Tumgik
#ok me and my bf officially broke up
spnkakashi · 10 months
Text
.
2 notes · View notes
aplaceforthesoul · 9 months
Text
Anonymous submitted:
29f here  hi there, I started to "officially" date my boyfriend bout a year ago. Im really happy with him. I adore him, and our relationship is amazing.  I had never been in a commited relationship before, and there is a small thing that has been bothering me lately. I m not a jealous at all, I have never been like this, yet I feel worried about him and his exgf. It all starts when we first met... when we met they werr together and we were not even friends (my bf and me) and then "they broke up" or thats what he said. We started going put as friends and then went on a trip together... we started being friends with benefits after he asured me he was no longer in a relationship with this person. Well turns out one day I was at the beach and I saw them together.he didnt even speak to me. Then he said she still lived in his house bc she was broke and unemployed and that he took her to the beach "cos she wanted to go". We were not a couple just friendswb ... so yeah I distanced myself bc I didnt want to be w someone with a gf... ok so fast forward. After a month or so he  calls me to tell me she trashed his house bc he asked her to leave. So another month ... we start dating. I decided to Just let go of that bc we were not even together. Everything is great and he is like my bestfriend. BUT this lady has messaged him twice.1st saying he saw us together at the beach he didnt answer. 2nd to tell him she was over him and that she was dating sb el se. And he answered hope u r doing well ... like this bothered me ... cos a guy that i was seeing in the past also messaged me and i was like mm yeah idc ... anything else?... bc i genuinely dont care. ...We have a fb Page of a bussines we started together.  The ex often watches stories reels and Leaves reacts here and there but doesnt follow said Page. She blocked a friend of mine bc she thinks she is the actual gf... she doesnt even Know it is me ... but like this shit is toxic. And I now DO belive what he told me about them not being together and him lettting her stay out of pity, bc he often allows ppl to take advantage of him and doesnt set boundaries. This worries me bc im scared she might try sth w him and he May accept bc of this.it also fills me w doubts about HIM having moved on from her. Idk how to approach this wo sounding crazy. I already told him about the fb thing and her blocking my friend and he just says ah yeah .but i dont know how to tell him about my concerns. Hope you could help me. I feel very anxious and like this could be a thing that could ruin the relationship and trust
Hi there. It's understandable that you feel anxious since it seems to be a messy situation. It does not seem like a healthy relationship to me :c
It seems to me that a lot of focus has been put on him and his ex but not you. Have you asked yourself what you want from the relationship and from him? Are you happy being in this relationship/ situation?
As an adult, I think your bf needs to take accountability as he continues letting things happen (even if he no longer has feelings for her). If you are not happy with how things are going, perhaps it's best to find a time when you and him are both calm to have a face-to-face convo
You may approach the conversation by stating your observations and feelings without any criticism or judgment (This link about four components to the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) model, may help). Tell him calmly how the situation (him letting his exgf take advantage of him) makes you feel uncomfortable and you would like to see if boundaries can be put up.
I can also feel that you feel insecure about this relationship as you worried that she may steal him away. Trust and honesty are important qualities of a healthy romantic relationship. Currently, it seems to me that you do not feel secure about your place in the relationship and his behaviours. Apart from talking to him regarding the situation, perhaps try putting the focus back on yourself? Engage in your hobbies, hang out with friends and family or join a new community? When you focus on yourself more, you will have less time to worry about him. You are loved regardless of his feelings for you. You are valued no matter how he treats you. <3
There is also no certain way to know if he/ she was lying. You can only do what's best for you in this situation. Please always take care of yourself first!
Love,
Sammi
6 notes · View notes
takizuzufu · 1 year
Text
Holidays with my family stress me out
TL;DR: I feel the need to complain about family. Holidays stress me out partially due to a sibling who is bipolar. On my phone and not a usual reddit poster so formatting is probably terrible. If anybody manages to read the whole thing, thank you
I just want to start out this complaint by saying that it's has officially been a year since my first everything bf of 10 years broke up with me. I am doing much better and actually for the most part I don't miss him anymore, except for moments like now. I would complain to him about my family. I am super introverted and shy and he was also my best friend so its hard to replace him when it comes to someone I trust enough to complain to but I just really feel the need to complain to somebody.
Anyways, I will stick to complaining about one subject even though i have so much I want to say. My immediate family is a huge source of stress for me. I love them, I really do but I also can't stand being around them. My older sister is bipolar, my fraternal twin and I both are anxious and depressed and on meds for them. I think my dad is on depression meds too. My family is not the worst around but that doesn't change that fact that my childhood was pretty crappy. Like my dad was apparently abusive (not like super abusive. I really can't say much since he wasn't as bad to my twin and I) to my older sister who then turned around and was abusive to me. Once we all got older (whatever 3rd grade age, my older sister is 2 years older ), depression and anxiety def became issues) and since then every holiday someone ends up having an emotional breakdown (usually my older sister or me) Finally got diagnosed and put on meds for depression and anxiety the summer before college and things got better for me. My older sister and I still clash but most of the time I feel pretty ok. I went to college in a different state. Made a friend, got a bf. Had some ups and downs emotional but the first 3 and 1/2 years were ok. I ended up taking 9 years before getting a degree and had one serious suicide attempt (as in I was in a mental health ward for a week). About year 4 I started taking summer classes so I was only home for winter break and spring break. My friend left the college after 3 years so I leaned heavily on my bf emotionally, my grades tanked, my mood tanked, etc. Being home even for like a week would be super stressful.
Sorry, more background than I planned so this post is getting long. I will move on to what my original complaint was going to be. So back to my older sister being bipolar. She gets upset so easily. Every holiday celebration is awkward because she usually ends up threatening to kill herself over something pretty insignificant. After years of this, I am seriously over her behavior. I have talked to my parents about how they need to start doing more to show her that her terrible behaviors is not ok and I'm just told that I'm not the parent so it's not my problem. What spurned this complaining session is tonight my family is doing a winter solstice celebration (no specific reason) at my older sisters apartment (my twin and I still live at home). I woke up from a nap to a message that the celebration was cancelled. I was a bit happy. Then I am told we are going. It's a short drive but it's snowy and icy. Then we get there and my older sister is all angry and tells us to leave but then not because she wasn't sure what she wanted, so we stayed awkwardly and I started this thread. She is doing better and things are less tense for the rest of the family but not me. I am still on edge because I am just waiting for something to upset my older sister and things go to shit again. And that's my state around my family. I am just waiting for things to go wrong and 95% of the time things do go wrong and 80% she ends up saying she hates and she has gotten better but still sometimes threatens to kill herself. I mentioned it has been a year since my bf broke up with me and it was really hard. I am doing much better, but still hurting.I feel lonely and my family stresses me out but I can't get a job (that's a whole other complaint you don't want me to get started on) and live on my own or run away when my family upsets me and I have no friends to turn to or anything. I do go to therapy but you know thats not always helpful because I can't really turn to my therapist to complain every time I get upset or stressed, hence me posting this.
I think I will end things here. I know my thoughts are probably a mess and thoughts may be unfinished but I think I have already gone on longer than I should. If anybody does take time to read this, I thank you. I just needed to complain to somebody since I no longer have my bf to complain to when I get stressed. And I am not worried about my family finding this post because no one else uses reddit.
0 notes
pr0dbeomgyu · 2 years
Text
[10:50 pm]
pairing: bf!jay x reader
genre: fluff
my entry for BITE SIZED BUTTERFLIES cause im a sucker for fluff drabbles @koishua
a/n: i have a crush on jay these days so-
you're on the couch just cuddling with bf!jay, your head on his chest, his arms tightly around your waist. you love spending nights like this with him, just hugging and talking. you had just recently made it official, maybe like 3 weeks ago, and you're just leisurely discussing on what you should call each other. you had just called him 'jeongseongie' before this and he called you 'y/n-ie', but he had been complaining ever since the last 2 weeks, saying "it's not cute enough," or "it's not special enough,"
"oh cmon y/n-ie, dont you want to call me something cuter like baby or honey? jeongseongie is so basic, I am not basic," he whined, rolling his eyes dramatically, his hand playing with your fingers between your torsos. this habit of him is so endearing, you must say.
"fine, how about babe?"
"i dont know, do you feel like it rolls off your tongue just fine, honey?" he asked, grimacing at the end. "okay, honey's definitely not it,"
"oooooh, i know, i know," you distanced yourself to look at his face. "how about daddy?" he smirked mischievously.
you immediately gasped, almost choking on air.
"jay!" you hit his chest. "that's not funny!" you swear he could be the death of you.
"it was worth the try," he shrugged.
it was silent, both of you are now thinking.
"angel?" he broke the silence.
your face heated up at the endearment, but still, you dont fancy it too much.
"cute, but you can do better," you giggled.
"what do you mean, you're literally blushing right now!"
"oh shut up, you can just breathe and i would still be blushing,"
"damn, you're down bad,"
"at least i dont trip over nothing when i saw you smiling," you deadpanned.
"that's like months ago!"
"it's okay, it's understandable. you're just head over heels for me, baby,"
"oh god, i think my heart just skipped a beat," he raised his head to look at you.
"baby it is, then," you smiled, pinching his cheeks, making him giggle.
"you're too adorable,"
"you too, sweetheart,"
"ok i kinda like that, call me that again,"
"your wish is my command, sweetheart," he said, tucking a stray strand of hair behind your ear.
"fuck, my heart just did a somersault,"
"I love you, sweetheart," he chuckled.
"I love you too, daddy," you snickered, standing up quickly before he could catch you.
"I-"
"did you just stutter cause i called you daddy? oh god i didnt know you'd be into that, baby," you laughed, turning around to leave the living room.
"w-what? no! y/n, come back here!"
lets just say the night ended up with you running around the house with your boyfriend at your heels, whining about how it's not true. (but you both know it is true)
319 notes · View notes
souryogurt64 · 2 years
Note
which journal entry what dead bf please tell
i go back on forth on this one a lot
ok so pete has this journal entry where he mentions "kissing boys" someone saying the phrase "you were pretty for a boy" and sneaking into a cemetery to fall asleep crying on someones grave. i have answered this before. the passage in question is definitely a bit eyebrow-raising, and as a result there is a pervasive story in bandom that pete has a secret dead boyfriend.
I'm sure they'd lock me up somewhere if anyone saw me at 23, sneaking into cemetaries, taking pills to make me feel okay, sleeping in the grass just above you. The sirens find me at the first light. My lips, cracked and dried from the tears, I'll probably die a cliche. Flash the lights to kissing boys. Provocative.
a couple things, though. first, i think if pete really did have someone significant in his life that died when pete was in his late teens or early twenties, chris would almost certainly know this person. and if this happened, chris would probably talk about it frequently. but this isnt like... a thing. its possible nobody has noticed as prolific is an understatement when it comes to chris' posting, but i doubt it.
second, since the first time i answered this ask i have begun writing and researching what rapidly spiraled into a full dissertation on petes book and i have noticed that many recognizable passages from his secret journals appear in the novel and this is one of them.
"The buttons on one side of Her coat never snapped on the other side. They were for fashion, not function, she would tell me. Then she would kiss me and say "something like “You’re beautiful for a boy” and make me laugh..." (from the book)
"The buttons on one side of your coat that wouldn't snap on the other side, they were just for fashion, not for function you told me. You were pretty for a boy. It made me laugh" (from the journal)
while i do think a lot of the book is too close to reality to be fake and likely falls under the category of a roman a clef, the whole car crash thing is, in my opinion, not real. i broke this down somewhere else but basically a roman a clef is a format that blurs reality and fiction and used for: "writing about controversial topics and/or reporting inside information on scandals without giving rise to charges of libel; the opportunity to turn the tale the way the author would like it to have gone; the opportunity to portray personal, autobiographical experiences without having to expose the author as the subject"
the very first song on fall out boys first ever official album was about his girlfriend dying in a car accident and it was one of only two tracks on take this to your grave that pete penned entirely himself. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DvARlLtpJi0
it is my opinion that while the journal entry mentioning "kissing boys" is definitely legitimately questionable, its also extremely possible he wrote a story about a guys girlfriend dying in a car accident and it became the book, and this initial journal entry is from that original story. i hope this makes sense.
16 notes · View notes
ppeonppeonhan · 2 years
Text
Thoughts while watching episode 12
- 4 YEARS?!!!!
- Pat is stronger than me. There's no way I'd be able to hear that song again, let alone play it with him, without dissolving into mush.
- 30min in and I'm still hoping -- in spite of ALL signs of their estrangement -- that they are secretly together. I'm on my 🤡 shit. Smh
- 2 minutes later: YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! VINDICATION!
- Ugh I am annoyed at Wai knowing Pran is full of shit and didn't break up with Pat, but I did laugh. Lol
- Of course these fools had a healthy long distance relationship. If anyone could, it's them.
- IDK Why but Korn and Wai playfully pretending to be dating is somehow more entertaining than them actually dating. Lol
- What if "Good luck buddy" at the end of episode 11 was them saying, "Good luck pretending we broke up." Sigh The suffering their ambiguous asses put us through. Smh
- 😭 Last 20min, then no more Bad Buddy.😭
- IDK Why we're wasting time watching this trifling man hesitate to accept Pran's gift. HE'S the one who needs to ask for forgiveness.
- Awww she left him the guitar to symbolize approving of his relationship. 🥺
- Oh my god their parents can hear them when they cross over to each other's room?!!! THEY COULD ALWAYS HEAR THEM!!!! 😳 Dead. Lol
- Ok so if there's a season 2 it'll probably be about how they get their families to officially come together for their wedding. There has to be some other conflict though, and hopefully they don't go the love triangle route. Although, not sure what else there is to do...
- I need you to understand that if my hot bf wants to play a game of "who knows who best?" and the punishment for getting the answer wrong is a kiss, I would intentionally get every single answer wrong -- without hesitation.
- Never mind. Pran knows how to play the game. I forgot my boy's low key a freak. 🤣
- This is exactly how I imagined their romance and sex life: chaotic bafoonery. Lol
Sigh Bad Buddy deserves all the awards. Entertaining from start to finish. Heartbreaking at times, but also sweet and inspiring. I'll miss these clowns.
Tumblr media
37 notes · View notes
luvargas · 3 years
Photo
Tumblr media
     i think i just saw LUCILA “ LU ” VARGAS ride by on a golf cart . at least i think it was her . after all , CREDIT IN THE STRAIGHT WORLD BY HOLE was blasting on the transistor radio . maybe she was on her way to work , i hear she’s a PERSONAL TRAINER . but she totally could have been on her way to SNEAK IN A SMOKE AT THE GARDEN . guess we’ll never know . you’ll definitely know its her when you see LOOSE AND TANGLED HAND WRAPS , BUTTON BADGES ON VEGAN LEATHER ,  AND HEAR THE SHRILL SOUND OF BICKERING around the country club . let’s just hope she stays off the green after hours or else the sprinklers will get her !
( new muse, messy thoughts, u get the gist. pls know the views of this chara do not reflect my own. the name’s katya, 21, she/her pronouns & im ready 2 party. feel free to hmu wnvr or drop a like to plot n ill com 2 u ! x — oh n pls be a pal n read this quick disclaimer. tysm ! )
BASICS
24 years old
15 april 1997
5′1″ or 1.55m tall
bisexual cis woman, she/her
aries sun, aqua moon, and aqua rising
love languages : quality time & acts of service
BIO POINTS
kid o’ divorce, lived w her ma in chicago til she was 6 then w her dad in highlands til 14 then back to her ma ! 
def a daddys gorl. so used to her white pop’s leniency that livin w her strict latina ma durin her teen yrs was So Not Her Vibe ergo * cue her rebel grrrl phase *
did not finish hs ! left senior yr 2 to go w her “ radically progressive ” college bf to [ insert dev country. ] they broke up after a few mos but she kept at that life for a couple more yrs
seen some places. lived in new countries. done some shit. some good, some sus, but all generally well-intentioned. tis a whole thing but u get the gist, nywy !
lu’s back in da usa by 21. rel w the ma is strained but the pa is chill w stuff, they kept in touch. he said shell get her college fund if she gets her ged so she does !
her dad is v active n stuff so shes just always been v sporty w him. lu turnin 23 w zilch plans worried him so he implored her to get certified as a personal trainer ! n when she did, he called in a few favors w a pal he knows et voilà ! ur hired.
LU AT WORK
shes been workin at the country club fr a little over a yr now. most her clients are influencer-type gals n they luv her bc shes can take rlly cute pics n stuff for content. lu sorta likes some of em n she fakes the rest for the bread. u can bet she clowns all em richies behind their back   
unless she got clients, catch her runnin’ about the club n minglin’ w the other workers. does it annoy mngmt ? yes. n she luvs that. but bc her soon-2-b-karen clients luv her n wont stand for her bein booted, she can milk that impunity
actually knows her shit n lowkey rlly enjoys the work. she picked back up the boxing n tae kwon do she did when she was younger plus she was always in the track team at school. v healthy lifestyle save for her smokin vice n the party moments
PERSONALITY 
passionate ! has lotsa opinions. helluva a drama queen, bit of a loud mouth, argumentative n stubborn but her heart’s in the right place, albeit a lil misguided. comes w the whole activist bit, bitin her tongue just aint it. highkey makes everythin political n smtms gotta realize .,.,. it just aint that deep chief. some say shes needlessly defiant, but maybe thats a in the beholder typa thing ? fingers crossed 4 lu’s sake
fun, fun, fun ! can be real naggy but shes no buzzkill. wannabe anarchist-slash-mutineer who wants 2 stick it 2 the man ! get rowdy go crazy
fight, fight, fight ! goin back to the first bit, she talks big. esp w like ,, men n the whites lol. she can actually walk her threats tho she isnt actually violent. w arguments, she likes to start em but finishin is ... ruff.  also any dare, she wont back down in either doin it or arguin why doin it wld be smth-ist. shes not the sharpest tool ok rip lu
loyal legend ! fr her friends n buds, shell turn a blind eye. pals r the only exception ! truly ride or die n will do errthng 4 em. v much a believer in the power of community n ppl needin ppl or wtvr, yk, all that stuff. shes mouthy but like, she helps ppl 
here’s a brief blurb n a more coherent look into lu as a character
TIDBITS
lu can understand spanish but hers is a bit broken, tis her secret shame shhh
she doesn’t believe in the institution. any institution. u name it, shes got beef
pls dont fact check her she cant hear u
probs lowkey thinks shes better than u bc shes vegan
prefers 2 be called “ lu ” n ny1 who insists on lucila is dead 2 her 
comments abt her not lookin like a pt w her height n frame will result in an earful n a dramatic outburst. it aint worth it chief
watches lotsa sports w her pops. mostly indiv ones. mma, boxing, tennis, track, etc
dont ask me abt her principles n politics, i cant explain em either. v inconsistent n just messy at this point tbh but here’s a lil attempt ig
she drives a 2018 prius n lives in a p nice 1br apt outside the club
her mom’s middle class n her dad is almost upper-middle class. he isnt a member of the club but, like ,,, he cld be if he wanted to lol. he spoils her sm while she hasnt rlly Spoken to her mom besides civility, rip they both stubborn, tis a vargas thing
she is v much in a comfy position money-wise n dsnt hav much Need to hustle but sis does hav a couple of organizations she regularly sends some dough to so thats nice ig
she went fr grassroots activist to a veteran twitter/tumblr/reddit/wtvr ranter n a change.org gofundme petition regular. is it burnout ? is she ok ? honestly who knows
WANTED CONNECTIONS / TAKEN CONNECTIONS
found family ! pals n squad wanted. y’all gotta hav patience or ear plugs to power thru her self-indulgent mini-rants but shell luv ya back tenfold !
carpool buds ? cld be a pal ! or maybe yall had a lil argument or small beef but lu still drives ym bc her pride ? said mother earth first even tho the tension n silly drama is funny 
homies to smoochies ! just sum nsa makin out. cld be pals, cld be flirty, idk, but if u wanna kiss her shes probs ok w that
smoke bud ! just sum1 thats her go-to 2 smoke w on her breaks. knows not to call her out on how its not healthy fr a trainer yada yada she knows ok. let her live
an ex ? idk yet shes not rlly datey but thats out there
crushes ! this bitch hot but does she know how to flirt ? not rlly. watch her fumble
debate club ! aka sum1 she bickers w relentlessly. its valid, sum1 fite her. r u a worker or a club member ? either works. its a whole club bc she can have tons, lu can be hella annoying n testy
clients ! self-explanatory. do they get along tho ? lets find out ! 
( im officially braindead now but if y’all got more ideas or think theres smth lu wld fit just lmk !!! down 4 wtvr, wld luv 2 hash it out w yall <3 ) 
10 notes · View notes
sharperthewriter · 3 years
Text
Chapter 3 of Possible-y Utah
Chapter 3 - Surprising the DrsP
(45 minutes later)
Kim looked around and saw that only 20 students still remained in the gym.
"Um...where did everyone go?" she asked.
"Maybe it's getting a bit late." Ron answered.
"Late..." Kim muttered to herself and then she gasped.
(Flashback, Six Hours Ago)
James cleared his throat and exclaimed, "Let's get a few things clear right up front."
Eric, without hesitation, replied "Oh, you read my mind, sir. Now, Kim explained that her
normal curfew is 10 o'clock but on special occasions and
rescue missions, you extend that to 11. I'd feel better
if we stick with 10."
(End Flashback)
"Rufus?!" Kim exclaimed.
Rufus came out onto the table and saluted.
"What time is it on the Kimmunicator?" she asked.
Rufus got out Kim's Kimmunicator from her handbag. It read the time: 12:18am.
Kim gasped, "Oh no!"
"What is it, KP?" Ron questioned, alert.
"I promised Dad that we would be back by 11pm and it's after midnight!" Kim exclaimed, "Oh no...he's definitely going to kill me for sure! I'll just send him a text on my phone, letting him know that me and Ron will be back at the house!"
"And there's the other little thing..." Ron interrupted her.
"Ron...must you compile the sitch a bit more?" Kim groaned.
"Sorry about that, Kim. How are we going to get a ride home?" Ron said. "We used the last bit of your brother's rocket fuel to get from BN HQ to the gym."
Kim then looked at Jessica, Monique and Tara on the table.
"Awww...you aren't coming to the post-prom party at my house? It has plenty of room!" Jessica insisted.
"Sorry, Jess." Kim replied, "I gotta get home to the 'rents. Maybe when Senior Prom comes around, we can do that."
"Okay, sounds like a good idea." Jessica replied.
"And I came in one of the stretch limos." Monique added.
"So that pretty much leaves Tara." Kim replied, eyeing the blonde's set of car keys.
"I got my drive's license last week, so I'll be more than happy to drive you two back to Mr. Possible's house!" Tara insisted on the request.
"Then that sitch has been settled!" Kim said, "It's been a long night for me and Ron and we do need to get back home."
(35 minutes later)
Tara's car drove the couple back up to the Possible house, which still had the FEMA-blue tarp on its roof from the Diablos.
"Thanks for the emergency ride, Tara!" Kim smiled with Ron in the backseat, wrapping his arm around her back. He also put his baby blue prom coat, around Kim's shoulders.
"A bon-diggety ride, to be exact!" Ron agreed.
Tara replied with a grin, "It's the least I can do, Kim, after you saved my puppy from the storm drain a couple weeks ago!"
"So not the drama, Tara! I always help people in need!" Kim agreed.
"Night, Kim. I'll probably see you on Monday at chemistry class." Tara said, putting her hands on the steering wheel.
"Same here!" Kim said. Both she and Ron got out of the back of the car.
Tara started up the car and drove out into the dark of the night.
"So...ready to break the news to your 'rents?" Ron asked, offering his hand.
"You know I am more than ready, Ron, even though I am probably going to be grounded for being late due to...you know...all that's happened tonight." Kim said, taking a deep breath, and grabbing Ron's hand.
The two, holding hands, walked up to the front door of the house. Ron knocked on the door three times.
The door slowly opened, showing James.
"Hello, you two!" James said before opening the door fully, showing them holding hands.
He paused for a moment at this sight and said, "I guess I have a great many questions to ask."
"You do, Dad. Where is Mom, by the way?" Kim asked.
"She is in the den, Kimmie-cub."
"OK, sounds good!" _
(12:56am)
The couple and James all walked into the den where Ann was waiting for them. She was in her teddy bear pajamas and bunny slippers.
When she saw both Kim and Ron holding hands, her eyes widened with joy and she began to squeal.
"James! You have to check this out! Kimberly and Ron are..."
"Yep, Mom! Me and Ron are officially BF and GF!" Kim proclaimed. "And I won as Junior Prom Queen!" she added, pointing to her crown and sash
"I'm very excited for you!" Ann exclaimed "Did you manage to get your first kiss?"
"Actually, Mom, we did! Monique was the one who took the pic!" Kim grinned, taking out her digital camera from her handbag. She scrolled the about 60 pictures she took during the dance. She got to the one where Kim and Ron kissed for the first time.
"Awwww...you two are so sweet in that pic!" Ann smiled.
"I totally like this!" James exclaimed, seeing the photo with satisfaction.
Then something came to his mind.
"What happened with Eric?" he asked.
"Ron, should we give him the long version or the short version?" Kim questioned to her new BF.
Ron and Rufus yawned and were rubbing their eyes. "Me and Rufus are about to crash."
"So short version of the sitch it is." Kim replied. "As it turned out, Dad, Eric was nothing more than a fake."
"We both meant that very literally..." Ron interjected.
"He was a Synthodrone created by Drakken to keep me distracted from his Diablo plot." Kim explained.
"And as it turned out, he was a liar too!" Ron exclaimed. "He claimed that he liked naked mole rats!"
Rufus then chittered angrily.
"Eric got a taste of his own medicine." Kim smirked, "Rufus bit him and he shriveled up like a prune with the scrambler in his hands. Destroyed the tower as well!"
"So Drakken not only managed to steal the Hepheastus project for those toys, he also nearly broke my daughter's heart?!" James growled, raising his fist at the blue tarp covering his roof.
"Yes, but thankfully, when the chips were down and I nearly gave up, Ron 'fessed his feelings for me!" Kim smiled, "And thanks to him, we stopped Drakken's scheme once and for all!"
"That's very good to hear." James said, "Now I think we should all go to bed. It is past 1 in the morning."
Kim then yawned, "Agreed, Dad!"
"I guess I'm going to be heading back to the ol' Stoppable abode!" Ron said.
"But first, a little good-night kiss for the road!" Kim grinned, giving Ron a kiss on the lips.
"Night, KP! This has been the best night of both our lives!" Ron replied with a wide smile across his face.
"You can say that again, Ron!" Kim giggled.
(20 minutes later)
Kim, now alone in her bedroom, began to yawn.
"Now...time for sleep..."
But before she could get into her bed, both Jim and Tim appeared.
Jim began, "Hey Kim, did you get..."
"...infected by the cootie monster?" Tim finished.
"No, I haven't, Tweebs!" Kim muttered, "And shouldn't you two be in bed by now?"
"It's the weekend! We usually stay..." Jim began
And Tim finished, "...up later than usual!"
"Now if you don't mind, we are..." Jim then began his next sentence,
"...going to work on our inventions." Tim added.
"I have the earplugs on standby just in case." Kim said, pointing to the earplugs on her nightstand. "Oh and Tweebs..."
Jim and Tim stopped for a moment at what their sister was about to say.
"Thanks for helping me and Ron out back there!" she said with a smile to the two. "Now good night!"
With that, the Tweebs left her behind and Kim turned out the lights, reflecting on the most eventful night of her life.
6 notes · View notes
kewltie · 4 years
Text
in the midst of a battle w/ members of LoV, pro-hero ground zero save a rookie journalist who LITERALLY threw himself middle of all the chaos to grab photos & after yelling at the ignorant fuck, katsuki doesn't think he'll see him again but then HE SEES HIM EVERYWHERE. his name is midoriya izuku & he has some sort of death wish really bc katsuki keep finding him in the middle of all these hero vs villains battles and ONE TIME he tackled down a villain right???? and he doesnt even have a fucking quirk & yet he is seemingly unafraid of everything.
needless to say, katsuki is v smitten bc the litle awkward death defying shit. also, anyone who accidentally send katsuki to the hospital several times a month bc he keep getting into trouble and katsuki have to come rescue him and THEN YELLING AT KATSUKI FOR INTERFEARING W/ HIS JOB – may be katsuki’s true love.
katsuki get so fucking rile up at this quirkless man, who shown no fear and easily go toe to toe w/ him and yet is so incredibly humble and hilariously awkward, he is just into this badass idiot who is entirely devoted to his job and cursed w/ severe stubborn???? feels relatable. so yea, katsuki ofc taps that ass right the fuck away bc he knows a good one when he sees it bc izuku is indirectly responsible for three broken ribs after katsuki had pulled him out of ANOTHER TROUBLING SITUATION. he's a trouble magnet and shit-stirrer and katsuki's heart is moved.
so they start dating and it goes SO WELL. izuku still get in major shitstorm for his job and katsuki still drags him out of it w/ a few bruise here and there, but afterward they go grab a bite and crash at each other place. super romantic and sweet and it's so v good. but!!! there's something weird about izuku. he doesn't talk much about his family, to katsuki anyway. BUT HE'S SUPER CLOSE TO THEM. his parents seem to call him daily and he go visit them often, but he never bring his parents up to katsuki esp his dad & izuku kinda got a stalker??
it's not like katsuki didn't notice right away, but HE THOUGHT IT WAS HIS STALKER. one of his super creepy fans probably but nope this person only tails izuku and when katsuki tell him about it, izuku is like, 'oh that's just toga'. apparently, izuku knows his talker v v well. the stalker apparently is sent by izuku's father to watch out & protect izuku and katsuki pauses bc who the fuck does a journalist who lives on takeouts and shitty cable TVs need a bodyguard?!!! so yea katsuki's new bf background is fucking weird and mysterious.
katsuki has his agency dig into izuku's background (not that they hadn't vet izuku's before for katsuki's safety) but they comb through the archives and izuku's history and it's comes out v v v v clean, sparkling even. honestly, katsuki doesn't know WTF IS UP W/ HIS NEW BF. so he confront izuku about his weirdo stalker/bodyguard, his avoidance about his family & his dad in particular, and his eerie squeaky AND CLEARLY SCRIPTED papertrails. izuku get shifty eyes and is like, "you won't believe me." And katsuki says tersely, "fucking try me."
Izuku drops his gaze to the floor and says, finally, "my dad is the leader of the league of villains." and YEA, KATSUKI'S BRAIN SHUT DOWN FOR SEC bc his deku?? stupid suicidal stubborn bleeding heart deku??? FUCK NO. but izuku just nods his head and grimaces. the LoV is the largest criminal org in the world w/ long list of crimes & longer list of criminals that make its their home. their roster are made up of terrifying people w/ dangerous quirks... and IZUKU, quirkless and softhearted izuku is the leader's most precious son. the idea itself is COMPLETELY ABSURD! HOW does that ever make sense? izuku is a civilian who works normal if a bit dangerous job & doesn't seem to have any *evil* inclinations at all yet he hail from the worst kind of genetic source possible. maybe he's just faking it all along.
which made katsuki absolutely furious that izuku might been some kind of sleeper agent from the LoV sent to trick spy & kill him or something and izuku's eyes wide, immediately protests, "no, no, i swear! i dont have anything to do w/ my fathers... org." but katsuki has a hard time accepting it esp with the truth bomb thrown at his feet now that he realizes HE'S DATING THE ONLY SON OF EVIL OF THE MOST VILE CRIMINAL IN THE WORLD. so yea, he walks out on izuku, saying he need some space & izuku was looking so heartbroken as he left
for the next few days, katsuki stews in his thought. he doesn't tell anyone about what he had found out, but he doesn't contact izuku either. This last for couple of weeks until, one day just as he in the middle of patrol there's some commotion that attract his teams and katsuki is separated from them. he's cornered by several LoV members, outnumbered five to one and katsuki lost his comms in the ensuring scuffles but instead of kicking his ass bc well they're foes, one of them break ranks toga (the blood queen) approach him w/ a bloodthirsty grin & a knife pointing toward him.
"hey, pretty boy," she coos w/ a flicker of edge, "stop ignoring our young master! you made him cried & he won't come out of his room. I hate seeing him so upset bc Izuku-chan should always be smiling! if you dont fix this ill rip your hide from your bones and wear it as a cape."
the group behind her make various grunt of agreement, all promising him death and disembowelment for... apparently breaking izuku's heart. katsuki is so outrage that he nearly explodes on the spot bc these dumbass villains think they CAN BLACKMAL/THREATEN HIM?! HIM, GROUND ZERO?! also, even more furious by the fact that they insuate that HE BROKE UP WITH IZUKU?! wtf, he never said that!! needing space meant just a temporary break s he gets his bearing on wut to do next... but not like a perma break, but izuku's ppl thought their relationship ended.
katsuki is even more offended by that notion bc izuku is even a bigger idiot than he thought. HOW could someone that much of crybaby over just temp break is some manipulative coldhearted spy?? right now his instinct says, izuku is telling the truth. he isn't tricking katsuki.
izuku is seemingly sweet, humble, & awkward but he got that rebellious streak a mile wide. loud in his opinions & shit-stirrer by choice, he faces down villains & heroes alike like they're on equal ground even though izuku is defenseless. he respect the law but only when it applies. katsuki has never seen such a fucking firecracker like izuku who loves people & the world but have little respect for any gov entity or laws and think they're good only when they're helping ppl but otherwise they're abritary (lmao). he such chaotic force for good it's hilarious. so yea, he believes that izuku is the SON OF AFO now bc that lil shit is a menace. A GOOD MENACE, but still a goddamn menace. he seems to stay firmly on the side of 'good' as it is which make his relationship with his villain father a fucking mystery & headache for katsuki.
so katsuki, gritting his teeth, clichely demands the LoV group to take him to their leader so he can verbally kick his bf's ass for keeping his fucked up secrets and stupidly mistaken that they're broken up. the group happily ties up him and blindfolds him bc well SECRET LAIR. katsuki is crazy, ok. like, STUPIDLY CRAZY to go blindly and no backups w/ some of the worst villains in history so he can meet up w/ his stupid bf and his crazy father. he could end up dead tmr or some shit bc it all could have been a trick to lure him in w/ his guard down but if izuku can be an idiot for dating a hero when he's a son of a villain than KATSUKI CAN BE A BIGGER IDIOT FOR GOING TO MEET HIS BF'S VILLANIOUS FATHER AT HIS SECRET TORTURE FORTRESS OR SOME SHIT. love can make ppl dumb and they're both a perfect example of it.
so katsuki get blindfolded and escorted to the LoV hq and it's a suprisingly sweet ride to there. no bumps, no abuse, no torture shit going on. he get offer food and drink and it's FUCKING WEIRD. his kidnappers start some casual convo w/ him about izuku and his job of all things. they even joke about how katsuki arrested one of them one time and almost kill another THE OTHER TIME & it's all happy bs??? it's even worst than torture. katsuki just want this to end already!! eventually they arrive and katsuki is let out. he get inside & his blindfold is off.
it's... nothing like he expected. it's traditional japanese house w/ sprawling garden, koi ponds, & beautiful woods. it's pristine, homey, and terribly normal. "ha, you thought we were going to take you to some kind of evil lair, right?" twice says, grinning bc he's an ass. "that's next time! we save that for official bsn." he jabs Katsuki's in the shoulder playfully. "you're meeting sensei and the mistress so of course it got to be at their house and not the 'office'."
katsuki's hands start twitching like he's going to explode someone or something but he's quickly drag away before he could do anything about it. lead through some hallways before depositing inside a tearoom where there's a SHIT TON of pics of baby!izuku & his childhood accolades on the wall. this look less like a room to greet visitors but to show off izuku. just as katsuki goes to examine a cute pic of bb!izuku playing in a field of flowers & holding one up towrad the camera, the doors slide open and a couple walk in. one of them is an older woman who looks eerily like izuku and the young woman also ft. in many of the wall pics.
she smiles warmly at and goes to greet him right away. "hi, bakugou-kun! welcome to our home, i'm inko, Izuku's mother," she introduces herself. while she's a source of happy energy and warmth, the other man beside her is another story. he gives katsuki's an icy stare. katsuki already knows who he is before he even say anything. AFO looks younger in comparison to his reported age, notably handsome, and he carries himself like some warlord from the warring periods.
"I should kill you," is the first thing he says. "my son should only cry in joy, over his terrible taste in romantic media consumption, & dumber things." spoken like a man who dealt with midoriya walking crying machine izuku his entire life and also a hopelessly devoted father.
"hisashi!" inko scolds. which is strange to katsuki bc he didn't even think AFO even have a name but in front of him isn't some evil man who mastermind gov't take over & ruin so many ppl lives but astupid father overprotected of his son.
"but i won't," AFO admits regretfully. "Izuku would be even more sad and if you're dead your death will haunt him needlessly more. he won't be able to forget you and move on." he frowns, like he actually had CONSIDER THAT ROUTE DEEPLY before casting that idea aside.
What the fuck, katsuki thought and says exactly that, "what the fuck. there's something seriously wrong with you," he points out what he think is v obvious.
AFO shrugs. "I love my son. He's my-" Inko's frown and he clears his throat, "our most precious treasure and we do everything to ensure his happiness. do you understand us, bakugou katsuki? inko and i have raise with love and care for 20yrs and i won't have some rough neck capers try to destroy his smile. i dont care who you are or wut you can do bc i can put you ten feet under w/ a snap of my fingers & nobody will be able to save you but like i said i won't."
Katsuki grind his teeth, fists clenched at his side, before lowering his head. this isnt time to fight, they're not on the field & on the job. this isnt about their respective stance on moral superiority but izuku. izuku is why they're both here. "i came here for him. i want to fix it," he says. "just let me see him." he pauses & grimaces like the taste of whatever he say next disgust him. "please."
AFO frowns, staring at katsuki for a beat, two. like he can pull apart katsuki's motives and tears into his rib to see w/e make him tick. "fine," he waves katsuki away, "you may see him now but if he cry anything beside in happiness i'll have your head and your entire agency." it's not a threat. it's a warning lace with truth that katsuki has no doubt he will carry out if a single tear slip pass izuku and fall.
inko claps her hand happily. "great, i'm glad you guys are geting along so well!" she says, like threats of murder haven't been thrown at his feet. clearly, she's used to the fact that her husband is a completely psychopath and whipped for their son. this fucking crazy family.
katsuki grunts, not knowing what else to say beside, 'have you ever thought of fucking divorce bc yea maybe you will be less crazy by then' but he holds his tongue bc they're still izuku's parents and he already made a bad impression on them even though technically not his FAULT.
AFO doesn't promise anymore murder in his future but the dark look on his face is enough as inko's lead him out & toward izuku's room. she drops him right outside it and gives him an encouraging smile before heading off, but katsuki has no doubt the parents are lurking around. katsuki sucks in a deep breath before raising his fist and knocks. he hears unhurried footsteps on the other side and slowly the door is slide open.
"Papa, I already said--" izuku whines, and stops as soon as he sees who ACTUALLY on the other side. "K-Katsuki?! What are you--?"
Katsuki blinks, trying to get his fucking brain to grapple with the thought of AFO as 'papa' and his head nearly explode. he drags a hand down his face and once again thinks, THIS FUCKIN' FAMILY. "Look, you idiot," he starts in lieu of any answer. "We didn't fucking break up."
Izuku looks haggard, buffy red eyes and the dark circle under it, speaking of how upset he was. he clearly didn't get any good rest these several days they were apart. he lifts an accusatory brow at Katsuki. "you didn't pick up my calls or answer any of my text," he retorts.
Katsuki rolls his eyes. "what part of I needed space, time to think didn't you get?" he snaps back. "It didn't mean go cry and sulk your parent's home like a damn coward because you were too dumb to think of anything beside we may have broken up!"
"But--but," Izuku's lips wobble and katsuki nearly jump out of his skin bc jfc don't cry here or i'll be skinned alive, "i was scared that you really mean it! that's why i didn't want to tell you in the first place bc then you wouldn't want to have anything to do w/ me."
Katsuki sighs, a bone deep tired sigh. "Now, why would you think i would have any problem with dating the son of my nemesis?" he says dryly. Izuku's brows furrow. "All Might is Papa's nemesis," he unhelpfully point out. "I don't think Papa even knew you existed until we dated."
Katsuki scowls. "that's not the fucking point," he shouts, temper rising w/ every word. "Your dad is the fucking boogieman who wants to sow discord in the world & it's my job to catch him &lock away for good. Do you see my moral crisis over this when im dating his beloved son?!"
"I-" Izuku's face falls, "dont you think I dont know that? I've lived with him for over 20yrs, I know exactly what he's capable of." he looks away. "But, he's my Papa & im terrible for still choosing him over the world. So," izuku says solemnly. "i dont expect the same from you."
Katsuki grits his teeth and steps right into izuku's space, up in his face. "Look, im only going to say this once so listen the fuck up," he starts. "I like you. A lot. Stupidly. Gods know why when you drive me up the fucking wall all the time, but here I am standing before you."
"A lot, huh?" Lips twitching, Izuku's eyes go soft.
Katsuki scowls. "Dont make me repeat myself, but yes fucking a lot that your fucking groupies & your old man threatened to kill me several times over did not deter me from coming here," he says, hand cradling Izuku's cheek.
"It's because I'm dating you and not your father. Whatever crimes he'd commited is not on you, you don't have to carry his sins," he tells Izuku, leaning in to press a kiss too fast and fleeting on izuku's forehead. "just stay true to yourself and i'll fucking deal with it."
Izuku's close his eyes and lets out a shaky exhales, the air of relief that passes through him is shuddering. "Ok, ok," he murmurs, opening his eyes to look at katsuki. there's a twinkle in them as he smiles, soft and sweet, the kind you can stupidly drunk on & never let go.
In that hazy moment, katsuki thinks, AFO doesn't need to plan any premeditated murder in case things go v wrong bc this is how he'll die w/ izuku's smile right in his front his eyes, cutting him down one curve lips at a time. Fuck, he's just as whipped for izuku as AFO.
it's good that izuku not a fucking psychopath like his father bc this would have gone v v v wrong. izuku would make a terrifying villain. Worse than his own father bc it's not fear & intimidation that will get ppl to follow him but izuku's own magnetic personality that move them.
"don't ever become a villain, ok?" katsuki insists suddenly, grabbing his shoulder tightly.
"where did that come from?" izuku laughs, eyes crinkling. "And dont worry, papa had tried. many, many times but i haven't turn over to the darks ide if that's what you worry about."
"Good," katsuki says firmly, and thinks the world better for it. one less crazy midoriya to raise hell. izuku is trouble enough as it is when katsuki thought he was just a quirkless journalist w/ a death wish but now there's a chance he could go rouge any moment and--yea. no.
"Sooo," izuku says, bouncing on his heels. "are we back together now?"
katsuki flicks him on the forehead. "we never broke up in the first place, you dolt."
izuku grins and suddenly throws his arm around katsuki. "ah, i miss you so much kacchan!!!" he declares excitedly.
and after they made up, katsuki interrogate izuku about wtf is wrong w/ his father bc how did AFO of all ppl get a villain son who isn't all about /that/ kind of bsn he's in. turns out izuku always have a healthy regard for heroes so he never thought of joining his father's organization. though AFO would have been super happy to take izuku in bc izuku is terrifyingly clever & resourceful but he lets izuku go & do his thing anyway. they just mutually agree not to talk shop when it's family, keeping their jobs outside &not in the home to keep both of their sanity.
so izuku knows shit about the 'family bsn' except wut everyone knows bc he's not involve with any of that and in his everyday job as a journalist izuku often times clash w/ his father AND expose some of his schemes bc it's part of his job & he doesn't shy away from it. AFO wasn't upset at all having his plans ruin by his own son. nope. he was SUPER PROUD OF IZUKU!!! to able to accomplish such thing on his own even if it's against him lol. but izuku is still his father's so so he doesn't take on just AFO, other villains, & dark org. he takes on the gov't, hero association, and even other heroes themselves if he ever catches on if they didn't live up to his ideals of being 'proper hero' like all might. he fiercely chases and exposes anything that he deems corrupted and wrong not caring which side they're on.
which makes izuku kind of chaotic good. he acts on his own whims & sense of justice, disregarding all rules & barriers. which is why he admires katsuki so much bc katsuki stands by his rule staunchantly & won't ever move from it, izuku knows katsuki wont ever be sway by the dark. kinda like izuku's father who stands firmly by his belief & does everything to reach his goals. WHICH IS NOT EXACTLY WHAT KATSUKI WANT TO BE COMPARE TO ESP BY A NOTORIOUS VILLAIN LIKE AFO lol. but yea, now that he got izuku's motive and why he's the way he is, it get easier.
they continue dating, izuku continues getting into trouble 120% of the time, katsuki keeps bailing him out, and sometimes IZUKU BAILS HIM OUT bc izuku may be quirkless but he got an army of the world's most terrible villains on his side so yea izuku IS TERRIFYING. and they aren't just dating but they're 100000% serious w/ each other bc now katsuki go to izuku's parents house for dinner every sunday and have to put up with AFO and play nice w/ each other for izuku's sake bc they come ton an understanding they will be IN-LAWS one day lol! their dinner convo is mostly the two of them taking jab at each other bc katsuki trash of AFO's plans or AFO's sends katsuki's ppl to the hospital and got away with it. they never stop being enemy even for izuku bc of where they stand on but mutually agree not to kill each other. they're both fiercely devoted individual who are obsessively workaholic, stubborn, vainglorious, and loves just as much as they breathe for their ppl and though they never agree on anything, this they will agree on bc izuku's happiness is everything to them!!!
63 notes · View notes
prorevenge · 5 years
Text
You say No one else will love a piece of shit like me? No one will love a piece a shit like you, again.
Cherry's face turned white as she realized the guy I was talking about was the guy she had been seeing. Slowly I watched as everything sunk in. After a moment I asked her if she was ok. She broke down crying telling me everything. I calmed her down and told her it was ok, that I would get her a ride to get STD tests done, and that maybe she was lucky enough to not have contracted it. I really did get a ride and went with her to get an STD test (to be on the safe side. I may have lied about the std to give her an extra boost to get out of that relationship but there was no telling whether or not he actually had one. Until she tested negative for it all.) That was all I planned to doing. After about week the rumor started going around school that D*ck had purposefully tried to give his STD to as many people as he could. He lost any chance of finding someone to hook up with at our school. Eventually started trying to find people from other nearby schools but since many people at the nearby high schools had gone to middle school with kids from our school the rumor had spread to them as well.
It's been 7 years and he still has issues get into a relationship and works at a local fast food place. Meanwhile I'm happily married to a great guy who makes sure I know I'm perfect and Cherry is in college and in a good relationship with a pretty decent guy.
(source) story by (/u/LadyOutLawTCF)
371 notes · View notes
jwink-4life-blog · 4 years
Text
My girlfriend posted this. Turns out I'm the asshole. lol. LMK if i am.
I am still with my girlfriend so please don't be mean to her. I did this to see if it would help me with my anxiety associated with the whole situation. Maybe it will help me move on. 
My girlfriend posted this. Turns out I'm the asshole. lol. LMK if i am.
"So my boyfriend recently decided that he was having issues trusting me for little things he would consider white lies. (i.e. things such as saying I could handle spicy food when it turned out i no longer could) so he wanted to go through my phone, which I obliged. He went in to my Snapchat account and asked who a particular person I was talking to was.
I told him the truth, that it was someone that I had met through tinder and had become friends with. This person was well aware I'm with my boyfriend and made no moves to try and flirt or insinuate he was hoping my bf and I broke up.
My bf went through the conversation and didn't see anything suspicious, his words, not mine. All there was were complaints of wanting to kms and stomach pain. However he still insisted that he couldn't trust me and has beliefs that I'm possibly cheating on him if he has no proof of such and I never did. I never met the person I was talking to IRL
Am I the Asshole?"
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Hey, her boyfriend here. I just thought I would fill in what is missing. At the time of her post, we had been dating since the summer of 2019 (8 months in total) but officially SO since late November (3 months). Still together!... maybe not after this. I address the extra information she added on the comments too.  
Organized in chronological order:
1. She mentions a guy, let us call him Jeff. She said that Jeff and she went to a movie together after we had gotten together; that is true. Expect she left out that when we were dating she went on a date with this guy. That was perfectly fine. At the time she was not my girlfriend. She had vented to me that the guy ditched her halfway through the date and began to cry about it. She vented how upset she was because she was looking forward to it. During the time she was venting, I listened and gave her friendly advice. I finally realized months later that I really liked this girl and wanted to be with her so I asked her to be my girlfriend and to my luck, she said yes. We discussed on the day we got together that we would not talk to ex's, flirt with other people, and get off of our dating apps. Even talk about not putting ourselves in a position where cheating could occur because of someone else making a move. However, not a month into our relationship and she goes to the movies with Jeff. On are seconded date we went to the cinema where we kissed and hugged during the movie and had sexual relations for the first time after the movie which is perfectly fine. She was single and she could do with her body as she pleased. But once she got in a relationship that should have changed. What am I supposed to think? She had dated the guy before, cried about him and were at a place where I know that they could be affectionate. She told me that she was going to the movies with him and I expressed that I was not OK with it. She still went. That was the first red flag. The reason why it was a big deal was that we had just talked about our relationship and the guidelines that we expect to follow.
2. After the time she went to the movie with "jeff" (not his real name). I started to get on tinder to look at her profile to see anything suspicious (She had lost my trust). I was looking for new changes to her bio and photos. Probably a day or two later I noticed her tinder profiles had disappeared from my matched list. I thought that maybe she had blocked me so I could not see changes. Second red flag.
3. I talked to my support system such as a friend, and family they agreed that it is something worth bringing up.
4. I confront her about everything so far.  
She explained that her father had prank called her using an automatic voice recording that called about a tinder date. She said she got scared because she didn't understand how they got her number and deleted the profile. So I asked her for her phone. She gave it to me but before she did she entered Kik and swipe the start page to the left and press some things. At the time I had no idea what was Kik so I just asked her what it was and she said it's an internet browsing app. She failed to mention that it was a messaging app too. I exited out of Kik and went in to tinder and we tried to sign in. There was no profile connected to her number so I left it as she was saying the truth.
When I brought up Jeff her excuse was that she had always gone out with guys by herself and it wasn't a problem ever. She said that I should trust her. She said it was her first relationship, so she didn't know it would have been an issue. I didn't like that excuse because we had already talked about guidelines in our relationships and she was breaking one. I explained that I don't trust Jeff (but I didn't trust her too). This is a guy that has dated another guy to watch free movies and get free food but he's not gay. He's is a shady person. She said nothing happened between them. She agreed on the conditions that would not happen again. We went on with our lives together.
5. Some time passes. We had other issues later on but like any other couple.
6. One day while I was driving she had mentioned that she was keeping in touch with people all over the world and that they were her friends. She mentioned that she use to be in love with a guy from out of the country and would have phone sex with another that lived out of state. I didn't say anything because at the time I didn't feel that she need to get rid of these friends since they were so far away. Later on, stuff happened that changed my mind.
7. Some time passes again.
8. One day when we were laying in bed together I noticed that she was deleting her Snapchat and Kik from her phone. I just made a mental note because I thought it was old. I didn't ask anything and she just told me that she needed space on her phone. It sounds valid to me. Still, though, I didn't ask. Later in the future, she told me that she had deleted them so I wouldn't think she was cheating.
9. Later on that night or the following night she was acting weird. She didn't want to have sex which is fine but she distanced herself from me. We would normally cuddle but she was on the other side of the bed. Her mannerisms were almost like covering her vagina where ever she moved (not on her period); it was behavior she never exhibited before. I joked with her to try and make her feel better and she said: "you are a bitch though!". She was defensive about my jokes. Not how she normally acts when I joke with her. That whole night was terrible, it just became a battle of who could annoy the other.
10. The next morning I could not stop getting this feeling that something was wrong. I knew I didn't have much of a reason to ask for her phone again. Still that night I talked to her. I began to doubt myself. I explain to her, how when I was a child my mother would have me call all the numbers off of my dad's phone from call history to see if my dad was cheating(He was) so I told her that I think this is the reason why I may feel she is cheating on me with no evidence. I asked if she would let me see her phone to prove my suspicions are wrong. She said yes. I smiled and didn't take her phone. I felt that was good enough for me... until after we were done eating she began to get ready to shower but before going she made eye contact with me and placed her phone in her backpack, never breaking eye contact with me; solid 20 seconds of eye contact. I just made a mental note that it was weird that she put it away so awkwardly.
11. Later on that night in bed I thought it was the best time to ask her for her phone to finally put my suspicions away. She gave me her phone. Initially, she didn't bother looking over to see where I was going on her phone. That made me feel that I had nothing to worry about. I went to her phone and didn't find a thing but then I remember she had deleted her Snapchat and Kik.
12. The next move was to go into the files of her phone where stuff is stored even when the app is deleted. I enter the Kik app file and she was sending a video of her kissing the screen and role-playing. She said it was before we were together. I check the date it's in late December after I met her family. This is when her relaxed attitude change to focusing on the screen at all times.
13. I download Kik and Snapchat. I made sure to remove the phone from her hands once she signs in to not have a suspicion of her deleting stuff.
14. I still didn't know much about Kik but later I found out that if you delete or sign out of the app all your messages will be deleted. No message was found because she had deleted the app. Just a guy's name that she said was a friend but messages in the conversation were empty.
15. Snap chat was where I found a red flag. I enter her snap chat and saw 4 guys' names. I asked her "before I go in any of these do you want to tell me anything?" she said no.
I enter the first guy chat, it was the out of state guy who she had phone sex before; he saved messages. The saved messages didn't look suspicious but it's Snapchat so there can be some that weren't saved. Weird that she talking to someone she uses to have frequent phone sex with but OK. Didn't say much about it.
The second guy, he saved messages too. He was sending her voice messages. Saved messages were not suspicious but it's Snapchat so there can be some that weren't saved. I asked her who he was since his name was not familiar. She said he found her from tinder and they been messaging since. That was a red flag for me because we discussed we would not communicate with the people we meet from tinder. She said that he never made a move on her... stuff like that; however, she then said how she was trying to meet up with the guy at Denny's once because she wanted pancakes and even though she wanted to he would not go unless she would take a friend with her because he knew she had a boyfriend. Sounds weird?? Yup! She said they never met. why would she try to meet up with him by herself? So I'm the asshole? why do all these dudes supposedly "save the whole conversation"?  
The third and fourth were guy she has been friends with and I have no problem with her hanging with the two of them together. She had mentioned these friends a long time ago so it checked out.
16. On the drive home, after I went through her phone. She must have the worst timing ever because she brought up the fact that she used to cheat when playing cards with her dad. Her dad got mad at her and would not play with her again. She would ask to play with her dad but he wouldn't let her because she would cheat. Then she told me that if her dad would have given her another chance she would have proven that she wouldn't have cheated again. Why did she say this??? no idea. Bad timing, maybe?
17. But right after that story she then became mad and quiet. She said I had broken her personal space which all she has in her life. I told her that I gave her phone back and she could go through mine whenever she wanted. She still was mad. Saying that I took her privacy away. This got me heated because I didn't say she had to stop talking to anyone after I found the suspicious activities. I blew up! I told her we will talk about it at her house! Then she started crying saying how she is sorry and so on.
18. Once at her house, I told her that anyone from a dating site that she met; people she had any sexual activities including phone sex from the past she would have to stop talking to if she wanted to be with me. I dropped her off and left angry. We took the weekend apart from each other.
19. I talked to my support system again and they said it was time to cut it off. I agreed but...
20. My dumb ass stayed with her. lol, We talked it out. She blamed her inexperience with the relationship since it was her first. Saying she didn't know better.
21. We had other issues like any other couple.
22. I was going to finally break up with her but I had to wait until the weekend because I promise to take her sibling to school for a few weeks. I waited to break up with her to keep my promise to her.
23. She caught on to me being distant and faking being happy. She confronted me about it and we decide to work on our relationship.
24. Part of the conversation involved people who thought I was overrating about past relationship troubles. Turn out she was talking about Reddit!!! Hi, Reddit! Seems allot of info got left out. SMH. I thought it was weird how everyone I went to for advice thought I made perfect sense but with her, she thought I was overreacting, insecure, and bad shit crazy.
24. I fell in love with her. Hopefully, I don't get my heart to rip out. lmao.
25. Almost forgot, the "white lies"... well, do I have to go in detail about this? Shouldn't this post speak for itself? I understand why we use white lies; we are using then to not hurt someone's feelings. "Hey, do I look ugly?" "No, you are a snack". This was not the case. I have caught her many times lying about stuff that there's no need to lie about, hold information, and change a slight thing in her story to fit her narrative. For example, "My bf went through the conversation and didn't see anything suspicious, his words, not mine". Really? Did I say that? The only thing I told her was there was not enough proof to say she didn't cheat on me. There was defiantly so suspicious activities.
Am I the asshole?
Is she the asshole?
Or am I a 100% simp?
LMK
1 note · View note
96xie · 4 years
Text
2019
a whole summary of this difficult year
2019 was full of unexpected good and bad surprises along with lessons and experiences.
january
spent good time with mocha, wayo and brian
had such a good time with guildies from our game
met up with some other ppl from the same game and didnt feel too good bc i was never good with crowds and/or groups that were already well established
tried tinder for the first time because i thought it would be nice to put myself out there for once
feburary
continued my tinder journey and actually had fun with it. it was pretty scary at the same time because it was such a new experience talking to other people and to have them notice you? because i always knew and felt that i wasnt really the desirable one.
actually hooked up with a guy from last months meetup and hung out twice. thought it was going somewhere because he, too, showed signs to progress further ((was wrong because he lied and showed red flags later))
one major red sign to me: no response after genuinely saying thank you for rides and dinner. im the type of person who always says thank you because im honestly grateful for the little and big things. he basically shrugged it off.
also, a huge liar. yah, big no
i brought him to my friends birthday bc they and himself wanted to meet each other, it was fun while it lasted but stuff happened
towards the end of the month, i cut my ties off with him for being awfully mean to me and also cut ties with my “friends” for having really bad assumptions of me.
i was frustrated with myself at that time bc his cats gave me a bad breakout and i felt super ugly. also i wasnt sad over him, but over the fact that i let myself be treated like a second option. eventually i learned that it was good that i didnt let things go further and that i only deserve the very best.
even though i was hurt, i thought it was a good experience, esp since i havent really been in the “dating game” for years. like it was a just a small step to putting myself out there once again
a week later after that a classmate asked me out and got tons of compliments from him and wondered “the universe really works in crazy ways”
march
met some cool people through the same mobile game on a discord server and they were much better than the first group.
also met this really funny dude in the same group. like he was so fun to talk to and he understood my dumb lingo
remember when my classmate asked me out on a date? it turned out a bit weird. but considering this was my first date in YEARS i thought it was a cool experience. got some carne asada fries outta him
i had the dude i was talking to call me so i could leave the date tho LOL ((he helped me lots, esp how to deal with awkward situations with my classmate. also at this point, i really liked talking to him but i wasnt rly sure if i wanted to date other guys bc i had been hurt previously)
this month was pretty much dedicating most of my time talking to him and i enjoyed it alot
also went to pubs for the first time to hangout with my coworkers. such an interesting place
april
tried rollerskating for the first time ever, ended up with a bunch of bruises but it was cool!
also tried 7leaves for the first time and instantly fell in love with mungbean
also went clubbing in sf with my friends and it was such a fun time like i had SO much fun
i got auctioned off of SAD! that phase was just a crazy ride. while there was many that dm’d me, there was only one special person that i only replied to and continued to talk to him on a daily basis
((honestly, i was scared that i was taking things a bit further with him because a part of me was like “are you ready for this?” and “have you really recovered from that guy?” or “can you give this guy your all?” just alot of overthinking))
spent 4/20 at sf with my friends, and overall had a GREAT time. took too many hits and drank so ya gorl was crossfaded. not sure if i wanna do tht again tho
unfortunately woke up with a swollen face and it lasted for a LONG time.
may
so my face is still swollen, still bad, red as a tomato and at this point i was really hesitant to meet up with the guy ive been talking to. i mean!! my skin was SO bad. i felt like i was gonna make a fool out of myself by scaring him away
but,,,, he was still willing to see me despite my appearance and : ( he was so accepting and typing this makes my heart ache bc he is SUCH a good man : (
i met up with the guy towards the end of the month in sj and first thing he does when i walk up to him is give me this great warm hug and so many smooches !!!!!!! like my heart is melting
eventually we became official !!! he got us an airbnb for the night and we jus spent time cuddling on the bed and honestly i : ( i like him so much
june
my birthday wasnt rly that like “wow” it was actually kinda annoying
my bf flew up to sf where we met up, explored the city and slept the night in at an airbnb. next day went to oakland where i introduced my friends to him!
went to my first festival with several with my friends, including ppl from our same guild from our game and it was SO fun
rolled for the first time and it was SUCH an experience. redosed like twice and ended up hallucinating which is something ill def not do again
also i really wished my bf was with me at that time : ( while i had an extremely fun time, i wish i shared that moment with him : (
july
went to vegas for my cousins 22nd bday. shit was wild
also rolled there.
also threw up for the very first time
a fight broke out at the club and that shit was fuckgin CRAZY and it was RIGHT next to our table
also used alot of my money for the whole trip in which nobody really told me about so …. i was like ok.. fuck …
also my skin was still bad during these past months so it was pretty hard masking it
like really hard. with someone with terrible eczema, its just extremely hard to hide it
august
bf flew to sac!!! he met my mom for the first time and we explored the city and stuff
and went on an ikea date! and! honestly i just really loved spending time with him :c
we also spent time with my friends! they came over also! and ate some fuckgin bomb ass waffles
and then took bus down to la to meetup with some friends from our guild towards the end of the month!
it was pretty nice to be able to stay with my bf in his apartment !!!!!
also some scalding tea but thats rly for another time
to make it super short tho: our friend that we’ve known much longer than the girl he met (less than 3 months) dropped our friendship SO quick lol
september
cousin bonding @ beach, too cold for tht doe
towards the end of the month, my bf flew me down!!! so i spent the weekend with him and like always, only had a good time with him!
AND ALWAYS EATING GOOD FOOD!
october
during this fall semester, i took online classes and one of them was a 8week class. there was a topic about mental health and how we can take care of ourselves better and i just thought it was such an important thing to cover. i feel like its not talked about enough
november
spent thanksgiving with my family down in morgan hill and ate good food! honey ham has a special place in my heart.
went black friday shopping first at walmart, lowkey disappointed in myself because i was bummed out the apple watches were sold out. the materialistic part of me jumped out oof
slept at my cousins then went to the mall! didnt get anything besides really good bulgogi fries. i hated going into stores tho cuz everything was literally crowded. hated it !!!!!!!
went to a small festival in sacramento with my friends at the end of the month and this time is 7 of us (than the usual 5)! it was sososo fun.
also took my coworker with me, it was actually amusing to see bc our group were all asian and he’s the only tall white guy
made hotpot at home and we also went out for milktea and waffles again! sooo good.
december
flew down to see my bf again and only had a good time! went to this garden with beautiful lights and ! ugh! SO pretty!
cried in his bed before my flight back, cried on the plane, cried at home and cried before i slept. i miss him
also racked up alot of hours so i could pay for my tuition and my family’s bills. kinda sucks bc im pretty tired but i gotta do what do i gotta do.
christmas was a bit lonely bc my mom went to the philippines and i dont rly talk to my brother but my kuya came the next day and we ate n watched stuff
overall, it was a whacky year. but im so glad to have met ed. he means SO much to me. a part of me was so hesitant to date him because i mean, he’s man with his life set. i dont have a car, im still in school, i have this part time job where im giving my mom all my paychecks and which the only money im keeping is just my tips (not much), i still have issues with myself and other conflicts and honestly theres much to do, learn and grow from. but he’s so supportive, understanding and loving and i love and appreciate him from the bottom of my heart. most of the time i wonder if im doing and if im being enough for him. i worry about that alot but he’s so patient with me. i laugh alot when im with him and i feel so happy.
did i mention that we are long distance? him being in la and me in sacramento. so the only thing thats connecting us is facetime. maybe once every two months will i see him in person but yep. when i had my first panic attack, i really wanted him right next to me. at that moment i felt even more sad because of course you’re gonna want you’re significant other during a moment like that. but anyways, i always miss him and i always want him next to me and i always love him. i want to hurry up and get my education done with so i can be with him. not to sound like omg im so madly infatuated with him type of thing tho. he’s someone who understands me and knows how to love me.
i hope 2020 treats me well despite all the challenges ahead of me.
2 notes · View notes
rint4rous · 5 years
Text
meeting the parents: karmelle
(this is so long hhhh)
karma met the (step)mom first
he already sorta met her in the summer trip since she was one of the assassins in the hotel
but they properly met when he comes over anielle’s house after school
as anielle unlocks the door karmas ready for her little siblings running up to her and welcoming her home and saying hi to him
but to his surprise its a woman with her arms crossed thats there when they walk in
wowie ! its arime kiriya !
anielle seems unbothered and ignores that her mom looks mad as shes taking off her shoes
“didnt know youd be home today”
“daichi says you skipped training for a week again.”
“daichi says a lot of things especially about me, probably to stray you from the fact hes failing one of his classes”
theres a screech from the kitchen
“?!!???!! SHES LYING DONT LISTEN TO HER”
arime just sighs, shaking her head
meanwhile karmas standing there like …?? um ok
as hes taking his shoes off, arime notices him
“oh, the boyfriend.”
ani: um??? no??? hes not??? my boyfriend???
“this is karma,,,”
“is he staying for dinner??”
karmas kinda panicking and his Respecful Mode is ON
hes not really intimidated, she just seems like a ‘normal’ mom to him but at the same time ..
this .. arime kiriya might be a pro assassin but before that she’s still anielle’s mom
he doesn’t really care about first impressions
so he has no idea why hes worrying now
“i usually do, unless you don’t want me to??”
“oh no no i would have insisted you stay if you said no”
anielle grabs karmas wrist
“call us down when foods ready”
shes dragging him up the stairs
she lets go of his wrist when they got in her room and shes like
“yeah um,, thats my mom,, i didnt know she would be home”
“shes different from what i expected?? from the trip she seemed more intimidating”
“oh shes actually pretty nice ?? we get in playful arguments sometimes but yeah even though shes not always at home she tries her best”
dinner time !
anielle said they werent together but arime could tell that even tho they werent tgt yet there was something there
arime asks karma a few questions as they’re eating and when karma answers, his tone’s polite and tame
anielle notices this
she finds it a little amusing, but honestly cute more than anything
when karma goes home arime says
“he seems like a good kid. you like him?”
ani, blushing: ?!??!!?! n-no
arime: ok sure
after that karma sees arime whenever shes home
he usually comes over anielles house so
but on the times that ani doesnt come home with karma, arime invites him for dinner
he says yes every time
arime always refers to him as the boyfriend though
not your boyfriend, but THE boyfriend
“you gonna invite the boyfriend over?” “how’s the boyfriend?” “ask the boyfriend if he wants to eat dinner with us”
anielles like please stop calling him that (1) he isnt my bf and (2) even if he was it sounds so weird and lame
(when karmelle start officially dating though she refers to him as karma)
karma eventually gets comfortable that he drops the Timid Tone and starts talking like himself
arimes not shocked at the change
HHH she looked thru the poor kid’s records and looked him up after they met because she has to know abt him if hes gonna end up with her daughter so she knew abt his personality and was waiting for it to show
arime’s honestly amused by him but she likes him and still thinks hes a good kid
he gets invited to their training sometimes
and sometimes gets to spar with arime he almost beat her once
as for ani’s (birth) mom, karma goes with anielle to the cemetery whenever she asks for mental support because sometimes it gets a little too much for her
the first time he went was after the incident with shiro
anielle wasnt planning on bringing him, but he insisted
he couldnt leave her alone, not after the emotional torture shiro put her through
when she broke down in his arms, he knew coming with her was the best decision, even if she didnt like the idea at first
the dad .. he met him three months after arime
karma knew that he was in the ministry of defense and is friends with karasuma, but was dealing with things overseas
thats all he really knew, he was expecting someone like karasuma
karma and ani were just playing a game tgt
then they hear the doorknob rattling ?!??!?!
out of instinct, anielle grabs the gun she keeps under the sofa hjgfhjksd
shes walking slowly towards the door gun in hand
the door opens
“i swear to god yuto i told you to stop doing that.. stop trying to scare the kids and open the door anielles gonna accidentally shoot you one of these days” arime scolds him as they walk in
yuto just laughs
anielle drops the gun and runs to hug her dad,, she hasnt seen him in months
“see! she had a damn gun ready!” arime sighs, pulling their luggage in
she sees karma “oh hi karma!! how you been?”
“good,,”
“so you’re karma? are you gonna join us for lunch?”
karmas like this is like meeting arime all over again
man he never thought his Respectful and Polite Mode would make a comeback but here he is
HHH karma: no fear
yuto: hi
karma: one fear
“yes sir”
anielles trying so hard not to laugh,, she cant believe karma just called her dad SIR HRKHHKJJKH
she and arime are silently snickering together while karma sits there as yuto studies him
“i’ll go start making the food,,” arime heads to the kitchen
“elly, go help your mom”
karma and anielle knew it was to get karma alone with him,, ani doesnt argue and goes to the kitchen
“arime and karasuma told me a lot about you.”
“oh”
yuto asks karma questions, but they arent Extra ykno
hes not Overly Protective, but hes more protective of ani because out of the two oldest, he knows anielle was affected by their mothers death most and took longest to get over it
he just wants to get to know karma
after arime karma was expecting the dad to be like her except more strict and intimidating but
for arime, it took two months for him to drop the timid tone
for yuto, it took an hour
hes still answering politely, but now hes including some snarky remarks as a joke and is talking in his usual tone
arime calls them for lunch
they all talk while eating and karma could tell the dad likes him too
hes just happy he got both of anis parents to like him
anielle met karmas parents like two weeks after graduation,, meaning karmelle are tgt now
she decided to tag along when karma went to the airport when they were coming back from a trip
he said they were coming back for a bit to spend time with him and to congratulate him for graduating
anielle didnt really know what to expect
shes looking at her phone when she hears a “karma!!!!”
she looks up and sees a woman waving at karma and a man beside her
as they’re approaching, his mom notices anielle beside him
“oh you came with... your girlfriend?”
“hi, i’m anielle!” ani greets. “i hope i’m not being a bother by being here?”
“not at all! i didn’t know our karma had a girlfriend?? since when??”
“we haven’t been together for long, but we met during our second year,,”
his mom turns to karma, “you dont tell your folks anything nowadays”
karma just shrugs
anielle shares brief greetings and conversations with his dad, the mom talks more
they dropped off their things and anielle stays for an hour and leaves so they can settle in
she gets invited to eat out with them the next day
(bruh all of these involve eatinf i am so original)
she gets to really talk with his parents
karmas mom jokes around like “our problem child managed to get himself a girl!!! he’s a real handful, isn’t he?”
anielle laughs it off, “hes tiring to deal with sometimes, but i manage. you learn to have patience with him”
karma: Bruh
ani came over sometimes, and she got to know the parents better (and vice versa, they just dont know shes a hitman)
they really like her, she keeps karma in check and they think she brings out the best in him,, shes reckless and chaotic just like karma but if she needs to, shes able to stop karma from doing stupid things and he actually listens so
his parents arent the kind that are like “wanna see karmas baby pics” to embarass him hes thankful
after a month they leave again
ani got their numbers, and the mom texts her from time to time to check up on karma (and her !!)
(karma doesnt know this)
4 notes · View notes
gateau-chocolat · 5 years
Text
currently watching kdrama update:
(Absolute Boyfriend, Hotel Del Luna, other possibilities)
Ok, so I think I’m officially dropping Absolute Boyfriend even though I made it up to episode 29 because life is too short lmao.  I really didn’t like how they kept pushing Ma Wang Joon forward as a legit romantic option(???), and the “I’m going to use my celeb status to harass you into dating me” thing just pushed me too far. I would MAYBE be able to go with it if the rest of the show was stronger, or if the circumstances of their initial breakup had been different, but like....he basically broke up with her really harshly, right??? and then he’s spending the rest of the show whining and chasing her around being like WHY DID U LEAVE ME I WON’T LET U LEAVE ME???? you......you did this to yourself, sir.........
Btw I’ve seen some commentary about this show from people who don’t like the whole “love robot” aspect of it but tbh that has never been an issue for me whatsoever lol?  I mean like....yes, there are philosophical and ethical issues there, but unlike the MWJ stuff it’s absolutely within the bounds of what I can personally suspend my disbelief about.  If anything, there’s almost....not enough love robot content?? in the love robot show???? wtf 🤷‍♀️
Also I feel the need to say that the Absolute Boyfriend manga is ENTIRELY different (with the exception of “I accidentally got a robot boyfriend” + kind of the love triangle element), and imho the writing, while not groundbreaking or anything, is perfectly ok, so if the basic “robot bf” premise of the drama appeals to you, I would recommend checking out the manga!
Hotel Del Luna....I watched ep 4 last night and I’m still getting RUINED just over the random ghost side characters lol??? 😭  The old guy + dog thing was so sad, and then I let out the biggest gasp irl at that reveal with the blind lady and the bakery guy....
...But anyway, now I’m suddenly down to just 2 kdramas, one of which I think only has a couple more weeks to go and one of which I’ll probably go through pretty quickly?  As for what’s coming up, I’m planning on watching Miss Lee and The Tale of Nokdu when they start airing, but I literally know nothing about those shows beyond that the trailers looked kinda fun, so depending on how things actually play out idk whether I’ll stick with them or now. 
I’ve also been interested in One Spring Night for a while, even more so after watching Something in the Rain, but I feel like I’ll probably need to be watching something really silly and trope-y as well as that to balance things out, so idk exactly if I’ll start it soon, or hold off a little longer.  Also, the trailer for Melo Is My Nature caught my eye a little bit a while ago, but I ended up not getting into it because I was watching too many other things, but now that I’m more freed up I might go and give it a shot after all?  Many options. :>
1 note · View note
mill3nniumforc3 · 5 years
Text
200: My crush’s name is: Russell :) 199: I was born in: April 1994 198: I am really: energetic 197: My cellphone company is: Verizon 196: My eye color is: hazel 195: My shoe size is: 7.5-8.5, depending on the shoe 194: My ring size is: 7.5 193: My height is: 5′5″ 192: I am allergic to: penicillin, cats, pollen, and strong scents 191: My 1st car was: I’ve never owned my own car. 190: My 1st job was: babysitting. First real job was a desk job at my university 189: Last book you read: I don’t remember. I don’t have time to read for leisure. 188: My bed is: comfy 187: My pet: Seamus the miniature schnauzer and Sugar the Aussie-mo 186: My best friend: Ashlyn 185: My favorite shampoo is: Dove 184: Xbox or ps3: neither 183: Piggy banks are: for kids and rainy days 182: In my pockets: nothing 181: On my calendar: going river tubing on Saturday, party next Saturday, trip for T’s birthday weekend, and possibly going to Kennywood and Kings Island sometime in August. 180: Marriage is: something for my future self 179: Spongebob can: do anything 178: My mom: is the bestest 177: The last three songs I bought were?: who buys music anymore? 176: Last YouTube video watched: probably an ASMR video 175: How many cousins do you have?: too many to count 174: Do you have any siblings?: three sisters 173: Are your parents divorced?: no 172: Are you taller than your mom?: yep 171: Do you play an instrument?: piano, drums, bells, and I know three chords of the guitar 170: What did you do yesterday?: sleep [ I Believe In ] 169: Love at first sight: sure 168: Luck: yes 167: Fate: maybe? 166: Yourself: depends on the day 165: Aliens: not really... 164: Heaven: yes 163: Hell: Do I believe in it? Yes, because God is just. Do I believe people are damned there? No, because God is loving. 162: God: yes 161: Horoscopes: no. It’s funny to see “horoscope” posts and see if they apply to me, but it’s a bunch of b.s. A bunch of Aries aren’t going to have the same day/month/year. That’s ridiculous. 160: Soul mates: I’m not sure if I do or don’t, but I do believe in love. 159: Ghosts: no 158: Gay Marriage: of course! 157: War: it’s an unfortunate and unnecessary part of life 156: Orbs: no 155: Magic: yes [ This or That ] 154: Hugs or Kisses: both 153: Drunk or High: drunk 152: Phone or Online: online 151: Red heads or Black haired: no comment 150: Blondes or Brunettes: brunettes 149: Hot or cold: hot 148: Summer or winter: summer 147: Autumn or Spring: spring 146: Chocolate or vanilla: chocolate 145: Night or Day: night 144: Oranges or Apples: apples 143: Curly or Straight hair: straight 142: McDonalds or Burger King: McD’s (though I’m probably biased because I work there) 141: White Chocolate or Milk Chocolate: both 140: Mac or PC: PC 139: Flip flops or high heals: flip flops 138: Ugly and rich OR sweet and poor: sweet and poor 137: Coke or Pepsi: neither 136: Hillary or Obama: Obama 135: Burried or cremated: I want to be cremated and have my ashes buried with a seed and grow into a tree 134: Singing or Dancing: dancing 133: Coach or Chanel: neither 132: Kat McPhee or Taylor Hicks: Kat 131: Small town or Big city: small town 130: Wal-Mart or Target: Target 129: Ben Stiller or Adam Sandler: Ben 128: Manicure or Pedicure: mani 127: East Coast or West Coast: east coast 126: Your Birthday or Christmas: Christmas. My birthday stopped being special after I turned 19. I get good food every year on Christmas. 125: Chocolate or Flowers: chocolate 124: Disney or Six Flags: Six Flags 123: Yankees or Red Sox: Indians [ Here’s What I Think About ] 122: War: What is it good for? Absolutely nothing. 121: George Bush: he had some good policies. Better than Trump, that’s for damn sure. 120: Gay Marriage: should never be illegal again. 119: The presidential election: #FuckTrump #VoteBlueNoMatterWho #ImpeachTheMF 118: Abortion: all my life, I was told to be pro-life. These days, I don’t know anymore, but I think my beliefs are closer to pro-choice than pro-life. 117: MySpace: it’s not 2008 anymore. 116: Reality TV: glad it’s not my life 115: Parents: they’re doing their best. I’m not looking to be one anytime soon though. 114: Back stabbers: bye! 113: Ebay: Amazon is better. 112: Facebook: these days, I use it to get laughs and memes. I don’t interact with people I know IRL much. 111: Work: good for the money. Not good for my mental health. 110: My Neighbors: they’re ok. 109: Gas Prices: #ThanksTrump 108: Designer Clothes: I can get good clothes at Target. The only “splurge” I do for clothes is at Spencer’s or Kohl’s. 107: College: I plan to go back soon. 106: Sports: entertaining. 105: My family: family is life. 104: The future: anything can happen [ Last time I ] 103: Hugged someone: Tuesday. 102: Last time you ate: a couple hours ago (chik’n patties and cheese) 101: Saw someone I haven’t seen in awhile: last week. I saw a manager I hadn’t worked with in like a month. 100: Cried in front of someone: Monday 99: Went to a movie theater: July 2nd 98: Took a vacation: June 97: Swam in a pool: back in February 96: Changed a diaper: I don’t remember 95: Got my nails done: way too long ago 94: Went to a wedding: in April 93: Broke a bone: 2017 (broke my toe) 92: Got a piercing: 2006 91: Broke the law: never. I’m a good person. 90: Texted: three hours ago [ MISC ] 89: Who makes you laugh the most: Russell 88: Something I will really miss when I leave home is: my dog 87: The last movie I saw: in theatres, Toy Story 4. At home, Adventures in Babysitting. 86: The thing that I’m looking forward to the most: being off on Saturday 85: The thing im not looking forward to: working tomorrow 84: People call me: Vonnie, Vonn, Bonbon, Sophia, and “the girl” 83: The most difficult thing to do is: not cry while watching Grey’s Anatomy 82: I have gotten a speeding ticket: never 81: My zodiac sign is: Aries 80: The first person i talked to today was: my sister 79: First time you had a crush: kindergarten. His name was Wally, and we were “boyfriend and girlfriend” til about third grade, and we remained friends til we graduated 8th grade. Haven’t talked to him much since. 78: The one person who i can’t hide things from: Russell 77: Last time someone said something you were thinking: Sunday 76: Right now I am talking to: nobody because it’s 3:30am 75: What are you going to do when you grow up: I hope to be teaching English education 74: I have/will get a job: I currently work at McDonald’s, but within the next 6-12 months, I’ll be moving out of state, so who knows where I’ll work.  73: Tomorrow: work 72: Today: work 71: Next Summer: I’ll be in a whole new state, so that means new amusement parks to visit and rollies to ride. 70: Next Weekend: party. Oh, and next Saturday makes officially 18 months with me and Russell, so go us! 69: I have these pets: two dogs 68: The worst sound in the world: the beeping in the headset when I work back cash. It haunts my nightmares 67: The person that makes me cry the most is: Heather because she sends me to back cash all the time 66: People that make you happy: Russell, my mom, my dogs, Ashlyn, and Aunt Dolly because she sends me lives on Candy Crush 65: Last time I cried: Monday 64: My friends are: Ashlyn, Mikayla, Jon, Rilee, Lamar, Tae, Alexus, Clare, Katie, Mario, and Kel 63: My computer is: all mine because I bought it with my own money 62: My School: not in school  61: My Car: don’t have one 60: I lose all respect for people who: lie 59: The movie I cried at was: Avengers: Endgame 58: Your hair color is: natural 57: TV shows you watch: Grey’s Anatomy, Once Upon a Time, House, The Simpsons, Bob’s Burgers, and... I don’t really watch TV because I don’t have cable. 56: Favorite web site: YouTube 55: Your dream vacation: Just a big coaster trip 54: The worst pain I was ever in was: my period this month. I had cramps for days leading up to my period that were so bad that, the day my period actually came, I couldn’t stand straight. 53: How do you like your steak cooked: I don’t eat steak 52: My room is: a mess, like my life 51: My favorite celebrity is: NPH 50: Where would you like to be: with my boyfriend 49: Do you want children: someday, but not today 48: Ever been in love: ohhh yes. 47: Who’s your best friend: not answering again 46: More guy friends or girl friends: i think i have a fair amount of both 45: One thing that makes you feel great is: this is tmi, but sex with my bf. 44: One person that you wish you could see right now: Russell 43: Do you have a 5 year plan: no 42: Have you made a list of things to do before you die: yes 41: Have you pre-named your children: I don’t have any definitive names, but I’m thinking MaryGrace Linda for a girl, and James Sebastian for a boy 40: Last person I got mad at: Anna because she put me on back cash 39: I would like to move to: someplace south 38: I wish I was a professional: dancer.... no, writer.... no, why not both? [ My Favorites ] 37: Candy: peanut butter cups 36: Vehicle: Jeep 35: President: FDR 34: State visited: North Carolina (not just saying that because I lived there for two months) 33: Cellphone provider: Verizon 32: Athlete: Trevor Bauer 31: Actor: Justin Chambers 30: Actress: Amy Poehler 29: Singer: Chester Bennington 28: Band: Linkin Park 27: Clothing store: Kohl’s 26: Grocery store: Marc’s 25: TV show: Grey’s Anatomy 24: Movie: 13 Going on 30 23: Website: Pogo 22: Animal: seal 21: Theme park: Cedar Point 20: Holiday: Christmas 19: Sport to watch: baseball 18: Sport to play: softball 17: Magazine: I only read magazines at the dentist office, and I’ll read whichever has an interesting cover story 16: Book: A Series of Unfortunate Events 15: Day of the week: Saturday, as long as I’m not at work. If I’m working, then Mondays, I guess... 14: Beach: Huntington 13: Concert attended: Winter Jam, because I got to see Skillet play, and I met Matthew West. 12: Thing to cook: desserts 11: Food: eggplant parm 10: Restaurant: Olive Garden 9: Radio station: Star 102 8: Yankee candle scent: vanilla 7: Perfume: I don’t wear perfume 6: Flower: Daisies 5: Color: pink 4: Talk show host: Ellen DeGeneres 3: Comedian: Steve Rannazzisi 2: Dog breed: I really like terriers lol 1: did you answer all these truthfully ?: For me to know and you to find out :)
0 notes
Text
Okay I am so pissed and I have to rant
So a little over a year ago, My bf and I met this guy at an open mic, and he seemed pretty nice, kinda funny. We all exchanged numbers, and started keeping in touch. One day he showed up looking kinda bummed out and left early. I texted him asking if he was okay, and he said that he gets sad around the month of Feb. I asked if he wanted to talk about it and he gave one of those over the top flowery statements about how he has been fucked over too many times, and he can’t talk about it etc. At the time, I figured it was just something personal and I respected his privacy.
After we see each other more often and have sent memes and funny videos back and forth, I start getting a lot of drunk texts from him that reveal that the guy is a total neckbeard. I would get rant after rant from this guy about how great he is to everyone around him, and how he is single and nobody wants him in spite of how great of a person he is. I suggest that maybe it’s a sign that he still has to look at himself, and his response was always “I’ve done that already,” and then he would proceed to just go on about how lonely he is. Because he was always obliterated when he would send these, I figured it wasn’t something he would do all the time. I was wrong.
He told us that his ex who he was with for like 5 years cheated on him and they broke up around valentines day. He has not gotten over it since this was 3 years ago and he is still talking about it. It became a regular occurrence that he would keep saying things like “I mean is it so bad that I just want to take someone out on a date? Is something wrong with me? I just don’t know why I can’t have this.” Ordinarily I would be very sympathetic toward someone this hurt, but 1. He always had to point out how he does so much for everyone else and how selfless he was, and 2. I never really heard about a specific type of girl he wanted, it just sounded like he wanted someone for the sake of not being alone. He also started having my bf go outside with him for like 20 minute smoke breaks where he would rant the same thing. Unfortunately, none of this hit me as a huge red flag until he ended up helping me in big ways.
To sum it up, he gave me a job when I needed it, helped me pay off a stupid fee I had at school that my parents wouldn’t help me with, and helped me move up here when my bf and I weren’t old enough to rent a truck by ourselves. Now in all of these things, I was in a position where I had no other options, and I had every intention of paying him back for these things once I had the money. Furthermore, we hung out with him many times, and when he was sick, we surprised him with a get well basket of food, juice, medicine,and movies and what not. And we tried to be there for him whenever we could, making it clear that we were not using him like he claims others have. This is where his true colors became impossible to ignore.
Around the 4th of July he wanted to have some people over, there was a snafu with inviting people and it ended up just being me, my bf, this guy and his roommate. We all got pretty drunk, and started talking about real shit. It came out somehow that I was taken advantage of in a very bad way when I was 14, and that I don’t want my parents to know because I didn’t want them to think it was their fault as parents when I felt it was my fault. This guy responds “that very well may be” and then went on about how forgiving he was to his ex for cheating on him and the guy she did it with. I was pissed, I was beyond pissed. I didn’t want to be the center of attention at all for what I said, I just didn’t want something that personal that I disclosed to be considered so small compared to a 3 year old relationship conflict. He saw that I was pissed when we left, and bombarded my texts, begging me to talk to him, refusing to give me space, in spite of me saying that I needed it to calm down. Literally the next day, when I called out of work, he wouldn’t stop refusing to let me just take some time to breath because he feels so bad and he “can’t let it rest.” So I say fine, let’s get this over with. He comes over with his tale between his legs, not saying much. He needs to know how he can make it up to me that day, that moment. The first thing that pops into my head is that I don’t want to feel in debt to him as a friend, especially when I feel the way that I do. He says okay, and that I officially don’t owe him anything, and I go back to work. 
Sometimes he has to make deliveries to this college that’s a few hours away, and I go with him because we don’t get back until later and it’s good extra hours. He asked me if I wanted to go to a football game with him there sometime, as in take a 3 hour drive with him to go there for that event. I said it would depend on when because of the planning involved. Another day, he asked me if I wanted to go to a concert with him, and thankfully it happened around the same time my parents were supposed to be visiting me. I told my bf and he was NOT happy about it.
 The guy was the only one who was able to give me a ride to my bus in the next city over when I was going on vacation (my bf’s car is super old, and all of my other friends worked), and he offered to drive the full 7 hours to where I was going. I said I already have that ticket for the bus so it’s ok. We left at like 4 in the morning, so I was exhausted and slept most of the way there, and just got on the bus as fast as I could. I didn’t really talk to him that whole time I was gone, except to let him know I had a ride back so he didn’t need to bother. He asked me if something “was going on between us.” And that he didn’t want to ruin my vacation, BUT. I told him I didn’t want to talk about this until I was back from vacation. 
So when I was back at work, he told me he really “went out of his way” for me, and he was so hurt that I got on my bus so fast. I simply told him I have had my own shit to think about and work on, and that I have been trying to focus on that (it was a really rough summer, I had to move to a new apartment, btw he tried to make me move in with him an hour away from everyone else, and the two of us were in a car accident earlier that month. He told me he would stay with me as long as I needed, I told him I just really wanted to see my bf, and he didn’t come back with him until I was about to leave the hospital, I was alone in there for like 2 hours, I still am scared of fast moving cars). I told him that we need to reestablish a boundary. He said okay. 4 days later he asked again “what’s going on between us,” and that he has been trying to respect my boundary. I was getting really fed the fuck up. Even still I simply said that I was just trying to work on things going on in my life, and not everything is some spiteful conspiracy against him.  
I thankfully have another job where I am working 3 days a week, and I only need to see the other guy one day, and if I need a ride home from my other job. Things were okay for a little while, but then, just a couple days ago, my bf was gonna have a guys night with him but I happened to be going through a lot of emotional shit and I really needed him. The guy offered himself to cancel, and I told him that was not my call to make and I didn’t want to do that because I know he wants to see him. This guy saw me bawling in front of him, and knew how beat up I was about everything going on. He told me everything was ok, he cared about me, and wanted me to be alright. My bf ended up cancelling and consoling me. When the guy picked me up today, I apologized to him for ruining his night, that it wasn’t my intention, and I didn’t plan on it at all. He chose, when I was about to get out of his car, to tell me “not gonna lie, I was kind of upset about it. I mean I don’t get many calls to hang out a lot, just being honest.” I calmly said I apologized again, and that if I knew he would be this upset about it, I wouldn’t have said or done anything. Also that I assumed he wouldn’t mind since he offered to cancel in the first place. He felt it so necessary to tell me this and make me feel even worse than I already did.
Tomorrow I am asking my boss if I can work 4 days, and I am going to Uber home. I cannot keep feeling like such a shitty person, when I really try as best I can to return the kindness that is done to me.
9 notes · View notes