#never a me attitude

[inkskinned]

one of the things about being an educator is that you hear what parents want their kids to be able to do a lot. they want their kid to be an astronaut or a ballerina or a politician. they want them to get off that damn phone. be better about socializing. stop spending so much time indoors. learn to control their own temper. to just "fucking listen", which means to be obedient.

one of the things i learned in my pedagogy classes is that it's almost always easier to roleplay how you want someone to act. it's almost always easier to explain why a rule exists, rather than simply setting the rule and demanding adherence.

i want my kids to be kind. i want them to ask me what book they should read next, and i want to read that book with them so we can discuss it. i want my kid to be able to tell me hey that hurt my feelings without worrying i'll punish them. i want my kid to be proud of small things and come running up to me to tell me about them. i want them to say "nah, i get why this rule exists, but i get to hate it" and know that i don't need them to be grateful-for-the-roof-overhead while washing the dishes. i want them to teach me things. i want them to say - this isn't safe. i'm calling my mom and getting out of this. i want them to hear me apologize when i do fuck up; and i want them to want to come home.

the other day a parent was telling me she didn't understand why her kid "just got so angry." this woman had flown off the handle at me.

my dad - traditional catholic that he is - resents my sentiment of "gentle parenting". he says they'll grow up spoiled, horrible, pretentious. granola, he spits.

i am going to be kind to them. i am going to set the example, i think. and whatever they choose become in the meantime - i'm going to love them for it.

#writeblr #i was doing a lot with high school students. over and over again #other teachers kept asking me what i was doing differently - why the kids listened to me. i am not particularly foreboding #and i have a pretty firm personal policy of never reacting in anger #godhelpme. #i was always kind of taken aback #because in general the kids were pretty easy. i explained i needed to keep everything “PG-13” because this was my workplace #and it was kind of their workplace #too. besides #i love swearing #and since i couldn't swear #neither could they - so if they were going to say “fuck” or become violent #they needed to choose a really specific time #because we only get “the one”.. sure enough - nobody wanted to waste the one very specific “fuck” utterance. kids listened. #i think just because - that rule makes sense. the kids understand that i don't want to be unfair to them #that censorship is stupid #but that i'm under these rules too so like let's ride it out together #also i look young and tbh between me and u nobody wants to make the nice english teacher cry #the way these kids defended me to their friends was really genuinely so heartwarming bc the Grouchy Frat Boy #would be like MISS RAQUEL DOESN'T DESERVE THAT KIND OF AN ATTITUDE BRO DON'T TALK BACK TO HER

[crybaby-bkg]

Bakugou asks you to join him during one of his photoshoots for a pro hero campaign. he doesn’t understand the point of it, nor why he has to only be in his underwear, but he doesn’t mind it much when he gets to look over to your shy little face.

you’re propped up in a corner on an old couch, laptop perched in your lap, its glare bright despite the way you never really look at it. you’re supposed to be catching up on some work, but you’ve been distracted by the glorious sight that is the love of your life.

when he looks at you, do you duck down, eyes suddenly focused on your screen again. it only makes him smile a little, step away from the assistant of the photographer who comes up to him, calls out your name.

“Huh?” your head whips up with a quickness neither of you expect, goes to show just how invested you really were with your work. but Bakugou only grins at you now, jerking his chin over to you as he grabs the bottle of oil the assistant was trying to pour over him.

“C’mere and gimme a hand, won’t ya?” he asks you, boyish smile gracing his face as he tilts his head at you. immediately, your face warms as you put together the request that’s suddenly dropped in your lap. everyone in the studio looks at you, with both envious and excited gazes, and it only makes you shrink in on yourself.

“I hate you.” you mutter under your breath when you finally rise up from your place on the couch, which he somehow hears. but Bakugou only laughs at you, grabs you by the waist when you’re close enough to kiss you breathless in front of everybody, before he’s handing off the oil to you.

“Such an attention whore,” you whisper when you’re close, the air between the two of you thick. everyone tries to look away, give you guys a bit of privacy, but it’s hard when such a soft and amused look passes over the usually rough and hardened hero’s face.

“Only for your attention.” he grunts back to you, holding his arms out for you to start dripping the oil down his skin. it’s a sensual gesture, the softness between you two sliding into something more, something that you only ever reserve for the bedroom.

you tip the bottle over his shoulders until it drips down his chest, massaging it all in with your hands in crude, circular motions. you can see the way he bites his lip, ignore the way he looks at you down the bridge of his nose lest you two create a scene not meant for the public eye. you gather more oil, warm it between your palms, kneeling in front of him to help massage it into the defined muscles of his stomach.

you ignore the twitch in front of you, swallowing thickly, glancing up to Bakugou who hasn’t taken his eyes off of you yet. you mouth at him to behave, but he only grins, something feral.

“We only need it above the waistband.” the photographer suddenly calls out, snapping you back to attention. you stand on shaky knees, nodding with your eyes casted low, ashamed, that your freak of a man had you doing something so…so—

“Go wait in my dressing room, yeah?” Bakugou asks you, pulling you in close to peck at the corner of your mouth. “Gonna wrap this shit up.” he promises you, and you can only nod silently, mind going a mile a minute. but before you go, you remember to grab the oil. just in case.

#I hope this makes sense and sorry that it’s This. #I’m sleepy and having an allergic reaction and it’s HELL!!!!!!! #and I’m also coming on my cycle life just won’t stop beating my ass #on the other hand I really enjoyed my schoolwork this week which was a nice relief #I have a week left and I’m so happy bc I’ll finally have more time to write what I want again!!! #bakugou treats! 🍬 #—new treat in the streets! 🍫 #also I’ve talked about model bkg before but I can never get enough of him I fear #him as a model or even just modeling in general does something to me #mr pretty face with such a terrible attitude and such a brat bc he wants only you for everything #I need him terribly so

[arthursfuckinghat]

"I was gonna say you're like a son to me.. but you're more than that."

"It ain't that complicated!"

How quickly that shoulder pat of comfort turned into a condescending one.

#he makes me feel so emo #this life was never meant for you but your fate was forced #the way dutch (and hosea) talks to arthur like he's stupid will never sit right with me #like they've been by his side over 20 years they KNOW he isn't stupid because if he was he would have been gone a long time ago #not only is arthur incredibly emotionally smart but he's a trained conman vault breaker gunslinger horse rider you name it #the fact that his own adoptive parents break him down like that hurts #it's a manipulation tactic on dutch's end - break your victims self esteem to make them chase your praise and approval #hosea I believe has just gone along with that kind of attitude but in a different way he just likes to jest lightheartedly #arthur doesn't see the difference though and it's understandable but he takes it to heart #the worst part is that hosea sees through his tough guy act and has called arthur out on it #his act is a defence mechanism to protect himself from being too vulnerable - in arthur's mind #and it isn't a sudden thing it's very likely something that has built over the years given the life he has lived #and hosea notices he knows this #but they still jab at arthur #oh it hurts #is he your son dutch? or is he your guard dog? your personal workhorse? #playing through the second time is opening my eyes more and more #rdr2 #red dead redemption 2 #mick squeaks #mick rants #mick gifs #arthur morgan #dutch van der linde #liveblogging #you guys gotta understand - arthur seeks and longs for dutch's approval he'll never say it but it's the key motive behind his loyalty #and arthur *rejects* dutch's comfort #he doesn't *want* dutch to pat him on the shoulder because he knows dutch is digging them an even deeper hole #he doesn't want that touch he craves #it's so insanely monumental for such a small scene because it shows us how arthur feels without telling us

[accio-victuuri]

sniffling but still adorable yibo 🥹🥹🥹

BONUS: his expression! lol. he is so scandalized 😂😂😂

#MY AGENDA TO SHOW YIBO’S CUTENESS AND BEST BOY ATTITUDE WILL NEVER STOP #my young master deserves to be loves by everyone 🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️ #there is something about lwj yibo that will always get me #wang yibo #lan zhan #lan wangji #untamed bts #cql bts #accio victuuri edit #accio victuuri gifs

[radioactive-mouse]

martyn littlewood truly is The Character Ever, he is masks on top of masks on top of masks except for all the times he is stubbornly and violently himself and refuses to compromise on anything ever

#does anyone understand me #maybe i’ll elaborate on this later but like #martyn littlewood never shows his full hand. except for when he doesn’t have a fucking hand to begin with #obligatory hand of the king joke here but like #3L/LL/LimL martyn’s 4d chess backroom dealing schemes vs DL/SL martyns FUCK IT WE BALL FUCK IT WE BALL FUCK IT WE BALL attitude #martyn littlewood is ruthlessly cutthroat and competitive. except for when he needs the girl he’s in love with to like him #(he can’t admit this) #anyway #inthelittlewood #trafficblr #mouse.txt

[uncanny-tranny]

I just heard this ad that says therapy is just "learning how to love yourself," and quite honestly, I disagree with that sentiment. I think it puts uneeded pressure on people to "love themselves."

I don't think you need to love yourself to benefit from therapy, and therapy shouldn't just be "learning to love yourself." It certainly is beneficial for some people to learn skills that we call self-love, like setting boundaries, hygiene that works for you, eating full and balanced meals that you enjoy, for instance, but that doesn't need to include this air of being in love with yourself.

I think therapy is about learning how to live with yourself. You don't have to love your flatmates (for example), but you often respect them as people. So, you'll clean up after yourself, and you'll communicate with them, and you'll even make small talk with them. That's kind of how I see therapy. You don't have to love yourself, but you often need to learn how to respect yourself, and I think those are slightly different things.

#mental health #mental health advocacy #i will be open and say i often don't love myself. but i'm learning how to respect myself so that maybe one day i WILL love myself... #...and i find the whole 'LOVE YOURSELF' to be daunting and scary because it's not where i'm at... #...and i worry that the 'LOVE YOURSELF NOW' attitude will only push people away from therapy because they're scared of that... #...it's scary to love yourself when you never learned how to do that. it's foreign and unknown... #...so you take babysteps. and if you never learn to love yourself that's fine #this isn't me saying that loving yourself is bad either. just that i don't agree that that is the WHOLE of therapy... #...and i don't think it's responsible to boil therapy down to just that #(it doesn't help that it was a betterhelp ad. which. yikes 😬. but i see that attitude elsewhere sometimes too)

[figmentof]

thing is, taika isn't doing anything a white man isn't doing

going from indie/low budget film making to blockbuster hits/superhero films: several white directors have done that. but taika's a sellout that is greedy for money. but it's not because he's brown and jewish hahaha no!!!

coming off as arrogant: wow. the number of pretentious white directors we can name here... hmm. however taika must be humbled, who the fuck does HE think he is acting like he's good at what he does. how dare a brown man have the equal amount of confidence as a mediocre cishet white male USC/Tisch film grad

the man has said stuff that's out of touch, yet that's almost standard for every single "popular" mainstream actor/director that is living a certain lifestyle, but it's silence on those fronts a couple weeks after they've made their stupid statement while taika's being held accountable for every little thing he does. it's not wrong to hold him accountable but it's very weird when he's the only one being held accountable when people who have said and done far worse than him are off the hook and their statement forgotten by the next month

the man doesn't even plaster himself on social media all that much, even when his wife posts on tiktok or ig with him it's scarce. yet the reaction when he pops up for one week to do promo for his new project makes you think he's taylor swift levels of inescapable or he's personally broken into people's houses and murdered their pets

#'i'm liking taika less and less' why? no give me a reason that doesn't have to do with his so-called attitude and the shit he says #when other celebs have done far worse but don't get even a quarter of the internets wrath like he does #poc are never allowed to just be people with flaws and perhaps the wrong takes about things huh? #they also aren't allowed to have egos or be outwardly confident

[ddarker-dreams]

one of yan alhaitham's most heinous punishments for when you've been acting up is going through your essays one by one to point out every single error. grammar or otherwise. he picks up on details even your teacher failed to notice, they were that minor.

#he'd so get me on that active vs passive voice thing #i have tried and never figure out how to tell the difference with 100% accuracy #ngl yan alhaitham is my worst nightmare. his definition of 'acting up' is so loose it might as well be exhibiting basic human behavior #you sigh once and he's like hm.... an attitude huh?? #like man everyone has an attitude around you go away. #yandere alhaitham x reader #concepts

[joy-crimes]

Isn't weird how in Kingdom Hearts, one of the few people of color is portrayed as being inheritly evil & malicious...just some food for thought :)

#you misused the word inherently #like there's nothing to suggest he's the antagonist for no reason other than personal choice #but KH still has a racism and colorism problem #also god the whole “i'm telling you this like you've never thought about it before” attitude is really grating #like even though i agree with u i wish u would use more tact when ur talking to someone u dont know #did u like... expect me to disagree w/ u?

[rabbits-of-negative-euphoria]

#- HK #I would say some of my peers pushed the cooties narrative but my parents discouraged it #so I never thought of boys as being gross or having transmissible microbes #and I was always raised to value romance so I I don’t think I ever noticed a shift in my attitude towards the male sex #however I was somewhat (okay Very) bitter when suddenly it was inappropriate for me to be alone in a room with my male friend #but that bitterness had nothing to do with my own feelings towards guys #(and I truly think it was unavoidable. it’s part of growing up. #you can’t know why it’s inappropriate unless you also know all the lurid things two teens can get up to alone.) #(perhaps the suddenness of the change can be mitigated but the sadness can’t) #anyways I’ve always wondered about this shift everyone talks about that happens around middle school #because I remember feeling quite glad and natural in it. though I always was an aspiring adult)

[swinging-stars-from-satellites]

pray for me please

#SHITTY morning guys #I messed a bunch of things up before even leaving home and now I feel devastatingly worthless and awful #like... nothing can fix this my day is ruined kind of feelings. I'm trying to fight them but all the proof is that #they're true. I effed up and then made it worse by reacting poorly repeatedly when I should have gone forward differently #repeatedly #so.... yeah #anyway. I'll probably feel better in a little while but i should never trust my feelings with stuff like this. they're nasty little buggers #idk. I feel like I SHOULDNT feel better. I need to change so much about my attitude and behavior why should I have a good day #how can I???? #idk ANYWAY. I'm gonna stop wallowing. pray for me please?? #prayer request

[cityrun]

hes like somehow both & neither. hes playing a different game.

#reminds me of when i was a teen and apparently could easily hold conversations with anyone but they could never tell a thing about me #they'd say i had a strong personality but the way i talked revealed virtually nothing about my life - just general disposition & attitude #its strange trying to think back to that time but i think i can sort of see what it mightve been like for others lol #text #sonic #shadow #silver

[ariesbilly]

stranger things fandom never heard the phrase "every saint has a past and every sinner has a future" and it shows

#the way yall can NOT grasp the complexity of the human experience never ceases to baffle me #if you go around with the attitude of 'if you do anything wrong ever you will always be a Bad person even if you try to make ammends' it #will genuinely ruin your life #AND what kills me is yall tout yourselves as these open minded liberals who are anti cop anti justice system #we need to be more accepting !!! #until the SECOND a person you personally dont like starts acting up #and then the republican comes out REAL quick #the evangelical conservative bible thumper JUMPS out #you know how to be an open minded accepting person? #listen to the people you dont like #hear their stories #offer help #a good person does not only extent a hand to people they like #which... you all watch stranger things i understand why you dont get that message #cuz this is the show of 'the only good guys are the ones who think and act just like us' #so #i see what we're dealing with

[being-of-rain]

Listening to a Dr Who podcast (not one anyone here has recommended to me, in fact I think I heard about it through a tumblr post,) and it's reminding me why I almost never listen to Dr Who podcasts or watch Dr Who youtube videos. It's because I just can't stand hearing so much objectively wrong information. Maybe it's due to Doctor Who being such a large and long-lived franchise, I know that I can misremember and get things muddled. But surely if you're publishing something you'd want to double check that you're not confidently emphasising incorrect facts about even basic things... and yet I feel like I see it with surprising frequency. It drives me crazy, please get a fact checker.

#that's said it's also the bad takes and bad attitudes #hearing dr who fans so eager to hate on writers and stories and act like their opinion is gospel always annoys me #I'll hate on dr who but I never want people to think my opinions are the only option or something they must agree with #my posts #talking of bad attitudes one of the hosts in this podcast is both acting like writing fanfic is an inherently inferior way to be a fan #and acting like Big Finish is inherently better and more canon than other parts of the Who EU #they don't mean any harm but they're finding so many ways to grind my gears #Im not going to list anymore examples because this petty vent post is probably already too long jsdklfj

[mariocki]

Roger Delgado makes a brief appearance as an unnamed but helpful Argentine diplomat, in Overseas Press Club - Exclusive!: Two Against the Kremlin (1.13, ABPC, 1957)

#fave spotting #roger delgado #overseas press club exclusive! #two against the kremlin #delgado!master #classic doctor who #doctor who #abpc #1957 #classic tv #a very pleasant surprise! i assumed i was all done with finding blorbos in OPCE but then up pops Rog for a little scene in the final episode #he's an embassy diplomat‚ which was kind of his stock in trade role before he fell into villain work #not much variation in images bc he's only onscreen for about 30 seconds to give Ralph Bellamy's US newspaperman some tips on #getting his family out of Moscow. I've mentioned in other OPCE posts that the veracity of the 'true stories' told is difficult to pin down #Bellamy is playing journalist Eddy Gilbert‚ a very real person‚ and the details of his marriage to a Russian ballet dancer‚ Tamara‚ and the #opposition they faced from Russian authorities is certainly true; their relationship was well known enough to have inspired a film‚ 1953's #Never Let Me Go starring Clark Gable as Gilmore and Gene Tierney as Tamara (albeit with names changed and some highly dramatic additions #to their story). how much is true of the rest of this tv ep is anyone's guess but it's certainly among the more believable #and there's nothing too objectionable (accounting for cold war era attitudes‚ i mean)

[rise-my-angel]

I am here for your takes on Dani. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought her x Jon smelled of hot garbage. Like at best she was meh, and then when the two of them met I was just like "oh no....you're an entitled bitch". And now that its been years since I last consumed GoT, my thoughts have fermented into "oh no, she really is a conqueror" "oh no, everyone loves her because 'pretty badass lady'" "oh no i'm the fandom minority again". Anyway, where was I. She and Jon had no chemistry. The end.

The *only* way putting them in a romance even makes sense in concept is when you realize Benioff and Weiss gave Jon the Young Griff arc. It's why they gave him a Targ name, beacuse if they call him "aegon" then they can fufill that part of the books without ever having to establish Young Griff as his own character. He is the supposed son of Rhaegar Targaryean and Elia Martell, he goes to Westeros with intentions of using his better claim to take the throne and intends initially on marrying Dany, and it's theorized heavily that Dany will see his claim as a threat and the Burning of Kings Landing will come down to Aegon against Dany.

Jon Snow has nothing to do with that. He is a moral opposite to Dany as a charecter, and we've seen him time and time again be at strong odds against people with her morals. But by giving him the Young Griff arc, it means putting him into the romance spot when it makes no sense for him.

Hey I put a read more beacuse I cannot shut the fuck up about how this relationship is just rape and abuse but beacuse Jon's a man we think he wants it.

All of season 7 Jon is so out of place because he doesn't belong anywhere near Dany's Iron Throne plot, and he's being forced to interact romantically with a charecter that clearly he does not like as a person and is uncomfortable with.

But, Dany is the sacred cow of the GoT/asoiaf fandom. You love her and if you critizize her for villanious actions or morals then you are using bad faith towards her. While I personally don't like her, I don't mind other people liking her but I despise that her stans all refuse to allow any conversation about her being a morally bad person. A person who enjoys cruelty and death, enjoys creating fear and is smug when she can control others. That is not a person Jon would love, let alone even respect.

Their entire relationship wreaks of abuse, of Jon being forced into this and knows he cannot leave it without risking his and his families lives. Remember when Tyrion gave a very small level critisism of her actions and she angrily accused him of treason and siding with his family instead of her? Well what do people think would she have done, if her attraction to Jon was refused? Someone who she took all the defenses away from, all the power from, and could have killed at any moment (dont make an ygritte comparison mimi dont make an yrgitte comparison this is a different anti jon x fandom female fave charecter post).

I don't care how the show frames it, or what the intent was. What we got on screen, was Jon Snow being held prisoner to an immoral, cruel, military conquerer. And when that woman was attracted to him, she essentially forced herself into his life and gave him all but no choice. The Jon bending the knee scene and..the uh...boat...scene...later...uhhh....anyways, those to me feel so out of charecter. You cannot convince me Jon did any of this willingly. He is clearly trapped in this situation and cannot leave and is only with her beacuse she is violent and bloodthrirsty. But beacause Jon is a strong, capable man, it's not talked about as if he's the victim and that is insane to me. (Oh my good god the ygritte comparisons are almost laughable send help).

I don't consider a lot past season 5 to be canon, but if I am forced too, then I refuse to accept Jon was a willing participant in that relationship.

Jon's parentage reveal will always be about the revelations of his mother, and the understanding and acceptance of WHY Ned raised him the way he did. And how it was both his parents, his mother and his adopted father who loved him and kept him safe. The very fact that Young Griff's entire story is based around whether or not he truly is Rhaegar's son as opposed to that being a twist reveal is beacuse HE is the charecter whose Targaryean links is the important one. Jon's story is about him as Stark, and is always shown to be the moral opposite of Dany.

Their relationship in the best senario is not canon, but if it has to be, then there is no world in which Jon is there of his own free will. He is being forced into this relationship against his will. But considering his other love interest was another charecter who essentially forced him into a relationship against his will, and we were supposed to root for that tells me all I need to know.

Dany is a sacred cow charecter, and her stans are unreasonable in defending her. When you can like a charecter and critize them for their actions. Ned Stark was an idiot for ever trusting Petyr Baelish, Catelyn Stark's spiteful attitude and neglect of Jon Snow is was abusive behavior, Theon Greyjoy was a moron who ruined his own life for a father who long since abandonded him. Bam all charecters I love and there are some major flaws that I refuse to defend them for but thats also what makes them good charecters. Their flaws arent writing flaws, they are personal flaws for them as people.

Dany is not allowed to have personal flaws she is always to be justified even with incredibly bad faith defenses, but when she is flawed it's the writings fault not hers. Dany is a cruel, sadistic, controlling, military tyrant who enjoys watching her subjects fear her and her dragons. And she forced Jon Snow into a relationship with her beacuse otherwise then he is against her and we already knew she has no use for people who dont support her to be alive.

Jon Snow deserved better then to have both his love interests be domineering, controlling, abusive women who forced him into a romantic and sexual relationship.

Also, I mean, incest being normal is only a learned trait from Targaryens supporting their own blood purity. Jon was not raised to think incest is normal. Dany thinks its normal beacuse she and Viserys both were raised to think that, and Young Griff thinks marrying Dany is normal beacuse he too was raised with the mentality that Rhaegar would've been raised with. Jon finding out Dany was his aunt would've had Jon looking right at Sam and just

#i liked her in early seasons of the shows run #but quickly i realized I was watching a charecter who would never see herself as in the wrong and her fans did the same thing #wheras Jon wears his flaws on his sleeve and is always fighting to better himself against a world telling him its fine to be a bad person #he is a good man with a strong moral compass and would see through her facade in zero seconds flat #he DOES HE CALLS HER OUT ON HER ENTITLED VIOLENT ATTITUDE BUT THE SHOW PRETENDS ITS A MEET CUTE #HE HATES HER #he and davos would turn their asses around and swim back to winterfell before hed ever even remotely like her as a person #this isnt a judgement for those who enjoy her as a charecter #but instead a critisism of those fans for having absoutelty no objectivity in talking about her flaws and morals as a person #jon fucking hates her and no amount of uwu look how pretty she is will ever fucking convince me otherwise #game of thrones #asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #jon snow #anti jonerys #anti daenerys targaryen #anti targ stans #anti targaryen