#i think i was a horrible person and i refuse to engage with that mentality again no matter what it takes.

[eriexplosion]

The thing is that I do think Tech is alive, because I think that the complete lack of actual onscreen closure is downright incompetent if he's not and these writers are not incompetent. But despite this belief, I don't think they should have done the plot like this. At all.

If he's dead, then we basically dropped our autistic character off a bridge for no reason. Nothing was accomplished on the mission, nobody's character arc is affected, the whole entire plot line of reuniting the family we spent two seasons on is nuked for ~drama~, and we spent a bunch of season 2 screentime on things that would never go anywhere. The writers refuse to engage with the loss on any interesting level because the death was sooooo important to do but not so important to spend any of our season 3 screentime on dealing with the fallout.

If he's alive, then we spent a full year marinating fans in a bunch of stress because of the disposability of autistic characters in media, jerking people around with vague hints and dangling Tech in front of everyone while every discussion about it turns into a toxic waste dump. Nobody is benefiting from this, it's literally just a horrible stew of people treating each other like shit over blorbo opinions. Plus some fun autistic panic on the side because the thought of him actually being dead and having to see people constantly praise yet another autistic character's completely pointless shock value death as sooooo meaningful and special makes me nauseous.

So like, I'm enjoying season three, it's been fun and they've done great things with Crosshair's arc that as a Crosshair Fan I've been thriving on. But like, as an autistic person the cloud of the Tech Situation is going to hang over the whole thing until we get some resolution or the series fucking ends and I get to decide what I'm going to mentally write out. And I would prefer to have skipped that whole portion of it.

#the bad batch #the bad batch spoilers #tbb spoilers #fandom salt #I will be normal again tomorrow hopefully it's just been kind of a shit day of being talked down to and I'm tired of the Takes

[almdragonrend]

What I think about shipps in my next life as a Villainess

1 Geordo x Katarina: okay so first the GeoKata my opinion on this is this shipp Is ABUSIVE towards Katarina, let me explain Katarina started in this relationship believing from the start that Geordo is just using her and that he will cheat on her and is willing to actually exil her as well as taking everything she owns from her and even kill her to be with that other girl, and in the beginning that was TRUE, he indeed just wanted to USE her! I know that he changed his mind on that but that started only because she was "different " and worse is that she thinks she "deserve" that for being the "Villainess" Yes she thinks he has "right" to cheat,betray and kill her because of her "Villainess" staus, yes she does stand up to him to protect others, but she does that despite of what he might do to her because she just cares so much for others, she also sees the engagement she has with him as a cruel leash dragging her to her doom and even if she doesn't see like that anymore she did so for 7 years! In which she continuesly asked Geordo to break their engagement, which he refused, to her this relationship made it impossible for her to have any amount of self-respect, I would hate it if Geordo is the one ending up with Katarina since it would basically rewarding him for unintentionally abusing her and the horrible actions of his Original Counterpart, since she will always think it's his right to cheat,betraying and even kill her as long as she sees that as his "right" it's impossible for them to stay as equal to eachother Katarina will always be Geordo's VICTIM as long as she convinced he can treat her how he wants just because she's the Villainess, this would be a Stockholm syndrome situation and this relationship makes it nigh impossible for her to develop any self-respect, and even if she's able to realize that is not his right to do those things to hear she still had to live under this assumption for 7 years! This relationship is not good for her, it prevents from having self-respect, she believes he can treat her as horrible as he wants, there is no way for them to be equal in this relationship and Katarina shouldn't be forced to be with someone who makes her think less of herself I honestly can't believe that people who actually like Katarina are GeoKata fans giving how abusiv it clearly is to her,GeoKata is bad for Katarina's self worth it's bad for her mental health and it's bad for her overall, yeah it's good for Geordo but if you want Katarina to be sacrificed for Geordo like that than your being very unfair to Katarina, Katarina deserves better + Geordo is the one behaving the most like his Original Counterpart treating Katarina like property, his Original self who exiled and murdered Katarina, Katarina DESERVES BETTER.

Katarina x Keith: so I take Katarina x Keith for seconds, after everything I said about GeoKata you probably think I hate this shipp aswell right? Well wrong, I don't like it, but I don't hate it because unlike Geordo Keith has actually made far greater difference between him and his Original Counterpart, further more he has been far more considered of Katarina's boundaries, and Katarina has far less problems building self-respect since they live constantly together and had a clear heart to heart after the Golem incident she believed that nothing of the bad stuff would happen if she's just happen to be supportive there be no Exile killing, so he puts less of a strain on her soul than Geordo dose, and I can see him to be actual treading her right he's even willing to help her with her civil disguise when visiting Maria, and even helping her from staying out of her Mother's radar, so I atleast see he would do his best for her and atleast try to be good for her so he's better than Geordo and they can have a functioning positive relationship

Katarina x Mary: So third is Mary and yes she's a clear yandere with an extremely aggressive personality, but what concerns me about her is that their is clear indication she's actually willing to Kidnapping Katarina without letting her know the situation she's in, therefore I'm not really a fan of it but atleast she doesn't actually has to fear for her life with Mary, so she's atleast better than Geordo.

Alan x Katarina: so I know alot people like this shipp and I'm honestly not a fan of cheating, but again Mary herself is in love with Katarina so I guess it wouldn't be wrong if he understood that hey if he managed to get Katarina and was willing to share Mary would be more than pleased with him, so yeah I also like that they had Sword fights with her and i wanted to see Sword fighting Katarina

Sophia x Katarina: so now we're going to Katarina's Original friend the friend who Reincarnated along side her, A-Chan a lot people would say the fact that Sophia is A-chans Reincarnation and that she's followed Katarina in to the next life makes her a great partner for Katarina right ? I actually have a serious bone to pick with Sophia not despite but BECAUSE she is A-Chan because a have with A-Chan herself because as you all surely remember A-Chan was the one who introduced her to Fortune Lover and also the one who told her what a Terrible "Villainess" Katarina Claes is, which is the main reason why Katarina now believes she doesn't deserve love, yes I said it A-Chan is responsible for Katarina believing she dosen't deserve love, had she been more honest about the story and told her Katarina who is supposed to be the Villainess is less evil than Heroine and the Capture Targets who ruthlessly destroyed her life, that Geordo and Maria and Keith are Morally bankrupt Monsters (even if there's speculation that Maria didn't want it) who had no right to do what they did to her, than Katarina would atleast have been able to understand that she deserved love and just had the bad luck to end up with a very bad partner who doesn't treat her fair, she would have been able to develop both feeling worth of love and self-respect and might actually get out of the toxic hold Geordo had on her and actually being happy with out thinking of herself as the lowest being in the world, and I know that Sophia/A-Chan maybe just wanted to get her in FL, but it's still A-chans fault that Katarina has such a low self esteem, and after all the content we now know that Original Katarina was a pretty good person atleast for Noble Girl standards, so all A-Chan had to do was just tell Her the Truth that Original Geordo, Original Keith and Original Maria were the Selfish Monsters they are and how they literally ricked a trial to unfairly ruin her life steal everything from her and yeah that's something I hope she sets straight in one of those visions.

Nicole x Katarina: The best ship so far, and even though he appears outward similar if Geordo told this Nicole to help him fake documents to get a person exiled who doesn't deserve that he would probably report that to the King and Queen instead of actually partaking in it, he has been very considered and he is a clever person who also has great chemistry with her

Maria x Katarina: The final part of the main Harem, and I never hide that I'm a huge MariKata fan, I know that comes of strange as I very much insist that Geordo Is the most similar to his Original self despite spending the most time with Katarina, well Maria is the opposite, unlike her sneaky, selfish,heartless Original Counterpart, Hamefura Maria is brave, charismatic she doesn't hide behind others like a Coward, when Katarina or her other friends are in danger she sticks up to them, I really think that Hamefura Maria is the best partner for Bakarina, even though Original Maria is a horrible person, and don't come me with "but she just wasn't confident enough to apposed Geordo and/or Keith on Katarina's trial" she clearly didn't felt any remorse about it! Our she would act differently in FL 2

Harem x Katarina: this is one of the view Shows where a Harem ending is deserved.

#hamefura #my next life as a villainess #bakarina #katarina claes #otome game no hametsu flag #fortune lover dlc #maria x katarina #marikata #destruction flag otome #original katarina #hamefura light novel #katarina's harem #hamefura movie #hamefura manga #my next life as a villainess: all routes lead to doom #my next life as Villainess shipping #Hamefura shipping #Anime #anime ships #original keith is a traitorous dog #original geordo is a cheating bastard #original katarina claes

[the-cat-and-the-birdie]

Do you support proshippers, cause if so then 😬.

People generally do not take this as an answer but I do want to say it because some people do care.

But I don't. Because I do not support either side and assigning me to either side does not reflect my views.

I actively oppose the conversation and the way is formatted and I intentionally do not engage.

I am neither a ProShipper or an Antishipper. And describing me as either would be describing me wrong. Why?

Because it's not a cut and dry issue.

It's not like Pro-life and Pro-choice where the question is simply 'Should abortion be legal'?

The shipping argument is asking if a RANGE of topics ranging from abusive relationships or negative depictions of mental illness to literal CP are okay - all under one question.

Asking me this is like asking "Hey do you support people that age up Damien Wayne in fics *cough*(and also people who write horribly dangerous things like graphic sexual assault for their own dark amusement..those people too)*cough*"

Like...the question to begin with is flawed.

With a question formatted like that - there is absolutely no way to have a healthier clear conversation that makes sense or accurately displays anyone's views.

The conversation itself is to vague and too broad to offer any type of fruitful conversation whatsoever. And I stand on that.

Like, I'd say at least half of the takes I see from either side I think are wrong, ridiculous, or based on vague arguments that just don't make sense.

I'm Not a Pro-Shipper cause there is some weird shit out there I'm not attaching myself to. Because some people out there are deranged, and malicious, and this is the internet.

I'm NOT an Anti-Shipper because there are a LOT of fucked up things that do wind up in media that tell a specific story - and there's also shit in the conversation that just doesn't fucking matter.

If you're writing about a character who went through CSA and your goal is to show a story about someone who lives with that trauma? Great. I'm for that so long as you do your research and do it respectfully

If you're writing out the SCENES???? AT LENGTH?? Go somewhere. Preferably a jail cell but somewhere that's not here.

If you're aging up a character and headcanon-ing what they'd be like in the future for shipping purposes - or you're shipping characters with no in-universe confirmed age. I couldn't care less.

If I don't wanna read it, I won't support it. I won't give it kudos or views. It's got nothing to do with me.

If you're writing things that are openly racist or openly sexualizing a character you are clearly writing as a child - absolutely fucking not. Anime men I'm looking at you.

And if you write black characters involved in raceplay count your mfing days.

It's not a cut and dry issue, so to ask me to define myself in one word on a topic of dozens of different genres isn't going to give you a clear picture of my views.

You are more likely to get a more clearer answer if you ask me about that specific genre and topic.

I am vocally and clearly on neither side and opposed to a conversation that is narrow and often ends in miscommunication.

There's always going to be a Pro-Shipper or Anti-Shipper out there that I deeply disagree with.

I refuse to engage and support a conversation that lumps together very serious issues with very asinine things and then expects me to answer in one word at threat of harassment (not you in specific, but very realistically in general).

I am a person of complex opinions. You see my blog. You really expect me of all people to be able to describe myself in one word?

Maybe in the terms of "Pro-Life" vs Pro-Choice (I'm Pro-Choice obviously) But in this conversation I cannot do it. I am very firmly neither.

I hope that answer your question, and since I feel like this should be said - especially with the fandom we're in - I'm happy to answer your question.

Like I said, a lot of people just won't take this as an answer. And that's fine. But I said what I said.

If you engage in this conversation and you think I agree you, you're wrong. If you engage and you think I disagree with you, you're wrong. Cause I am simply sitting here in silence, writing my silly little analysis and looking pretty, and will continue to do so.

Now if you'll excuse me, there's a photo of Hobie that I need to stare at.

Bye.

#I do not engage and I mean that #proship #antiship #somebody was bound to ask #but yeah thats why i dont talk about it cause that conversation is structured dumb as fuck from the ground up are kidding me #the question in itself is rigged for an argument regardless of what you say #so I say - Fuck that shit Im here being a hot girl fuck you gonna do stop me??

[utilitycaster]

Imogen’s powers are interesting to consider in the context of the story, but a lot of the real world analogies people try to make with them are absolutely horrible. Imogen’s powers aren’t a good metaphor for queerness/chronic illness/mental health issues, because they aren’t dangerous invasive powers that can kill people that are inherently tied to an evil source. The comparisons don’t work and have some really bad implications.

(As of 8:14 AM EDT today, April 15th: not answering new questions for this meme that come in but answering the ones already in my inbox - this is the last one btw)

Mostly agreed; see below for the nuanced answer.

For what it's worth: the argument in favor of Imogen's treatment in Gelvaan being a metaphor for queerness that I've seen failed imo because it ignored her powers, rather than incorporated them. It focused on the surface level "woman goes back to her small rural southern-coded town after spending time away having left in the company of another woman, and is ostracized on her return and receives a complicated response from her father" while refusing to engage with the pretty significant details of "woman did sorcery so hard on two people she wasn't sure if she'd killed them; father has seen both his wife and daughter develop incredible and dangerous psychic powers and leave him and still defends them which has further ostracized him within his small town." Like, the problem was not that it equated queerness with her powers; it equated queerness with "people in a small town not liking you because you're different" without exploring that Imogen is, in fact, different because she can murder people with lightning and know all their secrets and whether or not she's attracted to women is completely irrelevant to that.

With that said. My personal mental health stuff is not something that fits well into Imogen's narrative, and I'm physically able-bodied and don't have anything chronic of significance, but I have seen people who do and who have found Imogen or other characters with powers that are potentially harmful to others, like Chetney, to be meaningful. Again, my issue with the queerness metaphor is that it centered on how people see her in a very specific location where she did commit a significant act of violence, and not what Imogen herself experiences. Like, I think comparing Imogen's own experiences as someone who has to carefully avoid triggers (keeping up her mental walls), who gets occasional headaches or sleep disturbances as a result of her powers, and who sometimes struggles to reconcile what she knows to be true via her psychic powers with what people are saying (and as a result both has difficulty interacting with others and is often snappish) is a valid comparison.

To sum it up, it sort of goes back to the X-Men post I have somewhere in the archives. Imogen's own experience with her powers as a metaphor for chronic or mental illness? Totally valid. How other people perceive Imogen as a result of her powers, which are in fact harmful or invasive to them? not a good metaphor for homophobia, ableism, or social stigmas. Like, I think it's fair to say that the X-Men can feel things about their own powers that are relatable to people who are mentally or chronically ill, but it is also valid if the population is like "yeah actually I think we should have some system of registration over 'guy who can laser beam me to death with his eyes', actually, and I would prefer not to hang out with him." The metaphor needs to be quite specific to be handled sensitively.

#answered #Anonymous #unpopular opinions ask meme #cr tag

[wolfjackle-creates]

I am starkly reminded of why I like to rewrite my work before sharing. Took another look at the Wrong Number AU and, yeah, I want to give that work some TLC. For anyone who is interested in what my first round of edits look like, click the readmore. (Though this is actually way closer to the original that I usually keep it. I just really liked the story beats of my first draft.)

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Version 1

Jazz was at Nasty Burger staring at her food. She'd ordered Danny's favorite, but her stomach was so in knots she didn't think she could eat.

A napkin was tossed on her table and she was about to scold the person who threw it when she saw Sam walking away. Instead she clicked her tongue as if annoyed and straightened it out.

On it was scrawled a quick message.

I got him an old phone before he ran. His number is XXX-XXX-XXXX.

As surreptitiously as she could, she pulled out her own phone and snapped a quick picture before soaking it in her unfinished drink and throwing it away with her uneaten food.

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It's not bad per se. Just truncated and only barely touches on what Jazz is feeling. From here I immediately jumped to the next scene with zero transition. I generally prefer taking my time with the narrative rather than rushing through and not mentioning details. Besides, if I do the transition right, I can fit in more worldbuilding!

Now, for the rewrite of the above section.

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Version 2

Jazz sat in a Nasty Burger booth and stared at her food. She'd ordered Danny's favorite, but her stomach was so in knots she didn't think she could eat.

All of this was her parent’s fault. If they weren’t so close minded and horrible, if they’d just accepted they were wrong…

Her circling thoughts were interrupted by a balled up napkin landing on the table next to her tray. Jazz was half to her feet ready to yell at whomever threw their trash at her when she saw Sam in a frilly yellow dress walking to the counter with her grandmother.

Huffing as if annoyed, Jazz settled back down and straightened the napkin. In messier-than-normal writing, Sam had scrawled the message:

I got him an old phone before he ran. His number is XXX-XXX-XXXX.

As surreptitiously as she could, she pulled out her own phone and snapped a quick picture and saved it to the encrypted folder Tucker had set up. Then she destroyed the napkin by soaking it in her unfinished pop and throwing her entire tray away, uneaten food and all.

Well, there was nothing else she could do in Amity. Might as well start the long drive back to Boston.

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It's only 90 words longer, but it flows much better and does a much better job of showing off Jazz's mental state. I used less passive voice, too, which makes the scene more engaging.

Idk, I really like rewrites. For me, they make the fic so much better even if they do take forever. At least with this one, I think I can do the rewrite with the two versions side-by-side. When I'm really not happy with my first draft, I refuse to look at it while I write the second draft because I don't want to feel like I'm forced to follow the same sequence of events just in case that was the problem with the draft. Not-looking rewrites take even longer.

#my writing #wrong number au #my writing process #my ramblings #guess i'll be working on this off and on this week

[symbioticsimplicity]

My last post has me thinking entirely too much about Buffy as a character.

On the surface, she’s a bright, bubbly girl with a little bit of an awkward streak and a lot of enthusiasm. She wears trendy clothes and does her makeup to look cute and youthful. She’s a natural blonde and she seemingly suits the stereotypes.

But in the same way that a vampire’s human face hides their demon face, Buffy’s appearance masks a lot of who she actually is.

She’s bright, certainly, but she’s bright like the sun. She’s brilliant and dazzling, and she’s burn anyone who doesn’t know how to handle her intensity. She can be absolutely merciless, just like the sun, a force of nature that simply is.

She’s bubbly, but that playfulness is only at it’s truest peak when she’s on the hunt. Think about how much time she spends quipping and taunting opponents. She likes to play with her kills, even if she’d never recognize that that’s what she’s doing. She does it whenever she sees herself as engaged in battle, no matter the kind of battle she’s in. When she’s first engaging with Cordelia she’s a little off-kilter with her, when we know Buffy excells at snappy remarks, right up until Cordelia more or less declares them enemies. Then suddenly she’s back on her game.

She’s the Chosen Champion, and she’s a glorious flame because of it, burning bright and furious and she will destroy anything foolish enough to cross her. She always does, but not at all because she’s the Slayer. It’s because of Buffy herself. She’s the most untrained Slayer shown in the show, the most unrulely, the most unrelenting and vicious of them all. Some of it is because she’s one of the few Slayers to have had people to protect and care for (though that certainly didn’t save Nikki), but I think the lion’s share is because Buffy herself enjoys doing what she does. Outside of the obviously personally horrible events (Angel, Glory, Warren and Willow I’d say if we’re being honest), she’s usually at her best when she’s got a goal and something to kill. Spike, of all people, is the first and honestly probably the only character to truly recognize and understand this about her.

Buffy spends a lot of time trying to deny this, or temper it when it’s clear she can’t deny it. The show pushes the narrative that this is what makes her good, not giving into her dark side, not accepting that it exists as a part of her and fighting it at all times. They give it all sorts of metaphorical shapes to take in the form of Faith and Spike, or her fears of becoming a vampire (having no control of her darkness anymore because a demon would then be driving her). It’s clear that Buffy wants to embrace this part of herself, she wants to help Faith (up until she can’t anymore), she conquers her fear of turning, she falls in love with Spike. And yet, there’s still never really any moment of Buffy letting herself be that shade darker that she wants to be.

While I think this is largely due to a black and white morality mentality in the writing room, ignoring that it has interesting implications about Buffy herself. About honestly probably her most defining characteristic.

The refusal to give up.

Buffy gets knocked down time and again. The story beats the absolute living hell out of her on a regular basis without much help to handle the emotional toll and certainly no breaks. She’s died twice, one experience being vastly worse than the other and resulting in severe depression. She’s held the world on her shoulders for years and years now and never let a single thing about it defeat her, even when it tore her apart to do so.

She made the decision never to let that part of herself reign, and she’s going to stick to it. I personally think she knows all of this about herself and thinks that if she allowed herself a little freedom she might just get out of hand. Since it’s something she’d craved for years now, and knowing just how dangerous she actually is, knowing that nothing short of a Hell God can take her out, she refuses to let that become even a faint possibility. While I think this is a fear of her’s rather than a likely scenario, it’s amazing to me. She’s protecting everyone from everything once again, even herself. She won’t let herself have something that would arguably be good for her, because she’s worried about how much of a danger she could pose if she ever took it too far. Resisting her nature to avoid causing the kind of damage she’s supposed to prevent. Honestly she, Angel, and Spike could have hours long conversations about that and I think they should.

#btvs #btvs meta #buffy summers character analysis #i had some thoughts and feelings #a little rambly but when aren't I? #I just think Buffy should have gotten an arc about embracing her darkness that didn't traumatize her

[rosethreeart]

Accusing someone of pedophilia over drawings of teenagers is harmful and cruel. There is a difference between disliking someone and wanting to keep your distance and just lying. Thought crimes aren't real, drawings are not conscious beings and have no human rights. Porn and kink have been coping methods humans have used for all of our history and accusing people - most often than not survivors - of something as horrible as pedophilia based on what they get off to in the safety of fiction brings more harm to REAL PEOPLE than any drawing of an underage fake boy ever could. Hopefully one day you'll be able to see how stupid it is to treat drawings with more respect and humanity than real people.

Anon I dare you right now to go and tell your loved ones or employers you think it’s okay for people to get off to child porn. Go ahead. I’m waiting. :)

pedophilia isn’t a kink it’s a federal and moral crime :)

Also I’m not lying. neon has drawn copious amounts of art where England is underaged, extremely infantilized, and groomed by older and more mature looking men like his brother.

“ Thought crimes aren’t real “ only applies to people who experience things like intrusive thoughts, and as someone who HAS those i find your use of that as an excuse extremely vile. Intrusive thoughts are NOT things you want to engage with OR get off to, and if you do, there’s a bigger issue at hand here. Don’t use an actual mental issue to defend pedophilia. How Disgusting and (quite frankly) ableist of you .

If you think that art has no moral or political implications I BEG you to developed some media literacy skills and to learn how political cartoons and caracteres of people, especially people of color, can lead to bigotry, violence, and even death to / murder / genocide of those groups.

When people say that drawing art of underage characters doing “risqué” things/poses, it’s out of concern for real human people not the characters being drawn dumbass. Seeing art of this type of thing as a minor can make it seem like adults viewing you in romantic or sexual manners is normal, because you’ve been exposed to seeing it romanticized so often. This type of thing DOES do harm to people, and I say this as someone who WAS exposed to this type of normalization (especially in fandom spaces) as a really young teen.

I understand that people can use this thing as a coping skill but A) it’s an extremely harmful one (and you can’t tell me that those don’t exist) B) doesn’t excuse any damage or harm they can cause to people who get exposed to it C) doesn’t prevent them from becoming like the people who harmed them. I also beg you and anyone else who thinks that “coping” is an excuse to post child porn to question why someone who went through something so horrible would Ever want to post those things in places where people, who are just like their abusers/assaulters, can easily access and get off to that crap.

Also how DARE you assume that I am saying this out of distaste for this person rather than actual concern I have for actual people and victims.

“Fiction doesn’t affect reality” my fucking ass.

I hope your ignorance and refusal to see or understand this doesn’t bring harm to someone you know or love.

[haleigh-sloth]

This is probably really stupid but I can’t help but wonder this 😭 now obviously I know there will always be those horrible takes about Touya and his abuse, but I felt like there was such a volatile reaction to his trauma where he was being called a “spoilt brat” “born evil” and the one to blame for the state of the family. Just being all round invalidated, and it made me wonder do you think people would have been more empathetic or sympathetic towards him. If we had gotten his backstory 1) through I guess his point of view first and 2) before Endeavor’s change of heart? Like I think it’s being handled very well, but I hate how some people have reacted to it and always wondered if Horikoshi hadn’t decided to humanise Endeavor first and then reveal Touya’s backstory would have people been more willing to empathise with him?

Hmm

It’s not stupid lol

I can't answer on the what ifs, because I don't think it's a matter of those circumstances tbh.

In my personal opinion and experience with this fandom and ever since the hospital chapters released, the biggest problem is that people expected another Shouto situation.

Shouto's situation was quite easy to read. He was beaten, hit. He witnessed his MOM get beaten and hit. He saw his mom have a mental break down and his dad took his mom away. Shouto hated his dad.

Easy to follow, easy to see who is the bad guy.

Touya's situation is....a lot more complicated. Because Touya's abuse was strictly emotional. The damage he took was psychological, while all the physical damage was inflicted upon himself. And to add a cherry on top of what's already a complicated mess, the emotional abuse was due to Touya wanting attention from said abuser. When people think of emotional abuse they'll probably most likely think of berating, name calling, intentional damage being inflicted. But with Enji that was not the case. Clearly. It was abuse inflicted by avoidance. And the avoidance hurt Touya, because he wanted his dad to be the biggest part of his life, just like he was when Touya was very young.

Imo, Touya gets such negative reactions because he poses as a very hard pill to swallow. Children in abusive families are not always going to ask for an escape, to be taken away to a better house with better parents, nor are they always going to place blame on the parents for the things they've done. That's just not the reality of it. Often times they want to stay with their parents that suck, stay in their home that sucks. Often times they lie to protect their parents.

Now, the Todorokis weren't being investigated or anything lolol--BUT Touya poses as that kid who continues to want that relationship with the parent who is hurting him. Each of the Todosiblings exhibit a different reaction to their trauma, and it's obvious how closely Horikoshi was trying to hit the nail on the head with that idea. And I feel that based on some things I read from people, the visceral reactions are either due to personal reasons that this sub plot touches on for them, or people just lacking an understanding in how children and families work.

Both I am understanding toward. But I stop feeling sympathy for those people when they insist that their idea of how to react to abuse is the right way--as if there is such a thing, or when people plug their ears and close their eyes and refuse to learn a thing or two about abuse and continue screaming their shit takes.

Imo I've seen 2 distinct groups who hate Touya:

Shouto stans who insist that Touya is bad for Shouto and the Todorokis or something, or continue comparing his situation to Shouto as if to prove a point about what abuse is or isn't

Villain haters in general (not worth even engaging with tbh cuz they're a lost cause)

I'm generalizing--because there are more groups of people who hate him for different reasons.

But when it comes to understanding the Todoroki dynamics and what the story is building up toward, there are a lot of things within the sub plot people don't want to talk about.

One of them being the fact that Touya wants his dad. In his life. He may not NEED his dad in order to live a life, but he WANTS his dad's presence in his life. And the story is building up to giving the LOV trio what they want--which means Touya and Enji will be in each other's lives, under the pretense that this is what they both want. Most importantly what Touya wants.

The other big one is acknowledging that Rei failed too, and contributed to Touya's downfall.

A couple of things I've touched on in this post but didn't expand on I talk about here and here.

#bnha #boku no hero academia #anonymous #bnha asks #todoroki touya #cw abuse #tw abuse #todofam #todoroki enji #dabi #endeavor bnha

[deadlittledogs]

If ur ex friend reached out to rekindle your friendship would you?

She just texted me today when I was at work. I ended up crying for most my shift. She wants to be friends but she thinks I’m asking for too much. She doesn’t feel any regret towards how she’s made me feel and even expressed that she couldn’t take the situation seriously and therefore couldn’t respond to my hurt appropriately. She doesn’t think she’s done anything wrong (ever) and if she fails to meet any of my needs or doesn’t support me in the slightest it’s because she’s ‘just some guy’ and needs to focus on her own life. She wants to be friends but on HER terms and seems satisfied being the only one ‘getting something’ out of this relationship. It doesn’t really matter to her how happy or unhappy I feel, as long as I am technically ‘there’, ya know?

She continues to reject my own rejection and instead, after I continually attempt to sever the tie, tells me I’m basically acting irrationally and she loves me and we’ll talk later when I’m ‘ready’ for it. It makes me feel insane, sort of.

I just don’t understand…. what this is….. what is this? We’ve both taken on such odd personalities with each other. These conversations have warped us into something terrible, I always end up going on heinous, horrible rants, so overtaken by my own pain and grief I start lashing out wildly. She acts so cold, so uncaring, like my emotion is nothing more than a small stain at the edge of her sweater. She takes the time to spell out her laughter and mock me for what I have to say. She denies, denies, denies. I tell her I’ll spit in her fucking face for it.

I don’t know what to think anymore. The conversation made me feel so humiliated, worthless, needy. So disrespected and like I was nothing but an extra creepy bug beneath her shoe. I still want to believe she’d change and do better because I miss her in my life so dearly but I think there’s something seriously, seriously wrong with her mentally. People don’t just act like this. People don’t treat other people like this unless they have serious fucking issues. I refuse to engage with her until she can stop being a fucking BPD cow.

#like I’m genuinely was not asking much from her lmao #I just want to be an active part of her life that’s literally it #and anytime I’m like. you break promises. you don’t spend any time with me. you disappear for months and months. #she’s like ‘yeah we’re normal friends now ur expecting waaaaay too much okay. we aren’t dating lol’ #like wtf are you talking about 😭😭😭 #I swear to god I swear to god it’s because she had a falling out with her old best friend and they managed to reconnect #and now they reconnect a couple times a year to catch up #and that’s what’s she basing this off of lmao #and like with them that dynamic makes sense #but it wouldn’t make sense with me??? #AND SHE DOESNT GET THAT #she thinks I should just be cool sitting at home alone all day while she does whatever #and she only needs to see me once or twice a year #?????????? #i’m like naaah get fucked #I didn’t agree to this shit lol #if she wants it that way good for her cuz now she gets nothing! #swag!

[italic-doing-random-shit]

🍎🍒🍓🌶️🥕🍑🥦🥑🍇 for any oc of your choice

(I will do all because I need to ramble)

🍎🍒

who do they value most?/who is their perfect companion?

Ceia and Italic value each others friend ship more then they even value themselves. They rather die then see their best friend get hurt

Adam however, that person is no longer in his life.

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how do they feel about cute things?

Ceia has no care for them, they are constantly seen as cute (By Italic exclusively) and they hate it. Italic unapologetically LOVES cute things, they’ll never shut up about a cute puppy or kitten they’ve seen. Adam has a very soft spot for them, he will protect them at all cost but will never come off as caring

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Who would your OC declare their sworn enemy if they could meet them?

This happened before.

Adam somehow traversed a portal made by Italic, which takes a lot of endurance that he didn’t have. The only thing he could think of was the flip them off and faint.

Italic and Ceia would be very passive aggressive and nonconfrontal.

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How tough is your OC against certain situations? How weak are they against others?

Adam was formally trained, so he had good footwork and is quick on his feet. Very impulsive however. He has trouble knowing when a fight is to far gone. Italic is similar to sans, they dodge ever shot they can and can pack a hell of a punch. They are a master of their whip, and can do quite a lot with any real damage.

Ceia can’t fight. They have some trauma tied to a bad fight (hinthintbandana) and refuse to engage. They are very durable, and physically cannot be killed.

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How do they show their kindness? How kind are they truly?

Italic shows their kindness by physically caring for them both. Ceia can have sensory overload and it can be absolutely horrible for them; Italic has a weighted blanket and a pair of noise canceling headphones to help them out. Adam and Ceia both have terrible nightmares, cuddles with Italic usually helps easily, and they all usually sleep in a cuddle pile. Of course, only after they gained Adam’s trust.

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What do they hate about humanity/their species?

Ceia hates that Creators are naturally soulless (neither human nor monster, souls operate like they do in Undertale)

Italic hates that they are one of a kind. They were a special creation, meant to live in the anti void.

Adam hates how apathetic they are, they never understood him and his pain nor did they want to.

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What will they never back down about, even if it makes them seem bad?

only Adam applies to this! Italic and Ceia are generally even tempered and don’t really feel a need to defend something, they will back down in pretty much any and all situations.

Adam however, will fight anything for as long as he can breathe. Its a bit of the thrill but he does often confront people whom he believes don’t fully understand something he is well versed in, and will argue.

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What's their circle of people/their species like? What dynamic would they be called?

They don’t really have a name, and their group is very mixed. Italic had a monster soul, Adam has a half monster and half human soul, and Ceia has no soul.

they have a weird dynamic, as they commonly switch roles of the mom friend. Italic usually cares for them when they have mental issues, Adam helps with feeding them and making sure they're in tip-top shape, and Ceia tries their best to ensure no one gets in too much trouble and heals them when they get hurt.

#asks #ask game #OC asks #MMMMM HOW BADLY IVE WANT TO RAMBLE ABOUT ADAM MMMM #He's so yes

[feral-radfem]

I don’t think you came off harsh at all! Honestly some things I’m just not very educated on … like I have an idea that smths not right but I ask people like you who have obviously thought more about this for your side to help me grow my view.

Sometimes it takes someone to point out “don’t equate it with the horror genre” to realize that’s what im doing so I really do appreciate your response.

Something else you said that I really agree with, not trying to get through to these people and just go straight to the government. I will start doing that bc I’ve noticed on top of this whole issue with therapy language being used a lot of the people who write these fanfics are traumatized women (obviously not all just these spaces i believe but the ones I’ve run into were all women) who use their trauma to justify it. it’s like… girl ur SELF HARMING.

“I write pedo fics bc i was molested and it helps me cope” well to start, besides the obvious that it’s selfharm and you should never do that to “cope” you’re not that little kid anymore. Second the self harm issue … not all coping mechanisms are good.

There’s no winning with these people especially when we are in the age of “well if i consent it’s okay!” / “it’s not real it won’t hurt anyone..” it breaks my hearts and also yes ok no recommendations I only asked in case there was a better platform to be using but we should just fix the ones we have.

Good. I'm trying to find a way to balance being direct without coming across as speaking down to others or like assuming the worst of them.

If you would like some material from people who have thought very deeply specifically about this subject, I can recommend a few books I think cover the subject well.

I have tried to have these discussions with the actual creators of these works. The problem is is once people know they're engaging in behaviors that they know are societally look down upon they start to find defenses for their behaviors. They hang on to these defenses firmly. Some of the defenses were that they were traumatized as children in the same way, some of the defenses is that it's all fiction, and some of the defenses is it's horror so it's meant to be horrible. They have already convinced themselves that what they are doing is morally okay because they don't see themselves as a bad person so what they do cannot be doing bad. Its a harmful effect of black and white thinking. No one will ever convince them that they are doing a bad thing or causing harm because that translates to them being a bad person in their entirety. So removing the emotional element and the self-serving desires from it entirely by petitioning the government is the best option in this situation.

Because you're right, a lot of these are traumatized women or women who have "groomed themselves" (groomed by unregulated websites with adult material) by consuming this media at a young age and growing up with it. They have a warped sexuality that they've been encouraging through harmful media in their adult years. They've already done the damage, all they have to do now is justify the continuation of it. They can't go back and undo the damage they've done however. So they need to make sure that the moral judgment for participating in this form of media is grey at worst. They don't know any other form of sexuality, so they're desperate to hold on to the one they do know even if it's detrimental to their own health and safety.

Which is why we set up the government, to put regulations on things that people may still want but we understand is a detrimental to public safety. We recognize that physical health has to be handled as a community issue because community health affects everybody but a lot of people refuse to hold mental health in the same regard. They refuse to hold sexual health in the same regard. And after we get the regulations for what should be allowed on media to protect our communities and public safety, we can address lackluster sexual education that leads kids to looking at pornography for answer in the first. The way we help these women and children is by removing their access to this material.

That being said, on the defense of writing pedophile porn because you were predated on as a child, while you're correct that it's an unhelpful coping mechanism, we cannot negate that these people are now harming children themselves. They have become the pedophiles even if they were predated on his children. They are also feeding pedophiles interest who have never been victims of anything because they are posting it on public forums. At this point they are the perpetuators of pedophilia not the victims. They can't continue the cycle and remain the victim. (This doesn't contradict with anything you said, I just didn't know where to put it in my response)

I don't mind that you asked for recommendations, I was just making it clear to my other followers I was not comfortable with them recommending them here. Though I do agree, we should fix the ones we currently have because any site that people start migrating to will eventually have the exact same problems if we don't regulate them. Like the tumblr to Twitter migration.

Thanks for the asks btw, I always enjoy the engagement.

#lily responds #radical feminism #radfems please touch #ask #terfs please interact #radical feminists please touch #radical feminist #radical feminist theory

[mistergoddess]

yea we venting on tumblr idk

anyway latest father interaction, nothing bad, but it is bringing up old beef (as in like just mentally for me lol he is not beefing with me rn i am just mentally beefing with the him that has beefed with me in the past) and man sometimes it's just like. if someone wrote a fictional father that behaved exactly like him and said and did some of the shit he has people would pan it like no it's too on the nose and stereotypical for this kind of asshole dad character it's totally contrived. it's actually so fucking annoying that like compared to the other one he is a literal saint but objectively on his own he's still a mega shitty asshole parent and i hate that even more that like i have no real good excuse to be like oh fuck this guy bc comparitively he's my Good Parent but he fucking isn't he isn't a good parent. life REALLY did not have to hit me with the Both'Em Issues. anyway im big grown as hell i shouldn't even give a shit what he thinks or says or does but it is just annoying 2 think about all the ways i have been let down by everyone who was meant to give a shit about me over the last nearly 3 decades <3. anyway the current thing is a good thing at the end of the day like it kind of sucks a tiny bit but also it's amazing because it will make him less involved in my life and that rules i will soon have absolutely no reason to answer to him ever yippeeeee. our relationship could actually be great id love to have a functioning relationship with him but 1) he doesn't really care one way or another as much as he'll like to claim he does and not back it up in any way w his behavior lmfao and then act like im the one who doesnt reach out or engage w him when it is the other way around and 2) i'm straight up like literally physically and socially a different person now bc of transitioning (and all the other shit i've gone thru and done with my life in the past 7 months jfc) and he just refused to acknowledge that whatsoever lmfao when i was trying to come out before i moved away so when i moved away it was like welp!!!!!!! uh! who knows how long it'll be before i gotta see him and his horrible wife again but that'll be a fun lil shock to him bc he hasn't talked to me about it at all and didn't let me talk to him about it earlier on so! slay!

#shitpost.txt #eeeuuuuggghhh

[iydallus]

Should women stop using birth control pills in your opinion?

I mean, my opinion is "people can do what they wish" at the end of the day, but let me tell you about my experience with birth control. I experienced being told to go on the pill for my acne, my cramps, my depression, and to gain weight, and was actually forced to be on it for a time as part of "treatment" for me attempting, and I wasn't allowed to refuse unless I wanted to be more permanently institutionalized.

Turns out, my depression isn't actually linked to my cycle (other than the actual mood swings it causes in women). My acne, while linked to my cycle, is actually managed quite well with $35 soap instead. My cramps had nothing to do with my cycle and was caused by the chemicals they put in disposable pads. And, like, honestly. Weight gain? We are going to change a fifteen year old's hormones so she gains a couple of pounds after we prescribed her appetite suppressants?

Never, during any of that, was I asked if I was sexually active. The reason one would actually take birth control never came up. So I have to ask myself, how many women and girls are on birth control simply because doctors make good money in prescribing them, and it's easier than actually diagnosing an issue? How many women are engaging in behavior they never would have otherwise because of the opportunity being on birth control gives them?

I don't like medication, honestly. I know people have important meds for stuff, and if it helps them, that's great, I want them to keep taking them. But in my experience, medication did nothing but worsen my mental health and taught me horrible habits to abuse said meds. Did you know that most mass shooters in the US were prescribed antidepressants? One of the notable ones is Zoloft. I was on Zoloft for all of a week. That information does not surprise me.

Again, I think women should be able to do what they wish, but I also think that the pharmaceutical industry loves to squeeze all the money out of a person they can, and with birth control they can target half the population.

[cinematricksbooksins]

Toxic Mean Girl Gatekeepers

I like TikTok as much as the next person. I won't lie when I say I also enjoy Booktok from time to time. While I haven't found the greatest of recommendations on there, I have found some fun mindless reads off an on. When I first started watching Booktok videos and lives, I thought it was a nice community. Don't get me wrong, there are some genuine and nice people on there. However, in more recent weeks I have seen nothing but toxic, hateful, mean girls attitude, and gatekeeping mindset within all of the drama. It almost feels unwelcoming in certain aspects.

I've seen booktokers belittle and make mocking videos over people of certain genders just getting into reading and wanting to share their journey. Mostly it's because these individuals get more views and followers in two videos than these seasoned booktokers have. It's not the posters fault, so why bully and gatekeep reading or even making book related content? At least they're reading! Books and reading should never be gatekept.

Another thing I've seen is readers and authors going after each other. Leave each other alone. If a reader didn't like your story or doesn't want to read your work it's not personal. They have their own tastes. For readers, authors can't win with them when it comes to certain topics or they've been belittled and bullied for asking people to leave any critiques and reviews of their books.

Don't even get me started on the lives. Like I said, there are plenty of nice and welcoming booktok lives. However, one I've seen for almost a year now has moved from being welcoming to having horrible toxic mean girl energy. They don't get many views. Normally their audience is 3-12 people. They used to engage with people like crazy in the comments. However, in more recent months, unless you have the followers to go live with them...they won't engage with you. It doesn't matter if you are a reader, author, or writer. No huge following...no engagement. This was sad for me. I used to engage with them, but now they won't even talk to me because I don't have the viewers. I'm not the only they've done this too either. People who have been here for over a year, supported them, engaged with them, are just cut off and ignored simply because of a follower count and lack of videos. Another issue is they claim to not want drama and to stand up for their indie authors and friends, but i have seen the cattiness between them or others that come on. I've seen the backhanded comments about authors they "refuse" to name and how they persuade each other to remove books and not buy books from people they deem "horrible". Yet, they refuse to say what the author did or who the author is. They've even texted about people in the live chat while on the live and laughed about it. I don't know, it comes across as very mean girl energy.

I don't know. Just a few things have been bothering me recently with seeing the toxic side of booktok for once. I'm not one to post. I barely have any videos up on my page as is because I'm just not one for content creating. Regardless, I thought about posting books I've been enjoying or books I bought that I can't wait to get to, but now...I just don't think I want to. I'd rather keep it to myself and not share than have a bombardment of bullies, mean girls, and gatekeepers. I get every clique on the app has these mentalities, but I've just been flooded with Booktok specifically recently and it makes me sad. Just when books were becoming popular again, it seems like its starting to die off because of all the drama. What are your thoughts on booktok? Has it become more toxic over the years?

#booktok #gatekeep #meangirls #authors #readers #bullies #drama #booktok drama #tiktok

[amalg-em]

Being multigender is funny when none of the genders align with anything approximating traditional human gender roles. The most prominent female-adjacent gender is a horrible little beast woman. Butch but in a deliberately disheveled way. Thinks women should be covered in hair and dirt. And probably some leaves for good measure. If there's anything bright or shiny attached to one's person, it better be because you dug it out of a pile of refuse or pried it out of a hole in the ground.

The aesthetically pleasing gender is male and it's fancy the way male birds are fancy. I have equipped bright colors and practiced flashy moves specifically to get the attention of other queers. I will bow and offer you pretty pebbles I found by the water. No I am not a woman, I am doing this for gender reasons yes, but the gender is flamboyant man.

There is a gender whose presentation is specifically about displays of non-monetary wealth (knowledge, skill, physical prowess, etc) as well as what is most intimidating. Be afraid, be respectful, keep your hands to yourself and keep your fucking distance. If I want to engage with you I will do so directly and until then don't you dare bother me.

The remaining genders are severe pragmatic Goth™️. Gender is irrelevant beyond very specific tasks, like whether you brood eggs under your singular boob. If you don't have a boob, or you do but you're not the one brooding, be useful and go get food instead.

Obviously, if I were to explain this to anyone beyond a specific few I'd get The Look and I'd know they were going to talk shit about me behind my back the way people talk about "kinnies." As if the worst crime anyone could commit is being seen to be cringe. And if they're cis, throw a heaping pile of complaints about snowflakes and mental illness on top of that.

(I mean, I am mentally ill, but the gender thing is unrelated. Well, it's related, but in a therapeutic way rather than in a causative way. Transing your gender, or genders as it were, turns out to be very medicinal.)

So long story short I tell people I am a trans man, or at most a nonbinary trans man. Best description Ive seen for it is "password protected gender" (credit to Chaumas, I think).

#gender.txt

[anonymousanxiety92]

Overreacting?

My whole relationship has been ups and downs for me, and its only been a year and a half. I have had several failed relationships. like most do, but they have all ended because I never got the things I needed from the other person. Some backstory, my last relationship was awful, one of the worst for my mental health honestly. He cheated on me the whole beginning but I didn't find out until 7 months in. I was treated like a maid, ignored 99 percent of the time because he was too busy gaming with his friends. I talked and talked and he refused to listen. I finally towards the end decided to work on myself. Going back to school, therapy, and working out. I looked and felt amazing, I was on this high that i never thought would end. I promised myself I would never get into a relationship like this again and made myself a list of my perfect man. First wrong mistake in my book. I decided to look online for someone so I would be able to advertise what i wanted in a person, and i met someone i thought was it. Finally, i found someone who would treat me the way i felt i deserved. He said and did all the right things, he opened doors for me and told me i was beautiful every chance he could. My biggest thing which is probably shallow but he wanted me, i mean always wanted me. The sex was incredible! We were constantly doing it every chance we could. I introduced him to my kids after a few months of knowing each other and I couldn't have been more amazed at how much he cared for them and treated them. He always wanted to include them and they also liked him too. I kept thinking, where was he all my life.. We were engaged soon after. That's when things started to change. I started to feel like he was pulling away, i ignored it like a dumb ass. I just thought with wedding planning, that things were just stressful. We moved in together a few months before the wedding and things seemed OK, but he never wanted to have sex anymore and it started to take a toll on my confidence. A month before we were to get married, i found that he was sexting with women and saying some awful things about me to them. About how I couldn't give head satisfactorily, my boobs were awful, shit like that. I was crushed.. I confronted him immediately and he cried and said he was so sorry and that he believed he had a porn addiction. Oh that's the other thing, he watched porn and masturbated several times a day but did not want to have sex with me. He was talking to these other women sending dick pics and I was made to feel awful about asking for sex. He told me he would get into therapy, and I made him sleep on the couch for a few days, but i became so lonely without him. So i decided to forgive him, second mistake. I tried asking him what he wasn't getting from me or what about me was causing him to do this, he replied with he didn't know and maybe therapy would help him. Things after that seemed to get better, he was being more attentive again and i really thought this was over. Man was i wrong... A week before the wedding i had a horrible nightmare about him cheating again. Call it woman's intuition because i decided to look at his phone again. And yep you guessed it, the same damn thing was happening again.. What in he hell was i doing wrong? I left the house and booked a hotel for a few days. I needed space and time to think. I wanted an explanation, i wanted him to fight for me. He didn't without me pushing him to. I kept thinking that i couldn't leave him, i couldn't do this to my kids again, another failed relationship..I again asked what it was about me that didn't do it for him, he finally said it was my stomach, my weight. I had put on a few pounds ( i was 120 for context 110 when i met him). There went the rest of my self confidence i had worked so hard to build. Third mistake, i went along with the wedding. Afterwards he was so loving towards me that again i was convinced this shit was all behind us. His family and friends were still in town, so i later figured this was why he was being so great. End of part 1