally select their crushes and try to alter how they think, feel, and act around them

#aromantic #aromanticism #aroaceprideispridetoo #aroace struggles #aro pride #ace pride #acespec #arospec #aroace