#bc he's objectively a bad person

[inkskinned]

there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

#this is objectively bad advice #don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this #but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries #.... it IS fun #i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him. #bc i used to get SO fucking upset #i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it #and now i just LITERALLY do not engage #instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation #i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection #they like the rush they get from arguing #but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me #so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru #NORMAL CONVERSATION #he doesn't get it yet #i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?'' #'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''

[youarentreadingthis]

they have to wear the sweater when they don't get along

#did mabel knit this? maybe #i just think bill and alcor being forced to get along is hilarious #i haven't read toby fics #but i feel like both of them at full power is more interesting to me... sorry... and also it makes them turn the world into their own #personal dumpster fire #also i loooove object form alcor bc the PARALLELSSSS anyway #object form alcor #alcor #alcor the dreambender #transcendence au #gravity falls #bill cipher #fanart #transcendence au art #THIS IS JUST A SILLY LITTLE DRAWING IM SORRY IF ITS BAD #i was like omg i remember when i doodled bill cipher smmmm #cuz hes so easy to draw so its easy to be happy with a finished drawing #soooo object form alcor and bill it is!!! #tau

[victimized-martyr]

As awful as Cartman is, his true desires are simple. He just wants attention and praise— and it’s not only important to Cartman that he gets that praise, but also by whom it’s being said. (there’s a reason Jimbo is one of the people to say good job)

#south park #he could have gotten this praise honestly too. he’s always so close yet so far #trey rly said ‘he doesn’t wanna rule the world or crush his enemies he just wants praise’ and i’m listening trey i hear you!! #i’m taking notes!! #moments like this is why i’m so adamant that he’s an ennea 3 and not an 8 like most ppl assume #8s as well as any ennea appreciate praise but it’s not a priority #usually it’s the success of the business and seeing it grow that would empower an 8 #but for 3s seei bc how their success is turning the public’s eyes towards them and praising them for their efforts— #for THAT specifically for Cartman’s voice to wobble and say it’s a dream come true— i’m furiously pointing at the screen like leo dicaprio #that’s a signature 3 wish #eric cartman #cartman #I think his more specific wish of being a hero (that’s been brought up more than once) is also worth looking into #he doesn’t wanna be seen as the bad guy even though he’s objectively the worst person in SP #one person was missing in that gaggle of ppl giving praise but tbh if he showed up cartman would literally die on the spot

[moonclans]

every where i go in the hotd fandom there’s a new person introducing their alicent hightower reinterpretation that is invariably cersei 2.0 but without the borderline schizophrenic tendencies (i say this with love), insane levels of gender envy, and cyclical love for her children. so basically just her original female misogynist book counterpart. and i’ve got to say, no amount of ambition, poisoning viserys, or TVTrope misogny will make me think these ideas are as nearly interesting as what the show offered.

especially when we’re only one season in and it couldn’t be more obvious that we’re at the precipice of her descent to madness. what happened to patience… my beloved patience..

#alicent hightower #pro alicent hightower #team green #cersei lannister #if you think what makes cersei great is just bc she’s a misogynist you don’t appreciate or understand her well enough me thinks #if thats all it took yeah i know a good few sharp objects characters you could have fun with #i personally love alicent hightower as a catelyn stark 2.0 if we have to do these comparisons #i do think these types of takes well intended or not are a microcosm of a bigger phenomena #which is how our relationship with fiction and how it’s interpreted has changed. #so it can escape a lot of us the fundamentals of what makes a character and what they’re to represent or symbolize etc etc #if only icarus wasn’t so hubristic. it makes no sense that he didn’t listen to daedulus. #if only eve was wiser it makes no sense when she had everything she wanted #or something like that. bad examples though i’m sure

[5hrignold]

i like to think charlie was just really annoying about the events of episode 8 for a while. whenever he has to do something he doesn’t want to he’s like remember what happened last time you forced me to do something? and he always uses the excuse ‘cmon i was literally born like yesterday’ for absolutely anything even when it’s been like half a year since it happened

#i know this is ooc but idont care #im gonna be Real charlie isn’t that interesting to me at all. there’s not really anything to him except he died and also the way it’s kind- #of implied that bad luck runs in his family like a curse or something. this isn’t a complaint im fine with how just. Average Dude he is #this is also amplified by how interesting pim is as a person to me. like he has so much more going on compared to charlie yknow #AGAIN. this makes charlie great in his own way bc the concept of just the most relaxed normal well adjusted guy ever getting into the- #situations he does is objectively funny and good #and that’s like… the whole joke of the show #smiling friends #charlie dompler

[worstloki]

Theres ppl who hate TDW. How would y'all like it if fans trashed the dark world as much as fans who hate ragnarok?

PEOPLE TRASH ON TDW ALL THE TIME??? IT WAS LITERALLY NOTORIOUSLY DUBBED THE WORST MCU MOVIE FOR YEARS

#my dude you can hate on whatever movie you like whether it’s bc u don’t like it or for legitimate objective storytelling reasons #personally I think TDW lacked strongly in the villain department #which meant Thor’s arc was at a bit of a slow growth point #but hey at least it was the right direction #I can excuse him being a jerk to Loki bc I don’t expect Thor to be perfect #+ Loki’s recent crimes + Thor’s been hanging out with uhhhh ODIN???? #of course he’s all wrapped up in Loki Bad thoughts #that plus the recently developed moral bone #it’s no wonder he’s so depressed #slow movie overall tbh I agree Loki + Loki/Thor interactions were the best parts and enjoyed Darcy tho

[upsidedog]

truly not that deep, not that big of a deal, no ill will, but posts along the lines of “lumax is the most healthy couple in stranger things” are super common and i kind of really don’t like them.

more than anything it just feels like a blatant misread of their relationship. like they definitely aren’t toxic or anything, but they are literally broken up in season four, they objectively have things they need to work on. and that’s fine btw! that’s part of what makes them interesting! easily one of the my favorite parts of lucas on the line was lucas contentiously failing to understand max’s grief and feeling resentful towards her because he couldn’t. this was because despite his frustration he still loved max, he still tried to connect with her. he will never fully understand her grief, he will learn how to accommodate it eventually, but even by the end of season four they aren’t really there yet. and that’s special, that’s interesting, that’s a flaw in their relationship worth exploring. it’s kind of like by ignoring their flaws you’re saying there’s nothing to be discussed, when really they are like one of the relationships most worthy of discussion.

#stranger things #lucas sinclair #max mayfield #lumax #i'm not very good at presenting my thoughts in a way that makes sense so i hope this is legible and like not condescending sounding bc i #know that 'healthiest couple' does not necessarily mean healthy or perfect - just comparatively healthy to the other ships - i seriously do #not have any ill will for posts like that objectively they were just a vessel to talk about lumax more than anything #i also like don't even think lucas not understanding max's grief is a personal failing - they're just like. in a bad situation. you can't #really understand someone grieving their abuser if you haven't like been a victim. not to mention billy hurt lucas too. he's allowed to be #upset and confused #just a psa idk

[waywardsalt]

i have planned to write a pseudo-essay or some kind of detailed look at linebeck in phantom hourglass and how he can be interpreted as autistic but thats not going very well right now so here are some autistic linebeck headcanons

He has low empathy and as such has a hard time responding very well to emotional situations, but he can take advantage of his lower empathy in situations where empathy could make things harder, like tending to wounds or rationally handling emotionally-charged situations

His coat is a comfort object and he made it specifically to act as a very slight accommodation; it’s heavy and barely lets any light through it, and he can keep all kinds of little things in pockets sewn into the inner lining, but larger objects do make it more uncomfortable to wear at times. It’s mostly good to carry around things to fidget or stim with and can be helpful in trying to recover from overwhelming sensory experiences

He doesn’t usually stim in public, but taps his fingers on tables quickly and tends to rhythmically snap his fingers when excited, and on his ship is more vocal and more willing to stim, even if around others. One of his main stims that he’ll do for no particular reason is that he’ll hold his arm or back of his wrist/hand up to his nose and mouth for the smell.

He masks frequently to please people. His default mask is that arrogant and brave front he puts up for islanders and other he may come across. Usually, if that mask doesn’t work, he tends to double-down because it usually works and, in his experience, dropping the mask has usually gone badly (non masking he’s rude and blunt but more outwardly excited about adventure and his ship and all of that, i consider it where overseas in the game is when he usually isn’t masking. this shifts his arc to be about him learning to stop masking and feel comfortable being himself)

His special interests could include stuff related to treasure hunting but it could really range from stuff about adventuring or the ocean or engineering (relating to his ship) to stuff not at all touched in the game like music. He really enjoys music, listening to it, playing it, and writing it. He also enjoys and is fascinated by shellfish.

When busy or otherwise occupied, he doesn't usually notice when he's hungry. He doesn't have as much of a problem noticing thirst or exhaustion, but feeling hunger is a problem for him, and often leads to him going a long time without eating. On the other hand, he doesn't mind eating the same thing repeatedly and is perfectly fine with blander foods, so handling food supplies for when he'll be overseas for a long time is easy for him.

He knows he's autistic, he's known for a pretty long time, and he has books on it; he also knows that Link is autistic, but doesn't say anything about it and instead waits until someone else tells him. Until (and after, I suppose) Link actually learns that he's autistic Linebeck just makes sure to keep note of what accommodations he might need and if there are any textures or tastes or smells he can't stand. He doesn't have much of a problem helping out during sensory overloads, even soon after meeting him. It's more out of understanding how it feels to not have your needs met and a sort of solidarity rather than actual friendship.

#loz #legend of zelda #phantom hourglass #linebeck #OBVIOUSLY he experiences some nasty rsd and he's a bitch about it that's like. basically canon so i didnt mention it #a lot of linebeck’s autism is based and referenced off of my own with some extra additions #which is why i have an easier time writing him as autistic than link #kindness is a choice and having low or no empathy does not in any way make someone heartless but linebeck does abuse his own low empathy #to be a mean bitch with minimal emotional consequences #i think linebeck would call link a dipshit to his face and then not feel bad about it for like a few weeks until he starts caring abt him #linebeck stimming by smelling his arm is actually my main stim. its probably why i sit all fucked up bc i sometimes do it w/ my legs lol #the masking bit does kinda fuck some stuff up but i personally enjoy that take on him #one of his comfort objects is an old orange cat plushie named copernicus and if you know what that is specifically from thank you im sorry #linebeck being way into music has no canon backup i just like the idea of him playing piano and composing some form of his own theme #piano is a mad sensory experience btw i dont yet know how to really play it but when i did keyboard in pit it was a fantastic feeling #bangin' out the tunes. it was a really good sort of stim if i was feeling a bit overwhelmed by all of the new tech and music too #salty talks #not entirely an autism headcanon but he thinks gender is a sham and less identifies as a man and more specifically considers #his gender identity to be 'real man of the sea' which is initially kinda silly but kind of a fucking gender move tbh #i dont think he's explicitly trans or nb he's just having fun fucking with his own gender and doing whatever he feels like doing #he isnt a man but he is a man. kind of like how im a dude but also not. yeah. #these were initally going to be call 'quick' headcanons but you can see why i uh. didn't end up going with that

[captainofthetidesbreath]

y'know, going through like YouTube comments and posts in various places, a lot of people are really weird about Spahr.

yes, he isn't a GREAT person—very few people in this series are—but like, many people keep trying to frame him as far worse and far more malicious than he really is. there's a lot of just dismissal of the inner conflict and precarious position that Spahr is in and that he's slowly becoming aware of.

and weirdly, on top of that, a lot of these comments simultaneously frame Weepe as FAR more virtuous than he really is. I enjoy Weepe IMMENSELY, but his amorality is stark and at times shocking. (it's what makes him fascinating in this narrative!)

it's all really weird to me? especially since I find Spahr very interesting because of his fragile footing, dawning realization of how suffocating his situation is, and burgeoning and deepening struggle against himself.

but a lot of people press all of it out or disregard it, and there's a lot of just ill will and acidic tones at him acting as if he's much more evil and malevolent than he actually is.

#Midst things #tbh many of these comments also ascribe Spahr's inner struggle to Weepe and it's like ?? #tbh I don't know how one can approach Spahr as if he's actively malicious especially after the last episode #he was willing to participate and enable some nasty stuff but he clearly has a line at material and physical harm that Imelda doesn't have #he failed to follow through on threatening Imelda to stop bc he wasn't brave enough in that moment but that paralyzing fear is revelatory #he needs to be frightened into compliance and that reveals something about him as much as it does to Spahr #that entire bit when Imelda goes too far for Spahr makes it clear he's unhappy and is starting to object to things. that he HAS lines. #he needs to be intimidated and controlled now rather than taking his passivity for granted #again Spahr is not really a good or admirable person but he's realizing this actually #and it's weird a lot of comments act like he isn't or that he's consciously bad or malicious on purpose and is truly evil

[extravalgant]

Well done, my champion, my hero, my... dare i say it? My Scion. 

started thinkin about lemuria again and before i knew it i was 4+ hours deep into this painting of calamity . crazy stuff

IM NOT THERE YET ON MY STORM (camera pan to me dead in karamelle) but that wont stop me from getting the story ELSEWHERE... the monitoring stations with the old one always interested me . love how he called us his scion i think thats very fucked up possessive of him

anyways heres one more lil doodle

#wizard101 #w101 #lemuria spoilers #HOW DO I... EXPLAIN THIS #this is a lie i would love to explain all my fucked up and projected thinking #I LOVE THAT LITTLE PIECE OF DIALOGUE.... #and its so funny to imagine this as calamity in this situation #because as far as she knows the arcanum and ravenwood let her kill anyone she pleased #either that or she realized early on that she had 'permission to kill' that anyone else didnt have #so later on down the line she starts toeing the line of a 'good' and 'bad' person so when dasein comes along shes like ur telling me #i gotta deal with and sort out my own moral compass ??? AND TEACH IT TO THIS GUY??? #guy (gender neutral) #but like... MY SCION . what did u mean by that. AND ITS CAPITALIZED SO ITS IMPORTANT #whether or not he knew it was us (but i think he did know it was us) when we saw each other on the summit its like . things would have been #so different if he didnt get swallowed and thats the crazy part #MY CHAMPION.. MY HERO... like objectively speaking those are very much positive/good aligned but coming from that tv #i was like u are trying to mold us (the wizard) into EVIL!!! MAYBE . maybe #also its sooo juicy how we will never know if the old one actually had a change of heart bc hes dead . like LOST CONNECTIONS... #some will say yes and canon supports that i guess w the guilt line but at the same time im like . he was way too flippant with the lives of #these inhibitants for me to believe that he felt guilt at the last moment like what CHANGED... #anyways . i like to think that he was still putting up a front and had an ego to assume nothing bad would happen to him #bc yknow he 'knew everything' #and then he ends up getting absorbed and its like . a #I TALK SO MUCH IN THESE TAGS... kissie for whoever reads this mwah #my art #also this was like my first time doing both perspective AND lighting and i was working with 4 different light sources #please . have mercy on me #edit: ok apparently he didnt know who the scion would b in lemuria but ig he knew it might have been us in karamelle . idk! idk

[hauntedtotem]

I think the biggest red flag for me regarding the hopelesspeaches and lio convoy stuff, their entire group (especially lio) has near identical speech patterns and dynamics as my mom's online friend group. Which is less of a red flag and more of a raging wildfire tbh

#I listened to all the calls when they 'leaked' but I didn't know they were leaks I thought lio posted that stuff proudly #I didn't know that they weren't meant to be seen by the public until just now lol #Anyways I'm pleasantly surprised people are talking about how fucked up they were #Bc tbh when I was like 'oh this makes peaches (and everyone else) look like a bitch kinda' the first time I heard the calls- #I thought I was maybe being too judgey or sensitive or something? #But now everyone else is like 'yeah they are all being bitches actually' im like. Oh! So I understood right and wasn't just overreacting #Mostly bc lio was ranting about being a conservative Christian and weird 'nuclear family values' on one call and my immediate thought was #'oh gross Im too biased against this man to be able to look at this- #-discussion objectively. I'm gonna think he sucks regardless of the situation and therefore idk lf im a fair judge ?' #So it's cool to get confirmation from other ppl saying 'oh no ur right he sucks and here's why' #this is the 2nd time this week I got 'no youre not just overreacting. Other ppl are upset too' validation abt a topic. cool #//shade #I'm sure there's plenty of found family groups online that are great but so many of the ones i hear abt feel like a cult imo #My mom is in a group where this dude calls her and other women there his daughters like lio does to peaches and it feels gross to me idk #Ik everyone craves found family connections but. Idkk it feels weird to be taking that in a literal sense and calling them dad/my daughter #Feels like introducing unnecessary power dynamics. #Theres a difference between 'oh this person is like family to me because we're so close' #vs 'oh i am adopting this person and assuming a parental position over them'. that sounds unhealthy I think ? #Edit I just found out lio posted a response but it's midnight and I have a date tomorrow I'm not watching that rn lol #imo both him and peaches are bad and idc if one is worse than the other or whatever. #Peaches has been two faced for a while; lio might've taken advantage of her bc he's kinda creepy. They're both saying the other abused them #This is like jade and julian talking shit about each other to me. Idc guys I hate both of u srry <3 #Iykyk

[tragedykery]

I hate. complicated friendships

#I love her but also. #I feel like such a bad friend for complaining about her but she’s just so. incredibly inconsiderate #like we planned to hang out ish at 1 pm today. suddenly she texts me like ‘hey I’m coming around 14:30 instead’ #she knows I’m autistic too she knows how important having a schedule is for me and she pulls sth like that?? #maybe it’s the fact that she’s an only child but ​she just expects the world and everyone else to accommodate for her #one time we were on a school trip and I was nauseous and I mentioned that to her and she just. made it all about herself??? #like I get she’s got emetophobia but turning the conversation into a fifteen-minute-long rant about if I vomited to please not do it #anywhere she could see bc if I did she would cry and feel absolutely terrible for the rest of the day and etc etc etc #like bestie IM the one who’s sick here??? #and like 50% of our conversations are just her venting at me (even more if you count the ones over text) and it’s. I don’t mind it when it’s #a normal amoun but she just treats me like an object for her to vent at and I Understand there’s stuff she can’t tell her therapist/coach bc #he knows her parents and she’s afraid he’ll tell on her if she talks about gender stuff (she’s not out) and I’m the closest trans friend she #has so I’m the person who understands it the best but it’s just. SO much #(but the moment I vent for once I just feel like she. doesn’t listen and that she thinks I’m just being too sensitive) #and that’s definitely my fault too bc idk how to communicate when she makes me uncomfortable with stuff like that #and she’s autistic too and doesn’t understand hints at all so I’d need to just State it and that feels so incredibly mean but. #there’s more instances I’m not typing out but just. ugh. I love her I really do and I feel like such a child for complaining about her on #tumblr dot com and I know I’m at fault too for not communicating when she makes me uncomfortable I’m not pretending I’m not to blame at all #but she’s self-centred and inconsiderate and. ugh #vent #elli rambles

[prettyboysdontlookatexplosions]

most of the examples i see of this are in a vacuum harmless but i do find it concerning how often i witness an exchange on the internet that’s like:

some complete fucking rando on social media, potentially a self-branded expert of some kind but probably not even that, like literally just a person with internet access: did you know that actually [information that may or may not be factually accurate, because it’s literally just some person saying stuff on twitter]?

other people: wow this is so helpful, thanks so much for telling me, i had no idea

like even when the thing the person is saying is true i find this concerning. because like, Some Person On Twitter should not be an automatically accepted source on…… anything. like it’s fine to read something like that and be like “oh interesting i’d never heard of this” and then do some more digging. or i mean if it’s not serious it’s also fine to be like “oh huh cool if true” lol. but it stresses me out how many people are wandering around with their default reaction to certain kinds of alleged information, regardless of its provenance, being “thank you for enlightening me, o kind stranger,” and not, “hm, i wonder if there is literally any basis for believing this other than that someone said it was true?”

#you think someone would do that? just go on the internet and lie? #i thought about this bc i remembered the p*yt*n b**chd**th louisa may alcott thread lol #and how the replies on twitter were so like…. #like it wasn’t even ‘i’d never considered this but now that you mention it you make a good point’ #(which like. He Did Not. but whatever) #like the tone of it was very ‘thank you so much for enlightening me with your expertise’ #with a side of ‘it’s crazy how this objective historical fact was only brought to light by Some Guy On Twitter With A Podcast’ #like there was no awareness of it even *as* an argument being put forth #that’s the element of this that i find a concerning behavior pattern even though in this case it reallt #does not matter that much #like it wasn’t people agreeing with this bad argument. that’s annoying. but it’s different #than people taking something as like empirical fact literally just because the person saying it said that it was #anyway but i was also sort of thinking about this phenomenon re: a mutual’s post on the twitter definition of intrusive thoughts #because i feel like i see this a LOT with psych stuff #where someone will be like ‘hey did you know that [behavior or feeling] is ACTUALLY [term for a symptom]? #and people will be like ‘wow thanks so much for educating me kind stranger’ #like you should really aim to build into your thought process some degree of #‘this sounds interesting but back up. do i have other reasons to believe that it is actually true?’ #nobody’s perfect and i let stuff slide without noticing i’m sure #but many people really seem to think ‘uncritically accepting what someone who seems cool says’ is like the correct approach #it is not!!!! #don’t take my word for it :) use your brain to decide if i am right (i am)

[eugeniedanglars]

some of you need to learn to be less personally offended by writers saying “canon is just the things that explicitly happen in the show/book/movie”

#can’t believe i’m defending n*il g*iman i don’t even like the guy’s books and i have a tumblr vendetta against him #i genuinely don’t know much about him as a person except that he married am*nda p*lmer and therefore has extremely questionable judgment #so despite how much this website loves to throw the term parasocial around i have no parasocial attachment to him i just care about facts #but i just read two blog posts of his (including a pre-tumblr one) #that people linked as ‘proof’ of him being homophobic to aziraphale/crowley shippers before the tv show came out #and they were literally just. completely reasonable posts saying ‘the text of the book does not say that they’re in a relationship #and things i say online or in interviews should not be taken as canon and neither should popular fan interpretations’ #i think people were mad because he phrased it as ‘making things up’? but in context it clearly wasn’t meant as an insult #it was just a way to differentiate ‘things that are explicitly in the text’ and ‘things that you have to use your imagination for’ #at no point did he say anything bad about shippers he just said that it wasn’t textual canon in the book. which is objectively true lol #and even then the more recent post was like ‘it’s not book canon but tv canon is different’ like he literally was supporting it lmao #idk maybe i’m not offended bc i’m not a shipper #but i really think you’ve gotta read those posts in the absolute worst faith possible to interpret them as homophobic/anti-shipper

[lord-squiggletits]

The main thing about IDW OP that I'm on my hands and knees begging people to understand is to actually treat him like a fucking character and give him the nuanced understanding that this fandom gives to other characters just fine. Like, I s2g the reason no one even talks about IDW OP is because at the first sign of him making mistakes or having a flawed worldview (you know, like a REAL PERSON and not a cartoon caricature) they instantly bail and go "zomg worst Optimus ever".

Like please for fuck's sake IDW1 is a story steeped in realism and moral grayness can you stop for ONE SECOND and realize that IDW OP being a little bit of an asshole or making big mistakes doesn't instantly make him the worst character ever and maybe take the time to actually read his story? B/c half the shit people say about IDW OP makes it obvious that they've only read MTMTE and LL (badly, might I add) and it annoys the shit out of me

#discourse #squiggposting #in the eyes of this boring ass fandom the ideal OP is a literal cardboard cutout #because no one wants him to do anything except stand in the background and smile and be some Good Guy #i mean for fucks sake it only took 10 episodes of ES a literal children's cartoon for people to instantly be like #'goo goo gaga OP works with a shady organization for the sake of maintaining peace with earth's citizens' #'on a planet that cybertronians came to by force bringing war and destruction with them' #'omg this children's cartoon OP is so bad because he wants to protect humans and makes compromises he doesn't like in order to do so' #like sorry i'm just really mad bc the reason ppl reject IDW OP isn't because of who he is as a character strictly #it's just because he's op/timus pri/me (TM) and he's not allowed to be anything else but perfect and good #that's why mfs are out there stanning objectively shitter characters and acting like adults about it #but when it comes to idw OP being more morally gray they flip their shit or pretend he doesn't exist #baby shhhh it's okay let OP be a person it's fine you'll survive #one single OP who doesn't cater to geewunners and the sensibilities of children's cartoons isn't gonna kill you #we can have more adult transformers stories but god forbid OP be more adult too. he has to be his g1 self now and forever #and if he ever makes compromises or questionable decisions or mistakes then throw him right out of the window. lmao

[stephaniedola]

ugh i shouldnt have even picked up the phone now im all discombobulated

#like you know what? if you want to make bad decisions with him go for it #bc if i were you i would too because at least the person you care about might actually want to be with you before it bursts into flames #im jealous even though he's the worst for you because at least someone wants to fuck you #thots et al #i made everything i am about people wanting to fuck me #so like. #what now? #how do i heal from this when i desperately want to pick at the wound? #who even am i if im not an object? #i dont know how to be anything else