#don't be rude to me pls

[nuppu-nuppu]

How the heck do people make themselves approachable irl and online I feel like people see me as a concrete wall with some graffiti on it that is a circle that says autistic inside of it

#like yes I do have a neutral face and I have no idea how to use emojis so Idk #or small talk! what the fuck is that #but some people are so turned off by how I appear externally that they don't really bother to get to know me #and when you get to know me I am actually very enthusiastic and smiley and talkative #but I am just very very very shy so it takes time to get to know me you know #but pls if you have any tips and tricks on how to be more approachable then pls tell me I would like to know #like plsss #pls I hope none of you think I'm rude or something I'm just clueless #actually autistic #autistic #neurodivergent #actually neurodivergent #and of course it's okay to be neutral all the time and not talkative or stuff it's just a me problem because I would like for people to get #to know me how I actually am you know?????? #pls #I'm sorry

[fandomfan315]

I love Martin sm. Girl is FULLY okay with demigod murder. ME TOO BITCH YEAHHH FUCK EM UP MARTIN

#martin blackwood #the magnus archives #tma podcast #MAG 175 #or 174 i don't remember. just the one where they meet up w simon #the murderous impulses of Martin Blackwood #<- ngl that should totally be a tag hes so ready for killing #IM ON 176 DONT TALK TO ME ABT THE PROTOCAL ITS SPOILERS FOR ME #i listen at such a slow pace PLS #i have all these tags blocked on all social medias simply cuz of spoilers LMAO #anyways martin is so sarcastic and rude i LOVE it #dee speaks

[killemwithkawaii]

Sal Fisher and Larry Johnson should make out sloppy style (and also have me in the middle sometimes) 💋💋💋💦✅

#sally face #sallarry #sal x larry #rent lowering gunshots #antis dni #k.e.w.k. selfships #celery sandwich 🥪💕 #k.e.w.k. x sally #k.e.w.k. x larry #I have a lot of asks in my inbox that have to do with both of them x the reader and I've been having SUCH poly selfship feels lately too🥺💘 #so if you dont like this ship thats totally 1000% fine! /gen #this is your opportunity to do the mutually beneficial responsible thing: #block me and/or the tag so you don't see me/it/ my posts about it in the future (pls&thku) 🫶 #[P.S. rude asks/comments will just make them kiss with more tongue]

[kenobihater]

the duality of man........ . ... .

#PLS vote i don't wanna drag this out over a week!! #i'm personally leaning towards the second one but i think that might make some weirdo je.di apologists send me rude anons after only seeing #my url lol. i dislike him bc he would likely be insufferable irl but he's not real so i love him in fictional form if that makes sense?? #also i think it's just kind of a funny and ironic @ bc he's the actual fandom darling and i am not immune to his charms either 😮‍💨 #im gonna vote for option 2 bc i want results immediately lol. and all of this might be for nothing if i decide not to change or fall out of #love with star wars again. i ALSO have t4tobiwan which is on brand for me but i don't rlly like it v much? i don't see him as exclusively #t4t at all bc that means saltine krust was trans which... just NO lol #len asks

[veilchenjaeger]

(I'm going to talk about non-consensual sex in media below, obviously. Just a head up.)

@stripedroseandsketchpads I’m not super knowledgeable about these tropes either, so I’m definitely not the right person to do a detailed analysis of the trope subversions here (or trope subversions in Scum Villain in general). I don’t read a lot of danmei, though I do have a background in old 2010s BL manga, and a lot of tropes do seem familiar to me. I have looked at a few stallion novels, but those are so incredibly misogynistic that they’re impossible for me, a person without access to copious amounts of alcohol, to read without taking permanent damage. But like… What bothers me about the Maigu Ridge takes I see isn't a lack of understanding of the trope subversions (which I don't fully understand either) but how many people miss the basics of what's happening in this scene? I don't think it's necessary to do, like, a close analysis of the text to recognise that Maigu Ridge is not supposed to be sexy?? Maybe I'm wrong and it is hard to tell, but?

I am genuinely baffled by the amount of misinterpretations I see about Maigu Ridge mostly bc I don't think it’s subtle about what it is! I, too, think that MXTX's sexy scenes are sort of odd and not very sexy [Edit: @stripedroseandsketchpads pointed out that this is likely a translation bias, and I agree 100%], but the difference between e.g. the wine enema extra and Maigu Ridge is blatant? Shen Qingqiu is in so much fucking pain at Maigu Ridge that he can barely think! He's hurting in the other sex scenes, too, but not nearly as much, and the tone of those is light-hearted and Shen Qingqiu's narration is funny. There's nothing funny about Maigu Ridge! Shen Qingqiu doesn't very nearly black out from pain in the You Understand extra, because that one's supposed to be cute and awkward and not absolutely horrifying!

And even if we ignore the actual sex (I hesitate to use the term!), the entire way Maigu Ridge is framed makes it obvious that this is very much intended to be read as a traumatic event. First of all, they stop. It’s so important to me that they stop. It would have been so easy to transition into a good, pleasurable sex scene as soon as they're both able to consent, but it doesn't. They stop the second Luo Binghe comes to, because none of what just happened was arousing or made them want to continue having sex. This shouldn't be special, but it is, because this is a romance novel and romance novels don’t do bad sex, but I’ll get into the trope subversion later.

More stuff about the way Maigu Ridge is framed: My favourite thing about it is not the sex scene itself or the build-up to it - I'm not that hardcore - but the conversation they have afterwards, after Luo Binghe regains consciousness. They stop having sex, and they immediately start taking care of each other. This is a scene where they just went through a very traumatic thing together, and they support each other in the aftermath. This is one of the ultimate Bingqiu conversations for me, which cemented my love for them and imo proves how much they care about each other.

Within that conversation, it becomes obvious how shaken Luo Binghe is by what happened. He fucking asks why Shen Qingqiu didn't kill him instead of letting him do this! It's. Just. It's so much. It shows how horrified Luo Binghe is by what "he" (in quotation marks bc he wasn't conscious) just did. He's hurt Shen Qingqiu a lot in this book, in various ways, but here, we see him break down after doing so and pretty much say outright that he'd rather have died. Bingy.

There’s also the fact that Shen Qingqiu tries to calm him down by pointing out that he "was willing". No you weren't, king, but I appreciate you reassuring Luo Binghe that he didn't just outright rape you. It's such a weak reassurance in this moment, when Shen Qingqiu is literally dying, but it still means the world. Everything is so horrible, but Shen Qingqiu successfully pinpoints the thing that makes it slightly less horrible.

Later developments support this reading, too! Luo Binghe, Mr Pushy himself, doesn't dare initiate anything sexual for the first weeks of their relationship! Maigu Ridge is the catalyst for him letting Shen Qingqiu go and not being there when he wakes up (despite having waited five years for Shen Qingqiu to wake up before), because he doesn't believe they can come back from this! In the interview extra, Luo Binghe refuses to name Maigu Ridge as their first time, preferring to pretend it never happened! Shen Qingqiu mostly refers to it as a failure, something that’s tragic bc Luo Binghe as a stallion protagonist should have had a better first time, but his tone in those moments of narration is seriously mismatched with his narration during Maigu Ridge, and ignoring his own feelings about the matter completely and re-framing it as a plot point in a novel instead of a real thing that happened to him is precisely how Shen Qingqiu deals with trauma all the time. Maigu Ridge is so obviously written as a traumatic event, so I really cannot understand people who are either mad that the sex scene wasn't hot (It's not meant to be!) or complain about this scene being super problematic and Bingqiu thus being horrible. (This was very intentionally written that way and Bingqiu themselves acknowledge that it was awful!)

And that isn’t even getting into the trope subversion yet. As I said, I’m not super knowledgeable about that, but I read a post recently that pointed out that a lot of danmei tropes are just romance/erotica novel tropes, and… yes. That’s true. What happens a lot in these stories is the “It starts out non-consensual but the main character (the woman in straight romance, lbr) ends up liking it anyways!” trope. Afaik, this is a staple of stallion novel sex, too. I hate this trope with the fire of a thousand burning suns, and when I first read Scum Villain, I was afraid that Maigu Ridge would turn into that. And then it didn’t. Which blew my mind a little, because main couples in romance or erotica novels don’t have bad sex. Bingqiu are an obvious subversion of that bc they suck at sex even if it is consensual, but Maigu Ridge is that subversion times 100. Scum Villain talks a lot about satisfaction points, so let’s think about reader satisfaction here: For this entire novel, we’ve been waiting for Bingqiu to kiss and get together and fuck. And a romance story isn’t always over with the first time, but usually, such a scene is satisfying because it shows them finally coming together after chapters upon chapters of build-up. Usually, it’s good sex. It shows us that the main couple is meant to be together. (Wangxian's first time is a pretty good example of a sex scene that is more of a problem than a solution but is still good.) Apparently, the “Fuck or Die” trope is a lot more prevalent in the genres MXTX is commenting on than in stuff I know about, so that plays into it, too: It’s the kind of scene that’s meant to be satisfying, and Maigu Ridge absolutely fucking isn’t. This book, which is very much a romance novel, looked the “Fuck or Die” trope in the eye, said, “This would fucking suck irl”, and ran with that. And I think that owns.

Non-consensual romantic or sexual actions are a fucking staple of romance media, and while there can obviously be kinky reasons for that, the fact that it's so prevalent is awful imo. The amount of completely innocuous prime time movies targeted at girls and young women that I've seen where straight-up stalking and sexual harrassment are played as a romantic ideal is horrifying. Not to mention that Scum Villain is commentary on stallion novels, too, and the way non-consensual sex is portrayed in those – books targeted at an audience that is meant to identify with the rapist – is terrifying imo. It genuinely scares me that there are men out there who read these books uncritically and buy into that portrayal of women and consent. I could talk a lot about the nuances of this topic (bc it is nuanced), but let’s just say that it's so important to me to see a scene like this portrayed as the horrible, traumatic even it would be in a realistic setting (while still being a scene in a romance novel that doesn’t end the main couple’s relationship). Maigu Ridge is one of the main reasons why I trust MXTX to address and play with consent issues (as she does with Wangxian).

I don’t think that the message of Maigu Ridge is “The Fuck or Die trope/non-consensual sex in romance novels is horrible and shouldn’t happen ever” – MXTX does include a whole parody of super tropey danmei novels full of noncon with Resentment of Chunshan, which is portrayed as silly but harmless, kinky fun – but it invites us to think about these tropes and the implications they have. There’s a lot of nuance here that I appreciate, especially with the distinction made between the Scum Villain plot, which is situated in “reality”, and Resentment of Chunshan, which is very firmly fantasy. I’d love to read an analysis on this by someone who really knows their shit when it comes to danmei, stallion novels, and Chinese media tropes in general (My perspective on this is obviously very Western!) bc this is all I really have to say about this, but like. Bottom line is that it’s fucking baffling to me why Maigu Ridge is so often treated as the Big Problematic Scene of Scum Villain when it’s literally commentary on noncon tropes in media. If anything, this is the single least problematic Bingqiu scene! What the fuck are y’all talking about!

#rape cw #[epistulae ad atticum] #/everyone always lists maigu ridge as the main thing that makes bingqiu ~problematic~ bc it's noncon and i'm like. #/you're talking about the house arrest scene. please tell me you're talking about the house arrest scene. #/of course warning new readers about maigu ridge is valid and important bc it's a horrifying scene but it's not ~problematic~. #/i hope this post doesn't sound rude or condescending? it's not meant that way i'm just very confused by the discourse around this scene #/i also don't currently have my books with me so if i got anything wrong pls point it out to me! #svsss

[theairpressures]

im gonna kms 😹😹😹 hwat

#❥ 🫧 writing #now i feel guilty #hi anxious kiochisato coming right up #guys don't bully me #pls #ok but in all seriousness my ask was positive idk how'd you find rudeness in that 😞😞 im js givin a small tip . #like chill i didn't knew u disliked black outlines 🫠

[wanders-in-stars]

Xelzaz: unapologetically calls Tamar a dog

also Xelzaz an hour later, very gently: "Are you holding up okay?"

#....NO she's NOT no thanks to you mr. rudeness #i feel like him calling her a dog just. really fucking hurt and she didn't bother to hide the fact. and xel ended up feeling bad lol #i love xelzaz but running with him on a werewolf is ROUGH man #like buddy. my man. my favourite lizard sir. i'm literally only eating bandits and thats AFTER THEY ATTACK FIRST #pls don't be so mean to me i can't take it #skyrim #yaz yaks #skyrim oc #oc: tamar #skyrim xelzaz

[radical-thots]

We live in a world where a brown woman is threatened with death threats, is doxed and constantly harassed by the trans/lgtbq community because she dared to speak up against the white ‘non-binary’ child groomer on Tiktok. This isn’t okay, considering yall are threatening her kids as well! People literally have her kid’s private information - their address, their school etc. The fact that the lgtbq community is not even talking about this??? In fact, yall participated in harassing her and were so quick to call her ‘transphobic’ just because she said Jeffery Marsh’s obsession with kids was creepy. Jeffery Marsh still has a platform, still has thousands of fans supporting them and attacking the women or anyone else who speaks up. How is this not oppression and hate? How is silencing someone who speaks up not oppression? The lgtbq community does this then talks about being oppressed and how they’re not grooming kids? Please make it make sense. I’m disgusted asf rn. I’m all for living your life the way you want and protecting your rights, but in no world is doxing a woman and harassing her and her kids ‘protecting your rights’. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen the community being intolerant or creepy - numerous instances of people yelling on streets, a drag queen showing her naked ass to a kid and people cheering her on, a little girl intimating a stripper and collecting money and being cheered, a school that preached gender fluidity attacking a mother and refusing to show her the school’s syllabus, Jeffery Marsh preaching the isolation of kids and telling them to pay to ‘talk to him privately’ without anyone knowing. This is borderline creepy and grooming behavior and all the time that I’ve been in this community, no one ever mentions this. No one talks about the creepy aspect and people in this community. Yall love calling the conservatives oppressive and names but honestly yall are no better. Protecting a groomer and calling anyone who speaks against them ‘transphobic’. Yall may never realize this but you people are just as oppressive, just as intolerant because you can’t handle people calling u out and because you do not allow them to speak up. At the end of the day, a lot of the ideologies and behaviors of the lgtbq community are rooted so deep in colonization and patriarchy that we do not talk enough about it. 

#this is so long #i'm literally crying and shaking right now bcs of how disturbed I am #feel so weird bcs I was literally supporting and considering yall my people but then yall start excusing and justifying opressing people #smh #Ik I'm gonna get attacked and even harassed for this because some many people wouldn't get my points and think I'm j being 'transphobic' #because yall are so used to calling anyone who calls u out that #Literally still love yall but god why is no one talking about this #trans community #lgtbqa #non binary #Jeffery Marsh #anti Jeffery Marsh #grooming #muslims #remind me if I used the wrong pronouns anywhere pls #ik I sound rude but god am i angry and just majorly disturbed #don't attack me pls this took a lot of courage to say #god so scared to post this bcs I j know I'm gonna get attacked #\

[tiffanylamps]

after three years, the 'vid finally got me

#covid19 #and on my birthday too? fucking rude as hell #psa: if you're unwell and have to go to work and if you're able to PLS WEAR A MASK! #it is a bad time to hear a horrible story of someone get m.e/cfs after contracting covid and now they're bed bound #like... bitch I already have m.e/cfs! i don't need it to be any worse. (sorry to that person. i really hope it doesn't happen to me #bc jfc that would suck) #chatty lamps #tmi tag #*got #*bedbound

[scareqrowbranwen]

//actually everyone on team strq is trans folks you heard it hear first

#dash commentary #don't be an asshole about peoples headcanons #//if you're the one being rude to corvidkins pls unfollow me cause I don't want you here either

[heavenknowsffs]

Sorry for another vent post but here goes

#like i'm not looking for a relationship ok ? but i met this guy and we've been hooking yp #but like he is being all sweet and caring and he is great don't get me wrong #he's like eddie munson i'm not gonna lie #but at the same time he doesn't get my jokes and when i make a sarcastic comment or something funny he always thinks i'm being honest #and then he's too sweet if it makes sense in normal convos? BUT if i am ganuinely distressed (which i am a lot you guys know) #he is just not very emotionally intelligent 😬 and like it's all fun and wtv but i feel like he might like me more than i like him #and i called him babe once bc i had this girl friend who calls everyone babe and i spent like 3 days with her so i called him that #and now he always calls me babe and i'm like 😐 pls stop but i can't tell him to stop bc it will seem rude #and yeah my friends that know him are like he's such a cool guy and so sweet and everything and it looks like we're dating #but like we're not man we're not i met him a few weeks ago #anyway i think in reality i'm trying to find bad things about him just so i can justify not liking him and sabotage the whole thing bc + #+ i'm too afraid lmao #i think i'm emotionally unavailable and don't want a relationship or feel ready for it at all #i feel like i'm starting that age most ppl have at 18/19 of exploring and just vibing except i should have gone through that then #but i never got the change bc of abusive relationships and being at home and not having freedom to just exist #and now i do and i feel like if i start dating someone i'll lose my freedom again #which should not even happen in a healthy relationship but that's how i feel #maybe will talk about this to my therapist see what he says #i think i know what he will say like 'you're just afraid don't think about it too much tell him how you feel' #and i HAVE told him generally how i feel and that i don't want to move mad about it and he was like 'no were just getting to know eachother

[zackcrazyvalentine]

Heads up: I won't be writing for Twisted Wonderland anymore

.

At least not until.... whenever any inspiration to strikes me (and that doesn't seem to be anytime soon)

My and mutuals' Twst OCs are super still on the table, of course~

but not canon characters. I've fallen off the game for a while now, and tbh mutuals, exploring new things & OCs make me much happier than Twst djshdj

Thank you for understanding 🙇🏻‍♀️

#by all means you can save and go through my masterlists as you so please #but if your reason for following me is expecting more content #nay pls don't #you won't get it #I'd rather be fully sincere even if I seem pretentious or rude or whatever #i just feel like i need to make this update #thank you #notice #announcement

[terimummykejai]

I hate men par agar koi mujhse pyaar se baat kare to hogaya mera hate wala scene

#can guys talk to me rudely as they always do #pls i don't want to fall for no one

[amngtheflowers]

Ring on top of hand detail practice bec in my humble opinion him and his other half are married💍

#granblue fantasy #gbf #granblue #lucilius #fanart #CIOFAA 4 LYF #And no I don't really like most of the other popular Lucilius ships pls don't #somehow some ppl on twitter esp have kinda been rude abt that in the far past #and like trying to kick cio out of my art's story to suit their ships' favor #and it's like. pls fuck off you already get so much more content. for my ship it's mostly just me #bec most of the artists have disappeared one after the other #bec of time and interests #ANYWAY

[redspringthorn]

WHY CANT RANDOM PPL STOP REMINDING ME THAT ITS FATHERS DAY LOL !!!!!!!!!!!!

#literally woke up this morning checked my calendar and was like imma ignore that . to survive #and like it feels like every 3rd person I encounter has the NEEED TO ANNOUNCE IT TO ME #and in trying not to be rude but the third time I'm just like ok. bye #Father's Day tw #Father's Day #idk I wouldn't have trigger tagged this before but after today I'm gonna lol #I still don't totally know how to tag shit best on tumblr of any of you father hating peoppe have input pls let me know lol #now I'm going to my room to do drugs and be in denial of my life

[nya-vivi]

So my hormones went off the handle (i cried with wholesome animal vids but that's another topic) like two days ago and I was even thinking that maybe being in a romantic relationship wasn't so bad. Now I am suffering but at least I am normal again.

#i know im in the gray area of the spectrum but still am aromantic lmao i can and will live in solitude for the rest of my days #and i am okay with that #i don't know the future but i have that very clear #there will probably never come /the person/ y'know?? pls stop with that because i really don't care #whenever someone tells me that i will be like: smile and shut up to myself before i say something rude ajnsjdn