#Personal Defense Connection

[etoilesbienne]

it does make me crazy because you cannot post about qbbh being aromantic without someone coming up to you going Um Actually That Quote Is Out Of Context. And the quote is LITERALLY badboyhalo out of character saying he was playing an aromantic type character. like HOW MUCH MORE WORD OF GOD STATEMENT DO YOU FUCKING NEEDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

#discourse #like he's clearly aro bisexual from everything we've seen #i just dont get it why are people so fucking defensive over it #it doesnt mean he cant be in relationships. it doesnt mean he cant have personal connections #sorry it makes me crazy like why is this even an argument go fuck yourself for real #posts from the aether

[littlegod]

the time i had a lynda barry moment at a house party

#i shot up in bed at 4am last night and sketched out the layout for this comic cuz i finally connected the dots lol #in my defense i was piss drunk #found a live photo i took of the painting and you can hear me saying 'i might need this later' in the bg lmao #art #illustration #comic #journal comic #personal comic #lesbian art #butch lesbian #procreate #digital illustration #butch4butch

[alexcabotgf]

not to be true crime posting on main but i think i'm falling down the wm3 rabbit hole again

#xenia.txt #when i tell you this case keeps me up at night to this day #not even the murders themselves as much as the general public's reception to and opinions on the case 3 decades later like #i get why it;s always been so divisive especially after the pl docus came out (lots of opinions on those btw none of them are good #from the bottom of my heart fuck you joe berlinger and bruce sinofsky) #but it's truly baffling how no one is willing to do the research on what is arguably THE most well documented true crime case in recent #history like. everything that's ever been released to the general public is available online and i mean everything #you can find all the court files trial transcripts depositions interogation tapes aerial photos you name it it's out there for anyone with #internet connection to access at any and all hours of the day #and yet people are still foaming at the mouth fighting on reddit abt their innocence based off nothing but a couple of movies like #bffr with me right now!! almost every point the innocenters make can be easily debunked by scrolling through callahan for 15 minutes #'but they've been pushing for dna testing since their release so they can't be guilty' baby the case is closed! #it's been closed the second they took the plea. they can be striking under that courthouse and it still won't change a thing and they knowi #that's why they're pushing for it in the first place but that's just my opinion #^ and i say they but it's really only echols which makes a lot of sense to me personally #and if you want to talk abt dna testing let's talk abt the one that was done in 2011 and how the defense hurried to propose the plea as soo #as they got the results! let's talk abt those cause no one's ever seen them and i would very much like to #braga share the results the people want to know!! #makes me wonder which pieces of evidence they even submitted for that 2011 testing because if i'm remembering correctly #there was one that would've closed this case instantly and maybe that's why the results were never disclosed and the plea was rushed #but that's also just my opinion #and it's also interesting how the majority of people who have in fact deep dived into this case #(and i'm not talking abt big true crime youtubers as i'm very sceptical abt their research abilities) #all collectively lean towards guilty. much to think about #i was hoping someone would make another ~actually~ unbiased documentary for the 30th anniversary and go over all the case files #but i don't think that's even realistic at this point seeing as everyone and their mother has some sort of an opinion on this case #hbo deserves another lawsuit for this. they should've never won the first one in the first place #true crime tw

[commsroom]

one of the things that makes wolf 359's characterization work so well and feel so genuine is how much it's about perspective. maxwell is a manipulative backstabber in hera's story, a "gift of a friend" in jacobi's, and - from their subjective perspectives - both of them are right about her. i love eiffel, and i'm completely on his side, but... if you were kate garcia and your ex you had a toxic relationship with, a man you had to tolerate in your life because you had a child with him, who - after you were awarded full custody - attempted to kidnap your daughter, and got in an accident that left her disabled... if you thought that man was serving 26 years in prison for what he did, and then you thought he was dead, and then he showed up alive - walking free - and wanted to make amends...? would you want to hear him out? eiffel has suffered so much, and he became a better person in a way carceral punishment would never have done, but from kate's perspective, it must seem like he has never had to face consequences for anything. and that's... complicated, but it's real.

#wolf 359 #w359 #he is both the luckiest and unluckiest man in the world #like. eiffel is who he is to me because of who he is to hera and minkowski and lovelace #and he is that person. he's a person i love. i sincerely believe i would also love eiffel if i knew him irl. #but it's understandable. people can see such different sides of each other and the way wolf 359. understands that and acknowledges #all of those connections... yeah. #i really want eiffel to have a relationship with his daughter some day. he wants that and he'll never stop wanting that #and i care about him so i want that for him #but it's up to her. if she decides not to then. it's entirely her right. #and needless to say but. i think eiffel and kate. probably bring out the worst in each other #and it's such a weird situation to think. how people close to eiffel who don't know that version of him at all #would respond to how she sees him. #... i honestly think hera probably hates her and it's completely unjustified but it's the kind of person she is. #she judges everyone from an extremely close personal perspective and i think she does have kind of a. My People vs Other People mentality #which makes sense given how she's had to protect herself but also. she's just petty and spiteful and defensive sometimes. anyway.

[love-too]

It's difficult for me to put this into words, but I think being aro can feel quite alienating when you're a girl. Not because of exclusion, but because of expectations. I noticed this in the past month while frequenting a new environment that's mostly men and just a few women. I get along with these women, but I felt like there was a missed layer of connection. Now, seeing it from the outside, I honestly think I messed up by not talking about romance/relationships when I was asked. I think that my not saying a lot was not taken as "she's just not interested" but more as "she thinks she's above all that" or "she doesn't trust me enough to open up" and, honestly, it's not the first time it happens but I never manage to catch it before i ruin it.

#I'm not sure I explained it well but basically I feel like my obliviousness when it comes to romance hinders the process of deepening #a connections with other women #because for most of them is seen as a superficial but deep topic #and talking about it allows them to test the waters on the other person's views #it's kind of like a defense mechanism #like asking who they voted for at a first date #and sadly my lack of answer comes across as either stuck up or prudish or like I don't trust them enough to open up #which is not #it's just unlucky that in most cases it gets read like this #roba mia #asexual #aromantic #aroace #asexuality #love #words #am i aromantic? #am i asexual #like

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

In the name of Lawyers, what's your Ace Attorney knowledge?

I know the first game pretty well, so I'd say 5. However, with the combined knowledge of my Ace Attorney loving friends, I'd raise that to 50.

However, if you are looking for some MDZS x AA crossover content, check out these posts by @lazycranberrydoodles! They're an amazing artist!

#ask #'150 what?' lawyer points. 'How do they scale? What is it's worth?' Yes. #will *I* do more lawyer au? yeah probably #AA and MDZS is a crossover that seems to be a very good well to tap #I have thought a *lot* about a fun lawyer AU. New York city mafia defense lawyer WWX vs Perfect record Prosecutor LWJ #Pheonix wright is on the side of the innocent. I want/need WWX to be occationally backing someone clearly guilty #just as much as he is backing someone innocent. It is in CHARACTER #YES this person did a crime. NO they do not deserve the death sentence. Sometimes they do! WWX can use his mafia connections for that #Okay side not on Lazycranberrydoodles: SERIOUSLY such a fantastic and funny person with GREAT art! #I'm still blown away by how incredible the AA x MDZS sprites are! #Please go give them a follow they are a treat on your dashboard.

[itspileofgoodthings]

ended up telling my mom “she’s a billionaire pop star … she’s also a songwriter I’ve loved for a long time. both of those things are true.”

#not a conversation I can have for a long time as it’s too uncomfortable #but it was good to push through and say it #it’s interesting. I will always have a deep emotional connection to Taylor and also always love her as a person and an artist #and she IS a billionaire pop star with all of the attendant choices that go with that #and as i’ve gotten older there’s just been way more distance #in terms of my need to defend her choices or agree with them or even understand them #I have grown less defensive of her (in a good way) #and I think am more able to just See What Is To Be Seen #without. again. feeling the need to take it all on as something I have to defend on behalf of someone I am Holding Up as an Example #I’m not holding her up? like. #idk if this makes sense #But I remember reaching this point where I was just like ‘gosh I hope she never writes a song that contradicts any of the songs’ #‘upon which I have built this artistic vision’ #‘of her and what she stands for’ #and it was so funny because it was this TERRIFIED desire on my part to freeze time #and freeze Taylor #so that my reading would be true forever #just wanted to put her in a cottage on the top of a hill and keep her safe there forever #metaphorically but also literally! #and then I’ve just had to let that go #best believe she’s still bejeweled lol #that was for me TOO #and anyway her sheer prolificness made it clear I was never going to be able to keep this watchful eye on it all #it was just going to have to pour in and I was going to have to let it #and also on some level emotionally personally I was going to have to step back #and be less invested in a certain way #in a very real daily life kind of way #anyway after the eras tour was so funny because i had this strong sense that we were being SWEPT out of the stadium #with Taylor’s trademark Efficiency. and it was hilarious. Like yes yes the love and connection and talent is real #and Billionaire Pop Star has places to be and a crowd of peasants to manage!!! (I say this with love and a sense of humor) anyway

[rhinestonebabe]

If you are on another social media site, and you see someone you know irl/knew irl posting in support of Israel or posting Israeli propaganda, a powerful thing you CAN do is respectfully and kindly dm them and offer an alternative opinion/facts that contradict their information(ESPECIALLY if you are a US American, and double if you're white). Is it painful to be civil with someone who seems to want other people dead, tortured, starved? YES!

But if they are in an echo chamber of misinfo and nobody ever challenges them, they probably won't challenge themselves. You won't change everyone's mind and certainly it won't be immediate. But if more people used their privilege(being kind and civil, being a peer as opposed to a stranger) then more people will consider that they may not have all the info!! It feels futile but starting a conversation with someone can give them a stepping stone to challenging their own beliefs that's not just seeing an Instagram story they disagree with.

#palestine #free palestine #free gaza #if anyone doesnt understand how to do this feel free to ask?? #the goal is to not “attack” them or make them go on the defensive #palestinians and people more conmected to the suffering dont owe anyone civility #as much as you might disagree #starting an argument probably wont change someones mind #caveat. this post very much made by a white person in the usa who is removed from the genocide #palestinians and people more connected to the genocide dont owe anyone civility #but if u(like me) are in a place of distance a privilege you have the opportunity to change some minds #use it

[magicdyke]

listen man have your opinion and headcanons whatever idc but why on gods green earth did you just try to follow me

#the only content of reigen i post is either hating him or in the context of a relationship #usually ppl w this sorta mentality have never really considered their dynamic as a possibility and probably look at thw characters #through a very shallow lens #ppl obsessed with shipping are also very much the kind to do this and not consider their characters whatsoever #but i think ppl on both sides of this forget that a relationship is supposed to be built on a closeness and understanding of the other #and the part that makes them interesting is their interactions within their personalities #ppl obsessed with shipping aren't concerned abt exploring their connection and the ways they interact #but this post reads the same as that. but with the intent of subverting that other person's incorrect beliefs #in order to differentiate themselves #when in reality they think the exact same way #and tbh theres no way reigen is aro 😑if anything there's context for him being asexual but eh #<- that's not meant to be a jab im serious abt having whatever hcs you want #why am i getting so defensive about this. whatever

[loveandthepsyche]

#it’s not personal #defensive #gaslighting #true connection #truth #integrity #projection #shadow work #conscious communication #perspective #blame

[coffeebanana]

I always say I’m honest about writing fanfiction in my real life but I definitely levelled up by admitting to that in a job interview today 💀

#IN AN INTERVIEW FOR A BANKING JOB SNSHSBSBZHA #IN MY DEFENSE THEY ASKED ABOUT MY HOBIES #and then once I said writing they wanted to know what I write and I panicked #but after they asked what my favourite thing about sharing it is #so I said the human interactions/ability to connect with people #which 1. is actually true and I love it when I don’t have to lie or bullshit in interviews #and 2. they said they were a very people oriented company so I feel like that was actually a very good spin #they did manage to actually make the conversation feel very natural and I laughed a few times and honestly got to be myself #which was so nice I would not hate interviews if they were all like this #anyways it makes me feel better about working there if I do get the job and if I don’t it means they just didn’t vibe with me as a person #which means I don’t need them anyways 😤 #(except lol I need the money I gotta stop dipping into savings) #but yeah I actually feel really good about it! they said they were interviewing s few more ppl though so we shall see

[dashiellqvverty]

one thing people online are going to do is attribute things to taika waititi that he has literally nothing to do with (from that post abt wwdits where they are interviewing the SHOWRUNNER who is NAMED in the article and is very much not taika)

#like you don’t know that taika barely has any involvement in the wwdits show?????? #not his biggest fucking fan right now but this trend has been going on since around when love and thunder came out #although ofmd also played a role. depends what circles and kinds of criticisms you’re talking about #but like anything he is tangentially connected to that has a problem? it’s his fault! #and i think maybe when we criticize him it should be for actual things he does and not complete conjecture ppl pull out of their asses #that they heard through word of mouth that they misinterpreted #anyway. #i have been talking about this shit a lot usually in a ‘he’s literally fine and makes good movies ppl need to stop being like this about him #‘ way #and now like i said i am really fucking pissed about the biden petition thing so this is less a personal defense #and more me saying hey you should still know what you’re talking about when you blame him for shit for no reason #r.txt #i don’t think these tags are THAT egregious im just like that’s literally not even taika what are you talking about!!!!!!!

[blueboyluca]

This was a fun read, an enjoyable journey through the alphabet of famous dogs.

#dog books #I've read a few famous dogs books #and they're usually quite dull #but this one was really interesting because the writer connected different stories and took philosophical strolls #I didn't agree with her on many many points #but I really enjoyed reading all the linking thoughts and ideas #I find it very interesting the way that writers like this will confess quite openly their special love for their dog #and they'll write about the details in which love for dogs has been historically ridiculed and minimised #and yet they still feel the need to be defensive and to project this sort of 'not like other girls' attitude #personally I lean wholeheartedly into the stereotype that I love my dogs 'too much' #it does not bother me at all to be in any way associated with the historical pastime of women who love tiny creatures #who treat them with kindness and care and humour #my current life phase is: this is who I am #I have embraced it completely #I have very little room for shame in my life

[hemingway-papers]

finally watched the first ep of lupin zero and tbh I love how much jigen cheered up over the course of the episode. being around lupin and their bonding friendship really bringing him out of his shell 

#jigen is a silly fun loving person with a shy defense exterior confirmed #not that lupin must be the only person to make jigen happy but lupin is one of those soul connected people who makes him feel open easily

[sibyl-of-space]

dude i am having one of those nights that by all means could be one of the worst nights ever but... it’s actually been a blast.

so yesterday i flew back home after visiting a friend (actually, friends plural, it turns out) in Tucson. i timed my flight so that i would get back like a solid hour and a half before the last train, because delays happen and i wanted to make sure i would be able to catch the train home and not get stranded at the airport.

as luck would have it, my flight decided to get delayed by approximately an hour and forty minutes, A.K.A. just long enough for the last train to depart pretty much right as i was picking up my checked luggage. this left me with several options:

- take a series of night buses and get home in probably 3 hours, extremely exhausted and stressed out (i know it is stressful because i have done it before) - call an uber/lyft and spend $50 gambling that i don’t get someone with one of those horrible air fresheneres that makes me feel sick. also would have to install the ride share app. basically a pain. - just fuckin stay overnight at the airport and get on the first train in the morning

for reasons known only to my weird brain and the gods above, the third option was orders of magnitudes more appealing to me than the others.

so.... this brings us to now, at 3:45am, where i am going on 4 hours chilling at a pretty abandoned and very closed airport food court (save for the ~6 other people sleeping/chilling in booths around me who i suspect also missed the last train). I’m paranoid so I don’t want to sleep, even though honestly everyone else here is definitely in the same boat and I don’t think my stuff would get stolen. I mean I would guard the belongings of these random strangers with my life at this point. But it’s just good to be safe, yknow.

Instead, I have gone absolutely insane and just absolutely CRUSHED a SHITLOAD of code I’ve been meaning to do for my Amadeus game demo. I completely re-did the entire interactibles mechanic to make it more scale-able. I made the prologue scene completely playable with either point-and-click OR keyboard, including how the text progresses, which involved basically re-doing how text progression works. I made new code that helps handle special game events so I can do more things without cheating via Unity buttons. I have been GETTING SHIT DONE.

I don’t know *why* being exhausted and low on sleep and stuck in a random ass closed airport food court is making me so productive, but I’ve been on FIRE. I’ve been hosting a one-person hackathon over here. This is the most productive I’ve been since the global game jam ended. I am solving problems while delirious that I could not tackle while completely alert. Probably because I’m too tired to give a shit about maybe breaking something. Anyway, holy shit.

So anyway: this could have sucked. But instead it kind of ruled. It’s got sleepover energy up in here. The coffee shop nearby is finally going to open around 4 and that will give me the kick needed to make it the rest of the way until the trains start back up and I can get home and crash. #springbreakvibes

#personal #sorry this is quite rambly but in my defense ive been traveling for *checks clock* 14 hours #i got to the first airport bright and early #that doesnt help when your connection is delayed by over an hour unfortunately #and the connection was already long because again i am paranoid #anyway! #this bitch has been CODING

[so-sick-of-17]

Did I pause a as minute into an episode of Cobra Kai I was watching with my family to spend 20 minutes defending Sam LaRusso? Yes. Yes I did.

#and I would do it again #they did not understand why I was so attached to this fictional character #Sam LaRusso #best girl #favorite character #Cobra Kai #Sam LaRusso defense squad #overhated teenage girls #they did understand my frustration when I explained the mysoginy she faces on the internet #but I don’t think they understand my personal connection to her #she’s just a little bit too much like me #I’m very stubborn and I know that if I were fictional #people would act like my mental problems are not valid #and teenage girls should be able to act like teen girls without being seen as bad or annoying #if I could make a living defending characters #especially if they are teen girls #well I would be very happy #but I can’t #my mum told me to defend her on tumblr and I had to #inform her that even though she was joking I have done that multiple times #Sam had every reason to treat Tory the way she did #I love Tory and while Sam started it #making a mistake once does not make bullying okay #she only retaliated at their other interactions #and being given PTSD by someone is a very good reason to hate them #It was Tory’s job to make things right until then Sam should be excepted to be nice #I will defend Sam with my life