#we're now doing our crying about fictional women thing over there!

[arcielee]

I hope you're doing fine amidst all this drama. It's no surprise that my intuitions were proven right once again, and here we have Ange, crying on her blog about being doxxed while conveniently ignoring her own complicity in Bel’s racism. It's sickening that some people still support her behaviour. However I wanted to bring up this post:

https://www.tumblr.com/arcielee/748496384896958464/hey-everyone-i-know-its-been-a-dark-time-in-the?source=share

Weren't you also doxxed in Ange and Em’s groupchat? And now they only come to you when the dust settles after their mess with Bel. I'm tired of these women always playing the victim and never taking responsibility for their actions. We're all over it!

Hey anon. You are referring to this post that I made. I thought it best to respond to this before we return to some much needed healing and hydrating.

I mentioned that I was not going to speak on the subject again, but more information has come to light and there is something that has been weighing on me.

As I posted before, I found out that I had been doxxed. This was something that happened in the same groupchat that included Bel, Fae, Ange, and Em where screenshots had been shared. I learned about this prior to the post when Em reached out to me through a mutual we shared. She was very remorseful and apologetic for what happened, and she provided me with the unedited versions I needed so I could handle this at my local police department.

Doxxing is frightening. When I returned to Tumblr back in 2022, I enjoyed the anonymity of it all, how I was able to blatantly be some dork who swooned over silver haired fictional characters with my kindred spirits. Seeing myself tagged in the post mentioned above, seeing those original screenshots with my legal name and my private, personal IG on display rattled me to my core.

In this chat I learned that not only had I been doxxed, but it was also mentioned about the animosity that stemmed from lies being shared without being validated. The TL;DR of the situation is that Bel and I shared a small server together. I was warned about her behavior by Ange and others, but at the time Bel had been nothing but kind to me, so I ignored it. Then Bel left our server and went to Ange and Em with some false narrative about me and some others. Despite how I was warned me in the beginning, she accepted what was said without thought. This resulted in me being blacklisted and harassed within the HotD fandom.

This was and continues to be an ugly ordeal. We are finally seeing that worst things happened in that same chat, which is why I was wary to even bring this up again.

But I do feel I should remind everyone that doxxing is the act of providing personally identifiable information about an individual or organization, usually via the Internet and without their consent. [x]

And this is what happened to me.

I did not want to do a super detailed post about it; I understand the insanity of it all since we literally came to this hellsite for a show about some incestual family that rides dragons. But the only way for us as a fandom to move on is to acknowledge what happened and those who were affected by it before we can move forward to create a safer environment for everyone who is a part of it.

I truly believe that we can and will do better. 💜

#hotd fandom #just a reminder #to stay safe and keep yourselves protected

[la-pheacienne]

I find the women as victims so fascinating, it’s definitely not only a Got or Hotd issue, I read an essay in college(I hope to have a link) about this topic, it was something like giving the misogyny in our society men writers and general audience have problems to write or identify with female characters unless they make them suffer or being abused so then they can give them power and agency as a prize,that was the gist of the essay, and I think that’s exactly the problem with Sansa,Alicent,etc they had to make Alicent an abused bride child so them and the audience can sympathized with her when she wanted to gain some power at Rhaenyra’s wedding for example.

I also find this topic fascinating and the entire discourse over House of the Dragon really got me thinking hard on this.

Women as victims is a very fine line. Generally, as a whole, me personally, I really really dislike watching sexual violence in cinema or television. I don't like it, period. I think it is mainly torture porn and there are very few instances when I don't consider it one. That's why I had such a big problem with the Handmaid's Tale and I never watched it, for that very reason : seeing women in such horrendous circumstances being raped and beaten and victimised continuously in order to provoke feelings of horror and disgust to the audience is not my thing. It is not nuanced at all, and I hate that. I don't see anything empowering in that. I don't feel more feminist, I just feel broken. But ok that's the topic of the Handmaid's Tale, it's not for everyone.

Now let's go to more controversial adaptations. Alicent and Sansa are two women who weren't raped in the books. In the show they were. I don't understand why people like that, and what is so exceptionally feminist in drowning in despair at the thought of it. All these tumblrinas that are obsessed with Alicent wouldn't be so obsessed if she wasn't a ChiLD BriDe (she wasn't) and maritally raped by a reaaaally old Viserys with a rotting body. But being a victim of sexual abuse is not a personality trait. That's my problem here. This is not real life. This is fiction. In fiction, a character needs to have a purpose and an impact in the storyline and they should be judged for that impact. If a character is reduced to being a victim, they have no impact anymore. I don't care about them, respectfully. The writers really reduced Alicent to being a child bride and a rape victim, and now any chance of assessing her character and her choices is gone. She's a victim, plain and simple. How can you talk about a victim? How can you judge a victim? How can you think critically about a victim? You can't. The only thing you can do is cry at the thought of her being victimised and scream at everyone who tries to attack her, which is essentially what her stans do. This is very, very, VERY bad media. This is not nuance, this is the opposite. Since the very moment you present one woman as a victim and nothing more, she's not a person anymore. She has lost the quality of a person (in the philosophical sense), she's just an abused woman ( I repeat that this is not real life, we're talking about fictional characters here).

It's the very opposite of a female-centric narrative. It actually annihilates women by reducing them to their victimised womanhood. Dany was sexually assaulted too, but that's not the focus of her story. Nobody likes Dany because she was sexually assaulted. Being a woman or a rape victim is not a personality trait. Women are people, not symbols of martyrdom.

I do believe the choice of making Alicent and Sansa rape victims in the show is a misogynistic choice for the fact that it debases the characters, and ends all possible debate on a character's actual personality and choices, which is the very reason why I'm watching this medium, to see characters act and make choices. (Again I don't believe real life rape victims are debased, or have no value, people, I am talking about fiction here). Especially in Alicent's case the consequences are very damaging : the big antagonist of the show being reduced to a rape victim, the protagonist of the show who wasn't a rape victim suddenly doesn't feel very justified in what she wants. She's spoiled, she's entitled, she's a whore. Why?

'Cause this one wasn't raped.

Imagine the implications of that thesis. Do I need to spell them out? Don't we see them everyday in the tags? Alicent didn't choose this, she was raped, she was forced. Rhaenyra chose to have sex that wasn't allowed. She deserves to die. She is judged for simply having a personality. She is judged for being a real character instead of a moving hologram for Tumblrinas wallowing in self pity. How can you win this argument? There is no argument to be made here. One was raped, the other wasn't, so the one who was raped is in the right. The other can burn in hell because she wasn't raped so she's a self serving whore.

That's a really really nice female-centric and feminist narrative. Congratulations to the whole team.

#hotd #house of the dragon #anonymous #rhaenyra targaryen #fire and blood #feminist #misogyny #tw rape

[hornyfanfictionresearch]

The Many Faces of Hot Gay Sex

All right, horny readers, let's grab the hard, veiny third rail of fan fiction smut: hot man on man action and the women who love it. Many find this topic uncomfortable, and this take will not sit right with a lot of people for various reasons. That's okay. This is about free hot dumb trash on the internet, and if you need to lose your shit, better over this than something important. Just know that I'm a bisexual man speaking from and to my own experiences. Now, then.

The vast majority of fan fiction smut readers and writers are women. The vast majority of fan fiction smut is MM. These are just facts; there's nothing good or bad about either. To the extent that this is controversial, fans argue over the inherent appropriation in what we might term Female Gaze MM. You, who lack a penis, are reading about penises, how dare. Or you are policing Free Sexy Speech, how dare. Yaoi is racist, and so is saying yaoi is racist, and so forth, and so on, and now we need to call a quick timeout for two updates from me, a man:

The Terminally Online nonsense I just summarized is all, 100 percent of it, women yelling at other women about men, update as you wish for fluidity.

Men, update as you wish for fluidity, do not care even one little bit about any of it.

There, I ripped off the bandage. Folks, queer men have an app to send each other dick pics in negotiation to anonymously suck each other off. You think any of us cares about the broader emotional implications of Bucky and Steve crying on each other's shoulders and gently fucking each other up the ass? Honestly, ask one of us; you will quickly learn that is all gibberish to us, because men do not interact with sex in the same way as women, which are also just value neutral facts.

Female arousal requires framing in a way male arousal does not. When women (I stress, a comprehensive time for this take, updating as you wish for fluidity) engage with sex, they need a buy-in for why they should. Men do not strictly need it, though most of us want some form of it. So when men show up to read smut, we are not primarily checking into the legitimacy of the hotness (or, in the case of dark smut, a glaring neon sign shouting THIS IS NOT OKAY, which is basically the same thing to female readers). We are looking for visual and tactile fantasy; the rest is a bonus. So in the case of smut, overwhelmingly female readers suddenly notice other overwhelmingly female readers with different arousal framing, feel discomfort, and yell at those women theoretically on behalf of maligned men, who I promise you if we ever notice will either shrug and move on, or read the smut and jerk off if we're into it.

And I emphasize: this process is really silly, yes, but a stadium full of kids under 25 is going to be really silly no matter what. Again, better to be a ridiculous mess with fan fiction smut than the alternative. And the fact is there are some identifiable impulses within the fandoms, and I, a bisexual man, am now going to mansplain men in sexy fan fiction:

Men are hot. This one is easiest. A whole lot of women find men hot. When one is attracted to a gender, there is a really strong chance one is also attracted to multiples of the same gender. It is just how attraction works. So yes, many women attracted to men are also wildly attracted to men fucking each other, because watching hot people fuck in new ways is awesome.

There is an obvious comparison to this perspective with men who find lesbian or "lesbian" porn hot. It works, if you keep in mind that women are not turned on in exactly the same way as men and there's some steps each take the other doesn't. But more to the point, there is not a glut of fake lesbian porn: it's under five percent of commercial titles on PornHub and there's been an explosion in woman-centered porn including lesbian porn. That's just capitalism catching up with society. And that problem, such as it is, does not apply to Female Gaze MM, because men have an obvious visual cue for our orgasms. There are other meta-implications you can think about, but no one is going to die if you don't, and no one will thank you if you do.

Another aspect of this that gets lost in argument is that there is an actual audience of men who are extremely here for women being into MM. That's right: bisexual men are often deliriously happy to see or read about our attraction to men being validated by a woman being into it. It's fucking hot! Ask one of us. So besides the fact that queer men do not need or want to be "rescued" from the hungry gazes of women, a bunch of us actively want it. Knock yourself out: I like women being into MM just fine. And just so you know, this is the biggest group of women (37 percent) who read MM smut, according to my surveys. You're in good company, and the men like it.

How do you write to this gaze? You write hot gay sex, that's what you do! The thing is you can write a masculine POV as someone with feminine framing and stage based arousal. That's fine! Now toss in some visual and tactile description and do that while writing how fucking awesome it is that rigid lubed cock is gently sliding into that supple asshole and you have a deal, for men, for women who fuck men, for anyone who loves men fucking. You can't miss. 

I'm scared of my body. About 29 percent of women reading MM slash say they do it to access their sexuality without worrying about gender. This group includes lesbians who read MM. I'm summarizing and to a degree oversimplifying here, but this particular group avoids and dislikes, specifically, women being touched in smut, even by other women or themselves. If you lay out their responses for MM versus MF, they like vaginal sex less than the general survey pool, but MM anal sex more. Other activity responses show very similar "analog" transfer. Their verbatim, when offered, confirm this: they do not want to think about the female body, to the point that they prefer writing that simply states "she came" as opposed to describing any part of it. They basically want to imagine being a man to avoid having to think about how they themselves come. 

If this is problematic and unpleasant to read, think of how I feel writing it. I do not personally write to this group's gaze, and do not read or like MM written in this style. This is a subset of the Fear Reader, in which the primary desire is for insulation from sexual sensation. This gaze is pretty simple to write to: include emotional discomfort and pretend one of the men is a woman. Treat his ass like a vagina, knock yourself out; your reader is showing up to imagine exactly that, so you may as well give them what they want. 

You really can't miss for the discomfort either. There is no point in glossing over that readers will stampede into your comments to tell you how fucking hot gay male self-loathing is. You do not have to look hard to find a self-identified gay he/him who will check your ownvoice validation box on that one, and I'm not going to argue with it. It's also not hard to figure out the voice, just make sure the characters hate themselves for having sex as much as you do for writing it and you've closed the deal.

I’m curious. About 28 percent of women who read MM report they have no opinion on MM and read it for emotional dynamics. Yes, women read and watch porn out of curiosity too, just like every man who has done the same. And of course reading smut out of curiosity is okay! Part of discovering I’m bisexual came from curiously watching bi porn. It’s great, go for it, no one needs to give you permission but if this helps you get over yourself, you’re welcome.

This group, shockingly, is not super into the actual sex. They are not at all here for blowjobs compared to gen pop (-13 percentage points), and boy are they not into anal either (-22). From the point of view of me, a man 100% here for blowjobs and anal 100% of the time, sure, that looks silly. But come on, from the point of view of someone who is just kind of curious and isn’t sure if they’re into it? Of course that reader is more ambivalent about the sex and unsure if they’ll like it. That is okay. But the thing is this group is pretty much impossible to please relative to the others. They like everything less. Of everything, they dislike emotional dynamics less the least, but I’m not going to guess at how to do less of everything in smut; that’s not how this page works.

Do it to men. Listen up: I, a bisexual man, am a survivor of rape from a previous marriage to a woman. That’s the level of knowledge I’m bringing to this, and if you have an issue with it that is completely okay, and I also do not care in the slightest. So let’s talk about it.

Yeah, a very small but nonzero percentage of women (about six percent) show up to fan fiction smut to read about things done to men they don’t want to see done to other genders. And I cannot say no men say this, but I can say the single male response that did said the same thing about women. This group is wildly overrepresented in fandom, partially because it over-produces content on AO3, partially because scandal sells, partially because negative engagement is viral.

The thing is, for all of the breathless debate over “dark smut,” people don’t like it at all. Dubious Consent always falls flat in my surveys (for ethical reasons I’ve never tested non-con); a small number love it but the vast majority say, basically, what, ew no! I’m not sure how it’s a revelation that most people don’t like to think about sexual coercion while masturbating in the foul common year of 2022, but here we are.

The other thing about this gaze is that it creeps into all the others. I say this as a survivor of 14 years of domestic violence and rape: yes, it’s socially acceptable to lash out at, hurt and manipulate men in an ostensibly liberal environment. I face it every day. It absolutely sucks for me that it’s basically always okay to show up for a “hot” bleeding man that is maybe not quite sexy, and maybe he’s just hurt, and that’s what you’re really there for, and the best part is people like me can never really call you out on it. That does sting when I think on it! That is also because I’m a survivor. I do not get to show up and demand hundreds of thousands of people knock all their weird problematic shit off because I lived in a worst case scenario.

All I can personally say is that due to my experiences it is personally painful to me. It is overrepresented, but also a bit more widespread than fans are generally prepared to think about and/or discuss. And yeah that’s a point of discomfort to me, but it is not even in the top 50 on a very long list. If reading this interests or concerns you, by all means think on it. But if voices like mine mattered, I wouldn’t have survived what I did to begin with, and that’s just my problem in the end.

In summary, I will gladly hit post declaring I, a middle aged bi male survivor, feel like about 65 percent of women reading MM are cool (ie into it or curious), and 35 percent are yikes (ie too weird about it or actually sadistic). But that's just me, and even before the qualifiers of my sexuality and history I'm already in a tiny fraction of fan smut. My take on that basically only matters to me. But whatever your take on the above, it works. I've seen it happen.

#ao3 fanfic #fanfiction #fanfic #fan fiction #eroticromance #lgbtq #writing #smut #pwp

[informaticn]

alright,   the new blog is all set up,   which effectively makes this one an archive   ——   you can now find nat   &   i over at @SHESPY for the same old bullshit in a slightly new-looking package.

#i'll reblog & pin the new promo over here sometime later but! #we're now doing our crying about fictional women thing over there! #see you guys on the flip side most likely #* ooc. / shitposting from marble's basement.

[watermelonlovershigh]

Bisexual Harry (MILD SMUT w/ MOSTLY FLUFF)

ATTENTION- THIS IS STRICKLY FICTIONAL (NOT REAL). I'M FULLY AWARE THAT HARRY HAS NOT CAME OUT AS BISEXUAL AND WANTS TO BE UNLABLED. I ENJOY BI HARRY FANFICS BUT THERE ARE NOT MANY OUT THERE SO I DECIDED TO WRITE ONE. ALSO THE TRAITS I WILL BE CONCIDERING AS BISEXUAL TRAITS ARE FULLY DEPENDENT ON THE INDIVIDUAL. I HATE STEREOTYPING. JUST KEEP IN MIND THAT JUST BECAUSE HARRY DOES THESE THINGS IN THIS STORY THAT IT DOESN'T MAKE SOMEONE BISEXUAL OR EVEN GAY. LASTLY I'D LIKE TO SAY THAT I'M NOT BISEXUAL MYSELF BUT THE IDEA OF BEING WITH A MAN WHO IS, IS A TURN ON. NOT IN A FETISH TYPE WAY. JUST THE VULNERABILITY AND OPENNESS OF ENJOYING EITHER WOMEN OR MEN IS INCREADIBE TO ME. THANK YOU AND I HOPE YOU ENJOY.

Harry told me early on into our relationship that he was bisexual. He was so nervous that I would leave him, but it just made me fall more in love with him. He told me late one night about 6 months into dating, on his couch. The second he told me, Harry broke down into real raw tears. The first time I'd seen Harry actually cry. Yeah I'd seen him cry during sappy movies but this was so much more than that. These tears had fear in them. Fear that I would leave him. They had vulnerability in them for being so open. But also a weight was lifted off his chest, just happy to tell me. I held Harry in my arms and cried with him, telling him how much I loved him and that this doesn't change anything. That I loved him just as much.

Only a few people in Harrys life knew he was bisexual. His close family. His close friends. That was it. If it got out in the media, the internet would have gone wild. Of course there were many rumors about his sexuality. Most of them being that he's gay. For the longest time he actually thought he might be gay. He had a lot of 'gay tendencies': painted nails, feminine clothes, pearl necklaces. But he also had very 'mainly tendencies' like watching football and drinking beer with the lads. Harry was just so conflicted all his life. Not knowing what he was. That's until the age of 18. One of his school friends came out as bisexual and that's when it clicked for him. He liked both male and females and he was okay with that. He excepted that part of him. He was more worried about what others would say or think. His family was very supportive. His friends were too. They never treated Harry differently knowing that they were straight and he was sexually attracted to them. Well not so much them specifically because they were more like brothers, but the male species as a whole.

Being in sexual relationships were on a new level of fear for Harry. Fear that when he was having sex with a guy, that the guy would try and convince him he's actually just gay. Or the fear that any women he had sex with would say he wasn't manly enough for them. Needless to say, Harry kept his sexuality a secret from most of his one night stands or short term relationships. He just didn't feel the need to tell them unless they asked specifically if he was bi or not.

Me and Harry meet at a local club in London a few years back. He was with his bandmates at the time. I was by myself because my boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me. I was devastated and needed to escape reality. That meant drink until my body went numb. Unfortunately for me though, I wasn't that much of a drinker so my body rejected the alcohol pretty fast. I stumbled onto the London streets trying to get fresh air but ended up puking my guts out in a near by bin. Harry just so happened to be outside at that moment and saw the whole thing before his eyes. He rushed over to me and pulled my hair back to prevent more vomit from getting in it. Then he asked if I was alright and who I was with. I told him I came there alone so he insisted I come back to his place. Because my brain was fuzzy from the alcohol, I didn't hesitate one bit. Harry set up his guest room for me and helped me to bed that night. Something I'm forever grateful for. If it wasn't for him, I could've been kidnapped and raped by a stranger on the streets. When I woke up the next day, I realized who's house I was in. All of the music awards on the shelf in the room I stayed in gave it away. I was never a big fan of One Direction, no reason in particular, so I didn't act like a fangirl would have. Before I left his house, he gave me his number to call if I ever needed someone to talk to. Considering he was an international popstar and all, he sure was the most genuine person I'd ever meet. Taking care of a complete stranger and even giving them his phone number. I never thought I'd actually call him though. Or even see him again, but about a week later, I ran into him at a local coffee shop and we started talking form there. The rest was history.

We hung out all the time. He invited me to a few One Direction concerts. Even had sex a few times. Amazing sex I might add. It truly was great. Even though at the time, I had to remain secret from the public. More so said by Harry then his management. Mainly to keep me safe and out of the media knowing how private I liked to be. Three months of seeing each other and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was thrilled. Then six months into our relationship, Harry realized how serious our relationship was becoming. That we both had strong feeling for each other. So that's when Harry decided to tell me he was bisexual. On his couch. Late one night. He wanted to get it out of the way so he didn't have to hide that part of himself with me. So he could be himself around me. If I excepted him that was and of course I did.

Approximately two years after dating, Harry purposed. He was basically shitting bricks the whole time, but he did it. I didn't hesitate one second before I said yes. We were in love. At this point, the media had found me and Harry out. Most of his fans adored me. Some said our relationship was fake. And others just flat out said I was keeping Harry closeted, not allowing him to be gay. But I knew the truth. I knew he was bisexual, not gay. I never doubted his sexuality one bit. Especially how he devoured my body when we made love. Any gay person would probably gag at the sight of a women's pussy. Not Harry. It was his favorite part of my body. A year after Harry filmed the movie Dunkirk (2017), we got married. It was a small wedding. Just close family and friends invited. It was perfect.

Now here we are in the current year of 2021 and we're still going strong. A few fights here and there, but because both Harry and I have too big of hearts, we always feel bad after fighting and immediately apologize to one another. The media had tried to split us up multiple times but it's never been successful. Our love for each other is too strong and everlasting.

Just because Harry is in a happy, loving heterosexual relationship, doesn't mean he feels completely secure about his sexuality all the time. In the beginning of our relationship, Harry tried to completely throw away any 'bisexual' tendencies he had even though he knew I supported him. For instance, there was many times Harry wanted to paint his nails but didn't. Or would refrain from gushing over sexy guys in movies we watched together. That's when I noticed he was becoming depressed. He stopped writing music. He would disengage in activities we tried to do together. Even pushed me away when I tried to have sex with him. I felt hopeless. Until one morning I asked him what was wrong, and he spilled everything. How he tries so hard to suppress the bisexual side of his character for me. For our relationship. Harry explained that he had the desire to paint his nails vibrant colors and wanted to wear feminine clothes sometimes. Something that was particularly hard for Harry to confess to me was how he even wanted to try anal. On me or me with a strap on fucking him. Right away I made us an appointment to get our nails done at a salon. Then I told him he could wear a trash bag and he'd still be the most beautiful mainly man I'd ever seen. Lastly, I grabbed my laptop and went online shopping for female strap ons, letting Harry pick the girth and size he wanted. Yes I was a little nervous to actually fuck him, but he assured me he would help me out every step of the way. As for anal on me, I mentioned how I would be nervous but how I also trusted him. Trusted him enough to penetrate me anally. That I knew he would be extra careful with me.

Needless to say, I made Harry more confident. Confident in his sexuality. I got him to come out as bisexual to the public. I let him explore his bisexuality in the bedroom. Though of course he still worshiped my pussy. We had weekly appointments to get our nails painted. Harry even wore a dress out to a date night one night. He was super scared and on edge the whole night but I kept whispering in his ear how I couldn't wait to rip that dress off of him and fuck him in the ass until he cried out of pleasure.

I honestly loved that Harry was bisexual. It was almost like a turn on for me. He was both a gym buff and my little princess. He had thick arm muscles and toned abs, as well as pink nails and pearl necklaces. Anytime he mentioned how hot a guy on tv was, we could gush over him together. Or how sensitive and vulnerable he was at times. A lot of guys hold in their emotions, thinking men can't express their feelings, but not Harry. If he felt the need to cry, he would. Right in front of me. It could be triggered by a sad movie or a animal abuse commercial. Also, on the rare occasions he asks for it, I would fuck him with the strap on in his mouth. Though a rubber penis didn't quite taste like the real thing, salty mixed with sweat, he loved to deepthroat it anyways. Watching him choke and gag around the fake penis made my pussy drip. We even bought a strap on dildo that had a vibrator on the back side of it. That way every time the fake cock would enter his mouth, the vibrator would stimulate me clit, giving me pleasure as well.

No matter how much the media tried to convince Harry he was in fact gay and didn't actually like women, he would ignore the rude comments and prove to me everyday that he in fact loved me. Me as a women. Loved my smile. Loved me eyes. Loved the way my boobs bounced while having sex. Often grabbing them in his hands and stimulating my nipples. Loved the way my tight pussy felt around his dick. Or the way my sweet juices tasted on his tongue when he ate me out. Yes he loved dick. Yes he loved balls. Yes he loved being railed to death from behind. But he also liked vagina and he loved boobs. Harry wanted to make love to me and get me pregnant. Watch my stomach grow. Be there to hold my hand when I deliver the baby. Help change diapers at 3 am when I'm to tired to do so. Teach our kids to love and respect everyone and be themselves. Be open to our kids about his sexuality. Give them knowledge on bisexuality and educate them on the matter. Instead of assuming they are straight by asking his future son if he has a girlfriend yet or asking his daughter if she has a boyfriend, Harry will ask if the have a partner or fancy anyone in particular. Love his children for who they are or who they want to become. Be a role model for them. And live happily ever after with me, his supportive wife, by his side.

MASTERLIST

#bisexual #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #bi #biharry #biharrystyles #bifanfiction #smut #fluff #love #married #harrystyles #harry #onedirection #1D #1d #husband #wife

[fixing-bad-comic-art]

You said you dont know much about comics, but you do know about anatomy, so i am curious what else you know about. What are your hobbies, what do you like to read/consume (as in media lol)? If its too private ofc u dont have to answer, i am just curious about the person behind the blog! (Also, is there a nickname we could give you, like fibacoa?)

Fibacoa is Very Good. but i did have to google it because i have one brain cell and couldnt figure out where you got it from... lmao i got it now. Fibacoa is good, other places on the web folk call me zaz or zazzy, but my human flash name is Zachariah, and yall are welcome to call me that too. or just Zach! and since we're on the topic of proper nouns ill just add pronouns to the bunch, i mostly use he/him but tbh any work.

In terms of media, im pretty notorious for having no grasp on pop culture. I like educational stuff, and not paying for things. So i mostly watch channels i can learn from on youtube.

Bernadette Banner makes these beautiful historical dresses using the techniques of the time period, i Adore her videos and i could listen to this woman read a phone book. her videos are extremely detailed as she shows all the steps she takes and all the mistakes she makes while working on her projects. she also does videos on things like the history of ppe, Costume College, historical corsetry, and one of my favorite videos is the one where she buys a knock off version of the dress She Made and just tears into it.

Mumbo Jumbo and Grian are both fairly popular minecraft youtubers and i love watching them work on these Massive projects on the server they play on

D'Angelo Wallace does like gossip? videos i dont know what to call them, but theyre informative and i like his whole attitude and how he presents the topics hes covering.

i need to stop listing youtubers adafakll, this list was about 5 entries longer before i realized thats Too Long ajklaj. I have a lot of love in my heart for a bunch of different youtubers.

other than that my favorite media is undeniably fan fiction, usually of properties i know nothing about. I like trying to piece together the source material from what bits can be learned from the fans writing. and i like the complete lack of exposition. Fanfic assumes you already know the characters and setting so it spends no time trying to hand hold and just gets to the meat. and its just Very Nice.

my top picks are

The Descriptavists Approach, which is a critical roll fanfic about molly and caleb and its just Nice.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/14854460/chapters/34387928

Friendly Competition, also cr, but Caduceus is there to now and hes Very Cute, the fic is about caleb accidentally falling in love with both molly and cad at the same time and trying to figure it out. it has three different endings, and they all make me Cry, the first two from sadness the third from happiness.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/17634050/chapters/41579228

and Finally Jouney to the West. a breath of the wild fanfic with my favorite depiction of Link in any fic. hes a feral little pun man who loves the noble shark man, what more could you ask for? https://archiveofourown.org/works/13548447/chapters/31290981#workskin

hobbies wise... Thats A Long List. im a zach of all trades and i tend to bounce around different hobbies a Lot. to the point that if you can name it, and its not metal working, glass work, or skydiving, ive probably done it at least once. but right now the general fiber arts category has taken over my life, primarily spinning. i Adore it. and i adore my 6 spinning wheels only four of whom function and only 2 i paid full price for. (fun story: i got my second wheel as a gift because one of the women in my spinning group deemed my first wheel too dangerous.) Most of my time is being spent spinning rn because i have to get Christmas presents done for 10 people before december and i need something done for early September for my fathers bday. my family has a tradition of not buying the adults anything, so every gift has to be hand made. which is also why i haven't been very active, i got Shit to Finish.

I also adore d&d! and play it a lot. but i was assigned dm at birth so ive never been a player character and ive played... like 15 campaigns?

#who would name their kid Zachariah? not my parents #i changed my middle name when i was like 17 because i just Hated my birth name so much #Zachariah is a silly dramatic name #but i had to match the drama levels of my first name. which i have not changed #anyways my mom isnt white but Dammit if she didnt choose a White name for me #my dad picked my first name #Oh what are you named after? #a sign he saw while on a train