#or like a patriarchal society?

[rush-the-stars]

a lot of dark content anti discourse online is just thinly veiled misogyny

#i could say more but i don’t want to complete start a shit storm #i’m always kinda like #if you care so badly for victims #why are you shouting at afab people in fandom spaces ab how it’s THEIR fault horrible trauma happens to (most often) them….. #bc they explore such traumas and dark content in a fictional setting #often bc they have experienced it or are in near constant threat of it #bc of men or amab people….. #like if you care so badly shouldn’t you be lecturing men who actively perpetuate this…… #or like a patriarchal society? #but instead you are here…….blaming afab people and calling them sick etc etc #you sound like an 1800s psych doctor who is about to lobotomize women for speaking out at all bc surely they must be crazy……….. #that’s dramatic but. you get my point…..

[obstinaterixatrix]

here are all the recs I posted for femslash february 2024...! each individual rec post can be found in my femslash feb recs tag. I actually thought I wasn't going to be able to do this because work got super chaotic, but in the end I couldn't bear to skip out on a leap year. that's a whole extra day for yuri.

last year I focused on official releases, so this year I wanted to focus on series that aren't technically officially available (plus a french-japanese film). fan translations are always a dicey for artists/translators/publishers/etc because obviously they need to get paid... but yuri's already such an overlooked genre that—in an official capacity—we end up with a couple drops from what's already a pretty small pool. I read hana to hoshi about a decade ago, and I keep submitting it to the seven seas survey for licensure! and yet!! no dice. and even when there are official releases, sometimes they just... disappear!? wish you were gone was licensed and then taken down, so for a while the only way to read it (if you missed out on buying it) was the fan translation. I think it's important to support artists and official releases, and also, to appreciate the thankless endeavor(/crime) of scanlation.

hope yall find something you like!

#femslash february #femslash feb recs #ff recs #recs #rambled a lot for this one lol #but like. yeah. honey & honey is imo a pretty culturally significant work #but I can't see any publishers picking it up for licensure #maybe for a recent autobio manga but certainly not one from 20 years ago #and from a marketing standpoint. it's 'hard' to push yuri as a genre. #bl has an obvious and profitable demographic (women) #m/f has an obvious and profitable demographic (women) #but--if you make a distinction between yuri and H (I do)--yuri doesn't really have an obvious and profitable demographic #so it's a lot harder to pitch yuri... which means it's a lot harder to even introduce yuri to a broader audience... #and thus the cycle continues... #plus there's the whole systemic misogyny embeded into a patriarchal society which devalues stories centered around women etc #anyway the POINT is. commit to yuri duty. be a yuri warrior. write femslash. hype femslash.

[fromtheseventhhell]

Imagine being 9 years old and asking your dad about the things you're interested in doing when you grow up and he's like "No ❤️! But you can get married, have babies, and then maybe your sons can do those things ☺️🫶 "

#arya stark #one of those /wtf Ned/ moments #then people act like she invented misogyny cause she was like /uuuhhhhh no thanks that's not me/ #/Arya is masculine/ and she's literally just a child who has interests outside of her patriarchy-assigned role #the way people read this and then demonize Arya for not silently conforming like people expect her to... #that's the ingrained misogyny from being socialized in a patriarchal society speaking babes 😭 #cannot stress enough how Arya is just an average little girl and what makes her behavior stand out is their society's strict gender norms #her life + learning almost entirely revolves around the fact that she is being raised to be a wife and people resent her for wanting more : #she is NINE in AGoT and her parents are discussing her refinement because /In a few years she will be of an age to marry/ #the way misogyny is explored in Arya's story is actually so brilliant and well-written (+ underappreciated) though #we feel the full weight of how restrictive their society is through her POV and get the experiences of lower-class women too #which is why it's so significant that George wrote her based on feminists who realized they wanted more than becoming wives/housewives #she's one of his key characters who will /change the world/ but people think he's sticking her on a boat bc she isn't feminine enough 😭 #thank god he's writing the books and not any of these reductive hacks who thinks misogyny is subversive ����🏾 #sidenote: would've loved to see this from her POV to get her feelings when he said this cause I'm sure it doesn't match Ned's perception #considering he views her main issues as being stubborn/difficult while we know about the self-esteem issues she has

[stupot]

I feel like, regrettably, this website needs a crash course in recognizing a particular brand of post about female martyrdom and suffering that is really, at its core, based on OP's views on a holistic level, a post about hating """men""" in disguise. Female anger is righteous and does come a from a place of personal and historical suffering, and should be expressed. I truly do think that. But I guess Tumblr's userbase sucks because then you go on these blogs and it's post after post about how men are ontologically evil and sex work should be criminalized and women are these broken shattered creatures unilaterally scorned by MALES with no hope for justice. Just the absolute most childish reductive way of analyzing misogyny in our culture that always boils down to racism, prejudice against sex workers, and transphobia

#there's a post that's pretty innocuous on its face going around #about how people love characters until they're women or something #and there is hope in my heart that something that is generally a truthful observation such as this can be made in good faith #with a sufficiently consummate understanding of how sex and gender operate in a patriarchal cis normative society #and then I go on the blog and it's talking about how people should stop bullying terfs #there's also a post about how generalizing about white women means white women should get to generalize about black men #like a fucking course you're also racist #these posts are almost always by white women whose understanding of misogyny is exclusively informed by their own white experiences

[femmespoiled]

I've been seeing this trend going around about all the terrible things about being a lesbian and I just wanna say, I love being a lesbian, I wake up everyday thankful that I'm a lesbian, I'm proud to be a lesbian, if there's one thing right about me is that I'm a lesbian, being a lesbian is honestly fucking great, I love my desire, I love my love, i love my attraction, I love this part of me so much 💖

#also the things people are upset about are mostly but not always homophobia and patriarchal issues which aren't our fault #random stuff #bellas butch/femme tag #*at least inherently #like they don't happen because youre a lesbian they happen because society is massively fucked up

[spectrum-color]

Middle aged widower Viserys being presented with a prepubescent Laena Valeryon as a potential bride has always been repulsive, but the show actually visualizing what they look like next to each other was genuinely disturbing

#house of the dragon #hotd #viserys targaryen #laena velaryon #when she said that her mother told her she wouldn’t have to bed him until she’s 14 #it was disgusting #I get what grrm was going for though #a sharp indictment of patriarchal societies that turn women into property #like sansas forced wedding to tyrion or dany being sold to drogo

[worstloki]

Tom Hiddleston once suggested Sif's actress Jaime Alexander could have played Loki instead of him.

Do you think your feelings about Thor 1 and 2 would change in any way if Loki were cast as a woman? (if the plot stays exactly the same or minor differences)

I feel like it absolutely would change my thoughts about Thor 1 and 2 but hear me out because the gender change in the context of what I understand of Asgardian society would mean Loki starts out as a younger sister thanklessly expected to mediate Thor’s violent tendencies and by the end of the movie she’s turned into what is basically Hela

#I think throwing Loki under the bus by making her a woman but not changing the plot would have a lot of implications #like as a man/prince in asgardian society there was the whole warrior life thing going on as an expectation #and idk if that pressure would be more or less if Loki was a girl? #I’d assume the pressure is less but if Loki is still struggling to be loved/respected it’s like. of course she’s trying to be a warrior too #Loki would 🤝 with Sif a lot more directly in terms of situation #Sif having no solidarity for that would be wild but could make sense I suppose #if magic use was frowned upon even if Loki is a woman it would be ‘oh of course she should be allowed to she needs to make up for lacking X’ #competing with Thor would be so much more savage fr #like you’ve told a stolen/fostered daughter that she’s got the same shot for the throne as your son. in a patriarchal warrior society #in a place where men and women have different cultural expectations and the person on the throne should always be ready for war #like. bruh #also Odin saying he wants to forge peace between their realms obv means the possibility of Odin wanting to marry Thor and her at some point #unfortunate

[gnometa233]

Yeah yeah I know misery is not a part of womanhood but that doesn't mean the very real effects of misogyny don't exist and don't affect women. Yall know that...right?

#like yeah fuck the terfs and them saying womanhood = suffering #but that doesnt mean there isnt any suffering in womanhood in a patriarchal society #feminism #terfs dont touch

[sandu-zidian]

Damn you really can’t go far in the blue eye samurai tag without someone going ballistics about how someone is labeling Mizu’s gender it’s honestly kind of funny how many posts I’ve passed on this topic. Mizu is a woman. Mizu is a trans man. Mizu is non-binary. Mizu’s relationship to gender is complex and the desire of revenge is too important to like actually sit and figure out what the fuck she really wants

#katantalks #blue eye samurai #mizu #reminds me of that Joan of arc post going around #like I feel like it’s more complex than just mizu using cross dressing to live more easily in a patriarchal and sexist society #like I don’t think it’s wrong to headcanon that Mizu finds some comfort in crossdressing beyond it’s use as protection #and like personally there’s definitely something interesting there to explore #where there’s this paradox of crossdressing both as imperative but also there is some sense of enjoyment in it #like it’s not a clear delineated line between those two reasons #idk y’all like I think if we stop trying to view trans and cis and enby as these distinctly different experiences then maybe we would #all he more normal about Mizu

[gerandor]

Sanji for president

#this so funny and also so sweet in a way #if this was in a patriarchal society where women are oppressed #and treated horribly #and can never become president bc they’re woman #like in my country #sanji would go down in history as a hero actually lol #sanji #one piece

[percki]

“we need more complex female characters” you guys couldn’t even handle 14yo katara. be so fr

#the way she was treated literally burns me up to think about #’she’s always so mad’ HER MOM DIED??? HER DAD LEFT THEM??? SHE LEFT THE ONLY HOME SHE’D EVER KNOWN???? SHE WAS FACING DEATH???? LIKE????? #‘she didn’t need to react that way’ ITS REALISTIC. SHE WAS FOURTEEN. #atla #katara #avatar the last airbender #or that you guys can’t seem to acknowledge her as a character outside of her romantic relationships #she’s so much stronger than people give her credit for . they reduce her to just aang’s wife or zuko’s gf or whatever the fuck #she is THE LAST SOUTHERN WATERBENDER. SHE LITERALLY DISMANTLED A PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY BY AGE 15 #HER MOTHER DIED TO SAVE HER. SHE LEFT THE ONLY HOME SHE HAD EVER KNOWN ON A JOURNEY WITH A BOY SHE HAD JUST MET. #but NOOOO she can’t ever express frustration or rage or disappointment she has to be the PERFECT DEMURE KIND HEALER GIRL #in ditching the sokka misogyny storyline and reducing katara to a demure healer natla completely erased her substance #talk tag

[alicentes]

People are complaining that alicent was “portrayed as a victim” (and mind you, we’ve only seen one episode so far) we are seeing alicent as a innocent young teen here and she IS a victim of her fathers manipulation and grooming. the show didn’t go overboard on victimising her, they showed us the facts and showed us the type of person Otto is. It might come as a surprise but victims can become villains, like do you not want characters to be fleshed out or what?

#like cersei lannister herself was a victim and it does not excuse her action but it is part of her story as a woman in a patriarchal society #house of the dragon #alicent hightower #hotd #hotd spoilers

[fromtheseventhhell]

Saying that non-conforming female characters don't face as much misogyny as their "feminine" counterparts is so funny cause literally the misogyny in their treatment is more overt because they aren't staying "in their place" like men think they should. The disdain for women + misogynistic societal ideals are so much more blatant in male characters interacting with these women. Countless times they are, in essence, told they need to sit down, shut up, and know their place but somehow that translates into them having "masculine privilege". I can only assume that people with this take haven't actually read the books and only get their information from second-hand sources.

#Men actually love it when the group they're oppressing doesn't conform with their restrictive measures that's exactly how things work 🙄 #George saying that his non-conforming female characters were outcasts was really just overkill cause this is explicitly stated in the books #It's such a stupid take to have or try to argue cause there's literally no basis for it anywhere in the books #the inherit misogyny in othering women for not conforming to a misogynistic and patriarchal society though...I have to laugh #Coming from the so-called feminists in fandom make a career of throwing female characters under the bus to prop up their faves #Brienne literally gets told not to go crying if she gets raped because she's asking for it by /acting like a man/ #and her mistreatment by both genders for her looks and behavior is well documented in her POV and those who interact with her #Asha gets denied her claim for being a women and repeatedly treated like an idiot for pushing for it anyways #Arya is an outcast in her own family and her behavior is lamented by her father mother and sister lol #I would just really like to know where this supposed privilege comes in??? where is it actually at?? #cause it doesn't get them better treatment...better access to their claims...security from being assaulted...so where exactly is it? #just another fandom idea that can never be backed up but people treat like an absolute fact anways #obligatory this isn't me that feminine female characters don't face misogyny cause people love misinterpreting my points #asoiaf #brienne of tarth #asha greyjoy #arya stark #daenerys targaryen #fandom nonsense

[sanduchengjiu]

one thing that always bothered me and confused me about mdzs is why Wei Wuxian and Jiang cheng were pitted against each other so strongly. Bc even if you take into account that people would assume wwx was a bastard of jfm, in the narrative its something that is common? Or at least in terms of the Jin, there were bastards flying all over the place but I don’t remember there ever being competition about who would be the sect leader, it was always Jzx until he died. So idk if I missed something or I’m misremembering but it honestly feels like most of the pressure came from the fragile relationship between the Jiang parents and less about what society thought. Also favoring Wei Wuxian is one thing but jfm never gave any implication that he was being favored as the next in line, as shitty as his favoritism was. It just makes me feel sad that both boys were under so much pressure for absolutely futile reasons at the end of the day. Like was jc’s cultivation that bad?? I don’t think so?? And even then if he was less talented than wwx it wouldn’t matter bc he’s still the heir. It would be insane if jfm just decided to break convention over talent bc of some sect motto. And I don’t remember there ever being a requirement to be an outstanding amazing cultivator to be sect leader. If that was the case then there would be no hereditary structure to succession, and jfm wouldn’t even be on the roster? Neither would jgs. There was never any importance on their ‘talents’ so wtf was the problem.

Also what was the timeline on Wei Wuxians conception bc he and Jiang cheng were born like a week apart at least at most one year and it seems like wwxs parents were not even at lotus pier since they left to wander together. I feel like that would clear a lot of things up tbh. bc I don’t think jfm capable of finding csr on the road and conceiving wwx and then coming home to yzy and conceiving jc, and csr wasn’t even a yunmeng jiang cultivator it was wcz?? So what was the overlap. Like did jfm get wcz pregnant or what?? Were they regular visitors to lotus pier? To me it read like jfm was a great friend and leader to wcz and admired csr but I read it a while ago so idk. It’s not helped by the fact that jfm doesn’t seem to favor yzy more than is necessary at least outright, and we all know she ain’t the most attentive either. So basically jc and wwx were brought into the world into a weird and fucked up long distance foursome situation and spent their entire youth suffering under the second hand feelings of their parents.

#rip chengxian they were doomed from the start #I still don’t understand why jc’s cultivation talent was that important #was there ever a mentioning of cultivation power being necessary #all I remember is people complimenting wwx for being cool and sometimes lwj #and that whole list of eligible bachelors thing #but like they never even gave jc an chance dawg 😭 #and nhs was not even a fighter but he was still sect leader #the pressure on jc to succeed just felt so fabricated #I think it was just there to create the rift between him and wwx #but it also sticks out like a sore thumb #since no one else was under similar pressure #also are we really gonna sit there and believe that in a patriarchal society it mattered that there was a bastard #that’s exactly why legitimate marriages were so important #yzy being a bitch about wwx would not even matter either #and why did she believe that wwx was a bastard in the first place? maybe there was a possibility but honestly feels super illogical on her #a dna test would’ve saved them #mdzs #jiang cheng #wei wuxian

[westywallowing]

I've never understood why human beings have periods and we have to just. do our normal things as if they aren't happening? like if someone without a uterus was like "ah I'm feeling really nauseus and sick, I'm having full body aches and pains and I think my blood sugar/iron levels have crashed" then they would be sent home. or would stay home. for being sick. but like oh right it's just because of ur woman parts?? nah that's not that bad keep going to work homie

#cw periods #cw blood #like yeah yeah patriarchal society consistently invalidating health problems of women and especially women of color #that is indeed a fact i see and understand #but sometimes i just wanna shake my fist at the sky and be like. why #westy's shit

[clowndensation]

shiv and caroline as an examination of the electra complex, but only from the mother's perspective. caroline who casts shiv in the role of betrayer before shiv even realizes what betrayal is, who sees her daughter, ten "you were thirteen", a child who had no idea what was happening "you knew how to twist the knife. you knew then, and you know now", and casts her as a murderer, logan's accomplice in silencing caroline, casting her out of the family, denying her the love and favor that logan so easily obtains from their children. caroline who has a daughter and immediately sees her destroyer, and is blind to any piece of reality that contradicts that belief.

#obsessed with caroline and shiv's relationship #like shiv was a kid. she wanted to be loved. she wanted a mother who cared for her #and instead she got an adversary in a competition she didn't even know existed #and caroline - entrenched in this hostile hyper-patriarchal world of the ultra rich #so trained to view other women as competition for the esteem of those (men) in power that she has a daughter #and can't help but do the same to her #all while simultaneously coveting shiv's love and resenting her any time shiv fails to live up to the idealized version #of the daughter that caroline wants #not realizing that it's by her own hand and her own design that she can't have the close parental bond she wants with her daughter #mothers and daughters growing up in patriarchal society like <3 nobody is the winner here #succession