#this is coming from a neurodivergent person

[diamondofversailles]

Besties I also don't particularly like Shuro (it's for the Izutsumi thing, not because of the Laios thing that happened this episode!!!) But I also get this thing that I also think Shuro is neurodivergent HOWEVER he comes from a place of privilege because of his family AND from a place where it's drilled into his head that being direct about discomfort is rather rude, it's not so simple as to just go "he HATES autistic people and he deserves to die because he was mean to Laios", Laios although heartbroken that the person he thought was his friend secretly did not like him IS NOT A CHILD, he's a WHITE grown man who (accidentally and without malice) did various microaggressions towards Shuro, and while I think this could have gone a lot smoother if Shuro was more direct or Laios was just a tad bit less socially inept, none of them are children or without fault. Hating Shuro because of this one specific thing is kind of weird (and there's a lot of fandom racism too towards him and Kabru)

The situation that Shuro and Laios find themselves in isn't something as simple as "character A is a poor pure man and character B is mean, evil and an asshole" 😭😭😭😭

#laios touden #shuro dungeon meshi #toshiro nakamoto #delicious in dungeon #dungeon meshi #laios thorden #laios dungeon meshi #dunmeshi

[nyandaah]

I don't know how to articulate my thoughts on it consicely (as usual, hence why I rarely ever write posts here anymore), but ever since this week's dunmesh ep I can't stop thinking about That scene between toshiro and laios and how it's been talked about as a piece of representation of the neurodivergent struggle.

I've seen those panels countless times before the anime got to it, and I can't understate how Real of a thing it is that we're seeing through laios- that pain and frustration that comes from having the rug pulled under you in being told that been getting it Wrong the whole time and nobody's bothered to point out the donkey tail pinned on your ass.

but I think that's only the first half of the statement, and the way people talk (and don't talk) about toshiro does the moment a disservice.

seeing how people talk about it before getting to the scene itself, it ended up catching me off-guard how much of a Person toshiro is. he's always talked about as the strawman or the figure representing neurotypical society- the one that others us.

I see where it's all coming from, he's not a likeable character to most of the fandom for reasons I won't hold anyone against, but again- he's an important part of the picture that dunmesh paints of the nd struggle.

I find it absurd to portray toshiro as a representation of the 'average'. being both of royalty and of a culture that has instilled upon him his own values and expectations when it comes to socialization. it's why the inclusion of his retainers (especially maizuru) was a brilliant story decision; alongside laios', we get to see HIS social ineptitudes and how central they are to HIS character.

like. a major point of grievance many of the audience has with toshiro is his rose-tinted 'romance' with obviously-uninterested falin. I get it, especially if you've experienced that type of engagement with an unwanted pursuer. but dear lord if that doesn't perfectly parallel him with laios as a fellow Socially Inept Man.

it hit me as much as laios hit me when he said he envied our boy's sincerity. because that's a true and often less talked about part of the neurodivergent struggle(tm)- the difficulty to express your feelings. just like the other end of the spectrum, it hurts yourself as much as it hurts others.

as someone whose brain problems often manifest as social anxiety and feeling like i'm either unable to or unworthy of expressing how I feel, I envy laios too.

tl;dr- there are two characters present in that scene in episode 17.

#dungeon meshi #laios touden #toshiro nakamoto

[rubberduckyrye]

Okay in all seriousness. There's something that I REALLY want to talk about as an open discussion with the fandom, but. This is not going to be a very nice thing to hear/talk about.

It's about how Gonta is treated by the fandom.

As a fan of all the V3 characters now, and as someone who has always been a fan of Gonta, and as someone who has many mental disabilities and two diagnosed neurodivergancies... I'm tired of playing nice about it.

You all need to stop being ableist towards Gonta.

I've mentioned in the past that I don't like shitting on personal interpretations. I don't like saying something is or is not canon because narration is just a big web of text that you try to decipher with your own personal biases, experiences, and thoughts. That's why two literary analysts analyzing the same text with the same literary criticism rules can come to wildly different conclusions--why people develop different headcanons from the same canonical information.

But one of the things that challenged my integrity is just how many people view Gonta as this innocent, naive, ignorant, baby boy who can do no harm/never has a complicated/dirty/violent/sexual thought in his life ever.

This incredibly ableist interpretation of the character bothered me for, well, obvious reasons (See: It's fucking ableist, need I say more?) but I never challenged it as harshly as I am now because to be frank, it's not my place to tell people how to HC a character. It still isn't. But I've pretty much given up on my integrity on the subject and have decided to go all in on discussing why this interpretation of Gonta is just. Really bad.

First of all, not to promote my own analyses here or anything, but I think this analysis I did of Gonta explains a LOT in regards to the ableism the cast gives him in canon. I also think that this subtle ableism is why the fandom is so bad with Gonta's characterization in headcanons and fanfic--because they've seen how the cast treats him, and they think it's normal. They don't see the microaggressions, they don't see the subtle ableism in the cast--they just see this big giant idiot who speaks like Tarzan in the English version (which... I don't actually know why people assume Tarzan (Thinking of Disney's version) is stupid. Like as a boy he had to reinvent the spear with no one to guide him on how to do it. He was able to strategize and outsmart "civilized" men in the final showdown. Still I digress) and don't see the literal genius behind his social awkwardness.

There is also another very important point I'm going to make in addition to this, and it's going to be very uncomfortable to Gonta fans who insist he's nothing but a sweet baby who only has pure thoughts. Especially to the fans who insist he "can't be sexual" or think it's weird to ship him with his peers.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but... Gonta blatantly has sexual desire and gets horny right in canon.

This is further clarified here:

It wasn't a matter of Gonta didn't want to touch her because touching someone in their underwear was inappropriate, or being flustered because she was in her underwear which is inappropriate...

It was literally a "weird feeling" that made him unable to approach her or touch her. A "weird feeling" that Miu makes pretty obvious as to what it was--sexual arousal.

He literally was sexually attracted to and felt sexual arousal from looking at Miu in her underwear. He had sexual feelings and thoughts about Miu. Why?

Because Gonta is a young man.

Gonta is a brilliant, talented young man who has normal human thoughts for someone his age--sexual desires, upsetting thoughts, complicated thoughts, ectect. He is not a child, he is not mentally stunted (I've been informed that people have literally said this on Ao3 for the NSFW Gonta fics, please for the love of god stop that)

I think the reason why Gonta fans typically want to keep him as a "pure baby child who can do no wrong" is because treating him like the young adult that he is makes it harder for them to justify Chapter 4. Every time I've seen a Gonta fan that hates Kokichi, it's always followed by the sentiment of "Kokichi manipulated and abused Gonta into killing Miu, so it's all Kokichi's fault." They're afraid of nuance and liking a character with the grey morality of genuinely thinking Mercy Killing the cast is a viable option, because it challenges their own morals about the character they adore.

To those people who read this and are upset: You can and should like Gonta! Gonta is a magnificent character who showcases the subtle way microaggressions can manifest and hurt people, he's a good-hearted person and a literal genius, he cares deeply for his friends and loves everyone with upmost sincerity.

But.

You need to re-evaluate your stance on Gonta if you think he's a stupid, naive fool who Kokichi manipulated. You need to re-evaluate why you think those thoughts, why you think Gonta being shipped with anyone is "Kinda weird" or "has weird consent problems" or "give you the ick." You have to challenge yourself and ask yourself uncomfortable questions in regards to why you treat Gonta like a child when canon has proven otherwise, why you think he cannot have violent or sexual thoughts, why he can't think mercy killing his class is the only way to save them.

This isn't an attack on you--but understand that these specific takes on Gonta? They are ableist in nature. They belittle and dismiss him, they treat him like a child, an idiot who can't think for himself--and you have to come to terms with the fact that Gonta is a far more complex character with complicated thoughts and feelings who is a young adult. Not a child. A young adult.

So again, ask yourself this: Why are you treating this young adult like he's a toddler?

#Gonta Gokuhara #Miu Iruma #Kokichi Ouma #Danganronpa V3 #DRV3 #As an AuADHD individual who thinks Gonta is Autistic coded #do you understand how frustrating it is to see this shit #Do you understand how it feels to be infantized? To be told through the lens of a character “You're too stupid to be an adult”? #Worse yet is that I'm also constantly told that me being short and baby faced makes me “child coded.” #Do you understand how ableist this all is. Do you Understand? #Anyway that's one post down. Gonna go read a thing for Star #This does genuinely upset me though as an AuADHDer #Please stop. I am speaking on behalf of people like me--/Please fucking stop./ #Tag Edit: Yes this is safe to RB and spread around #Please do RB this in fact

[wannabeavocaloidmystery]

As a POC, I gotta at least look out for Toshiro (even if he do kinda suck). Honestly the situation between him and laios is painful for the both of them. Shiro comes from a place and upbringing where being direct and upfront is like not advise or comes across as rude. Which is where aspects of envy towards laios being a direct and upfront person be coming from. Yet still stings for laios when it's someone who he thought he could connect and be friends with who has a different experience of life. Either way, it's a rough mashup for the both of them and falin as well.

As a neurodivergent woc, Laios has f-in point when it comes to the seriousness of taking on the dungeon after being well rested and fed. Toshiro really did put aside his big oofs to get help and head out to the dungeon to save falin, yet he sacrificed his well being for the sake of the situation and getting back to falin, which worked up until a point. It's still important to take care of your body during those kind of situations, cause you can't feed others without having the means to feed yourself.

Whoops, anyway, the mash up between Toshiro and laios was a rough cut for the both of them. I'm glad the fight at least sobered up shiro and gave laios an opportunity to correct and set a proper goal. The hurt still cuts like a b-th though. So like any of y'all folks really hating on shuro, needs to fucking chill and check y'all selves for rascim reasons before expressing your distaste for his actions. Be more like Kabru. And Falin already has marcille so things will turn out (if Falin ever comes back that is) *wink*.

#Dungeon Meshi #delicious in dungeon #Toshiro #toshuro #laios touden #autustic #autism oof situation

[punkeropercyjackson]

'Percy Jackson is just a normal guy in a strange world':Incorrect

'Percy Jackson is a role model for young boys and a female fantasy':Closer but not quite correct

'Percy Jackson is not a gendered character in a meta sense because Percy being a boy has nothing to do with their personality and stories EXCEPT proving themselves as different from other 'male' characters and this is a big reason why they're so easy to read as transfem among the countless ones and so appealing to black women,autistic women and obviously irl trans women and widely beloved by lesbians and aroaces and by making Percy normal,you are fundamentally ruining their character because they were meant to be completely nonconformist just naturally and their rebellious attitude is a result of growing up as a minority in-text by being neurodivergent and poor and fighting against for themself and others like them and this is another fascet of their appeal and why the first take is the most popular one because it comes from hatred of and discomfort towards irl Percys(read:autistic people and feminine trans people)fueled by bigotry so that's the discourse around book!Percy being afrolatino interpretation,the mass harrasment towards Perachel shippers and Rachel fans and both towards Leah for playing Annabeth by white/allistic Pjo fans and the ass kissing towards Luke as the palpable victim of society unlike Percy:CORRECT!!!!!

#percy jackson #percy jackson defense squad #autistic percy jackson #black percy #latino percy #transfem percy jackson #punk!percy #rachel elizabeth dare #annabeth chase #rachel dare defense squad #pro perachel #leah is our annabeth #percabeth #pjo #hoo #tods #perlex #x black!reader #black femme #actuallyautistic #bigotry #💌 #summerposting #anti luke castellan #antilukercy #percy just like me fr #percy just like HOBIE BROWN fr

[wrmbell]

So crazy to me that I went into dunmeshi expecting to not really care about Laios and now he's literally all I think about.

I just genuinely didn't expect him to be personally so relatable. I have a habit where I say my fav characters from pieces of media are "literally me" and they're not, I just like them a lot. But legit I relate to him like TOO HARD. Like it gets to me when he misses social cues and ppl get weirded out because I KNOW THAT EXACT FEELINGGGGUH. And obviously his ginormous monster special interest. This is a very surface level rant I have to go to work so I'm keepin' it breif, but mainly what I'm getting at is thag it makes me gleeful when I'm given characters to resonate with that aren't insanely one-dimensional. Laios' autism I feel like IS the butt of the joke sometimes, but he's still much more than what he's obviously coded to be. (also I should say I just think this is just ten times better than how a LOT of tv shows and movies portray being neurodivergent.) And I just appreciate that :)

Perchance I shouldn't say too much and analyze to much

I SHOULD FINISH THE GOT DANG MANGA FIRST

Adding on that I'm the type of bitch that has a lot to say in his brain but when it comes to typing, I can't articulate what the fuck I'm talking ab. So that's why you're all getting surface- level word vomit <3

tl;dr Laios is autistic and I relate

If this post reaches anyone autistic, how do you feel ab Laios?

#goobersunite #dungeon meshi #dunmeshi #laiosposting #laios touden #autistic

[jeza-red]

That scene between Shuro and Laios hits hard.

Because I can understand perfectly where Laios is coming from...

And yet still, I, an autistic person myself, would punch him in the face just like Shuro did and told him to fuck off.

Which goes to show you that autistic people are not a monolith, and hanging onto a dichotomy of "Laios good-Shuro bad" stands on a false premise that one of them has to be a mean neurotypical and the other a pure neurodivergent baby.

#genuinely i find laios the leadt enjoyable character in the series #while understanding him perfectly #as a character that pushes the plot onwards he's a marvel #but if he was an actual person I'd rather jump out of a window than get in the car with him

[leota-nexus]

[SakuraBot Mode: ACTIVATED]

Crawling outta the rubble to post I think my first selfie on here? I actually exist! Or something!

I was trying on the bodysuit for a WIP cosplay, grabbed the skirt for a laugh, & completely stopped in my tracks because damn now that's a LOOK!! 💮🤖💖

...Alright I've been trying to edit this post down for a couple days because I don't want this to come off like an advertisement but I gotta be a heartfelt sap for a moment. It's my nature, can't help it. 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♀️ Skirt review & personal ramblings under the cut:

Shoutout to @shopwitchvamp seriously. This skirt immediately replaced the cargo pants I've been living in the last few years. The fabric is so lovely & comfortable, the deep pockets are amazing, AND I can temperature-regulate in this crazy unpredictable weather!!! Hell yeah!

My partner got this skirt for me as a birthday gift because it reminds me of the digital sakuras in Night City that I keep using for virtual photoshoots but also in this Hot Topic Hello Kitty kinda way that just speaks to my millenial soul (🖤🎀🖤) I mean, obviously I'm in love with the design but the weight & texture & movement really made it an insta-fave in a very meaningful way for me.

And then I realized this is the first new piece of clothing I've owned since pre-pandemic. My body's changed so much that basically nothing fits. I had one pair of pants left that was at its limit and for years I've wore it like a uniform everytime I went outside with a baggy shirt to cover up. I got this skirt and suddenly I was styling outfits again, like wtf?!

So my partner & I realized how desperately our depressed neurodivergent asses needed:

new clothes that actually fit

with comfortable textures & fun patterns

that are actually functional & made to last

preferably from small businesses we respect

...And now we text each other about WV restocks lmao

The only problem is that because we couldn't afford anything from the Feb preorders, we figured we'd save up & see what came back in stock next month. Except it came in a month early. So LUCKILY we've already been saving up for this because now I'm waiting for my second skirt & partner's first joggers to be delivered today! And then they restocked more yesterday! And then they announced more restocks next week! Oof ouch our wallets but at least today's payday and now we actually have fun comfy clothes that fit to celebrate our 10 year anniversary together in a few months! 💕

Thank you, WitchVamp! We love you! Now if you'll excuse me I need to go sit by the front door like

"C'mon package... Maybe if I just... ~Booweeoop!~ No? Alright, check the tracking number..."

#selfie #witch vamp #feeling like a cyberpunk character catch me in night city lighting incense with misty in the esoterica 🖤 #lol my partner saw this in my drafts & said “alright Peni” so also catch me in a spidermech repairing gadgets & gizmos a-plenty 💮🤖💖

[after-nine-at-the-oasis]

the one time my show's (not mine but yk very small fandom) tag is actually used and it's for ridicule and discourse. now that stuff will be the only stuff you can see :/

#I knew the meme was going around but y'all #breaking news: people can like 'bad' shows!!!! sometimes writers make characters do stupid things!! #SOMETIMES THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE SEEN THE ENTIRE SHOW WITHOUT GOING INTO IT ALREADY HATING IT MIGHT KNOW MORE THAN YOU #I just #guys #no it is not great representation #but a REMINDER that honestly it's better at depicting savant and trauma and how they combine with autism #this is coming from a neurodivergent person #yes the way they do things annoys me sometimes!! #but no one even watches this show so just mind your business #also whether it's good rep or bad you're still being a jerk when you make fun of a meltdown scene #anyway #I don't care if you hate the show or love the show or anything in between #just stop with all of this #if we're watching it we know it's flaws #the good doctor #tgd #not even gonna tag this with my chatter tag because I don't wanna be reminded of it again #if you comment on this no I will not respond #you are not worth my time

[iso-gale]

if i see one more post that’s basically “neurotypicals are mean and evil and hate neurodivergent people and are out to get us!!!” i’m going to SCREAM

i promise u that 99% of the time a neurotypical person communicating in a neurotypical way isn’t to purposely exclude u and laugh at u for not understanding, they’re communicating in the way that is comfortable and natural to them. being a neurotypical person is not an attack on neurodivergent ppl

#this is coming FROM A NEURODIVERGENT PERSON #its such a chronically online take to be like “everything about NTs is meant to exclude and shame NDs #bitch they’re literally people too #people being able to comfortably communicate within our cultural norms doesn’t mean they hate u and want u to die

[ineffectualbookseller]

The way Azirphale is underestimated and practically infantalized by heaven is so closely tied to his femininity and I think we should talk about it more because I just want to shout about how relatable the way he's treated in his workplace is as a woman working in a traditionally male field

It's in all the little niggling comments from your boss about personal things that hold no bearing on your work

and the assumption that what you're doing must be simple if it was assigned to you

your work is trivialized

and you get these the placating smiles when you're told plans and proposals are rejected and passed over

or when your complaints are dismissed

and you get more of the same from upper management

it all feels so frustrating and draining but you're at work so all you can do is take a breathe put on that mask and move on with your day

It is all so deteimental to your emotional well being and textually, so much of this is tied to Aziraphale's softness, his gayness - his femininity

The thing about working in an environment and gives you this feeling - of being simultaneously destrought watching your belief in yourself get chipped away but also just so irate becuase you know you don't deserve it - is how it builds. It sinks under your skin and feeds into this indignant dejection until you can have a moment of release - but Azirphale doesn't get to bitch about it over drinks with friends, he doesn't get a lunch break where he can go for a walk and listen to an angry scandi death metal playlist, he doesn't even get the chance to cry about it in the bathroom for 5 minutes before confronting it again

(And I talked a little bit about it in the tags of this beautiful photoset but this all comes into play whenever Crowley dismisses his plans or calls him an idiot. These are purely emotional reactions; I really don't think Crowley means much by it - he respects Aziraphale's opinion and genuinely thinks he's brilliant - but Crowley is so quick to use this terminology when Aziraphale is making a decision Crowley thinks is wrong and he doesn't know how much this hurts Aziraphale. Just like Aziraphale doesn't understand the true impact the Fall had on Crowley, Crowley doesn't understand the ways heaven has been tearing away at Aziraphale's self worth)

Aziraphale has been facing this constant drip of denigration since before the beginning of time and has never released the pressure valve. At this point, he's a bomb waiting to go off

#(I want to note that I am coming at this from my personal experience as a woman #but I know femme neurodivergent and disabled folks of all genders face these same issues) #along similar lines I have tons of feelings about how often Aziraphale hides his hands when talking to other angels #to hide his stimming #and look I try not to tie everything back to explaning why Aziraphale ended s2 the way he did but apparently I can't #its just the juiciest character moment to me #also thinking about how angry Crowley was at Gabriel when he was treated like this once #granted shut up and die already IS the worst thing Gabriel has said to Aziraphale but if Crowley knew how much of this was going on... #aziraphale #good omens #go2 spoilers #good omens meta #Thanks to folks who responded to my tags on that post because you really motivated me to find these screen caps #and finish this post which has been sitting in my drafts for ages #also sorry so many of gabriels faces are funny I cant help that jon hamm is comedy gold - i refuse to let it undermine my point

[calamitys-child]

My purpose and singular mission in life is to make sure queer and/or neurodivergent kids know that sometimes it really is their parents who are stupid and other adults are on their side. This, unfortunately, does not make me popular with their parents. Gonnae keep doing it though.

#kid was very overwhelmed by the theatre environment and panicking and didnt want to see the show cause it looked scary #and the mum was trying to get me to tell the kid its not scary (no i dont lie to kids i told her there are lots of funny bits but a couple #of maybe scary bits too) #and I told her hey listen the bravest thing you can do is tell people you arent comfortable somewhere. youve done so well to do that #and i gave her a program so she can learn more and make an informed decision if she wants to come another time #and i asked her what her favourite things are and she said science and animals and i told her to try the museum its super fun #and her mum was all 'ugh shes a nightmare she's ~on the spectrum~' #and i went yeah me too. and told the kid this isnt for everyone and she did well to tell me and i hope she likes the museum #and like. her mum yelling at her was making everything worse. talking to her like a person with agency? #got her from full panic attack to actively smiling at me in under 5 minutes #sometimes your parents or guardians are in fact being stupid or rude! neurodivergent adults exist! other people see you and hear what you're #saying and won't be mad! #anyway. now IM very overwhelmed but i really hope that kid remembers this and i hope she has a great day #im going to get a coffee and sit under a tree for a while

[silvermoon424]

Winning over the people (my coworkers during this work retreat) with my dry autistic deadpan and unintentionally funny mannerisms

#I do try to be funny on purpose but usually the biggest laughs come from me being autistic af which I guess neurotypicals find funny lol #personal #actually autistic #actually audhd #neurodivergent

[positivelyadhd]

Reminder that neurodivergent is not just having ADHD and/or autism.

It's anything that impacts the way a person thinks and experiences the world.

When we talk about neurodiversity, we are talking about anyone that identifies with that umbrella. Our experiences as neurodiverse people are unique, not just because there are many different sets of symptoms that fall under the "neurodiverse" umbrella, but because we are all unique and experience the world and societal reactions to our neurodiversity differently.

If you are neurodivergent in any way I hope you know that you are welcome in neurodivergent spaces and that your voice is so important. And that this post is for everyone but especially the people who feel like their experiences go unheard. you are just as valued in these spaces as anyone else and I encourage you to speak up if you would like to!

#right im off my meds so im not 100% sure if this makes sense or comes across in the way I want but i hope it does #i know that adhd/autism are kinda the neurodiverse 'buzzwords' atm #but every neurodiverse person is welcome here and when I speak about neurodiversity im including everyone #i can only speak from my experinces of adhd/dyslexia but even the dyslexia part i feel gets ignored sometimes! #neurodivergent positivity #self acceptance

[bipunkharrington]

There's something that infuriates me so much about people mocking characters that fall into the "not like other girls" trap, because the reasons girls take on that stance is because they exist in a society that tries to put womanhood and femininity in a restrictive box that tells them who and how they should be.

They're generally mocked and derided for not wishing to conform to stereotypical femininity, but when they lash out in entirely predictable but ultimately unhelpful ways (by being dismissive and rude about other women and femininity in general) instead of understanding that it's a product of growing up in a society that's restricting them and punishing them for not conforming (either by choice or inability) so many people who claim to be feminists choose to mock them or make them out to be the cause of the problem rather than a symptom. Whether its being mocked in real life, or watching people deride the fictional characters they relate to, this behaviour just alienates those girls even further into thinking that the issue is other women, and confirms their belief that women who are typically feminine will only ever be derisive toward them and that they're somehow fundamentally different from other women.

If you know someone who thinks along those "I'm not like other girls" lines instead of mocking them try directing them towards resources that can help them understand where that harmful rhetoric comes from, and when you're critiquing characters that fit that mold try to consider why they behave that way, and what girls who see themselves in those characters take from your commentary.

#idk this became a word salad #something something consider how many not like other girls girls are queer and/or neurodivergent #im not telling people to not be critical of that outlook but also helping people understand why its wrong is so much more powerful #than just mocking girls that are responding with (most often) age-appropriate immaturity to a society that's telling them they dont fit #eloise bridgerton #arya stark #there's so many other characters but my mind is just gripping onto these two #btw this ramble comes from a trans neurodivergent person who is a former “im not like other girls” non-girl #i came to the realisation that that outlook came from a misogynistic place in my own time #but watching any female character i related to growing up getting mocked for the same reasons i was bullied #read: not being feminine enough and/or not being neurotypical enough #slowed that process down a lot #it was difficult to understand that society was the issue and not other women #when so many women were mocking me

[writterings]

procastinating at work but here's my philosophy for today: it's okay to hate a behavior in someone else but also understand that this behavior does not make them a bad person. like i HATE when i'm venting or talking about a serious problem i have and then the person i'm talking to starts trying to relate by talking about a similar experience they've had. like absolutely hate it. make me feel like the focus is being taken off me and it genuinely is in some ways, regardless of your intent. yeah, i understand that's your way of trying to comfort me -- but that's not the way i need or want to be comforted, and that's what matters in a situation where i'm coming to you to be helped.

and that's okay! like. no one is in the wrong here unless i have explicitly asked you to support me in a different way and you're intentionally refusing, or if i lash out at you when i could just disengage. it just means you're not a person i should go to for help when talking about my problems. we can still be friends, you and i can probably support each other in different ways, but we're just incompatible in this regard. and that's like....okay. it's okay to be incompatible with people.

#i need to stop going on instagram sooooo many hot takes on there piss me the fuck off #ok going on a rant here but like. #soooo many 'neurodivergent' posters on there are like 'neurotypicals suck bc they dont realize im being comforting when i talk abt myself #when they're upset!!!' and its like my friend i can understand your plight but like #1. this is an easily changable behavior #that tbh does not require much change on your part aside from just like. not talking. #2. the so-called neurotypicals in ur life are allowed to have boundaries and accomodations to their needs and ur currently not doing that #3. not every neurodivergent person does that. and some also hate it like the so called neurotypicals. #4. why are you prioritizing your emotions when a loved one comes to you for help or comfort. are u just a dick. #this has nothing to do with you being neurodivergent i think you're just self centered lol #like genuinely if you do this you are not a bad person. it's not a bad thing. i thinnk im just mad at the people who insist #that it's the only way they can ever try to comfort someone and they act like asking them to change this behavior is ableist #and if they genuinely can't change this behavior then fine!! like they i wont go to you with my problems #and that's also fine #but yeah anyways these tags are so different from the message of the post lol but anyways just needed to rant