#but also seeking advice

[miss-mishka]

I have an ex that I tried to cut from my life in 2016. Could no longer handle their issues when they stopped taking their meds, tried to reason with them & get them to get help, but they never did so I cut ties for my mental & financial health since I was suckered for years into doing/buying things for them that cost me without any repayment. Over 7 years, I have blocked them & legit ghosted like a pro even tho we live in a smallish community where people know and/or related to us. I have been ice cold on the topic of her & all who know me know that is a bridge I will not go back over or discuss.

She, tho, kept trying to get around my blocks, leaves notes & gifts periodically on my porch or at my front door, tries to get my family to get me to talk to her & has used her famil connections to try & get in touch with me, even using local police to call in "welfare checks" on me a few times before I made clear that I would not tolerate such interference again unless it was MY family or employer calling in a check because they could not contact me. She's never been a threat, in my opinion, just a nuisance.

Today, tho.

Today.

My parents, who are known in our community to have moved in with me as my single story home is better for them after having suffered back injuries, today my parents found a little battery box wedged in the screen door with a note on it not to throw, note inside. The note was to tell me that, 7 years after I have had anything to do with her, she had dumped her cat Fluffy at a property connected to my family in the town I used to live in. Fluffy is a gorgeous calico that I loved of hers that she found as a kitten 12 years ago & has, to my knowledge, kept as a housecat since then. She did not say she left them Fluffy at my grandad's old house, where I lived all but the last year of my relationship with her when I took my lifetime savings & bought a home of my own. She didn't say it was my parents or either of my brothers or my aunt's place, just that she had made a choice, asked God to forgive her as a pet mom & I might be seeing Fluffy around "my place" in Cacapon (hometown, over a mountain & literally 8 minutes by car from where I live now.) I work weekends. Everyone, including her, knows that as I have had the same job & schedule for 15 years now. So she brings chaos to my door while I am trying to do the teleworking I need to & I'm just thankful I work from, but I still have 3 hours left in my shift. And I am freaking out that a poor, innocent housecat has suddenly been unleashed in the wild in a place it has never been. So my parents start making calls & have left to go look for the cat. My aunt, who lives next door to & is caretaker for my now deceased grandad's home is checking there, but says this is just a ploy to get back into my life. She(ex) knows that I will never abandon an animal in need. (Sorry, but people have to fend for themselves at some point & that is why she us & must stay my ex.) She knows, especially, that I would not want any harm to come to Fluffy so I 100% would have taken the cat, if asked. Why ask me, tho? She has friends, co-workers & family that I absolutely know would have also taken Fluffy if something came up that required rehoming the cat. Instead of doing that or just leaving Fluffy on MY property here, she says she has left the cat loose in the next town over on some property connected to me where I may now begin seeing Fluffy??? Also gives me $16 & says she'll give my mom cat food at some point in the future for the caring for Fluffy. The number of times I have just ranted & yelled WTF in the last hour has my cats legit stressed & trying to comfort me because they're not used to me being upset, angry or stressed like this. I have removed & blocked all of my ex's contact info along with her parents & cousin who I had the most contact with while we were together so I cannot call anyone up & ask WTF is happening right now. I know where everyone lives, but again, 3 hours before I can even think of going anywhere & time, imo, is of the essence to get Fluffy back indoors even if she doesn't know my house or cats.

I am absolutely taking Fluffy in & keeping the "God forgive me" note as proof that my ex gave the cat up in case she tries to get Fluffy back later or use the cat as a way into my life or home, but what if my aunt is right & Fluffy isn't even in danger???? I'm stressing because I ran into my ex's cousin yesterday at the courthouse where we both happened to be early voting in the primaries. We exchanged rushed, generic, "Nice to see you, how you been, we should hang out sometime" conversation before the very patient county clerk asked me to follow her to get my vote cast as the ex's cousin was all done & leaving. I honestly thought nothing of it except that maybe I should spend time with the cousin again because she was a good friend & she & my ex weren't always on good terms. But family is family around here & I have to believe now that the cousin told my ex that I have been spotted in the wild & the very next day my ex does this????

Do I do everything I can to make sure Fluffy is ok, including going to see my ex or is this just her finally finding a way to get me out that she knew I could not ignore? Because I cannot take the risk that a housecat that old is just suddenly dumped out into a place she is not likely to survive without help. Depending on where she was left, she could be near the main road & struck by traffic, in town with an a*hole neighbor on the street that poisons & shoots stray cats or out in the boonies where a cat could be eaten by wild animals. WTF was my ex thinking & why has she done this. It's been OVER SEVEN YEARS. My last words to her were literally "Consider me dead." Not because I was going to harm myself, but I knew I was done & out of her life & she needed to accept that with a finality as if I were no longer here. For all I know, in all that time, Fluffy might have passed. I know I just lost my dog, Brando, in October after 10 days shy of 17 years. This could be a trap. She has to know this will not have a positive effect, but it might make sense to her if she's off her meds. Should I call in my own welfare check to have an officer go to see if she's ok & ask about Fluffy or don't do that when I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of those checks? Do I send my parents to talk to her or should I go visit her parents to try & see what is going on?

This is what she has always done to me. Tangle me in knots, throw chaos into my life & get me to do what I can to appease her & solve whatever problem she is bringing to me.

I think my mistake was telling her cousin yesterday that I'm happy. I did not go into any other detail. When she asked me how I was, my answer was I'm happy & did my ex hear that & decide it's unacceptable for me to be happy without her in my life?

#personal #tw: toxic relationship #venting #but also seeking advice

[danwhobrowses]

For anyone else who is gonna struggle surviving the next 3 weeks with the angsty and tense situation of Callowmoore here's a few things from the last 2 episodes that I feel were underrated and will assist in trying to keep me sane/emotionally stable: - Matching messed up hands built for holding - Fearne nervously playing with her hair as she approaches Ashton - Ashton wanted Fearne to be either the last thing they saw if they died or the first thing they saw when they succeeded - Fearne's admittance corroborates Ashley's 4SD revelation that Fearne is in love with someone in the party but doesn't know how to process the emotions - Fearne wanted Ashton to be happy, while Ashton wanted to feel whole so they would be worthy of the Hells - Ashton twice tried to lead a search for Fearne, and instantly clocking onto Chetney saying he followed Fearne - Fearne making herself look as radiant as possible before giving Ashton the cold shoulder - Ashton only rose to Chetney's provocations until he said 'You hurt Fearne' Use how you will

#godspeed my poor damaged psyche #critical role #bells hells #callowmoore #ashton greymoore #fearne calloway #fearne x ashton #ashton x fearne #strangely enough I don't enjoy having a dark and sad pit sitting in my chest day to day #3 weeks and we don't even get a cute M9 reunion in between to distract us? this was worse than Callowmoore's sistergate 3 week wait #also 'a little'? Sweetie people don't jump into lava for a little you got the big L and it's not Lesbian(s) #Feel like Laudna was a bit cruel this ep (Ash has been there for her a ton and she kinda villainized him) but we'll put it down to Delilah #much of Ashton's trauma has been overlooked or left to them to internalize but still nobody has told them that they are loved #and Ashton Greymoore needs to be told they're loved! (by Fearne) #but yeah time for more positive mental scenarios that 99% won't happen (but when that 1% does ho boy) #couldn't have just had Fearne go 'no talking' and sleep on Ash's chest to hear their heartbeat as her touch soothes Ash's pain could we? #or final fight scenarios where Ludinus is a walking harness and Ashton tricks them into absorbing their titan powers so he'd explode #they could've even had a talk in the woods because they wanted to find her so bad but was not gonna test Imogen's patience #I for one though will have at least one where Ashton seeks out Mori for advice (Fearne too but separately) #Tal I need you to use all your romantic arsenal in the feywild (Percy's worst travel experience) to win back Ashley's beautiful faun girl #bonus prompts for 'You will always be perfect to me' and 'Promise you'll come back to me' they pop up often in my scenarios #taliesin jaffe #ashley johnson

[rvspecter]

#suits tv #suits usa #last gif so handsome #harvey specter #mike ross #poor mike seeking relationship advice from harvey #poor harvey being judged in a judgement free zone #marvey #also really appreciated how harvey offered Mike food to make him feel better lololol

[aspiringnexu]

Star Trek but Starfleet HQ has portraits of every Admiral and/or historically important person and they act like the portraits in Harry Potter.

Jim is forever leaving his portrait and snuggling up in Spock’s. They're most often seen napping together in a frame nearest one of the windows (because Vulcans are basically cats) but, due to their fame, they have many portraits around the Academy campus so really it's a toss up where exactly they'll be. They're always together, though.

#star trek #spock #james t kirk #spirk #spock/kirk #harry potter portraits #love the idea of new generations of cadets getting advice from the portraits #Engineering kids asking Trip and Scotty and Geordi and O'Brien and B'Elanna for help #New Vulcan students seeking out Spock and T'Pol and Tuvok for advice #Medical track students commiserating the idiocy of everyone else with Phlox and McCoy and Crusher and Bashir #(The Doctor absolutely deserves a portrait but he's functionally immortal so its seems redundant) #Shran definitely has a portrait #so does Garak. Because he became the political head of Cardassia and lead it back to peace and eventually into the Federation of course #of course his primary portrait is also right next to Bashir instead of in the Important Planetary Dignitaries wing

[txttletale]

tw suicide

speaking in an anti-psych lens

what do you think it's acceptable to do to a friend who's suicidal?

i want my friends to trust me and i do believe in bodily autonomy

but i don't think i should let people, y'know, do it

i mean i dont know your friend or you so i cant really answer but yknow having the police called on them by someone they trusted and being forcibly institutionalized is very unlikely to make your friend want to kill themselves less

#ask #also needless to say maybe you should not seek the advice of random tumblr blogers

[39oa]

DAL@LAK Postgame: Jason Robertson (03.09.24)

(laughs) But uh, no. It's really neat that they can do that, and see the support of all the people here, and just... trying to do my thing, and be a good role model and enjoy the night.

#jason robertson #dallas stars #stars #* #seeking advice on how 2 overcome the horrors of life T__T thank u stars for not flopping spectacularly this week i needed it... #also “one blemish; just can't let it keep bleeding into the game” was a very robo-esque response

[poetrylesbian]

just wrote "im seeking legal advice on the matter" in an email and felt so powerful. it doesnt matter that the legal advice is a 30 minute free session with a solicitor at my uni's student union in two weeks. all they need to know is that i know my rights and i am going to use every resource at my disposal.

#in an ideal world i wouldnt need legal advice bc they would just do their job #but im hoping letting them know im seeking the advice and also letting them know i plan to take this as far as possible #will be enough to urge them to act

[furiousgoldfish]

Started to realize that I can't think in certain directions, for instance, if I attempt to think about making a bank account or anything job-related, I will start getting intrusive images and thoughts beyond what I can handle, and my thinking process will stop. I knew I had this before, but hadn't realized how dire it was, or for how many things it was effective.

I'm worried that it's the effect of brainwashing, however I can't counter it, the images are always too violent and the stress and panic I experience is unmanageable. Did anyone manage to sort this out?

#seeking advice #ptsd #brainwashing #also i think some of this is coming from an alter #i think they're putting those images and thoughts forward out of some kind of panic #i'm not sure exactly #it's a mess

[muyuudontsleep]

@kazureiweek day 5: Date night

Sorry for the late post I got demotivated like a lot but my brainrot won in the end...

I'll try to marathon the last two so wish me (my wrist) luck

#i'd like to think that rei wants to be romantic but dont know how to romance #so he seeked advice from the rizz master kyu-chan #kyu-chan agreed bc he's the og kazurei shipper #miri is also there for the emotional support #buddy daddies #suwa rei #kusuru kazuki #kugi kyutaro #unasaka miri #kazurei #kazurei week 2023 #kazureiweek2023 #muyuus_art

[gabrielokun]

#Another reason why bunny is one of my absolute favorite characters of BLverse #i like the found family and good friend group. and good for them for seeking advice from each other #but usually it's just dumb leading the dumber #so when characters are asking for help from their families its warming my heart #Mork with gay uncles Chub with his granny Daonuea with his brother #i just think it's so precious #also when normally there some metaphors or things being implied but Kao just straight up calling his mom about his boyfriend-to-be moving a #love him #Oxygen The Series #ดั่งลมหายใจ #Gabriel makes stuff #Kao Ashira #P'Phu`s Bunny #Boss Thanabat #Phu x Kao #PhuKao #Thai BL #Thai series #Thai Drama #BL Drama #BL series

[countess-of-edessa]

the thing about taking advice from anyone on tiktok or instagram including catholic and christian type influencers, parenting advice, relationship advice, etc, or internalizing any stories of horrible relationships and betrayal people tell on those platforms, or reading about all the ways interpersonal relationships can end horribly and be cycled through extremely quickly on those platforms is that you are necessarily then consuming the thoughts and experiences of someone who is willing to put their face and name on a public social media platform to talk at you. and like 1% of those people have a good reason for doing so and the other 99% are completely unhinged. so everything you’re consuming has first gone through the filter of "is this person weird and insane enough to make Instagram reels of themselves crying?" and if the answer is yes maybe their advice doesn’t apply to your life because you’re a normal person who would not do that.

#i don’t know if this makes sense but it’s something i was thinking about today #not that i really live my life according to Instagram reel advice but as a human being when i see something stated as fact i naturally seek #out the parts of it I believe or compare it to my current worldview #and when that person seems to have a lot of “clout” for discussing spiritual things….idk sometimes I’m like wait is this true? should i #believe this? and other times I’m like well is this a real pattern of behavior that can be observed in many people from different walks of #life including my own? this thing that all men do or all women do or the way all couples will eventually behave #this makes it sound like i am constantly on social media consuming hours of content which im really not #I’ll be on a train and scroll a little bit and something gets stuck in my craw #but with me I’m always like am i rationalizing this away because i don’t want it to resonate? #and I think in the case of anything on social media the answer can almost always be no #because im like wait. why would i take advice from someone who has a public Instagram account #im not saying a stopped clock isn’t right twice a day but really how much of my perspective and life experiences can they share in #when we have this totally totally mismatched worldview #(i mean this also applies to basically anyone offering any type of life advice who isn’t catholic about that) #(but when they are Catholics doing this that gives me slightly more pause for obvious reasons I’m like we are on the same team though?) #(and we are but only kind of and i do not have to listen to you because being an Instagram influencer is still cringe in 99% of cases.)

[themoonlily]

all couples have their fights and so do Éomer and Lothíriel, but the really difficult one was deciding which of them gets Arwen as the maid of honour for their wedding.

#Éomer #Eomer #Lothíriel #Lothiriel #Arwen #I have this headcanon that Éomer and Arwen are low-key very good friends #it maybe started with him being all starry-eyed when he first saw her #but developed into a genuine friendship because maybe they both felt a bit like outsiders in Gondorian high society #so they have each other's back and whenever there's something going on they don't Get they will exchange incredulous looks #on the other hand there is Lothíriel: #her father is among the most high-ranking nobles of the land #which would also make her one of the top women of Gondor #maybe she would even act as Arwen's lady-in-waiting #and if she did I can easily imagine them becoming friends #and Lothíriel herself becoming a queen might seek for Arwen's advice and support #also: Arwen is among the first to notice Éomer making eyes at Lothíriel (and vice versa) #Arwen Ships it and gives errands to Lothíriel that cause her to run into Éomer #and invites Éomer to events where he is likely to meet Lothíriel #also she will subtly praise one to the other at appropriate occasions #is Arwen the best wingwoman in the history of Gondor? you bet she is #conclusion: both Éomer and Lothíriel want Arwen as a maid of honour #headcanon #text

[starlytenight]

sorry if ive already asked this i forgot if i sent it in or not. is dark meta okay after the whole revival thing 😭 did he reform or did he stay dead? what about mirror galacta in that case? how is he feeling about dark’s apparent death and possible revival? theyre twinning now ig

Nah, no one's asked this but it's pretty safe for anyone to assume Dark Meta is fine, he's back too, he's just got his own version of rebirth where he's got perma-mirror cracks where Meta has scars and also lacks his own Warp Star. Shadow Galacta was also furious---in original scenes he was going to burst in and yell at everyone for daring to let the OG Meta die, but for constraints and focus reasons I cut this.

The other Morpho and Necro had their own things going on in the outside of Nightmare as well, so you can presume most things went down similarly. Kinda like this:

They went home once they saw regular Meta was fine, though that didn't stop the reflections from getting upsetti spaghetti over the end of days nearly happening sooner than expected because of sheer stupidity and melodrama. They cleared things up pretty quick though since the reflections are pretty chill once you kind of just accept that yeah, you do have that aspect of that self within and don't deny it or excuse it.

In later bits, like in the Allies Arc, Meta would have met with Dark Meta again and he would have absolutely been teasing him about the ordeal and how crappy he was at keeping in touch with his darker side despite basically being family with a bunch of Demon Beasts at this point---from there, he'd be helping him with the whole Jambandran issue and would have filled him in on his part of what happened where he fought his Morpho as well and dealt with the same shenanigans. Honestly they would be more chill and friendly at this point and greet each other like old pals.

After all, who else would better get you than yourself---even if he acts like you if you were stuck in your angsty teen phase?

#All is well don't worry the reflections are fiiiiine #They would only stir again with Allies because DMK and that's kind of a big deal with VT's rebirth and stuff causing an issue #Also by Allies Era/post Nightmare War Meta would have his Sigil I forgot to mention that #He got it fashioned since his little crew would rather keep staying with him than really branch out to the GSA specifically #So he just officially made his own division since it was very unofficial before lol #Though he's 'retired' they still seek him out for training and leadership/advice #Man can't sit still so he low-key still tries to run things to feel useful even if he shouldn't #Dark Meta is the saaaame way but cranked to 11 #ASMR Chitter Chatter #Starlyteart

[crossdressingdeath]

At some point I'm going to have to write Kyvir going to sleep the night after rejecting Bhaal and being delighted to the point of crying tears of joy when for the first time in far too long he doesn't have a single nightmare.

#bg3 #kyvir #i mean yeah kyvir's daddy's good little murderer for most of the game #but after isobel's death he started to have some SERIOUS doubts and i suspect bhaal would pick up on that #and also he's travelling with jaheira and later minsc and seeking their advice on the whole bhaalspawn thing #AND he's been putting off dealing with orin for as long as he dares to #so basically bhaal's been Displeased with him since at least the end of act 2 #the trauma dreams will start soon enough #but honestly he'd take those over Bhaal's Mad At You Again dreams any day

[essektheylyss]

I want to WRITE but nothing is HAPPENING I am frothing at the fucking MOUTH

#I'm fine and normal this is fine!!! #it really is fine (not rn but in the long run) so i am not seeking advice just venting #i do really start to go feral when i dont write for a bit but I will get over it (by writing) #tbh i am actually reaching critical mass of feral vibes plus building up Stuff To Write again which is really just like what has to happen #it's about how it went for two months after i finished luminous worlds #and i am not really surprised it's been like four months of this given i finished both tiefling fic and also semi-finished a book draft #so it'll be fine soon and then i will be chilling 😎

[cardboardcranium]

we should just start dropping whole pianos on people who think that noone should go on medications that didnt help them specifically. flatten those fucks like mario kart. roll their flattened forms and smoke them like joints

#meds alter the fuckin chemicals within your body hombre!!!! #your internal chemical bullshit is Different to Everybody Else!!! #Youre not a prophet of others experiences #just because lexapro or something ripped your cock off and beat you w/ it doesnt mean itll do that shit to everybody #also were dropping smaller pianos on people who say you shouldn't seek any therapy and “focus on self betterment” #because i took that advice and disassociated so fuckin hard i had no idea what was happening 24/7 #my ass stayed locked in my room for like a month barely even thinking staring at my ceiling hoping my fuckin neurons would stop firing #but now even seeking therapy has that same little scrambled cluster of neurons firing like a fuckin ship under siege #the shits in your brain are neurons right. i hope cause im not re-typing this shit. fuck that. #have a good day smoke all the crack u want #okay im done talking about my mental health from like 3 years back now. #im so fuckin tired ouuygghh #goodniiiighhhhtttt #but yeah i got people i care about and can discuss mental health shit with. and services i can go check if my shit gets bad again #love you bbbbbbyyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee eee oookkaayyy byyeeeeeeee love uu love uuuuuu