#haven't heard those yet

[heeliopheelia]

no cause i've just listened to sweet venom and it sounds so... generic to me 🧍

ever since tamed-dashed enhypen hasn't put out a comeback that i actually enjoyed 👀

#PLS DON'T HATE ME #the song is just so underwhelming to me #and so short #okay blessed cursed was alright #but you won't find me coming back to it more than twice a year bro #didn't like bite me #same with pass the mic #idk *sigh* what's wrong with me guys #i loved the previous songs tho they were so different!! #DRUNK DAZED WAS A MASTERPIECE #loved tamed dashed though it might be an unpopular opinion #given taken was a masterpiece #idk maybe it will grow on me (i hardly doubt so tho) #STILL LOVE ENHA DON'T GET ME WRONG #and i'm talking about main tracks only not the bsides #haven't heard those yet #although they're besides are always 50-50 with me #hmm idk we'll see #SWEET VENOM JUST SOUNDS KINDA LOW BUDGET TO ME WHY AM I LIKE THIS L #ill take the L for that one guys im not even gonna argue #cause ive seen most of you really like it 🫶 #it's just that ive literally heard songs that sound like that probably 71 times

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[impossiblebeararcade]

reading lotr for the first time and today i got to the part where frodo sold bag end to the sackville-bagginses??????? i could never have predicted this. i was in class and i audibly gasped and closed the book. i was absorbed in the book and it shocked me back to reality. i can’t believe this.

#and listen i've heard tolkien likes to ramble but dear god why are we spending so much time traveling from bag end to frodos new house #i am enjoying reading it #i like the character interactions and it's cute and all #but what the fuck #they haven't left the shire yet #i'm not complaining or bored or anything but as a first time lotr reader #this is a lot #i cant wait to meet faramir #i love him in the movies and i heard he's even better in the books #but i just went from rereading pjo to starting lotr and it's a big difference in writing styles and readability #lotr #lord of the rings #those goddamn sackville baggins

[satanfemme]

I have a job interview tomorrow (cringe job. not a job I want. fail employer). wags my tail so so sadly.

#I've applied to a few jobs I'd actually like maybe but they haven't gotten back to me yet :-( #gonna reach out again to one of those at the end of this week if I haven't heard from them again by them

[wolfsbanesparks]

I do not know if you read Forever Evil but it had a version of Lex Luthor who was the Earth-3 Shazam, Mazahs. I actually prefer the idea of an Earth-3 Captain Marvel being Alexander Luthor Jr instead, as a reference to the "child with an adult form" thing Billy has going on. Also he would get his powers from an evil version of the wizard, but would still be heroic. This is mainly as a joke that somethings are universal constants: like the wizard's sometimes poor judge of character, see Black Adam and Oggar. What do you think?

I don't think I've read that one!

But I think it's always interesting to see how other characters would deal with having the powers of Shazam (especially younger characters) so I would be on board with seeing what Alexander Luthor Jr. would do with the power!

And yeah, the Wizard's judgement isn't always the best but there is something so charming about the idea that an evil wizard gave this kid powers but the kid became a hero anyways. It makes for quite a fascinating origin story!

#ask me whatever you want y'all #shazam #dc captain marvel #alexander luthor jr #mazahs #lots of possibilities with this one #I've heard of mazahs before but I haven't read those comics yet (still trying to catch up on all the other ones lol) #but it's definitely on the list!

[cronenfag]

ur rad and ur music taste slaps and we should talk music and/or more about homestuck sometime :3

(sorry if this is random lolz)

hii thank you my awesome mutual <3 i'm kinda socially tired atm but i'd love to reach out sometime

#yr a very specific mutual of mine... my nine inch nails AND homestuck mutual. pfp is crazy. #to be fair i have like four other of those but they're either my friends or people i followed specifically for homestuck #if yr old url was a joy division reference and not specifically nin then yr also my joy division mutual #tbh there's music i like that i just don't post abt or listen to on a platform where it's visible😞 #don't ask me what tho. not bc i'm a poser but bc i haven't heard every song yet #i'd post my spotify here but it's so unfinished. working on it i prommy #you should dm me yr discord if that's okay ^_^ #asks

[braceletofteeth]

tag someone you want to know and/or some of your besties.

I was tagged by @fourth-quartet 😊 Thank you!!

favourite colour: Gray but I'm currently in a brown phase

last song: I've got recently reacquainted with Beginner by AKB48 😄

last series: The Kidnapping Day. It was a lot more wholesome than the name suggests.

last movie: Saw X (surprisingly also a lot more wholesome than you'd expect????)

sweet/savoury/spicy: Sweet :3

currently watching:

Koisenu Futari

Chains of Heart

The Golden Girls (season 1)

Love in the Air (2nd rewatch)

other stuff I watched this year: Not listing all of it here (I've never watched so much stuff as I did in 2023), but I'll mention the ones that I enjoyed watching the most from each month so far (*not including rewatches):

JAN: Wednesday

FEB: GAP

MAR: Not Me

APR: Tick, Tick... Boom!

MAY: Utsukushii Kare

JUN: Tale of the Nine-Tailed 1938

JUL: Takin' Over The Asylum

AUG: Marry My Dead Body

SEP: Utsukushii Kare: Eternal

OCT: The Sandman

shows I dropped this year/didn't finish: I barely remember the ones I watched till the very end 🤡 But ok, let me see...

Eve (dropped after one episode; Rich People and their Rich People Problems™, I think was the reason)

A few straight GMMTV shows that I didn't really catch the name (I. Well. I just. I just couldn't make myself give a fuck, ok 😔)

+ Currently deliberating whether or not I should drop Chains of Heart. All the subtitles I've found are lacking in terms of coherence, and the story itself is already not the most straightforward, so I can only hope I'm understanding what's going on at all? 😀 And I'm also not feeling the main couple from either the present nor the past (? I suspect they are the same (but I may never know))... HOWEVER, I like the acting of the main, and the Thai scenario that is not Bangkok for once. That's always refreshing. And sometimes the cinematography is pretty too... Decisions, decisions...

currently listening to: Back for More by TXT & Anitta (I went after the link for it and distractedly searched for "banger" instead of the title 😆)

currently reading: Codename Villanelle (it's a small book but I'm. ..struggle)

current obsession: I'm not obsessing over anything at the moment 😟☹😫 Have been too busy with mundane adult life problems (therefore, as you can imagine, I'm just about going up the walls here :))

tagging: @eatprayworm @thisautistic @hyp-no-tic @visualtaehyun hi 👋

#tag game #it's one of those weeks when I feel like my old acquaintances might be sick of me already #SO I tagged some people I think might be really cool but haven't directly approached yet #you know. for maximum anxiety #I've lost many songs over the years (it's never safe to have only one copy of them; thankfully I can afford more now) #the first time I found Beginner (as a pre-teen) I just downloaded it randomly listened to it and liked it so much I decided to keep it?? #oh to be young and not care about stuff like viruses or managing your time #at some point while writing this post I finished watching Ko¡senu Fut@ri #10/10 no notes #(lies. there are notes. dozens and dozens of reblogs just waiting for me to spread them all over your dashboards in the near future) #tick tick boom was quite nice... for a musical #(not a fan of musicals so to have one on my list is. wild) #already four months since the Lee brothers left me 😪 #and I haven't heard a word about LDW's new drama in MONTHS. actively gnawing the bars of my cage rn #OH OH WAIT I ALMOST FORGOT #SPECIAL MENTION TO <SUMMER STRIKE> IN MAY #if my other option wasn't Utsukush¡i fricking K@re I wouldn't even hesitate. but. it was #and everyone knows I'm not normal about this one 😀🙂 #if anyone wants to advocate in favor of Ch@ins of Heart. please. I'm all ears. is it worth it? #uhh. I'm not gonna disclose much but it's true I'm under a lot of stress lately. there is a lot going on right now. #I might not be able to watch new shows/be around tumblr while I (try to) sort my shit out #just a quick heads up 👍

[timegears-moved]

i think one of my favourite implications from the pokemon anime is that all of the nurse joys and officer jennys have individual names but they're all called joy and jenny by the public for literally no fucking reason

#bwark #like that jenny girl with the luxray from dp #or those two joy sisters from the drifloon episode of dp #and i like i said earlier i haven't watched hz003 yet but ive heard mollie has some sort of connection to them sooooooo #or at the very least it's been sort of implied so far

[c6jpg]

lol if true that kaveh hack really does not do any favors for hyv's already shit security reputation

#apparently it's only in the CN servers which are likely built differently but like. that's ur home turf boi #0.txt #tldr; for those who haven't heard yet #apparently someone was able to hack kaveh's skillsets to delete assets from OTHER people's worlds in co-op #because they are apparently not recoverable by reinstalling that means they are deleting server-side assets tied to the player's account #which is just like. really bad lol

[the-yearning-astronaut]

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#oh the longer i go without hearing from my preferred grad school #the more my heart sinks #especially since they usually have offer letters out by the end of Jan #AND they interview prospective students on their short list before they send those offer letters out #and im HOPING i haven't heard anything from them yet because the applications are taking longer to go through #idk #im trying to stay positive but its jan 26th and i haven't heard a thing #based on how upset i am just thinking about not getting in..... #if i get a condolences letter i sure hope it's on a day I don't have work #i just want to research titan and Enceladus 😭 #and i want to have a large enough stipened that I don't have to pick up a second job while also learning and researching and TAing lol #fuck im tired of being in limbo #☉ #tbd

[theres-no-better-love]

Lately I have started listening to Tom's solo stuff and Ava, I haven't heard most of it until now. Maybe I am not right about this but it seems to me that his songs that are the most direct and coherent might be written about real people and situations in his life, that's at least how it sounds to me, and some of the less coherent songs might mostly be him being artsy and experimental.

#ava #tom delonge #angels & airwaves #mt #I heard #Saturday love #I'm sorry but that sounds like it's about... #someone #or about his then wife #but still those two people are the choices #also #my heroine #maybe there are more that I haven't heard yet

[britishchick09]

senpai's radio recordings and a hope for the future! :) (from 'gentleman giant')

#robert wadlow #robert wadlow trash #a fascinating part that i didn't really notice before! :o #i wonder if the recordings are still in the family... #whn is a station in new jersey so there are two recordings we haven't heard yet! #the last part about gathering his things is foreshadowing of the alton museum! ;) #a replica of his ring is shown but not the others #i thought they burned almost everything but it looks like a lot was spared! #i also wonder if those are out there somewhere... #i know one of his books is! (the yearling) ;) #also this year is the 80th anniversary of gg! :D

[autumnsup]

Source: Rolling Stone India Sep 3 2019. Photo: Alexandra Gavillet.

Guess who just got tickets to see this guy for the first time live in concert? 🤩 I'm already planning what to wear and the concert isn't until next spring. 😂 Rainbow pants, mismatched patterns, and animal ears I can do, but I draw the line at Crocs. 🫠

#so excited! #Jacob Collier is one of those people who I look at and think HOW #ARE YOU A HUMAN BEING RIGHT NOW ON PLANET EARTH #AND NOT SOME EXTRATERRESTRIAL SENT TO BLESS US WITH YOUR VIBES #if y'all haven't heard Little Blue from his latest album you should listen right now because it's lovely #the funny thing is I haven't yet listened to all of his Djesse albums but based on videos I've seen his live concerts are an EXPERIENCE #hope I'm not jinxing myself with this one (I've had so many concerts canceled on me since 2020 it's not even funny) #Jacob Collier! #live in concert!

[theinfinitedivides]

my f*cking God he's done it again!!!!!!

#ben howard #is it? #RADIATION OF THE CHERENKOV KIND!!!!!!!! #I'D WAIT FOREVER IF THEY GAVE ME ENOUGH TIME!!!!!!!! #just got through with listening to the full album and holy f*ck. holy f*ck #Days of Lantana. Moonraker. Richmond Avenue. Spirit. #those are my top four off of this come hell or high water every other song fits somewhere in between #do not get me started on how wild Interim of Sense is musically but it works. somehow it f*cking works i don't understand #Total Eclipse is so eerily unnerving as an interlude and still so beautiful to listen to #and the absolute genius that is having Walking Backwards fade out and lead into DOL??????? hello??????? #honorable mention to Life in the Time and Little Plant but uh. DOL is that bitch. i listened to the promo snippet so many times #i started crying when the intro started #i don't know what he put in that song but it is quite possibly the best thing he's written lyrically #Rookery's poetic equivalent from Whiteout on this album even. f*cking insane he is #MAYBE IN A RARE WIND!!!!!!!! MAYBE IN A MONTH OF SUNDAYS!!!!!!!! #MAYBE IN A WAR I'D STILL READ THE WRONG SIGNS!!!!!!!! #anyway this is your cue to get your ass on Spotify/YouTube/whatever the f*ck you use to listen to music #and stream this immediately. literally immediately what are you doing why haven't you heard this man yet

[astrxealis]

really want to read more and more literature (esp classics!) aghhhh yesterday iirc i was on a walk with my mom and twin and an old guy (not a weirdo dw) who was jogging or walking too actually asked what book i was carrying and it's a little funny bcs uhm he just went "oh a classic!" you see. i was carrying dante's inferno. which i still haven't properly started to read but anyways he might... if my mom is right... be the local parish guy so oopsies !! LMAO anyways yeah really interested in lovecraft for a while now! horror scares me and gives me paranoia but i also enjoy the writing of it? and i remember once that something/someone said my writing is kinda similar to his. hm.

#⋯ ꒰ა starry thoughts ໒꒱ *·˚ #i never talk about literature here but hi i grew up reading books and i really love literature. both fiction and non-fiction! admittedly i #less prefer modern books because i prefer classics and all that? and i kinda fucking hate people who only like boring and/or famous #literature lmfao fuck you but anyways putting my bitterness aside! arthur conan doyle with 'sherlock' of course & 'a dream within a dream' #dazai with 'no longer human' is something i think i'll really enjoy reading one day as well and hmm #i never properly read 'lord of the rings' despite my relative having the books and i borrowed it once? but didn't make the time to actually #read it unfortunately :(( 'the great gatsby' is something i also have yet to read and then jane austen's works! #and then. louisa may alcott ... i asked my mom right now about her books that we have/had and i did not fucking know we had #'little women' all this time holy shit. i remember reading 'a modern cinderella' but also i am unsure now... but yeah. that/those too! #shakespeare's works are of course a must-read hehe we do have 'the tempest' and i've read a couple of his works but only a little bit #either based off the knowledge i just. know. or for school back then! but yeah. you probably know his works already lmao <3 #and then uhmm 'phantom of the opera' we have now as well! bought it alongside yk. 'the tempest' 'inferno' 'paradise lost & regained' #a few months ago but tbh i haven't made it very far in reading any of them yet but i really want to sometime! and learn more guitar! #and get back to playing piano and also finish and play more games but anyways. yes. #george orwell's books! we have a few if i'm not mistaken (love my family fr) i really want to read them. my dad keeps recommending #his works for us to read. especially 'animal farm' but i've heard '1984' is really good. i also really want to read more of narnia! #only ever read the first book and wow it meant a lot to me tbh? with. growing up and all. and then i read a bit of another book hmm. #'to kill a mockingbird' was something i have wanted to read since i read 'the hunger games' as a kid because i for some reason connected #the two in a way because of the word mockingbird. and then uh other books that i don't think are as... classics. idk what are classics tbh. #BUT okay yeah i still haven't read 'a monster calls' but i know it made my twin and mom cry! and then 'the fault in our stars' we have but #i also haven't read it... haven't read the witcher books either and then george r. r. martin's stuff. tbf i'm not an adult yet so lmfao. #'the hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy' i know my dad really wants to read and i know my tita has it but i'm not completely sure if we have #it ourselves too now? but yeah. really interested in that book as well. and then i have yet to read 'frankenstein' and then i'd love to #reread books from my childhood from authors like roald dahl !! and then man i should read more from #neil gaiman ... i've read his short stories? and a book. or few. i can't really remember. #anyways. okay. running out of tags but i really love literature ..... <3 #also want to read more of modern literature tbh! the ones that are actually good tho <33

[jakeperalta]

so I can get borderline soft porn and horny poetry blazed onto my dash every single day and yet tumblr has flagged my taylor as daisy jones edit as restricted despite it not containing a single hint of any of the community labels..........

#like i am tired of seeing people's near naked selfies!!! i don't want to read about how a man is looking for someone to impregnate!!!! #and yet tumblr will happily blaze those posts #i appealed it but haven't heard anything which isn't surprising #given that I've had 3 edits totally hidden from view for being flagged since literally 2015 #talking