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mueritos · 2 years

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Seeing like, young transmasc peeps talk about hrt and then getting upset they get masc characteristics other than height and voice deep is uhh genuinely concerning and doesn't make me feel good.

Like when I did T right off the bat I knew I'd end up with lots of body hair and a bit of pudge BC I take after my dad a lot genetically, but I still had a hard time adjusting BC people were giving me crap for getting body hair like??? Which didn't help when adjusting at all. I can say though that I am much happier with myself now than when I was not on T (except for my back hair lol).

I'd have to agree, and it's a large part of why I made the tenderizing post a few months ago. I have to say, for a generation that loves to prove how much they're on their phone and have access to information, they have no media/critical thinking skills or even think to research on their own. Not to "back in my days", but back literally the last 10 years, youtube/forums/articles/blogs were HUGE for knowing about HRT and trans stuff. Nowadays, people only want bite sized information transmitted to them through instagram infographics or tiktok videos.

And I have to say that I've only seen white people act so ignorant toward transitioning and HRT. I have not seen BIPOC trans people who are just so ignorant to their own genetics or about HRT in general. There's also just a huge problem within the community to uphold and love white standards of beauty, on top of the fatphobia, ableism, anti-blackness, racism, etc and etc. The hatred of body hair, of smells, of bodies in general is a Western concept; most cultures outside the US are like yea we all have bodies and it's pretty much accepted that our bodies are weird and fun. Does that mean social purity doesn't exist outside the US? No, but there really is something insidious about the way the colonial mindset in regards to bodies being othered...especially when your body is ALREADY othered...like why would u internalize that onto yourself and others...i dont fucking know its like insanely exhausting at this point

the best we can do is just keep campaigning for media literacy/critical thought, share accessible information, and share as much knowledge as possible, because there is already a LOT out there

#muertoresponds #hrt

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tenaflyviper · 1 year

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I need to talk about something.

Conservatives are in hysterics over "drag shows for kids", and their concern is nothing but a transparent excuse to freely express their bigotry while appearing self-righteous about it.

Now, I believe venues that are not making sure their content is age-appropriate need to reevaluate. HOWEVER, the very few cherry-picked incidents showing kids at these shows (and often including a falsely-labeled clip of what is clearly a topless woman, and which was proven to have come from South America) does NOT prove that this is a widespread thing, nor that drag performers pose any threat to kids. There is also a post circulating claiming a performer exposed himself to children, which is a lie. There were more mass shootings in January alone than incidents of kids at drag shows--does that mean all gun owners are violent? Clearly not.

These people assume anyone criticizing anti-drag legislature somehow wants children to be at adult-oriented performances. No--the problem is that false claims are being made against an already-marginalized community (which has led to an increase in anti-LGBT hate crime), and some of the proposed legislature would criminalize simply being in drag in public, regardless of time or place.

This hysteria led to not only armed protestors showing up to events for children, but a hate group also stormed into one, screaming slurs and accusations at the reader. The kids were in tears--they genuinely thought they were about to be shot, because that's unfortunately something they have to be taught can happen to them now.

Many of these same people are religious, yet never have anything to say about the fact that sexual abuse of kids in churches has been going on for over 400 years--since the first recorded incident in 1629, in Rome--and continues unabated. One recent incident had 28 victims. Imagine how many there have probably been over the course of 4 CENTURIES.

Ironically, these are the men expected to lecture to kids about "morality" from a book that's over 3k years old.

They insist merely seeing a man in drag will "traumatize" kids--but not being made to think they were about to die, right? Kids on TikTok challenge each other to watch Cannibal Holocaust, and these pearl clutchers think men in dresses will destroy them. Zero common sense.

Ultimately, if a child sees something a parent doesn't like, that is 100% the parent's fault. No one is bringing anything to their doorstep.

These people do not care about children if learning that there is not the threat they were led to believe only makes them angrier. They seem to almost WANT kids to be assaulted by drag queens, because it would validate their own personal hatred.

I'm not even going to get into accusations of "grooming", since we all know parents are the most frequent creators of child sexual abuse material, and drag queens make up maybe 3% of the population--and that's being extremely generous. Meanwhile, I've seen 3 people just today conflate drag with being trans, which only exposes their ignorance.

In the end, this is no different than the "Satanic Panic" was. There was never a single incident of ritual sacrifice of children, but they wanted so badly to believe it that they bought into it--literally. It became a multimillion-dollar industry to keep scared, ignorant fools afraid of something that didn't exist. Today's version is circulating lies on social media to get clicks to your monitized account and YouTube videos.

Anyway, drag queens don't deserve this bullshit, and it can't end soon enough.

#TL;DR #they are literally just artists and performers playing a character

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laura-the-locust · 11 months

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I've been doing some thinking about xenophobia, and the limits of tolerance. For the purposes of this post, I'll define xenophobia based on its etymology: it is the fear/distate/hate of otherness.

I have broadened the scope of the definition, because in the end racism, queerphobia, ableism, and many others boil down to one basic concept: "someone is existing in a way that's foreign, and I don't like it."

[The rest under the cutoff, this balooned into an essay]

What is interesting to me, is that there are lots of people who recognize the issue with xenophobia, only to turn around and do it to somebody else. From people who loathe racism, but are homophobes, through LGB folk, to queer people who are disgusted by polyamory. In the end, it seems that they value tolerance, but only up to a point, and the difference is mostly where that border lies.

And on every layer,* there'll be people who point out the similarities: poly people are otherized in the same way trans people are, who are otherized in the same way non-straight people are, et cetera. Because, again, it's all the same thing. Different people have different cutoff points for what they are willing to tolerate.

Or is it really tolerance? Or merely sticking out for yourself? Internalised whatever-phobia aside, a trans man isn't reluctantly allowing for the existence of trans people, he is trans, and has a vested interest in trans rights.

Tolerance is, at least to me, when you don't participate/are something, and maybe it even disgusts you, but you allow for other people to do/be it. For example: my dad is straight, and thinks I'll go to hell for being gay, but he tolerates it, and doesn't bitch and moan that gay people ought to be thrown in jail. He doesn't tolerate me being a trans woman, so he thinks I'm gay when I'm with a guy, and deadnames me.

In my opinion, tolerance requires you do not like the thing you are tolerating. Another example is how one responds to "cringy" behaviour. Are you part of the mob that makes the weird kid from a tiktok the Twitter's main character for the day, or do you simply cringe, shrug, and move on? The latter is tolerance. And the best thing, is that tolerance can be learned! You can train yourself to walk away, even if internally something disgusts you.

So let's bring up the "weird kids" you may have come across on the internet, especially on Tumblr: Xenogender people. Otherkin. Tulpamancers.

A warning light just lit in some of you's heads. "Is she gonna defend them?" First of all, you are the person this post is about and aimed towards, glad you're still around. Second of all, yes and no. Well, yes to xenogenders.

My point is, is that those communities are one of the most controversial, at least from what I saw in the little echo chamber in which I live. I don't really seek them out, they just pop up occasionally when I use the web. But I have seen tons of ridicule come their way, from people at any stage of the tolerance ladder.*

(For this next part, I will assume we all believe xenophobia to be unethical. If you do not, consider this: if punishing Otherness is okay, or even desired, unfortunately for you, you and everyone you love are Other in some way to the Majority. Yes, yes they are. Bigots are extremely good at finding differences to hate, it's their whole thing. Good luck.)

So let's go over what some of those criticisms are:

"Those people believe in something that's unproven, or provably incorrect!" Okay, reddit atheist (not ad hominem, just an insult). While I find the project of encouraging rationality to be important, being wrong isn't a crime, nor should it be. The only circumstances where ignorance should be forcefully fought against, is when it causes the ignorant to do harm. You know, like thinking gay sex causes AIDS.

"But those people are harmful!" Are they? Or does their existence simply make you uncomfortable? You know, like some people don't want black folks around their neighborhood. As stated previously, lack of tolerance is a skill issue on your part.

"But they are harming themselves!" Aha! A valid concern! Let's stop here for a moment.

This sort of starts another topic: what should be the limits of tolerance? Because "being weird" isn't it. Harming others is obviously not to be tolerated.** But with harming of the self, we are going into autonomy territory.

First of, bodily autonomy is, broadly speaking, good. Pursuit of freedom is one of my axioms, and if you think maximizing freedom is not desirable, I cannot have a conversation with you.

But what, if any, should its limits be? Self harm is bad, right? But... why? Well, physical self harm can and often does follow the same mechanism as an addiction, especially when used as a coping mechanism. This means escalation, which may result in permanent injury (which lowers quality of life) or even death (the utility of which is zero at best)(Yes, I am a utilitarian).

Okay, so if self delusion doesn't result in bodily harming yourself or others, it's fine, right? Sure, it's upsetting to think that someone is wrong on the internet, but is it really worth fighting over?

I'd argue that every time you go to someone that has "ghe/ghem | I am the reincarnation of Winston Churchill's cat" in their bio and tell them about how much they are not that, and reincarnation isn't real, or whatever, you are actually doing more harm. That catkin is not changing their mind. Do you honestly think that you are the first person that informed them that gheir views do not find evidence in objective reality? Obviously not! Ghe heard that already most of the times ghe spoke about it to anyone outside gheir community! And all you're doing is adding on to a pile of hate that gathers dust in gheir inbox, and possibly pushes ghem one step closer to doing something really inadvisable, even suicide.

"So what, delusions are okay, as long as you don't harm anyone?" Delusions are something one should work through with one's therapist, not with a NEET*** from Utah who has his own religious trauma he should be dealing with instead.

In conclusion: leave "weird people" alone, don't yuck other's yum if it doesn't influence you, and get a therapist. We all need one these days.

Footnotes:

*People don't always support minorities according to the steps I've laid out, but they usually do. Your non-binary mutual probably isn't racist.

**the specifics on when violence is permissible are a whole doctorate thesis on their own, but the general sentiment stands. Violence usually results in suffering, which is axiomatically bad.

***not hating on NEETs, I'm one myself. But you wouldn't have enough time to hate on christians on reddit if you had a job.

#trans #queer #mental health #in this essay i will #xenophobia #racism #queerphobia #transphobia #otherkin #neopronouns #cringe culture is ableist #ableism #polyamory #this is the most tags I've ever used but this shit is long already so whatever

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transcendentalyouth · 2 years

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I think it's highly concerning that mainstream libfeminism has begun to push the narrative that doing sexwork and being a sexworker is the thing to do if you need a bit of extra money for young women specifically newly adult women (18, 19, & 20). Like the number of jokes and tiktoks and tweets I see regularly of women my age saying that they're thinking about becoming a stripper, an escort, or something else because they think it's an easy way to make money is INSANE. Like first of all those are incredibly dangerous jobs with deep stigma and a lot of times sex workers end up getting killed or thrown in jail over absolutely nothing. Secondly sex work is difficult. You can't just be a stripper randomly that requires effort and a lot of it. Most importantly though I think mainstream lib feminism has decided that because a lot of terfs/radfems criticize sex work means that the sex work industry can't be criticized at all which is such bullshit. Sex workers aren't bad people and no doing sex work doesn't make you bad but the industry itself leaves so many women (especially black and trans women) vulnerable to violence and harassment. People do not understand what is actually necessary to being a sexworker or what kind of vulnerable positions you put yourself in by being one and that's fucking crazy.

Also as an extra, due to the inherent nature of all capitalistic labour's being exploitative, sex work under capitalism will always be exploitative because there can not be any form of consensual sexual exchange if it would not take place without monetary incentive, i.e. all sex work is non consensual meaning it is 1. exploitative 2. morally wrong to participate in as a CONSUMER under a capitalistic framework

Also if any so called gender critical/radical feminists/terfs reblog this I will get your blog nuked I promise <3 die slow

#wren.txt #feminism without teeth is not feminism!!! liberal feminism is so shallow and braindead #marxist feminism

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nycbagcls · 1 year

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sohan pague. he/him. trans man. ›spotted at the met steps , luka kent , most likely listening to gimme! gimme! gimme! by abba with their airpods pro . the twenty-three gained quite a reputation , known to be -cynical yet +kindhearted to anyone who knows them . you'll easily spot them when you hear about a signature denim jacket with pins on the pockets // getting your name right the first time you say it // forcing distance from family in order to find yourself // a seven-figure bank account under a name that’s no longer yours , followed by literally just old spice deodorant . latest nepoupdates article talks about director anthony kent’s middle child, who disowned his family three years ago, is allegedly working at a starbucks on the upper east side , but i guess any reputation is good reputation . ( muse b // subplot 1 )

DEMOGRAPHICS

name: luka kent

age: 23

gender: trans man, he/him

occupation: starbucks barista.

sexuality: bisexual

residence: a three-bedroom apartment shared by five people and two cats on the lower east side

languages: english, minimal french & portuguese

social class: lower, formerly upper

education level: high school diploma, was accepted into nyu, deferred, and didn't end up going.

APPEARANCE

height: 5′6"

build: cuddly, but in shape

hair: brown, always cut short, minimal styling

eyes: hazel

piercings: lobes pierced, purposely doesn't wear.

tattoos: none

PERSONALITY

+ kindhearted, caring, selfless

- cynical, pessimistic, bitter

aesthetics: a signature denim jacket with pins on the pockets // getting your name right the first time you say it // forcing distance from family in order to find yourself // a seven-figure bank account under a name that’s no longer yours // an apartment that may be considered too crowded, but you're never lonely // sending tiktoks to your friends at 2 in the morning // giggling over nonsense // the disillusionment of seeing childhood peers who may or may not recognize you now // gender euphoria, being shirtless at riis beach in the summer

PEOPLE TO KNOW (NPCs unless otherwise noted)

rebecca whitehall-kent, broadway producer mother

anthony kent, director father

older brother (player character, see wc on main)

younger brother (player character, see wc on main)

roommates (player characters, see wc on main eventually lol)

SKILLS, HOBBIES, MISC INFO

hobbies ;; guitar, pottery, has tried his hand at rug making, baking, and embroidery

likes ;; lattes with oat milk in the morning, the way the city is quiet when he's going to work, spending time with his roommates, cats, dogs, traveling (when he can afford it), going to the beach, his testosterone prescription, silly nonsense tiktoks, cuddling, movie nights, youtube video essays

dislikes ;; familial pressures, the excess wealth that's being hoarded by the 1%, societal pressures, the fact that the tabloids won't realize he's not A Kent(tm) anymore, feminine clothing, the fact that you have to pay just as much rent in february as you have to pay in any of the months with 31 days.

style ;; rarely seen without his trademark denim jacket, likes printed button-down shirts, jeans, converse, vans, fisherman's sweaters. you'll rarely see him in anything formal, but if he's forced into a formal situation, he'll rent a suit and tie.

ABOUT

trigger warnings for transphobia // dysphoria // familial neglect // injections

born [REDACTED], he was the only daughter of rebecca and anthony kent, and rebecca was overjoyed to have a little girl to raise into a mirror of her. but luka always knew that he wasn't who his mother wanted him to be, even before he had words for what he was feeling. every time he was forced into a dress, he would throw a fit, causing the family to be late to many a premiere or red carpet event.

as a child, he was in a few of his father's movies as a background or minor character - it was kind of richard's thing, putting his kids in scenes in his films. it was cool, for a while, before it became just another thing he dreaded - being in the movie meant seeing himself looking wrong, and there weren't words to describe how much he hated it.

luka always hated the way that the kents could never go out to dinner, go see a movie, do anything without eyes and cameras on them. he loved new york, don't get him wrong, he still does, but there were days that he wished that they lived anywhere where the paparazzi and rumor mill didn't exist the way it does in the big apple. he's jealous of the people who have never been affected by the severe lack of privacy that he experienced.

as luka grew up, he got access to the internet, and he started finding words for himself. transgender, primarily. the word felt freeing, like he could finally understand why he hated his brothers for the fact that their mother never tried to force them into dresses for premieres, why he hated them for being able to go out and play in the rain and get their clothes all muddy, why they seemed so comfortable in their bodies while luka hated every single second of puberty. he started transitioning socially with peers online when he was sixteen, though he didn't bring it up to his family until he was nearing eighteen, afraid of repercussions.

he was right to fear - as soon as he spoke up, there were a lot of tears shed, primarily from his mother; things about how he'd always be her little girl, and how could he do this to them, and a bunch of other shitty things that he's tried to block out of his memory since then.

that was when he deferred his acceptance to nyu, not sure he wanted to go to college under his deadname, not sure who he wanted to be at all. he knew that there were people talking about him, knew that there were people staring at the back of his head whenever he went out in public, and he hated all of it.

he spent two more years with his family trying to put up with it, but, on his twentieth birthday, he was at his breaking point. he couldn't handle being called [REDACTED] and all of the "she/her"s he got from his mother, couldn't handle the way he looked in the mirror, couldn't handle the way his voice sounded wrong every time he opened his mouth.

luka was on one of his trademark depression walks when he saw a sign on a stoplight pole asking are you searching for roommates? want to live with cool people? must be queer-friendly and like cats and listing a phone number to call. he stared at that sign for way too long, his hand on his phone in his pocket. he dialed the number, made the call, and had agreed to move in by the next week.

packing up all of the few things he loved, luka moved into his current apartment on the lower east side within the week. it was also that week that he found himself a job at a starbucks, and took the last chunk of money out of his old bank account that he would ever use - a down payment on his top surgery, and the first payment for his new testosterone prescription. he took his first shot surrounded by his roommates (and new best friends), and he hasn't looked back since. this life is the one he's chosen, and he may be poor, but he's happy.

GOSSIP

director anthony kent’s middle child, who disowned his family three years ago, is allegedly working at a starbucks on the upper east side

this is true and luka has no shame about it at all. it pays his portion of the rent & utilities and allows for some additional cash to spend on things he'd like to do, like his pottery classes. they also have gender affirming care covered, so he's planning on working there for the foreseeable future.

CONNECTIONS

roommates — ( luka lives with two queer couples on the lower east side. they have two cats. this is very much a found family relationship; the five of them are ride or die and they have been since they met luka three years prior. they could have known each other for longer, though!. ) // 0/4

friends (present) — ( they've only known luka post-disowning his family and his transition. they're also a support system for him, though not as close as his roommates are. they're the people who get invited over after drag shows, for movie nights, for early morning pancakes and coffee on luka's days off ) //

friends (past) — ( they knew luka before he was luka. they cared about him, but he always seemed a little closed off, more distant than others. it was rare to see him truly smile, let alone laugh. they haven't spoken regularly in three years. ) //

not the kid you once knew — ( actors on his father's films! luka knew them all from his trips to set as he was growing up, and they may have thought they knew him, too, because he put on a happy face, even though he was dying inside. they may not recognize him if they see him on the street now. ) //

family friends — ( friends of his parents' kids. they spent a lot of time as kids together. they haven't heard from him at all in the past three years. ) //

muse a (see subplot page on the main)

brothers (wc tbd)

#nepofm.intro #meet luka he ALSO needs therapy !!#but unlike jalen and aleksander luka actually gets therapy

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virginiadre · 2 years

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Where are we headed?

(Image taken by Lindsey Lamont)

Spring of 2022 didn't see flowers blooming nor the blowing of fresh, cool breeze giving a nice day out for picnic; what we witnessed instead was a mass cyber onslaught rimmed with absurdity. The culmination of the MeToo movement facing a dead end; all because the judicial system relies on the personal opinions posted on a cyber space in what the world acknowledges as the dumbest sector of humanity. Stan culture is brain rot as we know but that's a topic for another day.

Now let's take a pause and wonder, did MeToo truly ever hit off with a genuine approach or was it always the sheep following the social media whistle to trend it. Those few years of feeling good about joining a cause for justice was merely a phase of rebellion, not for taking matters into own hands and striving for a better environment. That seriousness was never there. Instead however, we have recently been making way for the most shallow people who make sure to tune in and offer their takes/viewpoints on what abuse is. When confronted, they themselves have no clue nor understanding of the mechanics of an abusive relationship, and the victim's behaviour, itself. A hot-headed crowd inhaling helium but not bothering to thoroughly read into what they're angry about in the first place.

Quite recently, a woman came forward on a popular media app, TikTok, to confess how she was abused by her male partner. Sadly, the comments were filled with pointed fingers, claiming that after everything they've superficially noticed with this celebrity trial, trusting any woman could be tricky now. Goodness, almost as if that flop actor's forced request to publically broadcast this trail (which has never happened anywhere else) won't have any severe consequences. They're never just celebrities when the crowd choses to live through them as the moral elites.

My question: Why is it so hard for us to grasp that men do despise women, are capable of being evil, and will resort to demonic tactics to ensure their downfall and humiliation? Time is over for coddling the wrong crowd's ego. "Not all men", whatever man if the shoe doesn't fit then it doesn't, but this isn't about you. In fact, because we're letting cis men invade and speak over whatever account a woman has to confess regarding her experience of misogyny, the necessary talks for feminism progressing have been reduced into a pathologized taboo or considered "exclusive". As such, the important words and terminologies have been picked up by extremists and transphobes instead, creating a wedge, an alienated space between sex-based crimes and attack on trans lives. One bigger problem after the next, we are severely regressing and I only see a bittersweet end.

I know the standard motto, abuse has no race or religion or gender which is true. But what is also true is that misogyny has not left the plane of this earth, in fact it's volatile increase is baffling our previous generation who fought hard for women's rights. It's the 80s again, it's O.J. Simpson rewinded, where we are gaslighting women for having a spine and a fierce attitude against their abusers. Not trusting the tongue of an abused woman anymore is due result no thanks to the backlash on MeToo. Think about it? Repeating sexist, stereotypical accusations, more commonly used by conservatives, against any woman who speaks up now is going to divide us much further. Guys, catering to the scared, fragile egos of men is not going to step to progress by the way.

The dire consequences of neglecting your responsibilities to the community will catch on, my words of warning in this final note.

#terfs DNI #radfems DNI #feminism #my writing #amber heard

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mrsfrecklesmarauders · 2 years

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Aro / Ace / Aroace representation in The Marauders Fandom

First of all I'm not here to invalidate your headcanons or force you my own personal ones. You can headcanon any sexuality for any character. I'm just here to give my opinion.

The Marauders Fandom is known to be filled with queer people. We love The Marauders and give them our own struggles as queer people in a very yet heteronormative world that fits everyone into a gender role. We had found our comfortable place here.

As an Aromantic Asexual, I feel the The Marauders Fandom is lacking of Aromantic and Asexual representation. Or is very bad. At least in the side of the fandom I am used to.

We talk about Gays, Lesbians, Bis, Pans, Trans, Non Binary, Genderfluid characters. And we love creating headcanons about them.

And there's Aro Ace / Ace Peter.

Most of the fans that I've seen on TikTok, Tumblr and other platforms headcanon Peter in the ace espectrum. And that's totally fine. But as an aroace person, I really don't feel very well represented with Peter.

Peter is the most hated Marauder, because he betrayed his friends. Peter is usually portrayed as dull, onedimensional, someone who interacts too little with the rest of the Marauders. Even ATYD, the most popular Marauders fanfic now a days, doesn't make Peter a complex character. Remus, Sirius, James and the Marauders Girls, even Regulus have rich story lines, they experience relatable things, they have a back ground, personal problems, insecurities and such. Not Peter. He feels like a side character most of the time, or isn't even there.

Also, there's another side of Peter that I've seen a lot too. A phsyco Peter that murders Marlene and ends up betraying everyone because he felt powerful or he secretly hated them.

Now imagine being an Aro / Ace / Aroace Marauders fan and seeing that the most common representation is in this character. A dull character that everyone hates or don't care about, or a phsycopath.

For me, it just feels like Aromanticism and Asexuality are being invalidated. It feels like people put Peter into this spectrum just to include it, just as a default, because every other character is so rich and complex to be asexual or aromantic.

And we love to create more and more queer head canons . Pan James, Bi James, Bi Lily, Bi Remus, Gay Remus, Trans Remus, Nonbinary Dorcas, Pan Sirius, Genderfluid Sirius, Lesbian Marlene, Bi Mary, Trans Sirius, Trans James, Pan Regulus, Bi Regulus, Gay Regulus etc. But not about Peter. Peter is ace by default. Or at least that's what I feel.

Again if you headcanon Peter as ace, aro or both, that's completely valid. But we need to start having good representation in an Ace Peter. The struggles, the confusion, the fear of not being "normal" or not fitting in, perhaps Peter trying to have allosexual relationships and not being able to. You know what a mean? A complex character with a good story line that has the aro/ace/ aroace experiences. Not just a dull secondary character that everyone hates or ignores.

I personally don't headcanon Peter as aroace. I have my other personal headcanons. Trying to find comfort and representation for my sexuality and identity.

I don't know if other Aro / Ace / Aro Ace Marauders fans feel this way, but I feel like we need better representation in headcanons and fics. With Peter or any other character.

Thank you very much, have good day.

#maraudersera #marauders headcanon #marauders #harry potter #all the young dudes #peter pettigrew #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro pride #ace pride #aroace apride #aroace peter #lgbtq #lgbtq headcanons #lgbtq characters

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transmascissues · 2 years

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i'd get screamed off of tumblr if i said this not on anon but

the people yelling that trans men/transmascs aren't oppressed (including and especially baaeeddeells... however you spell it, those people) are just drinking radfem biological essentialism koolaid, except changing it from biological essentialism to gender essentialism. THAT'S NOT BETTER

oh you're 100% right

they take all the transmisogynistic shit that te/rfs say to them, turn it against trans men and transmascs, and call that "fighting transmisogyny" just because it's not technically transmisogyny anymore when they do it

but in reality, all they're actually doing is spreading the rhetoric even more instead of trying to get rid of it, which in turn also helps the te/rfs continue using it because suddenly a bunch of people see that rhetoric as Good™️ as long as they're not super blatant about their hatred of trans women

it literally helps no one, it just makes it easier for a lot of the more subtle te/rfs to get away with being openly ter/fy by normalizing their rhetoric AND further isolates trans men and transmascs by positioning us as the "enemy" and giving "allies" permission to shit on us, making violence against us far easier to get away with too

and the thing is, i totally get why it makes people defensive when we say that - it never feels good to hear that you sound like the people who have done horrible things to you or people like you. and i'd definitely never advocate for just straight up calling any trans woman or transfem a terf, no matter how weirdly essentialist they get

but like...you HAVE to be open to hearing how you might've internalized the rhetoric of your oppressors and turned it into lateral aggression against others in your community. that accountability is vital to any fight for liberation, and it's absolutely ridiculous that people get harassed and run off of platforms for pointing out when that kind of lateral aggression is happening

i had people tell me i sounded like a te/rf when i did transmasc advocacy more often on tiktok, and i saw a lot of other people making content like mine get the same criticisms too. and yeah, it felt like shit! i hated hearing that! but even though i ended up realizing most of what they were saying was just an effort to get us to shut up, there were some valid points hidden in the BS, and it made me stop and really think about what i was doing for a while before i could keep making that content. i changed some things and thought about things in different ways and the advocacy i do is better for that. because as shitty as it feels to be told something like that, you have to really ask yourself why people are saying that and take accountability for the parts that end up being true, no matter how much it sucks to realize they are true

repurposing oppressive rhetoric against other oppressed people doesn't help anyone - it's ineffective as advocacy because it's just perpetuating the oppressive rhetoric, and it makes things worse for the other oppressed people it targets. you can't fight for one group of trans people while leaving other trans people in the dust, and you certainly can't fight for one while weaponizing oppressive rhetoric against the other - our oppression is all intertwined, and as a result, so is our liberation

#ask answered #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #trans men #transmascs

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bioodorange · 3 years

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||Pastas As Men In Skirts||

You are valid no matter what gender you are

Your sexuality is valid

You are a human being and you matter

Clothing doesn't have a gender- just how it's cut

Wear what makes you happy 💕

Jeff The Killer

So I stand by my opinion jeff has internalised bi/homophobia, so he doesn't comment much on sexuality

But he will be very vocal about trans rights (and umbrella terms like enbies or genderfluids)

I feel his wardrobe is a big jumble of different clothing, like he has 5 inch heels but can't find a plain t-shirt for the life of him

We wouldn't outwardly wear super glamourous outfits, mostly because he's to lazy

But let's say he's going out for something besides man slaughter I can see him vibing in a skirt and some hot topic stockings

Also keep in mind this bitch is TALL so that just means more awesomeness to go around

I feel he grew up in a house with alot of toxic masculinity and I'd tries to be very striaght forward about how he feels

Gender is a construct

Here's the skirt he'd wear

Eyeless Jack

He probably hears about all the debate from ben or Toby or some shit

And he's like?? Why does it matter it's just clothes

He looks into it and just gets more confused

Why do people care so much??

So the next day he wears a skirt

And low-key vibes with it

"I feel so free"

*sways his hips to watch the skirt fly around*

Jack doesn't give two shits about gender or sexuality or anything

Like ok and?? Why should I care who you wanna date

He'd wear this

Simple yet fierce

Toby

Toby is a tiktok addict

And he sees it one day and goes crazy

He browses for hours before finding "the one"

He shaves so he can look his best and show off his legs

Halfway through he'd realize he didn't have shoes nice enough

So he'd steal Ben's boots-

When it arrives he fuckin dies and goes upstairs to try it on

He ends up spending hours up there trying to find the best outfit

Steals a hoodie from jeff, crops it and makes a fabulous outfit

This skirt is mwah, perfect for him

He'd also whip people with the chains and swing em around, somehow whack someone in the eye

Brian Thomas

So this man agreed with the contraversy at FIRST

and then he saw how amazing Toby look in so he started looking into it

Was low-key surprised at how many different fuckin options there were

He liked the more simpler ones, pleats and dark colors

When he got it he was in shock like holy shit I look good-

Took a few epic pictures and decided to wear it for the rest of today

He got around one or two more and doesn't usually wear them but as soon as someone brings it up, he goes upstairs to put one on.

Bonus ✨...woman in suits

Jane the Everlasting

Jane finds it annoying how upset people can get about OTHER PEOPLE dressing up

She usually dresses in a hyper feminine style and this sparked her to for something different

Would most likely stay with her usual monochrome style and would want that little extra something so, boom

No, I don't take constructive criticism

Clockwork

Natalie isn't one to dress super feminine

But there's still this feminine, strong energy about her

So she obviously go for something with her suit

Powerful, a classic but with a twist

Boom

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yo I just saw a tiktok abt unpopular trans opinions(?) and one of them was that trans men r the reason nbphobia and fatphobia r an issue in the trans community and there was like no explanation and the comments were just agreeing w the tiktok w no mention of that opinion so uh? idk why im the reason for those problems but idk how I'm supposed to understand when there was no reason given uhh kinda just made me confused and feel like shit :/ u got any context?

unfortunately i do know why they're saying this (although that doesn't mean it's not bullshit, as i'm sure you could guess)

presumably they're referring to tru-sc-um/tra-nsm-eds, a group that is both (depressingly) majority trans men and undeniably nbphobic and transphobic

among other things, they tend to accuse pretty much all nonbinary people of not being trans (or "trans enough", for the ones who claim they think being nonbinary is real but then always seem to think nonbinary people are "doing it wrong") and demonize trans people with body types/features they don't like, which included pretty much all fat trans people

that said, turning that into "trans men are the reason the trans community has nbphobia and fatphobia problems" is obviously a ridiculous leap in logic for a number of reasons:

trans men (and transmascs) were also largely the targets of these people! their beliefs stem primarily from internalized transphobia, so they love attacking people who have the traits they're insecure about, and most of the people that ends up fucking over are other trans guys and transmasc people. that's not to say they never attacked other trans people, but the majority of it was directed at other trans men and transmascs. i know they absolutely fucking HATED me when i was more active in that whole discourse, and they're a big part of the reason a lot of trans men are just now feeling comfortable identifying as such again after being pushed out of the community by people like that

while they tend to be trans men, it's not 100%, and honestly i don't know how people get away with claiming that given people like blaire white who definitely have enough of a platform to dispel that myth. it definitely wouldn't be fair or accurate to deny that the majority are trans men, but that doesn't mean the others don't exist, and claiming they don't just allows them to keep spreading the exact same nbphobic fatphobic generally shitty rhetoric without being challenged in the same way

nonbinary trans men and fat trans men exist??? like obviously internalized nbphobia and fatphobia are a thing and that can turn into lateral aggression, but even in those cases, it's internalized because the issue already existed and then they internalized it, so acting like it's their fault is ridiculous, and acting like it's the fault of those who don't even participate in the lateral aggression to begin with is even worse. when you say nbphobia and fatphobia in the trans community are trans men's faults, you equally blame fat and/or nonbinary trans men just as much as thin and/or binary trans men for those issues, and it should be very obvious how that's fucked up

at the end of the day, their beliefs never wouldn't gained a foothold in the community if nbphobia and fatphobia weren't already issues. the reason they're issues in the community is because they're issues everywhere because nbphobia and fatphobia are systemic, and more specifically because the trans community includes binary and thin people who are inevitably going to harbor those beliefs to some extent. it feels almost minimizing to the issues to blame them entirely on trans men because they're far bigger issues than anything our community could create on our own. it also seems minimizing in the sense that, by saying we're the reason it's a problem in the trans community, it sort of implies that those weren't already issues in virtually every community (which they were because that's what systemic means)

it also just doesn't really make sense to reduce everything that trans/medi/calism is down to just the nbphobia and fatphobia. those are definitely big parts and should be talked about, but it's a very specific ideology and when you ignore that part, you ignore how dangerous that ideology is. even if they didn't use nbphobia and fatphobia to support it, their push to make transness even more medical than it already is (and as a result force a whole lot of trans people into the closet) is super fucking dangerous - especially when they push for lowkey eugenicist shit like finding biological markers to "test for transness", which i can almost guarantee would be used to force trans people to detransition, put kids into conversion therapy before they've even said they're trans (if they are at all), and even abort "trans fetuses". acting like the nbphobia and fatphobia they display are the only dangerous part of what they do just makes the other aspects even more dangerous

at the end of the day, yeah, all the damage tra-nsm-eds/tru-scum have done and continue to do isn't something trans men can just push away and never acknowledge - members of our community did a LOT of that damage and if we forget that, we let it continue happening unchallenged - but turning that into "trans men are the reason nbphobia and fatphobia exist in the trans community" is blatantly inaccurate, and i have to imagine it's done knowingly and in bad faith pretty much every time trans man to detransition and live in the closet, a next best thing is to get that trans man to do that to other trans people. there's an undeniable pattern of trans men who fall into te/rf circles being convinced by those te/rfs and their existing tra-nsm-ed/tru-sc-um buddies to embrace trans/-medi/calism. of course, those that fall for it are still responsible for their actions, but that doesn't mean we should ignore the role that others have played. the damage they've done is often an extension of the damage other parties have done, not just its own unique thing that they alone can be held responsible for

at the end of the day, yeah, all the damage tra-nsm-eds/tru-sc-um have done and continue to do isn't something trans men can just push away and never acknowledge - members of our community did a LOT of that damage and if we forget that, we let it continue happening unchallenged - but turning that into "trans men are the reason nbphobia and fatphobia exist in the trans community" is blatantly inaccurate

personally, i believe the reason people do this is because 1) it's just another way to demonize all trans men as "evil privileged men who should just shut up", and 2) they know they can get away with it because that is already the predominant image of us in many people's minds and that means they won't question the accusations against us

#transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #trans men #transmascs

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