#trans bathrooms

[prince-damien-of-darkness]

Trans Male Bathroom Poll

This is a poll for trans men/trans mascs only!

I will link the polls for other trans identities below

I was curious what other trans people do when faced with bathroom choices in public, so I decided to make a poll to see what y'all do.

Trans Women Poll: https://www.tumblr.com/prince-damien-of-darkness/739609659769602048/trans-female-bathroom-poll?source=share

Trans Nonbinary Poll: https://www.tumblr.com/prince-damien-of-darkness/739609832440659968/trans-nonbinary-bathroom-poll?source=share

Reblog for bigger sample size

#trans #transgender #trans man #transmasculine #transmasc #trans polls #trans bathrooms

[bumblee-stumblee]

Year should be 2018 rather than 2028, what she says still holds true and is something we've all been saying. Lying to young girls about how they're safe in mixed bathrooms and changing areas will sadly have this outcome sooner or later.

#radblr #radfem #radfems #feminist #feminism #radfems please interact #trans bathrooms

[mistarover]

why do cis ppl act as if an all-genders bathroom is so hard to grasp when the family bathroom in public spaces has been avaliable to all genders for ages now

#also the bathrooms in your own home #like dude. do y'all have bathrooms for girls and boys in your HOME??? #trans bathrooms #cis privilege #gender #trans #deyjah talking

[trevorendeavors]

So. That Florida Bathroom Bill, huh?

TW: bathroom bills, transphobia, internalized transphobia.

I ain’t beating around the bush. I will be using strong language here. If that ain’t your cup of tea or if you’re just here for my usual brand of gay fanart and fic, it’s okay to scroll past this post. Really. I won’t judge. This is one doozy of a vent.

For the people in my DMs asking me if I’m okay (as a trans person in Florida considering recent bathroom bill bullshit) I’m just… sitting here with an exasperated sigh.

It’s funny that the first time I hear of this is from a DM from someone on the other side of the world. I’ve been deliberately avoiding lgbt Florida news for some time because the more I think about it, the harder it is to be civil in transphobic conversations.

Last night I was deadnamed in front of a few people, and today at my graduation I’ll likely be deadnamed in front of a whole convention center. That’s what I get for not changing my name legally, huh. Oh well. Didn’t wanna go through all the paperwork just yet (in case I go for a different name) so I’m stuck with the one I’m sure I don’t want.

So again, I try not to think about it.

But yeah. It sucks.

Honestly? The bathroom bill doesn’t change much for me. It’s still the same shit as always.

The one time I went into the men’s restroom, I freaked out a cis guy so badly (poor dude was genuinely scared of ME accusing HIM of something bad) that I never did that again.

As for women’s restrooms (the one I most frequently use) that’s a whole other deal. Most days, I don’t pass. I’ll just go out and say that. I have a high voice, boobs, and a bit of hips. Some days I dress really feminine too, so it only makes sense. No one here is going to buy “see I LOOK like a woman but no see I’m secretly a ‘man but not quite’ inside but I wear makeup as a kind of exaggerated cosplay of a gender I am NOT, y’see?”

I don’t want to have a nuanced discussion of gender in the bathroom. Most people 30+ in age don’t even know what non-binary is and barely get the concept of trans. As much as I love being and educator and advocate, after a long road trip I want to piss and get on with my life. Also cis men have told me the horror stories of male bathrooms (how do you get shit ON the ceiling????) and then I’m thankful to have been “born a woman” or whatever.

Most days I don’t think about it too hard. But on my more dysphoric days or when on the blessed days I do genuinely pass more masc - when I go into the bathroom looking like this:

I genuinely don’t know which bathroom to use.

It’s embarrassing. Especially when there’s no family restroom available. And when I go to the women’s restroom, I sometimes get these looks. Brief, surreptitious glances they think I don’t notice. To ease tensions, I lift my pitch and give a compliment. I even puff out my (binded) breasts slightly as if to say, “Yes, I have tits and a pussy, does that soothe your cisnormative and petty fears that I would assault you?”

Jesus, some days I wish I could say that quote outright. But I can’t, and I know it’s not fair to them. They’re scared, I get it. I remind them of a traumatic experience. Sometimes, certain people who have nothing to do a trauma invoke fears of it unintentionally by raising their voices or saying something off or even existing. But that’s MY responsibility to fucking deal with that. Other people can’t help existing.

By and large, people with transphobic tendencies here are usually nice. Beyond, nice even. They’ll help you host a spontaneous ice cream party. They’ll buy you allergy meds when you’re choking. They’ll take you in after your mother kicked you out. Like I said, genuinely sweet and kind people.

Which makes it harder when they accuse trans people of transitioning to skirt military drafts, to cheat at sports, to deal with mommy issues. When they equate gays to sex crimes (yes, the ones you’re thinking of). When they refuse to call you your full name. When they call you a baby who refuses to clean her pooped diapers.

I try to be nice. But by god, is my patience waning…

By. Fucking. god.

I’m tired of the way it’s affected me. Making me feel worth less than cis folks, like my feelings matter less. Even worse, I hate how it makes me jealous and spiteful towards younger trans folks in better situations. Younger trans folk I don’t understand. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not an excuse to mistreat them the way I was mistreated. And I’m genuinely glad that they’re living a better life. I have to work on these thoughts, it’s my responsibility. It would be nice, though, to live in a world where I could devote more energy to celebrating our collective existence instead of surviving it.

That being said, I’m grateful for the people here and in person who have stuck by my guns. The people who check in on my when shit gets worse in terms of politics.

What helps most?

What really helps is when people get mad WITH me. For so long I was told my anger was something to be stowed away, to be quietly extinguished with calm words or relieved by some masturbatory exercise of civil discourse. You know. Where you get off to talking civilly but don’t actually get anywhere and you still have to live in a world that was just as transphobic as before. I just want people to be pissed WITH me. To share in my anger and frustration. To join me as I slam the desk, flip the table, and cry to the heavens,

This fucking sucks

Right now this matters to me even more than action. These check ins, sharing in my anger - it helps, it really does. Makes me feel less alone in the world.

#Trevor screams #Trevor talks #Godspeed if you got through this absolute motherfucker of a vent #tw: vent #tw: transphobia #TW: internalized transphobia #TW: some suggestive language towards the end #Florida #Florida bathroom bill #trans bathrooms #ron desantis

[lenbryant]

Dumbass bathroom bills do this. Let my people pee! Conservative homophobes are idiots.

#politics #maga me sick #republicans #maga #lgbt #transgender #trans bathrooms #transphobia #bathroom bills #bathrooms #let my people pee

[lordgreenslimemold]

I love living in my gender identity as a polygender person but I hate the societal repercussions of being a nonbinary transmasculine person whose presentation varies day-to-day.

I hate that I have to decide which bathroom to use based on what I'm wearing and not how I'm feeling. I hate that my brain goes to:

"I should probably use the women's restroom today because I'm wearing a skirt and eye makeup and therefore it's the safer option"

instead of

"I'm going to use the men's restroom today because it feels right and I belong there"

I especially hate that my university is rated extremely high on the Campus Pride Index and I still struggle to find gender neutral restrooms. My high school that locked the single stall restrooms during lunches was better at this.

#tw vent #tw transphobia #tw transandrophobia #trans bathrooms #campus pride index #transgender #trans vent #trans #transmasc #nonbinary #polygender #gender neutral bathrooms #txt #sorry for the large amount of tags idk there's a lot in my brain rn #this one isn't haha funny #srs #perhapsington I will start using the srs tag for mein serious posts!

[justsomeguychillinghere]

Those who swear that they “just want all women and girls to feel safe in their own spaces” and lie that “it's not about trans people” should acknowledge that it would also mean that they now need to create billions of different bathrooms and changing rooms for every type of female there is. For black women, white women, mixed women, Jewish women, Muslim women, Christian women, etc. All of them as you say "have the right to" feel entitled to getting those separated areas just for themselves.

Unless that's not what you want. You just want to get rid of trans women, right? So what does that mean? How are going to tell who is who? Are you going to check their genitalia (so sexually assault them which you are supposed to be against)? What if they are after surgeries? What if they pass enough that you can't tell?

It just won't work this way. You are going to hurt cisgender women in the process too. If you actually care about them stop this bullshit.

#lgbt #trans #transgender #bathroom #trans bathrooms #trans people in bathrooms

[sir-klauz]

Laws rn be like

#transphobia #transphobia mention #trans rights #bathroom laws #cis people #the cishets are at it again #cisgender #down with cis #trans #trans bathrooms #unisex bathrooms #manga #manhwa #trans memes #transgender #trans women are women #trans women i love you #trans woman #trans women are valid #trans men are valid #trans men are men #trans men i love you #trans activism #lgbt #lgbt history #lgbtq #lgbtqia+ #lgbt+ #lgbtq community #uk politics

[itscoldinwonderland]

:(

#transphobia #trans bathrooms #trans #tiktok #transgender #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia+ #lgbt

[major-enbydyke]

I wonder how many cis women terfs accuse of being men in the women's bathroom... like masc presenting women just be minding their business and then the terfs that PrOtEcT wOmEn start making a scene.

I'm sure it's happened before I just wonder how many times...

#terfs #trans rights #cis women #trans bathrooms

[figuring-it-all-out]

Random genderfluid thing submission!

When ur using public restrooms to wash things and you keep alternating which gender you go in

No one’s ever submitted a random genderfluid thing before so I thought I’d just share the message! :D

#Genderfluid #Gender Fluid #Transgender #Nonbinary #Trans Bathrooms #Random Gender Fluid Things

[fuckjuggler]

I love using the bathroom on a college campus as a trans person, boy howdy that shouldn't be the most stressy part of the day but here we are!!

#i just want to shit in peace #trans bathrooms #comedy

[train-wreck-of-thought]

#transgender rights #trans rights #trans bathrooms #trans #transgender #lgbtq rights #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt rights #lgbtqia rights #queer #lgbtqia

[troythecatfish]

#trans #trans community #trans rights #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqiia+ #queer #queer community #current events #social justice #human rights #bathroom art #bathroom pic #graffiti #grafitti #graffittiart #graffti #lgbtqplus #trans rights are human rights #trans is valid

[marshmallowsamwitch]

All this talk of trans people in bathrooms, but can we talk about the absolute wild west that is the men's room?

There's already a pretty good chance that anyone who goes into the men's room will come out without washing their hands. But to make matters worse, you know the distinctive sound that bathroom stall toilet paper rolls make when you unroll them? I have several times NOT heard that sound before someone came out of a stall.

This one's somehow even worse, though. Some guys will walk up to a urinal and immediately start doing their business. "What? How's that weird? Isn't that what you're supposed to do?" No. You don't understand. When I say "immediately," I mean immediately. The time between their footsteps ending and the splash of the urinal was something like 0.01 seconds. The only way that could possibly happen is if the guy unzipped while still walking towards the urinals, whipped it out, and started going WHILE STILL WALKING.

At this point, "WhAt ArE tHe RuLeS?" might be a legitimate question. Absolutely feral.

#trans rights #lgbtq #trans bathrooms

[itgetsbetterproject]

When they try to make school harder for LGBTQ+ youth...we make it better.

Over the past 2 years, students across the U.S. have used our 50 States 50 Grants funds to...

Build gender-affirming closets and gender-neutral bathrooms at school

Host their school's first Pride fest or Pride conference

Educate parents and teachers

Fund their GSA club

And so many other rad projects to support their queer students!

Apps are open for Season 3 now through April 1, 2024 - if you have an idea for how you'd use up to $10,000 at your own school (or if you know someone in middle or high school who could), reblog and spread the word!

#itgetsbetter #50 states 50 grants #studyblr #lgbtqia #queer youth #lgbtq youth #trans youth #gsa #bathroom bills #name change