#but ok to rb

[hopefulqueer]

before pride month ends, anybody wanna admit they

don't have a crush on me please dear lord nobody ever have a crush on me ever again i am so aromantic PLEASE if u have a crush on me keep it to ur damn self

#aromantic #however if somebody wants to platonically kiss with me or. you know. ;) #that's cool let's do that #ive grown into my aromanticism over the past couple months. finally comfortable w the aro label #not greyaro not arospec. aro. even if i've experienced romantic attraction a handful of times in the past #i dont have any desire to act on it anymore and that's what matters to me #personal #but ok to rb

[allalrightagain]

[sitting in a silent room with the lights off] it is too loud and too bright in here

#i have a migraine 😔 #i was doing so well lately too! #this is a meaningless post except to complain #but ok to rb #i’m mostly just mad that my meds aren’t doing anything #chronic health tag #LT talks

[shoreline-system]

listen man i have to be real with you. the constant need + expectation to keep pushing yourself as a disabled person is utterly exhausting and i don't think this is sustainable actually

#water world #vent #but ok to rb #disability #fibromyalgia #i am so tired and so sore and i can't do anythign #i can't play games i ca't watch videos i can't even think in full sentences #i can't do my silly little hobbies like embroidery or crochet or go on walks #i feel like i'm pushing myself to my absolute limit just by getting up and dressed today. #even this post took what. 10 minutes. i can't think. #i need to go to bed

[mrburnsnuclearpussy]

Reallly messy WIP- I wanted to show aliens side by side for comparison (also I will add clothes lol)

#wip #but ok to rb #star trek #tng #ds9 #Louis art #sketch #Beverly crusher #Deanna troi #Worf #Jadzia dax #borzoi betazoids #rhino Klingons #aquatic trill

[dyketubbo]

as i like get adjusted to college and figure out where i stand in life esp in regards to my identity ive realized how much i dont particularly care for like.. finding love. finding a "better family". even sometimes the idea that i have to find or consider people ive recently met friends isnt something that really excites me. but when i think about the word community, thats what rings true to me. i dont want love of Any kind. i dont want a better family. friends are a difficult subject to breach and not always clear to me. when people, especially queer people, talk as if finding your people and coming into your identity is about finding love, finding true family, whatever, it often just feels.. weird. especially when its worded like "you WILL find these things. this IS what the community is. the True Experience. what its About."

but what Is nice is thinking that some day, ill at least (and honestly at most for me) have a community. people who may not be lovers, family, friends, but people i belong with nonetheless. people i can rely on when it gets rough even if we arent "Close". i dont need a family, or a lover, and maybe not even friends, but i Want a community. i want people who can and will support me. i want to belong. i want to be heard. it doesnt need to be love. id actually really prefer if no one called it that. it just needs to be there, and ill be happy

#mask mews #personal #but ok to rb #loveless aro #aplatonic #aroace #loveless #etc etc. basically those tags are BIGGGG ol disclaimers #that i will fucking hate you if you go 'oh but i love my friends' 'this but i do have someone i love' yada yada go fuck yourself #not a post for you. make your own like how i had to make my own

[thrandilf]

I gotta get this outta my system in full or I Will explode so

Re RP and accessibility

It is 2023 and so it’s hard to. Feel like this is necessarily new info but I want to explain to people what makes Artsy text inaccessible and why people who need accessibility feel so rejected/angry about this

Any deviation from plain text is going to make things more difficult to read for somebody out there. Full stop. I had a friend without any kind of disability tell me they couldn’t read the UK edition of LotR because it doesn’t always use full quote marks and it’s jarring. Like if that is enough to make something not readable to someone please imagine paragraphs of prose written with some number of variations such as

Small text

Excessive bold/italics for aesthetic rather than actual emphasis

Sometimes even purposeful emphasis italics and bold are overdone so much that things are hard to read. If it looks like a typical American comic book with half of the words being bolded, it’s hard to process.

Extra spaces between words (especially a thing for screen readers)

Punctuation that’s extra big or small or otherwise nonstandard so it’s difficult to see or draws the eyes to it so much that it acts as a speed bump

Along the same lines, symbols embedded in text.

Bolding all dialogue. Granted- this might make things more accessible to some people and everyone is different, I admit some people might need this.

Differing text sizes within the same post

Writing in no caps is one that personally makes my head ache when it’s paragraphs of prose not because I am a stickler for “proper” English but it’s again hard to process

I’ve never seen someone RP in all caps but as above it would be hard to read if they did. Some fancy fonts do look like all caps

Icons (previously especially on mobile but now it isn’t so bad) are visual speed bumps and while I care more about the text itself and the content they can add to legibility problems/visual noise

More so on Twitter, but use of lots of different fonts even in the same sentence is probably the most difficult to read for anyone

I do not know if there’s more but generally some combination of these makes text inaccessible. It could be physical limitations like vision disabilities, being prone to eye strain, migraines (I personally can get migraines from reading a lot on screens and a lot of small text and the like can trigger them), or other conditions like dyslexia or ADHD/autism from my understanding, or anything else that may interfere with text comprehension

There’s a cultural expectation in some RP circles that people have to decorate their text to be taken seriously. So I get why even well meaning people who do care about accessibility may feel pressured into making things less accessible, or some people may not know

Said expectation, which is frankly pretentious and takes away from the actual content of posts, makes it actively harder for anyone who needs any kind of accommodation to participate in said social activity

It’s also unfair to everyone. Your writing, your content, your characterization should be celebrated and engaged with. I don’t want anyone to feel like your posts must be a certain aesthetic or else it’s not worth reading. That’s a toxic af norm

I want to emphasize that I understand some people are perfectly capable of reading small text and extra bold and fancy fonts and do not see how it’s an issue. I understand that creating said barriers to others may be inadvertent. But if someone says hey x is not legible to them, it is not legible. It’s not really up for debate.

A lot of times it feels like people who express that things are not accessible get debated with or told it isn’t that bad or whatever else to make said person feel like they are actually the problem for trying to raise a concern/be honest that hey. I Cannot read this. Like no lie/exaggeration. If someone says “I just can’t read/process xyz easily or in some cases at all” believe them.

It is not meant to be a culture war or to be shaming self expression or whatever else it comes across as, but when people get overly defensive about aesthetics over accessibility, it turns into something ugly. Which then makes said people who want readable text from their community in a social activity feel unwelcome and then people who do a lot of formatting feel attacked

I just want to clarify though my stance here is strong

It’s not about taste

It’s not about preference

It’s not meant to be a dunk on people’s artistic sides

It’s not pleasant to bring up to anyone

It’s not fun to feel like you’re about to ruin a relationship when you try to tell someone that you want to read their work and either can’t or it’s difficult and you’re used to getting hostility over it

I like bullet journaling. I like typography. I get why making text pretty is appealing. There’s a lot of room for visually stimulating text in hobbies

But when the rp community at large puts aesthetics over other people, and it’s normalized to not care about being accessible, it feels like a massive Fuck You.

It might not be on purpose. Like I sound mad but I get it maybe it isn’t on purpose

But this post is here to say that this is what it comes across as. And it’s hurtful and frustrating and people have left RP over it. It’s frustrating to feel like your ability to do a thing with people if they would just do something that in fact takes less effort on their part to do fo post things clearly rather than to put speed bumps in it is somehow not worth it

And ideally, rather than try and accommodate on a case by case basis remembering who can’t read small text or who can’t process lots of bold or whatever, the norm would change to be accessible from the start. And it feels like there’s just a lot of resistance to that ever happening

#rp #accessibility #tumblr rp #tumblr roleplay #vent #but ok to rb #long post

[vhstapeworm]

there's still something so saddening to me about being autistic and "smart", which immediately sounds really fucking privileged and i know it is but its like. i have a good vocabulary and i've struggled with grades a lot but it's clear i at least have a passion for learning and i just come across nice and decent every day but because of that nobody is able to comprehend how much of a fucking struggle it is to communicate and not overreact and overexplain and to do basic chores and to eat without freaking out about anything potentially wrong in taste and texture and all this stuff but because i'm able to communicate intelligently about other things it's. assumed that it must be easy for me to do everything else normally but it's not.

#noc original thoughts #vent #i guess #not the most coherent sorry #but ok to rb

[wwolflesbian]

2022, at age 25, was the first year where I really started to feel like an actual adult. I am, no lie, extremely truamatized. the mental illness doesn't help either. the first 22 years of my life were almost unbearable, I don't have a lot of happy memories from that time. I won't go into details. but all that left me so emotionally and socially stunted and it led me towards mistake after mistake only being able to live from the charity of others. but, slowly, I began to overcome all that. with the help of so many wonderful people I have been able to have the space to learn and grow and flourish. 2022 in particular was a year of tremendous growth. finally getting the right diagnosis and meds and therapy after two decades of being fucked over by every system I came into contact with. I spent most of my childhood being a throwaway, someone who would just be passed over and discarded without a second thought but then all of the sudden after a lot of fighting and persistence and stubborness I finally feel... normal. not special, just one human in the massive interconnected web of existance we live in. it feels good. I still struggle, I always will, and I have a lot of growth left to do, I hope I never stop. but I am left with one thought amid all of this, even after having a childhood that most might consider unsurvivable I somehow made it.

things do get better. life is worth living. we will be ok.

happy new year.

#personal #but ok to rb

[shkspr]

reblog if you think its ok to fall asleep & be asleep & get rested.

trying to prove a point to hashem, who abandoned me long ago & works tirelessly to ensure that my every moment is haunted & agonizing

#rb bait #but ironically. #but ok to rb

[kisstheashes]

I genuinely do not understand why I can't get into high fantasy material. Even as a little kid, who liked dragons and fairies and shit, didn't really...get into true fantasy. All out, completely removed from our world, fantasy. I always got bored, and would end up tuning out. I've watched/read a few, like Tinkerbell or Eragon, from wildly different stages of development.

It always has to be grounded in our reality, somehow. Whether it was coming home at the end of the episode or book. Like how H*rry P*tter had a foot in our world, too. Urban Fantasy? My shit. My beloved. I'll read/watch it all day. I'm captivated. (as long as it's good, Marvel.)

I suppose, mulling it over a bit, it could be connected to my desperate hope that this world has more magic in it than everyone says. Bridge to Teribithia changed me as a child, and honestly not because of the death scene, but the absolute remarkable power these kids' imaginations had. I wanted that to be me, I wanted desperately to believe that if I believed hard enough I could do the same thing. I still hope for that, in a lot of ways. I want to believe that it's not all so simple, that things that we believe are impossible exist. Magic, in all forms and many forms and any form. And if it's not out there...I guess I still have these books.

#personal #spilled ink #hope im using that tag correctly #idk what this rant is #but ok to rb #for sure #urban fantasy

[eyemention]

friend's house

#MY EDIT #DO NOT REPOST #but ok to rb #weirdcore #dreamcore #collage

[plantsinyourpants]

when will it be my turn for someone to look at me, and not look away?

#oh izzy now we’re in it #personal #but ok to rb

[jonahmagnus]

My gender is like I'm a magical girl but Im 37 years old and have been divorced twice. And also Im a boy but if you call me a boy I'll kill you. And also Im not a boy.

#Im agender but like agender and a gender you know #Per son al #But ok to rb

[esynk]

#rants blants #but ok to rb #stick figure gore

[pipwife]

if philip wittebane had just entered his slut era at 22 the way he was supposed to then nobody ever would have died

#garden.post #not tagging the fandom #but ok to rb

[dyketubbo]

i used to be really into the love is what makes the world go round type posts but now that ive realized a lot of that was because i was trying to Make Up for being aspec all those posts just feel so bitter to me now

#dont come to me w that 'well not all love is romantic <3' stuff like yeah obviously #but the only people i really feel comfortable saying i love is my bio family and.. even that is really complicated #i never really know when the last straw will be. i dont feel comfortable saying my world revolves around love #when a lot of the people i said i loved and who love/loved me have hurt me deeply in ways i may not recover from #and overall with how thats tainted it for me + how i want to stop trying to Make Up for not feeling romantic love by claiming- #-love is everywhere i love my friends the kind strangers on the street yada yada etc etc #..idk. i think what makes us human is just that we are human. we would still be human even if none of us felt love #i guess i just want to be able to reclaim love without it being forced on me even from my own community #i dont want to be told love is what makes me human because then that ultimately still perpetuates the fact that #if i say i dont feel love people will start seeing me as lesser and subhuman. and thats still fucked up even if it isnt about romantic love #i *care* about my friends. i have basic compassion for the strangers around me and i help them out because its the right thing to do #it makes me feel good but it doesnt make me feel love bc to me thats either my very specific feelings towards my family #or a very abstract concept that doesnt really mean anything without any of societys pressures regarding it #mask mews #loveless aro #personal #but ok to rb