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lemonfreshlysqueezed · 6 months

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Biting is a love language!

The sweet sweet way of showing affection by biting has been happening more recently in bl, and I’m here for it.

This is my collection, for now. I most definetly will be adding to it 😇

The Eighth Sense

Jae Won x Ji Hyun (Episode 6)

Gifs by @dingyuxi

A Shoulder To Cry On

Tae Hyun x Da Yeol (Episode 5)

Gif by @forcebook

La Pluie

Saengtai x Phat (Epsiode 3)

Gif by @singto-prachaya

Laws of Attraction - Both couples!

Tinn x Charn (Episode 6)

Gif by @spicyvampire

Thee x Thaenthai (Episode 8)

Gif by @pharawee

Secret Crush on You

Sky x Jao (Episode ?)

Gif by @stormyoceans

Between us Special

Team x Win (Episode Week 2)

Gif by @hoshinisuzu

Love Syndrome III

Day x Itt (Episode 3)

Gif by @crispywizardtale

Link to part 2 and 3

#biting is a love language #my list so much longer but i hit some kind off limit making this post so i’m splitting it up #i love seeing this #the neurodivergent behaviour!!!#bounprem #the eighth sense series #a shoulder to cry on #la pluie #laws of attraction the series #secret crush on you the series #between us the series #love syndrome 3 #thai bl #thaibl #thai bl drama #bl drama #bl tropes #multi bl

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cringelordofchaos · 7 months

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*by that I mean do you feel like you're capable of controlling it and stopping and starting it at any time possible?

*this is in no way trying to encourage people to stop stimming

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autistic-beshelar · 2 years

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rue is, i think, in love with the idea of love.

they set a wager. the lords of the wing will find true love in this romantic, ephemeral bloom, if they only seek it. they can win it, as though it’s a game.

they long to abolish the courts. their own court has never held any love for them - why would any other court be different? a court stifles, a court smothers, a court suffocates love. the courts must be abolished, so that love can bloom. true love, love that is unfettered by politics, or station, or duty.

they are the architect of the bloom. the hunt, the heart. the dance. the potions. they will pour love into a cup and the guests will drink their fill. fae from across the realms will fall in beautiful, perfect love at rue’s hand.

they have become the arbiter of love. when an engagement between a cruel prince and a wild goblin is set, what else can they do but judge it unfit? it was not love, it was not true.

they share a moment in a forest with a venerated captain. he is tall, as they are. he is clawed, as they are. he is a beast, as they are, and so beautiful for it. they fall fast, and hard, and heavy. and perhaps it is only the nature of queerness, of a life lived behind a mask, yearning for the faintest spark, that causes them to love so fast.

or perhaps they did not truly fall in love with hob at all. for they did not see him.

they fell in love with a reflection of themself.

except, of course, that hob is not a reflection of rue. hob is his own person, and like any real person, he cannot live up to an idea. and while rue is on a wonderful journey of revelation and self acceptance, it is baffling to them that someone else’s love does not always mirror their own.

rue, in an act of bravery and vulnerability and hope, removed their mask. and they long so very much to remove hob’s - but he has never worn a mask. he has always been exactly as he is - a soldier, devoted and dutiful. an outsider, used and abused by his court. rue’s true form was hidden by their court, while hob’s otherness has always been mercilessly exposed.

rue loves hob for the idea of who he could be, if he could simply unmask as they did. but hob needs, just as rue does, to be loved for who he is.

#this really went from 'rue doesn't truly understand love and is fucked up about it'#to 'rue thinks hob's story is one of queerness but it is in fact of neurodivergence'#and while rue could pass #hob never could #this hurt me to write btw.#a court of fey and flowers #delloso de la rue #captain kp hob #i see a LOT of talk about rue's story being a queer one #which it very very deliberately and wonderfully is #but i see the same being said of hob #and i'm not saying it's wrong to see hob's story as a queer one too #but to me hob's entire narrative is so clearly an autistic one #the abuse and manipulation and straight up gaslighting that he has received from his superiors #reads so clearly as authority figures taking advantage of a neurodivergent person #his whole... inability to accept that anyone could love him for who he is #the way he is othered not so much for how he looks #but for his BEHAVIOUR #for things that are blatant autistic traits #that's... that's an autistic narrative for sure.#not to say that hob isn't also queer #and of course there is so so much overlap between queer stories and autistic stories #but i think that #rue is only seeing their experience as a queer person #they aren't understanding that hob's experience is different than theirs #because he is autistic #also for many other reasons but like. look. we're talking autism babey.#and also i'm not saying rue can't also be autistic or neurodivergent in some way #but they don't have the same experience as hob does

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jotarobutcat · 6 months

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I'll just be honest and say that I hate it when people use neurodivergency as an excuse to be immature. And by that I don't mean things like liking shows with a younger target audience or getting overwhelmed by tasks. These have nothing to do with being emotionally mature.

I mean refusing to cooperate or make compromises, throwing tantrums in public and overall disregarding other people's needs in order to make yourself comfortable.

The world doesn't revolve around you. We live in communities, and in order for the community to prosper, you need to take into account other people's needs and comfort as well, not just yours. If you have special needs, you're obviously allowed to ask that these needs are met as well as possible, but neurodivergency isn't a "do whatever you want without consequences" card.

You're allowed to have emotions, you're allowed to feel overwhelmed and you're allowed to have your own wants and needs, but you need to learn to communicate these in a mature way and to take other people into consideration as well. It's a part of growing up and maturing.

And before you come at me with the "we shouldn't have to abide by neurotypicals' rules", many of these rules also benefit many neurodivergent people. For example, I am extremely oversensitive to noise and have trauma from overbearing parents, if an adult man suddenly started screaming while I was bying new clothes I would likely have a panic attack. When somebody chews with their mouth open I feel like someone is trying to put a living spider in my ear. When someone throws a tantrum I have a hard time keeping myself calm because the noise is so overwhelming that it fills me with violent anger. It's not just neurotypical people who the "don't be an obnoxious little shit" rule benefits.

/nbh

EDIT: Since this is getting way more attention than I thought it would, and some misunderstandings have arisen, I'll just add here what I explained in the comments as well. Before anything, this edit is merely to prevent further misunderstandings, not to put anyone on a pedestal of shame for misunderstanding what I meant. The original post leaves many things vague, and it is understandable that it might come off the wrong way.

This post is about using neurodivergency as an excuse for bad behaviour, not as an explanation for problems that actually come with neurodivergency. It is specifically aimed at people with autism and/or ADHD who use their neurodivergency as an excuse for behaviour that is usually *not even caused by their neurodivergency*, but rather bad parenting or other external factors.

The word "tantrum" is NOT used to describe meltdowns here. Tantrums and meltdowns are very different in nature, the former being usually caused by an inability to accept not getting exactly what one wants, and the latter being caused by emotional or physical overwhelm. During tantrums a person is in control of their emotions, but chooses to release them as an angry outburst towards other people. During meltdowns a person is NOT in control of their emotions, and cannot choose how they present their overwhelm. If you need an example of what I mean by tantrums, you can look at your nearest neighbourhood "Karen" for that, and you will probably see that the kind of behaviour I mean is very different from an autistic meltdown.

#if you're mad at this you're part of the problem #stop excusing bad behaviour #do what you want in private #but have some courtesy in public #here come the generic tags #text post #autism #actually autistic #adhd #actually adhd #audhd #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

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qbbhs · 3 months

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autism see, autism do 👍🏽

#qsmp #qsmp fitmc #qsmp ramon #mine #im autistic im allowed to call eveyrones behaviour autistic if i so please #FAMILIES THAT STIM TOGETHER. AFFIRM NEURODIVERGENCE TOGETHER . or smth idk

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kaz-oooo · 9 months

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Kind of a shame Tommy’s new video got SO overshadowed by the Dream stuff.

I mean obviously that was always going to be the case, Dream discourse is a bit of a hot topic atm (especially in this community) and well, while everyone else knows how to take a joke, Dream’s fanbase always has to overreact and make the comments Tommy made way more dramatic than they ever were. I mean I’ve seen people calling him ableist for just fidgeting during Dream’s section… what does that mean?!?!?!?!

Anywho! He made some great points throughout — not anything new and groundbreaking per se, but his humour definitely made up for it — poking fun at Mr Beast for flaunting his wealth online and not really putting it to much good, Andrew Tate and his manhood ;), KSI just trying to build a brand while Logan Paul just drags him down with scams and crypto bullshit. All of it fun and silly and fairly lighthearted the whole way through.

And Philza Minecraft baby!!!! Judging by the way Tommy promoted this video on Twitter I can only assume he’s super proud of how that part came out, as he should be, he clearly put a lot of work into in and it turned out incredibly awesome!!!

#tommyinnit #dream discourse #qsmp #quackity #also cos that comment bothers me :#literally none of Tommy’s commentary was about Dreams ADHD #honestly doubt it even crossed his mind #cos y’know… wtf does Dreams neurodivergence have to do with anything???#he was poking fun at Dreams behaviour #toxic asshole trying to destroy Quackity’s reputation #vs #uwu soft boy that just wants to be friends <33333 #anywho.. dream sucks Tommy’s video slaps :)

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rebellum · 1 year

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I feel like... Perhaps... Arguing that transphobia is defined by murder and that anything other than murder doesn't even matter... May NOT be conducive to fighting for trans rights.

Like... people want the right to exist as they are. They want to have access to hrt and surgeries and prosthetics. People want access to clothes that fit them and reflect how they want to be seen. People want access to medical care (eg. Getting screened and treated for sex-based forms of cancer can be impossible if you have the "wrong" sex listed to receive those tests). People want to be respected and treated well. People want to not be sexually assaulted and beaten and abused. People want to have access to housing and jobs, and the protection to not lose those things for being trans. People want access to shelters for homeless people or survivors of domestic abuse. People want name changes.

Acting like all of those things don't matter because at least they weren't murderered by an individual (and instead die of suicide or state violence, or survive and suffer) isn't okay.

#'hey people are forcibly detransitioning you and raping and beating you and you lost your job and are going to be homeless and #probably die of infection from being stabbed for trying to go to the bathroom. but at least you arent part of a demographic that has a #higher murder victim rate! shhh just ignore that we dont actually have data on the murder rate of your group.'#do ppl like. forget state based violence exists. and that thats most violence minorities face.#idk man im just. mad about people on here acting like youre only oppressed if youre a perisex trans woman who was AMAB.#cause i exist at the intersection of multiple minorities and being told hey u experience violence but at least you wont be murdered by an #individual feels like a slap in the face.#like it doesnt matter if i have to mask my neurodivergent behaviour bc if people see they could assume im on drugs and call the police and #i could potentially be really hurt but not die but hey at least i wont die just be horrifically traumatized by police brutality!#there are millions of people with mental illnesses similar to my own around the world who are institutionalized and forcibly medicated or #living on the streets or dependant on horrifically abusive caregivers #but hey at least they arent being murdered!#like. the way the transphobia discussion on tumblr rn discusses (and doesnt discuss) race and ability and class and health makes me #feel very invisible.#like if people had to choose who to believe about my experiences between listening to me a black/mixed mentally ill maybe disabled (used to #be disabled) hella nd trans nonbinary person #or listen to a white middle class trans woman's take on my experiences that theyd choose her. its such a weird weird microcosm.#its like a monkeys paw like people are finally listening to trans fems and finally recognising the violence they experience and finally #actually caring about them but for some reason decide that in order to do that its necessary to throw every other minority under the bus #like fuck man have you seen how 'anti transandrophobia truthers' discuss race? its NOT okay #we all matter we all are so similar and are part of the same groups and same communities we need to stick together #stop using trans fems as a battering ram to hurt other minorities challenge #cause like. yes its some trans fems. but its mostly NOT?#like its non trans fems telling other non trans fems that they arent oppressed #and even when many trans fems are like what the fuck dude of course other trans ppl matter whats wrong with you #the group of like 80% non trans fems 20% trans fems are like 'hmm if you are defending other trans people you must not really be trans fem'#like. denying trans fems their identity bc they disagree with them?? dude someone doesnt stop being a trans fem cause they recognise #people other than trans fems matter and exist #its just all so WEIRD its a weird little tumblr microcosm #i wanna stress. for those of you who dont have access to other lgbtq+ communities. how much it seems to be primarily a tumblr thing. to

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tomgrcg · 1 year

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we've learnt for a fact now that tom feels the full range of human emotions towards greg and that he can't let anyone in or he'll die. so how does he express his emotions? the only way he can let himself. he wants to be a specific kind of person, a roy, and how he is feeling and what he wants to do does not fit in with how these people behave. he doesn’t do it because it’s natural. he does it because he has to. he throws insults at it and tries to wrestle it to the ground but it feels weak because his heart isn’t in it.

neither greg or tom are like the roys at their core. they weren’t raised in it. there are moments of real happiness for the two of them when they’re alone and can just be themselves. there's something different in their relationship dynamic here than the relationships the siblings have. it doesn’t feel as bittersweet because they aren’t as fundamentally broken.

tom is more guarded, of course, he’s received some emotional damage from shiv so he always says or does something to keep greg just far enough away. he’s learnt vulnerability is dangerous. every time he tries to show shiv that he loves her she makes him feel like he’s done it wrong. this season he started behaving in a way that would get through to her but that didn’t feel good to him either, didn’t save him from being fired, nothing.

shiv needed the kind of love tom gave her the same way tom needs what greg gives him. but the difference is tom is more capable of accepting love from people he cares about and wouldn’t hurt greg any deeper than a weak insult, even if he could.

tom knows what it’s like to have to beg for someone who is supposed to care about you to do something for you, so when greg asked if he could possibly save him from going to jail he says load me up without a second thought. he cares about greg’s feelings and would sacrifice something of his own for them and it’s this empathy that tom has that the roy family is lacking.

it’s not hard for tom to think to do something for another person for no reason other than it would make that person feel good. no quid pro quo. but even when tom does do something good for greg he 'can’t stand the good feeling he’s engendered' because he feels like he shouldn’t be doing nice things for no reason.

the nero and sporus scene was tom telling greg he cares about him at all and “come with me, sporus?” was the marriage proposal. greg asks what’s in it for him because that’s how greg works and tom has to say “who has ever looked out for you” instead of “i want you with me”. tom cannot let him know the depth of how he feels so he lets greg think he's using him for something and only merely tolerates him, like everyone else does.

and then, because greg still doesn’t get it, or is choosing to ignore it, tom has to yell “not samson! i want you gregging for me!" he still can’t say the real reason why. the only time he’s shown his real emotions to greg is when he’s alone in a room and greg can’t see his face through the phone.

it's not a perfect relationship. it's not supposed to be. that's why it's so compelling. it’s please don't be better than me i can't stand it but i love you. it’s i’m using you to get somewhere in the world but i’ll still look after you even when i don’t need to anymore. (villainfvcker made a great post about this.)

i’m writing this after episode eight, and if they’re going all the way with greg’s transformation into a roy family member and he betrays tom in some way, it will be another case of a succession character destroying the only real connection they have for some kind of power, and regretting it later.

if anything at all, we know tom really does love greg, and that’s a satisfying enough tomgreg endgame for me, personally.

#the show is so ambiguous with people's intentions that it's easy for me to feel validated in this interpretation #tomgreg #tom wambsgans #greg hirsch #i won't be upset if nothing else happens now #my poor stupid babies i love u and am the same as you #i have kind of a neurodivergent read on the both of them so that's where a lot of this behaviour interpretation comes from #they're just trying to fucking fit in dude it's so sad #i had to write all of this down i need it out of my brain so i can think again #succession meta #i love you tom wambsgans

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chaotic-being · 3 months

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"Just act like yourself" bitch I don't even know who I am. how bout I act like you and pretend like I have a clue what I'm doing instead.

#questioning autism #questioning asd #questioning autistic #mimic #mimicking behaviours #autistic masking #masking #high masking #masking all day every day #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #autism #autistic spectrum #autistic culture

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pinkysberg · 1 year

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trying to have any form of convo about dutch's mental wellbeing is very annoying sometimes because you have camp "demonize NPD or other cluster B personality disorders" or there's the group "because dutch was clearly not in his right mind he cannot be held responsible for his actions"

dutch obviously has a mental decline and we can speculate about what caused that, or what disorders, conditions or mental illnesses he may or may not have. it can definitely humanize him and give his decisions nuance. but i wish people would be more careful they aren't attributing the idea that to have a cluster B personality disorder makes you an inherently bad or dangerous person.

dutch is a bad person because of the decisions he makes as an individual, separate of whatever condition he may or may not have. having NPD, BPD, or other conditions like bipolar disorder, etc. does not make someone inherently a bad person. please be careful about how you discuss these conditions in general, but im talking specifically about fandom spaces as we can contribute to harmful stigmas with our headcanons. its important to be careful in discussing conditions that are already so heavily stigmatized.

#i wanna be able to talk about dutch and his abusive behaviour without having to combat anti-NPD rhetoric #it's just frustrating #dutch van der linde #thinky #also for the record i personally would hc with bipolar 1 and NPD #but that's not the point here #AND NEURODIVERGENT PPL DESERVE TO FEEL INCLUDED IN FANDOM WITHOUT BEING DEMONIZED #bc yes ppl w cluster b personality disorders or other conditions with stigmas are neurodivergent too

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charmac · 5 months

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#gonna go on a parasocial rant for a man i barely care about bc thats where i am #but honestly its actually a little heartbreaking #when you think about the fact that rob #who we know struggled in school and with behavioural issues #was a neurodivergent kid who had no idea what that even was #no resources or labels to help him #is now an adult figuring this all out #and seeing #holy shit this sports team i grew up with and love knows about this too #and theyre doing all of this #like do you realise he was a kid in the 80s with no knowledge of any of this #used sports as an outlet and to bond with his dad #probably imagining if this foundation had existed when he was a kid what that could have done for him #and i now have the money and ability to support this all #so hes donating and posting to raise awareness and encourage support #and he's spending time and money with his soccer team in wales to do this same thing #so neurodivergent kids who love sports are growing up with what he didnt have #and their parents are able to recognise and understand what his couldn't (no fault of their own)#im sorry but youre a very blindly heartless person to think that doesnt matter because rob is NOW rich #why are we acting like hes elon fucking musk #he came from nothing you ALL KNOW HOW SUNNY STARTED!?#yes hes stupid spending his money on nfts and the metaverse #can you not see hes fucking growing... and learning. like. probably through his own kids....#i dont even care if you dont care #i dont think it matters at all but adamantly shitting on him to his (social media) face is so beyond loser behaviour #holy fucking christ most of twitter now has clearly been educated in the tiktok school of anti capitalism #that they think the moment someone breaks 1mm they lose their history and soul #rob is a centrist he posts copganda he owns a gun and is proud of it but youre biggest issue with him is he won at capitalism?#via doing something not only he loves but YOU love? and have a whole account dedicated to??????#everyone in his quotes is britta perry from community

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lemonfreshlysqueezed · 6 months

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Biting is a love language!

- Part 2

Here’s a link to Part 1 Because i was not done after that one. So here we go:

Old Fashion Cupcake

Nozue x Togawa

Gif by @wanderlust-in-my-soul

2moons2

Forth x Beam

Gifs by @nammminn

Gen y - Multiple times

Kit X Mark

Gif by @227moons

Gif by @longinglook

War of Y

Achi - Most

Gif by @wanderlust-in-my-soul

Gap The series

Mon x Sam

Gifs by @heretherebedork

Badbuddy

Pat x Pran

Gif by @thesoupofthetruck

Secret Crush on you

Nuea x Toh

Gif by @pharawee

#biting is a love language #part 3 is already in the making #the neurodivergent behaviour!!!#little nibble never hurt anyone right?#dont bit you partner! vut what if partner taste good?#bad buddy #old fashion cupcake #gap the series #war of y #2 moons 2 #gen y the series #gen y 2 #bl drama #thai bl drama #multi bl #bl tropes

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atlantis-just-drowned · 27 days

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My favourite hobby is to walk around, look at random people going on with their lives, approach them and tap their shoulders to say: "Did you know? You're autistic."

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ndcultureis · 10 months

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Neurodivergent culture is your overprotective parents not giving you anything u can call "privacy" or "intimacy". Your bedroom doesn't have door, you have to change and take shower with someone literally sitting and literally keeping eye on you. Who cares you're 17 and you're perfectly capable of doing it on your own? Not them

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#neurodivergent culture #mod milo #that is absolutely horrific behaviour

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anarmorofwords · 2 months

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"you're now using ADHD as an excuse for everything"

actually, no, I'm just still learning how it affects my life and actively trying to analyze and understand it so I can effectively accommodate myself and solve or avoid at least a portion of the problem it causes and apparently I trusted you enough to believe you'd be appreciating the vulnerability, my bad I guess

#(this does not apply to people using their ADHD to genuinely excuse harm and bad behaviour without taking responsibility)#adhd #adhd problems #adhd post #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

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rebouks · 6 months

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Is robin neurodivergent?

Nope 👀

#ranswers #sdkjsk #like.. i suppose he displays some divergent behaviours but it's not caused by a “disorder” or any neurodivergence #if oskie do take him to see someone i can see them scratching their heads a lil #😅

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