#and i use the gender neutral bathroom

[windwardstar]

Anyway the amount of hostility I get from cis guys who feel threatened by my mere existence as a trans tenor would be hilarious if it weren't so isolating and terrifying. Like please I'm not stealing anything from you and it's not making you any less of a guy just because I can reach lower notes than you and look like a girl. I'm just here having fun and vibing with my new voice.

#also like omg the snide comments and snippy remarks i get when i pick up the chairs to put them away after rehearsal #like shut up and let me carry what im clearly not having trouble lifting #there are other people you can take chairs from or you know pick up the ones people left bc there are a ton of people who #actually cant pick up the chairs #like im not in any danger of physical violence because 90% of the people are supportive and friendly #and i use the gender neutral bathroom #but like ugh cis people get so threatened by the mere idea trans people exist #and they treat pronouns like cooties #like theres the option to opt in and put pronoins on the new nametags and so theyre refusing to get the new ones bc ew pronouns #also the marked difference i get in reactions when there is a cis lady tenor vs when its just me is telling

[jetsi]

Most fucked up chocolate i have ever seen

[transgruesome]

in that weird in-between stage where I feel and look too masculine to use the women's restroom but get strange looks using the men's restroom ough. what if I just piss myself instead

#the US really needs more gender neutral bathrooms #cause i dont wanna get strange looks or risk getting attacked regardless of which bathroom i ise #transmasculine #trans #transgender #lgbtq #lgbt #transmasc #queer #trans man #trans ftm

[gerardpilled]

My favorite part of the dogstar show is that they really did not want to play up Keanu Reeves being the bassist. He had no microphone and the fog machine would heavily cover him specifically. Spotlight on the singer and not him. The singer started a short anecdote about Johnny Utah and Keanu just played a few cords back at him. He was just there for the music, man!

#my partner came back from the bathroom and said ‘no line for the gender neutral restroom’ and I said ‘did you see Keanu in there’ #the gay people our age next to us laughed

[sucrecube9]

Ive gotten SICK of the freaks at school

#my school only has one gender neutral bathroom #so all the trans & nby kids only have one option #unless you wanna disrupt drama class to use the one in the drama room #and this bathroom also constantly has piss #ALL OVER the seat #and me and my trans friends are sick of it #i had to wipe piss off the seat the other day #and it made me so mad i vowed to do this #shadow the hedgehog

[badolmen]

Nothing like facilities closing half the bathrooms in the building to give me gender dysphoria

#ra speaks #personal #it’s fineeeee but also it’s like. the closest bathroom to me/the one I’ve been using now has these big WOMEN ONLY signs like. #like. I get it we have a lot of international students and that separation is important for some of them for cultural/religious purposes. #but ooooohhhhh boyyyyy are we having a gender crisis tonight lads #like bruhhhh I don’t REALLY care the door has always had a women’s plaque on it but like. I’m practically blind to it at this point. #and like I coulda asked to room on the gender neutral floor but also. #I am Physically Disabled and I cannot do lots of stairs if a) elevator is out or b) there’s a fire/emergency #so I choose the gendered first floor and it’s been Fine. #I’m just pitching a fit abt this and mad that it makes me uncomfortable

[lordgreenslimemold]

I love living in my gender identity as a polygender person but I hate the societal repercussions of being a nonbinary transmasculine person whose presentation varies day-to-day.

I hate that I have to decide which bathroom to use based on what I'm wearing and not how I'm feeling. I hate that my brain goes to:

"I should probably use the women's restroom today because I'm wearing a skirt and eye makeup and therefore it's the safer option"

instead of

"I'm going to use the men's restroom today because it feels right and I belong there"

I especially hate that my university is rated extremely high on the Campus Pride Index and I still struggle to find gender neutral restrooms. My high school that locked the single stall restrooms during lunches was better at this.

#tw vent #tw transphobia #tw transandrophobia #trans bathrooms #campus pride index #transgender #trans vent #trans #transmasc #nonbinary #polygender #gender neutral bathrooms #txt #sorry for the large amount of tags idk there's a lot in my brain rn #this one isn't haha funny #srs #perhapsington I will start using the srs tag for mein serious posts!

[erstwhile-elster]

Thinking about how they ripped out the "Gender Neutral Restroom" sign in the campus library and replaced it with one that says "Family Restroom," you can still see where the plaster flaked from the glue of the sign clinging to the wall, the outline of where it used to be, where it was torn from after so long.

#just another bad feeling on the list of them today #it feels so silly but that sign was one of the few things that let me believe I could be safe on campus #in one of the buildings I have classes there are no gender neutral restrooms and I have to walk almost 10 minutes to one #every day there is a reminder that the place I live wants me out #maybe it's silly #it's not like I can't still just use that family bathroom #but language matters I think

[alongtidesoflight]

i haven't talked trans stuff with irl people in a while so when i tell you today was exhausting

#sat in my class minding my own business when the entire class started shitting on trans women #how to argue with these ppl without breaching stealth #i don't pass well as a woman anymore so i'm assuming these people think i'm a very butch lesbian or whatever #no one's uncomfortable with me being in the women's toilets but as soon as a trans woman steps in there all hell breaks loose #hypothetical trans woman in this case btw because there aren't any trans girls in my class but my language recently started using a #more gender-neutral approach to speaking and added an nb gender marker to job descriptions and passports #so of course every language teacher under the sun has to complain about it #and that turned into an unhinged 30 minutes of my teacher pretending to be a trans woman but actually acting like a very flamboyant #drag queen getting ready to bother some ladies in the women's bathroom #and i have never been more uncomfortable in my life #lucky for ME i don't have to attend that class often so i think i'll only head in there for any exams that might come up #transphobia tw #adding this one for the girlies following me #rant time sorry #this is the second time a teacher tried to get some kinda anti-trans approval out of me and i don't know what they're trying to achieve #here but they're barking up the wrong tree here #the m/f/nb gender marker does exactly what it says btw whatever marker's in your passport dictates where you can go and nb bathrooms are #kinda welcoming to anyone men and women included #and all of this is a discussion on its own #but the starting point of this argument for these people was that trans women and trans men can only use nb bathrooms because #they're not 'real' men or women and where to even start here you know #in the end while i was arguing my teacher told me that i don't know what i'm talking about but 'every other man' in this class #knows exactly what he means #cut me off and that was that #it's not about winning or losing here but i think he realised that i was using arguments that he just didn't feel like talking about rn #so i just ended getting cut off and talked over and i wasn't feeling like #raising my voice but it's just uncomfortable to know what this class would have been thinking of me if i hadn't #decided to go by my agab in this evening course #by the way the very first day i attended this course i showed another guy to the women's bathroom because the men's bathroom was closed for #repairs

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

the inherent intimacy of washing paintbrushes in the sinks of the men’s bathroom in the evening with a cool person you met that day at theatre

#there are no gender-neutral bathrooms in that building and neither of us are cis #so i kinda just followed their lead and we walked right past the women’s bathroom and into the men’s which was. unexpectedly cool lol #usually we wash paintbrushes in a big loud room but we were in a different building today #so it ended up just being like. the two of us alone in a bathroom washing brushes. idk why but it was SOOO… something #maybe it’s gender stuff maybe they’re just hot idk but it was an experience of some kind or another dkdjfhg #my words #elliott’s theatre adventures #this was thursday btw #OH YEAH i almost forgot to say that before that (when we were painting) i mentioned i write and they asked about my characters #so i told them about my knight ocs AAA #i am Not that bold 90% of the time but idk it was an experience lol #granted i didn’t say a ton #just some #but still :3 #we got along well #which was nice because usually the other people i’m painting with are already friends so they mostly just talk to each other

[transcendentalyouth]

I really do fucking hate men

#there’s this stupid fucking cis dude who likes to spend 30 minutes in the ONLY gender neutral bathroom in ASH EVERY time I need to use it #ash is the arts and sciences center where I have all my classes #and he got pissy with me for knocking #like maybe I wouldn’t knock if you didn’t take 30 minutes #and it’s not like I can use another bathroom! #I just don’t understand why they can’t make one of the other bathrooms gender neutral #wren.txt

[mouthmoodz]

i think it would be fun* to try to visit as many presidential libraries as possible. the gerald ford presidential library is in ann arbor so maybe i'll visit it the next time i go there to buy drugs. idk what they even have in there though. did that guy know how to read

*to me and me alone, because of my interest in both presidents and libraries.

#missingno.exe #i can visit the jfk library next time i'm in boston #SOMEDAY i hope to go to yorba linda and pose in front of the helicopter and use the gender neutral bathroom

[edith-is-a-cat]

I vote my school should invest money into the bathrooms we have enough for sports

#please make them semi gender neutral #do i acc want high school boys any where near where is piss? #no absolutely not #but do i want full stall door so i cant see people casually walk by? #GOD YES. #plz plz plz just give us new sinks i beg #also the bathrooms being at the end of the halls?? like i would believe is more convient for it to be in the middle section #like let me design the building i know better /hj #no bc we all go durring class so we wonnt be tardy #also the stupid rule about 'cant be in the first 20 min' TGATS HALF OF THE CLASS??? #Luckily teachers basically ignore that rule so #silly little bear chatters :]

[crawlingrats]

I'm NB (niobium, transition metal)

#lgtbqia+ #Please just give us gender neutral bathrooms #Does this count as coming out? I dunno #Anyways tell me your gender

[gay-otlc]

Needing to use the bathroom at school is like: Do I want to get clocked as a trans guy while in the girl's bathroom, clocked as a trans guy while in the boy's bathroom, or answer weird questions from teachers on my way to the school's singular gender neutral bathroom?

#like there is no world in which i am cis passing #people regularly assume i'm nonbinary after just seeing how i look #so in the girl's bathroom everyone will know i'm queer of gender and don't actually belong there #and boy's bathroom i might pass but the anxiety about getting called out is so high i never risk it #and then the neutral bathroom is usually good but sometimes teachers see me in the hallway and ask where i'm going #because i'm clearly not going to the normal bathrooms #so i have to explain that i'm using the gender neutral bathroom and i'm gonna encounter a transphobic teacher one of these days #ugh. there's no good way to use the bathroom at school #gender shit

[sylvanas-girlkisser]

cracked up about your gay bartending tags on the Tom Cardy video. any other pearls of wisdom to share with us?

Had to look up who that was, Nonnie please do some soul searching why you know the name of a tiktokker, this is seriously unhealthy behavior.

That aside, uhh, i guess be aware that IRL queer people of all ages have a lot weirder genders than social media might have lead you to believe. Like as a general rule they aren't hip to the lingo, but like, if you ask a self described lesbian in her 60s about her life experience, there's a good chance she'll say things like "I'm a girl who's a boy who's a girl".

And if you tell her that means she's a demiboy or whatever, she'll tell you that no she's a lesbian. Part of that is just being a grumpy old dyke who doesn't wanna learn new things (relatable tbh), but part of it is also just that like: no, all her life being a lesbian meant getting to defy social norms and refuse to be put in boxes, you don't get to come in and tell her what box she belongs in, no one does.

Oh also, a lot of queer people don't realize they're queer until they're in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, or heck I've met a recently out trans man in his late 70s.

I'm sorry for this ask turning into 28 year old hag yells about kids these days, but there's a reason I so often encourage people to visit their local gay bars: because in the age of wholesome lesbians, trans girl influencers, and tiktok punk, there is something so incredibly healing about meeting queer who exist to live, not to sell you pre-ripped jeans.

#valk replies #which isn't to say that the old can't learn anything from us #its a conversation you know #but like #the owner of my local queer bar #who is a cis white twink #literally decided with no outside input in like 2015 #that it was time to make the bathrooms explicitly gender neutral #now one door reads sitters the other reads standers which no joke is the most graceful solution i have seen