#as if that invalidates everything i say

[actual-changeling]

i think it's funny that whenever i post something about aziraphale not caring about individual humans—only humanity as a concept—the ONLY counter argument everyone always throws at me is 'he gave his flaming sword away'.

mate.

that was six thousand years ago. LITERALLY fresh out of heaven, to the only two humans in existence, who were the entirety of humanity at that point.

let's look at what he's like in more recent years, yes?

ah yes, telling a person living in an alley that her girlfriend is going to hell with a smile. what a kind person. and the wonderful follow-up which sounds like it is straight out of some conservative, capitalistic asshole's mouth.

and fun fact, someone like that has said THOSE EXACT WORDS to me at some point.

crowley asking the real questions here like always

but hey, that was 1827, maybe he was just having a bad year. or decade. or century.

what about the present day? see, crowley is terrified of gabriel and hates his guts, but do you know what he does? he answers his questions very patiently. he is kind. once he realises gabriel isn't pretending he makes him hot chocolate and tries to help him remember, he empathizes.

aziraphale's patient is non-existent. he yells at him immediately, gets frustrated with the most simple questions, refuses to interact with him and leaves crowley with him after crowley told him "what i NEED is for him to be nowhere near me". how considerate. but hey, maybe he was just having a bad time.

job! he was kind in job, right?

except that he doesn't care about job losing his house, his farmstead, all of his animals being slaughtered and only has a problem with the children dying; which he then tries to rationalize away with his fucking "that's not what god wants" shtick.

meanwhile crowley already has plans to protect the animals AND the children AND job and sitis as best he can.

the flood? perfectly alright to drown everyone, including innocent animals and children! it is god's plan, and what do a few humans mean in god's great big ineffable plan, huh?

then again, he doesn't show much empathy for god's son either when he's being nailed to the cross. french revolution and people being beheaded? oh yes, sure, dreadful—anyway i'm just here for the crepes, the dying humans are just background noise, let's not do anything about that even though it is literally my fucking job as an angel. but noooo. he got peckish and then had lunch. what a fucking hero.

'accidentally' killing a dove because he just had to shove it up his sleeve for a magic act.

someone getting shot and dying? because i was careless? don't care. anyway.

armageddon and all of humanity dying? don't care either until i realise what i personally would lose and then i suddenly give a shit.

centuries upon centuries of aziraphale piling up money and he rather terrorizes poor people than entertain giving them a single dime. crowley has to remind and talk him into it, and as thanks he gets dragged down to hell and tortured.

aziraphale is dripping kindness, isn't he? and all of this doesn't even take into account the ball—human puppet show for his own amusement, this is supervillain shit and you know it—or all the other times he ignored human suffering so he wouldn't be personally inconvenienced.

and ALL OF THAT does not take into account how fucking horribly he treats crowley before time even existed.

aziraphale is not unkind. on a big scale, he cares about humanity, he cares about being nice, being good. he wouldn't intentionally harm someone, but he does not care enough to not be careless—he IS careless, and does NOT care if it kills creatures or humans.

his own personal wants and comfort trump everything else, and that is canon, it is text, it is fact. if you have any canonical examples of aziraphale being genuinely kind simply to be kind, not to be selfishly altruistic, please do add them, i'm serious! if you think i'm wrong, prove me wrong. everything i just listed exists in canon, so please, do the same in return.

giving his sword to adam and eve six thousand years ago does not magically erase everything that came after and it does not give him a free pass to behave however he wants, no matter the cost.

#alex talks good omens #good omens #crowley #aziraphale #good omens season 2 #go2 #aziracrow #crowley x aziraphale #ineffable husbands #ineffable wives #ineffable spouses #ineffable divorce #the final fifteen #good omens meta #getting ready for the hate in 3 2 1 #it's a monday and i'm being overly sarcastic but i'm fucking tired of everyone always yelling at me and giving only one example #as if that invalidates everything i say #just fuck off instead of harassing me babes

[cosmics-beings]

I think another thing I like about starscream, yet hate that the fandom fails to acknowledge about starscream is that, a lot of his rotten personality and his nastiness comes from way before he meets megatron and way before he was a deception.

That’s not to say that a lot of the ways he acts doesn't mirror megatron and the mistreatment he went through. and that impacts how starscream heals, makes friends, etc., idw - like what megatron did still badly affects him and that's not something to be ignored, and it's still not fair that he doesn't get the same happiness megatron did.

But, I think that people do tend to act as if Starscream was perfect and uncorrupt before Megatron.

That's not true...starscream was also a rotten, manipulative and bad person before that. and a lot of that was in response to how he was treated and hating his own body/existence, and the caste system, etc. We see how a lot of people in transformers react to oppression and I think starscream is such an interesting case of someone who is so angry and furious at the system he was created in that he takes it out on others yet still fights for himself and only himself. It is sad, and it’s awful to see how his own existence and the caste system does destroy him, but I think its important to note and to understand to just see how oppressed people still have to fight through their own oppression and sometimes, because of that, because of the trauma they go through, turn rotten. And Starscream did terrible, sneaky, and awful things. He did shitty things to climb to the top and he hurt those around him, he hurt people he trusted him, and he was happy to be that way. No one made him evil, manipulative, or untrustworthy, he did that on his own.

I don’t like that a lot of the fandom tends to tie Starsream’s negative and problematic behavior and personality to megatron because it also takes away from a lot of growth, agency and discussion about starscream’s personality and why he is the way he is.

He wasn’t a perfect, innocent and shy person before he met megatron, or before he became a deception. He still did awful things and while becoming a deception was a way he could grow past the system that created him, he still did very much do so for power. Starscream was an ambitious yet a morally ambiguous person before megatron and he had to be to survive in his own mind. His life wasn’t perfect and happy before megatron, he was still fighting and he was still scheming to survive.

I really don’t like how people kind of take that away from him, and act like everything he does and every shitty way he acts is *because* of megatron. I know it’s not fun to have to admit that he wasn’t a good person before megatron met him, but I think it’s necessary to understand his character, and not a lot of people do. And when you don’t do that, you have people misinterpreting his character and being genuinely shocked when he does villainous things. Like for instance, sky bound starscream’s actions shock a lot of people because they don’t think that he is a villain - I remember a lot of ES critique is that earthspark starscream doesn’t need a redemption act- he just needs people to love and accept him. And I think you guys forgot that he was also a space fascist and enjoyed killing people on his own accord. And while megatron himself does impact how starscream acts and treats others - starscream still was an extremely problematic person eons before he met megatron.

I don’t think this negates just how badly Megatron’s treatment fucked him up, and made it so that it was difficult for him to form relationships even after, or find happiness. And I think that’s just something that cannot be ignored. But I also think starscream is more interesting as a character if the fandom acknowledged that he was this way before, that he wasn’t perfect or innocent, and that he reacted that way because he was unhappy with is life, his station, his caste, etc.

this also isn't a chance to come and try to excuse how megatron treated him, so pls don't do that on here.

#i remember looking at an earthspark video and it's like 'starscream does bad things but none of it is his fault because of meg-' #and im like 'nooooo' #it's okay for people to acknolwedge that he was 'bad' to begin with #i don't know how we as a fandom got to the point where they convinced themselves he wasn't a villain #and when you tie EVERYTHING he does to his time with megs #then you invalidate him #he is more than than his relationship with megs (also not saying his name bcos i don't want it to end up in his tag) #like it makes me so upset when fans tie everything he does to him #and it's like they are afraid to admit that he is evil and highly problematic #and in many ways just like megs BEFORE he met him #because you guys again - think a victim can only be one way #it's insulting #starscream #transformers #also sorry for the slurry of unpopular starscream opinions #i just hate how i feel that his character is only allowed to be seen s *one* way

[gnometa233]

"Trans men and lesbians can date!!" "Trans men and straight men can date!!" "Lesbian includes attraction to men!!!" "Labels mean nothing just use what you want!!!" what if I threw a rock at you.

#lgbt discourse #queer discourse #queer #yes ive seen all of those things being said unironically #y'all wanna include men in lesbianism so bad #y'all wanna invalidate trans men so bad #just say you're a mysoginist and go #just say you don't see trans men as real men and go #and for people who think it doesn't invalidate their label? #why even bother? why do y'all refuse to identify as bisexual? #why do you continue to disrespect lesbians and trans men #we can be different communities and still respect and uplift each other #identify as you want but one day you'll learn that actions have consequences #and get called a transphobe #and i will LAUGH #lgbt+ #anti bi lesbians #also labels mean things and if you don't agree with it don't participate in society! #because everything and everyone has labels whether you like it or not

[livelybook]

I always see people say well, if Alicent had just married Helaena to Jace, the war would never have happened. And it's like the war would have absolutely happened, its akin to the waves ever falling onto the shore, its inevitable and unstoppable, all that marriage would have done was put a bandaid on a wound for a little while before everything would just explode.

I don't think there would have been any situation where Alicient would have agreed to that. If Helaena did marry Jace, she and any children born would have been used as a hostage during the war and worse than that, she would have been stuck in Dragonstone with a group of the most volatile people who despise her side of the family, what would have Rhaenrya or Daemon have done to her, an easy within reach target when Lucerys died? Would Jace even be kind to her once his brother dies?

Or let's say that the marriage had gone through and Alicient manages to make Heleana stay in Kingslanding along with the Black team and for a little while, everyone would be in an uneasy peace, forced to get along under Viserys eye and then the Black team would want something done & the Green team would need to agree for it to happen(and this something would undoubtedly not be in favour of the Greens) or if the Green team was perceived as disrepectful whether directly as one of the members doing something(an incident with the boys or Otto secretly scheming or Alicient doing her queen duties, I can just imagine Daemon seething in the background like how dare she command while in the castle of the Targaryens) or someone implying that the Green team would be better and it getting back to the Black team, they would have immediately implied a subtle threat regarding Helaena and declared their authority as the to be Queen party(well, as subtle as a hammer on an unruly nail could be) and any slight disbelieving hopes that this arrangement could actually work would be dashed and the Green team would be furious and unable to do anything about the Black team, and the moment Viserys dies, that's it for them.

And If they had managed to secure the city, the same as the show and had Helaena & any of her children as well, they'd be using them as a hostage against the Black Team too and at least with them, she'd be better treated.

And continuing with what about if Helaena had children? She'd be known to have had children with a widely suspected bastard leading to a shaky line and Daemon is right there with his two targaryen looking boys, there is no way he or even those boys or their later children would have left her and her children alone. If she had married Jace, she'd basically be terribly screwed over twice in succesion crisis in her lifetime.

Also, if Jace had married Helaena, what about Baela? Now, I really don't think Corlys would have let it go when he's been promised a Velaryon queen on the throne and has gotten so close to it after all the other times, just to only have a bastard prince. So that's basically 2 main people besides Otto in Helaena's family who would be eyeing her and her children.

Let's not forgot ofcourse, What about her brothers with their future childrens and their claims, the relationship would never be the same and I doubt that something would not be done about her children too if they were to manage win.

What kind of life would that be to be taken away from your family and placed with people who will be actively to passively hostile to you? To know your relationship with all your family side will forever be altered, that your mother wouldn't choose you and your line over your brother and you & all your children will be in danger from everyone for a very long time?

#Like I feel that marriage offer was a really shitty offer and Alicient absolutely knew that #The levels of isolation and fear Helaena would have gone through would have mirrored Alicient so much #And while she wouldn't choose Helaena over Aegon especially since Helaena's claim would be intertwined with the Black team #It doesn't mean that Alicient doesn't love her so much #That she would never put her in that kind of harm #Everyone kinda glosses over this because we're modern and there's no stigma against marrying a bastard #But Helaena would be marrying a bastard and while it was never formally acknowledged in the show #If Rhaenrya lost and had to be forced to admit that to save her life Helaena's standing #And her children's claim & royal life would all be invalidated #And Helaena's own claim to the throne would be severely diminished as well #Somehow #that marriage would make everything so much worse #anti black team #house of the dragon #heleana targaryen #alicent hightower #anti rhaenrya #anti daemon #anti viserys i targaryen #I feel like the only only person who wouldn't have a problem with this marriage among everyone's worry and refusal is Viserys #Because the way everyone says Helaena married to Jace would stop the war #is them assuming that the marriage is a one for all magic solution to everyone's problem and nothing could ever go wrong again #And the only person who would have that view in the show is Viserys #He'd be the only one smiling and being giddy at that wedding like all his problems had now disappeared

[jasontoddenthusiastt]

Why is Jason angry?

Batman Annual #25

People really read those first two text boxes and decided to settle on them for good, without reading the rest of the page, huh?

Or the page preceeding that one ⬆️

#it’d be worse if you read it and still missed the point actually #fellas have you heard of a rhetorical question #my post #page: BATMAN RETURNS JOKER TO POLICE CUSTODY #everyone: mm. pit madness. also trauma makes anything you do or say invalid yes. #even if the rest of uth boggled your mind for whatever reason this annual sums everything up in a way that couldn't rlly be more clear #I’m still waiting for my physical copy of utrh to arrive #I actually like the art in this issue #especially those last few pages where he has the white streak #and the special hush outfit #unrelated but the top right panel looks so much like Dexter Soy’s Jason #could swear there are abt 7 panels where he’s making that exact face actually #jason todd #batman annual 25 #dc #comic panels

[chloelouygo]

We are coming into the year of the dragon and this is wonderful for every single yugioh fan, except me, who is the only person in the entire world apparently who doesn't like dragons 🥲

#i just dont get it !!! #like they're just mid !!! #theyre like... alright at best ?? #and i hate that i am the ONLY person to feel this way #i feel like i have to defend myself soo hard because it feels so controversial to ever admit #like i feel actual GUILT and SHAME over this #i fear people will unfollow me for this #even though it's literally just a preference for what animal i like or dont like #like if someone just isnt into horses you dont get a mob of people booing them and trying to tell them why theyre wrong #but i feel like ive had that with dragons ?? #idk its like when someone says theyre lesbian and your family are like hey have you met Derek derek is amazing you've not met a derek before #people be like og you dont like dragons have you just tried X francise ? youll love it trust #like NO!! i just want to be respected for what is apparently the weirdest and least common thing in tue whole world to not fuck with #i feel very invalid if im honest #especially as a ygo fan where so mych of everything is dragons #i dont even like the duels im literally here for the characters #im not a monster girlie 😭 #i have said ky oeace im sorry for the vent #happy year of the dragon to those who celebrate but i will be mourning the year of the rabbit for the next 11 years #whew vent over yall can hate me and unfollow me now 😔😥 #im so sorry

[theladyyavilee]

hating on FOMO is really just - tell me you don’t like a good eddie (and a good QUEER!EDDIE at that) episode if it isn’t also a buddie episode without telling me you only watch for buddie (and/or buck), isn’t it?

also - tell me you don’t understand lucy was a good storytelling device for buck’s story, without telling me you don’t understand how media/storytelling works and/or get extremely unreasonably upset about female characters getting even a single fucking line (lucy wasn’t even really IN this episode much, yet people are so upset about it)

also - tell me you don’t enjoy good platonic, familial and romantic relationships on this show (eddie and may, maddie and buck, madney+jee-yun, henren, athena and may and I am probably forgetting something here) if they aren’t buddie without telling me THAT YOU ONLY WATCH FOR BUDDIE AND CAN’T FUCKING APPRECIATE A GOOD EPISODE AND GOOD WRITING IF IT DOESN’T HAVE ANY BUDDIE CONTENT

jfc, y’all are embarrassing for real

#9-1-1 #fandom discourse #no this is not just @ kym's anon #this is me finally fucking snapping because some people in this fandom ARE LITERALLY THE MOST ANNOYING PEOPLE I HAVE EVER #HAD THE DISPLEASURE OF HAVING TO DEAL WITH #the only valid reason to well not even dislike but to shy away from FOMO is if the mum saying goodbye to her daughters before dying #fucks you up too much because that one certainly really fucks with me every time in a way that some days I can't deal with #BUT #literally everything is invalid criticism that feels a lot like BOHOOO WE DIDN'T GET ANY BUDDIE CONTENT

[uselessnbee]

saw my favorite bylers talk about the relationship between Mike and Joyce again and now i just can't stop thinking about it

not just if she saw the airport fiasco but what if she saw the conflict between willelmike

or after they're all finally in hawkins again maybe she saw there's something going on and asked Jonathan and he told her some things he knew he could let her know

and then she comes to Mike and he expects it. he expects her to be angry to start criticising him cause he fucked up and hurts everyone and he knew this was coming but god does it hurt. this is the woman that feels like a second mother to him the woman that sometimes feels more like a mother to him then his actual mom and he knows being criticised by her is going to be the last straw and a part of him is dreading this but a part of him also thinks he deserves this. of course he does he fucked up he's the bad guy he hurt people he hurt her children she loves more than anything of course he deserves this

so he can take it. it will hurt. it will be like a punch in the face but he can take it it's what happens after that's the real question

but Joyce just smiles at him so gently and asks if he's doing okay. if everything is alright if something is going on. she tells him she cares about him and she knows he's been through a lot but if he needs her she's here for him. if he needs to talk she will listen if he just needs someone to be there for him she will be and she's just so caring and gentle and loving to Mike and Mike just. fucking. breaks.

he doesn't even remember when was the last time someone treated him this way like his feelings matter like he matters and he just can't help it. someone finally sees more than his snarkiness. someone finally sees more than him being a jerk. someone finally sees there's something more going on. someone finally sees the pain behind it and cares enough to actually ask him of he's okay and so he just lets himself cry in front of someone for the first time in years

#byler #mike wheeler #joyce byers #mike and joyce #my favorite mother and future son in law relationship to think about #i love to think about Mike seeing Joyce as his second mother and Joyce seeing Mike as if he's her own son #like god this is the kid she saw grow up since he was like 5 this is the boy that made her son so much happier #and i bet she never invalidated his feelings or anything because Joyce would never #and Mike just feeling safe around her and Joyce being one of the few people who never see him as the bad guy because that's Mike #and she only sees him as the kind boy who is always so caring and gentle with her Will #and of course she wants to make sure he's okay and that he knows she's there for him #and how much that must mean to Mike his parents never show interest they always invalidate his feelings and never ask if he's doing okay #they never make him feel safe like he can talk to them but Joyce god she's the exact opposite #she always just shows him care and never makes him feel wrong for just being himself and i'm sobbing now #where is my own Joyce to adopt me please #Also about Jonathan telling Joyce some things no he totally wouldn't out Will or anything #he would say what he knew he could but he doesn't know much about the situation himself #and Joyce totally already knows about Will so it would probably look like #Joyce: i see there's some tension between Mike El and Will is everything alright? #Jonathan: we had to listen to Mike's shitty unhonest love confession to El and it was so bad it got Max killed :/ #Joyce:😰 #anyways sorry for rambling i just have many thoughts about this #blue's 'Mike's extreme defender' ramblings

[loveofastarvingdog]

okay say what you will about "comphet" and "settling," and maybe this is my arospec-ness showing, but i don't feel any attraction to women (romantic or sexual) and would still be 100% down with being in a relationship with one and even marrying a woman. i am pretty much entirely gay when it comes to actual attraction, but mostly consider myself bi or pan when it comes to my approach to relationships, and i just? think that maybe it'd be cool if more people recognized that however other queer people approach relationships and sex when it comes to gender, it doesn't negate their identities. it doesn't mean it's comphet. it doesn't mean it's secretly harming them. sometimes people just choose to have sex, or be in a relationship, or whatever, and it might not "align" with what you think their label ought to be, but it sincerely does not matter at all. it's not your sexuality, or your romantic orientation, or your own personal understanding of yourself, it's theirs. and it doesn't make them bad at being queer, it just means that they're human and get to 1. make their own choices and 2. not conform to other people's ideas about themselves

#timothy's txts. #saving this to drafts for a little bit because i don't want this to come across as targeting something specific #and because i want to make sure i'm not posting this when i'm upset. because i'm not!! it's just that i am passionate about the complexes o #attraction and gender and everything #and while i am specifically referencing how people talk about allosexual gay / lesbian characters experiencing comphet #and also about irl gay / lesbians choosing to hook up with each other for any reason #this is pulled a lot from my own experiences being asexual and arospec and how that colours how i approach sex and relationships #it feels... unfair to say that a gay man choosing to have sex (fun consensual sex with full knowledge!) with a woman #invalidates his sexuality? and i think i've managed to handle action not equaling attraction when it comes to asexuality #but it's a lot less normalised or recognised or accepted or whatever for allosexual people #you know it really is just. an action you can choose to make. for any reason. #ask to tag #no longer in drafts. be free babey

[miraculous-ninjabird]

TLDR for my rant: it’s perfectly okay to admit you are bad at something, say something YOU made looks bad, and/or talk about the ways something you made didn’t live up to your expectations as long as someone does not internalize the message that because they are bad at something or did something bad doesn’t mean that they themselves are a bad person.

Desperately trying to explain to my therapist the difference between ‘I’m a terrible artists’ (self-derogatory and self-defeating) and ‘I’m a terrible artists (I fully acknowledge that I could be better at this skill given time and effort and that all art has value to someone. However. I am specifically choosing not to hone this skill due to a number of reasons and will never consider myself an ‘artist’. Thus, my art will never get better and I am okay with this)

And how I fall solidly into the latter category and how frustrating it is that it’s never seen that way. I say ‘I’m not an artist lol’ or ‘look at my terrible little drawing!” <-worst drawing you’ve ever seen but that’s okay. It’s always, always met by ‘don’t say that! Everybody is an artist!’ And ‘don’t talk bad about yourself and the things you create :(‘ like.

NO!

Some people do desperately need to hear and internalize those messages but I’m not one of them! My art is terrible! That’s the point! I’m never going to be good at it because I’ll never care to but damn if I’m not having the greatest time ever creating terrible art!

I don’t love the online implication (and real world implication when I tried to take art classes) that being okay with the fact I am bad at something is…a bad thing. A simple fact of life is that everyone is bad at something and it’s okay to both admit and be okay with that fact.

Tangentially related but it’s also okay to admit that when you are new at a skill…you’re probably gonna be bad at it. Like. Someone who’s still learning is gonna have some terrible first efforts and that’s the point. It gives you a growth point.

Example: I made a bag. I decided to add a zipper. It did not go as planned and the end result is in fact rather terrible. Simply a fact. However! I put a zipper! In a bag!! And maybe it does look horrible but that is something I’ve never done before and I did it all by myself and I can simultaneously admit it looks awful but be proud of the fact that I figured it out.

Like art I could be content with the success of finishing the project, but I can also use this as a launching point to get better. What I choose to do is up to me and I don’t appreciate people trying to tell me that I’m not allowed to call an objectively terrible finished project as such.

You cannot and will not ever get better at a skill if you are unwilling to accept that you will be bad at it. It makes that learning that acceptance all the harder when people are taught that they shouldn’t ever say bad things about what they make.

Rather than teaching the message ‘nothing anyone makes could possibly be bad in any way (skill wise)’ we would promote acceptance of ‘this is bad and that’s okay’

Thank you for coming to my TedTalk about ‘not every negative self-comment about something someone is self-deprecating’

#robin’s twittering #mini rant #listen people may not agree with me but #my therapist made a good point that it’s incredibly invalidating #when I say I’m not an artist and people can’t accept that because it’s ’self-depreciating’ #I’ve thought about this a lot but most recently it came up with crochet #I teach people and the very first thing I always say is ‘no matter what you first project is it’s going to look terrible’ #and someone took issue with that #but I think going into a new skill #with the understanding that it’s not going to be perfect and not to let that get you down #is so much healthier #it reduces frustration and promotes a better understanding of learning what went wrong so it can be corrected #also see: constructive criticism. super frustrating when you as for criticism and only hear ‘this is great’ #less than useless. you cannot improve with a mindset of everything is always perfect exactly as it is

[unproduciblesmackdown]

truly something that, amidst facing / going through a dramatic Life Change ft. unavoidable emotional effects of that, there are instances where i can't conceal any & all degrees of being distressed / upset, & repeatedly getting "it's hard for me too" as a Direct Response to that: really something & a half how the asserted theoretical Sympathy of [i feel similarly!] is invoked so as to, oh you know, preclude sympathetic Treatment. such as that what would be More sympathetic in these instances would be to say Nothing, "if there's nothing but dismissal / making it first & foremost about someone else's feelings to say, don't say it at all" style

#reading also that original Lovelessness essay ''love is meant to make me human / love is also the mechanism by which my humanity #has been denied'' always preferring to have [sorry! couldn't fully bottle up this Emotiona externally manifesting at all!] Ignored rather #than ''nicely'' interacted with so as to Invalidate; Dismiss; someone's annoyed at you for having it; etc #for bonus context like we are not in the same boat with it. #not a case of ''the same situation; mine is worse though'' like no; fundamentally different situations here lmao. mine is worse #If You Feel So Bad. Or At All. then at least now do me the favor of Not Saying That; Repeatedly #their feelings put on me too in other ways. stewing resentment into lashing out; tossing out ''but i'm justified'' like ok! Your business!! #the ol like. If You're Going To Do Something Anyways then how you justify it to yourself is Your business / b/w you & your god as they say #& the last thing to do is be making it the problem of ppl Most Affected by what you're gonna do anyways & Also ask their Absolution..... #like if you need more moral support abt What You're Doing Anyways: turn to Anyone Else. even No One if you have to. #bit going tf through it when it's spilling over into Posting but such is life!! we all have that [the horrors. girl help] blogger on dash #again the tl;dr like oh you don't say. the [umm but have you considered? My Feelings! (they're so sympathetic at all. yor welcome)] is #the mechanism through which Really basic sympathy is being denied & replaced with [Saying Nothing would've been less hurtful] #misgendering me the other night too while Also all 'hey I'm trying to talk to the customer service. why are You going up & talking first' #(that was me experiencing the latter. i didn't say it but i was like cmon. my glasses are fogging up w/surgical mask (don't have access to #more effective masks so doing what Nonzero i can there) i'm a bit carsick i'm weathering a crisis. can i have anything here lol) #just Oh You Know. The Horrors.... #balancing ofc trying to endure trying to self soothe etc etc. with ''it's the horrors. it's gonna be horrific & you're gonna be affected'' #ah the [being kind to oneself] like also means knowing how reasonable it is to Not solo contain & endure & Cope Through everything.... #crushing a paper cup in my hands genuinely i would like to generously thank my virtual allies out here today. mic feedback #irl In Real Life? life is Real asf here & nobody Realer than them

[lionblaze03-2]

idk about anyone else but for me /personally/ assigning any of the wof dragon tribes a single equivalent human culture or accent feels kind of weird or off. Unless you’re like. Specifically from that culture and know what you’re interpreting

like sure the ‘nightwings are British because they’re voiced that way in the audiobooks’ is funny at first but I once saw a post break down the accents by tribe and assign sandwings a Nigerian accent. Which IMMEDIATELY makes the fact that they’re commonly rogues and thieves in the story not a fun cowboy thing but a vaguely racist thing suggesting that all Nigerian people scam and steal, which. Given the ‘Nigerian prince’ thing is already a stereotype, well…-

and it definitely isn’t JUST that, I’m not trying to call a single person out. But these kind of 1-1 correlations lead to results like this 9/10 times and it just feels strange. Just mix stuff together. Mash ideas from different places into one. Don’t make the dragons a 1-1 parallel to a specific human culture because then any story you tell that may connect to a stereotype of that culture will come off really, really bad

#Instead of they have ___ accent #Say. Well their accent is closest to like this one with a hint of this one. And it varies throughout the regions of the kingdom #Because that is not saying something about a specific ‘kind’ of person. It’s just taking your favorite ideas and playing with them #This is specifically why everything in righteous pines has like 2 religions and then random other cultural factors thrown in #+ the source material and stuff I just made up for me that isn’t from ANY culture #Because I am NOT gonna get caught stereotyping a specific group and be seen as spreading hate #wings of fire #also I don’t mean like. If you’re specifically from a culture and paying informed homage to your heritage #I mean just. Like. White teenagers picking random races based on general regions for the tribes #Like I probably would’ve done when I was 12-14. Like a fool #anyway this isn’t really an angry post at all it’s just kind of a vague opinion #I’m not genuinely mad at anyone who does this I’m just like. Wary for them. Like #Look out girl you’re gonna get cancelled you need to be more CAREFUL #Because I’m 90% sure most people don’t MEAN it to be racist. It’s just. Internalized ideas or general assumptions or something. Uninformed. #But you cannot be uninformed or you will get got. Inform yourselves folks!!! Play safe!! With many mixed ideas! #lion’s lair #invalid white persons opinion by the way. I’m downright vampiric so you can entirely disregard this post if that affects its meaning #My icks literally do not matter in this situation. I know that. I’m just ATTEMPTING to read the room #And not hurt anybody #👍?

[shivology]

unrelated i guess but i keep seeing tweets about how colonialism is why SWANA countries are misogynistic, antiblack, antisemitic etc, and it is so... annoying. sure, colonialism absolutely exacerbated this + made it so invading SWANA countries and brutalizing SWANA people is seen as somehow morally correct, see: pinkwashing, purplewashing, liberal white gays on twitter saying "why should i care about whats been happening to palestinians for decades, they kill gay people over there :/". "why should i care about whats happening in iraq when they hate women." etc etc THAT is a byproduct of colonialism and white supremacy. But like. babygirl read up on the arab slave trade. read literally any arabic poem from the gahileyah جاهلية! arabs were so good at slavery and antiblackness that white europeans literally took that and made that the blueprint for the transatlantic slave trade. white people (and I cannot believe I'm saying this,) did not create everything bad ever in ur home country lmao. a case could definitely be made for homophobia but everything else? nope thats been there from the very beginning and saying it's all colonialism is a. ridiculous b. won't fix shit since you aren't genuinely willing to look into it. and don't get me started on labeling anything even slightly critical of Islam as islamophobic

#it's just so annoying i guess to see people talk about being oppressed in western countries #then turn around and invalidate the experiences of any black or jewish or queer person who lives/has lived in their home country #or be quick to say But no its not me #its the white people! like first of all untrue second of all believe it or not not everything is about you #ironically. it reminds me of when someone calls out a white person for doing smth bigoted #and suddenly “youre attacking a nonbinary lesbian who has adhd 😔”

[dumbhellhound]

tell me why I just had the most insane interaction of my life. Lyft driver looking me dead in my eyes and explaining that he thinks men with small penises are naturally infatuated with large penises & that doesn’t make them gay. “Men who are less endowed aren’t gay for wanting to play with larger men’s penises” ok well I’m gay AND I want to play with larger men’s penises. Also is my small dick energy that obvious

#IT TOOK EVERYTHING IN ME NOT TO LAUGH. I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO PASS PIT #not thirst #ok but why was it a little hot 😳 #yeees plz invalidate my sexuality and say it’s purely bc of my fascination with big dicks slayyyy

[maitanii]

the fcking president of the football federation of my country grabbed the head of one the players and kissed her with no consent when they were celebrating the victory in the world cup.

a lot of people are asking for his resignation and you know what he said today??? "it's all the fault of fake feminism, she was the one who came closer to me and i just asked her for a peck"

I'm doing somersaults and I think I'm going to jump headfirst off the balcony.

but that's just what power is: "i'm despicable, everybody knows that, but i'm still counting cash at the end of the day while you people keep barking at me"

shame.

#i like to think i'm a very critical person #i think about feminism way too much because there are things nowadays that are against the initial fight of the movement #but to say that in front of the whole nation? #i'm so ashamed and sad #it's invalidating everything women have fought for and presenting yourself as the victim when you're an agressor #i hate everything

[non-binharry]

Hoping for the day when chavy Louis (which he is so it shouldn't even be debated) discourse stops mentioning Harry and how he's "not even that gay and Louis is actually gayer". Like leave my girl and her man alone!!!!!

yeah!!!

#if i could do one thing it would be to go back in history and tell louis not to describe himself a s flamboyant #because SOME of y'all have never let that go and it's been an entire decade #and have decided that louis has a whole secret private persona based on one single word #on a related note i wish the people who love to claim that harry's own self expression doesn't affect anything about them #only to then turn around and say ''but also everything harry does is for profit and he's not actually like that irl'' #i wish them a very special eat shit #couldn't imagine constantly invalidating someone's decade long journey of self acceptance because i'm dissatisfied #that someone wears tracksuits #but that's just me i guess #anonymous #mensaje mensaje