#cishets don't interact

[kefnut-the-gweilologist]

like in not gonna act like NO assimilationist gay person hates words like fag and queer but i don't think its a good metric of a person's assimilationism. like i know a good number of gentrifying gays say fag and queer

#cishets don't interact #like as a self described fag

[uncanny-tranny]

I wish it were more common for people to accept that trans people are often going to have very complex relationships with a lot of things - sexuality, gender, presentation, even growing up.

I'm just really disheartened when I see people expecting trans people to neatly fit into boxes that ridgedly force us to conform. I'm really disheartened with the idea that in order to "really" be a true man, woman, or person, you have to have the right experiences rather than authentic ones. And oftentimes, the "right" experiences for us to have are whatever make cis people (or even other trans people) the most comfortable. It's never truly about the individual's experiences or comfort.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #it just reminds me of this post i saw where this trans woman joked that she will always see her relationships with men as gay because... #...of her complex interaction with society and i really felt that #and it makes sense why she feels that way. why does she need to have conforming experiences to be respected and treated as the woman she is #why does conforming matter more than the trans person? why does being 'correct' and inoffensive to cishet sensitivities the gold standard? #because you don't ever have to understand *why* a trans person feels the way they do. but don't be transphobic or an ass about it #and certainly don't use it as a weapon to try and 'prove' that that trans person cannot know who they are #like i say... trans people don't have to be cis people in order to be recognized as their gender #as in trans and cis people of the same gender can have different experiences WITHOUT it meaning the trans person is 'wrong' about themself #sometimes trans and cis people will have different outlooks and opinions and experiences and that is OK #like... cisness isn't what makes manhood or womanhood or hell just personhood in general

[wright-phoenix]

. . . i'm too aro for this

#i saw someone talk about “obvious” romantic tension between phoenix/maya and athena/simon #and that the average cishet normie consumer would assume they were implied romantic #and i sat there for a full minute trying to process that #because literally all i got from these pairings was big sibling energy #and i realize everyone reads that differently but. #the level of being annoying and being annoyed between maya and phoenix.... #and the whole “i gotta be a big sister” and the whole. maya is mia's little sister so by extention kind of also #taken under phoenix's wing after mia's death #the way they constantly joke about maya being childish bc she likes steel samurai (she isn't. edgeworth also likes it #he's just too stuck up to admit it. also liking “childish” things doesnt make u childish but i digress) #but anyway the joke abt maya being childish vs phoenix being grown up #furthering the perception of the difference between them and maya as a sort of younger sibling figure #and then athena and simon.... #simon literally having been her babysitter somewhat. having played with her when she was younger #and when the Mom Murder Incident happened he cared for her and got her out of there #and took on the blame “for her” ..... #all of that screams older brother to me the way he carried her away from the scene. she was just a child #IDK IS IT REALLY SUPPOSED TO BE OBVIOUSLY ROMANTICALLY IMPLIED????????? #WHAT...... #i KNOW there are people who ship phoenix and maya or athena and simon and that's fine #but to me they were OBVIOUSLY sibling coded instead of OBVIOUSLY romance coded #😭😭😭 #help meeeee #cas.txt #i cant tell if the post i saw was an outlier and tinted by Fandom Perception #or if that's like. a big general consensus and i just don't see it bc i curate my online experience #bc it could go either way. i can see it being an outlier that found its way onto my dash #but i could also see it as a bigger agreed upon thing that just never crossed my dash bc i only interact with sibling content 😭 #either way it baffled me

[jasontoddssuper]

I know what situations Jason Todd should be put in.Dc does NOT

#why's he hanging out with his near decade older brother's best friend who has a whole ass daughter and being queerbaited with him like ewww #don't even get me started on how brushed off his mother-son relathionship is by them too and not letting him and duke keep being best bros #no rivalry with cass either???him and kyle's interactions got taken over by cishet bullshit him and eddie don't even know eachother anymore #him and rose aren't properly important to eachother!!!he has a super in bizzaro but they don't feel as genuine as the other super/bat bonds #never even gave him the 'older brother annoys his younger brother and his gf but then they become a trio' dynamic with tim and steph :( #fuck all that shit!!!MY CITY NOW #talia is his legal adoptive mom duke and him are eachother's favorite sibling him and cass can't stand eachother's asses #the outlaws are jason eddie rose summer(my s/i) kyle artemis and thaddeus and him tim and steph are best friends who'd never admit it!!! #also gonna give him some kids he's dad-coded and shoot him with the blackification and autism beams while i'm at it.trans his gender too #OKAY i'm finished thanks for reading my unhinged infodumping #jason todd #robin #red hood #batfam #teen titans #ditf #lost days #utrh #rhato #the outlaws #wfa #teen titans:damian edition #dead sidekicks force #team dual #the anomalies #dc critical #real self shipping hours #jaysumm #letters from summer

[cinna-bunnie]

re:self perception, I feel like that one drawing where the person is Very lesbian from head to toe but like she lost her pin or her bracelet broke or something and she’s like “oh no how will people be able to tell now ):” except me with being trans.

except my analog for the pin is I’m just not in makeup or making slightly more of an effort to dress fem. like idk, shaved face alone I already feel really pretty and own so few masculine looking outfits so idk? (⁠´⁠-⁠﹏⁠-⁠`⁠；⁠) I would hope I don’t come across as cis esp interacting with other trans ppl lol.

anyways, at least on here I feel like we’re afraid to talk to other trans ppl on the street bc we don’t want to out/clock them but we also desperately want to be Seen and interacted with by other trans folk when we’re out. idk... is getting clocked by another trans person rly even that bad? would we not be rly happy to have another trans person pick us out from the crowd and be excited to talk to us? Personally I don’t rly care about “passing” and all the implicit standards around it and just kinda see clocking as a neutral “i can tell”.

street etiquette is confusing. idk what the answer is or even what my question is exactly, I just know there’s a lot of trans ppl out there who wish they knew More trans ppl and that we’re also kind of afraid to interact with each other when we’re out. what’s up with that?

these r just some silly passing thoughts so don’t read too much into it, but ykwim though?

#like.. #i know we'd be more comfies interacting in an implicitly/explicitly social setting like a party or a picnic or whatever #but what about the ppl who don't rly do anything except shop and hang at home ? where/how do u meet ppl #lately i've tried just being more social and friendly in general wherever i am and it seems to be going fine? at like stores n stuff #but out on the actual street i think is still an area where i'm like aaaa idk what to do i'll just mind my business #and ideally it'd be nice if we could just Look at each other and maybe give some kind of signal that we'd like to say hi 👉👈 #but also I VERY much relate to just keeping my eyes forward and having tunnel vision when i'm out walking bc i'm trying to both #be confident and also don't want to be perceived but don't want to Seem like i'm trying to not be perceived. #BUT THAT'S FOR CISHET PPL YKWIM?? like 😭 #my people... pls say hi #idk #it me. the overthinker.

[delibird-catboi]

-_-

#gender is SOOOOO stupid #trying to figure shit out #I know I'm not a Man TM but I also don't wanna interact with stuff that says cishet men dni #liking me is gay but also you can't like me and not be into guys #but then it's not up to ME what other people's sexuality is so like HUH #FUCK GENDER WHY DOES NOTHING MAKE SENSE #anyways #I'm a guy not a man but also if you like me you're gay unless you don't wanna be idk #sorry had to vent o7

[cuntboysupremacy]

need some gay men to follow on here

#trying to move away from my lesbian centric dash #luv u girls and many have helped me in this journey #but i feel disconnected from other men and im so early in my transition yk?? #but i don't really want to interact w cishet men that much :/

[unproduciblesmackdown]

it's not about that you "have" to get to exercise your autonomy. b/c like, yes you do, but not in the way that "if i don't get to do that Now i will explode & evaporate (& die)" which is what people keep leveraging to be like "so you don't have any valid argument for getting to act out your own choices"

therein is another issue of "why do you need a 'valid argument' to get Exceptions as ruled by this person to exist autonomously, unpunished" like why's this person an authority who gets to punish you. nonrhetorically, why do you have to appeal to their maybe possibly deciding to Let you be a person. should you "have" to.

and if you don't get that Permission that you supposedly "have" to get, you also will not immediately explode and die if you do that unpermitted thing, but shocking how "you don't Haaaave to" is only invoked re: things you want to do for yourself, and not what they want you to do for them....because it's Not Really About "Literally literally Haaaaving to"

the alignment between people getting on one for years about asexuality, and while doing so maxing out the saturation on their bullshit on any & everything, b/c you're just getting into anti autonomy, so ofc you're also just stoking & expressing "arguments" against autonomy that are deployed in plenty of other contexts, including against other queer identities....and that particular resonance with biphobia & transphobia, and how either groups are theoretically thwarting the Truest Gays because how will we have a valid argument against the truest cishets agenda if we can't convince them we haaaaaave to be like this instead of that no, we won't explode & die if we have to be repressed or at least closeted another day, and another, and you won't explode after another, either, etc. rather than thee point of "asexuality autonomy = queer autonomy = Your queer autonomy = Anyone's Autonomy" and "why do we 'have' to Convince anyone to go 'oh alriiiight' abt one's choices about how they express their identity, what decisions they make about having sex"....it's about anyone having the power to preclude & restrict others' autonomy & constrain their existence between one kind of more imminent, immediate harm/death & a more drawn out one where you exist as a resource for others' use but at least you aren't Literally dead today. so what if someone's saying "well i don't think your gender/sexuality stuff is Real" so long as they can't get in the way of other people living that out anyways. so what if someone's supposedly like "well, but everyone could be bi" (which they don't. just like ppl were never 'pretending' to be asexual to nefariously stand around in the queer space that never rigorously vetted everyone anyways? Making Up A Guy To Get Mad At) to supposedly argue that if all of you are bi you can just restrict yourself to the Cishet Appearing manifestations (which they don't) where what's that even matter if this [guy to get mad at] can't make that anyone else's problem? if he can, why can he. should he be able to. that's the problem, not "have we all tried the constant biphobia wherein they're always thwarting & sabotaging the rest of us?? like how trans people are keeping us from being legitimate?? with the opportunity for some trans people to also try declaring other noncis people Not Legitimately Trans?? well the cishet agenda loves asexuals, actually, they want everyone to never have sex ever (they don't want that, and that's not what being asexual is)"

using the "you can't Know through Direct Perception or extrasensory phenomena what someone else's Thoughts And Feelings are" both ways; wherein their assertion of their intentions, true or not, gets to be treated as an assertion of Reality, meanwhile b/c Your intentions/thoughts/feelings can't be directly observed, you're just lying or exaggerating or misremembering or failing to Express yourself correctly b/c they would've surely interpreted it correctly otherwise, or [anything else] re: your inner experiences that you can't "prove" are one way or another, so this other person gets to always decide for themself what they must be (why?) and if they just so happen to decide they Must be in alignment with what they want (good) or unacceptably, evilly, incorrectly Against Them, they also get to flex their control over the entire situation via their Authority / control over resources / the person's lack of other options b/c of isolation & that, say, breaking away from a family, job, marriage or just deemed correctly romantic relationship, is punished by the larger system of How Things Are, through a lack of resources that makes you more vulnerable in general as well as vulnerable to further punishment in how you might try to respond to that situation, through the general stance that maintaining cohesion of a Unit like the nuclear family, the "romantic" "man"/"woman" couple, is good, so breaking from it is deviant........anyways it's like. if you're like "well i'm having sex b/c i want to" and someone is like "well i say YOURE LYING" like, what? "isn't there someone you forgot to ask" shit. why should that get to affect things. whether you're like "oh no. what if they could say 'you're lying...b/c how do i knowwww you're not BI. where you could want to have sex with someone BESIDES this one person rn?? or ACE??? if you Don't have sex rn and you Don't explode and die 5 min later we will Know you Could Be Asexual" like, this isn't how it works anyways obviously but theoretically if it did: we would not be like "oh sorry guess that's what matters" unless what mattered was some people's being lower on a hierarchy and at the quite literal disposal of those with more power than them. what would the crisis be of someone going "well i think. every gay person? is bi" or someone going "you've just told me your name is gloria but i think your name is actually tetris...." or "i'm so embarrassed i wish everyone but me was dead" if none of these things can hinder the existence of people having sex w/autonomy for all involved or people getting to tell you their name or all other people being alive

the banger quote on my imdb page was saying "no, i don't 'Have' to, but i'm going to" to an authoritarian in my life, concluding several minutes' "negotiation" of [i 'have' to hang up on this call now b/c the movie i'm standing in this movie theater to see is about to start. no i won't explode and die if i don't. i also won't explode and die if i don't keep "talking" to you (being Talked At / lectured & upbraided from afar)] funny how that works. i also Know this was a checkmate b/c that person gave up on responding (or, technically, switched to The Silent Treatment, which worked even worse via phone than in person) and i did hang up rather than miss the movie i showed up for and then they had to resort to Other Methods: telling someone willing to take on the enabling cop mode that i had Essentially said Go Fuck Yourself. like well that's right, and the fact that it's a "go fuck yourself" to get to say "i am going to end the call b/c i choose to do something else" and then actually do so is a real testament to this relationship. and if one had said "i can't keep talking, i have to go" and someone's like "sldfj you mean thou MAY not keep talking" teehee i don't know, CAN you have the peas????? it's like this obviously doesn't matter. i can choose to do shit and choose to not do shit without exploding and dying right this very second, except for taking 5 sec to eat a deadly bomb with a timer set for 5 sec. This Is Not The Point. why is autonomy off-limits to Anyone.

#authoritarian parent whose silent treatments fail: anti crossdressing household law will get everyone to stop inconveniently Being People #spoilers: i continue to be a real life person; nonbinary; autistic; i continue to not engage in a relationship w/that parent b/c #Their choice was to have that relationship be the authority & the property. so the response to that: not being in that situation. #creating that kind of relationship & then being like ''why don't i get the Benefits of a different kind of relationship that is defined by #everyone being recognized as people and having actual positive experiences and legitimately Wanting to interact :('' #the autonomy to Not do something b/c you don't want to = the autonomy to Totally do something b/c you do want to #hence the idea of the True / Ideal Homosexual being ''but i Must Only have gay sex or i'll explode & die'' vs ''i feel like having gay sex' #yeah we ''could'' all be forced into binary genders & nuclear family units & be miserable & isolated but not literally explode. #but why should we. why would we. why can't we Not do that #hence as well that queer autonomy=everyone's autonomy. ppl who id as cishet? don't need to be Forced into that or into Awful Marriage Asap #but they do if we wanna isolate everyone / eliminate broader social support networks / restrict the autonomy to do anything else #asexuality handshake bisexuality. parallel to aromanticism handshake polyamory #and the backup to ''well but you won't literally die'' is to preclude Choice entirely by diverting the focus from [questioning ur choices] #to [questioning whether you have the capacity to make choices] as an extension. lens on ableism / disability justice is in Everything #not in like a ''huh. who'd've thought that overlapped'' Fun Fact way but in [you don't Understand that issue fully if you don't see ableism #someone's always getting to justify their authority by their Superior Ability vs others' Inferior/Absent Ability #saw that zany ''radical queer theory based on vibes is now that asexuals aren't queer'' streak definitely manifest ableism #a good ol fashioned ''asexuals won't consider What's Wrong With Them / try harder to seek some conversion therapy'' great stuff gang #or even more useless declarations of ''haha but most people Aren't ace. it's not Normal to not want to have sex. checkmate?'' #and what is your conclusion to that logic? ended up in ''ace ppl. are cringe!! & maybe not real!!!'' aaand what do we do with that? #what praytell do you suggest change based on that. how has that exclusionist analysis served queer lives. how is it continuing to do so. #versus like and who cares if everyone Could possibly all be labeled bi if what is In Practice anyways is ppl getting to have sex or Not how #they want to anyways. recognizing that Any trans person's existence is a testament to Everyone's autonomy #any ''threat'' to children is always guaranteed abt the Threat to [parents' control to decide Who & What a child gets to be] #that is; ''protecting'' children is abt the child being the property of parents. gotta protect That by withholding all info about trans ppl #even existing from kids b/c Property can't decide their identities for themselves so Children can't be allowed to either #their even knowing that some people Do get to exist autonomously is; indeed; that ''threat'' to the [child is property] order #and Language as Possibility. it's the 2010s & you can only go ''that's me i'm nonbinary'' when you learn abt the word ''nonbinary'' #even though you can then know you always knew but you didn't have the word so you had to keep on using other; more inaccurate words.... #discovering the tree trunk of [word: Autistic] that roots all these branches of ppl talking abt Experiences & now Realizing Things....

[lilaccoffin]

I wonder if ppl think I shipped Shirou and Marie because they were both weird familial figures to Michiru, when in reality, I don’t give a fuck about that as much I just thought it would be funny to put the stuck up, serious, no-nonsense guy with the stuck up, tricky, and silly lady and see their Hannah Barbera cartoon ass romance blossom 

#I don't rlly care for the whole 'omg team dad and team mom' shit for ships #sometimes it can be cute but I'm mostly about the interactions and how the characters would mesh #marie itami #shirou ogami #shirorie #and before annoying fucks try to come in here and be like Shiro and Marie are gay anyway or something haha #Never saw them as a cishet couple ever

[la-cocotte-de-paris]

I just saw the worst take ever that complained about some blogs' requests for "men dni" and I'm like...have you seen some of the cishet men that harass blogs in the kink community on tumblr? THAT'S why so many users have "men dni" in their bios/pinned posts. You fucking fool.

#i am lucky that most of my interactions have been positive #but I've definitely had cishet men try slide into my DMs and it's not fun for anyone #also if that person complaining knew fucking anything they'd know that #MOST blogs that reuqest 'men dni' really mean cishet men and are okay with queer male interaction so long as nobody is harassed #and nonbinary and genderqueer users are usually able to interact #it's just the cringe cishet men who think they're doms that give everyone on tumblr secondhand embarrassment #when they try to interact with blogs in the most tactless way possible #sorry that post just pissed me off so much like how fucking dumb can you be #ok to reblog #the siren speaks #THIS ISN'T EVEN DISCUSSING GROOMING WHICH CAN ALSO HAPPEN #and with that comes the stereotype of men who prey on the vulnerable victim etc etc #so how about you just fucking accept people's request for men dni AND MIND YOUR DAMN BUSINESS #just bc others ask for it doesn't mean you have to add that request to your blog so. shut up. #also I'm talking about the annoying men who are cishet i do not mean ALL cishet men #bc most other men and genderqueer people do not harass other blogs so frequently #and my male mutuals (and my other non male moots) know i love them bc they're genuinely nice people because they don't harass people!!!!!

[non-binharry]

does lads ever take a day off twitter.com/alltheselightts/status/1531087680527810560?s=21&t=3DUjGgKH1O-Xr3bw3dXtcQ

and she was serious 😭

#whole time momrry was born out of the way harry interacts with pregnancy ‚ childbirth ‚ and motherhood #like queen you're arguing over the blueprint but you don't even understand the criteria #cishet people occupying queer spaces need to die and i mean that #anonymous #mensaje mensaje

[fomorias]

anyways it’s been over a year since i’ve rped on tumblr so let’s get the ball rolling... starter call perhaps?

#♜ ❝cishets don't interact❞ (ooc.) #forgive me i am soooo rusty

[cosmojjong]

i don't know what it is with med students always crushing on me like. what?

#i am a humanities kid and always will be #apologies to anyone who's a med school student here but all med students i have met are literal garbage #so it's not like i am even pleased to interact with them #don't want to generalize but yeah sounds like the kind of person who will give me some new mental trauma #if they're men then it's got to be bad #haven't met a male med student that didn't study for the money and who knew what women's rights even are #it's a bit scary if you think of it #such ppl find themselves in position of power and then abuse that power #anyways yeah i met another med student who asked me out lol it's so frustrating #do i want to give them a chance? i don't know #oh and if they're cishet men they somehow always got some sh1t to say about transgender people and can say the most vile stuff

[relnicht]

need to reread swimming in the dark. i think i bought it as an ebook around christmas last year because i wanted to read it and couldn't find it in the shops, but I don't remember anything about it because I don't have the physical book so I didn't have a physical reminder of it and i think i must have read it in 1-3 days. i think i liked it idk. i like stories set in summer and nature

#going to my parents for 3 weeks tomorrow and i always go a little insane bc i haven't come to terms with my (admittedly very good) childhood #and (more mentally complicated) teenagehood yet lol #also like it just feels like such a cishet space for me because i never really allowed myself to be out when i was there #and i can't talk about gay stuff with my family and they see me as a cishet woman (who maybe wants to be a boy) which is also upsetting #it just feels a little idk suffocating or like.. there's an oppressive atmosphere idk #and i don't really have friends in my home town anymore and i moved out after high school so everyone just knows me for who i was #and not who i am now idk #so like it's lonely but also everyone who i do interact with just sees in me the ghost of who i never was or who i tried to be #will write some sad poetry and short stories to cope with this lol #and read queer books and watch gay films