what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?
i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?
a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?
in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.
girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.
there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.
for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.
something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.
is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.
most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."
a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.
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i was looking around in the files and found the epilogue camp outfit uuids, and they all have unique names and descriptions so i thought i'd post them all here in case anyone's interested :-)
GALE (human / god)
ASTARION (spawn / ascended)
LAE'ZEL (faerun / githyanki)
WYLL (blade / duke)
SHADOWHEART (selunite / sharran)
KARLACH / DARK URGE
JAHEIRA / MINSC / HALSIN
MINTHARA (drow / city)
edit: UUIDs under the cut if you wanna spawn them yourself
GALE:
Human (Embroidered Ensemble) - 1cb24313-5ed1-43b7-ab4a-cdf2118422ea
God (Weave-Touched Robe) - 1068659c-f12b-4930-ac4f-c4892af58cd7
ASTARION:
Spawn (Dandy's Dream Ensemble) - 13084436-5d19-4cef-ae53-02857497fc28
Ascended (Decadent Ensemble) - 76f26388-daff-440a-a4f3-dba4f78e548c
LAE'ZEL
Faerun (Nomad's Garb) - 9747dbb0-0f92-483e-80fc-391390d416f9
Gith (Senja'si Finery) - 8c953ad4-1103-4215-9a09-ff95e51cc8e4
WYLL
Blade (The Blade's Padded Armour) - 46c97e62-7d3e-449f-a130-586e8e871947
Duke (Duke's Magnificent Raiments) - 7f89e3b8-61ef-498b-bd1b-77f996c5ec42
SHADOWHEART
Selunite (Dusky Ensemble) - 79bb5a64-2019-4818-a898-de179b6bc44c
Sharran (Robes of the New Moon) - 8fc09773-7083-466a-8988-e030b6d647e3
KARLACH
Avernus/Avernus Wyll/Avernus Tav (Hot Pants) - 24149d5d-c509-48dc-b026-491c11e60a5c
OTHER
Dark Urge (Grubby Ochre Clothes) - bdc2247f-32a3-4ded-bffc-8aeb770f23d4
Jaheira (Harper Finery) - bdef460b-374e-45d6-86f7-d272a927b380
Minsc (Very Handsome Shirt) - 54c4b72d-0f2d-40be-bab7-c70c5f3adb97
Halsin (Finely Crafted Ensemble) - d873fb44-94c7-4b74-a272-1d2e5e43a7ef
MINTHARA
Drow (Cut-Throat Leather Ensemble) - 9c035563-05ee-47e1-a3e0-e0420a07f534
City (Moonlit Ensemble) - 7d65044d-0d01-44c8-b665-165f0ecc768c
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I got my hair cut the other day and of course I had to draw the dca boys running a hair salon:
Sun would be so effortlessly charming. Always chatting away with customers, explaining each product he uses and how to best maintain and style their hair.
Moon I can see being popular with the less chattier customers (like me) but over time they begin to open up. I imagine he hums while working. Otherwise, he's all ears for the newest gossip.
(The clipped up hat idea came from @bamsara's solar lunacy doodles!)
Also I love the popular headcanon that the dca can speak other languages, so I can imagine them being a hit with the aunties.
The full sketch page under cut! And some of my other thoughts
Other thoughts about this... AU? Can I call it an AU? Feels kinda small for an AU, but whatever:
Eclipse works there too! Haven't decided if it would be canon or fanon Eclipse, though I really like the image of 4-armed Eclipse working on 2 clients at once (plus, the nickname Clip is perfect for this scenario)
of course they're great with kids! They'd be able to console kids that get scared of getting their hair cut. Sun would do a little trick and tell them how good and brave they are all the way through. Moon would console them and hum a soothing song (or hey maybe they notice the kid's wearing a disney shirt and starts humming some showtunes). Every kid gets a candydrop and a balloon on their way out.
y/n works at the hair salon as a part-timer and does tasks around the salon like sweeping, arranging bookings, washing hair, etc. They don't really care too much about their own hair, but the boys are always offering to style it, dye it, braid it. With y/n's permission, the boys always toy with their hair—patting it, combing their hands through it, brushing it over y/n's ear, ruffling it.
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