#wedding etiquette

[thebridalstylist]

What a bride SHOULD wear

Today, I had a really lovely woman come in. She was a plus size widow who was getting remarried at about age 50, and was a complete ball of nerves about what she SHOULD be wearing given all that. She came in asking if it was okay that she wear certain silhouettes or details or colors, like "But am I allowed to wear sequins at my age/size/2nd wedding?" There was so much "am I allowed?", and it broke my heart.

I used to be a wedding and event planner as well, and I think it's important that everyone hear what I told that bride. I'm a professional at this, so if you want to take one thing as law, make it this one.

I want you to take every idea you have about what a bride should be allowed to wear at your age/size/situation... And then I want you to set all those ideas on fire and dropkick 'em a mile away.

There are only two rules to what you're "allowed" to wear as a bride: one, that you feel comfortable, and two, that you feel beautiful. That's it. If you're an 86 year old bride who wants a purple see-through mini dress with a V down to your bellybutton with 15 layers of poof under the skirt and crystal pasties where your nipples are, girl... Go for it. I will bust my ass to make it happen.

Anyone who says anything different can take a long walk off a short pier. It's about you, and only you. All that matters is that YOU'RE happy.

(And by the way. that bride found a dress she loved so much she happy-cried.)

#wedding planning #wedding gown #wedding dress #wedding etiquette #FUCK THOSE SPECIFIC RULES

[merrybrides]

7 Things NOT to Do as the Mother of the Groom

Your son is getting married, congrats! Being the mother of the groom is an amazing experience, but knowing exactly what your mother of the groom duties are and navigating the dos and don’ts can be a little tricky. Avoid the following faux pas and you’re sure to rock it as the MOG!

Here are the seven things a mother of the groom should never do.

Wear white

Same goes for ivory, cream, or any other light neutral. The mother of the groom donning one of these hues is a surefire way to make the bride (and guests) feel awkward.

Dress like a bridesmaid

Find out what the bridesmaids will be wearing and opt for a dress in a different color and silhouette. Coordinating is great, but blending in completely? Not so much.

Overly criticize

Your son and his fiance may choose to do something differently than you would have done it, and that’s OK. They really need your love and support during the planning process, so reserve judgment and resist the urge to make passive-aggressive comments or push your own expectations on them.

Insist on upping the guest list

Traditionally, the bride’s family and groom’s family are each allotted a certain number of guests to invite. It can be hard to narrow the guest list down, particularly with a more intimate wedding, but that doesn’t mean the mother of the groom should consider her designated portion up for negotiation. Just remember that the bride’s family is whittling their list down, too.

Skip the bridal shower

Showing up to celebrate your future daughter-in-law will likely mean more to her than you might think. If you really can’t make it to the bridal shower, a gift and a heartfelt card from the mother of the groom is the way to go.

Make empty offers

The bride and groom will undoubtedly appreciate the mother of the groom's help on even small tasks, but don’t offer unless you mean it. Volunteer to lend a hand with a few specific things you know you can follow through with.

Upstage with the rehearsal dinner

Planning a nice rehearsal dinner is a generous gesture, but don’t go so overboard that it’s actually nicer than the wedding itself. Keep the budget, venue, details, and overall tone of the big day in mind and throw a simpler, more laid-back affair.

#mother in law #mother of the groom #grooms mom #wedding etiquette #mog

[happyprom]

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#happyinvitation #Wedding #wedding etiquette #wedding invitations #wedding tips

[scripture-pictures]

#avril lavigne #girlfriend #jesus #the gospels #wedding etiquette #daily bread #nightly bread #god is love

[yesterdaysprint]

The wedding ceremony, Ladies and Gentlemen’s Pocket Companion, 1800

#1800 #1800s #etiquette #georgian era #history #vintage #historic #georgian #1800's #wedding #marriage #clergyman #clergymen #relations #family #romance

[eclectic-sassycoweyes]

Been thinking a lot about not only TK using Carlos’ bicep as his personal ‘emotional support bicep’ which 🥹🥹🥹 - also thank you and creds to @paperstorm for making the huge contribution to the whole entire fandom with this description -

But, also about the whole thing from Carlos’ perspective and how Carlos reacts to it, and feels about it, makes my stomach do a little swoop every time I come across a gif from either the wedding ep or the scene where they’re waiting for news on Marjan

Like, I’m thinking about semi-lonely, tense pre- and during season 1 Carlos needing someone, not just to love and be loved by but to take care of and hold and be there for🥺 Like we all know Carlos must work a lot to maintain those biceps and of course this is probably for his own sake bc he likes them, and to be good at his job etc but,,

He’s obviously gotten some attention from it, guys who finds him sexy and maybe likes a little power play

And he can appreciate that especially when ‘guys’ are in fact TK who enjoys it and wants him to use his strength a little bit to press his hands into the mattress above his head: (🔥)

Or to ‘twist his arm’ 😏😏

But more than that S1 Carlos longed for his body (huge bicep) to be appreciated in different ways. To be the one that someone (TK) needed to be held by, to be the shoulder (bicep) that someone (TK) could cry on, and lean on (both figuratively:

And literally:

- He needed to be that for someone (TK), to take on that role in a healthy, loving relationship. And he certainly got that from TK. But he got even more than that, more than he could have dreamed of, bc with TK he’s also become a shoulder (bicep) to sleep on:

Not just in the domestic privacy of their own home, but in public, among a wonderful new group of friends and family:

As well as a shoulder (bicep) to both lean on and rub their thumb back and forth on for self soothing:

In short, that work paid off exponentially as he got to be someone’s (TK’s) ‘emotional support bicep’. 🥲

And what completely gets me is the way he’s so casual about it in this last one. Like I imagined the first couple of times Carlos in his head would have been like ‘oh, okay, my bicep is now your pillow, I see, I’ll stay as still as possible or react in some way like by kissing your hair or something or move so you’re more comfortable’, and ‘oh okay, you’re not letting go, you really must love that bicep, I’ll buy a permanent gym membership and think of that ever time I work out, this bicep shall be forever dedicated to your needs’ while in his head being all 😳🫠🥰😌🥹🥹🥰

But now he barely reacts, it’s so natural. He just barely registers that ‘oh, my adorable, emotional boyfriend (husband😭) (TK who I know in and out and who know me the same way😭) is (once again/per usual😭) reserving my bicep for emotional support reasons while he cries on me, imma let him do his thing while I grab his ankle, both to comfort TK,’ - but also bc while TK needs to physically lean on someone (Carlos) when he’s emotional (or sleepy, or just, it’s right there anyway), what Carlos needs it something (someone) (TK) to hold on to, to tether himself to bc it’s overwhelming for him to lose control of his emotions.

And TK is the perfect rock for him because he’s not only so open about his emotions, and an adorable kitten boyfriend (husband), but because he’s also and at the same time incredibly strong and prepared to catch Carlos at any time😭

The naturalness of it all just says so much about how long they’ve been together and built their relationship, how well they know and how comfortable they are with each other and how they’re perfect for each other and fit together like two pieces of a puzzle! There are some thoughts here about different kinds and ways of embodying ‘masculinity’ and vulnerability but I’m not nearly eloquent enough rn to go into that..

Anyway, with TK, Carlos, now without even giving it a second thought, has gotten the relationship he dreamed of and more, has gotten exactly the appreciation for his strength and body (biceps) that S1 Carlos longed for and worked so hard for, and gets to take on the role in his relationship that he needs and be who he always were and I’m just 😭🥹🥹🥰🥰🫠 slowly melting away over it.

#me rambling #Tarlos ramblings #Tarlos headcanons #am definitely not working on my thesis right now as you all can see🙃 #@paperstorm I hope it’s okay that I tagged you I’m still a newbie when it comes to tumblr etiquette and I wanted to give creds for the #emotional support bicep #since you came up with the term and I appreciate where that made my mind go 🙃 #Carlos’ biceps #Tarlos #9-1-1 lone star #911ls #carlos reyes #tk strand #headcanons #Tarlos feels #kitten tk #gentle dom carlos #tarlos wedding #tk sleeping on Carlos

[hitmeehwithyourbestshot]

Question. what are your thoughts on proposal at someone else wedding?

Ok, now what’s your thoughts on proposal at other ppl wedding, with permission?

For me, with or without permission, its tacky and not ok to take away from others day.

#wedding #proposa #marriage #is not #etiquette

[shirkers2018dirsanditan]

no knowledge is innate you learn by living in the world. as an adult you do very well know you aren't supposed to come to someone's wedding or party empty handed. and regardless, once you know better, you need to do better. what a silly thing to say

#on my etiquette post about bringing gifts to a wedding and the like #the 'well nobody taught me!' blame game

[thebridalstylist]

Oh no! The mother of the groom/guest/whoever is planning on wearing white to my wedding!

Two words: let them.

Yep, you heard me right. Let 'em. Don't sweat it. Take a breath, have a glass of wine, and then don't give them one more thought.

Here's why...

I want you to picture yourself as a guest at a wedding. The couple is ridiculously happy, people are having a blast on the dance floor, and everyone looks lovely... Except OMG, seriously, the mother of the groom is wearing white??

You're focused on the mother being insanely tacky, aren't you? That reflects on the jerk in white, not on the bride.

So if someone really wants to show their ass like that in front of a bunch of people, let go and let 'em. Nobody will judge you; they'll shake their head at the sheer rudeness of it, and then they'll focus on having a great time with you.

#weddings #wedding #wedding etiquette

[merrybrides]

7 Rules You Can Break on Your Wedding Day

Each year, 2.5 million weddings take place in the United States alone. Many of these ceremonies share certain elements, thanks to wedding “rules” we’ve come to accept over the years. The bride wears a white gown. The couple stands at the altar with a group of their closest friends. Inevitably, the DJ will play Uptown Funk or the Chicken Dance. But here’s the thing: there are no hard and fast rules for putting on a wedding (except for signing the marriage license, of course). If you want to make your wedding a truly unique affair, here are a few traditions you can happily put aside.

1. Wearing White

The white wedding dress was first popularized in 1840 when Queen Victoria wed Prince Albert. The young queen wore white because the color highlighted the lace details on her gown. However, the decision was a peculiar one at the time, as most brides wore brightly colored dresses for their weddings.

After Victoria, white wedding gowns became synonymous with purity—and more importantly, became the standard in bridal fashion. But it’s important to remember why Victoria selected the color: because she liked it! If you’d rather wear a red, blue, or black dress on your wedding day, you absolutely should.

2. Wedding Favors

Bring me 100 people who’ve been to a wedding, and I’ll show you 100 people who don’t care about the favors they received. Wedding favors are often cheap, meaningless gifts that sit in your guests’ purses until they eventually throw them out. Worst of all, buying these little trinkets can be quite expensive! There are plenty of better ways to spend the money in your wedding budget—and better ways to thank your guests for celebrating with you. Trust me, your guests will appreciate better food or more champagne rather than a customized Koozie.

3. Not Seeing Your Spouse Until the Ceremony

On the morning of a wedding, there’s always much to-do over keeping the couple separate. After all, if they see each other before the ceremony starts, theirs will be a doomed marriage…right? Everyone knows how silly this idea is, but it’s a tradition we stick to all the same. While it can be lovely for guests to see that romantic “first look,” there’s nothing wrong with a couple spending every moment of their big day together. If you and your sweetheart want to do a first look photo shoot—or even get ready together in the morning—go for it!

4. Single-Sex Bridal Parties

Getting married is a major milestone in a person’s life, so it’s no wonder that most people want their friends to accompany them on the journey. Bridal parties can be a source of comfort and support, but for too long, they’ve stuck to one rule: brides can only choose women for their bridal party, and grooms can only choose men. Whatever pronouns your best friends may use, they have every right to be part of your bridal party. Don’t be afraid to have male “bridesmaids” or female “groomsmen”! As long as your best friends are at your side when you say, “I do,” tradition can take a hike.

5. The Bride’s and Groom’s “Sides”

When a bride and groom stand at the altar, the bride is always on the groom’s left side. As a result, it’s become custom for the bride’s family to sit on the left side of the venue, while the groom’s family sits on the right. However, once the newlyweds tie the knot, their families become connected by marriage. Everyone at the wedding is one big, happy family, so why not sit like it? Foregoing the traditional family “sides” makes it easier for your guests to mingle with your new in-laws.

6. The Home Goods Registry

For many decades, it was considered a rule to only list home goods on your wedding gift registry, like dinnerware or small appliances. This rule was primarily practical; the newlyweds were often starting adulthood on their wedding day, so they rarely had any household items between them. But these days, couples get married much later in life (and often co-habitate beforehand), so their registry needs have changed. Don’t be afraid to register for the items you and your spouse need. After all, the whole point of a registry is to advise your guests of the gifts that will be most useful!

7. The Cocktail Hour Photo Session

The cocktail hour between the wedding ceremony and reception serves two purposes: it gives the guests a chance to mingle (and get warmed up for the party later), and it gives the bridal party a chance to have their photos taken. But if you ask me, this is another rule that needs to be broken.

Newlyweds used to take their photos after the ceremony to avoid seeing each other before the wedding—another rule we’ve already pooh-poohed. And besides, what couple would want to miss out on cocktails with their nearest and dearest? By moving around the photo schedule, a couple can spend much more time with their guests.

Of course, if you want to stick with these traditional wedding rules, that’s your prerogative. But if these rules don’t sit right with your sensibilities, feel free to push them aside! It’s one way to make your wedding feel a little more like you and your spouse.

#wedding etiquette #wedding traditions #wedding planning #wedding day rules #wedding rules

[glimblshanks]

All my love and appreciation to uptight heterosexuals, but I desperately need there to be an etiquette advice column specifically for queer and poly people.

Like Dear Miss. Manners, what is the proper attire for the queer platonic partner of the bride?

#aromantic #queer #queer platonic partner #etiquette #anyways my partner is getting married to their romantic person tomorrow and I JUST got the last piece of my outfit #I had trouble because the situation is essentially #'You would have been the maid of honor but I'm not doing brides maids' #'but also please wear wedding party colors' #and I'm like great #so an impossible assignment

[homoqueerjewhobbit]

(the real answer is, I'll just ask her if I should invite her beau and I'm pretty sure they the answer will be "if you want to but he and I won't be offended if you don't." They're very chill. I imagine there are other polycules where this could actually create drama though so a general rule is good to establish. It also seems like a fun question to throw out to the teeming masses)

#The real drama was when my friends got married and agreed that their “secondary” partners weren't invited #polyamory #polyamarous #Weddings #Etiquette #The real drama at my wedding is not inviting my transphobic cousin. #tumblr polls #Poll #Polycule #Poly drama #post o' mine

[betty-bourgeoisie]

Bro the reason you plan a wedding like a year out and send out invitations at least 4 months ahead of time is that it's considerate to your guests who might have to purchase a plane ticket/ buy a whole new outfit/ save up money to buy you a nice wedding present/ plan other important events and projects around it/ etc. It's not just to be fancy and ceremonial, it's literally about being polite. Like I could not give less of a shit about weddings or traditional marriage but some customs do exist For A Reason

#shaking my cousin by the shoulders and begging them to read an etiquette book #like I'll help them with their dumb wedding to a guy they Haven't Even Introduced To The Family Yet #because I want them to feel like I am a safe person to go to when this all inevitably ends horribly #but bro for real? they're getting married end of January and haven't even sent invitations out yet #and they haven't even looked at catering options yet? #fucking insane #like that's actually fucking crazy #Weddings are actually only fun for people if they're not forced to stress out and re-arrange their lives for them

[edettethegreat]

how do you rsvp to a wedding with a physical rsvp card? I’ve only ever done digital rsvps before and idk the proper etiquette for this

#Actual question that I’m asking everyone out there #I’ve had this rsvp card sitting on my desk for days I just don’t know what to write on it #For context it’s a blank card that just says rsvp at the top #So there are no boxes to check off #Do I just write “congrats on your marriage—rsvping yes I will be there” #Is there any etiquette about sending a money gift with it. Like a check #I’m a broke college student and they (the couple) knows that- does that exempt me from sending anything financial #Someone who know wedding etiquette better than me please help

[whyareweherereally]

There is this series on tiktok where people ask advice on how to talk to people when they have to say something but don't know how. There is also a wedding version of this. And I just don't get a lot of the cases and why people could be offended by somethings i.e not getting invited to a wedding when you had an intense fight with the bride but your boyfriend being invited because he is still friends with the groom. There are other social conventions and etiquette discussed there that I didn't even know existed. Are neurotypical people okay? Am I just too autistic for this?

#help #what even is wedding etiquette #autism #mine

[releasedfromthedream]

reading the stuff about the dunes shows like... it's really not that hard to behave. as someone who goes to so many heavier/hardcore shows (almost weekly atp) it's absurd to me that people just don't know show/pit etiquette and refuse to learn

#like girl i almost got crushed in a pit last weds and came out laughing because people were still careful!! #and i love shows like that!!! #i wont say anything more because it's all been said but dude seriously #learn the etiquette